‘I Wish Heaven Had Visiting Hours’ – Read the Stirring Tribute of BN Reader Ojini Onyeabo to her Late Brother, Nonso

When we lose a loved one, there are no words to express the deep sense of loss. There’s a place in our hearts where they lived and when they’re gone, it feels like there’s no coming back from it. One of our readers, Ojini Onyeabo, lost her brother 3 years ago. Nonso, or Chuksilulu as she fondly called him, passed away while he was studying in the UK. His sisters, Ojini and Oby have decided to write something to encapsulate the person he was. Ojini’s loving tribute to Nonso on the 3rd anniversary of his passing away is very heart stirring. We hope that you’d read it and reach out to your loved ones. Let’s make the best of today, because we don’t know what tomorrow holds.

NONSO ‘Chuksi-lulu’ ONYEABO. APRIL 22 1982- OCT 23 2010.

Let’s dance in style,
Let’s dance for a while,
Heaven can wait, we’re only watching the skies
Hoping for the best, not expecting the worst…,
Let us die young, but let us live forever
We don’t have the power but we never say never
Sitting in a sand pit, life is a short trip…

We had this conversation a few weeks before you passed. Arguing about the lyrics to the song –Forever Young and what it really meant. I thought it was about a legend dying- even though he’s passed on, he would be young forever because his memories would be passed down to generations of people. You agreed with me but thought there was a spiritual undertone to it.

It’s often said that people come into your life for different reasons. And if they have to leave, it’s only because their task is completed. I don’t think I would truly understand the reason my brother left our lives. I know I would never accept a logical reason- a justification of sorts for his death. I also will not try to pretend anymore. It is plain ridiculous to assume that his task in our lives and this world was done. He was just beginning and was one of those people who had and would continue to get it right. He had just turned 28 and was doing a Masters when we discovered he was terminally ill.

I remember the moment I heard the news. I was driving, on the Island, in Lekki traffic when my mom called. I seem to have forgotten what exactly transpired between me and another car right after the phone call, but I recall very clearly getting out of my car and screaming at the huge man who had made the mistake of coming into my lane and going in front of me at that particular instant. I remember the surprised and almost petrified look on his face and I also remember distinctly, just knowing, at that moment, that my life was never going to be the same again.
Fast forward 3 years and I have proved myself right. I’ve made more bad decisions in this past 3 years that I ever made in my whole life. And although it doesn’t change the past, at least I now know why. It is down to this almost desperate search and constant strife to replace the emptiness and despair with that apparently elusive feeling of happiness, inner peace and fulfillment.

This piece, this write up, is just to remind you Nonso on this day that you are still our hero. I’m grateful and honored that you were given to us for the 28 years of your life. I could not possibly have wished for a better brother. You were easily my biggest influence-you taught me everything I know. You shaped my thinking and stretched my reasoning. Every conversation with you was intellectually stimulating. Always, always a learning experience.

Everything that is me now- music, my creative outlets and hobbies, the channels I watch on television, food I refuse to eat again- thanks to your very detailed explanation of how they came to be on my plate and what it is that I am really eating, even the way I drive- was all you first. You liked to tease me a lot about how you taught me everything and I always admitted it first because it was true and secondly, because I was so proud of you and I always wanted you to know just how much I looked up to you and how huge an impact you had on me.

You were the man in our lives, a rare type of person, a really special person- we don’t meet people like you every day, sometimes in a whole lifetime. I can’t describe you with words, it’s absurd even thinking it, because that’s undermining you, words won’t do you any justice. Anyone who knows you, who met you, knows that. What I have to do is to remind myself that some birds aren’t meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are just too bright… and when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up does rejoice… but still, the place you live is that much more drab and empty now that they’re gone. You didn’t belong here, it’s true; your mind was light years away from us here, Nonso- single handedly the most intelligent and passionate human I ever met.

