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“I Asked the Lord to Make It Clear!” Read Lola Akindele’s Narration of How She Got Confirmation of her Fiance Dayo being “The One”



At BellaNaija we’re always happy to read from our readers. Lola Akindele‘s email was full of excitement when she sent us this “testimony”. Her story is indeed interesting and we knew we had to share. Lola and her beau Dayo Busari are now married and we to bring you their wedding feature soon. It is a long read but it is truly engaging. We implore you to keep reading to find out more about Lola’s interesting journey towards the institution of matrimony.

How We Met
Before I start, I just want to say that I actually started writing this testimony early last year, before I got my breakthrough, for I believe in doing things in faith as I knew that God would surely deliver His promises. I then completed writing the testimony after the breakthrough had actually come to pass…which happened about 6 months after I had started writing it.

At the end of July 2010, I had just come back from a holiday with my sister and friends and I was also rounding up my dissertation for my masters program. I was ready for the next stage of my life and I prayed for God to reveal my future husband, as I didn’t want to be lead astray by some of the guys in my life who had shown interest at that time.

I decided to do a week of prayer and fasting for God to please lead me to my future husband and to give me a discerning spirit throughout the whole process.

Being 26 years old, from the age of 16 up until I was 23, I had had 3 different boyfriends at different stages throughout that time. The reason for breaking up with each one however, had always been the same.

None of them could understand or accept my views on having no sex until marriage (even though they said they were fine with it at first). I had made this decision when I was 13 at my old church, KICC, after reading Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo’s book, “Let’s Talk About Sex” and it’s a decision that God has allowed me to keep, by His Grace.

So this time, I really needed God to bring the man that He had already destined for me to be with and not someone who I wanted to chose with my own reasoning.

The first day of my fast for the week was in August which was the first day that Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo had given out his mobile number for people to call him, just before IGOC 2010. My mother encouraged me to call him and so I did. I told Pastor Matthew my prayer points regarding my future husband and we both prayed for a discerning spirit so that I would know the right one whom God has chosen for me.

Strangely, throughout that week, I randomly received messages and calls from my ex boyfriends, telling me that they still wanted to be with me etc – but I was able to dismiss their advances without being drawn back in. Furthermore, for each of these ex boyfriends, God revealed things to me about them that were warning signs, confirming that He did not want me to be with them.

On the last day of my week of fasting I received a message from an old friend from University called Dayo. We had studied at Queen Mary’s together in 2006, until he left for a different university (UCL) where he completed his masters program. We occasionally kept in touch from time to time. But at this point, we hadn’t spoken for a while and I didn’t know his intentions and was not prepared to ‘waste’ time with another guy who was not ready to deal with my views on abstinence, so I ignored his message without blinking an eyelid.

Surprisingly, later that day, my mother randomly asked after him, saying that she hadn’t heard me mention him for a while. I was shocked and told her that he had actually sent me a message that morning. She urged me to reply to his message, which I did reluctantly.

He Was The Answer to My Prayers
We eventually started speaking, and when I asked why he had decided to contact me after so long, I learned that for some reason, after such a long time, he just felt an inexplicable urge to send me a message on the morning that had turned out to be my last day of prayer and fasting.

And thus began the start of something good. Until the night after our second date, when we were speaking on the phone and I asked him which church he attended. It was at this point that he went silent on the phone. He then said he had something to tell me, something that he had wanted to tell me face to face. I urged him to go on and that’s when he finally told me that he was a Muslim!

I honestly felt like I’d been slapped in the face by a mighty wave of shock and disbelief. Nevertheless, I simply informed him that we would just have to be friends and that as a believer in Christ, there would be no way that our relationship could go further towards the road of marriage.

I informed my parents and they supported my decision, however, I could feel a strong urging in my spirit, telling me not to break up our relationship and to just stay where I was with him. Of this I was certain but what I was not certain of was of how God wanted this to go. Was I just supposed to be a friend to him who would introduce him to Christ and after a period of time we would go our separate ways?

Angelic Intervention
It was not until January 2011 that God began to speak to me so clearly. At the start of January, I awoke at 3am to a bright light shining in my bedroom. There, standing by my wardrobe was a very tall angel dressed in sparkling white robes.
I was so afraid and I could feel a strange sensation surging through my body that would cause me to shake, like my whole body was vibrating and shock waves were going through me but at the same time it was a beautiful feeling.

And then the angel spoke to me. It said that God has seen that I’ve been worried about Dayo being a Muslim, but that I shouldn’t worry about it because in the Lord’s own time, He will bring Dayo to Christ and that the Lord has called for us to be together as husband and wife.

I was shocked, afraid, amazed and glad all at the same time. I couldn’t even speak and the Holy Spirit instructed me to write everything down that the angel had told me. I also wrote down the date and time that it happened and told my family about the visitation.

I was so happy. I had no clue when Dayo’s salvation would take place or when our wedding would be but I trusted in the Lord and even bought my wedding dress and started making wedding plans.

After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me various things about what would happen in my life in the future, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I.

One of the key things that Jesus told me during one of my visits was that He himself would bind Dayo and I together with cords of love that cannot be broken and that we will be joined together when we are made of the same material.

At one point in 2011 the Lord told me that when Dayo gives his life, a sign will take place and that sign would be: one of the elders in my church will come up to me after I have taught my Sunday school class, and enquire of Dayo and the wedding plans.

I wrote and documented everything down, sharing the Lord’s messages with my family but not with Dayo, as the Lord had said that I was not to reveal these things to him. That He himself would reveal Himself to Dayo so that all of the Glory would go to God and not to any man.

Each time that God spoke to me, I would feel that same sensation of shock waves surging through my body and His voice would sound like thunder in my ears, so loud and mighty but also very distinctly clear and full of love.

Deeply Spiritual Revelations
It was fantastic being so close to God and knowing that He truly does care about the individual lives of His people. However, it was also a very hard period in my life, when my faith was tested time and time again and when I was receiving words of doubt from certain people around me and even threats of being disowned because of my relationship with Dayo, I would cry and ask God ‘why is this happening to me? Why couldn’t I just be with a good man from church, where I would have none of these complications’.

But God is so faithful. And He always has a plan. Just before my 25th birthday last year, an angel came to my bedside, bringing a loaf of bread for me to eat. The Holy spirit explained to me that the bread is the Word of the Lord and that dwelling on the Word will bring strength to my spirit.The word of the Lord is the bread that sustains us and that is exactly what kept me going through what was set to be like the lowest point during the two year period of waiting on the Lord for Dayo’s salvation. It was a couple of days after the angel had brought me the bread, that my father had informed me that Dayo had asked for my hand in marriage – and that he had objected to it.

It was at this point that I cried out to the Lord and asked Him for help. I couldn’t stop crying. Then I remembered that the word of the Lord is my strength. Like Hezekiah who laid out his letter before the Lord, I wrote a letter to God, reminding him of His promises regarding Dayo’s salvation and our marriage – and I took the letter to the Lord in prayer and placed it in my Bible by Psalm 27, which states that we should wait patiently on the Lord.

Since the Lord had already told me about Dayo’s salvation, I needed to know if He wanted us to be married first and then Dayo would be saved -or if he was to be saved first, before we were to be married. So I asked the Lord to please make it clear. I did not tell anyone about what I had asked of the Lord that night, yet the next morning, my mother came to me saying that she had had a dream last night, where the Lord was wiping away my tears and comforting me, telling me that He knows that I want Dayo and I to be married now but that I must wait for his salvation first . I was so amazed when she told me and I then revealed to her that I had asked God for a sign regarding this the night before.

I knew that for certain, when God decrees a thing, it will surely come to pass. Exactly 3 months after this, on a Friday, Dayo informed me that he had finally finished reading a book called The Shack, that I had given to him almost 18 months previous to this time, which helped him to understand the God Head and the dynamics of God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.

Dayo’s Salvation
That very same night, my mother had a dream that the time for Dayo’s salvation was now. At 3 am, she woke up everyone in my family and told us to pray for Dayo, for his salvation was almost at hand.

I prayed, believing in God’s promises but also having a slight sense of doubt and despair, for I knew that the past two years had been so difficult. Furthermore, at this point in time, Dayo and I had taken a break, as I wanted him to seek Christ and the truth for himself, and to not accept Christianity just because of me or to just accept Islam because he had grown up in a Muslim home.

I explained that the truth is found in having a true personal experience and relationship with God for yourself and then you will truly know which is the right way to follow God.

God told me that He would put spiritual wings behind Dayo’s ears so that when He calls him to salvation, he would hear and know that Jesus truly is the Lord and to God be the glory, the very next night, after my mother’s dream, Dayo gave his life to Christ and he later explained that he had had a dream that revealed the truth of Christ to him.

The next day was a Sunday…and it was the week that I was scheduled to teach my Sunday school class. And in accordance with the Lord’s perfect promises, after the service, as I was walking out of Sunday school, the very same elder that God had told me about over a year ago, approached me as I was leaving and asked me about Dayo and the wedding, just as God said it would happen.

Straight after I had spoken to this elder, my Pastor, Pastor Ashaye called me aside, saying that he wanted a meeting the next week to discuss the progress regarding Dayo’s salvation. At this point I hadn’t told him about Dayo’s salvation yet and I truly knew that God was moving.

I can only give God the glory because it’s all by His doing. His plans for us will never fail and His pure love for us goes beyond anything that we could imagine.

I am truly grateful to God for blessing me with a man who, despite not being a Christian before, still respected my love for Christ and my views regarding no sex before marriage – a view that even my ex Christian boyfriends could never accept.

God has blessed me with the man of my dreams and brought me my true prince. In fact, at a time when I questioned God about His decision to bring me a Muslim man instead of a Christian, and I was beginning to feel envious of typical young ladies who found their husbands in Church, God’s exact words to me were: You have your prince in Dayo.

I truly bless the Lord for His faithfulness and I thank God for the encouragement and support of my close friends, my siblings, my father and especially my mother, because God revealed things concerning Dayo’s salvation to her and her support throughout it all has been an incredible blessing.

The Glory of My Success
My prayer is that each and everyone of us will never leave the path that God has laid out for us, for when we are in right standing with the Lord, He will surely speak to us and direct us in our lives.

And for all the women and young ladies who are trusting in God for their future spouse, my prayer is that we will always put it into the Lord’s hands. He will surely tell you if He does not agree with you being with a certain individual but the choice will always be ours to either follow His perfect will for our lives or not.

Furthermore, the Lord has blessed me with the ability this year, to complete and publish my first book “Papa’s LITTLE Girls”, which shows the love that God has for His daughters, no matter what they go through in their relationships with men.

This relationship between God and His daughters and their focus on the opposite sex has now become one of the key aspects of my research for my PhD course and I thank God for filling me with the passion to be a mentor to young ladies and to encourage them to love Christ first, before any man.

I give the one and only true Lord, Jesus Christ, the highest praise, as He continues to direct and guide Dayo and I in our Christian faith together as we prepare for our wedding.


  1. Godslove22

    August 19, 2013 at 11:08 am

    Great story…….God bless them

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 19, 2013 at 11:46 pm

      Na wa for this story o. You lot are quite hypocritical. So this young lady believes that only christians can find “salvation” and all the messages here are full of thank jesuses and god bless thems? If she was a muslim, would the response be the same? Do you people not stop to think? Has religion completely befuddled you that you cannot see that this young woman is obviously deluded and she has been hallucinating for over 3 years.

      A. In several instances she has mixed up co-incidence with causation e.g.
      1) “On the last day of my week of fasting I received a message from an old friend from University called Dayo.”
      She remembers the exact day? An event that happened over 3 years ago? With all the fasting she has done in between the years?
      2) “That very same night, my mother had a dream that the time for Dayo’s salvation was now. At 3 am, she woke up everyone in my family and told us to pray for Dayo, for his salvation was almost at hand.”
      Seems the whole family was very involved in this matter o.
      3) “my Pastor, Pastor Ashaye called me aside, saying that he wanted a meeting the next week to discuss the progress regarding Dayo’s salvation. At this point I hadn’t told him about Dayo’s salvation yet and I truly knew that God was moving.”
      Coodibee (Could it be) that her mum had already informed Pastor Ashaye, seeing how heavily invested in this marriage the family was?

      B. Her delusions
      1) “I was so happy. I had no clue when Dayo’s salvation would take place or when our wedding would be but I trusted in the Lord and even bought my wedding dress and started making wedding plans.”
      My goodness, this was 2 years before the actual wedding and any proposal. If this was any other person, you guys would have been snickering, throw in god and jesus and all of a sudden, it’s a perfectly normal thing to do.
      2) “I am truly grateful to God for blessing me with a man who, despite not being a Christian before, still respected my love for Christ and my views regarding no sex before marriage – a view that even my ex Christian boyfriends could never accept.”
      Errr, isn’t that the general belief (i.e. no pre-marital sex) of all monotheistic religions i.e. christianity, islam, judaism and even many more of the hundreds of religions we have out there?
      Also, what exactly does she love about dayo apart from the fact that he did not bug her for sex? As someone commented, he seemed “patient” so she wanted him to be a christian so that he would be “perfect” to her. Did you talk about other stuff? Finances, careers, spending habits, kids. Important stuff that adults in relationships should talk about? Oooops, my bad, jesus would sort all that out since you are now both christians.
      3) “Just before my 25th birthday last year, an angel came to my bedside, bringing a loaf of bread for me to eat. ”
      This one don pass laughing matter.
      4) “After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me various things about what would happen in my life in the future, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I.”
      If god was really telling her about his plans, why did they break up?

      C. The deception
      1) “I wrote and documented everything down, sharing the Lord’s messages with my family but not with Dayo, as the Lord had said that I was not to reveal these things to him.”
      Oh? The lord just asked you not to bother telling this man you intend to spend your life with about the plans, heavy midnight prayers, visitations, “visions” and fasting you and your family embarked on for his conversion? How convenient.

      I am even tired. I feel bad for Dayo. I hope the young man knows what he is getting himself into. To be honest, I think she needs to see a psychologist.

      And dear BN Team, can you please, please, please stop selling these stories of desperate women? There are many women that did not have to fast and pray to meet their spouses. A bit of common sense and maturity was all it took. I am sure you have them in your team.
      Ok, there is Nse Ikpe Etim sha.

    • zsa zsa

      August 20, 2013 at 3:22 am

      Agnostic1, if no be say my husband no dey follow this website i for say na im write dis ur comment lol. I get ur points, i am christian and i do have a problem with the writer implying that “Dayo” was not saved because he was muslim. However it is her choice and dude willingly(?) converted (never mind the family intervention in the matter).
      Na wa o! How did i miss the part about buying the wedding dress and making plans? This reeks of desperation and manipulation….I don’t know mehn…i wish both of them all the best.

    • eli

      August 20, 2013 at 6:21 am

      hahahaa….i’ve never commented on bella naija.. but i had to today cos this is the best comment i’ve seen in a long time!!!!

    • Gorgeous

      August 20, 2013 at 7:00 am

      LMAO! i am a strong christian but i find this story a bit pathetic, desperate and delusional. I desperately thinks she needs help and Dayo needs to sseriously have a re-think. People should be sound physically, mentally and emotionally before entering marriage. LOL.

    • spacyzuma

      August 20, 2013 at 12:07 pm

      TheAgnostic1, I want to heartily shake your hand for your analysis. Thank you!!

    • Andie

      August 20, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      Hahahaha this was hilarious.

    • slice

      August 20, 2013 at 1:55 pm

      But we live in a free least that’s the ideal. If u r free to post on here that u don’t believe all the thgs. She sd and that she might be delusional, she is also free to send in an article about all these things she wrote. I’d say the thgs are a little too much for me to believe myself, but I can’t completely say her experience couldn’t have happened. Afterall that’s the whole point of a miracle….is forit to be well…a miracle…and beyond human comprehension. As for her belief that Dayo needed to be saved, the honest truth is that’s the chrisitian belief and don’t let anyone say difft. Jessus sd I am the way the truth and the life and no man comes to the father except thru me. The only thing there’s no forceful conversion. But the christian belief according to the bible is that we shd preach salvation and u sholdnt marry someone of a difft faith in order to avoid problems. Now if they covert, no problem.. she liked the guy and wanted him to convert so she’d be free based on her faith to marry him. She’s nt the first xtian lady to hope to convert a muslim that th

    • slice

      August 20, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      And here goes this fine christian sister converting to Islam to be with this fine muslim brother. The guy fine sha. nice eye candy.

    • funke

      August 20, 2013 at 3:10 pm

      Dear Agnostic 1, why are you so judgemental? What’s with you taking (only God knows how many hours) time and effort to be analysing what is none of your business? Why must you make such emphatic statements based on what you just read? Tell me what have you gained out of all this sentimental based and hurtful comments? You made it look as if she was shoving her opinion down your throat, wasn’t she simply telling her story? Please stop making issues out nothing rather tell us your own story and let’s learn rather than spend your valuable time and energy making someone’s issues yours.

      Thank you

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 3:17 pm

      Lol. Slice, you are very eager about this matter. O to ge (e don do). If you noticed, the religious angle was the least of my issues. The display names says “agnostic”. I couldn’t care less about religion. The story in its entirety has a lot of flaws which I painstakingly listed out. Just because she put in lots of jesus and god does not mean you should not read the story with rational eyes. Why can’t she have these miraculous visions for much bigger issues? People surviving cancer, becoming some sort of world leader, I don’t know, something much more important than supposedly sitting in the laps of “god” and all she talks to him is about how she can convert this man so that she can marry him.
      How convenient that he happened to be yoruba as well. Maybe she would have asked god to change his tribe too.

    • shenugs

      August 20, 2013 at 3:27 pm

      Thank you very much for this TheAgnostic1. I always say this. People become very sentimental once someone involves God and Jesus in something. Its like when people see wedding pictures and all they have to say is nice things even when there’s clearly stuff to be criticized. If it were another event, people will bring out their daggers. Smh. Lets be truthful here. The only thing amazing about this piece is the height of delusion that this Lola babe is under. This is a whole load of crap in my opinion. Why portray muslims as people who are ‘unmarriable’ and say all these things about seeing God and what not? Please its just insane biko. If her husband loves himself he should better take her to see a shrink. I cant imagine that he would be happy with this stunt that she has pulled. Its embarrassing.

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 3:50 pm

      Dear Funke,
      It took me about 20 mins. It was midnight, I could not sleep and this story completely befuddled me. She made the story, my (and your) business when she decided to post it on a public forum. She surely must have anticipated comments.
      Yes, she shoved her opinions down my throat and the throats of many others of varying religions and non-religions. Why in the world would she say (with the utmost confidence and self-belief) that her husband/fiancée wasn’t “saved” because he was a muslim.
      Sentimental comments, really? Does rationality have to slap you in the face before you can see it? What is sentimental in anything I wrote? I quoted her directly and provided scenarios of how she could be possibly wrong.
      And of course I am being judgmental, I hide under no religious illusions or pretext and I judge as much as I want to based on what I consider rational and informed perceptions. I event want to be an actual judge (seriously, no jokes). I don’t need to gain anything. It’s a comment box not an exam. Tell me what you have gained from making your own comment. If I wanted to tell you my story, I would have. Why are you asking me to? Do you see me as a role model? ^_^ 😀

    • sade jokotade

      August 20, 2013 at 4:46 pm

      Honestly, you have said it all. I am a strong believer in God and i believe in miracles, but this story NA WA because i truly believe that not all muslims and even pagans, are evil. its all a matter of perspective. I like your reasoning and i won’t mind interacting with you on any of the social media sites.

    • slice

      August 20, 2013 at 5:00 pm

      ah ah sister/brother. you wrote your comment about it. I didn’t say don’t write your own. I just said you can write yours and she can write hers and then I went on to support her freedom to believe what she wants. I believe in a free world. You’re free to not believe in God or anything and she’s free to believe. What I don’t care for is anybody embarassing or demeaning the other side for what they believe (or saying BN should not post the person’s comment or article…with certain extreme exceptions. That’s why i stood up for her. And I’ll stand up any day for your right to stand on the mountain top and say you don’t believe.

      I also made a point to say what she believes about the guy needing salvation is not out of this world. Christians try to convert. Muslims do the same.

      BTW does your name start with A and have a “K” in it. your oto ge message sounds like something someone else wrote here once upon a time 🙂

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 20, 2013 at 5:34 pm

      @TheAgnostic1, Slice’s responses are basically my responses to you. If your scathing rejoinder has been freely accepted here, then this young lady’s testimony should also be freely displayed (and do you even know what the word “testimony” means? To testify – to witness. She witnessed and therefore she testified).

      So because you don’t believe it, we should ignore her experience? Your logic is flawed. Anyone is free to counter the points made with evidence so if you don’t think it did, don’t just allege – prove it. And calling her desperate because she bought a wedding dress in faith is very low. Have you ever met women who yearn for kids and go out to buy children’s clothes out of their need to hope in something? Would you mock them? Is this scenario different because 21st century women are now meant to be too cool to confess we’re hoping to get married someday?? I was once a graduate straight out of Uni with no work experience, no job in sight and yet I went ahead to buy work clothes in faith. You’d probably have called me pro-active but once a wedding’s involved, it’s desperation. And once a christian is involved, well that’s a whole other level of desperation….

      Didn’t have time yesterday so I took out time today and read everything she wrote, even if I wasn’t fighting on her side of the fence all this really is, is just a story of a young lady who believed … as difficult as that may be for your extremely evolved mind to grasp. And heck-to- the-yeah, darling, I’m a CHRISTian. Which goes deeper than a religion, just so you know the distinction; this right here is The Life. (stop trying to box everything you don’t understand into one category called ‘religion’, it is way bigger than you can even clutch at).

      Everything else you’ve laughed at, you’ve mocked, your ‘whys’… like I said, feel free to investigate. And if you make findings we should look into, also feel free to send your report to BN who have clearly shown they’re not shy about posting people’s testimonies…

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 9:21 pm

      @MzSociallyAwkward oh hush please. Who died and made you BN moderator? Ki la gbe, ki le ju? What was I saying and how did you come about your oh, so aggressive responses. Sobsaying the blunt truth and giving reasonable, well-thought out answers is scathing? If she didnt want her story analysed she wouldnt put it up here. why can she give her “testimony” and i cant criticise it? madam English teacher, is it not the same opinion which is free for everyone to have? If your little brother or so comes to give you his testimony about buying brand new car shey you would not ask him where he got the money? Or once he mentions Jesus and it happens to be his personal “testimony” then all is well and good? Abegi. Yes, it is desperation. Call it a way of life or whatever, many people with their various religions think exactly the same way. What do you think buddhists think Buddhism is? Or Muslims think Islam is? Please get over your high horse. Your beliefs are personal, but when we see delusion, it does not stop anyone from calling them out no matter how wrapped up in your way of life you think you are.

