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Money Matters with Nimi: Fathers’ Day & Finances



Happy Fathers Day to all the wonderful fathers out there! Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. It is also a good time for fathers to consider their critical role they play in the family, to take stock and to carefully consider their responsibilities by implementing important financial steps to secure their families.

Talk about money with your partner
Money woes are a leading cause of fractured relationships and divorce. Keeping financial problems to yourself makes things worse and damages the fabric and stability of your relationship. Discuss any worries with your spouse as sharing the burden eases it. And if you have loads of money and you hide it away from your spouse, leaving her completely in the dark, this can breed mistrust and put a strain on your relationship.

Establish an emergency fund
Your emergency fund should have enough cash to cover at least six months of living expenses. If you can’t achieve that just yet, start small but meticulously, each month as soon as your salary is credited have a certain sum set aside towards savings. Automating your savings is the most convenient way of achieving this.

Review your insurance
Life insurance is a must for dads. We tend to assume that bad things won’t happen to us and far too many people ignore the need for insurance until a major mishap or setback occurs; it is then that the impact of inadequate insurance coverage becomes glaring. No matter how meticulous you are with your finances, failure to purchase adequate insurance can impair your financial future and put you and your loved ones in a desperate situation in an instant. Motor vehicle, household, health and life insurance, are just a few of the various policies that are available to protect you and your family. There are educational plans that encourage you to plan for several years before you need the money.

Save for your children’s education
For the vast majority of people, funding your children’s education ranks as one of the largest expenses you will ever face and it must, thus, be carefully planned for. Thinking about your young children’s future education may seem like a lifetime away. However, with the rising costs of education, if sound investments are not made now, covering the huge expenses for the secondary and post-secondary years may be a challenge. When your children are still young, you have the benefit of time to select investments that offer the prospect of higher returns over the long term. It takes discipline, consistency and sacrifice to amass the money that you need to educate them and give them the best chances in life.

Who is your Next of Kin?
In Western cultures, the choice of the spouse as next of kin is the most obvious one. For example, the mother of his children is generally the person in whom a man places the most trust. In Nigeria, however, it is very common for a man to choose his brother as next of kin. In the event of the husband’s death, making the wife your next of kin will save her and the children a lot of hardship given the traditional extended family system where other family members can often forcefully claim their brother’s property. There are numerous examples of widows having to cope with not only the loss of their spouse but also of all their personal possessions and property.

Many people assume that if they pass on, their spouse will automatically become beneficiary to their estate. If you were to die intestate, that is, without leaving a will, your property will not simply pass to your spouse as you might think; strict rules rank your next of kin, and your property will be distributed according to laws of intestacy, which may vary from state to state.

Put an estate plan in place
It is only by having a clear estate planning mechanism in place, that you can protect your immediate family, including your wife and children, and ensure that your investments and property and other assets do not go into the wrong hands in the event of your untimely passing. Review and update your will, trust and other estate planning documents from time to time, to ensure that they are in accordance with your current status and intentions; you might have had more children or wished to include additional beneficiaries, may have acquired additional assets or disposed of some.

Review your beneficiary designations

It is important to check beneficiary designations periodically, say once a year, to make sure that they are up to date. At some time or the other, you have probably had to fill out a form or some other documentation where you had to clearly state your next of kin. Many people don’t take this designation that seriously and sometimes even forget whom they designated as time goes by.

Designate a guardian for your children

Considering the worst-case scenario is something that no one likes to think about. But if something happens to both you and your spouse, you do want to be sure that your children will be well taken care of. Some couples disagree about who would play that role; should it be his brother or her sister or a friend perhaps? If you haven’t made your wishes clear, the court will appoint someone without any guidance from you; it may be someone that you do not want to raise your children. You would have considered several factors including where the guardians live, their financial situation, how many children they have, the way their children are being raised, their spouse and so on. Sit down with your spouse, to discuss the pros and cons of various options and come to a decision and include this in your will. Inform the proposed guardians also.

Give your family your time
In the final analysis, all the money in the world cannot replace that precious time for bonding, building and nurturing relationships with your children. Make the time.

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Nimi Akinkugbe has extensive experience in private wealth management. She seeks to empower people regarding their finances and offers frank, practical insights to create a greater awareness and understanding of personal finance. You can reach Nimi via the following: Email; [email protected] | Website: | Twitter: @MMWITHNIMI | Instagram: @MMWITHNIMI | Facebook: MoneyMatterswithNimi


  1. John

    June 17, 2018 at 6:23 pm

    Pls just say “happy fathers day ” and move along.

    All this stupid essays and epistle on just one day that is suppose to celebrate fathers.

    We celebrate mothers day amost 3 times a year and i dont see epistle and essays telling them how to be a better mother even though there is a lot bad mothers around.

  2. John

    June 17, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    . In Nigeria, however, it is very common for a man to choose his brother as next of kin. In the event of the husband’s death, making the wife your next of kin will save her and the children a lot of hardship

    Na lie
    Nice try

    Make your children your next of kin only…you can even set an age limit to activate it.

    That is most reasonable thing you can do

    Isn’t it funny that feminists are advising women ( that are rich even by inheritance ) not to trust their husbands expecially with money.

    Everything should be in the woman’s name.

    So why should a man trust his wife expecially in this lazy slay queen and entitled era.

    Abeg , put everything in your children’s name too only Or OYO will be your name. Unless you want another dude to be enjoying your money and house at your children expense.

    And pls do a DNA test before doing that

  3. Emmanuel

    June 18, 2018 at 7:51 am

    I’ve noticed that a lot of women don’t make their husband their next of kin. Why is this so?

    • Puzzles

      June 19, 2018 at 3:38 pm

      I think majority of women put their children as next of kin because in most cases, after the woman’s passing, the man remarries (some less than a year after their wife died) and the welfare of the children is often left in the hands of a new wife who in some known cases mistreats the children of the dead woman and even ensures they don’t benefit from their mother’s properties and even their father’s as they focus all attention on their own children. I know of instances where some men hand over the children of their late wives to their parents in the village, sometimes at the request of the new wife.

      On the other hand, most widows in Nigeria don’t remarry and even if they do, they do not neglect their children’s welfare because of their current husband or children. They ensure that whatever inheritance passed on to them by their late husband goes to their children.

      When a woman puts her children as next of kin, in a way she secures the children’s future even if the man remarries.

      Please note that my assumptions are based on experiences i have seen and heard. Another person might know more widowers who actually ensure their children by their late wives are well taken care of and widows who neglect their children for another man.

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