I don’t know if I would ever be truly happy again because you made our world beautiful. To be honest, everyday is another hard day to live without you. Every day is another difficult day to get through. It’s exactly three years ago since I saw you take your last breath and today I console myself with the fact that while you lived, you lived. You loved life and life loved you right back. Your few years here are richer than most people’s entire lives. I love you. I miss you so much it really hurts. And I wish you were still here with us, being the light of my world. But I know that you’re over there. Waiting for me. Watching over me. And right now, even though that’s not enough, that’s all the encouragement I need to get through the day.

I love you Chuksilulu. I can never ever say goodbye to you; you still live on in me.
You have become that song, Nonso. That legend that can never be forgotten. Will never, ever be forgotten.
You are forever young.

Ojini and Oby.

84 Comments on ‘I Wish Heaven Had Visiting Hours’ – Read the Stirring Tribute of BN Reader Ojini Onyeabo to her Late Brother, Nonso
  • kike October 23, 2013 at 9:18 am

    What I have to do is to remind myself that some birds aren’t meant to be caged, that’s all

  • Marc Francis of Chelsea October 23, 2013 at 9:23 am

    :'(

  • O.J Amusan October 23, 2013 at 9:26 am

    ChukwuNonso Onyeabo, miss miss miss you everyday Hommie…My Roomie/Friend in U.I, words can’t express!!! Oooh, I wish I could turn back the Hands of time. R.I.P Bro.

  • yinka October 23, 2013 at 9:26 am

    So touching..We have the fine hope of resurrection when dead loved ones who have fallen asleep in death would come back to life again and live forever in perfect health..Take heart!

    • Gbemi October 23, 2013 at 10:54 am

      Are you a Jehovah’s witness?

    • TA October 23, 2013 at 1:47 pm

      @ Yinka,this hope of the resurrection is what keeps me sane,what keeps me going,what keeps me from screaming out loud and tearing out my hair when I remember my most amazing,wonderful man that was my father(words are not adequate to describe some persons really),which is every second of every day. The pain,the wound never heals,time only dulls it and the beauty of life puts a salve on the wound too…
      May God continue to console all of us.

  • Hurpeyeahmie October 23, 2013 at 9:29 am

    eeya May God console you and your family

  • Toin October 23, 2013 at 9:32 am

    Wow!

  • skinnyondinside October 23, 2013 at 9:35 am

    touching tribute…. i have tears in my eyes right now

  • P October 23, 2013 at 9:39 am

    may the souls of all the faithful departed,through the mercy of God rest in peace(Amen) ………

  • mii October 23, 2013 at 9:43 am

    sobs…dis is absolutely sad, as i read thru was just tryin to imagine mysef in her shoes, all is well as u said hes waiting 4 u 2 come join him in eternity…GOD bless u!!!

  • Chu-Chu October 23, 2013 at 9:44 am

    May his Soul keep resting in peace. It is well..

  • portable October 23, 2013 at 9:51 am

    Tears in my eyes…..RIP Nonso,take OBY n OJINI!

  • portable October 23, 2013 at 9:51 am

    *Sorry,take heart*

  • #Naijapose.com October 23, 2013 at 9:55 am

    Sorry for the loss dear!!!

  • Chi October 23, 2013 at 9:55 am

    I am in tears. Such a touching tribute. May God comfort your family.

  • frances October 23, 2013 at 9:58 am

    I literarily had goose bumps while reading dis,it made so much profound effect on me.
    May he continue 2rest in peace,amen.

    imperfectlyperfect92.wordpress.com

  • la vivy October 23, 2013 at 10:03 am

    All I can say is “it is well” I lost my kid Bro 2yrs ago. He died @ d age of 19 due to ill health. He was such an amazing soul.