      @slice, I am female and my name doesn’t start with an A o.

    • Ms.E

      August 21, 2013 at 12:01 am

      Thank you. Common sense is not common.

    • coco

      August 21, 2013 at 3:54 am

      I know this is a blog and all, and we are all just stating our opinions. At the end of the day, its her story that she was brave enough to share. You don’t have to dwell deeply on it. Add your two cents, and keep it moving. But to doubt her faith is very shallow of you, and you should really thing before you type, because GOD is real. She will not be the only one to be visited by an angel or the holy spirit. It happens ALL the time to people deeply rooted in christ, and as well as pastors. Most your you people doubting her story and calling it delusions, are probably a result of a broken marriage, single, bitter and jealous woman, or someone who is willing to just settle for whatever Tom, Dick or Harry that buys them a happy meal. The point is she is happy with her husband. The way it happened may not be “normal” to you, but that doesn’t mean it didnt happen that way. God have mercy on all your souls.

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 21, 2013 at 9:30 am

      So, you can critique something that doesn’t sit well with you but I can’t do the same to your comment? CHILD, HUSH!!! (& I’m not exactly sure how one is meant to get “over” one’s high horse… But I’ll take your word for it. Clearly you’ve been in a similar position many times & so can readily give me tips).

      And this ain’t aggression, baybee. This is just me telling you like you told us – plainly and with marked irritation.

    • seki

      August 22, 2013 at 6:29 pm

      Hmmm!!!!! i forsee dayo resenting her in the future. I hope in the next 5years she can share the status of their relationship. I can never understand why women cant just look for a man they want rather than always trying to change another persons man. If he wasnt a christian and you wanted a christian why didnt God just give you a christian husband. Whatever happened to compromise. Chai! See wahala.

    • Mei

      August 23, 2013 at 8:50 am

      I thought I was the only one who thought this story was FAKE.this doesn’t even happen in movies. @theagonist you r so intelligent .girls be seeing demons at night and be calling Em angels. Obviously Lola is not a true Christian because 1john 4:12 says :No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.she doesn’t even know the bible n she is converting someone and contradicting her holy book. I seriously pity Dayo I hope and pray that Allah guides yu back to the straight path

    • Adim

      August 24, 2013 at 4:00 pm

      Turning water into wine seems impossible but I believe it happened because I have faith in God. I also believe that this lady’s story might be true because nothing is impossible for God to do. It’s her testimony of her faith in God. I don’t think she has condemned anyone for not being Christian and I do not think it is wise to be mean to her based on her experience.

    • Coke

      August 26, 2013 at 2:08 pm

      Your claim that you do not give a shit about religion is obviously rubbish. But I don’t care about that. I also don’t care that you might have hurt her feelings, she posted the story on here and she must have expected at least one of these kinds of replies, which is fine.
      First, she is a Christian, in case you do not know or you chose to ignore this fact based on bias or whatever, Christians believe that their religion is the one true religion. And before you go on about how Muslims are Buddhists believe that their religion is also the same religion, you really must realize that this lady is a CHRISTIAN. She does not care that other religions believe that religion is the one true way. That is why it is a religion, a following.
      Secondly, she never said that only Christians can find salvation. She did believe that Dayo wasn’t saved because he was a Christian and in her world that is as accurate as it gets. Christians believe that Jesus died and cleansed every human of their sins. However, to get this grace, one most believe that Jesus is the way, the truth and life and accept him and blah, blah. So when you accept him, you are saved. So I do not understand your anger at the fact that she said Dayo wasn’t saved because he was a muslim. So what? Don’t muslims call non-muslims infidels? Do we really have to argue about this? However, I do think she is an idiot for not finding out that he was a Muslim earlier.
      If she was a muslim and she converted him to Christianity, the response would have been the same you moron. Are you an idiot. Why would the response be any different? Wouldn’t the only difference be “Praise Allah” and all that? That was a dumb comment please. I realize that it was midnight, but please accompany your thoughts with reason.
      Oh yeah, on to your ABC trio.
      1) She is clearly very specific and can remember the dates when other important things had happened to her. This is not a cause for alarm or delusion. I can still remember myself at 4, walking around naked with my cos I wanted to poo and couldn’t find my potty. It’s a fuzzy memory, but it’s still there. And don’t ask me if I can remember the date. I was 4.
      2) lol, this one, I don’t understand. So what if it involved the whole family?
      3) This one makes sense. Yes, Christians can be morons sometimes. It’s ok.
      1) Lol, did anyone say this is normal? She is a Christian, they kind of throw normalcy out the window. It’s a way of life for them. How is this any different from a member of any other religion getting confirmation of something from their religious overlord? Please, this is not delusion, this is Christianity. Again, logic please.
      2) This one too I do not understand? You want her to write a novel for you? She got a man that respected her views about Christ and sex. Do you think they did not discuss the other things that are equally as important JUST BECAUSE SHE DIDN’T POST IT? My good woman, you really must eradicate your myopic view on this story.
      3) lmao okay fine, I concede defeat here. While it is not logical that she met an angel, it is possible that she did. You cannot say it is IMPOSSIBLE, because you cannot prove the impossibility. Don’t bother arguing with me about this. I can’t defend this young lady here sha.
      4) Lol, again with the myopic thinking. She didn’t say God told her everything. God rarely ever tells anyone everything. You are being biased here, not logical.
      1) lol, again we must counter bias with logic. If you were a man, would you want to know all this? Men claim they do, but in reality do not. What would telling him achieve? It would be pointless to do so. Would it not? Again, answer with reason.
      Look, this story doesn’t bother me at all. Why should it? The young lady is happy and the young man is happy (presumably). So what exactly is the problem? Religious arguments do tend to be a sore spot for most Nigerians. And it thoroughly annoys me that all the Christians that have replied you have pleaded with your emotional sense all the while ignoring your intellectual capacity. While you are scathing in your reply, it’s ok. Wouldn’t be any fun if all the comments were Hail Marys and Bless God, now would it? However, I future, you must endeavor to be totally intellectual in your arguments. While the issue of her going to heaven is completely illogical, because logic is a man-made term and things in the infinite and vast universe defy the logic of man, it is not impossible. You must give her the benefit of the doubt, because that is what intellectuals do. You have discredited your argument by not being totally objective and by this, you have lost the plot.

    • somee

      August 28, 2013 at 1:27 am

      wat bothers me the most is that she sat with God for 2years and all she cud discuss with Him was how to convert dayo so she cud marry him…… REALLY??? with all the problems challenging the world and nigeria in particular -__-

    • patsytruthsy

      October 7, 2013 at 10:45 am

      It is really sad to see that there are many still ignorant to the Power of God and His very present Holy Spirit. Your reasons for attacking this lady are baseless and also embarrassing. I pray you discover the truth of the Living God before its too late!
      By the way Lola Akindele, I hear from God too. So I know you are sharing the truth in this letter. God will bless you and Dayo who has been saved by love!

    • ...

      August 20, 2013 at 10:54 am

      Faith really goes a long way when we believe in what we do. I believe her faith was strong, but I do not like the fact she had to belittle Muslims.
      Let me give a brief history, my bf’s mom was somewhat like Lola. She saved my bf’s father who was a muslim. 20 – 25 years after the wedding, my bf’s father converted back to his original religion (Islam). The point of my story is that no matter what we do at a particular moment, we will always go back to where we started from. Lola may have saved Dayo, but years after he may or may not convert back to Islam.
      We should always be objective and humble in our religions beliefs and ideals; we should not marginalize a group of people because we feel or believe they are not saved or destined for heaven. Didn’t your bible say Jesus died for everyone? So, people be objective.
      Congratulations Lola!

    • Amina

      August 20, 2013 at 1:54 pm

      Cool!!! And BN posted this without considering the muslim readers, this is an offensive post, i know you people are trying to get hits but I am disappointed, shit like this should be on LIB. But since we are all being religious bigots today I will be praying and fasting for Dayo to convert back to a muslim for he is Lost. Dear Dayo may Allah lead you back to the right path and save you from this darkness you’ve been plunged into, see how that feels?

    • adbadmus

      August 20, 2013 at 7:46 pm

      Amina, I love your comment

    • Jull

      August 20, 2013 at 9:38 pm

      Ameen! Well said!

    • tade

      August 20, 2013 at 10:27 pm

      i’m a christain and I say thank you for this comment.

    • Ade

      August 21, 2013 at 6:49 pm

      Beautiful, i’m a Christian, and i say thats a beautiful comment, what makes our religion any better than anyone else’s? Why are Christians always trying to collect first prize as it being the greatest religion ever? why are we so judgemental?? Smh. Every Moslem is going to hell, only Christ can save…. Hate hearing things like this

    • Ay

      August 22, 2013 at 3:42 pm

      Jazakumullah Khairan Amina for this.This is very insulting.. i believe that in whatever you do, you should always respect people and their opinions or beliefs. Just disappointed that i found this on BN site

    • James O

      August 26, 2013 at 11:58 am

      I see what you did there…lol

    • theramblingpen

      August 26, 2013 at 5:25 pm

      I dont think the aim was to take jabs at any religion. This is one woman’s experience. One woman’s story.There is no such things as being sensitive here abeg.

    • Muslim lady

      September 18, 2013 at 12:18 pm

      Looool true talk! Ameen 🙂

    • Rox

      October 17, 2014 at 11:02 am

      You have joined the band wagon of idiots. Enjoy the ride. All y’all claiming to fight for God, in the end, he’s and will be the only JUDGE. Whether she saw an Angel or was caught up in the clouds or not is no one’s business. She’s said her experience and that’s not gonna change. On the last day we shall all give account so leave all this matter and face your lives. BN shall not stand as a witness on that day. People getting bitter for no cause. Hisss…
      What’s your own story by the way?

    • vixen w

      October 23, 2014 at 5:29 pm

      i’m sorry you find this post offensive but BN would still hav posted this story if it was told by a Muslim subject. if i happened on a post where a muslim bride wanted her christian bf to be “saved”, i’d probably think “o, well… every mallam to his kettle.”
      Take your emotions/sentiments off your sleeves. Everyone’s entitled to their personal beliefs and opinions and if i recall clearly, muslims constantly refer to Christians as “infidels”, we hear this, laugh and move on.
      You know what/who you really are, another person’s opinion of your salvation does not make or break it.

    • a muslim

      August 20, 2013 at 8:57 pm

      Well, i heard that when you are a virgin, u are closer to God and He answers your prayers faster. My only concern is for Dayo. I happen to know him as a good muslim, from a very good muslim home and he has got very good morals too. i am in shock to learn that he is now a christian. I really hope and pray that Allah will take control of his life. I am not too happy about the excessive exposure this story has brought both of them. Dayo’s family wont be too happy to read this. May Allah forgive all our sins, direct us to the right path, save us from the punishment of the grave and grant us Al Jannah, Amin.

    • Meandyou

      August 22, 2013 at 11:17 am

      Being a Virgin does not give you any additional marks with God ooo….I am a late 20’s virgin and believe me , God is taking his sweet time to answer me o…it all boils down to HIS plans for our lives and a lot more…

    • Name

      October 16, 2014 at 8:56 pm

      It is very true… It is called a virgin prayer… I am also a virgin and I truly have similar experiences … People think I am delusional until whatever i prayed or saw comes to pass.. It is truly a deep experience with God, Christ and the Holy spirit … It is quite difficult to explain but please believe me, It is very real!!! I was smiling while reading through her story because I truly get it ..I understand .. I have always experienced this connection … It is a spiritual connection that is so deep, peaceful, calming and true! And 3’O clock is known as jesus time as he died on the cross of calvary at 3’O clock..many people have testimonies relating to praying at this time …Don’t really blame people who do not understand .. We have to understand that things are way deeper than the surface, you can’t reach that deep if you are filled with doubts and do not have a true spiritual sense of self .. I am blessed by this post as it confirms a lot of things to me …smiles 🙂

    • Rox

      October 17, 2014 at 11:10 am

      Pray for your own soul fool. What’s your business? Can you create 1 strand of hair? Did God put any one’s life in your hands? Just can’t understand why you people are so hypocritical. He’s living his life and possibly enjoying it so go live yours. I was born into a muslim family but that doesn’t mean the religion runs in the blood. I can choose to be whatever I wanna be. God is my creator and judge! Not my parents or you . So go sit your ass down and face your own issues.

    • someone

      August 20, 2013 at 9:02 pm

      Things we do for love. Only if Lola had taken time to understand and convert to Islam too. Dayo clearly loves her because this is definitely a big sacrifice. I wish them a blessed and happy home.

    • seki

      August 22, 2013 at 6:23 pm

      Hmmm!!!!! i forsee dayo resenting her in the future. I hope in the next 5years she can share the status of their relationship. I can never understand why women cant just look for a man they want rather than always trying to change another persons man. If he wasnt a christian and you wanted a christian why didnt God just give you a christian husband. Chai! See wahala.

    • seki

      August 22, 2013 at 6:24 pm

      Great Story? Really? i forsee dayo resenting her in the future. I hope in the next 5years she can share the status of their relationship. I can never understand why women cant just look for a man they want rather than always trying to change another persons man. If he wasnt a christian and you wanted a christian why didnt God just give you a christian husband. Whatever happened to compromise. Chai! See wahala.

    • seki

      August 22, 2013 at 6:28 pm

      Hmmm!!!!! i forsee dayo resenting her in the future. I hope in the next 5years she can share the status of their relationship. I can never understand why women cant just look for a man they want rather than always trying to change another persons man. If he wasnt a christian and you wanted a christian why didnt God just give you a christian husband. Whatever happened to compromise. Chai! See wahala.

    • Power Of A Praying Woman

      February 25, 2015 at 12:21 pm

      Power Of A Praying Woman
      I tap into the anointing … as I pray for the man God has placed in my heart to claim and pray for as my husband. This week in my weakness and distress crying out to the Lord, He gave me Psal 27 v 14 “Trust in the Lord. Have faith. do not despair. Trust in the Lord”. After I read a paragraph where u mentioned that you wrote a letter to God and opened the book of psalm 27, I laughed and thanked the Lord that He is hearing my prayers. This morning I asked for a sign that He is hearing me as I pray for this man, my husband.
      God bless you. As you pray remember me and plead my case to your God.
      Lola thank you for your testimony and Gods blessings upon your marriage with Dayo.

      Soon I will be posting my testimony. This year im getting married.

      South Africa, JHB

  2. hz

    August 19, 2013 at 11:21 am

    beautiful. God is awesome!!!

    • jolaoluwa

      August 23, 2013 at 7:14 pm

      Best comment ever! na wa oo see epistle, plenty comments sure rolled in here for this post. angelic things hehe.. God is good. People can yarn, rant and lament even ferment self, weytin consign una, U people should leave this babe alone and live your lives. Congrats lola and your hubby (dayo). enjoy your life jo! byeeeeeeeeee

  3. Annie

    August 19, 2013 at 11:22 am

    Hmmm, had goose bumps reading this…..i need a visitation and revelations too 🙂

  4. PT

    August 19, 2013 at 11:24 am


  5. Gabby

    August 19, 2013 at 11:33 am

    Very inspiring story, God is truy great, as they say God’s time is always the best.

  6. iffy

    August 19, 2013 at 11:34 am

    what an inspiring story

  7. bussie

    August 19, 2013 at 11:37 am

    This is all so surreal but very encouraging! God cares about the minutest details of our lives! wow! I wish you both a fruitful and blessed marriage!

  8. Bedazzled

    August 19, 2013 at 11:38 am

    Thank you JESUS!!!

  9. mojola

    August 19, 2013 at 11:41 am

    beautiful!!! for every single sister waiting for the right man, your strength is renewed in waiting.

  10. ollie

    August 19, 2013 at 11:41 am

    Hmm! It’s inspiring. I had the revelation when I met my husband, I wish I had disobeyed the voice that said ‘This is your man’. Marriage has been hell. I will share my story one day.

    • iba

      August 19, 2013 at 11:51 am

      AWWWWWWWWWwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww bless. its well, dont you worry. Marriage is hardwork, keep praying and loving him regardless

    • amara

      August 19, 2013 at 11:52 am

      wow. please share

    • Person

      August 19, 2013 at 1:35 pm

      Eeyah. My sister, e ku afarada o!

    • Z

      August 20, 2013 at 2:07 pm

      Lol! Ollie why do you wish you had disobeyed the voice? Could you share the story soon, it sounds rather interesting. And sorry for the stress you are facing.

  11. Aibee

    August 19, 2013 at 11:43 am

    I’m going to bookmark this page and read it over and over again every time I begin to doubt a major decision I took last weekend.

  12. Ayo

    August 19, 2013 at 11:46 am


  13. Sam

    August 19, 2013 at 11:49 am

    see dem hypocrites if it was a muslim lady dat wrote dis article u people will be commenting rubbish now she is a xtian u r saying Thank you Jesus….awon alabosi jatijati

    • Yinkz

      August 19, 2013 at 2:27 pm

      As in, u wrote out my thoughts.

    • amethyst

      August 19, 2013 at 9:26 pm

      LOL. Ma da won loun. Rubbish and nonsense. Such hypocritical trash.

    • D-Shokolata

      August 19, 2013 at 11:09 pm

      You are so right

    • ajo

      August 20, 2013 at 4:30 pm

      true say my brother I u get sense

    • Sho!

      August 22, 2013 at 11:20 am

    • bukola

      August 28, 2013 at 2:17 pm

      why the insult? mannerless ewu

  14. Mayowa

    August 19, 2013 at 11:50 am

    Hi BN, please i need to get in touch with Lola Akindele personally! Please help with her twitter handle (if there’s any). AHmayZZZZZing story

  15. Abednego

    August 19, 2013 at 11:53 am

    This girl is obviously deluded! God did not carry anyone to heaven on d issue of world war 1 and 2 or even osama issue, na on top one Dayo boy matter he carry Lola go heaven. I dey laugh. Let’s even assume dat its true dat she was carried to heaven to meet god, na only issue of man she dey follow God everytime. She no get any other pressing problem to beg God to resolve. Sheneva talk d true means she employed. I feel sorry for the Dayo boy sha, no man could have withstood dis kind of spritual warfare. I wish them well sha and hope God cures her of dis delusion.

    • Lade

      August 19, 2013 at 12:33 pm

      ROTFLAMO. Let the gba Jesu’s come anf go gangster on your comment. In a religious country like 9ja. I am waiting patiently for the attacks. LMAO

    • jcsgrl

      August 19, 2013 at 12:49 pm

      Abednego while I’m seriously laughing my butt off at your comment but I understand where you’re coming from. The gist of the story and what I’ve found out about walking with God is if you earnestly seek him for answers concerning anything even the minutest thing like your hair growing God will reveal answers to you in ways you cannot even imagine. For her seeking God for her man was very important to her and as such important to God. God knows why he chose to reveal these mysteries to her in such a special way. I bet you if anyone truly seeks God for answers to our global economic meltdown, sicknesses like AIDS answers will come. Unfortunately, man is very selfish including me and we only seek God earnestly for things that will benefit us. Sometimes I wonder why we don’t have prophets like Daniel, Ezekiel, Elisha and the likes that would give godly counsel to kings and presidents and bring solutions to global problems. But its because no one is seeking God for such. We are more concerned with our daily bread and the next promotion. God will help us shaa

    • Raised Eyebrow

      August 20, 2013 at 11:19 am

      Are you for real? AIDS and Wars are still prevalent in this world, because someone hasn’t earnestly prayed to God to rid us of these evils? Hmmm….
      Are you Lola Akindele in disguise?

    • jcsgrl

      August 20, 2013 at 1:51 pm

      @ Raised eyebrow…first I’m not Lola in disguise Thank you very much…lol But I do believe that God can give solutions and even the cure to AIDS when people seek him earnestly for answer. It can come through research, medicines or lifestyle solutions. You think God doesn’t have the answer to our problems? There are countless egs in the bible where he gave people solutions to problems and it worked for them like Daniel, Joseph just to name a few.

    • iWonder

      August 21, 2013 at 8:36 pm

      So you honestly believe that people dying of AIDS are not praying to God fervently to be cured? Or a mother who’s child died of starvation did not pray to God for food for her child? Or the victims in a war ridden country do not pray every single minute for the war to end so they can finally live their lives without fear? A rather ignorant way of thinking, wouldn’t you agree?

    • The Real Madam the Madam

      August 19, 2013 at 12:58 pm

      I am in tears. LMAO

    • nino

      August 19, 2013 at 1:04 pm

      You know every one will be judged not just for their actions…but for their words…
      Even if you do not believe, why not keep this doubt t0 yourself…?
      so by refuting her story, do you feel better with your self…?
      You lack understanding and you have spent so much time feeding your mind a lot of crap hence the uninformed statements you have made…
      We are not flesh, We are spirits living in a body…..some people are more in touch with their spirit being than others…
      Don’t believe it? Fine…but do not dispute it…
      Abednego indeed? You have a name that reeks of faith and yet be talking like a pagan

    • Voice of reason.

      August 20, 2013 at 11:47 pm

      My dear Niño, you do know that the thoughts in your head/heart make you who you are and as such…you will be judged by them too, right? Ok.

    • Karen

      October 22, 2014 at 6:37 pm

      Hmmmmmm. I believe everythingin this story and I long to have such an experience.

    • Person

      August 19, 2013 at 1:37 pm

      ROFLMAO! I am in stitches!!!!

    • Omo1

      August 19, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      My dear Abednigo..I am seriously wondering on all the pints you mentioned too! Hmm..Lip sealed!

    • nonye

      August 19, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      Not a very nice comment and not a polite way of channeling your disbelief, there was no need to call her deluded or suggest that the husband needs empathy because she married him. You can disagree but you can do so politely

    • i no send

      August 19, 2013 at 4:51 pm

      @ abednego looool..but i wonder o….are we suppose to be unequally yoked in the first instance?

    • British/Naija

      August 19, 2013 at 6:32 pm

      LMAO…as in, I couldn’t stop laughing after reading your comment…that was so funny…

    • spacyzuma

      August 19, 2013 at 8:38 pm


    • Oaken

      August 20, 2013 at 10:06 am

      Abedngo got me in stitches here, even though I’m n the fence about this one.i serve a living God who has demonstrated to me time and time again that heaven and earth shall pass away but his word will never pass away void. I can see why people might otherwise think the story reeks of embellishments

    • Andie

      August 20, 2013 at 1:23 pm

      That’s what made me laugh. I’m a Christian and there are
      other important matters in the world but God took her to heaven at
      3am everyday because of a wedding. This society places too much
      importance on marriage

    • Nefe

      August 20, 2013 at 1:31 pm

      You’re a sad fellow. You lack wisdom. Seriously, how dare you.

