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In this new video, lifestyle vlogger Sisi Yemmie is sharing her thoughts on the book of the moment, Toke Makinwa‘s ‘On Becoming‘. She’s also doing a giveaway of the book, read what she said below;

You requested that I talk about Toke Makinwa’s book “On Becoming”….this is it.I’m shook! She spilled the tea on Maje Ayida and Anita. If you want to win the book enter my giveaway by leaving a comment with your email address (you must be a subscriber sha and I cannot send to “the abroad” so only those to Nigeria). My Instagram @sisi_yemmie |My Blog www.sisiyemmie.com

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45 Comments

  1. Derin87

    December 3, 2016 at 10:45 pm

    E don do please

    • L

      December 4, 2016 at 8:21 pm

      It’s easy to give advice……

      Easy to say that another person has low self esteem…….

      Everyone is a marriage counsellor/life coach, until we hear what they themselves are enduring in their own homes.

      Sisi Yemi I know you mean well but please don’t say someone has low self esteem until you’ve walked in their shoes.

      You might think Toke has issues but how about the things you are enduring in your own home that Toke would be shocked to hear about?

    • Amaka

      December 5, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      Life sha. If your daughter is prayerful, beautiful, industrious and rich you worry less about a good man. May we not meet wrong people in life. Why didn’t Maje like Toke though. It’s a mind boggling question. Maybe they were not just meant to be. Some other guy would want to be with her. Things have changed. I remembered the day someone mentioned the fact that she should not have problems getting married to a good man because she is a complete woman. I disagreed with her that day because my pretty aunty got married late and get not so pretty twin was married 7yrs before her. Only God can deliver.

  2. anonymous

    December 3, 2016 at 10:50 pm

    Abeg, this woman should go and sit down.
    Always trying to do the most, with her fake-ass smiles and overdone makeup.

    • seyi

      December 3, 2016 at 11:10 pm

      Wow!!! Please read this your comment again and see if it makes sense to you! Can you repeat this statement to her face? All these unnecessarily bitter people we have on social media these days, I don’t understand! People are hard to please honestly!! If its an “extreme” character like toke you will bash, someone that’s seemingly safe and sane like sis yemmie too you will bash! Why did you click the story? Why?? Were you forced? Did they put a gun to your head??? Haba!! How do you think she will feel reading this your comment or if it was you someone commented about like that how will you feel? I have an advice for you, if she’s too much for you, waka pass and shut up!!don’t expect her to drop off the planet or stop living her life because of you!!! Rubbish!!!!

    • EE

      December 3, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      Was it not anonymous running up and down, defending her two Toke posts ago?? Anonymity doesn’t work if your face is a memorable Asian baby.

      Here: https://www.bellanaija.com/2016/11/first-photos-stephanie-coker-arese-ugwu-annie-idibia-mo-abudu-more-at-the-official-launch-of-toke-makinwas-book-on-becoming/#comment-2142316

    • anonymous

      December 4, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      it’s a different anonymoys that IS THE MOST USED BLOG ID
      A @ YAHOO . COM

      This is me, the Toke defender

    • Mely

      December 3, 2016 at 11:50 pm

      Wow ur life must really be that sad. There’s absolutely nothing fake about her she’s as real as can be.

    • A

      December 4, 2016 at 12:30 am

      LOOOOOL and you think you are not foolish?! Tahhhhhh gerraout here.

    • Pelumi

      December 4, 2016 at 1:00 am

      It’s obvious you have a sad life…because I dont get that vibe from her. Her analysis was actually funny. She does too much? Maybe you don’t do enough and you hate your life

    • Ijebujesha

      December 4, 2016 at 2:11 am

      If this lady is fake, then I cant imagine what you think about Toke. This lady is as real as they come, you probably just dislike her for no reason. Thankfully, she doesnt even know who the heck you are….

    • Tracy

      December 4, 2016 at 2:42 am

      Lol and you were the one who called nene bitter and angry. How ironic? No?

    • anonymous

      December 4, 2016 at 2:17 pm

      it’s a different anonymous omg!!!! ugh I was that one. Pro makeup, pro feminism etc. Ugh.
      *ps Nene IS bitter and angry

    • Kosi

      December 4, 2016 at 1:43 pm

      Serously????

  3. Amaka

    December 3, 2016 at 10:58 pm

    I like your white top sisi Yemmie.

  4. Cookie

    December 3, 2016 at 11:25 pm

    It would be nice if people just read the book and learn from it,be inspired by it,by shocked/amused by it etc and just move on. Our opinions on this book really doesn’t matter,Toke has laid some demons to rest and hopefully finally exhaled.

  5. Ade

    December 3, 2016 at 11:44 pm

    Yes! chapter 10 was missing in mine too and mine was via kindle.