  • Aderonke October 23, 2013 at 10:03 am

    *smiles* I am sure Nonso would want you all to move on and be strong. His joy would be to see u and Oby excel. No one can ever feel his space but his influence on you all can.
    I feel you so much dear Ojini because i have also lost a jewel (my younger sister at her prime) just like u. Omowunmi was meant to be our family doctor, she had best of all of us in her before she passed, she was the little best friend i ever had but I have accepted it like you said beautiful birds can never be caged.
    So sis, we pray that almighty Jehovah will keep comforting you and your folks and give you all strength to move on. It is well

  • Tee October 23, 2013 at 10:06 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have an elder brother too that taught me how to do so many things and even though we fight and argue i know i have a shoulder to always lean on. I cant imagine leaving in a world without him. So i kinda know a bit of what you must be going through and i pray that the holy spirit who is our greatest comforter will give rest to your soul and your family. Amen

  • Adaeze Ibechukwu October 23, 2013 at 10:10 am

    Such touching tribute. It made me realize the pain alot of people are going through. Oby and Ojini be rest assured that he is happy and free in Heaven. May God give your family the strength to bear the irreparable loss. Amen.

  • Ennie October 23, 2013 at 10:19 am

    i actually remember meeting Nonso in UI. i had heard plenty about him and i just thought he was overrated like so many people are. but one conversation with him and i easily joined the team of people singing his praise. full of life, absolutely brilliant and humble.

  • Blessing October 23, 2013 at 10:21 am

    May his soul rest in peace.may d good Lord console u and ur family,it is well with ur soul

  • Alero October 23, 2013 at 10:30 am

    I can absolutely say I know how u girls feel. You hear some songs (not necessarily sad songs) and u cant help but cry because those songs bring memories of your late loved one. Only God can heal us, Only Him. Stay strong .

  • berthram October 23, 2013 at 10:32 am

    Still remember d first time our paths crossed. Was on a queue tryin to get a room,in Nigeria law sch Bwari wen we met.got talking like old sch friends Called u “Nonso Bond” We stayed in the same Block, You where a real gud friend and associate. Watched my back always. Always had a smile on ur face. You where 1 heck of a personality while u held sway in our “House of Lords”.still took out time to check me up before u left for ur ll.m. Miss you Loads bro. Still shocked ur gone bro.
    Ojini and Oby, Nonso was a rare Gem! God knows beta. Continue to Rest in Peace Nonso! Miss You Loads

  • saphyah October 23, 2013 at 10:40 am

    Touching……May God console you all.

  • karonwi October 23, 2013 at 10:43 am

    This got me all emotional. Deep, real expression of true love. May your brother continue to R.I.P, I pray for God’s comfort for you and yours.

  • Renaissance Diva October 23, 2013 at 10:48 am

    The same could be said about my baby cousin (Ijeoma) who died at the age of 24. That death shattered our whole family’s state of mind and still does. But thanks for this piece – it has assured me that her memory always lives in all we do. Like you said: some birds aren’t meant to be caged! Luv ya always ‘minnie me’.

  • Morex October 23, 2013 at 10:51 am

    Ojini and Oby take Heart, it is well…… I understand the power of seperation. Is Been 3 yrs Since I lost my uncle, who talkd my dad to allow me school abroad. @October2010. I came back to Nigeria hoping to see him at the airport, but I didn’t…..on geting home I asked my mom about him and the only word I heard was ” he has gone to be with his making” I cried my heart out…………nothing happen. I consoled myself with the fact that he was a good man and he touched lives in different ways. He left without droping a word for me…… R.I.P to all the departed Soul. We love you

  • Frida October 23, 2013 at 11:00 am

    I log on to this website on a daily basis, and have read countless articles written here, but for some reason, after reading your article, I felt compelled to comment. I am so sorry for your loss. I’m not entirely sure how much comfort words can really bring, but I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Losing someone you love, especially when in the prime of their life, is at most times unthinkable, and one can’t even begin to aptly describe the pain caused by their loss. Your brother sounds like he was a wonderful human being, and I hope that you will be able to find comfort in the beautiful memories which remain. May God bless you.xx

  • Brown sugar October 23, 2013 at 11:26 am

    This brings back memories. Very painful memories.

