“Why Are We So Afraid of Our Natural Hair?” | Watch Media Personality Ariyike Akinbobola Share Hair Experiences


With all the fuss about hair, media personality Ariyike Akinbobola has decided to address the issue in the first episode of her show “Ariyike Weekly.”

Watch the video here and share your thoughts!

49 Comments on “Why Are We So Afraid of Our Natural Hair?” | Watch Media Personality Ariyike Akinbobola Share Hair Experiences
  • www.chastecharity.org April 26, 2013 at 11:36 am

    Proud of You…Ariyike she is da Bomb

  • miumiu April 26, 2013 at 12:21 pm

    Huh?! This was all kinds of silly. Girl, You’ve got an exaggereated impression of yourself.

    • iCrossMyheart April 26, 2013 at 3:04 pm

      I thought I was the only one perturbed by this story. Commit suicide over hair comments? But then again, I cannot blame her. We Africans have learnt to associate natural hair with poverty, village, unkempt, dirty, slave, housegirl, etc. Same rhetoric during the colonial era. So when they see your natural self, they are disturbed. It is reminder that THEY WILL NEVER BE WHITE. Even with all the extensions in the market. You can say it is convenient. Or it is manageable. But how can you say that when you have not even learnt to manage your own hair? White girls have been managing their hair since they were born. Africans? From the age of 5 or even 12, they learn NOT TO MANAGE THEIR HAIR.

      Natural hair CAN BE MANAGEABLE if you learn how to manage it. It will not take a day or a month, hell even a year. After all, most women in Africa spend their life time managing hair that is not theirs, it will take time to learn to manage your own hair.
      I have come to understand Nigerians now. If you criticize something in an attempt to make it better, you are a hater. If you advise them about their natural beauty and their impact of their choices to wear “ian” hair, you are bloody hair hater.

      Nonetheless appreciate yourselves. If you wear weave, do not make someone who chooses not to weave feel like an outsider. Natural nazis are reacting to the comments Nigerians make about natural hair. I guess they have received all sorts of insults that they are doing exactly the same thing their weave-wearing enemies are doing.
      But hair is not that serious to commit suicide. All she needs to do is change her friends. Shikena.

      • Noni April 27, 2013 at 1:53 am

        When people insist on making hair political, it annoys me.
        I’m 20 and went natural when i was 14 years old. Going natural wasn’t to remind black people that they are not white, nor was it to somehow rebel against western idealism. I did it because i wanted a change up. You say white people “manage” their hair, for most of them what is there to manage? They don’t spend 8 hours a week detangling, washing conditioning and then putting their hair in twists just so it doesn’t tangle back up, I do. They don’t spend 4 hours every couple of weeks hunting through their fro for single strand knots and sniping them, I do. They don’t spend 2 hours each month carefully blow-drying their hair with minimum heat to then trim the split ends, I do. So when someone tells me that they can’t manage their natural hair I accept it because with this beautiful afro I have, it’s a labour of love. My older sister’s hair is natural as well and her’s is softer, finer, more stretched out, more manageable and she isn’t in pain when she combs her hair and while I do wish my hair could be that easy, it isn’t.
        Now if I ever relax my hair and some bint who thinks they know it all comes to tell me that I only relax my hair because I’m “trying to be white” or that I haven’t “tried to manage my hair” you best believe they are getting my shoe in their face.
        And as for the advising them about their natural beauty, who asked you? Whenever I see people who go around trying to convert everyone else to natural hair it’s as annoying as vegetarian/vegans who try to do the same. Your way is not the best way and no amount of harping on about it or twisting psychology will change that.
        I’m not going to tell my daughter what to put on her head, you know why? because no one gives a shit. As long as she takes care of whatever is on her head, she can use ostrich feathers as extensions if she wants.