    • Anon+1

      August 26, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      How dare he what? What makes him sad? Really? Please take the time to think about it before you respond.

    • Eka

      August 20, 2013 at 2:38 pm

      Lmaooooo this comment slayed me!

    • TooManyDesperateWomen

      August 21, 2013 at 7:35 pm

      Hahaha! Abeg no use laughter kill me o! I thought the same…no be Jesu help dis one catch her husband!

  16. iba

    August 19, 2013 at 11:53 am

    I dont usually complain about long epistles trust me i love them. i began this one but stopped midway. i found it abit laughable and ….
    oh well

    • Meandyou

      August 19, 2013 at 1:06 pm

      So laugh…Even Sarah laughed when she heard she would have a baby at an old age…I hope you do not laugh away God though…

  17. Jo!

    August 19, 2013 at 11:53 am

    Oh my God. LMBO, Did you really do this? on BN?

  18. Yemisi

    August 19, 2013 at 11:54 am

    Truly awesome story, God is an amazing father He never forsakes His own but makes everything beautiful! I am sooooo grateful to be the mother of this beautiful bride to be and God mother of the handsome ‘baba ibeji’ groom to be. Thank you Jesus for this refreshing awesome story, I pray that by God’s grace many will be blessed through this story, thank you for sharing this Bella Nija!

  19. truthdiva

    August 19, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    …..At this point i surrender my Search to u o lord!….so touching….Jesus cares

  20. obi

    August 19, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    May God bless your marriage and your walk with Him too!!! Truly God moves in mysterious ways, His wonders to perform. he promised to grant us our desires if ONLY we will believe!!!! I am a living testimony of his goodness, cos He gave me a fresh and dashing young man after some years of widowhood with two kids for that matter just because I offered up my body to him as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing unto him and sure enough my hearts desires were granted me just like that.

  21. X- Factor

    August 19, 2013 at 12:13 pm


  22. Yemisi

    August 19, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    BN, It’ll nice to read a man’s testimony about how he met his wife, how he prayed and the Lord told him she was ‘The One’. It might just help refute the idea that all single Nigerian women desperately want to be married. Let’s hear from the men too. Right now, it just seems to your international readers that Nigerian women are the only ones fasting and praying for life partners.

    • Lade

      August 19, 2013 at 12:49 pm

      That’s because they actually are the only ones and the men just pick their choice when they are ready. So they fast to ensure that they are the chosen ones. Trust me that is the case. BN is only a reflection of the patriachal society that Nigeria is

    • atm

      August 19, 2013 at 1:24 pm

      I don’t have the link right now to show you. But there are articles on here about men praying and getting their wives, even when the wife was reluctant. I think there’s the Tobi Atte person. I’m just trying to say there are the examples that you are looking for but I agree it’s still lopsided

    • Damilare Aiki

      August 19, 2013 at 1:27 pm

      Hi Yemisi,

      We are glad you liked the article. The BN Features team has previously featured two articles on a man’s encounter with his wife. Kindly click on the links below.

      Link 1:
      Link 2:

      Thank you for visiting BN!

    • Jo!

      August 19, 2013 at 2:01 pm

      Two posts of the same guy…

    • lola

      August 19, 2013 at 3:09 pm

      Please stop it jo! you all know its not the norm that was why you were only able to pull just one man out of your archives.

      Nigerian women are the only ones that fast and pray for a partner while the men just go with their instincts. shikena.

    • Ready

      August 19, 2013 at 4:13 pm

      Also, Ferdinand merely gushed about his bride. He did not pray and fast for 1 week, and he did not get transported to heaven on account of Lily. We want stories where men engaged in by fire, by force prayer warrior sessions to get their women -__-

    • ARRRRR

      August 20, 2013 at 10:34 am

      Women fast and pray on relationships, cos women are the worst hit by bad relationships… Most times, they are expected to make certain sacrifices to make it work (as the man seeks to chase his dreams and the wife supports him). Some sacrifices are deep (stop career/education, leave family behind) then things fall apart and the roof falls on their head.

      Please every relationship is unique, once it works for them.. Free!!! And all you lot here are underestimating the unity that comes with convergence of religious beliefs

    • slice

      August 19, 2013 at 4:18 pm

      ah not true. My guy friends are currently fasting and praying. Guys take these things very seriously but sometimes it depends on the guys you know. Also a lot of these my guy friends that are praying and fasting about it never admit to this in public. But girls are more open about how much they are praying for a man

    • Madman

      August 19, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      Well said. Well said. Well said. Well said. Well said. Well said. Men don’t pray, Nigerian women and this marriage thing sef. I hope her hubby is not an impotent man, I had a friend who did the whole virgin thing only to find out that the man she married was an impotent man. Plus she fasted Her own for two weeks. Let women keep deluding themselves. They dissolved the marriage.

  23. bee

    August 19, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    this is so beautiful, the awesome power of God. Ur union is blessed by God the creator of marriage.

  24. Funmi

    August 19, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    Wow very awesome and inspring story. God is very faithful and am encouraged to continue waiting on God. Thank you for your story. God bless.

  25. omoaderoba

    August 19, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    awezzzome! Lesson: Only a chaste woman would experience this…stay connected….

  26. person pikin

    August 19, 2013 at 12:24 pm

    This is just an amazing story. On my birthday last year I decided take my relationship with God closer and that involved the decision to remain celibate till marriage. Its been difficult being in a relationship after then. All the men seem to want the booty. I am not willing to compromise and I look to God to bring me my own man. He makes everything beautiful in his own time. I trust God to bring me a decent man that will love and respsect me and wait for the sex till marriage.

    Thanks BN for sharing this story…..I’m encouraged!

  27. Mariaah

    August 19, 2013 at 12:37 pm

    Beautiful and inspiring story… What I took from this is his love will always be with us.. I’ve had a lot on my mind recently especially regarding my finances then I remembered “looking unto Jesus, the author and the finisher of my fate”.. Got a reassuring phone call yesterday.. 🙂

  28. Marcella

    August 19, 2013 at 12:44 pm

    Amazing story, there is hope in Christ. halleluyah

  29. jcsgrl

    August 19, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    Very beautiful story which I’m bookmarking for myself and sending to my single friends who are waiting…
    Dear Lola and Dayo, when the storms of life make you wonder if God ever spoke or was for you, remember his promises and how he fulfilled every one of them in your life. Your marriage will thrive to the glory of God. Amen

  30. none

    August 19, 2013 at 12:59 pm

    What an amazing story! God’s promise never fails.

  31. Busola

    August 19, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    Anyone who finds this unbelievable is the deluded one… That’s because you lot don’t know God. Anybody can play religion, but very few know about relationship. I’m blessed with this testimony and I can certainly see God speaking to me through this.. Clearly, his ways are not our ways.

  32. ebony

    August 19, 2013 at 1:01 pm

    hmmn! am seeing wedding pics whereas the last thing she said was “I give the one and only true Lord, Jesus Christ, the highest praise, as He continues to direct and guide Dayo and I in our Christian faith together as we prepare for our wedding”

    • Spacey

      August 20, 2013 at 5:15 am

      So you may want to read again before ‘hmming’! BN states that they are now married. she wrote this before the wedding 🙂

  33. Mobs

    August 19, 2013 at 1:02 pm

    Proud of a lot of things surrounding this article! But most of all, speaking about God in the open and through a social media – AMAZING! Sex before marriage is virtue but if you have been there, no condemnation in Christ as old things have passed away. I pray the lord continue to help lot of us in various situations. Amin

  34. Ok o

    August 19, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    I ‘ v gat to finish my textbook first,theni will come back to this

  35. Gezani

    August 19, 2013 at 1:13 pm

    beautiful story but talking to God and angels visiting her I doubt. The bible says we must not add or subtract and this story has a lot of salt. One can still tell what God expect from us without spicing bcs spicing its lying.

    • Busola

      August 19, 2013 at 1:24 pm

      You don’t know… you are not in her shoes.. You don’t know about the sacrifices she has made.. Mary saw the angels too.. Just because you haven’t seen them does not give you the right to say someone else is lying. What if you lot get to know God for yourselves rather than being a doubting thomas?

    • ty

      August 19, 2013 at 6:17 pm

      lmfaooooo! funniest comment so far

  36. nomad

    August 19, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    Let me be another one to criticise this. You put this out there so you gotta realise that not every comment will be positive.

    After reading this long epistle, it seems that the only reason you picked Dayo over them all is because he was willing to wait until you got married for sex. Honestly (I don’t know you, it might be false), it strikes me that you prioritised that over everything else. So what else over everything else made you pick him over other men who you admitted you found nothing wrong with? Nothing about his character and how you two are compatible? It all seemed like you wanted to change him into your perception of the perfect man after finding out he was willing to wait.

    Come back in five years and let us know how it went.

    • dee

      August 19, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      Nomad, I am sure you read it that she said she wanted God’s will i.e God’s choice and not her own choice. One thing you should know is that God knows us better than we know ourselves, infact he knows our thoughts before we think of it and I can assure you that God is the best matchmaker. So why on earth would she start weighing things that shouldn’t be weighed and checking compatibility when their maker has given the verdict.If you commit your ways to God and do not lean on your understanding because our understanding is limited, God will definitely make your ways prosperous.In five years time I can guarantee you that they will be going stronger and even stronger by the special grace of God because a cord of three cannot be easily broken.

    • obitalk

      August 19, 2013 at 4:41 pm

      you have no point, from her story you can tell they were friends, communicating and loved each other. wat else do you want her to tell us. already the story is long she had to select the important bits for us. pls stop complaining for no reason.

  37. Brigitta

    August 19, 2013 at 1:24 pm


  38. Inspired by Africa

    August 19, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    This was such a beautiful and inspiring read!!

    I am a young Christian woman also waiting on my Father to bless me with the man He desires for me and this has really been such an inspiration and reminder that waiting on the Lord is an act of faith, obedience and surrender that is not punishment but a blessing.

    To know with absolute faith that the creator of the universe who spoke the heavens and the earth into being is the same God who holds our hearts desires in his hand is such a comfort and a joy.

    With all my heart I wish Lola and her prince, Dayo all of God’s blessings and grace over their upcoming wedding and marriage.

  39. KofoLina

    August 19, 2013 at 1:33 pm


    • TheAgnostic1

      August 19, 2013 at 11:58 pm

      See this famzer. Isn’t she married already? :s

    • OB

      February 27, 2014 at 9:42 pm


  40. Joshua

    August 19, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    This is incredible, i mean!!! GOD’s ways are just so novel. I’m so thrilled reading this on BN.

  41. Dee

    August 19, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    She should write for nollywood! I believe God can talk to you but this though???? May God help the guy

  42. chydee

    August 19, 2013 at 2:13 pm

    Amazing story, and very inspiring. Of course there would always be “doubting Thomas.'” Some people think they know all about God and the ways in which He works. God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to perfom. I believe this is one of such ways.

  43. Chidinma O.

    August 19, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    To God be the Glory!!!!! GOD’S time is the best even though his ways are not our ways, his is always faithfull to those who wait upon him…. truly inspiring story.. God bless this lovely couple and to all of us waiting for the right man, may God direct us and may we have the courage n patience to wait upon him… in Jesus name Amen

  44. Xala

    August 19, 2013 at 2:44 pm

    Well, for those doubting the power of God. I can say this…He truly visits us. While I can understand the doubters, I had to pause myself. Still, it is her story …her testimony. Am engaged to be married in a couple of months.. and when we met, he asked for my birthday and found it was the date he told God he will love to get married. Something he did just out of faith..he randomly picked a date..Now, meeting me he said he felt strongly I was the One..He prayed! I mean that guy was praying and fasting everyday! My friends were like..Babes, you cant escape this level of spiritual engagement, lol. Did I think he was the one..Nope! Did I pray Yes..but gradually I began to see he was all I have ever wanted in a man, even with his faults…I know I can be happy with him. I saw no angels, but he says he knew I was the one and God confirmed his words with signs..So, it goes both ways, He went with signs and wonders, I made a decision based on his character and peace in my spirit.

    • jcsgrl

      August 19, 2013 at 2:58 pm

      Wow! I really love your last sentence. You know wats up and always remember that when you get married.

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 12:02 am

      How convenient that your birthday was the day he picked. Did he tell you this before you told him your birthday or after? So basically, he bamboozled you with religious talk and you felt “aii, since god has spoken to him and he is a decent guy, what the hey, let me just do this”. Cool, cool. Nice to know, I can tell any guy out there that his birthday is the day my moon shines strongest or sumn like that. Hope he falls in love too 😀

    • Meandyou

      August 22, 2013 at 11:30 am

      Being a Virgin does not give you any additional marks with God ooo….I am a late 20’s virgin and believe me , God is taking his sweet time to answer me o…it all boils down to HIS plans for our lives and a lot more…

      the agnostics1….i sort of liked your earlier comments…but now i find you cynical and bothersome….sho away

  45. ForeverYoung

    August 19, 2013 at 2:52 pm

    Cele and C&S tings. My dear, when God is ready to do his will ( or your destiny is about to play itself out) you will be awoken by the screams of your baby at 3am while a “Dayo ” will be next to you snoring away that you will wonder how you got there ( and this is only if it’s God’s will) . I mean, does it really take God waking you up every 3am for 2yrs to convince you that someone is your husband? I believe there’s a spirit man as there is a physical man. I also believe some can be gifted with psychic like powers to see into the future. That being said I can’t wrap my head around the 3am thing for 2yrs. If God came to you in the spirit, how do you remember to check the time or know what time it is? Does time difference ever factor into it? Say you went on vacation to London, would the spirit wake you up 9pm London time(3am Nigerian time) or 3am London time, which is around 9am Nigerian time? Or could it be that this 3am deal is prayer time according to your family tradition? God is never complicated, when He wants to do, He will do, with or without convincing us. I know marriage is a huge step and big deal to many, but remember no matter how much God shows you “vision”, marriage will still present its challenges, that you will question God on your decision. Even God knows we are not perfect, hence no perfect being or marriage. You can’t underestimate how much our desires play into our subconscious and how easily some mistake that for God talking to them. Dear sister His will be done, signs or not. Goodluck.

    • slice

      August 19, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    • LALA

      August 20, 2013 at 10:45 am

      I was not going to comment at all but @ Foerever young and in your mind you have made an intelligent comment. How is 3am London time, 9am Nigerian time, like the same London capital of England…you just had to comment sha

    • Sunita

      October 14, 2014 at 9:17 am

      Your comment is the best!!!!

    • Fraggle 411

      October 28, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      I had to laugh at your ignorance. How does 3am in London transform to 9pm in Nigeria? FYI, the British time is 3 in a year, the time when they are 1hour ahead of us, the time when we are both on the same time, and the time they are 1hour behind the Nigeria time (like they are 1hr behind us now. They always change this the last Sunday in October). Little wonder that someone who is so ignorant in something as visible as time will know anything about something as deep as the Spirit of God, what He does and in what way He moves- things that are not seen. Truly, God’s people perish because of lack of knowledge!

  46. Omo1

    August 19, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    Visiting God every night..eating bread from an Angel..Lip sealed still!

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 20, 2013 at 4:32 am

      The bread part seems to be tripping everybody up!! hehehe….hmmmn, God dey!!!
      p.s. everyone asking if she were muslim, what would peeps say?? i believe the testimony would get the exact same response…..some yays! and some wtfs….or why is it that peeps think muslims don’t have internet access? Make dem write their own testimony now……
      p.s. My friend is actively converting her boyfriend to islam…maybe I’ll ask her to write BN whenever (if ever) she accomplishes her mission….

  47. Tincan

    August 19, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    If – if – this is true, I believe this testimony is much bigger than her marriage to Dayo. It’s about God’s complete love for us, His plans for our good and His ability and desire to be in close relationship with us – that is a beautiful thing.

    It takes a lot of gut, or something else :), to share this kind of extraordinary experience with pretty much the world so I pray that God will continue to keep the writer and her husband. It is often difficult to believe that God works outside of the ways that we have experienced but then again, if story of the virgin birth of Jesus had played out in our time, would you believe Mary? May God draw us all nearer regardless of where we are in our walk with Him.

  48. guchy

    August 19, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    I would also like to have lola’s twitter handle if possible pullleaaaaaaaaaaassseee!!
    Nice testimony

  49. Nana

    August 19, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    Beautiful Testimony. BN maybe you need a singles & married corner on this forum so we can read such great testimonies after looking at all those beautiful wedding pix you post, so to give the singles hope.

    As for STTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUPID and negative commenters to this post, you guys are really shining and standing out on here. Keep it up.!!!! Loosers!!!

    Congrats to the bride and groom. Happy Married Life

    • Lade

      August 19, 2013 at 3:45 pm

      For you to respond to people who have been writing clearly, coincisely and rationally here with what you wrote, I question your level of intelligence and maturity. Its Losers by the way. Learn to spell first. Why should single women have or need hope. Is their singlehood a problem that they need hope. Nigerians need to get rid of this mentality please. It is not serving you well. You don’t hear of single men needing to read such to give them hope. Someone asked BN to post a story about men too fasting and praying and all they could pull out was 2 stories of the SAME person. That says a lot. Why am I typing sef. Your emotional maturity cannot comprehend. Let me just leave you alone with your hope. Keep hoping and not improving yourself because your only achievement or fulfillment in life is to be married so of course you need hope.

    • Omo1

      August 19, 2013 at 7:16 pm

      Thanks Lade! I was thinking of the best way to reply to
      this very non intelligent comment. Really laughing out loud at the
      use of the word “loser”, oh sorry “loosers” lol! By the way the
      only loser I see here is people like Nana hoping for write ups of
      other people’s so called “life achievement” to help them meet up
      with theirs..very laughable indeed

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 12:03 am

      Brilliant comment Lade.

  50. mII

    August 19, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    i can relate to dis ….4 all you who find it hard to understand or believe, i knw where ur coming from, all you need to do is pray God gives you a discerning heart 2b spiritually endowed…

  51. DREAL

    August 19, 2013 at 4:05 pm

    In such shock!! I pray God blesses you guys…..Words are not forthcoming, let me stop here

  52. Ade

    August 19, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    Foreveryoung…….is London ever 6hours ahead of/behind Nigeria??!! I laugh in Spanish!!

  53. naijawife

    August 19, 2013 at 4:16 pm

    I am a firm believer that it is what you want, that God will give to you. I’ve read this story a few times, and while a few parts of it do give me pause…I think the general take away lesson is “believe in God for what you want, and you shall receive it, if you are faithful, and pray hard on the issue”. I too was keeping myself for marriage, so I understand her frustration with the guys she liked who didn’t respect that. But instead of looking for a man who “respected” my morals, I asked God for someone with the same morals. Someone who was also keeping himself for marriage and God gave him to me.
    With that said, I was a bit worried that at such a young age she was praying so hard for a man. I think I’d understand it more if she was 37..but 24 is young (yes I know Nigeria doesn’t consider 24 to be young).
    Also , it struck me that abednego’s comment had some sense to it (even if it was a bit rude). If she really did have the ear of God and was taken to heaven EVERY DAY for 2 years at 3am, why was her prayer so focused on finding a man, as opposed to other things? If angels were feeding me loaves of bread, I’d be praying for some bigger things! I guess I can’t judge why or how people should pray…but this story was just so deeply intense and heavily “spiri” on what struck me as such a trivial subject (given that there is no marriage in heaven and it is not by force that everyone must marry). I mean, her mother was waking up the whole house for this guy! “At 3 am, she woke up everyone in my family and told us to pray for Dayo, for his salvation was almost at hand.” That is Super intense! He had no choice but to convert lol.
    I’d like to know more about their relationship before he converted. Did they stay as friends? Or were they officially courting? She says at some point that they took a “break” which implies that they were indeed dating before he converted. But earlier in the story she said she told him they could only be friends given the religious difference. It seems that Dayo proposed when she was just 24 when her father rejected it. So were they dating or not? Did he just propose for the sake of it? Does this advocate dating someone not of the same faith in the hopes that an Angel will reveal all?
    One thing she said that made a lot of sense – “I explained that the truth is found in having a true personal experience and relationship with God for yourself and then you will truly know which is the right way to follow God.”

    • slice

      August 19, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      …in naija dom and from many many personal experiences, you don’t have to be dating for the person to propose. I’ve got phone proposals, e-mail proposals all without meeting me one time

    • Sho!

      August 22, 2013 at 12:56 pm

      Best Comment so far.

    • Beantowneshawty

      September 5, 2013 at 4:37 am

      Pakam.. end of story. I have the same sentimental.
      I do not dispute that one can get a revelation on the issue of marriage but nne meyn, this is odikwu too intense. The babe got the heavenly hosts’ attention nisha, incredible stuff… it is well. Congrats to them tho.

  54. merci

    August 19, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    wow beautiful story. At the end of the day its your relationship with GOD that truly counts after all. All the fame,wealth,earthly success will pass away! God help us to concentrate on the most important things while on earth!

  55. Ani

    August 19, 2013 at 4:40 pm

    I can relate with your story gal. My younger sis got married last year @ the age of 29 and was a virgin. We were so proud of her. God bless you gal and give you a blessed home amen.

    • Dee

      August 20, 2013 at 9:36 pm

      Lol. In your opinion

  56. Samantha

    August 19, 2013 at 4:45 pm

    OMG! People and unbelief! I can only imagine how Jesus felt when He came and no one believed Him. His people perish for lack of knowledge…… Does it really matter that God woke her up at 3am London time or Nigerian time? And also the spirit of God is one. He cannot tell you this is your man and now your marriage is hell. So that was not the spirit of God. He is not man that He should lie….if God can convert Saul… you guys must think converting Dayo is a big deal. I thank God for your life my dear and I pray God blesses your union abundantly. @Tincan I agree with you this testimony is about God’s complete love for us. He said His thoughts towards us are of good……Lord please take control of my relationship.

  57. Teni

    August 19, 2013 at 5:06 pm

    very inspiring indeed, and there’s nothing as wonderful as finding your soulmate who will accept you just the way you are… Am inspired and i pray God make your joy forever

  58. Damilola

    August 19, 2013 at 5:30 pm

    God is a faithful father!

  59. HRS

    August 19, 2013 at 5:36 pm

    Truly inspiring…. I truly get where she’s from, though her level of spirituality is high, but then “To whom much is given, much is expected” and then as our God is a mysterious God, he can show you in different ways, u just have to be certain that it is God….