    • Mz Socially Awkward… October 23, 2013 at 12:44 pm

      It does indeed, for many who identify with the pain. Ojini, I can only tell you to be consoled in the Lord (if you believe). He’s the only one I’ve known that can numb the pain when you don’t know how to feel anything else… And believe me, visiting heaven will only bring a temporary, fleeting joy because he’ll always be missing from your waking, breathing, everday life here on earth. May God’s comfort be your strength.

  • Akudo October 23, 2013 at 11:49 am

    I did meet Nonso after hearing so much about him from you, Oby and truly he was a beautiful person. I can only imagine how you feel and pray that God continues to grant you all the strength to bear d loss. God knows best indeed. Please do take heart Oby, Ojini and your mum. Fantastic tribute guys!!!!

  • Abisola October 23, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    Just yesterday I needed to talk to someone and I thought of you Nonso but of course you were not there, that happens a lot these days. I used to say to people that if I ever committed a capital offence, you would be one of the first persons I would call because you listened. Not only were you a great listener, you did not have a judgmental bone in your body but still was able to tell me what I needed to hear and not what I wanted to hear. As I told you 3 years ago when God called you, I continue to celebrate the man that you were and I trust that you still have the place I asked God to reserve for you at His right hand.
    Ojini and Oby, though Nonso is gone and nothing can bring him back, rest assured in the fact that his life was so meaningful, many of us regard him as more than a friend.

  • annybeke October 23, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    Its strangely surprising but I feel so sad not because he died but that I never met him b4 he did, never got the chance to encounter this amazing person…. Its like loosing a friend b4 the friendship even begun, all I will ever get are memories of him through others eyes. Ojini and Oby ur brother was such a person dat culd make one pray for heaven to establish a visit hour, yes! just to make my own memoirs of him! I’m very sure he’s proud of u two, his influence really fell on fertile grounds, as u both have captured him so beautifully and made strangers like me who didn’t knw NONSO at all, know him now, wish he was still here and love him. Thou He died young, he still lives forever ! Thanks for introducing us all to Chucksi-lulu!

  • nneka October 23, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    CHUK LIVES ON!

  • Miss_Sadiq October 23, 2013 at 12:12 pm

    RIP Nonso! He’s always with you Jinnie…. and like you
    always say- he is in a better place.

  • eesha October 23, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    May he continue to rest in peace. Amen

  • Grace October 23, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    Kindly accept my sympathy…God knows best. I know what it is to really lost a loved one. I really wish heaven had visiting hours too:(

  • Isaiah Bozimo October 23, 2013 at 1:29 pm

    Rest in Peace Nonso. So proud to have known you. Gone bu never forgotten

  • Kevin Osuhor October 23, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    My Nigeria Law School roommate…I guess we will never have that Law firm our young hearts dreamed about…Miss you loads…rest in perfect peace.

  • Rexie October 23, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    Beautiful.

    May he continue to rest in peace, and may God give you peace.

  • Adenike October 23, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    We were born same day same year. Wish I met you in this life but I’m hopeful we would meet someday. Reading this piece just made me think of people I love and how I never want to lose any of them. Above all, how I influence people around me to say good things after I’m gone is my new goal in life.

  • Adenike October 23, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    Rest on mate

  • Yvonne October 23, 2013 at 1:57 pm

    This is very touching . I only imagine how it feels to lose someone really close . May Almighty God grant Nonso a perfect rest, and sisters take heart ,please take heart.

  • Percy Williams October 23, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    Dear Oby and Ojini
    I lost my elder sister in February and I must confess, I can only slightly imagine how you feel. No one can ever truly feel the pain and loss of another. I can only ask that ……
    May God comfort you in the way that only He can… And may you find fulfillment and purpose to quench the emptiness in your soul.
    May Nonso continue to “rest in peace” … I honestly don’t understand that phrase anymore. :(

  • TA October 23, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    Ojini and Oby Onyeabo…can you feel the tight squeeze? its me squashing you with a hug.
    sigh, *BIG HUG*

  • Fikayo October 23, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    Still constanly miss you Nonso. Miss your humour, good nature and friendship. Time blunts the sting but doesn’t erode the pain. Missed you at my wedding… You’d Hv been on my train Defo! But it’s all good sha. God rest your gentle soul.

