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People, what would Jesus do? Can you believe Berry Dakara got kicked out of church?

In her story time vlog today, the lifestyle vlogger is sharing her experience after getting sent out of church for indecent dressing. She also shows us the dress that got her kicked out so share your thoughts. Was the dress really that bad?

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31 Comments

  1. Tolu

    November 21, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    What is “incident dressing”?

    • Big Tee

      November 21, 2016 at 6:15 pm

      Dressing for an incident…..

    • Iris

      November 21, 2016 at 6:26 pm

      BN i think you meant to say ‘Indecent dressing’ in your headline. I might be wrong.

    • Anon

      November 21, 2016 at 6:42 pm

      I am so tired of all these senseless typos on BN. Wasn’t like this a year ago. What has changed???

    • FasholasLover

      November 21, 2016 at 8:30 pm

      Really! Really!! Really!!! The adults around you okayed that dress? Berry, you were very young then but, honestly? that dress is a no no to church. The lady shoulda told you in a less antagonistic manner. I know some churches actually have scarfs that they loan to offenders like you. But not to scare “sinners” away. Jesus will not do that.

  2. Jeez Louise

    November 21, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    Kinda boring… sorry 🙁

  3. Marian

    November 21, 2016 at 6:26 pm

    There is a right way to talk to people. You are seeing someone for the first time and you choose to focus on cleavage and deny the person entrance into church??

    We went for our thanksgiving service at my husband’s church and as soon as my baby sister got in they started praying and i opened my eyes after the prayer to find her missing. I waited for a while but after more than 20mins i started panicking as per my sis be jjc for naija and this was her first trip and we already had a mishap (working bathroom issue) at another church we went to the week before. My husband and i couldn’t leave because the pastor was talking to us and my mom was sitting too far from us for me to get her attention. I finally had to go look for her only to discover one of the ushers made her get up during the prayer session because she wasn’t covering her hair.
    Mind you she was rocking her own natural hair o. I was so mad like you don’t treat strangers like that. How can someone be visiting for the first time and you make them stand outside for something like that. Even if, you let them off for that day and explain your rules to them in a loving way at the END of the service. The poor girl was just confused and kept trying to tell them it was her sister’s Thanksgiving service and she was missing it.

    Some churches focus on the wrong things and chase people away from God.
    We should hold people accountable but not on the first day. You have to get to know them first, establish a relationship them mentor them to help them grow in their walk with Christ.

    If the lady in the video was not a christian will the action of the lady show her what a loving place church can be? Will she ever want to come back? Nope!

  4. Danni.

    November 21, 2016 at 6:59 pm

    YES, your dress was that bad. People should stop attacking churches and pastors just to get traffic and because they’re seeking relevance. I look at what a lot of so-called ‘celebrities’ do awful, indecent, immoral things these days, and I always wonder, WHERE are their parents? Are their parents dead? Or, is it because they’re earning money now and supporting their parents financially that their parents can no longer speak to them for them to hear or what? Tiwa Savage can bring naked women out for her ‘concert’, Elma Godwin can can take pornographic photographs and publish, Tonto Dikeh-Churchill can publish photographs of her naked pregnancy belly, etc, and you see pictures of women at events in Nigeria wearing prostitute clothing or expensive curtain fabric as if they are trying to out-naked Beyonce or Jennifer Lopez. Or, Kim Kardashian-West. Your parents should have seen and known and told you and stopped you that that dress was VERY inappropriate for church. Were you going to the beach or out on a date or out for drinks with friends? People should just be mature, self-respecting and non-attention-seeking and admit when they are wrong and stop making a mockery of or ridiculing churches and pastors and the Christian faith.