      • t April 27, 2013 at 11:33 am

        Errrmmm…I respect your opinions but I think your statement “natural hair can be manageable” is flawed (if you were generalizing anyways. Otherwise, ignore my comment). I was natural for about 5 years. My HUGE afro was so lovely and beautiful. I always got complements. People loved it!!! But no one knew or understood the pains I had to go through to get my hair into a comb-able state everyday. For 5 years, I will fuss, sometimes cry over my hair ..it was just HARD. TOUGH. STRONG….one minute my hair is wet and super soft. The next minute, it is dry and as hard as a rock and yeah, I moisturized often. I guess it all comes down to individual hair textures. I have met some people who are 100% Africans (Nigerians) and have the softest, most silky natural hair ever.
        Anyways, fast-forward to end of last year and I couldn’t take it any longer. I retouched my hair. Now, my life, my choices right? But it was unbelievable when people, -other natural hair sisters- as they call themselves (lol), started calling me a traitor and a backstabber. Seriously?
        I hate the idea that natural hair, infact hair as a whole, has become a political issue. If I remember my biology well, isn’t hair even a waste product? Why all the fuss and attention on it. Does it define who you are? To each man his own decision.
        Yeah, I don’t really fancy weaves and I prefer wearing my real hair relaxed for as long as it requires a new retouching. That is my life and my business. If a girl chooses to wear 36inches hair, her life her business.
        I just don’t like it when people go back and forth with the whole hair arguments… relaxed-hair folks saying natural hair folks look unkempt, dirty and bla bla bla…and natural hair folks insisting that wearing weaves is a form of insecurity and wanting to be like the white folks.
        People, let’s move on. Life is too short abeg.

        However, as a previous natural hair person, mehn, that ish is funny..all the terms et al: pre-poo, co-wash, TWA, BC…ha ha ha…how do we keep up with all of that? Let’s not even get started on the plethora of hair products that everyone swears on these days.
        Ha ha

  • Warri Pickin April 26, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    A fight /debate that advocates of natural hair /african hair , cannot win over weaves, afro, fake hair or what have you. More like asking why are Ladies afraid of wearing clothes without Bra, like our foremothers did………lol. Afterall Bra is not a native of africa and neither are clothes a native of africa…abi i lie. Abeg make una leave mata for subtance, who sidon tire for him room go just wake up begin follow oda’s dey condemn wetin dey dem self like / don use b4……iservice

  • Bukie April 26, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    Great attempt to give advice and tips to those who need it. But you should do your research first. I’m a hair fanatic and when I saw the Title I was excited and eager to watch the video. I was looking forward to watching an informative video on hair care. That was definitely not the case. I found the video confusing and you seem to be using the term ‘natural hair’ all over the place. For some Nigerians natural hair seems to be mean hair with no extensions. In my world natural hair is your hair as it grows from your scalp. So no relaxer.

    Nice attempt, but as stated more research should have been done.

  • Diseye April 26, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    Tired of all this ‘natural hair’ fanatics abeg. Ever heard of the word ‘preference’ and ‘choice’? Nobody is scared of their natural hair abeg. My hair is relaxed cos it’s easier for me to manage and not because I want to be white or whatever lame gist you people from team-natural give abeg. Tired of the illusions of grandeur theses chicks with natural hair seem to have, haba!

    • ada April 26, 2013 at 1:52 pm

      thank you, these girls that want to do the ‘big chop’ and be all ‘naturalistas’ are really getting on my nerves. I have natural hair because I can be bothered to be relaxing my hair and also like the texture of my hair. Do I go around as if am mother nature or am better than everybody. No! because there are better things in this world than hair like I don’t know like people living in poverty, people at war. please get a life everyone from the ‘superficail’ Brazilian weave ladies to the ‘smug’ natural girls.

      • ada April 26, 2013 at 1:53 pm

        thank you, these girls that want to do the ‘big chop’ and be all ‘naturalistas’ are really getting on my nerves. I have natural hair because I can be bothered to be relaxing my hair and also like the texture of my hair. Do I go around as if am mother nature or am better than everybody. No! because there are better things in this world than hair like I don’t know like people living in poverty, people at war. please get a life everyone from the ‘superficial’ Brazilian weave ladies to the ‘smug’ natural girls.

        I mean *can’t be bothered*

    • iCrossMyheart April 26, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      Lol. Our choices are informed by our surroundings. You can talk preference and choice till tomorrow, it is because you prefer what it represents…WHITENESS. There is a difference between wanting to WHITE and wanting or desiring what WHITENESS represents.

      White people do not want to be black or what black represents. That is why they do not need to wear AFROS to manage their hair. And trust me, not many can deal with their hair on a daily basis. To you it may seem easier, why not? You have been caring for their type of hair for ages and neglecting your hair type. Yes the argument that white people tan to be black is flawed. Why? Because tanning arose in the 1970s and it signifies class. Only white people around this period could travel to the tropics during the Winter.

      There is nothing wrong with weave. But we need to take responsibility for the actions we take because it does have repercussions. Next time Psquared or dBanj or co use Indians or white girls in their videos, we should not complain o. After all, our clothes are not indigenous to Africa neither are they. I mean why have a black girl with indian hair when you can have an Indian with her own hair?

