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#BN2018Epilogues: Stella Achieved 2 of 3 Goals



Remember when we asked you to send in essays discussing how 2018 was for you? Because, you know, writing can be the best therapy. And sharing your joy and pain and all the emotions you’ve felt through the year can only be a good thing.

Stella set out 3 huge goals for herself at the start of 2018. Thankfully, she achieved two of those three goals, and is hopeful number 3 will be solved in 2019.


I started 2018 on my knees crying for three things. That was the very first time I had to do that. Generally, in life, things have always worked out for me without stress.

I asked God for my first million, a serious relationship & to start my Master’s Degree.

My First Million
I am not a hustler or an entrepreneur. I am the girl that goes to work, saves, and slays. I remember in 2016 when I was earning ₦50k, that was later slashed to ₦30k. Yes, I am a Lawyer. I told a female friend how much I earned and she was shocked because of my slay. The next question she asked was if I had a sugar daddy. Obviously, I didn’t have one.

I made my first million in 2018 by saving every single dime that was not for essential use. I have such a great savings culture and this led me to my first million.

Start my Master’s Degree
I started my master’s degree and it consumed my life. I had no social life, all I did was go to work and school, in that order. This limited my chances of finding love in 2018.

Enter a Serious Relationship
There are so many reasons why I am in my late 20’s and have never been in a serious relationship. The major one is that I am a virgin who doesn’t look like one, and I run from all the yahoo boys & club boys who come my way. I am so used to being myself that letting anybody into my space will be a major issue for me. I also don’t meet the type of gentlemen I want.

I pray every day that the decisions I made earlier in my life were not wrong. I sometimes wonder if I should have slept with that billionaire sugar daddy who was toasting me, or the young married CEO who is toasting me. However, I’m convinced that sleeping with me is not the way for me. I personally don’t have an issue with girls who do, just do it well, okurr?

Also, my family and I didn’t have to visit the hospital for surgery, etc., unlike previous years where my father and mother had surgeries. Also, my father was told by his doctor to stop his prostate cancer drugs. We are so thankful.

2018 was eventful and focus driven for me. I achieved two out of the three things I asked God for in 2018. I made my first million and started my master’s degree. However, I failed to find love in 2018.

I am beyond excited for 2019, as I intend to find love and start a side hustle to compliment my full time job. In 2019, I shall write back in to say I found love and my business is booming!


Read up on previous editions of BN 2018 Epilogues here and send in your essays to features(at)bellanaija(dot)com. Let us know all the twists and turns and successes 2018 came with. Send your mail with the title “2018 Epilogues.”


  1. ejiro

    December 28, 2018 at 4:06 pm

    go girl ,proud of you

    • Stella

      April 19, 2020 at 5:39 am

      Thank you

  2. Fave

    December 28, 2018 at 9:10 pm

    Hello Stella. Thanks for sharing your story. I made my first million like 2 years ago and I know how awesome I felt. I was less than 25 then.
    I also started my Masters this year. It’s been hectic but worth it if you ask me.
    For a relationship, my fiance quit on our relationship and it’s not been the easiest then but like you, I’m a virgin and I’m happy I didn’t give up my virginity despite the fact we were engaged and planning a wedding.
    I believe 2019 will be a great year with testimonies too. God made me smile for sure this year.

  3. lola

    December 29, 2018 at 5:48 pm

    LOL not sleeping with the billionaire sugar daddy or the married guy were probably great decisions if you ask me only because it sounds like you’re looking for love, not sex or money. If you were then, yea babe you messed up :-). But seriously ,kudos to you! I think if the only thing “wrong” with your life is that you haven’t found love you’ve done pretty well for yourself. In the meantime- Enjoy you’re money!!! Someday you’ll have kids school fees/babysitters to worry about and you won’t be able to just pick up and go. If I were you I’d start hitting some of the travel spots on your bucket list- all the while investing to make sure funds for enjoyment never ends-)

  4. Stella

    April 19, 2020 at 5:46 am


    This is 2020 and it seems i just might have found love with the most expressive man, ! He is kind and all things sweet

    Fingers crossed ?! We will find out in my 2020 epilogue ?

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