  60. ForeverYoung

    August 19, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    ….Maybe I was referring to London, OHIO :D…you get my point *wink* ;)….
    People relax before we stir up another world war II. Beliefs, religion have been known to start wars , so it’s normal that not everyone will subscribe to what you believe. Some believe that if you wear make-up/Indian hair , you will go to hell, some can’t comprehend why anyone can even utter a statement of such let alone believe it, some will even go, there’s nothing like hell. Just as you find it weird and incomprehensible that some people don’t believe this write-up, so are some wondering why on earth you can subscribe to what the writer wrote as a testimony. Also how many of us were there when God converted Saul? it all really boils down to your beliefs. At the end of the day, we all return to our maker, the only source that we all came to be. Be worried about your own salvation and leave the “doubting thomas(s)” , for all you know you might be sharing a space with them in the after-life, and all the ones that supposedly had the “knowledge” will be nowhere to be found. We will never understand this life in its entirety until we get out of it, and no one does alive.

  61. Cynthia

    August 19, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    I’m muslim. Should I be offended by this? Lemme call Osama…

    • slice

      August 19, 2013 at 9:06 pm

      Osama was a terrorist. he killed thousands. the likes of
      Will Smith have since learned no joke goes down well if it includes
      Hitler. Please avoid an Osama joke Please don’t be mad. I know you
      meant no harm. But it’s hard to say nothing about a joke that
      reminds me of people jumping off buildings knowing they will

    • Cynthia

      August 20, 2013 at 7:45 pm

      Well, Slice, maybe your homegirl shoulda thought of that when she wrote this potentially inciting piece. If this piece were published in a northern Nigerian publication, I doubt that they’d be awwwing and clapping for joy.

    • slice

      August 21, 2013 at 3:27 pm

      Osama was a terrorist. The Northern muslims are muslims. Good christians and good muslims alike may be offended by what appears to be an exaggerated claim of God’s intervention but only terrorists will take up arms b/c of something a 26 year old wrote. I’m assuming you’re not suggesting Northern muslims are like Osama

  62. BellaYankee

    August 19, 2013 at 5:52 pm

    Naija babes have been given more ammunition to DESPERATELY seek men.
    Lola, your story isn’t my cup of tea but I’m happy you’re happy.

  63. impervious

    August 19, 2013 at 7:04 pm

    After reading this… and a lot of my esteemed colleagues’ comments I reckon there will be a few factions in response to this article

    1. Awww God bless you and your marriage, God is trully faithful

    2. Hmmm…. not sure where to start on this.

    3. I should be seriously offended as a woman in 2013,who has other problems in my life by the effort she took to ARREST this gentleman

    4. God works in mysterious ways… what should we say he CAN’T do

    5. Are you serious? For a man? When there are starving children in XYZ

    6. If it were a muslim sister praying what would y’all say

    And note…. not a single man in the universe of Nigerian men has said a peep.

    I reckon she knew that by sharing this there would be positive and negative responses. In the end I believe that God sees our heart. I may not have the faith she does, but I pray my relationship with God deepens. That’s what I have taken from this.

    • slice

      August 19, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      i dare say the guy who converted went to a lot of trouble too.

      Who you marry is a very important decision. It’s definitely worth fasting and praying over.

  64. Idee

    August 19, 2013 at 8:01 pm

    Walahi…Abednego just killed me with laughter…lmao!

  65. Madman

    August 19, 2013 at 8:13 pm

    Nigerian women and their desperation to be married. what is this? your mates are on the Forbes list you are here fasting and praying for a husband. This marriage thing sef. I hope her hubby is not an impotent man, I had a friend who did the whole virgin thing only to find out that the man she married was an impotent man. Plus she fasted Her own for two weeks. Let women keep deluding themselves. They dissolved the marriage.

  66. joy

    August 19, 2013 at 8:27 pm

    It doesn’t matter whether it is nigerian time or uk time.
    the most important thing is that God visits his children anytime
    whether naija or uk time. God is a God that answers prayers and
    anything he says he will that he will do. It all depends on our
    relationship with Christ. I have also had an encounter twice in my
    dreams where God himself spoke to me through 2 people and when i
    woke up, i cried out. i had a confirmation abt it. Lola was a woman
    of faith and she believed that God can change situations, she went
    out of her way to get what she wants, she sacrificed everything to
    have it including sex. How much can we sacrifice to have this deep
    encounter with God in our dreams, visions? Devil also make choices
    of life partners for people and i bet its not what we want for
    ourselves. Since marriage is another institution where you have to
    spend the rest of your life with ur partner, it needs God’s
    intervention to find the right partner. for those who did not
    believe lola’s story, i will urge u to go have an experience. Its
    an experience you don’t want to miss. I am also a living

  67. e-voice

    August 19, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    Pls bella Naija dont censor my comment like u did the last.
    kindly allow some objectivity on your blog. Again, Marriage is not
    a destination but a whole new journey in itself….with all due
    respect for everyone’s spirituality, there is some degree of
    spiritual arrogance, bigotry and delusional grandiosity associated
    with the way some people lay out their testimonies. God is not a
    genie in a magic lamp. Declaring triumph over a matter that just
    literally began is naive. Yes it’s a good thing that you got what
    you want but know that the man you fell in love with was a muslim
    first all his life and obviously there must’ve been something good
    about him that you saw or you would have kicked him to the curb
    like your exes who were Christians. Come back in 25 yrs and then
    the awwwws will be justifiable. Your spiritual business is between
    you and God, not for show. I’m an avid believer in spiritual
    decorum and humility. There are many successful inter religious
    couples. Also it’s a tad bit insensitive and disrespectful to your
    muslim inlaws for you to declare indirectly that they are not
    saved. If a muslim girl wrote this I bet many wont be as
    supportive, let the record show on how biased we can be as a
    people. I wish them all the very best.

    • nomad

      August 19, 2013 at 9:23 pm

      You’ve said it all

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 12:05 am

      Brilliant, balanced, rational response.

    • unique

      August 20, 2013 at 10:42 am

      a balanced ,rational and well said comment,i believe the saying God time is the best bt the thing we all as humans dont seem to realise is that the saying can mean it might be at age 35 that is when God sees it as the best time for u to get married

  68. Concerned_Boyfriend

    August 19, 2013 at 8:45 pm

    @e-Voice ..GBAMEST!!!

  69. YouWentToHeavenAndAllYouGotWasAMan

    August 19, 2013 at 8:50 pm

    – You went to heaven everyday for 2 yrs and all you got was a man. O_O. Really? You didn’t ask to wake up in a new Bugatti. Like 3 dozen pairs of Louboutins. A few Bottega Venetta crocodile skin purses. All you got was a man. Shame on you!
    – They gave you bread in your dreams and you ate it? In Yoruba-land doesn’t that mean you’re now officially a witch? Lets say you’re not a witch, couldn’t you have asked for some caviar?! THis is Heaven for crying out loud! HEAVEN. Don’t they have some porterhouse steaks up in there. Lobster. King Crab? Heck i’ll take some solid Edikaikong and naturally pounded Iyan! Instead you ate Agege bread and you’re happy.
    – Finally, you were again in HEAVEN and you didn’t ask for “God” to convert Denzel to your husband. Idris Elba. Channing Tatum. Columbus Short. Robert Downy Jr. George Clooney. Will Smith. You didn’t ask for any of those miracle to happen, you went and chose Dayo. Mschew! Nonsense!

    • Bev

      August 20, 2013 at 9:46 am

      LOL! You! Go to the corner and face the wall!

    • Oaken

      August 20, 2013 at 10:18 am

      Ok I am trying not to burst out laughing but I gotta to burst out in stitches. Bella NAija commenters are quite comical

    • Omo1

      August 20, 2013 at 11:20 am

      LMAO This forced me to burst out in laughter! Like seriously? you made a matter how critically some might want to view your did make a point!

    • jcsgrl

      August 20, 2013 at 1:39 pm

      Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha…ok wiping tears from my
      eyes. My dear, go and ask Solomon who was given all that wealth and
      splendor you are talking about and the end he said vanity upon
      vanity all is vanity. There is more to life than Bugatti, loubies
      and Idis Elba’s look alike. One thing I know for sure Lola’s
      testimony is not complete. Y’all naysayers will see and hear what
      God will do with this couple and it will be far bigger than what
      money can buy. dazall

    • capri10

      August 21, 2013 at 12:44 pm

      i vote this the most hilarious comment on this post!!!!!!11

    • Moi

      August 21, 2013 at 1:26 pm

      It was bcos of unbelief dat wen Jesus went to his people that they refused to accept him bcos they used their human understanding to comprehend the things of d spirit. No one believed that a man cld die n raise himself in three days. This story cannot make any sense to u bcos u understand the things of d spirit. Ask God for immaterial things wen there are more deep spiritual things on ground? Our world now is so carnal hence d reason y many pple can never make any impact on society. Bible says to be carnally minded is death but to be spiritually minded is life n peace. I guess bcos d writer is a young girl is wat bewilders everyone but she is way older dan Mary in d Bible. Give he credit for not doing things d world’s way but God’s way.

    • anon

      October 14, 2014 at 3:21 pm

      This had me in tears !!!! kai

  70. konne

    August 19, 2013 at 8:54 pm

    very gripping and interesting and raw. I now know what is
    was bothering me about this story, she was rather young at the
    start of this search but sounds like she felt time was running out
    or something…. almost like ….not sure what word to use. The
    family was entirely too involved … too many people all up in your
    business…jsut my perspective I hope it works out for you. good
    luck and thanks for sharing

    • naijawife

      August 20, 2013 at 4:35 pm

      exactly! Was I the only one who noticed how young she was once she started the journey?

    • Blessmyheart

      August 21, 2013 at 11:22 am

      I don’t think it is about desperation. I started praying about the person I will marry when I was 17 though I didn’t actually fast. At that time I was not even thinking of being in a relationship.My first ever relationship was when I was 21. I believe the choice of a life partner is one of the most important decisions of life. It is worth praying and fasting for especially from the stories we hear daily.

  71. Yemisi

    August 19, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    Very well said @e-voice and Lade. I’ll never understand the
    desperation to be married among young Nigerian women. Lola was
    barely in her early twenties when she started praying and fasting
    for a husband. Is that all there is to a woman’s life? Anyway, we
    all have different priorities. We’re all on earth to fulfil
    different purposes. I may not agree with most parts of Lola’s
    story, but I wish her well.

    • naijawife

      August 20, 2013 at 4:37 pm

      exactly. I wonder that this testimony just adds to the fire. It’s more fuel for encouraging women to think that all that matters is finding a husband

  72. God bless youuu. I just got a miracle car too, read my

  73. babe202

    August 19, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    thank you so much mrs lola busari, i pray your marriage shall continually be fortified with with God’s love and the oil of love shall continually lubricate your home in Jesus name.

  74. zsa zsa

    August 19, 2013 at 9:14 pm

    I will take the positive from this story, God is always here for us that believe.
    That being said….congrats on her upcoming(?) wedding. It sounds to me like this marriage issue was a very big project for her…i mean 2 yrs. of visiting heaven and eating bread? I wish i was visited like this when my mum was terribly ill and i was praying and crying my heart and brains out. Anyhow….i’m happy she didn’t seem to have any other issues bothering her apart her future husband, unlike some of us who had so many things going on that the thought of praying for husband just seemed over zealous.
    I wonder though… would i feel reading this if i were muslim?
    oh well….

    • jcsgrl

      August 20, 2013 at 1:43 pm

      zsa zsa I hear you on the angel visiting part when going through some painful times in life. After reading this, I too was like chai why angel no visit me when I was unemployed for more than two years I almost lost my mind. But God’s ways are not ours and we might not understand why he does what he does for us and different people. One thing I know If we keep seeking him and asking questions and letting him know how we feel, he will give us answers. In the end all things will work out for good. It is well. Did your mom make it through?

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 20, 2013 at 6:05 pm

      … and the most important point from one you’ve just made – when God said to Solomon, “ask me anything you want” what did Solomon ask for? Bugatti (fail), loubs (fail), £££ (epic fail). All he asked for was to have wisdom. Then he got a whole lotta wealth.

      @ YouWentToHeavenAndAllYouGotWasAMan, for real though, which man in your list of names is meant to be the husband of any woman’s dreams? Robert Downey Jnr – recovering crack addict, serial womanizer; Denzel W. – alleged cheat; George Clooney – confirmed bachelor; Will Smith – in an open marriage; Idris Elba – serial womanizer; Channing Tatum – ????

      So you would get to heaven and that’s going to be your list? Really??

    • zsa zsa

      August 20, 2013 at 8:21 pm

      @jcsgrl 🙂 thank you for the lovely words. Unfortunately mom did not make it….been 8yrs and i still find myself going “God why?”…..nah i’m not going there today 🙁

      Thanks again 🙂

  75. amethyst

    August 19, 2013 at 9:22 pm

    In all this, aren’t you guys bothered about the fact that she assumes that only Christians have “salvation”. This young woman is deluded and has been hallucinating. She’s seems a bit unbalanced and should seek a psychologist. I feel so bad for dayo.
    When it comes to religious delusion, Nigerians take the cake. Come on, you guys actually believe this? WTAF

  76. Teetee

    August 19, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    Everyone knows what is paining them. It seems the babe in
    this story,hers was a man and hence she took it to God. While I
    have other things that I will be praying for at this time instead
    of a man, there is a lesson to be learnt here.:Ask God and work in
    his will and he will direct your path on any issue that troubles
    you. There is nothing to small or big for him. I dont believe that
    she set out to castigate muslims with her writing and it will be
    unfortunate if she indirectly did that.

  77. Somebody

    August 19, 2013 at 10:10 pm

    SMH…Nigerians can believe anything so far it is about God. How can a 24yr old girl be praying and fasting all because of marriage? Holy spirit is always waking you up everyday at 3am for 2yrs. Dont you have other things doing at that time, like going for your church vigil or studying overnight for exams?… You also mention a revelation of a senior pastor calling you to ask about you and Dayo plans for marriage, how did the pastor get to know about Dayo when Dayo was never a christain let alone a member of your church?
    How can Dayo went ahead to ask your dad for your hands in marriage when he is yet to ask you in about about you people getting married… Nigerians need to thing with their brain and stop believing everything because God’s name is mentioned….

  78. Dayo

    August 19, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    One thing is for sure….if this story was written by a non-Christian, there would be comments about not being “unequally yoked” and ramblings like that. But hey, we all just LOVE to revel in our biases and pretend that we love people regardless of religious affiliations. Now, if I were one of her in-laws, I’d be salty as hell! Getting a new judgemental daughter/sister-in-law who thinks people of a different religion are no good? Aaawh shucks! Porting to heaven from earth only to ask for a dude. You think a dude, if he got that opportunity would ask for a wife first? Hell nawwww!!! In other news, didn’t nollywood teach you not to eat in your dreams or did you skip that part in your spiritual journey?

  79. Truth be told

    August 19, 2013 at 11:05 pm

    Praise be to our Lord Jesus Christ Lola. Heaven and hell
    are real. God visits his children. Their purpose for being together
    is bigger than their marriage. God wants to use her & hubby
    for his work. Marriage is an expression of Gods mini Kingdom.
    Remember he started with Adam & Eve. Be real, with the rate
    of divorce and broken homes, if you want to have a happy home to
    avoid the pain of choosing a wrong spouse. Please repent, get
    baptised, seek God by studying his word. Not everyone will get
    visitations, some it might be Godly wisdom, signs after you’ve
    prayed. You don’t just want to pray cos you need a husband, you
    need to know the Lord and build a relationship with your heavenly
    father. If you only pray to get the husband how will you handle
    challenges and overcome with your faith. Marriage is purely God and
    serious work from both spouses. Pray now so you don’t become a
    prey. God bless us all with Godly wisdom. For the record Nigerian
    ladies take marriage seriously because its Gods will. Its natural
    to desire marriage to be loved and love back. Its important they
    pray to avoid life time mistakes like the Hollywood and different
    bad experiences out there. As a Christian its still hard work but
    with Gods grace you have more victories, testimonies and peace. I’m
    enjoying my marriage. I Praise God only. Sorry for my long

  80. Jo!

    August 19, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    I personally don’t think this “testimony” has any business
    on BN . On your church website or anywhere else Lola, but not on BN
    . It’s just not worth the drama. I really hope you took some
    guidance from up there before posting this and I also hope your
    husband is cool with this, cos I wouldn’t be. Anyhow, glad some
    people were “touched” , make una “tap into” the testimony o

  81. TRUTH

    August 19, 2013 at 11:09 pm

    @e-voice, u couldnt have said it better!!!!

  82. TRUTH

    August 19, 2013 at 11:13 pm

    I am actually shocked that Bellanaija put this up!

    • D

      August 20, 2013 at 4:43 pm

      It’s all for ratings. More website views, I guess


    August 19, 2013 at 11:22 pm

    Thank God for Jesus and the revelation of true love. Happy
    married life.

  84. Izzle

    August 20, 2013 at 12:15 am

    Are you sure this story isn’t for book promotion?

  85. Prime

    August 20, 2013 at 12:23 am

    Great Story … I enjoyed d beginning esp wer U managed to hold off on sex til marriage. nt most gals cn do dat but LORD knows I tuned out wen ‘the angel came to take U to heaven’ evrinyt ……..N revealed ur future to U.
    Onli a hamdful of pple actually saw and talked to an Angel in the bible. All the rest heard were Voice. The Lord has his ways of makibg his word known but not by taking you to heaven. All in All, Dis story is BS. Itz nt lyk U r gonna give birth to the future liberator of Nigeria. Y shld we care?

  86. Prime

    August 20, 2013 at 12:50 am

    I cerzy cnt comment enuf on dis.
    She says wen d angel visited, she felt a strange sensation in her body and she was trembling, afraid(U gt d point) bt she knew the time was 3am. How? Did U tel d angel to gv u a minute to look at d wall clock? Or?
    And then Mumsi woke evrione up at 3am to pray for Dayo. 3am?
    Honestly, d young man neva stood a chance.
    And all these single gals lookin for hope, U dnt need hope. The hungry kid in wartorn congo needs hope, Egyptians need hope, Refugees in Syria need hope. Not U, ladiess. Why the emphasis on marriage like itz the cause of global warming or economic reccession

    • naijawife

      August 20, 2013 at 4:39 pm

      co-sign on this comment. You’ve said it all

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 20, 2013 at 9:32 pm

      My goodness, y’all is seriously tripping on this steez today. So in your assessment,, a certain category of humans don’t need hope because children in war torn Congo, people in Egypt and refugees in Syria need hope??

      Did you eat today? At least one square meal with something to drink? Have you spent time doing something, you know… really unnecessary… lately (include the time used clicking through BN posts)? Did you splurge with your own money on materialistic crap at any point during the last 8 months? Why ain’t you sending all of your food, money and spending some of your own darned time to save Congo, Syria & Egypt?

      Massive missing of the point, all of you. Even if it punched you in the eye and smacked you upside the head. Did this chick come on here to gloat to you, Muslims or anyone else? Mba. All she said basically said was “this is what happened in my life that led to my marriage”. Everyone jumping up and down, Nse wrote her story, we all said “awww, that’s sweet”. BN published some wedding story about a mother who basically scouted for her son’s wife and packaged the chick for him, everyone was lauding the woman’s gravitas.

      Oya, dis gal has now told you how it happened in her own situation. Una no wan free her mata. NA YOU DEY MARRY HER? The bobo know as she take win am, he still follow. Can’t you all comment without being derogatory and insulting?? And yes, even if one honestly truthful Naija gal comes on here and exposes her babalawo tips for getting husband, it is STILL imperative that you comment like you’re speaking to & about other human beings. Coming on here to talk about people not needing hope when you’ve wrung out the fullness of your own hope chasing one of your own life’s dreams or the other… THE CHEEK OF YOU.

    • SNM

      August 21, 2013 at 2:08 am

      So let me get this straight, if I am praying for my mum who is sick from cancer, praying seriously too with fasting and all related things, I should rejoice because you fasted for 2 weeks and God gave you a Bugatti?
      Nobody said you shouldn’t be happy, but then the aim of sharing stuff like this is to encourage people, to help them to glorify God. Blind seeing yes, sick being healed yes, even dead coming to life I will accept. But then going to heaven, eating bread and gisting with God just to catch a man? Seriously? Totally pisses on a lot of testimonies out there. And before you say it is not a competition, praying for your sick mother for 8years cos of cancer and still have her die on you is no joke.
      I am happy for her though, however it is or however it works out. But then there are other platforms this could have come up. Putting it up here only calls for comments like mine.
      That being said, if God calls me up to heaven for a discussion, I am definitely not coming back to earth. Nah men.

    • Prime

      August 21, 2013 at 10:52 am

      @Socially awkward , FYI, I play my part for those wartorn countries, I av volunteered for refugee camps in Nigeria here and sometimes donated, And No, I av not spent money on any materialistic crap dis year bcuz der are people who need it more dan I do……

      Yl am nt doubting d foundation of dis story, d details r blah nlah, scroll to the last 2 paragraphs wer She talks bout ”A BOOK” … Am not against anytin bt wen U use ur testimony or story to promote books and profit….I’M TEARING IT DOWN Bcuz U r jst preyin on innocent minds

    • Mckay

      August 21, 2013 at 10:30 pm

      Well said dear and I admire your writing style.

  87. Ib

    August 20, 2013 at 1:01 am

    It is well

  88. Ada

    August 20, 2013 at 1:24 am

    Marriage might not be a priority for all of us out there but for those who truly desire a gud marriage,knowing and believin God dat its a life time tingy(Till death do us part),then it will be a thing of wisdom to know dat u ought to seek Gods face concerning it.The bible says “2 shall become 1”,one in spirit,body n soul…Wat kinda man or woman do u wanna be cleaved to?#food for thought#.Ur choice of a life partner goes a long way in determining how certains tins in ur life will turn out.Sm pple hv lost their minds,sanity,self worth and hv even died just becos they married d wrong guy/lady…To cut d long story short,d take home lesson from dis is dat u cn use ur faith for jus about anytin(gettin a job,business ideas,financial breakthrough, a spouse,a child,healing etc etc,just think up watsoever u desire).Anytin is possible to him dat believeth…Faith is d title deed,the assurance of tins hope for,even wen hope is against hope,Faith always says,YES,I GAT IT.Congrats to d writer n her boo.Together,they wud weather the storms,shut d mouth of lions and win nations of people into Gods kingdom.

