Peculiar Okafor: Will You Marry Me?

What makes a man pop this question? (of course he’s usually down on one knee with an outstretched palm holding a ring box) Some men are so creative and ingenious that they script an academy award winning blockbuster just to pop this question. Some are more ‘normal’, others are downright uncreative and open the ring box with the question ‘Nne, will you?’

How ever the man chooses to propose, what makes a man decide to spend the rest of his life with one woman? Is it the length of time spent together? I know some men have left their longtime girlfriends only to pop the question to a woman they have known for a few months.

Is it the looks and packaging; I really want to know. But then, naija babes no dey carry last for packaging – not with the contouring and padding we have these days. Is it the famous ‘wife material’ that no one can truly define or state how many yards is essential.

My people, I’m sure lots of ladies want to know so that they can concentrate 80% of their time on this. Remember Pareto’s principle? As my usual aproko manner is, I decided to ask a few fiiiine brothers of both the single and married categories. I got the responses below. (Note that I included their profiles so that you can decide how to act depending on the kind of guy you want):

Single bro 1 (Fair, Average Height, Mid Level executive, relatively quiet but fun)
I think when a guy is ready and feels confident that he can handle a home, if he’s dating a lady he feels safe with and is confident and happy about that decision, then he’ll pop the question. I also think in situations where a guy dates a lady for 5 years and doesn’t get married to her, he probably knew he wouldn’t get married to her a long time before that but was hoping they’d argue and end it earlier.

Single Bro 2 (TDHGT young executive from a good background)
I think it’s when I feel like she fits into every aspect of my world and I also can fit into hers, if we’re compatible and I’m safe in her presence. She also has to have the right packaging.

Single bro 3 (Regular guy, young executive)
When the wifey material in her has blossomed. Every woman gets to this stage at different ages in their lives. When she’s forward thinking and can take care of a home. There’s a difference between a boyfriend and a wife.

The married guys had this to say:

Married bro 1: I was ready and felt very comfortable with her.

Married bro 2 (Management level executive, faithful husband)
First of all, I was ready. Then my wife was industrious, had a degree of independence and was forward thinking. She was also reserved and had that ‘thing’ that made you respect yourself in her presence.

Married bro 3 (Executive Management, Middle aged)
When I met my wife, I knew she was the one. Infact, the day I met her, we were both in different relationships, but I knew. She was what I had always prayed for.

Dunno if these responses help the single ladies out there but I must say this; I feel it is important that you be your best self and love will find you. Don’t try too hard to act like a ‘wife material’, just do you, knowing that ring or not, you’ll be fine.

Brothers, what will make you decide to ‘wife’ that sister and ladies, what’s your dream proposal. I’d really like to know.

Happy Valentine’s Day. God loves you.

PS: TDHGT stands for Tall, Dark, Handsome, Generous and Tush. I usually add the R which starts for Rich but the brother in question is barely 2 years into his career.

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