      For example: A black man saying he prefers white girls, it is not preference or choice independence from his surroundings. He desires what whiteness represents. Yes, human connection is the same across all individuals, but issues of race outside of the relationship play an important role. So do not give me the preference bull-crap. Yes some natural ninjas can go overboard, but your reaction to their antics speaks more about you than about them. If you didn’t care, you will not have cared enough to comment.

    • Oaken April 28, 2013 at 2:09 am

      Yep….thanks. It’s called live and let live. I have natural hair but I wear wigs a lot cos it’s low maintenance . And yes my natural kinky hair is high maintenance. I can’t prepoo, co wash, twist, hydrate with natural oils, fold, bend, press, Shea butter, coconut butter, seal in moisture all….2 times a week ….say who die? When no be say I no get full time work. Wearing a wig is my protective style

  • Diseye April 26, 2013 at 1:08 pm

    Thats how many abeg sef?

  • Africhic April 26, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    I wear my hair natural and even I am tired of the natural hair police. Its frustrating you don’t have to force your opinions down anyone ‘s throat

    • Karen D April 26, 2013 at 3:25 pm

      It has to be told as long as these black women come to terms with why they choose to wear their hair a particular way. People should be free to wear their hair however they choose but as black women we should not be ignorant. Why do we wear these hair types other than ours? why do we invest in them more than our own hair? why is good hair white man approved? why do we ignore our receding hairlines or failed edges and damage it more with glues, sewing, pulling etc? why the phuck do we make hair companies by racist Asians very rich for the different reasons we choose to wear these hair types?
      We should not fight but educate ourselves. We love our big booties, thickness, skin (I am speaking to the people who do not bleach their skin), why cant we apply them to those other things we were born with? Why do you wear weaves, relaxer, natural hair etc? How do our actions affect everything about us? I’m still finding out somethings myself but I know that I’m most comfortable with my own hair. Black women look better and younger with their own hair. And when I take out my weaves/wigs, which I wear sometimes, my edges are intact. Praise God! Education is crucial.

  • Bunmi April 26, 2013 at 2:36 pm

    I’ve not worn my real hair in 4 years. After watching this, i’m motivated to leave let my hair breathe for a few days. All my front hair is already gone. Thanks Ariyike

  • Fine sisi April 26, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    I don’t think the presenter is trying to force anything down on anyone. She made it clear that she also uses hair extentions, i think she’s just trying to say that people should not be ashamed of their real hair and we should watch how we make fun of people. When i was in secondary school, i got called all sorts of names because my hair only grew in the middle and i have a huge forehead. I wanted to leave boarding school because of this and i had no friends because i felt bullied. It made me come out strong and defensive and now i cut my hair in form of a mo hawk and it suits me perfectly.

  • Let it flow… April 26, 2013 at 3:04 pm

    Oh Lawd! I thought I was watching Oge Okoye! What’s with all the fake accent and phonetics. Be true to your own accent and shine. Good subject to discuss though but I had to stop watching midway as you put me off listening to you. Well done though. More grease.

    • Monique April 27, 2013 at 3:14 am

      Ameri-yoru accent. Haba! Just like my friend of many years in uk now speaks with this disgusting accent to me. “Na me naaaaa” which kain fronting level be this? And we both stay in Birmingham

    • Baltimore Gabby April 27, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      Criticizing is very good but should it not be constructive and meant to be encouraging!? …just asking!!!

  • iCrossMyheart April 26, 2013 at 3:36 pm

    No matter how convenient weave is, it impacts what women of other races think of us. That we are not good enough because we do not think we are good enough. You can defend your choices, which you should. Hell, individuals who are obese defend their eating habits every single time. I am not tying wearing weave to eating unhealthily, but who are we fooling? One only need to go to salons and hair markets in Africa to women suffering from alopecia.

    Wearing straight weave that is not NATURAL to us, sends the message not only to women of other races, our men, men of other races, but to our daughters that we are not good enough to find time to make us BEST enough. This debate will continue until we realize the impact of our actions. Act responsibly. Wear weave, but understand the implications.

    • enkay April 26, 2013 at 7:23 pm

      and who says white people don’t wear extensions and wigs? its all about choices, i am currently transiting from relaxed her to natural hair just because i saw it on someone and it looked nice and i have a feeling i can pull it off

      • iCrossMyheart April 26, 2013 at 8:34 pm

        They wear extensions and wigs THAT MIMIC THEIR OWN HAIR. We wear extensions and wigs that MIMIC THEIR OWN HAIR, NOT OURS.