  • Jumoke Caxton-Martins October 23, 2013 at 2:13 pm

    Words can never capture what Nonso was to anyone that met him or had the privilege of being his friend. His burial was what inspired me to write a short story “At the End” earlier this year. I’ve heard it said that to live on in the heart’s of those you love is never to die. Nonso lives; forever young. Ojini & Oby, thanks for this.

  • la belle October 23, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    RIP Nonso, so touching. May you rest perfectly in the bossom of the Lord!

  • Bumight October 23, 2013 at 3:16 pm

    I never had the pleasure of meeting him, but we interacted through words. He was a very prolific writer and I felt a personal sense of loss when I heard he had passed on. You’ll forever live on in our hearts, The Original Cunning Linguist

  • Spicy October 23, 2013 at 3:43 pm

    May his soul and that of all the faithfuls departed RIP, Amen!

  • Gorgeous October 23, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    “Fast forward 3 years and I have proved myself right. I’ve made more bad decisions in this past 3 years that I ever made in my whole life. And although it doesn’t change the past, at least I now know why. It is down to this almost desperate search and constant strife to replace the emptiness and despair with that apparently elusive feeling of happiness, inner peace and fulfillment.”

    This totally describes me! I made so many bad mistakes when my dad died. Looking desperately for someone or anything to feel the emptiness. I felt so lost, confused, and so so empty. I almost lost it. Even till now i just break into tears. Sometimes i want to hold my head and scream and cry loud. But people are always around. This pain, this pain. I am afraid to love anyone so much. I dont think i can survive this again. I give everyone space these days even my family. My dad was everything to me… No one will understand my loss. I hope those i hurt trying to fill my emptiness and pain forgive me.

  • Tinu October 23, 2013 at 4:45 pm

    Don’t worry Ojini, God will fill the emptiness with love and give you so much more joy than you could have imagined possible.
    What I have come to accept is that the people who have left the earth have gone to rest and feel no pain. We will definitely see them again.
    I pray that the Lord will comfort you and your family and that Nonso’s Soul will continue to rest in peace at the bosom of the Lord.
    I am sure he was proud of you and continues to watch you and watch over you with so much pride because of the woman you are becoming.

  • WomantoWomanCry October 23, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    Wow nonso its been 3 years now but you still live.. i met
    him for a short time in cardiff and i must say every conversation
    with him was a lesson to me. the way he spoke, always smiling. when
    he told me he was sick he was talking about it like it was a joke..
    You were a special gift, a different kind at 28 years.. Keep
    Resting dear nonso at the bosom of the lord i will keep remembering
    your smiling face.. Ojini, Oby and your mum may the Good lord keep
    comforting you and fill you up with so much happiness knowing that
    your brother was a rare gem.

  • Bobosteke & Lara Bian October 23, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Your love for your brother is so palpable as well as those
    shown by the people who knew him. May God bless you for not
    forgetting him.

  • Lin October 23, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    I never met or knew Nonso but i was positively impacted by
    him. It may sound strange but true. I have a sister who worked with
    him and usually talked about him, particularly about how good a
    writer he was. I also learnt he blogged and that was my first time
    of hearing about blogging. I am someone who also writes so that
    really inspired me. Reading this article has made me realise that
    one needs to work on oneself as a person such that after life here,
    one’s good character wud be remembered. Because inevitably we are
    all gonna go someday and how u are remembered is what counts. Take
    heart Oby and Ojini.. I pray God will continue to grant u succour
    and Nonso continues to be with the Lord. It is well with us
    all.

  • amaka October 23, 2013 at 5:43 pm

    wow, so sorry dear. Reminds me of my late brother, his name
    is Nonso too. I know how it feels to loose a sibling. Take heart
    dear. The Lord is your strength.