  89. gemma

    August 20, 2013 at 2:56 am

    Great testimony! thanks for sharing bella Naija. The bible says that the word of God is life unto those who find it. It is a life manual, but the choice is ours to choose to believe it or not, and we have been instructed and advised to choose life, and believe the word. I absolutely understand that there are different levels of spirituality, it is GOD who promotes us, he knows what we can handle and what we cant. You may be a powerful christian and still not experience such probably because it will scare you (I dont know), God knows best. It takes the powerful grace of God for a young lady to share this story on a blog like this, regardless of the criticism she knew she would receive. This is still her working for God, for we have been instructed in His word to testify of his goodness, and give Him praise (Mark 5: 18-20) ….”As he was getting into the boat, the man who had been possessed with demons begged him that he might be with him. 19 And he did not permit him but said to him, “Go home to your friends and tell them how much the Lord has done for you, and how he has had mercy on you.” 20 And he went away and began to proclaim in the Decapolis how much Jesus had done for him, and everyone marveled. .”
    When God instructs you to testify of His goodness, love, mercy and supremacy, you can’t say no, because you do not want your muslim in-laws to get hurt. Remember, 1 Samuel 15: 22, …Samuel said, “Has the LORD as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, And to heed than the fat of rams.”
    May God’s glory continue to manifest in your life Lola Akindele.

    Lastly, we are all different, with different dreams at different points in our lives, Miss T’s dream might be to become a mother of 3 at the age of 30, and Miss D’s might be to become a female airline captain at the age of 30. We have no right to judge the dreams of people we did not create, it’s between them and their creator, GOD. There is absolutely nothing wrong with desiring and praying for marriage at 24.
    Be at peace with God, and live right.

    • This story thrilled me

      August 20, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      This is the best comment so far to me.

    • naijawife

      August 20, 2013 at 4:41 pm

      Yes. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a mother of 3 by 30…and wanting to be a pilot by 30. Both decisions are honorable…it’s just that the intensity of her desire has given some people pause…the bible does say there’s a season for everything. I’d be a little worried if my 20 yr old daughter did nothing but pray and fast about being a pilot, same way i’d be worried if my 20yr old daughter did nothing but pray and fast for a husband.

    • SNM

      August 21, 2013 at 2:12 am

      So let me get this straight, if I am praying for my mum who is sick from cancer, praying seriously too with fasting and all related things, I should rejoice because you fasted for 2 weeks and God gave you a Bugatti?
      Nobody said you shouldn’t be happy, but then the aim of sharing stuff like this is to encourage people, to help them to glorify God. Blind seeing yes, sick being healed yes, even dead coming to life I will accept. But then going to heaven, eating bread and gisting with God just to catch a man? Seriously? Totally pisses on a lot of testimonies out there. And before you say it is not a competition, praying for your sick mother for 8years cos of cancer and still have her die on you is no joke.
      I am happy for her though, however it is or however it works out. But then there are other platforms this could have come up. Putting it up here only calls for comments like mine.
      That being said, if God calls me up to heaven for a discussion, I am definitely not coming back to earth. Nah men.

    • SNM

      August 21, 2013 at 2:15 am

      There is nothing wrong true,, But there is everything wrong with going out to testify about this desire and wish of yours or it’s fulfilment to 45year old women who have had 4 miscarriages and no children on the way 45. Anyways, I don’t even know how to use this platform, keep leaving multiple comments.

      Hope BN deletes the multiples.

  90. timiNY

    August 20, 2013 at 3:41 am

    This is all from an author and I know its fictitious. Not so hard to discern. Time to write a book on marriage. E go too sell for Naija where all our women care about is getting married and nothing else…shior.

  91. hafsa

    August 20, 2013 at 5:55 am

    I’m truly dissapointed at BN for being so inconsiderate as to post the above which is quite offensive to muslims like me as “Lola” is trying to say that we have been led astray and what not. And I strongly doubt the honesty in this story! But I respect her beliefs, hence I will not go and fast for her conversion.

  92. Sparkling2013

    August 20, 2013 at 7:06 am

    It’s the devils incarnate here that are doubting her story. May God deliver you all. If you know the bible well, you would know that we are encouraged to pray without ceasing and to pray for everything we want God to fulfill in our lives. Like our moms used to say, “if you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything at all” In my own words, shut the f$&@ up!!!!!

    • nomad

      August 20, 2013 at 12:41 pm

      LOL! thst’s how Naija pastors fleece all of you una and buy aeroplane with your hard earned cash. Because someone is questioning her story and pointing out issues with it, they are devil incarnate. I need someone to write a story of murdering someone and fill it with ati Jesus etc etc and watch all the Nigerian sheep EAT IT UP and ask for more.

    • jcsgrl

      August 20, 2013 at 1:29 pm

      Ah brethren dont rebuke people and curse at the same time naa…lol

    • koin

      August 21, 2013 at 1:46 am

      My dear sparkling2013 How can you mention devils incarnate, shut the f*** up and God in the same sentence. My dear out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, your ways no too pure.

    • Mariaah

      August 21, 2013 at 2:57 pm

      Me sef wonder oo..

    • Sparkling2013

      August 22, 2013 at 7:29 am

      It wasn’t in the same sentence….abi did u fail English
      when u dd jamb??

  93. Coco Chaneel

    August 20, 2013 at 8:19 am

    This is an amazing story and I wish the Bride and thee groom all the best in their matrimonial journey. However, this story seems to portray God as one-sided and also portray christianity to be the only recognized and superior religion. Why did she have to convert him? Isn’t it the same God we christians and muslims serve? But in different manners. My neighbours have been married for 28 years and get this, the woman is catholic and her husband a muslim and their marriage has been peaceful and successful thus far. This story is quite a sensitive one. I wouldn’t want to commit blashphemy as God’s ways are not our ways so if she says God up lifted her into the heavens who am I to contest her testimony.

    • Sophie

      August 20, 2013 at 2:51 pm

      Maybe God is one-sided to his children. Dont forget God called out Abraham out of the numerous people on earth at that time and told him of his plans for his generation. Right from the beginning, the people of Isreal have been separated unto God as a chosen race, a specia; people. And now the bible calls christians a chosen generation, a peculiar people, a holy nation chosen to show forth the praises of God!

  94. Diya

    August 20, 2013 at 9:05 am

    @e-voice, please educate me. What does “spiritual decorum and humility mean”? I don’t understand it. What does humility have to do with sharing her story on BN{which by the way WOULD HAVE TAKEN GUTS} If the lord has done something for you, Why not SCREAM it out loud for the whole world to hear? Just because its not the norm, should that stop this girl?
    So just because this girl’s story doesn’t involve “Being proposed to with a Range Evoque or Being proposed to at Venice or wait.. wait…meeting at a party, going to a mutual friend’s dinner, etc and all the regular ways of meeting” , there’s a problem?
    Why must we castigate what we don’t understand or haven’t experienced? Haven’t you guys heard about Cornelius and how God took his matter personally even though he was a God fearing man? He still wasn’t saved! How much more this Dayo who is a muslim?{ lets face it, there’s a fundamental difference between the two religions}.
    And for the ones saying BN why did you put this up-My answer to you is do you have a stake here? Let the girl tell the world her love story like others have done before her.
    And to the people that think marriage is too insignificant an event to focus so much attention on, you guys should go and look for your OWN story e.g eradicating poverty, catching corrupt officials, looking for a cure for AIDS and what-not. Then maybe, just maybe you will become a subject of DISCOURSE someday.

  95. Elena Williams

    August 20, 2013 at 9:09 am

    What I like about this story – the fact that Lola vowed to remain chaste before marriage – and tells us that she stuck to this vow. How many people are truly practicing what their faiths teach? How many politicians are remaining true to their promises? How many pastors are practicing what they preach? In a world where words and deeds often differ – sex before marriage, adultery and many illicit activities are becoming more commonly practiced, it is inspiring to see a young woman who describes remaining true to her beliefs. The fact that Lola speaks openly about this is inspiring and encouraging for others, who are also striving to follow the same path. I appreciate the fact that she is encouraging others to stay true to their beliefs and principles, to put God first and not to bow to pressure from others to engage in premarital sex. “Let deeds, not words, be your adorning.”

    What I don’t like about the story – the way Lola has written off a whole faith, Islam, judged Moslems to be far from God and informed us that being Christian is the only way to be pleasing to God. How do we know this to be true? Where is the biblical evidence?

    The Bible tells us not to judge others (Matthew 7:1), that it is God alone who can judge and that there are many rooms in our Father’s house (John 14:2). We are also informed that in order to enter the Kingdom of God we must be humble as little children (Matthew 18:4). We are told that the words are sealed up until the end (Daniel 12:9) when they will be unsealed by God Himself, that we currently see through a glass darkly (1 Corinthians 13:12) but that when He comes again, we will be able to see all truth.

    The Bible also informs us that faith without works is dead:

    “What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds?… faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.” (James 2:14, 17)

    “You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone.” (James 2:24)

    “Whoever says, “I know him,” but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person.” (1 John 2:4)

    Here is an interesting commentary on the relationship between faith and deeds from a Christian perspective. Apparently some so-called Christians are even committing armed robbery:

    My point is that we cannot judge others, let alone a whole faith, because God’s thoughts are not like ours. It is God alone Who knows the depth and sincerity of our faith and the validity or otherwise of our deeds.

    Another issue to consider is that there are a great number of different churches in existence, with teachings which differ one from another. Many of them assert that it is they alone who can offer salvation, while members of other churches are all “going to hell”. So if, as Lola states, Christianity is the only way to God, then which church should one follow? There is certainly a lot of confusion out there…

    We also know that when Jesus returns, there will be one flock and one shepherd and that He will pick from other folds, so who are we to judge these other folds and their members (John 10:16).

    I like these quotations from Bahá’u’lláh, Prophet Founder of the Baha’i Faith:

    “There can be no doubt whatever that the peoples of the world, of whatever race or religion, derive their inspiration from one heavenly Source, and are the subjects of one God.”

    “So powerful is the light of unity, that it can illuminate the whole earth.”

    “The earth is but one country and mankind its citizens.”

    I believe that most times religion is an accident of birth. We follow the religion we do because we happen to have been born in a particular family and/or part of the world.

    I am a Baha’i. I was raised Christian, but became confused about all the different churches and religions and prayed for God to reveal the truth to me. As a Baha’i I believe that we are all children and servants of the same God, one family under God. I respect the different religions and would never seek to condemn someone due to their faith. The Baha’i Faith teaches the oneness of God, the oneness of religion and the oneness of mankind. I believe that we should respect all people, never judge others and strive to humble ourselves before God. I also believe that the Bible teaches these principles.

    “The well-being of mankind, its peace and security are unattainable unless and until its unity is firmly established.” Baha’i writings

    “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” (Matthew 5:9)

    • Uche

      August 22, 2013 at 4:43 pm

      Nawa. You follow Lola sabi write oh :). Sensible post though…

    • The TRUTH

      October 16, 2014 at 4:32 pm

      As someone mentioned earlier Cornelius was a good man, helped the poor and prayed regularly yet HE WAS NOT SAVED and God had to send Peter to save him & his household please read Acts 10…. Men would only be saved when they believe in their hearts and confess with their mouth THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD Roman 10:6-12!
      On which church to join, the word of God says we should look unto Christ the author and finisher of our faith Hebrews 12:2! Not unto man because men would be men and God would be God, men have their limitations. Please check out Hebrews 4. So know the word of God for yourself and you would be led by the holy spirit… you would know what is right from wrong. God should be our standard and role model not man! Note that that why Jesus Christ had to come because MAN COULD NOT SAVE MAN!
      Note that Jesus Christ is not and would never be in competition with any person, god, deity or sect whether you believe in Him or not it doesn’t diminish who He is. It’s for your own good and in your own interest if you do!

    • The TRUTH

      October 17, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      Unfortunately, you don’t seem to know the bible well enough…
      Jesus Christ said “I am the way the truth and the life, no man cometh unto the Father, but by me” John 14:6. Please read up Acts 4:10-12; All men would only be saved by the name of Jesus Christ which is above all other names as written in Philippians 2:9. No other person died and resurrected for the world, He- Jesus Christ is the Lamb of God that took away the sins of the world.
      As someone mentioned earlier Cornelius was a good man, helped the poor and prayed regularly yet HE WAS NOT SAVED and God had to send Peter to save him & his household please read Acts 10…. Men would only be saved when they believe in their hearts and confess with their mouth THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD Roman 10:6-12!
      On which church to join, the word of God says we should look unto Christ the author and finisher of our faith Hebrews 12:2! Not unto man because men would be men and God would be God, men have their limitations. Please check out Hebrews 4. So know the word of God for yourself and you would be led by the holy spirit… you would know what is right from wrong. God should be our standard and role model not man! Note that that why Jesus Christ had to come because MAN COULD NOT SAVE MAN!
      Note that Jesus Christ is not and would never be in competition with any person, god, deity or sect whether you believe in Him or not it doesn’t diminish who He is. It’s for your own good and in your own interest if you do!

  96. tsn

    August 20, 2013 at 9:16 am

    We are creatures of thought and reason. We think we are thorough and give enough reason to why we do things the way we do them.
    Our fabric is essentially that of a selfish motive “unless” love, which conquers all, is “allowed” in.
    This I know, no man can understand why God does what He does. For instance, in the whole life time of Isaiah, God spoke to him only in 66 Chapters. I know this for sure, God is not a talkative.
    It could be true that God spoke to her constantly for 2years everyday but what I can also be sure about is that, you cannot see God, neither can you be transported to Heaven everyday and be thinking only about a man.
    Nevertheless, God’s ways are perfect and thus, “Let God be true and every man be a liar’.
    If her testimony can’t be proved by the bible, then unfortunately, she may have to re-evaluate her testimony.
    God is faithful and just to bring His word to fruition. Let no man “help” or “suggest” for Him.
    Finally, “Be not deceived, for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap”.
    This statement first includes me and those who will first take out the mote in their brothers’ eyes before taking out the log of wood in their own eyes.
    May we have true (and holy, proof-backed) experiential testimonies to back our claims.

  97. madman

    August 20, 2013 at 9:21 am

    She think she automatically becomes a mentor now because she’s married? So, she never saw herself as a mentor prior to being married. Why is the essence of her identity and being, wrapped up in being married? Is that her only purpose on earth? It’s even more problematic if that’s the case. I have to agree with some of the posters here that the writer is indeed deluded.

  98. Marta M

    August 20, 2013 at 9:25 am

    your story is amazing girls. I am a christian girl believing in no sex before the marriage how can i get in contact with you?

  99. sh

    August 20, 2013 at 9:28 am

    i don’t think articles like thing should be in bella naija a website where Christians and Muslims visit. i am a christian and i know Muslims that are very kind, trustful and caring. Does it mean they will not go to heaven when they die?
    do you know that there are bad Christians very bad Christians does it mean they will make heaven? the answer is obviously No. Articles like this should not be put up in a neutral website like this.

    we want to read things that will bring us, the young people together and not the ones that will further divide us.

  100. Yemzy

    August 20, 2013 at 10:24 am

    Someone’s comment is missing here!!! Mz socially awkward where are thou?

  101. MEEEE

    August 20, 2013 at 10:44 am

    This article has no business here! Maybe a Christian website but not here. Knowing how religious issues can be controversial I would have assumed BN would be diplomatic.

    Whether or not I believe the story doesn’t take the experience away from her if its true, but this is not the place to share knowing how sensitive religion is to us. I am a Christian, the Bible in many places talks about sharing your faith with wisdom, this one is not wise putting yourself out there for criticism then say its for righteousness sake I am sure.

    Your man is a Christian now spend more time fasting that he goes stronger, not sending emails to blogs.

  102. Maritlc

    August 20, 2013 at 10:44 am

    I quote..”After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me various things about what would happen in my life in the future, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I…angel giving bread etc”….

    OMG like seriously??? Am a 24 yr old virgin and a firm believer in God, Anyone can come up with Lola’s testimony but what amaze me most how naive and gullible people are. One can understand/belief if she said God spoke to her and reveled signs everyday for 2years, but SEEING GOD sand TRANSPORTED TO Heaven EVERYDAY only to be disscussing one persons life with a man??????? Abegi!! This testimony surely cant be proved by the bible, God is watching us all……..

  103. Okechukwu Ofili

    August 20, 2013 at 10:53 am

    This has to be a nollywood blockbuster script!

  104. Hungry

    August 20, 2013 at 11:15 am

    never commented on this website but just couldn’t resist!

    Angel in white appearing at night? Puh-lease. Calling that a cliche would be an insult to the word. Cartoonish, at best!
    Read the last bit in a hurry. Such was my rush to finish reading this load of crap and comment. So did Dayo actually convert? Or did she cave in and marry him, hoping that his ‘salvation’ would come after they were wed?
    Sha, this reeks of lies/hallucination/vivid imagination. Methinks someone wanted to sell tonnes of books and embellished her story.
    BTW, where’s my loaf of bread? I’m hungry. *rolls eyes*

  105. Omo1

    August 20, 2013 at 11:58 am

    This story reminds me of a movie I saw some time ago where a young lady was desperately in need of a mother’s love (a mother who has died long ago) and every night in her sleep because she has dreamt so much of being with her mum, she actually gets transformed into this fairy tale world where everything seems so perfect and she gets to meet, play and dine with her mom. This went on for years and she actually tells her friend about her mom and all like she was alive..until an incident when it was discovered it was all in her disillusion of the whole matter. Sad story, but even in reality, she refused to believe otherwise.

    This kind of reminds me of that story. I really do no want to say its all made up, cos I do not believe it..but I’m really scared for this lady (honestly). I just hope its not all in her head. I am a full practicing christian..and God’s ways are direct…he doesn’t have to carry you around to fly over seven seas like some Sinbad movie to get his will accomplished! Its all in His word.

    True, God works in certain ways..and i totally agree in fasting and praying to get His will accomplished in our lives..but this visitation every night and being fed by Angels..permit me to disagree!

    And please this is my one has to agree or disagree to it. Sometimes I just get sick of Nigerians hypocritical, religious fanatical sentiments.

  106. Not sure what to believe..

    August 20, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    Her instagram account confuses me.

    • curios

      August 20, 2013 at 2:59 pm

      WhAt IsHer Instagram Id

    • Miss_nkem

      August 21, 2013 at 12:35 pm

      Her Instagram is @missakindele

  107. Dr - to be

    August 20, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    I am a 25 year old, female, Nigerian, Muslim and something about this article doesn’t rest with me (I won’t go as far as saying offended). I would love to hear Dayo’s story. Often being brought up in a particular faith doesn’t mean we truly understand it. I wonder if he took as much effort into researching Islam as he did Christianity before his ‘salvation’. Also did Lola ever consider Dayo’s upbringing as a Muslim made him the man she wanted to marry (the one who didn’t seek sex from her, as well as owning many other traits and characteristics she didn’t elaborate on).

    So much more I would like to say but I will stop here. Allah teaches me not to judge and to show the upmost of respect and love for my Christian and Jewish brothers and sisters.

    • Okechukwu Ofili

      August 20, 2013 at 2:14 pm

      good point.

    • ...

      August 20, 2013 at 3:59 pm

      Well said Dr – to be, I believe it was Dayo’s faith in Islam that made him abstain from sex and also him respecting her beliefs. One thing I know about Islam is that muslims don’t force people to convert. They allow you to convert on your own freewill, Muslims accommodate all religions (don’t use the wars to judge). I am not trying to preach, but I also want to hear Dayo’s part. My utmost belief is that when Muslims convert to another religion is because they are lazy to pray 5 times daily.

    • CarliforniaBawler

      August 21, 2013 at 5:47 am

      “My utmost belief is that when Muslims convert to another religion is because they are lazy to pray 5 times daily……”
      lol 🙂 Its very convenient to believe that…
      FYI though, Christians are instructed to ‘pray without ceasing’ (continuously, all day ,everyday), buddhist meditate for several hours, Hindus not only meditate, they even do yoga i.e. physical exercise while at it…. Trust me sometimes I wish Christ gave us the number of times to pray and all that routine, at least you would know when you have fulfilled your righteousness abi? However, I still wouldn’t trade that for my spirit continuously communing with the spirit of the Lord all day sha…
      Anyways, I’d rather go with what the original comment went with, people convert when they do not know much about or are not well grounded in the original religion they were raised in….

    • D

      August 20, 2013 at 4:45 pm

      God bless you!

  108. Enkay

    August 20, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    I am blessed with this testimony.God is awesome .i key into
    it.our God never fails and what he says he will do ,he will do it
    .all we need to do is seek him(the kingdom of God)and every other
    thing will be added onto us. That applies in every area of our
    life’s we are facing problems or difficulty.

  109. Dr jay

    August 20, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    I read this story, it’s really loaded with a lot of things, some too delicate and others too complicated. I got my own message from it, simple finish. I didn’t sit to criticize every sentence. I took my message n left. Maybe some of you should try that.

    • Lade

      August 20, 2013 at 12:55 pm

      why? Should all of us do the same thing as you. Abeg commot. People like this should be criticised before someone else will send something else to BN saying she is pregnant with The Holy Spirit after 9years of no children or something

    • Curiousjill

      August 20, 2013 at 4:50 pm

      Stay tuned . That blockbuster is coming to BN this fall. Lol

  110. Yvonne

    August 20, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    Mehn my only issue with this story is the fact that God
    brings her to heaven at 3am EVERYNIGHT for 2 years and she didn’t
    beg Him to let her stay there!?!?!……what else am i looking for
    on earth if i have seen Heaven?!

  111. pee

    August 20, 2013 at 1:22 pm

    smh for zsa zsa and co. u say u r a Christian but u don’t kno d first thing abt salvation. read ur Bible. there’s no salvation outside Jesus. He said “I am the way, the truth and the life, no one comes unto the father except through me”. even the popular john 3:16 is self explanatory. There’s no salvation without believing in Jesus, the son of God.

    • ...

      August 20, 2013 at 4:03 pm

      But didn’t the same Jesus say he has died for all our sins? Why are there so much complications in the Christain religion? How is Jesus the way to God? That is why so many people give their life’s to their pastors because they believe they are the way to God.
      Every man for himself on judgment day! So people should stop deluding themselves with some religious beliefs.

    • zsa zsa

      August 20, 2013 at 9:02 pm

      Yes the bible does say that no need to tutor us on salvation.
      Do you bother to spare a thought for the next person who does not share the same beliefs? the jews, muslims, krishnas, hindus, buddhist….these are all peace loving religions or ways of life and God created us all abi? ever wondered what their holy books tell them? perhaps that THEIRS is the only way to salvation….so at the end of the day whose right or wrong?
      Is that how you turn up your nose at people of other faiths? Lets learn to love and respect one another and the next persons beliefs. I cannot imagine having a jewish or muslim friend …and i mean a true friend and all the while i am thinking they are hell bound ‘cos they are not christian.
      Spare a thought….

  112. debby elias

    August 20, 2013 at 1:41 pm

    dont understand how, a person can be TRANSPORTED to heaven, seeing the splendor, glory of heaven, and the only thing you can talk about in heaven is dayo. where the Angels, 24 Elders and saint constantly praise and worship God, ‘i will enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise’ yet lola entered and could talk of only Dayo. hhhmmmnn i find it hard to understand.