    Over two decades ago, I went ton holiday to Abidjan and there is this cathedral there in the former dictator and president’s hometown, which is a tourist attraction. I went with a couple of friends and right at the gate we were told we could not go in, or, rather, I, specifically, could not go in. The security guards at the gate were the ones telling us and they had very disapproving and somewhat dismissive attitudes. I was wearing a body suit i.e. my clothing on my torso looked like the torso of your dress and it was paired with a long, ankle-length sarong skirt, and I was wearing leather sandals on my feet (never mind that they were designer), on my back hung a colourful, crocheted, wool rucksack, my eyes behind Giorgio Armani sunglasses.Not only was my clothing inappropriate but also, apparently, my footwear, as their guidelines (which they had, set guidelines on clothing and footwear, we discovered) stipulated that shoes must cover the feet and be formal. We had been in a queue to get in and people were entering through the gates (we had been pulled to the side) all the while. We were made to realise that it was a church, a functioning church. We could see worshipers coming out of one service and others going in for the next. I had been, we had been thinking of it only as a famed tourist attraction. When that realisation hit me, that actually, yes, truly, it was a church, I realised my wrong and apologised. I knew that the attitude, the vibe of the guards (I mean, really, did you not know you were coming to a church? Is this how to dress to church?) was very understandable. With my apology and humility, they permitted us to come in but only to walk around the large grounds of the cathedral and take photos of the outside but still not to enter the church proper dressed like that.

    Your dress “”was that bad””, it “”was that bad””, for church, end of. No big deal.

  5. Sayo

    November 21, 2016 at 7:11 pm

    Would you have worn that dress for an interview?
    Would you even wear it to work?
    Answer to that is the same as should you have worn it to church
    Guess what?It’s also the same answer as should they have chased you out of church?anywhere you fall on the divide

  6. Amaka

    November 21, 2016 at 7:21 pm

    Let me be honest with you and not many people like being told the truth; If you know Jesus and have the Holy Spirit within you, you won’t wear clothes that show any part of your body. There are beautiful, smart sophisticated Christian women who know what fits them and wear them nicely. You can’t be a child of God and be an instrument in the hands of the devil at the same time. Why would you expose any part of your body at any point in time if indeed you call yourself a follower of Christ. Think about it deeply. It is wrong. You can look beautiful and attractive and yet descent. You are not an object. Stop looking securely suggestive not just to church but anywhere if you indeed bear the mark of the Lord. I could not help but admire a very decent African American woman leading praise worship I saw on TV the other day. My friend made a statement when she saw her and I quote ‘ ‘I like it when a woman knows the appropriate attire to wear for her body type’. That woman showed no body part but was so beautiful that women like us admired her ability to look beautiful and decent at the same time. They have carried a lady out of a Pentecostal Church before for wearing transparent clothing with nothing underneath. If the lady does not have Jesus, I’d suggest that they minister to her from there. But guess what, many ladies who dress indecently know Jesus and that makes the situation horrible. They are the ones who complain when they are sent out though they are expected to know better. The church must stand against the wiles of the enemy these last days.

    • Ngobeke

      November 22, 2016 at 10:01 am

      Hmmmmmm……the real truth. Years ago i heard Pastor Bims of blessed memory say a lady ought to make sure her bum was covered when wearing jeans…..something of that sort. I remember feeling ‘what’s all that for na’?…..but honestly when you come to know Jesus and allow the Holy Spirit free reign you understand that not everything is expedient…..how would my dressing affect others for Christ? Would it attract them to Christ or not?

    • lily

      December 2, 2016 at 12:02 am

      God bless your insight.

  7. Amaka

    November 21, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Correction; sexually suggestive not securely suggestive. (Autocorrect issues)

  8. XYZ

    November 21, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    There are some people in some churches who are overzealous to a point of sillyness. My friend almost got kicked out from a church for crossing her legs! Yes. Crossing her legs. And she wore a long and loose gown. The usher told her to either uncross her legs or get out of “”their” church. Another church I know walked a woman out for wearing sleeveless gown.

  9. Danni.

    November 21, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    Oh, and by the way, YES, Jesus has thrown someone out of ‘church’ for being inappropriately and wrongly-dressed, even when proper, appropriate clothing was readily available and had been provided (like you rejecting the scarf initially) and He does still and will continue to till the Day of Judgment according to a parable He told. (I’m not going to give the Scripture reference; evidence abounds overwhelmingly, even if only on BN, that Christians, so-called, NEED to read, and study, their Bibles more).