  • Me October 23, 2013 at 6:02 pm

    This is a lesson in love and never take a day or anyone for
    granted… My condolences to Oby and Ojini.

  • Gbonju October 23, 2013 at 7:08 pm

    Unforgettable Nonso….There are no words to describe how beautiful a person you were and still are in our lives. i remember you everyday when i pass by the street you lived on in Ikoyi while we were in Secondary school. God comfort Oby and Ogini and all of us. Continue to rest on in the bosom of Christ as you remain….#ForeverYoung.

  • GreenDiamond October 23, 2013 at 7:10 pm

    tears couldnt stop rolling.. RIP!

  • Beauty October 23, 2013 at 8:19 pm

    awwww so sad may he continue to rest in peace.

  • lovlin iheoma October 23, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    tears in my eyes it’s very painful to miss ur loved ones,take heart

  • Inyamu October 23, 2013 at 8:35 pm

    ‘Ozav’ I thought about you today…. You were unique, kind, witty… intelligent. You believed in me and encouraged me long before i believed in myself. I’m ever grateful that blogging connected me to a great person, I’m glad i got to meet you. Rest well my friend. Your blog still rocks… http://www.ozaveshe.blogspot.com/

  • Idak October 23, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    I read this piece at the wrong location.
    How do you explain a grown man crying in a crowded departure lounge of a busy airport?
    Suddenly, stuff that seem important become truly mundane in the light of a piece like this. It is the simple things that leave the longest impact. The squeezing of the hands of loved ones reassuring them that all will be well even when you don’t know how, the listening ears to aching hearts, those little phone calls to check up how they are doing, just sharing your heart with others without expecting anything in return. No one remembers this Nonso chap for buying expensive gifts for his friends and family or for any gift that money itself could replace.
    May we remain conscious of the very little things that never perish as we are continually buffeted on every side by this vain world we live in.
    Thank you to the Nonsos of this world who blessed our lives and may we walk in this particular step of yours.

    • NYK October 24, 2013 at 6:52 am

      May we remain conscious of the very little things that never perish as we are continually buffeted on every side by this vain world we live in.
      THIS IS IT FOR ME, WE PURSUE VANITY SO MUCH, WE FORGET THINGS THAT MATTER. THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL

  • Adeleke. A October 23, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    Great Guy, Gentleman…..Rest on Dear Learned Colleague!

  • Modella October 23, 2013 at 9:55 pm

    Sad!

  • Peaches77 October 23, 2013 at 10:25 pm

    Oh dear, there are those kinds of pains that cannot just be wished away. We learn to live with them, God being our comforter.

  • I Rock October 23, 2013 at 10:54 pm

    I cried while reading this. May God comfort and strengthen you Ojini and your family.

  • D4v3 October 23, 2013 at 11:17 pm

    This picture. . .
    I agree with you Ojini, Nonso was definitely taken from us before his time. I remember that sunday, the call I got that he was ill, who would have thought. . .? Such a short life span but it is very obvious that he positively impacted so many lives in ways many wouldn’t. Continue to sleep on in the bosom of the Lord, obviously your feathers were just too bright for this sinful world. Nonso my brother, we all love and miss you dearly.

  • Olayinka Mann October 24, 2013 at 2:44 am

    Still cant believe my eyes nor my ears,Nonso is gone,to where,what happened to him?you are sure a cool person,met you back in nigeria at the bank,never wanted to do my transactions without you there,remembered our last conversation, when you told me you were going for your masters,while I was leaving for America too,exchanged Facebook contact,last conversation was how many mutual friends we had and it was a small world,that chat so much that i felt we had known each other for a while,you talked with so much pleasantries, and respect super cool,but heaven known better,continue to Rest In Peace Nonso..

  • flory October 24, 2013 at 8:28 am

    So touching….I know how you feel ….lost my sister some years ago and her memeories still linger and I almost lost another one two weeks ago..the flashes came back…I begged God to spare her……thank God she survived.

