Olawunmi Esan: Love Making Vs Good Ol’ No-Frills Sex

Love making is usually defined as the entirety of the sexual journey, which may begin way before the couple get to the bedroom.

From suggestive sexts, to dinner dates to sexy foreplay that involves a lot of attention to the body’s erogenous zones to the penetrative and orgasmic culmination of the entire process.

Love making is the whole nine yards, a full 3 to 7 course meal if you like.

Who wouldn’t love that?

Who wouldn’t want to be the recipient of such attention to detail?

Who wouldn’t prefer a 3-course meal to standing on the side walk to grab a quick burger or sharwama?

However, there is something to be said for good old ‘no frills’ sex. You know, that primal urge that comes upon you and makes you just want to ravish your spouse voraciously without standing on ceremony.

There’s something to be said for that fire that makes you want to grab him/her as soon as they walk through the door and get down to business.

My oh my! The intensity, the passion, the urgency of being taken against the wall (or wherever) because you couldn’t wait long enough to get to the room, the raunchiness, the moans, the heat, the sweat, the mind blowing ecstasy of giving in to that basic instinct.

I wouldn’t say that love making trumps good old quickies or vice versa. Both come in handy in different situations.

Love the feeling of knowing that your spouse invested their time and energy to elaborately make love to you and enjoy the journey. Also, be happy to know that you are capable of creating stirrings in the loins of your spouse that makes them succumb to the intense heat of the moment and lose themselves in the pleasure of being inside you.

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