    • slice April 27, 2013 at 4:30 am

      IF i understand you, u think there’s something wrong with african women wearing permed hair and weaves that are not african hair like? Excuse me lady that’s some BULL. What’s your own with someone’s hair. kia. some people like the shine of a perm and some people like having long straight hair. My white friends dye their hair, add weaves, wear wigs, tan, corn row, etc. I admit i think corn rows look funny on white girls but that’s just me. what’s all this talk about doing hair a certain way to want to be white. some might say people going natural are trying too hard to look African. Please there are better ways to prove that. send some money home to help iyabo finish school and now we are talking.

      • iCrossMyHeart April 27, 2013 at 6:25 pm

        Please my dear, read my comment again. This time, out loud.

      • slice April 27, 2013 at 9:15 pm

        @crossmyheart. LOL. you’ll be alright

      • obitalk May 2, 2013 at 12:27 pm

        “some might say people going natural are trying too hard to look African. ” Are you for real? as in …. I would question anyone who thought like that. how can you be trying to be what you are?!

    • Oaken April 28, 2013 at 2:11 am

      Biko speak for yourself.

    • zsa zsa April 28, 2013 at 6:02 am

      @icrossmyheart, uhmmm i disagree with you o. Are you saying what we do with our hair causes people of other races to see us in a negative light? like weaves make them think we have complex issues? I am natural…have been since 2006, i were weaves/braids/corn rows in between to switch up my look, other times i do my twist outs or braid outs. I have always gotten compliments on my hair, my friends of other races always tell me how nice it is to be able to wear so many different looks including the curly-fro. I honestly don’t think women of other races have the time to be formulating opinions about the way we wear our hair, weaves or not.
      You also seem to forget how versatile our hair texture is….we are blessed!! we can wear out own hair kinky, curly, straight,wavy….why should we run away from that?! What would you say about women of other races with bone straight hair who try to wear tight curls? maybe not to he extent of getting an afro but close enough.
      Please lets not make this hair issue more than what it is. For some, natural hair is a sign of rebellion…a political statement..for others hair is a status symbol, the longer the weave or the fresher the braids the more affluent they appear. For me, i was just trying to grow out some healthy hair from previous damage and it is quite tasking to say the least. I have learnt how to manage my hair but i miss the days i could just brush my hair into a ponytail on top of my head and keep it moving in 5 mins. Some women stick to their weaves simply because it is easier to manage, easy to style. Not everyone is a victim of mental slavery, just victims of convenience.
      Lets live and let live abeg.

  • Toyin April 26, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    Nobody is forcing anybody. Why do Black women especially Nigerian women immediately feel insecure when hair is been discussed. The truth of the matter is, 80% of naija women wear hdieous wigs/weaves, and the worse part is, it looks very unkept. Many Nigerian women are too lazy to take good care of their natural hair. And, if you wear weaves/wigs once in a while but your natural hair is very healthy, that’s a different case but most of the times the hair underneath the wigs/weaves is very unhealthy bcos most of these women think it’s too hard to take care of your “OWN” hair or believe that weave looks better on them.
    I’m proud of these Black women I see in california, who rock their natural hair with confidence, looks very healthy and feels good to see women feel beautiful without slapping on some Indian/peruvian/brazillian weaves. And, nothing wrong with Black women encouraging and pushing other black women to wear and maintain their natural hair. We are our own worse enemy. DON’T BE AFRAID,

  • Toyin April 26, 2013 at 4:51 pm

    In addition, I consider relaxed hair natural, as long as it’s hair growing from your scalp. But, it’s just better not to treat your hair with that much chemical because it ends up damaging or having some time of effect short and long term.

  • Sisi Yemmie April 26, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    I don’t think its easy to really rock natural hair, you need a lot of confidence. And Ariyike is right though… not everyone can take teasing really well. Please check out my video talking about my natural hair. Thank you!
    — sisiyemmie.com/2013/04/never-say-never.html

  • dede April 27, 2013 at 12:14 am

    I have realized that ever since I started wearing my real hair 24/7, I found many ways to take care of it. I watched youtube videos on how to care for my hair and the right products. I wash my hair every week, apply healthy products and style it. I pay attention to my roots all the way to the tips. Same goes for my natural nails. Although there is nothing wrong in fixing a weave or wearing braids but once in a while you gast to let your hair breath…

  • Asa April 27, 2013 at 1:01 am

    reminds me of toke makinwa. There. I said it.

  • Ok o April 27, 2013 at 3:24 am

    She sounds like toke makinwa minus the British-like wanna be accent

  • jazz April 27, 2013 at 9:29 am

    stop with the facial expressions,and hand thingy its distracting jor.dint gt d gist of d whole video

  • deep April 27, 2013 at 10:09 am

    ill informed video with a lot of rambling…
    Black women have severe identity issues, especially the african ones… at least education is freeing the ones abroad from mental slavery. the ones in Africa still think the inventors of weaves and relaxers had their best interest at heart. fools. lol

  • Abana April 27, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    What should a Nigerian accent sound like? A yoruba woman speaking English sounds different from a Hausa woman speaking English. Two well educated Nigerians might speak with distinct accents. So what does the real Nigerian accent sound like? Honest question, cos I am confused.

