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Akanna Okeke: 6 Interesting Things You Should Know About Yourself



dreamstime_m_16076576I have recently stepped up my work habit on getting to know more about myself; the things that drive me, the things within my control, and the things that I have in common with everyone else.  I believe it is important to do this because it will make you more strategic in life especially about your choices, decisions on how to lead yourself, and how to associate with others.

In my quest so far, I have come across these 6 interesting things that are common denominators of all human beings, in terms of our characteristics and general psychology.  I thought to share them with the hope that they will help you to become more strategic in life too!

You Have 3 Main Types of Hunger/Appetite
These are: Food, Sex and Money.  With food, the less you have, the more you want; the more you want, the less you need.  With sex, the more you have it, the more you want it; and the less you have it, the less you want it.  With money, the less you have, the more you want; and the more you have, the more you want also.

Those who eat way too much ultimately get obese and largely unhealthy.  Those who do not have sex, like some monks, don’t have a huge craving for it the way we all think they do.  And those who actively chase after money never have enough of it.

You Have 3 Main Drives/Motivations
These are: Bodily Appetites, Emotions and Intellect.  Bodily Appetites are as mentioned above –food, sex and money.  Emotions and bodily appetites are “feelings”, and they are temporary.  It is never a good idea to make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions such as fear, doubt and anger.  We should all gravitate towards leading ourselves with our minds –being intellectually motivated or driven. And I have given tips on how to do just that in a previous article (here).

You have one or more) of 5 Love Languages
Mina Martins wrote a wonderful article about this on BellaNaija, using the book by Gary Chapman to explain.

The love languages are: Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Quality Time.  In my opinion, your best shot at a relationship would be to find a partner who speaks (some of) the same love languages as you do.  It will be easiest to do for them exactly what you would have them do for you –just like the golden rule!

You Cannot Think Two Thoughts At the Same Time
If we totally understand this about ourselves, we will overcome the “fear versus belief” struggle.  Whenever we set out to do something we know will be worthwhile but uncomfortable, our bodies and heart often scream out in emotional opposition.  This makes us become fearful and want to back out.  What we are to do in situations like that is to think positive.  Think about the benefits, the end goal, the big picture!  This way, our thinking shifts from fear to belief and then we should back that up by action –immediately!

You Can Actually Fake it Until You Make it
Action changes emotion.  When we identify what we are fearful of doing and force ourselves to do it, we don’t feel fearful anymore.

Are you having a bad day? Why not ‘decide’ to smile and even uplift others around you. You may realize that it wasn’t a bad day you were having, but merely a bad five minutes that you were trying to milk all day.

Disclaimer: This doesn’t apply to faking to be rich in order to attract a girl and all those other things. I’m sure you know what I mean.

You Cannot Always Trust Your Eyes
It is interesting that the balance mechanism –which makes sure we know when we are standing upright and not falling over –of the human body is located in our ears.  That’s interesting. Why not in our legs, hips or shoulders? Those are all logical places after all.  Another interesting fact is that, with our eyes, the images cast by our lenses onto the retina are always upside-down.

This sure gives us a hint as from which organ to reliably obtain a ‘balanced’ perspective on things.  It probably explains why we sometimes buy things we don’t need or use, simply because they ‘looked’ good.  Or why a guy would get into a bad relationship with a girl because she was physically attractive and he did not take the time to talk with her and ‘listen’ for her values and beliefs.

Our eyes often mislead us.  Our ears are far more reliable as sources of information.  And, by the way, it is the ear-part of your brain that is used when you read. And it activates your imagination too, helping you to gather information and more accurately put it into perspective.  That’s why reading trumps watching TV anytime!  We have an emotional link between our eyes and our hearts, but an intellectual link between our ears and our hearts.

So there you go!  It would be nice to know your thoughts; if you have more interesting things we should know about ourselves that you want to share, or if you don’t agree with these ones.

All the same, I hope you strive to understand yourself better; how you work and how the world around you works. So that you can lead a more strategic life!

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  1. Icey

    September 13, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Very informative.

  2. Mr Walker

    September 13, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    Brilliant article…Earlier today, I was challenged by a college to stand on one foot for 10 minutes…I was doing just fine until she spoke to me and I lost balance. Tried again and each time someone spoke I lost balance. Now it makes sense! Article Bookmarked!!!

  3. Mr Walker

    September 13, 2016 at 8:52 pm


  4. Ronks

    September 13, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    This is actually an excellent article and I enjoyed it. Thanks

  5. Sisi

    September 13, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    V important, self discovery, acceptance and love are paramount in the journey of adulthood. Your musings on 3 types of hunger are all too accurate.

  6. joy

    September 13, 2016 at 10:53 pm

    Very intrresting piece of writing, I like it.

  7. Nkechi

    September 14, 2016 at 8:23 am

    experience discoveries . Very interesting

  8. Chynwa

    September 14, 2016 at 9:50 am

    This right her, “We have an emotional link between our eyes and our hearts, but an intellectual link between our ears and our hearts” is my most important learning along with the appetite one. But how about we visual people? u know people with photographic memories? u recall something because u’ve ‘seen’ it before so u can literally scan the place, with ur mind’s eye? does this count @Akanna

    • Akanna Okeke

      September 15, 2016 at 12:08 am

      Hi Chynwa, that’s an interesting question. I definitely know what you’re talking about and I’m so glad that you mentioned “your mind’s eye”. That’s the key right there. The mind’s eye is the imaginative part (ear-part of the brain); it is more powerful than the physical eye.

      Also, these links between the eyes/ears and the heart are to be noted especially when making decisions- like dating (especially for guys), giving to charity when they present those heart-wrenching photos or appear on the streets looking so, etc.

      I would even go further to say that we should try as much as possible not to define ourselves by the problems or situations we “see” around us, but by what we “believe” about ourselves.
      It boils down to walking by faith and not by what we see. And as we know, faith comes by “hearing” 🙂

  9. Bola

    September 14, 2016 at 10:05 am

    Wow very informative piece. Weldone *Article bookmarked*

  10. Interesting

    September 15, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    I don’t necessarily agree with the bit about finding someone who “speaks” the same love language as you do. I might be a natural encourager (affirmer…lol) so id do great with someone who’s love language is words of affirmation but if the way i recieve love is acts of service then thats the language id need to be “spoken” to (in)…the person also being an encourager, while great, doesnt serve me as well because they wont be speaking my language.
    Nice article though.

  11. pinkie lee

    September 19, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    You are always very insightful with your articles. If It’s because of your articles i visit BN, then my 2cents paid off.

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