  113. aleesha

    August 20, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    Sigh… somehow, the comments on this story have degenerated into a heated discussion on religion. If a person would rather marry someone who is practicing the same religion as them, does that automatically make them a bigot? As for those who are calling her deluded and saying she needs help because they do not agree with her, that is really rude! she did share her story on a public forum, but that doesn’t mean you have to be disrespectful while stating your opinion. Hell, you don’t even have to have an opinion on every single issue sef.

    • TheAgnostic1

      August 20, 2013 at 2:22 pm

      So why do you have an opinion about our opinions? I am confused here.

    • naijawife

      August 20, 2013 at 4:47 pm

      agreed. wanting to marry someone of the same religion does not make you a bigot

  114. CC

    August 20, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    Am i the only one who thinks the bride’s nightly trips to heaven are an euphemism for an orgasm and she’s being modest?

    • ...

      August 20, 2013 at 4:06 pm

      This got me rolling… I was going to say so also.

    • Marie

      August 21, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      I think we know what she’s referring to here “I was so afraid and I could feel a strange sensation surging through my body that would cause me to shake, like my whole body was vibrating and shock waves were going through me but at the same time it was a beautiful feeling.” Very beautiful feeling indeed. Lmaooo

  115. Nawa4nkem

    August 20, 2013 at 3:31 pm

    Chai. Una finish this girl o…….lol

    Errrrm she has a phd coming up Biko Dant dampen her spirit already. LWSMD

  116. Jojo

    August 20, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    Where was the fire!!! @24??? good luck to you both

  117. ichigo

    August 20, 2013 at 3:57 pm

    my point exactly…I’m in heaven then because of spouse I’ll now come back to earth…hiss

  118. Blessmyheart

    August 20, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    I think we’re all missing an important part ,”After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me VARIOUS THINGS ABOUT WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IN MY LIFE IN THE FUTURE, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I”. So the discussions were not just about the guy.

    Some parts of the write up may sound incredible but I know God works in mysterious ways and He knows all things.

    What I don’t understand is people saying they are ‘strong’ christians but still go ahead to show disbelief or disagreement with certain biblical principles.

    • Anonnie

      August 20, 2013 at 5:48 pm

      Exactly. Why claim to be a “STRONG” christian and then say things that clearly show you’re not. If they had any real understanding of the bible they would kmow that God wants to be involved in all areas of our lives.

  119. headboy

    August 20, 2013 at 4:24 pm

    this lady has a PhD in creative writing, I suspect her story to be that , a very creative write up.If the testimony were shared in church I would have had a tinge of doubt still. But right here I’m fully in doubt!

  120. island peeps

    August 20, 2013 at 4:34 pm

    Holy spirit get bakery? what kind of bread was it please Agege bread or Grand square bread @Just before my 25th birthday last year, an angel came to my bedside, bringing a loaf of bread for me to eat.

    • Blessmyheart

      August 21, 2013 at 11:33 am

      Please read your bible, I’m assuming you are a Christian. There are various accounts accounts of God/angels feeding people, e.g Elijah. Also, don’t forget the literal manna from heaven.

  121. ego

    August 20, 2013 at 4:59 pm

    Bollocks! Think the writer needs to seek serious mental and spiritual deliverance. She is seeing things and is definitely not psychologically balanced. Apart from the religious bigotry she’s displayed, there’s nothing to substantiate her meetings with God and visitations to heaven. What manner of madness is this? People especially Christians should please stop these elaborate lies about seeing God and heaven, as it is contrary to what we are told in the Bible.
    Finally, it is my humble opinion that these two will struggle with sex in their marriage as it is obvious that her spouse must have been shagging other women or masturbating throughout their no-sex relationship plus this writer will most likely be busy hallucinating and visiting heaven during the period she ought to be making love to her man. I hope it lasts and more importantly hope she gets the medical help she so desperately needs.

  122. EeJay

    August 20, 2013 at 5:04 pm

    Yvonne – my thoughts exactly… why not just remain I heaven biko?

  123. T.

    August 20, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    You were told about your life for two years every night? And some occurrences still surprised you? Ah! Ah! egbami o. Every night for two years? at 3 am? Ah! Ah! pelu bread?

  124. y pearl

    August 20, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    Dear lola u re such a liar !liar of Africa .may God foe forgivee u sha n save save. That innocent can people just read this with clear mind n still not see d big big lies.if u were really that connected to God y can’t u cry to God abwt d problems of the world or even tthe problems in nigeria sef.lord have mercy!

  125. StephenGrace

    August 20, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    My God richly bless you even more; this is exactly what I needed to hear. It couldn’t have come at a better time. May God also help those gone astray retrace their steps unto the path God has fashioned out for us all. Amen!

  126. A Christian

    August 20, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    I find her story perfectly normal and consistent as far as biblical stories go and I wish her a happy married life.
    As for the agnostics, they were there during the time of the prophets, they were there during the time of Jesus and they are here today commenting on someone’s happy story on bellanaija.
    We have all got a life to live and we will all die someday. So unless u’v died and resurrected before, your opinions and comments are not any superior than another’s.

  127. Bob Harrison

    August 20, 2013 at 6:42 pm

    You black people make me laugh loool
    Bringing Christianity to Africa during slavery is one of the best things us white men have done, black people like this woman are great, while we invade your countries and control your people you guys keep clapping and praying to a man white, blue eyes and long straight hair LOL.

    Its almost like you guys associate God with us white people, now look at all of you, religion will forever have you black people divided loool.

    • Mckay

      August 21, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      And your point dear white Bob is ?????????

  128. Mr. Will GivYuPrik

    August 20, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Wait, Wait, They took you to heaven and you did not say forget the guy abeg na here i wan dey. you chose preek over staying back in heaven? i think that bread was cassava bread you ate. Clearly, ur resolve to fight a very natural and primal process such as taking of D, has led to your hallucinations. Pls move this story to the comedy section, and use a vibrator next time if u wont take the real time, instead of spewing crap.

  129. Conatheist

    August 20, 2013 at 6:44 pm

    This woman is only trying to sell her book tbh. Smh, you nigerians believe so much bull shit. God doesn’t exist, the earlier you guys understand this the better for us all. See, these pastors have realised it that’s why they buy private jets with all your offering money. Gullible lot.

  130. Bob Harrison

    August 20, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    But seriously stop creating stories, you black folk can learn a great dealfrom us white guys, be real, and live life, religious people and mad people have one thing in common……… both have imaginary friends.

    • whiteboysaywaht

      August 26, 2013 at 10:41 am

      I suspect u r not white guy just a trouble maker. As in how many white ppl keep refering to “us white ppl”.

  131. yesmina

    August 20, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    Hold up!!! Correct me if I’m wrong. But doesn’t the bible say No man has/can see God? If it does then her entire story is false!!

    • koin

      August 21, 2013 at 1:53 am

      Help me ooh!! I am a firm believer in God but i remember clearly
      “GOD continued, “But you may NOT see my face.
      No one can see me and live.”
      (Exodus 33:20)(MSG)-BibleGateway

      “And Jehovah said unto Moses….
      Thou canst not see my face;
      for man shall not see me and live.”
      (Exodus 33:17,20)(ASV)-BibleGateway

      “God…who alone is immortal and who lives
      in unapproachable light, whom no one has seen
      or can see.”
      (1Timothy 6:15,16)(NIV)-BibleGateway

    • Blessmyheart

      August 21, 2013 at 11:42 am

      And who says she saw God face to face. Please study your bible well. God reveals Himself in diverse ways Heb 1:1.

  132. ichigo

    August 20, 2013 at 7:46 pm

    @Mz Socially Awkward now didn’t you take that personal…lmao

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 20, 2013 at 10:11 pm

      Yeah, I may have a done… Just a little. But it seriously bugs me that people would just be so quick to tear into a story like this. If there’s some baby-mama drama posted on here now about the lady who’s had kids for one half of P-Square, all I’ll be seeing is “don’t judge! did she tell you marriage is her problem?”. And I calmly jump and pass because I’m not in any position to say how they should live their lives, Lord knows I have enough issues to sort out with my God myself.

      Now this girl came all out and told her story & folk are bristling like it’s a personal attack on them or something. I’m bristling because if she decided to share her faith and how it worked for her, what is the issue here? I’ve seen people make comments on those posts to do with Genny buying a bag of £5370 & it’s all “but it’s her money, let her enjoy it”. Wizkid buys a Porsche or two & everyone is urged to hush-up, na you buy am for him? But this child talks about her faith and its all “why are you praying for marriage, why didn’t you accept him as a muslim, etc. etc”. It’s her life, wish her well or don’t wish her well but nobody and I mean nobody has any right to make her feel little. We are so cruel in the way we use our words … I just hope, as someone commented already, that she and her husband do not let any of this affect how they start a new life together.

      And this is why some chicks I know won’t even give their testimonies of getting jobs, houses etc in church, sef. You just know there’s going to be folk that use it against you (“Instead of you to be praying for husband, you’re praying for mortgage”) … Nigerians!! So very contrary.

    • Cynthia

      August 20, 2013 at 10:41 pm

      Funny how I was nodding my head to Robin Thicke’s song Blurred lines as I was reading this. Madam you are blurring the lines seriously. Mixing salt with sugar. Some people may be attacking her faith but the general consensus here if you bother to sift through and not go all gangster as if The Almighty needs you mere mortal to fight for Him is the total BS she is saying. Everyone is allowed to hold unto what they hold unto for sure like you are saying, but you can’t just nitpick that and ignore all the mountain of crap she wrote. First of all you don’t praise your faith and run down another faith. That is un Christian. I wonder how you will feel if the roles were reversed and you were Dayo’s sister and she said as you are not a muslim you are condemned. Who talks like that, who. So you are telling me that your faith tells you, scratch that confirms to you that the majority of the Asian continent is going to hell. The middle east, too they are going to hell, some parts of Africa who don’t practise Christianity they are going to hell. The Lord Who in His Infinite Wisdome, Mercy and Grace who Created those lands, those people created them to go to hell. Our Lord, the embodiment of Love cannot be that unjust. It is one thing to share your faith and lift it up, but to condemn an entire religion of people IS NOT acceptable.
      Let me now move on to the delusions of grandeur that she was talking about. If you expect people to just lap things up because “it is her faith” you yourself must be suffering from delusions. The Almighty gave us a brain and rational thought for a reason. There are enough holes in her story to sink the Titanic. Miracles happen but people tend to embellish. The embellishments on this her story will give Psych Majors material for study for 3 years. Why do people just believe anything when someone mentions Jesus and church and faith. I mean come on. You who has written many sensible comments now sounds very stupid. If this is what your faith teaches you, you need to go read your Bible again and stop drinking Kool-Aid.
      Miracles are out of this world but you know what, even in the Bible miracles are unusual almost instantaneous occurrences. How best do I explain it, read the Bible, examples are there. They are not being woken up at 3am everyday for 2 abi na 3 years and eating bread and communing with I don’t know. With all the problems in the world that people are seeking the face of The Lord for. Then He chooses one girl to take to heaven everyday and the only thing He, The King of Kings, Lord of Lords seeks to pass unto her is how to marry a man. Dayo is now more important than the billions of human beings with out multitude of problems. The Lord I worship who appointed Chosen Ones in The Bible showed them the way to lead and provide Salvation to an entire generation and did not just save one person. The Lord is not selfish. He is the embodiment of Love. Her testimony is an insult to His Grace. Olorun ku suru o.
      The end goal of all people who believe is to make heaven. This goal is higher than any other human being. Higher than your spouse, your child too. Then you get the chance to be in your ultimate destination and you come back for a man. That is what the Bible teaches you abi. But we should just believe it and rejoice with her because she has sprinkled the fairy dust of religious words that makes people’s brains just off and stop thinking. I now see why Pastors are billionaires in Nigeria. They are leading a flock of Sheep. Plus you Madam Lawyer

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      August 21, 2013 at 11:29 am

      … Cynthia, you’ve erased my point cleanly and inserted a new one. I’m not even going to address your misguided conclusion that my fight here is about God; however, I readily admit I’m fighting for this girl’s entitlement to share her story about how she wanted to marry a particular kind of man and placed her hopes on the God she believes in.

      And you believe I’m stupid because I read a story, took it as someone’s account of what happened to her and asked a whole board of commenters to stop with the insults? How very Nigerian of you. By asking people to comment a little more wholesomely, that means I’m forcing someone else’s beliefs on everyone? Read every line I wrote carefully and I stand by what I’ve said repeatedly – the personal attacks on this girl are totally uncool.

      She wanted to marry a Christian and things worked out as she planned, whether for good or whether for bad, na she get her life and na she get her marriage. I wonder why nobody is crucifying her for saying no-to-sex-before getting hitched … I mean, she really shouldn’t have convinced that boy that he doesn’t have any rights to her body before he puts a ring on it, where does she get off judging all the non-virgins out there with her sense of moral uprightness? … Do you see where I’m going with this?? Women and men have converted their spouses from Islam to Christian, from Catholic to Pentecostal, from Cele to Anglican and Christian to Islam from time immemorial, that one girl chose to write her own experience about doing it doesn’t give anyone the right to vilify her.

      And here is my point again – it is her story. HER story, you don’t have to like it, you don’t have to believe it but don’t curse her out because it is HER story. On BellaNaija, I’ve seen comments of stories of people in good marriages. I don’t throw stones at it because it is THEIR story, I wasn’t there and I can’t say otherwise. I’ve seen comments of people who were physically & sexually abused. It is THEIR story. I can’t say otherwise. I’ve seen stories upon stories upon that have been given about so many different perspectives of life. They always remain the stories of OTHERS. If biblical analogies get thrown in there, it doesn’t stop it from being ANOTHER PERSON’S story. And that’s what it remains – an account of someone else’s life. Just argue, agree or dissent without hurling abuse. Being a commenter on the internet doesn’t give anyone a self-entitlement to belittle anyone else.

      And finally, please do not sit there and claim to believe that people who practice other faiths don’t fully propagate the notion that anyone who’s not in there with them is heading for damnation. Because you are sipping on tumblers full of that Kool-aid, if I do say so myself ….

    • slice

      August 21, 2013 at 3:19 pm

      @Mz Socially Awkward, Amen to your defense of free speech. Let’s all live and let live.

  133. yesmina

    August 20, 2013 at 7:49 pm

    BN. you must post this o. please correctw if I’m wrong but doesn’t the bible say that no man can/has seem God. if so then her story is completely false

  134. Belle Dame

    August 20, 2013 at 7:51 pm

    *Sigh* SMH! On her next ‘visit’ to Heaven, She should ask God for wisdom!

    • kinkydee

      August 22, 2013 at 8:46 pm


  135. Temz

    August 20, 2013 at 8:01 pm

    There is nothing wrong with BN posting the story in my Opinion. It is their love story just as BN would post any other love story. It just happens that theirs is full of all this God sometin

  136. yesmina

    August 20, 2013 at 8:02 pm

    correct me* seen*

  137. bolu

    August 20, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    Hmmm.. Some of us pretend like marriage is not that serious, that’s people end up in bad marriages
    The second most important decision u’ll ever make in ur life after deciding where u’d spend ur eternity is deciding who to marry. Some are enduring their marriages, some have died, hopes lost.. Dreams crush. Some r happy in their marriage.
    I believe d reason its sounding a bit controversial is cos of religion.
    A true Christian won’t marry a muslim and a true muslim won’t marry a christian. if it was possible for God and nt angels to come down to assure her Himself , it isn’t wrong. Yes! Marriage is that serious.
    This is her testimony.. Y should she be judged for it?
    Good citizen, if u also seek God to give u d cure for aids He will and when He does, u’d be more popular than Lola.
    You are not desperate enough or u haven’t caught aids. Lol Someone found something that is really important to her and she acted.
    Whatever the story is, learn what u can and leave the rest. She isn’t forcing u to swallow it. This is her testimony .

  138. Angel

    August 20, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    3am? Everyday? For two years? Surge through your body??
    My daughter, I’m afraid to inform you that was no messenger of God.
    That was your spirit husband who visited you nightly and since your mother was awoken at this same time every night, I’m afraid he came along with his spirit father/ brother too (depending on your mother’s preferences). That white shiny gown you donned was your spiritual wedding dress and the surge was you having an orgasm.
    I’d advice you visit a real man of God ASAP for thorough deliverance. Don’t be scared to take your mother and the man you married along as well.

  139. Angel

    August 20, 2013 at 10:05 pm

    Notice I didn’t mention the bread? That’s because heaven only deals with manna. Manna is NOT bread. That was your spiritual wedding cake.

  140. Ore

    August 20, 2013 at 10:45 pm

    I’m sorry but babe…you are highly delusional. I am a Christian and I’ll list out my observations from your very flawed account:

    1. Not once was there any scriptural basis in your account. The Bible says God has exalted His WORD above His name. For everything the “angel” told you and “Jesus” told you, there would be a confirmation in the Word. God will not do anything without confirming it in His Word.
    2. You said you weren’t sure if God wanted you to marry your husband before or after His salvation. Going back to the Bible, it says you cannot be unequally yoked, SIMPLE. So we do know God’s views on that. So if in your vision the “angel” or “God” told you that you should go ahead and marry him, you would have? Even after you know what the Bible says?
    3. You were in Heaven for 3 years and the only thing God could talk to you about was your marriage. I don’t believe your purpose on earth is marriage. It’s much bigger than that. And it’s not as if you are 55 or something and maybe God is just compensating you (even at that, 3 years?!). Going by your story, you were 24 when this happened. For crying out loud, you were IN YOUR PRIME!
    4. The angel gave you bread? In the comfort of your room? You were not on a journey and your car broke down or you just hadn’t had food for sometime. You were on your bed and the angel brought you bread.

    Babe, instead of trying to confuse people with what Christianity is all about, kindly seek help while you still can. I suggest your husband follow suit as well.

  141. Prime

    August 21, 2013 at 12:01 am

    I was jst gonna read d comments and laff bt seein wat some people wrote here made me decide to read dis again and i learnt sumtin, THIS STORY HAS MORE HOLES DAN A FISH NET .
    I am always gonna question dt 3am time, With all d tremblings and sensation going on in your body, U stil thot of sumtin as trivial as time or u jst decided to write it down.

    And den mumsi wakes evrione up at ”3am” …… jst saying.
    Wat rily hapend at 3am in ur lihfe dt evri oda significant event has to b 3am

    I bliv U wen U say d angel of d lord visited U … ….zachariah and mary were both visited.

    Bt on ubeing taken to heaven, Puhleeeeze park well, Moses was neva taken to heaven despite him being called a friend of God. Mary, being the most important female eva, was visited by an angel and told she would give birth to the SAVIOR OF THE WORLD. Still!!!! she was neva taken to heaven for a day, nt to talk of 2 whole yrs.

    And den bread, was it leavened or unleavened? Hate to tel U bt ”IN THE BEGINNING WAS THE WORD AND THE WORD WAS WITH GOD AND THE WORD WAS GOD, AND THE WORD WAS MADE FLESH …..” Need I go on? Itz nt bread ….The word of the lord is God and the onli book dt can bring us closer to Him is the bible, again not bread. That was all You needed, reading ur buble and prayin for God’s strength, and waitun for ur dead greatgrandmother to give u bread and egg.

    The Angel gae U bread tellin U it wuld get U thru dt low point in d 2yrs wait but U stil cried afta Daddy rejected Dayo at first, questionin God, Why? Evn afta recieving his assurances wen all U shld av done is prayd and believed dt God’s will b ultimately b done in ur life bcuz God said dat a word from him will not return bak until it has been fuffilled, so y culdnt U jst blic and nt question God.

    N puttin ur tter in psalm 27, dyu mean to tell me dt if I put it in Mathew 6, wer in verse 33 dat says seek ye first God’s kingdom and his righteous ………. or chapter 7 dat sayz Ask and it shall b give, huh?

    Just bcuz U say a sentence and U put Jesus Christ in it doent mean I ll gobble it up lyk sum pple on here

    I culd go on poking holes in ur story bcuz itz overexaggerrated, and dtz d problem wit human writing.
    Bt i found out Y u had to at d endin here
    ” the
    ability this year, to complete and publish my
    first book “Papa’s LITTLE Girls”, ”
    Itz all promotion bcuz y else wuld U talk bout a book dat U ll sell for profit, afta sharing testimony of God’s goodness dat is free for all willing to seek it.

    Daddy’s little Girls….. wat of d men, R we not in need of God’s love as we navigate relationship wit d opposite sex?

    Researching relationship btwin God n his daughters and their focus on opposite sex? Wow!!!! JUST WOW!!!!!!
    U jst discovered derz a market for desperate single ladies and U wanna tap into it.

    Dis wasnt a wedding story or testimony. DIS WAS A PROMOTION FOR HER BOOK.
    N dis story was a prologue

    • Omo1

      August 21, 2013 at 12:15 pm

      Even Mary that God used to accomplish a major accomplishment of His will to mankind (bringing God’s son into the world) did not get all this nightly visits to God..of all the prophets in times past that God used to accomplish things pertaining to His will and much more relevant to mankind (and not one 24 year old girl desperately seeking a husband), God used a messenger, an Angel to deliver His message and that was it!

      It is clear in the Bible that God uses His Angels to deliver messages and carry out His will. And the Bible CLEARLY states (this fact should not be disputed by any man) that nobody can see God, and besides, no man shall see God and live..or do you want to say that God suddenly changed all that just to accommodate your fleshly desires which is of the least importance to mankind?! In my opinion this is blasphemy of the highest order!

    • cocoberrie

      August 21, 2013 at 5:52 pm


    • Prime

      August 21, 2013 at 7:13 pm

      Am not one to blast people bt it looks like It took u 30mins to painstakingly type that out in caps and den show someone else to proofread.
      I dnt av any issue wit her story , I could av read it and left but then using it as promo for her book.
      STFU!!!!!! Ur father didnt invent English so I ll use it howeva I want.