  • Nawa OOO April 27, 2013 at 9:56 pm

    natural hair is ugly. i am sorry but i think someone needs to tell these women the truth. IF YOUR HAIR LOOKS LIKE COTTON WOOL PLEASE NATURAL IS NOT FOR YOU. the only time natural works is when it is not frizzy or wooly or dry. i went natural and i had to relax my hair. i am not going to be carrying a ball of wool on my head. relaxing your hair is not a BLACK POWER THING. it is a beauty thing. your hair has to be the right texture. i braid my hair like our ancestors, i do shuko. patewo all sorts of things but being natural shall not be one of them. now if you have a baby you should not relax her hair. but as a young woman, no thanks

  • Deelicious April 27, 2013 at 11:57 pm

    you guys need to take a couple of chill pills and a full glass of relaxation juice. life is not this hard mehn…sheesh!

  • NNENNE April 28, 2013 at 3:48 am

    I am not ashamed of my natural hair. My hair is cut short… Nothing applied to it.
    I get complements everyday for my hair.
    It all depends on how you dress up and carry yourself.
    Rock your natural hair ladies. It is cheap and very convenient.

  • klaire April 28, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    natural hair is not cheap dear.

    • TallChica April 29, 2013 at 3:34 am

      How not? What does your natural hair need that is more than the standard care you take for a weave? How much does a decent weave go for nowadays? I’m of the opinion that everybody should do with their hair as they see fit, so no judgment here as per choice for weave or natural. However, unequivocated statements like “natural hair is not cheap dear” don’t further the conversation. They are opinions, not fact. I’d like to know how natural hair is more expensive, on the realest of levels. I think I may have misinterpreted the statement.

      I went natural because it was cheaper for me. (That and the chemicals in perms were CHOPPING my hair like tuwo…:D). Its a journey, yea, but so easy with the right tools. You won’t raise a child the same way you raise a goat. Don’t try to care for natural hair the same way you handle a weave/relaxed hair. Do away with those preconceptions and do your research and above all love yourself–weaved up or natch.

  • ontop hair matter?????? abeg leave these WHITE wannabe women April 29, 2013 at 12:27 am

    eyooo my natural sisters leave these inferior peeps naa .. retire from rambling its all good !! keep that hair healthy and that length increasing 😉

  • Maya April 29, 2013 at 1:33 am

    Very encouraging for the women wanting to grow natural hair. Well done!

  • Josh April 30, 2013 at 1:01 am

    I am white guy and my fiancee is Nigerian. I met her when she already had a “natural” hair style but I have seen her pictures when she had a long weave and it looks funny and mismatched. I tease her about it sometimes because it looked like she stole a horse’s mane and sewed it on to her head.

    The whole concept is weird to me. It would be like if all white women started walking around with afro wigs. They only do that during halloween. My fiancee explained to me that weaves have only been around and popular for less than 15 years so my question is what were Nigerian women doing before that? And why can’t they just do the same thing?

    As an outsider, I find the debate so fascinating. Anyway if my woman had white girl, I don’t know if I would have found her as attractive as I do. Insecurity is ugly.

    p.s. Baby I KNOW you will read this comment. You are addicted to this site!

  • Toyin May 6, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    @ Josh

    Good question, What were Nigerian women doing before this whole epidemic of wigs/weaves? These women worked with what they have. I see pictures of my mom back then, my grandmother and I have to say they looked gorgeous rocking their natural hair, whether braided, afro or different styles. Their hair looked long, full and healthy too. And,women with short hair still styled it up and looked fabulous. So, African/Nigerian women are just giving bunch of STUPID excuses to feed their low self esteem and insecurity. What a shame!!! It’s quite embarrasing to say the least.

  • Tokunbo June 19, 2013 at 4:09 am

    Who is this icrossmyheart?
    First off, most “white” women don’t even KNOW we have weave/extensions.
    Have you heard of the phrase “I bought it, so it’s MINE!!” ?.
    BTW What are you doing on the Internet? I suggest you destroy anything with “white” on it, and go back to the preslavery days……*hiss

    To all the people with negative comments about the producer, what do y’all really want? She speaks well and clear. If she was all about “h factor” or a thick accent, people will complain too.

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