    • Idomagirl

      December 4, 2016 at 1:08 pm

      Apparently chapter 10 was left empty on purpose.
      Remember it was called “Her” (ie Anita).

  6. hadee

    December 3, 2016 at 11:47 pm

    I love sisi yemmie 🙂 <3

  7. Ekbasis

    December 3, 2016 at 11:47 pm

    Haters international. Her makeup is fine. Loved the look. Watched the whole video because of your comment. Nice review. Cyber bulling is wrong and should not be tolerated on this blog or anywhere.

  8. Wunmi

    December 4, 2016 at 12:13 am

    But there’s nothing wrong in reading and reviewing the book nah.The book just only came out and it’s only normal for pple to give a critical analysis of it.Someone like me,it’s taking me forever to finish d book so I live for the analysis and review from pple.And there’s nothing wrong with Sisi Yemi’s make up.I loved d fact that she reviewed the book like you are gisting with friends.
    I commend Toke on dis book.She was totally obsessed with Maje and didn’t have the inner strength (not self esteem as pple said) to walk away.

  9. Loki

    December 4, 2016 at 1:10 am

    Guess we’re going to keep hearing about this book until God commissions the part 2 of the Bible… My ADHD is beginning to kick in.
    On another note, I hope all the people talking about this book and getting emotional are actually buying it and not borrowing/looting/stealing/illegally downloading it as I hear is possible. We Nigerians can be too “smart” for our own good.

    • Abeg borrow me Maggi

      December 4, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      Nothing wrong with borrowing a book, that’s legit.

    • May

      December 4, 2016 at 4:51 pm

      As long as the book is read, it doesn’t matter how they got the book…

    • No to piracy

      December 4, 2016 at 11:43 pm

      It matters how you got a book… photocopying, reprinting without author’s permission are all shades of wrong

  10. Tayo

    December 4, 2016 at 2:04 am

    Bella, will you guys be open to suggestions of videos for BNTV, I’m such a big consumer of video that I think its limiting to have the same people over and over. I’m not complaining, I just see so many nice videos from Nigerians and Africans alike, again such a suggestion. Is there an email?

  11. Monica

    December 4, 2016 at 3:21 am

    I’m glad she came up with this book idea. It naught just be her way to vent out and be relieved of all the emotional trauma. To all the negativity from some people, pls remember, it’s only the shoe wearer that knows where it pinches. I wish to have a copy of it soon. One love!!!

  12. Kay

    December 4, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    Toke was obsessed with a man that didn’t want her. She had 0 self esteem it was a difficult read.I can’t relate to it. I don’t understand women who stay on abusive situations. I believe it’s a mental disease and Nigerians need more awareness about mental illness. I hope she gets the help she deserves.

    • bo

      December 4, 2016 at 11:04 pm

      Kay, It means you never dated a man, you dated nonsense. I can relate with her….a 100%. I pray you face such then you understand.

    • Buy why?

      December 5, 2016 at 9:57 pm

      I reject your prayer for kay. Imagine what you are wishing on another but why? please learn to separate your self from pain and stop wishing pain on others.

    • curious

      December 6, 2016 at 7:06 pm

      why would you pray for someone to be in an abusive relationship??

  13. queenbee

    December 4, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    I listened to the entire video and it was really good in many parts but i actually disagree with the issue of self esteem. Many nigerian girls go for these swag or supposedly posh boys because they see a man as an accesory to validate their life. Rather than looking for someone whowill partner with them in respect and value them. Maje was an accessory for her. Using him to boost her image outside . I refuse to believe this girl was ever that naive about maje. You need to own it. You love the image and social media likes. And you are prepared to sacrifice happiness to continue the pretence. Anita getting pregnant was actually a blessing for her or she would have continued the facade . Nowaday we have perfected the art of fakery. Our face is not real. Our skin colour isnt real. Our hair isnt real. Our relationships follow suit. Everyone wants to show off on social media etc to prove they are what…prettier than the next. More blessed than the next. Got it all together? It is not low self esteem but over inflated egos that is causing women the heartache eventually. To thine own self be true. Stop seeking elevation from public and outsiders on a life that God has given you to live. Your life isnt any less valid if its not publicised. You are no less valid because you havent secured marriage yet. You are no more important or less important than another woman. Learn to love the real you and see you as whole and capable. This is what she has had to learn the hard way.

    • Idomagirl

      December 4, 2016 at 1:11 pm

      See but self-esteem is part of it.
      If anyone is willing to sacrifice their happiness for the sake of “likes” and external validation from strangers, they clearly have issues with their feelings of worth and self-esteem.

    • Dee

      December 4, 2016 at 1:28 pm

      Exactly… the ‘over-inflated ego’ and strong desire for social recognition and validation is often an indication of insecurity and low self-esteem.

  14. Lisa

    December 4, 2016 at 1:29 pm

    Nobody gives two fcuks about a review coming from Tokes close associate. Are you kidding me.

