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“Your man does not treat you right because you settled for it” – Sonia Ogbonna advises Women to quit shaming each other



BellaNaija - "Your man does not treat you right because you settled for it" - Sonia Ogbonna advises Women to quit shaming each other

Motivation Blogger, Life Coach and wife of actor IK Ogbonna, Sonia took to her Instagram page to lament about the double standard evident in the society today.

The relationship expert explained that it is wrong when a man cheats on his wife and he is not blamed but the other woman is the only one tagged as the home breaker while when the woman cheats, she is labeled a whore. She advises women to support each other and stop pointing fingers based on “jealousy and personal insecurities. She wrote:

I’M SO SICK OF DOUBLE STANDARDS. Help me understand this please: so when a woman cheats on her man ,y’all don’t call a side dude “home breaker” and “wife snatcher”. Instead,wife is labeled as an irresponsible whore. When a man cheats on his woman,it’s not a man that you will blame. You justify his actions just because,(even though in most cases his married self is the one throwing bread at them babes) and it’s all “side chick’s” fault. She is the one you will abuse,insult and call names,”husband snatcher aka home breaker”..etc… I don’t get.. The most painful thing is, it’s WOMEN who support,accept and teach their daughters to live according such double standards,not even men sef. It’s your fellow lady that will call you names and point fingers at you. Stop shaming one another all in the name of idiotic competition based on jealousy and personal insecurities among women. YOUR MAN DOES NOT TREAT YOU RIGHT BECAUSE YOU SETTLED FOR IT AND ALLOWED IT ,NOT BECAUSE OF ANOTHER WOMAN. #soniaogbonna

Photo Credit: Instagram – @sonialareinaa


  1. Nationalsquirrel

    May 12, 2017 at 10:57 pm

    abeg please get lost ashewo hispanic ibo container importation of a woman
    youre dating a typical nigerian man that treasures you because youre foreign and high yellow nwith a colossal backside and tiny waist. I know the unusually great tratment is giving you euphoric feelings but shut up becaus eyoure only in the early stage sof your marriage.

  2. Nationalsquirrel

    May 12, 2017 at 10:58 pm

    How dumb does this idiot sound? “HE CHEATED ON YOU BECAUS EYOU SETTLED” does the settling come before finding out about the infidelity or after?? ode hoe

    • Natalia

      May 13, 2017 at 12:07 am

      But after you found out, what did you do? You forgave abi? All men cheat ? Or whatever justifiable reason women use as excuses . She is making a lot of sense! If women in general didn’t accept a cheating man as status quo perhaps there would be less infidelity in marriages.

    • Ottawa Queen

      May 13, 2017 at 4:03 am

      Lol maybe she’s trying to say women do see the signs before hand but still accept the bad guy all the same and settle with him until he cheats on them.

  3. Marian

    May 12, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    Lol, Sonia graduated from the prestigious University of Instagram…

    • Anon

      May 13, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      Yes o with a degree in YEYEFOWL relationships expertism

    • Nationalsquirrel

      May 16, 2017 at 8:07 pm

      Marian you are wicked oh

  4. Temi

    May 12, 2017 at 11:52 pm

    She talks too much and people like her, it’s a matter of time before their own breaking news or rumor has it hits the blogs. Always yarning dust…

    • Cocolette

      May 13, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      Same thing I thought! She had better be careful so her own news doesn’t hit us, cos the way she is going….

  5. Ekene

    May 13, 2017 at 12:45 am

    Mmmm…. OK, she might be onto something here. Great point

  6. Tolulope

    May 13, 2017 at 2:41 am

    God forbid the day her marriage crumbles. Just shut up you never know when it could be you .

  7. Earthchild

    May 13, 2017 at 6:31 am

    Gosh, I cant stand her and her peak nosed husband. Get lost or go and advise the folks from your damn country.

  8. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    May 13, 2017 at 9:12 am

    Sonia Ogbonna, welcome to Nigeria where it is different from Colombia 😉

  9. funmilola

    May 13, 2017 at 11:20 am

    Motivation speaker, life coach, and relationship expert…..but she made sense sha. Stop coping in a bad relationship.

  10. Dt

    May 13, 2017 at 11:59 am

    Lekwa okwu

  11. mmmm

    May 13, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    The only thing am thinking about here is how hot she is….damn!!!!

  12. anonymous

    May 13, 2017 at 9:53 pm

    Look at the nice and wise advice a fellow woman gave in support of sisterhood, and all fellow women can do is bash her??? Wawu

  13. Gigi

    May 14, 2017 at 4:44 pm

    LMFAO. “Relationships expert” !!! Ha ha ha !! Just because she left Serbia and is married for 2 years. Abeg, stop thinking that you are kind of important because 3000 people like your stupid posts.

    • Me

      May 15, 2017 at 1:03 am

      What is stupid about Sonia’s post?? Women or men like you are part of the reason most Nigerian men don’t respect Nigerian women!! What a shame?.

  14. Gigi

    May 14, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    She is actually from Serbia. It may sounds fancy to say that you are from a latino country than eastern Europe.

    • Nationalsquirrel

      May 16, 2017 at 8:05 pm

      So her body is def fake

  15. G.l.o

    May 15, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    Some ladies are so irrational and misinterprets alot… Some can’t even spell well,like that sister that calls herself squirrel. You are really a squirrel,if you can type like one frustrated baboon then am not surprised what you will be passing through. I tell you most solemnly sister woman,you need help cause the kind anger that emanates from your words is heavy. #nationalbanoon#nationmumu.

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