Aunty Bella is our agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers.
Dear Aunty Bella,
I am currently facing a most trying period of my life and have to make a decision that I know will affect the rest of my life. I thought to write to BN as I know there are a lot of people who can give seasoned advice backed with facts visiting this blog. I need your candid advice/opinions BNers.
I am 28, single woman with a degree in Nursing from a Nigerian University. I am currently employed by a state government establishment which apart from the low pay and delay of salaries, does not provide the challenge and growth I need to advance in my career. Recently one of my aunts(who I am barely in touch with) in America informed me that she would be inviting me for her graduation ceremony, and I can ‘find my way’ from there. I am to attend the visa interview next week and if successful, intend to travel early next month.
Many questions though go through my mind. What really am I to expect? Am I taking the right step at this age i.e giving up my job and little business to go start afresh with someone I barely know? What are the opportunities available? How soon will I be able to get a job? I know things are frustrating in Nigeria but I need to know if packing up and leaving is the best option. Plus I am really skeptical about ‘finding my way’. How does that work please? I need to know the implication of this step I am about to take and what to realistically expect.
Please I need your candid advice as this is my first time to leave the shores of Nigeria and a lot is at stake.
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