    I have already read better unbiased reviews. Am cool with those, I don’t need this bullshit kiss ass review.

    Sisi yemmie if you can read your Bible as much as you red this trash in one sitting God will bless ya struggling hustle.

  15. Raphael

    December 4, 2016 at 2:07 pm

    First the her experience is something we can learn from, though it doesnt feature the good side of their relationship.

  16. toyosi

    December 4, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    I absolutely loved her review

    • mie

      December 4, 2016 at 3:02 pm

      I actually didn’t. I felt she gave away a lot from the book. Or maybe I felt that way cos I had read it.

      The only question I have for Toke (lol-no I won’t ask get directly…let’s just say it’s something I wonder about), if the news of the preganancy hadn’t been exposed to the public, what would she have done?

  17. nnenne

    December 4, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Nice review! !!
    If you are in a relationship and it is not working, move on!
    The signs were there , even before they got married.
    Reason why people date is to have a sneak peek of the individual they are with before they commit their entire life to them.
    That you date a man/ woman does not mean that they automatically belong to you.
    I hear Nigerians say, ” am #1 because he dated me first, I had a child for him first. ” That is nonsense.
    Am not saying Maje was good. Drawing from the book, he showed disrespect for Toke early in the relationship and that is when she should have left the toxic relationship, way before marriage. This is a huge reason am for platonic relationships. ..sexless relationships. They are usually easier to leave! !!

    Again, I understand where Toke came from : Having such a traumatic early childhood, even though big mummy was very nice, I don’t think she actually healed from loosing her parents at such an early life , in such a dramatic way. It broke my heart.
    My take is that she didn’t really develop as she should have.
    Am glad she finally opened up in this book. Hopefully, it will be the beginning of her healing and letting go of all those toxins.
    I pray she finally meet someone who will really love and respect her. Am hoping also that she has realized how much she is worth, first and foremost. …with or without a man!
    That goes to all my sisters and brothers out there.
    Toxic relationships are not worth it!
    You are worth much more!

  18. Icon

    December 4, 2016 at 5:07 pm

    Am so indifferent about this Toke’s book matter. I don’t know why people are hawking the matter like gala. If I see a copy, I go read . It’s not every time you are served with the pleasure of people exposing their “personal personal” lives for your reading pleasure

  19. Anonymous

    December 4, 2016 at 5:41 pm

    You guys insult Toke’s staying with Maje but you support Sandra Okagbue and insult Lillian for leaving ? Na wa

    • cos I say so

      December 4, 2016 at 8:28 pm

      Double standards abound…. surprised much???
      Nah u shouldn’t be… This is SOCIAL MEDIA

  20. L

    December 4, 2016 at 8:38 pm

    I am not a Toke fan but i like that she has shared her story. I hope that it would help us as a society look a little more closely at the harm we cause when we both overtly and covertly shame unmarried women.

    We cannot paint being unmarried as a subtle disease and then appear shocked when women endure all kinds of nonsense just to keep a man? Do you blame her? Who wants to appear unloved, unlovable and undesired? Who wants to continue to be the subject matter of endless unanswered prayers and fasts by family, friends and annoying church members?

    Until we teach our young girls and women to know that being loved is not necessarily synonymous to being wifed by a man, we would continue to hear such stories.

    Being married is good, if a woman desires it and the opportunity to do so honorably comes. Otherwise, being unmarried I equally good. I wish I could shout this from the roof top.

    Toke, once again, I am happy you shared your story but until you internalize the points raised above, many other Majes are waiting out there for you and for other women who will not hear word. There is nothing to be ashamed of in being unmarried and unattached, absolutely nothing wrong!

  21. Rwen

    December 4, 2016 at 10:33 pm

    I am not a Toke fan but i like that she has shared her story. I hope that it would help us as a society look a little more closely at the harm we cause when we both overtly and covertly shame unmarried women.

    We cannot paint being unmarried as a subtle disease and then appear shocked when women endure all kinds of nonsense just to keep a man? Do you blame her? Who wants to appear unloved, unlovable and undesired? Who wants to continue to be the subject matter of endless unanswered prayers and fasts by family, friends and annoying church members?

    Until we teach our young girls and women to know that being loved is not necessarily synonymous to being wifed by a man, we would continue to hear such stories.

    Being married is good, if a woman desires it and the opportunity to do so honorably comes. Otherwise, being unmarried is equally good. I wish I could shout this from the roof top.

    Toke, once again, I am happy you shared your story but until you internalize the points raised above, many other Majes are waiting out there for you and for other women who will not hear word. There is nothing to be ashamed of in being unmarried and unattached, absolutely nothing wrong!

  22. No to piracy

    December 4, 2016 at 11:43 pm

    Piracy and illegal reprinting are all shades of wrong , May.

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