  142. Iris

    August 21, 2013 at 1:37 am

    My issue here is not with this woman’s story. It would be hypocritical of me to say it wouldn’t be easier if people of the same religion got married and especially if religion is something that’s important to you. I am a Christian, it is important to me, and I want to marry a Christian. Let’s even say we’ll put aside other points that have already been mentioned about how his Muslim upbringing may be what made him the man she wants to marry. What I cannot believe is that this was published in a country that is already so polemic on issues such as this and is already battling religious intolerance. Yes there’s freedom of expression and you can speak your mind out in public or if you own your own blog or whatever, but on a moderated platform that caters to a religiously diverse crowd this is just wrong. Just imagine if it had been a post about an Igbo girl who prayed that her boyfriend would adopt Igbo practices and be less Yoruba or something. It’s not exactly the same thing but the requirements are the same. Then let’s take it a step further and say you had a Muslim reader who was truly happy and wanted to share her testimony about how a boy converted to Islam for her. You all would be happy for her I’m sure but if her story was told like this, seriously expressing the lengths to which she has gone to not marry a Muslim husband like it’s a sentence from hell, tons of Christians would find it offensive. Again there is nothing wrong with wanting that, but if you have a social media platform meant for a wide group of people, then I’m sorry BN this was a bit unprofessional. Whether or not you choose to post this (and I assume you’ll be professional and do so) I know you’ve sha read it. My two cents

  143. Nike

    August 21, 2013 at 1:37 am

    LOL. That babe is delusional to put it kindly.
    BTW they are not yet married o. They are still wedding planning
    It is well

  144. coco

    August 21, 2013 at 4:00 am

    I know this is a blog and all, and we are all just stating our opinions. At the end of the day, its her story that she was brave enough to share. You don’t have to dwell deeply on it. Add your two cents, and keep it moving. But to doubt her faith is very shallow of you, and you should really thing before you type, because GOD is real. She will not be the only one to be visited by an angel or the holy spirit. It happens ALL the time to people deeply rooted in christ, and as well as pastors. Most your you people doubting her story and calling it delusions, are probably a result of a broken marriage, single, bitter and jealous woman, or someone who is willing to just settle for whatever Tom, Dick or Harry that buys them a happy meal. The point is she is happy with her husband. The way it happened may not be “normal” to you, but that doesn’t mean it didnt happen that way. God have mercy on all your souls.

    • oh

      August 22, 2013 at 11:08 pm

      oh! so becos i doubt i story, im single, bitter and from a broken family, desperate to marry any tom, dick and harry? im totally getting u

  145. Annon

    August 21, 2013 at 4:02 am

    WOW! Nice write up, and i have learnt alot from it. Thanks Aunty Bella for posting this… BTW, Visit my blog for Relationship/Marriage tips & Advice, motivating articles, Events, Celebrity gossips, Lifestyle, etc.

  146. cocoberrie

    August 21, 2013 at 4:11 am


    Sigh, I’m sure when bella uploaded this article, she had the intentions of possible giving you lonely, and confused women hope that you can all find the men of your dreams. It is very clear that all you people commenting, dont seek God’s face when trying to find your man. The fact that he bought you designer merchandise, does NOT mean he’s the one boo boo. You actually have to pray about it than just sit there and talk about it.

    You all are saying “is marriage the only thing she can take to the lord in prayer.” So because she has opened up to you all about this one issue in her life, she also has to list in detail other pressing matters shes been praying about? Ummm NO! she doesnt have to!! Im sure she has other problems like all christians do, but they are probably not priority in her prayer points. And sure shes praying about the other issues.

    Her story may not be normal to you all, but it is not your place to say demeaning things. she can read your comments. some of you need to seek help. shes happy and youre all miserable.

    I wish you two the best of luck in your marriage. Continue to keep God first as you have always done. You give believers like me faith that God actually hears and answers our prayers, no matter the prayer.


  147. Posh

    August 21, 2013 at 10:07 am

    very controversial lady @missakindele her instagram account! the nose piercing ! lips sealed

  148. JUMMIE

    August 21, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    God oh,it’s been a while I laughed so hard.These comments are so funny

  149. Onondje bathsheba

    August 21, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    we tin Kate Middleton com do now lol at all the comments may God help us all

  150. Ade

    August 21, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    In this long story you failed to mention your first encounter/experimentation with PCP

  151. Marta M

    August 21, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    too much passion in our discussion here the most important is done they are married and Dayo is saved! Praise the Lord!

  152. Mrs Charming

    August 21, 2013 at 2:07 pm

    wat are all of u talking about?! can any of you explain God? Miss Agnostic, my dear you sound bitter. have u had a terrible experience? maybe u can share it here and BN readers wud help. How God relates to each His children is solely His business! u cant box Him into your own view on how we should relate to him and for Pete’s sake Christianity is not a religion, it is a way of life and her experience testifies that. The young woman had a one on one relationship with God her Father which you will never understand. Stop criticizing wat you dont know and wat deep down in ur mind you are craving for. As for her not telling us other conversations that she and the LORD had in heaven, could it be that it is none of our business? and maybe it is not relevant to the testimony at hand. Stop all these nonsense belittling of someone’s views and then wen some like Mz Socially awkward opposes you it becomes a war. God loves everyone and Jesus died for everyone but i would point out this, if ANY (that includes those that know Christianity as a religion, Muslims, Buddhist etc) one refuses to accept the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross then he/she is not a member of God’s family. read ur bible. True children of God are advised not to be equally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14 and that was what the young lady was talking about! you were down right insulting her and mocking her and even her family. stop that!

    • jemmy

      August 22, 2013 at 7:25 pm

      This is the only sane comment on this forum. It’s her life, her experience, her testimony, if anyone’s got a problem with it, tough!

  153. Faith

    August 21, 2013 at 2:11 pm

    All of you sitting there judging and insulting this girl for writing her testimony clearly have never had a personal encounter with God and know nothing about the fear of God. If you feared God, you wouldn’t be so judgemental on something you can neither prove nor disprove. What if these things really did happen? Who made any of you God to know whether or not they could or could not have happened? You all make me sick. Your ignorance is appalling. Especially the ones that call themselves “Christians”- Shame on you!!!

  154. That_guy

    August 21, 2013 at 2:48 pm

    “ After this, for the next two years, every
    night at 3 am , I would be awoken by the Holy
    Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would
    spend time with the Lord and He would tell
    me various things about what would happen
    in my life in the future , as well as about the
    relationship that he had planned for Dayo
    and I. ” ….. She’s gone to heaven and back for like over a thousand times??? This is serious.

  155. Hidi

    August 21, 2013 at 3:57 pm

    “I was so afraid and I could feel a strange sensation surging through my body that would cause me to shake, like my whole body was vibrating and shock waves were going through me but at the same time it was a beautiful feeling.” HAHAHA…Sounds like an orgasm to me!

  156. Mrs Nwosu

    August 21, 2013 at 4:40 pm

    Hmmm, am trying to get a contact of all those y’all who write beautifully here and so far am thinking(pretty sure too) that @TheAgnostic1 is in the lead. Am impressed really. And for the matter at hand I think I should reserve my comments

    • cocoberrie

      August 21, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      For starters, to hel with your own grammar @MRSNWOSU, its “I’M” NOT “AM”.

      Ewwwww. I HATE when Nigerians misuse the two.

  157. someone

    August 21, 2013 at 6:08 pm

    Poor Dayo.

  158. Thistle and weeds

    August 21, 2013 at 6:27 pm




    • Omo1

      August 21, 2013 at 8:13 pm

      “Thou shall not judge ” and you did just that already..this is about the dumbest comment I’ve read on here today..point of correction, they are still preparing for their wedding! And what makes you think they aren’t dozens of ladies successfully married to their dream men? Just hear yourself “HOW MANY OF YOU LONELY, FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR MAN, CHEATING, MISERABLE, AND JEALOUS WOMEN CAN SAY THE SAME FOR YOURSELVES? “..seems this is the case with you? Take heart! Some of us are so low in mentality! Gosh I’m out of here!

  159. B

    August 21, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    I always read article comments as they are most times more entertaining than the article itself.

    However this time I have decided not to as I’m sure this will generate some not so Nice comments.

    I must say that your testimony has really blessed me and I just want to say hold on tight to all God revealed to you and when you face challenges in the marriage like most marriages do, may you find strength He revealed to you as his words never and will never return void in our lives.

  160. Prime

    August 21, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    U can tell me God cure you of 15yrs paralysis or He gae U a child after 10yrs and I’ll dance with U and rejoice.
    But wen U tel me God did soumthing for U and U r writing a book bout it to sell. I’ll tear U down. The Grace of God aint for sale
    Moses didnt sell the Ten Commandments, David didnt sell psalms, Solomon didnt sell proverbs, Paul didnt sell the 14 epistles. So Y shld U write a book and use Ur Testimony of God’s goodness in ur life as promotion.
    FYI: I checked out her twitter handle, She has her book and Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

    • Sparkling2013

      August 22, 2013 at 7:49 am

      Hmmmmm, but I’m sure you have purchased every book that
      pastor Adeboye has written. #hypocrite….

  161. pineapple

    August 21, 2013 at 9:45 pm

    Well, wether the girl writes books or not in my opinion Muslims are not saved even someone who goes to church every Sunday and does not accept Jesus as their personal lord and saviour TAKE NOTE that when the trumpet sounds him/her is going to hell or will face judgement .
    Secondly those of you that are calling your self christian arguing because he was a muslim bla bla the bible clearly states that you most not be unequally yoked meaning as Dayo is a muslim and their belief is different from ours so is lola’s belief i believe you so called christian here should know this ,so you should understand her plight .
    Thirdly, why are some of you questioning her faith that she is delusional she needs to visit a psychologist that is what having faith is all about “evident of things not seen but believed you have received already” so if she buying a wedding dress reminding God about his promising concerning dayo by going into prayer fasting i do not see how that one is desperation ,i mean if she was desperate what is her business with sex b4 marriage(she will dive in) ,don’t you think when the ex-bf were then messaging her at that period she would have just yielded sometimes some of you on here should read critically and have understanding.( i just see some one holding unto God’s word and what we should pray is to have such relationship with him as it would not only reduce divorce but help us from making wrong decisions by seeking him first)
    Lastly,If she is lying and trying to use this forum to sell something ,leave her to face her judgement with God as everyone else will face their own one day and give account to our life on earth.

    • Sweety

      August 22, 2013 at 11:09 am

      Thank you Pineapple for your comment. You are truly a CHRISTIAN. I think the problem people have is seeing christianity as a religion. Until we as christians come to understand that CHRISTIANITY IS A WAY OF LIFE, we will always equate christianity to other religions. One point of correction is that we do not serve the same master! John 3:16 says FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON, THAT WHOSOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM WILL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE. Jesus is the only true way to seeing or meeting the Almighty God everybody claims to serve. It is not a matter of questioning the salvation of muslims or other religions but a matter of BEING SAVED BY BELIEVING IN AND ACCEPTING JESUS CHRIST AS OUR LORD AND SAVIOUR. John 3:17-18 says ” For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him. Whoever believes in Him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only son of God.” If as a person you do not believe that you can only be saved through Jesus Christ, then WE DO NOT SERVE THE SAME GOD!!! Lola understood this and desired Dayo to be equally yoked with her, hence her fervent prayers. As christians, how do we defend our faith? Jesus said “if you deny me here on earth, I will deny you before my heavenly Father.” Jesus is the only way to the Father, except him there is no other way!

  162. justsom1

    August 21, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    Nt sure wah 2say,I njoyd readin d story tho,njoyd d comments more,I’m jst gonna say I dnt lyk som partz of dis, datz as polite nd honest az I cn b on dis,I’d advise BN to plz avoid posting nytin similiar, (note dat I sAide advice nt instruct or command). Shoutout 2 erry1 who made made honest nd unbiased commentz, nd 2 dose who ddnt,I cn undastnd y nt,any1 else culd hve made a choice 2do so 2

  163. John

    August 21, 2013 at 10:32 pm

    This article smacks of religious prejudice. How can Lola put herself in the place of God and judge all Moslems to be far from God, while Christians are supposedly close to God.

    There have been countless Christian priests, pastors and other clergy who have sexually abused children, de-frauded people, had extra-marital affairs and engaged in other illicit activities. Are these so-called Christians better than faithful Moslems? Let God be the judge please!

    Have a look at this link about the televangelist Benny Hinn:

  164. Lady A

    August 22, 2013 at 3:19 am

    THis is crzy! We r living in the end times. People wake up!

  165. Rachel

    August 22, 2013 at 3:50 am

    Firstly the main motive behind this story is to reach our to young ladies out there and encourage them, one thing we should understand is regardless of what faith u belong to, God is still God.. Finding your standing and knowing where you belong in him is what is most important. Most people will ignore the positive moral of this story because we do not understand how God works.. We need to put more faith in God and less false in religion because in the end, it is who you are in God that matters most but one thing is for sure, no matter what religious group you belong to if you seek God whole-heartedly he will reveal himself to you clearly.. Evn the bible says that “But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. (I Corinthians 2:14 NKJV)”.. may God continue to help us..Thank you for this piece lola may God bless your union, keep that fire burning for Christ!

    • Nene Leakes

      August 23, 2013 at 3:39 am

      On point!

  166. Hilda

    August 22, 2013 at 8:53 am

    God is real people, He really does answer prayers…
    He told us to ask for whatever and it would be granted if its in accordance to his will…
    Her persistence,patience and faith is really to be emulated and not insulted…
    Lola,thanks for sharing your testimony…you have made me realize that i need to wake up the spiritual giant in me…God Bless You Lady…Your testimony has blessed my life.

  167. yostic

    August 22, 2013 at 10:00 am

    wow….I know Dayo. You shouldnt have written this on BN.

  168. Dorcas

    August 22, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    I have read all the comments but the only thing am here to comment about is the sex before marriage yes I applaud you for been one of the lucky few to stay n remain a virgin but pls don’t rub it in the faces of children,ladies n men who have been raped, sexually molested by their fathers, uncles , elders, armed robbers etc to mention a few…so what does that make them. One of the reasons why I love Americans is because they are very sensitive to people’s feelings .tia or tamera mowry said in an article that she was a virgin till she met her husband, she put up this story in a very constructive way, not hurting the feels of abused women or those who were forced into slave trade with that been said, we are all different but always remember a lot of people if given a choice would have made the right decision. So people try to be more sensitive words are strong weapons that destroy or lift people up.

  169. Tee

    August 22, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    I love how Lola has shared her testimony with us. At the end of the day all this bad mind isn’t right. U can’t call her a liar because you have no solid evidence that it is a lie. Let her share her story. And if it is a lie does that make your life any better? What u r doing with your nasty comments is attacking this sweet person and trying to crush her spirit. If you don’t like what she said leave the page! Don’t pull out your keypad to type horrible words. Only God can judge her. Lets just know that if it was us sharing we wouldn’t like it if people attacked us. I believe in miracles and I know that we all come frame different walks of life. We have different experiences and just because yours is different from mine doesn’t mean that it did not happen. Leave this girl alone. She just posted her message to encourage someone who needed it. If you didn’t need her encouragement good on you just leave it at that. But all this bad mind please let’s stop it.

    • Marta M

      August 29, 2013 at 12:18 pm


  170. MissMeddle

    August 22, 2013 at 3:15 pm

    @That_Guy Bwahahahahahaa! *seals lips*

  171. SHO!

    August 22, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    I don’t doubt Spiritual things neither do I blame those that do not understand Spiritual things because a lot of times it sounds ridiculous and looks stupid to the mere eyes until you personally have an experience with God on Spiritual things all by yourself. That being said, I think her story is all about sharing her faith and strong belief in God and to encourage other women to do the same and hope in God in every aspect of life, without feeling like they can do all by themselves and In this case, Marriage is a serious thing, God invented it and so he understands it better than any one else. The problem that I see is here is her way of making the other religion look so bad. And I was really wishing somewhere in all these Spiritual porting, crying and 3am prayers, something was said about reading the Bible- the word of God(Ephesians 6:17 – And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God
    John 6:63 – It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, [they] are spirit, and [they] are life) AND MORE IMPORTANTLY Sister Lola – Matthew 4:4 – But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by “BREAD” alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God(So far all the “word” is in the Bible)….I can go on and on…Eph 6:17 – Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the “word of God”…..So I wonder how you won this battle without your helmet and sword. I think people should be encouraged to read their Bibles first before praying because if you don’t know the word*sigh*I wonder what you say to God in prayer. The only reason why some christians are gullible and are being misled today is because they are too lazy to dig deep and read the word…too many “My pastor said” everywhere! Relationship with God is personal! May God help us all!

  172. seki

    August 22, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    Hmmm!!!!! i forsee dayo resenting her in the future. I hope in the next 5years she can share the status of their relationship. I can never understand why women cant just look for a man they want rather than always trying to change another persons man. If he wasnt a christian and you wanted a christian why didnt God just give you a christian husband. Whatever happened to compromise. Chai! See wahala.

    • Spice

      September 5, 2017 at 7:08 am

      But Lola even asked that herself. She said she would ask God “why me? Why couldn’t I just be with a good man from church, where I would have none of these complications” and saying how she felt envious of women who were finding their prince in men of the church and questioned why God would ever have her matched up with a man who wasn’t even close to what she thought she wanted/needed. Furthermore, the Word tells us that we are not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:14) which CERTAINLY includes marital situations. Jesus takes marriage very, very seriously as it is a human example of Him and us (as the church), so “compromise” would not be wise. God can chose anyone from anywhere (look at Paul in the Bible!) to come forth and fulfill a purpose in His ministry (whether that means actually being a minister or pastor or being an evangelist, a missionary, or just using one’s talents and gifts–spiritual and natural–to bless others and God), so we mustn’t be surprised if/when He chooses those who we would have never thought. .
      If God desires for you to love and care for someone (no matter who or what they may be), He WILL instill within you a pure and compassionate love for them that you cannot just let sit (I’m speaking from first-hand experience) and I believe that’s what happened for Lola and Dayo both. It wasn’t against their will and they could have chosen to ignore it, but chose to answer the call and obey the Lord’s voice and guidance.

      Lola didn’t chose Dayo, he was placed in her heart.

  173. bimpe

    August 22, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    Guess they aren’t married yet

  174. OAK

    August 22, 2013 at 11:38 pm

    I just want to say that God is way bigger than we think so am very sure our opinions about him doesnt change who he is,i also dont think muslims are evil or being a muslim doesnt mean ur nt saved afterall God appears to us all in ways he think we can comprehend him no matter the faith you choose

  175. Nene Leakes

    August 23, 2013 at 3:31 am

    I just read this story and it reminded me to fast and pray about some personal things that I’m going through. Lola’s story is meant to uplift us and give us faith. You’re only waisting your time criticizing and looking for holes in her story. GOD IS MAGNIFICENT and GREAT. We are like tiny ants trying to figure out how he works. I’ve had my own personal extraordinary experience with God. Although I haven’t seen him (maybe I’m not as pure as Lola), but God has used several people and situations in this life to speak to me. Ya’ll are saying that the marriage situation is petty and God should speak to her on more important things. Please go back to your Bibles. There is no aspect of our life that God does not want to be involved in. From something as small as cooking or eating or dating to big issues like surviving cancer, avoiding deadly accidents etc. God used my first bowling experience to change my mind about rewriting my GRE exams. It sounds lame right? BUT THAT’s GOD! HE USES THE FOOLISH TO CONFOUND THE WISE.
    Keep calm and take what you need to take from this story. Just know that the devil is going to write through some people so you that will doubt the work of God or worse still believe that such and amazing miracle cannot happen in your life.

  176. Nene Leakes

    August 23, 2013 at 3:33 am

    *Just know that the devil is going to write through some people so you that you will doubt the work of God or worse still believe that such an amazing miracle cannot happen in your life.

  177. MJ

    August 23, 2013 at 9:50 am

    I enjoyed reading your testimony. I am glad that you were not afraid to share the Good News. I pray that God continues to grant you the boldness needed to touch the lives of others. God bless your union. What God has joined together, let no man separate it.

  178. Michael

    August 23, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    A very refreshing and highly encouraging testimony. A major principle that needs to be applied to every aspect of our entire lives…I should have read this a few months back before making a few decisions but its definitely not too late. Wishing you guys the very best in your marriage.

  179. HOPE

    August 23, 2013 at 6:04 pm

    First of all @ mz socially awkward you come out very strong when you write.keep it up.
    Secondly,i believe in the existence of GOD so i believe this testimony.
    Thirdly, the salvation of a soul is more important than we can imagine.So i’m not suprised she had angelic visitations.There was real warfare between light and darkness.Also,Jesus said angels rejoice when one soul is saved.
    Fourthly,lola this warfare ain’t over.Probably, God allowed this so that you would know he is really with you. Remember, his family members are still muslims. Both of you still have the job of bringing them to Christ .
    Fifthly,fight for your marriage.Honestly,it doesn’t mean because you had great visitations that there will be no challenges.

  180. Africhic

    August 23, 2013 at 9:01 pm

    #Apparition thingz

  181. Amanda

    August 24, 2013 at 6:05 am

    I was personally touched with this story and it has given me an urge to want to know God more better and build my relationship with him because I know the wonderful things he can do in my life if I take out that sacrifice and time to worship him and dedicate my life fully!

    I commend you for sharing this and encouraging us single ladies who have lost hope that we would never find a man who will be able to work in the spiritual path with us. I pray that God blesses your marriage and continues to give you wisdom and understanding of his continuous love for you and Dayo.


  182. Amirah

    August 24, 2013 at 7:19 am

    Honestly, I grew up a Muslim and wasn’t offended because every religion think they are better than the other. So, her reference to the guy not saved bcos he’s Muslim is the same thing we Muslims will say to a Christian. It’s called freedom of expression. And, we are very clear on where we stand. Anyway, I find it odd when so called Christians make BOGUS claims of their spiritual encounter with God. It cheapens God. I can’t judge her bcos I don’t know her personally but she’s taking the whole thing a little too far. It’s natural for a woman to think of being a wife or a mother, so planning ahead is nothing wrong with it. However, when it becomes your only “focus and your life is consumed by it, that’s when women need to chill. And, God visited you regarding the guy couple of times is far reaching. It’s ok to pray and fast but I addition to that pray for wisdom, discernment and ways to judge his character to see how compatible he is. So, going to heaven, angels visiting you is somehow. Anyway, wish them the best.

  183. Xtra Xtra

    August 24, 2013 at 8:13 am

    Hmmm…and I know Dayo quite well. His account of why he decided to go on with the marriage was rather different,but hey,who am I to judge? True that most of her story sounds far-fetched,but that’s all it does – “sound”. For all we know all of that really happened to her. After all,it’s what you believe that works for you. As for them being married already, how come the dude told me firmly that he isn’t married yet? Whichever the case, God’s grace to them both. As I don ask Dayo now for bbm,e don run sharply. Issokay.

  184. lol

    August 24, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    Na wa o. Na real wa!

  185. Jemima

    August 24, 2013 at 10:08 pm

    Wow!!!! Seriously if we all keep making so many ish out of religion like this ….peace in nigeria is shaky , for those who the level of their faith is too low for that testimony just read and you don’t have to comment and in so doing sin to God again and for those who are “pastors and pastoress” fine just read and if you want that kind of miracle receive it ….and for those who are the “omowe’s” that can do analysis for Africa good for you but don’t let your analysis get to a point of insulting God on what he can do. why do we call him a mysterious God when we hear some miracles and we still doubt God’s ways are not are ways .and for those who don’t have something good to say but to insult shussh your mouth for peace to reign!!! And let God be the judge of it all .You can’t be an Advocate for God!!!!!