  • Jeremy October 24, 2013 at 8:44 am

    OMG!!! Now I know better all those periods we sat together in d office and u feel stressed up, the comments u make looking @ me, ” oh Jerry, I miss my brother” “oh I miss u chusky”. I swear, I didn’t meet him, bt after dis piece, my brother readily comes to mind, I guess I must have shared wit u in office how my little bro has scratch death a couple of times as a result of as asthma attach. Now I know what it means loosing a sibling in his prime, Am still in tears, I hardly cry bt this is one of those moments. JINNIE & OBY, it is well, their is no better place than d bossom of d lord, no person who gets there would wanna come back to hustle, what pleasure is in dis world to derive than over there? My only regret is that @ d time I came to know u, he has transcended, I So wish I met him. RIP CHUKSY **in Jinny’s voice**

  • ninini’s friend October 24, 2013 at 2:32 pm

    “It is down to this almost desperate search and constant
    strife to replace the emptiness and despair with that apparently
    elusive feeling of happiness, inner peace and fulfillment.” the
    fondness with which you used to talk about him hasnt changed one
    bit. I remember when anytime I call you and I ask after Nonso you
    would say “Ah han why are you always asking after my brother…he
    has a girlfriend o” and then tell me how he was a neat person and
    he would sweep the house and cleanup when a place was dirty *sigh*
    this tribute gave me soooo much goosebumps… may this tribute give
    you the much needed release and healing you deserve… hugs n
    kisses for your mum and oby.

  • obete October 24, 2013 at 5:03 pm

    Nothing in the world can fill the vacuum created by the loss of loved ones. My heart and prayers goes to Ojini and her entire family.The good Lord be with you all.This nice piece drives home the point that while we still have the opportunty, lets love and cherish our loved ones; do not postpone the phone calls, the visits, the picnics,the family outings, etc. There may not be another time for it except now. It is well!

  • omada October 24, 2013 at 11:18 pm

    this made me cry. the pain sha…hmmm… God be with you
    girls. I lost my brother years ago and I can relate. the pain never
    goes away, it may not be as raw, but its still there. May God
    continue to console your family. Amen.

  • Professor E. Ogbonna October 25, 2013 at 2:56 pm

    Nonso was an excellent student who displayed so much
    promise in his short time at Cardiff University. He had an
    analytical mind and a charming smile to which people warmed easily.
    Perhaps his greatest quality was his positive attitude to life
    which was a source of great comfort to all those around him
    especially during the greatest adversity of his short life. He will
    be remembered fondly by all at Cardiff University Business
    School.

  • Ohmine October 27, 2013 at 4:07 am

    Accept my condolence. May his soul continue to rest in peace. Amen

  • millionairess October 30, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    Rest in peace nonso ,wish I knew you personally. Take heart dear ojini and pls do take good care of your mum and sister. It is well

  • Cece November 6, 2013 at 12:57 am

    Thank you Professor Ogbonna for that. God bless you and
    trust you are fine. I remember his smile and positive aura even on
    the hospital bed. I never thought that visit at the hospital would
    be the last time I would ever see him again. He was always very
    lively. Rest in peace,dear one…..To everyone out there,make the
    most of everyday. Live your dreams now and not tomorrow.

  • Maureen November 7, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    I never got to meet Nonso, but heard a lot about him from Oby who was my highschool mate and dear friend. She always spoke about her siblings (Nonso and Ojini) and had the opportunity of meeting Ojini whilst she was studying in Aberdeen.
    Oby and Ojini, none of us can understand the pain of losing a loved one which your family is currently experiencing and there is nothing for me to say that will make your loss any easier. But we can only do our best to console you both and your mum with words and hope and pray that time will heal your pain. I am assured that you guys will be comforted by the fond memories you have of Nonso and the legacy he left behind during his short time with us. Goodnight Nonso and continue to sleep tight with the angels.

  • Yetunde November 27, 2013 at 10:42 am

    Nonso is one of those rare people that leave an indelible mark on even people they never met. I agree with you, he lives forever in our hearts. Live on, Star Child

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