  186. Elena Williams

    August 25, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    An important message to all Christians – please take the time to watch this.

    Thank you:)

    A Girl’s Message To All Christians (lasts just over 4 minutes)

  187. John

    August 25, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    Let us please wake up to the truth!

    Not all people who call themselves “Christians” have the deeds to back up the name.

    Child abuse and murder is being carried out in the name of Christianity in some African churches:

    Child Witch Documentaries:

    In the Name of Jesus: Child Witches:

    Fraud and Corruption is also being carried out by greedy pastors who are using “Christianity” for profit and personal financial gain:

    Nigeria’s Growing ‘Prosperity’ Churches:

    Nigerian Fake Pastors and Church Business Exposed (documentary):

    The False Promise of the Prosperity Gospel:

    South African Pastor criticises “prosperity gospel”:

    Ungodly behaviour of televangelist Benny Hinn:

    Texas Pastor’s behaviour:

    I could go on and on, but we need only google to discover more about the ungodly behaviour of many in the name of “Christianity”. Let us wake up to the reality of what is really going on.

    “Know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

    Just calling yourself a “Christian” does not mean that you are a good person! Faith must be accompanied by deeds.

    • Marta M

      August 29, 2013 at 12:16 pm


  188. Ray

    August 27, 2013 at 12:35 am

    Interesting! I won’t go into the religion aspect of the thread but I couldn’t help but think of somethings while reading this thread. It would be great to get a response from the poster (Lola).

    First, did you tell your hubby about this thread before posting it? If No, it means you’ll have to redefine your marriage becos aside from the religious view to it, you need to always have your partner’s interest @heart. Posting this without his consent would probably make him question the respect you have for him. If yes, that’s a no –go because I’d probably spank my child like a baby regardless of his age if his wife posts such on any website.

    Second, you mentioned your hubby being born into a Muslim family, if true, how religious are they? Nevertheless, how do you think his family would feel reading your post? As a Christian, i’m hoping you don’t intend causing a rift btw himself and his family due to your marriage, or do you? Well, maybe you didn’t think about that and if you did, it shows you not concerned. To understand this point better, if you were the one that converted to a Muslim (I know that’s impossibility for you as stated but pls lets just assume), how do you think your Father, Mother or siblings would feel reading a “post” put up by your hubby stating clearly he won’t have married you if you didn’t convert to a Muslim and his whole family woke up middle of the night to pray for you- Are you the devil himself? Good for him if he feels converting is the best thing to do but it’s entirely different posting everything here with names and pictures. What has the world become?
    Let’s say his parents are good Muslims the way yours are and they stood firm that your hubby can only marry a Muslim and after much stress, you parents decided to agree becos u’ve cried for two yrs (same number of yrs you went to heaven), then he posts something like this, how would you parents and siblings feel coming from a Christian family? Simple, it’s a huge disregard to the other family regardless of the religion that was changed to. People change every day but you need to respect your partner and above, his family- @least be anonymous about it. Perhaps, you should have thought about changing the names, not including pics or anything like that. I’d say Church is the best place to share such story if you want it to be as detailed as this.

    Thirdly, I hope you didn’t marry him due to the religion change alone becos other issues will definitely be tested in your marriage such as trust, compatibility/understanding, LOVE (which should have been the other of the day), sacrifice for one another. Religion has been taking care of I guess!

    I wish you both the very best in your marriage and most importantly, always remember that marriage is not only about yourself and the person you are getting married to but a long list of other people such as his family, colleagues, close friends (or na only Christain friends himself get), lol ETC

    • impervious

      August 27, 2013 at 12:43 pm

      Thank you Ray!

  189. Manny

    August 27, 2013 at 2:18 am

    Does Lola go to cele or C&S?

  190. HRH Ekky

    August 27, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    This story is very sensitive! I think it should be shared between close friends and family only so some people do not feel less loved by God. God loves us all,please we shouldn’t have religious quarrels here because the truth is we(Muslims,Christians,buddist,Jews) etc we all feel our religion is d best or d only true way so let us just move on and read something else! God bless us all. Amen!

  191. Bimbush

    August 29, 2013 at 2:03 pm

    you know I never understand why people carry matter on top of Matter!! the young lady came out to narrate her experience according to her faith just like how a muslim lady could have written Allah changed her fiancé to a muslim!!! Reading her story what I deduce from it is she told the bobs what she wanted no sex before marriage and I can only marry a XTIAN. He decided by himself to become a Christian cos she can never have converted him no matter the prayer held on his behalf. the reason we are called Humans is because God has given us freewill!!! Why all the delusional talk and all? The bible says each man should work out his or her own salvation. If this is her route chikena! let each plan his own way to heaven using the right tools given. I don’t understand why people are saying she is dissing other religions cos she as a Christian believe this is the way she never said the muslims have it wrong the blahs are not doing it right! all she spoke about pertains to her and no one else abi did she write “repent oh ye of different religions or you will not enter heaven!!”??? I no see sha! Yes she made it public business by writing it here and it will speak to some and some others will see nothing in it. Its a story and like some peeps said move on and stop looking for what she did not put in it! I dont even read bella naija but someone was dissing the story and I wondered why! Imagine! taking panadol for somebody’s headache!!!!!!!!!

  192. Funshe

    August 31, 2013 at 10:05 am

    @mz socially awkward! God bless you. The lord will always fight your battles for you and you shall always find favor.

    So many doubting Thomases in Nigeria. This gets me worried that so called christians comment this way. The END time is really near.

    Instead of critising the girl about the issue that is her most priority why don’t you all go and seek the truth and let it set you free.

    God works mysteriously any way and any how it pleases him .

    Now it is understandable what Gods prophets faced in time past.

    IN OTHER NEWS! To each his own!

    Face your life and seek solution to what hurt you most!

    Ewayz! God bless the couple and give you joy always!

  193. Hrs_Cindy

    August 31, 2013 at 11:30 am

    God is indeed a good God! Such a wonderful testimony… may we all be granted our heart desires according to God’s will and purpose for our lives IJN.

  194. Jesus Baby

    September 7, 2013 at 9:08 am

    The day people will stop seeing Christianity as a religion that is the day your freedom starts. from a lot of comments it appears many don’t even know the God whom they claim to serve.
    a lot of us have grown from childhood into adulthood, we started from kindergarten, primary, secondary, university education some even went further to do masters and even get a PHD well, acquiring all these education took time, money and effort. a lot are not even educated in the things of God.
    how many people have asked themselves who is God, why must we serve him, what is the right way to serve him according to his terms and not based on how we feel its right for there is a laid down principle and instruction by God himself how we must serve him. the same time, effort, money we sacrificed to get human education is the same way we are to get educated in the things of God and being educated in the things of God is for a lifetime not for a certain period that we go to school and graduate.
    how many have taken their time to do an in-depth research to study about God, the person of Jesus Christ and the Holy spirit. Many people I know seem to be doing follow follow Christianity or follow follow religion based on what they see those before them doing.
    How many have taken the time to research the history of the bible, the origins of all the translations we have today the original text of the bible which was written in Greek and Hebrew. do you not see why God said his people perish from lack of knowledge?
    well, the girl explained a lot and from what it shows God is interested in the smallest details that concerns us. a lot of other religions are one sided and still seeing based on the commandments in the old testament.
    there are many so-called religions today in the world but the truth is there can only be a counterfeit if there is an original. there can only be one original and a whole lot of lookalikes.
    Please people the truth is there is only one way to God before you start cursing and arguing there is only one way to God as Jesus Christ said
    from what everyone knows Jesus Christ lived a sinless life and to lie is a sin before God. Jesus Christ said he is the only way to God and claimed to be one with God which is true.
    Yes I know the divisions and the different issues with Christianity right now my question has always been if Christianity is not the real deal why is satan particularly out to attack. make a mess of and always against Christianity through people? the reason is so people will miss ETERNAL LIFE AND GO TO HELL. make no mistake the devil is out against the body of Christ and will try as much to destroy it which explains where Jesus said I will build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it. inasmuch as the devil tries so hard and people from outside see confusion and all sorts the true body of Christ is growing rapidly.

  195. Jesus Baby

    September 7, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    Satan and all what he does will never prevail against the body of Christ.
    Do you desire to know God and his truth then you need to be on a personal journey, to study, research, sacrifice time and effort and ask God for his help that you want to know him for yourself and know how to live rightly not to acquire knowledge to show people that you know so much. God himself said if you seek me you will find me when you search for me with all your heart. God knows when you are seeking and searching for him with all your heart. we know the way a lot of people look for money, fame and other material things the dedication and sacrifice they pay it is the same way you have to search and seek about God and still keep on with him even when you have found him.
    Don’t be carried away with all the bad news you hear from Christians Jesus has said it will happen so it is prophesy just happening for God loves everyone of you here and if you don’t know or understand how the love of God functions you will not respond properly.
    the way satan is attacking today is by putting Christians against themselves and watch them fight and devour each other. that is a house that is divided cannot stand. if all Christians are in unity satan knows he is in trouble but when people are against themselves it is hard for them to unite against the common enemy so be wise.

    if you are confused and want to know the truth about God you have to give your life to Christ first then receive the baptism of the holyspirit.
    why the baptism of holyspirit? for JESUS himself said in John 16:13 But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth;
    John 14:17
    the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you.
    John 14:26
    But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.
    The HolySpirit is the one who appoints church leaders such as pastors, deacons, evangelists and anoints them specially for that office and gives them a message that is why he says
    1 John2:27As for you, the anointing which you received from Him abides in you, and you have no need for anyone to teach you;(anyone through human knowledge) but as His anointing teaches you about all things,( he anoits people and give them a message) and is true and is not a lie, and just as it has taught you, you abide in Him.
    You should only listen to those ministers who are truly anointed by the holyspirit himself.
    you can know these by their fruits which Jesus spoke about which can be seen in Gal 5: 18 to the end and the signs and demonstrations Jesus said in Mark 16:17-18. and also ask God personally who are his ministers that demonstrate how the word of God clearly describes them. if you seek such you will get it.

    The Holy Spirit is not a person and cannot be seen with human eyes. he is the spirit of God himself. and he talks

    1 Timothy 4:1
    The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons.
    take time to read this couples testimony on how God matched made them and yes he does.


    September 11, 2013 at 4:44 am

    No1 Has D Rite 2Judge Any1 Only God Has D Rite,As Christ Said Go Remove D Log In Ur Eye B4 U Remove D Speck In Ur Neighbour’s Eye!Im An Eckist D Religion Of Light & Sound Of God Don’t Believe Jesus Died 4Anybody,Jesus D Christ Is A Way 2God But Not D Only Way!All Religions R A Way 2God Just D Level Of Conciousness/Awareness!I Wish Lola & Dayo Love It Was Lola’s Karma 2B With Dayo If It Wasn’t Meant 2Happen It Won’t Happen!No Mistakes/Accidents In Dis Life!Lola If U Wrote A Story 4Ur Book Ur Buz,But Love 4Love Sake!Unconditional Love,Try Not 2Change Anybody 2Ur Belief If Not Ready Der’s A Reason God Brought 2Dis World 2Show Love & B Love!Not Easy But God’ll Teach U Patience,Tolerance,Wisdom,Humility…….Ciao….Try 2Love Unconditionally!With D Help Of God,U Can Go U Wish 2Learn About D Light & Sound)God Is Light & Sound Dat Is What Lola Must Ve Seen….Dat Was What Happened In Damascus(Tongues Of Fire…..Somthing Like Dat)Religion Is A Choice Atleast Der R Athiest {Don’t Believe In God)A Choice All I No Is God Is Love….

  197. Aanu

    September 17, 2013 at 7:12 pm

    The truth is Lola only voiced out ‘her’ testimony, she has not encouraged anyone to follow suit but she hoped it would encourage people or person going through similar situation.

    Having said that Belief is belief and belongs to an individual not an entire group of people, some Christians marry non Christians as its their belief that its not such a bill deal, some Christians stick to Christians, again an individual belief. Just like tribes some Yoruba people will never marry outside their tribe, some others don’t care again an individual decision. People saying Christian abuse Christianity by committing heinous crimes all in the name of Christianity some people also abuse Islam by terrorist act. The truth is where man is involved he is bound to be corrupted by power or greed or whatever.

    Seeing Angels and going to heaven is not news it happens to a lot of people, because it hasn’t happened to you doesn’t make it impossible as Christians we believe in the impossible; parting of the Red Sea, Medically proven barren women having children, blind people seeing… To list a few.

    Its ok to disbelief but I don’t think it’s ok to insult the girl to be deluded anyways John the Baptist was thought to be mad. I don’t think she disrespected Muslims she only made he statement based on her personal belief just as how Muslim ‘commenters’ are praying Dayo finds his way back to Islam. I think the story should be see. As a whole. A girl who got all she wanted because she believed and trusted in God even though she initially thought there was a hiccup. That’s her belief and that is why this is her story.

  198. Gift

    November 24, 2013 at 12:15 am

    …and while y’all are dropping critical comments, the
    lovely couple are having new wine poured into their home. All I
    have to say on the matter is, be careful how you joke about
    anything that has to do with GOD because in the end, all you are is
    mere clay; malleable in the hands of the CREATOR. GOD loves us all
    and HE will do whatever it takes to ensure that we live a fulfilled
    life…if we ask HIM. It’s not our place to judge this lady. It’d
    benefit y’all if you found something or SOMEONE to believe in
    rather than call her a deluded person…and yes, I am a Christian.
    I pray that the marriage is blessed and happy.

  199. MsMoses

    January 11, 2014 at 2:17 am

    Firstly, congrats to the featured couple. May the Almighty God bless and sustain your marriage in Jesus name. Amen.

    Now, I’m not ashamed to say that I am a believer in Christ Jesus, the same way most of the people on here are bold to say that they are unbelievers. I am flabbergasted at the volume of comments for this one story simply because a girl was visited by God’s messenger and her future husband was converted from Islam to Christianity. I am disgusted at the way certain people have decided to air their views but what can we expect from a world full of vanity and the lust for ungodly things. I think a lot has been said regarding how to air one’s opinions etc but it’s funny how as soon as someone is in front of a computer screen their bravery levels shoot through the roof. All I will say on the matter is that she has her personal relationship with God, she documented everything in her personal journal and when you’re fasting, your spirit is opened up on a new level and you experience things you never imagined you could ever experience. Let’s stop the cynicism, the criticism, the judging, the profanity, the hate and the blatant disregard for our brothers and sisters and instead, show love for one another because LOVE Is the greatest commandment of all. I pray that God will have mercy on us all because NONE of us are perfect, except Jesus Christ.

    That is all. God bless.

    • JayJay

      June 20, 2016 at 2:53 am

      I too am a Christian. I am so dumbfounded by this article “testimony”. One needs to remember who God is, who He says He is, and what He actually says! If you are visited by a “being” you have to take what “it” said lightly. Why? We are told to test all spirits. If what they say is against God’s word then it is not of God! Where has God ever revealed to a woman who her husband will be? Our hearts are deceitful above all else, who can know it?

    • Baddest Queen

      October 6, 2016 at 7:44 pm

      God has revealed to many who he wants them to marry, but let’s not forget that we all are different and not everyone will encounter the same thing. God might reveal his intentions to someone and do it differently to you. Just because YOU don’t hear about it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

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  201. A

    February 15, 2014 at 7:27 am

    I’m sorry but I find this story a bit too much to swallow. I believe that yes God shows us signs and may speak to us in different forms, but her account about God revealing her future, and in details too leads to me question the authenticity of it all.

  202. Andrew

    April 25, 2014 at 6:13 am

    God bless you! Your story has really encouraged me, in a tight situation that I have found myself in, in which the hand of God is clearly at work. I am so glad you shared this story online. “I waited for Yahweh, then he stooped to me and heard my cry for help.” Psalm 40

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  204. Jhenny

    October 15, 2014 at 8:43 am

    I just saw this post.. Thank God I did. I’m inspired.. Thank you for sharing.

  205. TOKUNBO

    October 15, 2014 at 6:50 pm

    you went to God everyday at 3am… hmm are you sure? babe that na witchcraft o

    This story just reeked of naivety at 23 your life’s ambition was marriage.

    • mee

      October 15, 2014 at 10:10 pm

      Yes ke! The girl had finished uni and masters, she felt marriage was d next box to tick y u carry am for ya head like dada?

  206. miss kay

    October 18, 2014 at 12:47 pm

    Dear Lola,
    even though am an ardent reader of Bellanaija weddings, i wonder how i missed this story last year. nevertheless, I’m grateful i still came across it and honestly this story inspires me. reading this has encouraged me again that there is truly a God that lives and cares about his own people. He said in His word that His ways are not our ways and even the wisest of men cannot stand God’s foolishness.
    i believe truly every bit of your story and all i can see is God’s power working in your life… you are an amazing woman with strong faith and i can only thank God for your life and your marriage (now that you are married) and pray that God use you and your marriage (as you have said ) to be a blessing to young women like myself out there.

    Thank you for sharing your story…..

  207. Aderonke

    October 18, 2014 at 5:58 pm

    great testimony,happy 4 u dear,it was so sure God led her if not it doesnt work always like dat but am hapi 4 her God was in d relation n now a wonderful marriage,congrats girl

  208. Aderonke

    October 18, 2014 at 6:00 pm

    congrats dear,hapi 4 u dear,it was so sure God was in d relationship n marriage,if not 4 GOD,it doesnt work like dat always,congratss girl

  209. Disappointed

    October 19, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    Wow……all this lady wanted was to share her happiness with you guys….. You do not have to sit there and analysis 5years into her future or call her crazy… Just because her story does not appeal to your reasoning doesn’t mean she is delusional, grow up people….. I wish you the best dear

  210. Wooh!

    October 31, 2014 at 9:51 pm

    Tall angel in bright robes giving her a happy shaky vibrating feeling at 3am?!!! Most women experience that visitation at that time of the night just not a Godly one. This girl was obviously sex starved and having a ‘wet dream’ but her good Christian mind won’t accept her sexuality so explained it away with God visitation.
    How dumb does one have to be to buy into this nonsense? Angel coming to take you to heaven to see God (how long was d journey? Hehehehe)
    There was a story I heard a while back about a young couple who went to see a doctor complaining about not being able to conceive…….. After a lot of questions it turned out the couple were still virgins. They had no clue about having sex – they thot all they had to do was to lie on top of each other with their navels touching – they thought the navels were the genitals!!!! I don’t know what to make of them- they must be either incredibly dumb or suppressed and brainwashed. Sadly in the case of Dami it’s all of the above. She’s so naive and suppressed that I don’t think she knows what a day dream is let alone ‘wet dream ‘ she’s a fembot

  211. gomez

    November 6, 2015 at 11:26 pm

    I percieve a lot of jealousy in the posts here. YOU WILL NEVER KNOW THE TRUE POWER IN CHRIST JEST UNTIL YOU EXPERIENCE SALVATION. I celebrate this wonderful testimony!

  212. gomez

    November 6, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    correction: CHRIST JESUS

  213. Daugther of the King

    August 22, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    I want to first say that unless you were there and unless you know for sure what happened you should not put your mouth of Gods children. I truly believe that she was merely sharing her story to let others women know that God keeps his promise and that He guides us along the way. Instead of talking you should be praying and asking the Father what is it about this story that He’s trying to show you. That’s what’s wrong with the body of Christ now, always want to down play someone else blessings instead of giving God praise for what he did. And for those of you who have opened your mouth against this young lady and your husband still hasn’t been revealed you should check yourself. It’s a shame how we as women always want to put another woman down for the same exact thing that you’re waiting on. Just because it didn’t happened to you like that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Oh and for the record God can always brings dates back to us. So you should never underestimate the power of God. You ladies have a wonderful day.

  214. Baddest Queen

    October 6, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    First off all this woman did not shove her testimony down your throat, because like any other news article on Bellanaija, you chose whether you want to read or not. Equally I can say the same to you, by commenting and listing out that the woman is delusional and that there were faults and mistakes in her testimony you are shoving your opinion down our throats about how wrong you think this story is. If we live in a free world, like most say, then there is such a thing as free speech.. She is entitled to her own opinion just like you are entitled to yours. Also, how are you sure that this testimony isn’t accurate, were you there and where are the facts you have to back it up. You also talk much about hypocrisy, but aren’t you the hypocrite for judging her when all of your comments are based on theories? Hasn’t anyone told you that before you point your finger at someone you should know the direction of where your other fingers are pointing towards.

  215. padma

    October 12, 2016 at 12:36 am

    i belive in what she said..jesus can do anything…what is menat to be yours will always be yours

    • Rose Gatobu

      July 3, 2017 at 1:41 pm

      I totally agree with you.

  216. Pianomiss

    December 24, 2016 at 2:22 am

    This was such a blessing, thank you for posting!!!

    • Rose Gatobu

      July 3, 2017 at 1:43 pm

      To me, this an answered prayer where the Lord spoke to me about someone and i am so doubtful about what i am hearing about him. This gives me all hope to trust in God, wait patiently and finally believe that God will answer my prayers and fulfill my hearts desires. I am totally blessed by this testimony!

  217. Rose Gatobu

    July 3, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    I love this girl’s testimony. One thing people should understand whether they like her story or not, the way of Salvation is only gotten through Jesus Christ the Son of God. No one is being forced by anyone to make that decision. It is actually a personal decision that God has given every human being. No one is telling anyone to be a Christian and be born again. The thing here is, you have a choice and when others make it and you do not agree with it, you do not judge them. Also, you are not supposed to judge others when they express how God speaks to them and all this is explained by her narrative which i totally agree with because i am a Child of God and the Lord speaks to me a lot and when i tell people, they say i am crazy. Remember i am a Kenyan and i have never met this girl. But what makes me agree with her? The Spirit that connects all children of God all over the world. This confirms that, the things of Salvation is foolishness to those who are perishing but to them that are being saved, it is the power of God. My point is, this girl waited patiently for God to reveal Himself to Dayo, and Dayo obeyed God and found the Truth the Way and Life. This crowns the whole story!!!!!!! That is so sweet as she is encouraging me to wait on God and be patient and wait for this man that God spoke to me about. (i will write my story too). Secondly, She married the man she desired to marry and today she is happy. What else would she have asked the Lord? Coming here to share her testimony is a way of encouraging others in her shoes. Our stories may not be similar but follow the same principles which we all follow as children of God. This story has encouraged me so much and i cant wait to marry the man of my dream. For those who do not know Christ, i beg, do not judge others, just accept him and you will celebrate liberation through the Blood of Jesus Christ our Lord. You will never be the same.

  218. Tope

    May 26, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    The Shark – dynamics of God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.
    Pls name the author.

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