    Churches are places of WORSHIP. They are TEMPLES. They are INSTITUTIONS with rules and regulations and codes of conduct. You want to go to the NASS to appear before ordinary men, you find out in advance; you have an appointment at Aso Villa, you find out in advance; you are going to the UN building, you have been given audience with HM Elizabeth II at Buckingham palace, or just going on a tour of some parts of Buckingham palace, you find out in advance and comply accordingly.

    People KNOW they are going to a church. They KNOW different denominations, different churches, have different doctrines and rules and customs. EVERYONE knows this.

    Grace is not license for anything goes. Jesus Christ stated that: “”I come not to abolish the law but to fulfill it.”

    Can we all just take responsibility and behave like intelligent, (respectful, and, not least, God-fearing) adults and do the due diligence necessary beforehand, and accord to God and to His House, “”the place where I will put My Name””, at the very least, the equal respect we give to some man-made and man-honouring institutions and buildings.

  10. Spunky

    November 21, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    All I see is a witty- pretty-chocolate colored lady.

  11. ugg

    November 21, 2016 at 8:19 pm

    I had high expectations for this dresss. i thought it was going to be bad!!! then i saw it.. I would not wear that to a wedding, to a picnic or house gathering..

    Anyways, gal, i m tired of all the unnecessary policing and unreasonable rules due to hyper religiosity, it is too much in Africa! Too many sheeps, not enough goats. lol.

    • Nkech

      December 13, 2016 at 3:15 pm

      The goats are the ones who wonder about and get into trouble because they feel they know better than the Shephard who made them.

  12. nunulicious

    November 21, 2016 at 8:50 pm

    Berry said in the video-“the dress wasn’t THAT bad”
    Meaning it was bad but not that bad. If she herself needs to qualify the level of bad, who am I to comment?

    Cleavage showing tops don’t look THAT bad when you (the wearer) look in the mirror but when another person (the observer) stands above you, say on the stairs and is conversing with you then it looks “that bad” especially when it’s pressed down, shaken together and….

    • moni

      November 21, 2016 at 11:10 pm

      Very true. I used to argue about this until I got to know that anytime i wear a dress/top that shows just a tiny (peek-a-boo) cleavage, the young guys in my office will bring all sorts of documents for me to review, letters to correct etc and they just stand right behind me while I bend over.
      Till one corper (Bolanle) joined us and told me one day Madam I am sorry but I have to tell you this anytime you have a “low” top once you come in and walk through our office they start planning WHO will go in first
      what will you take
      how was it?
      Trybe! I was embarrassed.
      That was when I remembered that I have scarves,
      that my camisoles can be adjusted to cover my breast
      and thank God I was able to focus more on work as their distractions vanished

  13. kc

    November 21, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    All these people always asking what will Jesus do? How come you guys never ask what would Mohammed do? U sure wouldn’t have worn that to a mosque just to test them and see their reaction would u? Pls stop pushing other peoples boundaries and always expect them to adjust to suit you. You ur church doesn’t like women not tying their hairs, yet u take ur sister there…without being kind enough to throw a scarf on her head for the few hours u guys would be there. U are here blaming church. I don’t attend redeem for instance…..but I know as a lady u can leave ur hair open in their services…there’s absolutely no need to test them and see their reaction

  14. Danni.

    November 21, 2016 at 9:10 pm

    BN, post my comments.

  15. Observer

    November 21, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    That dress looks pretty plain for a wedding. Maybe thats why she kicked you out.

  16. o

    November 21, 2016 at 11:10 pm

    Hire an editor pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

  17. Patrick

    November 21, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    was indecent. U don’t need to show all that. U can be decent and still classy. Anyway, its fashion and as people, we have to follow what some so called experts say.

    • Honestina

      November 22, 2016 at 1:13 am

      Even Anne wintour (hope that’s right), the so called fashion expect dresses “incidently”. I see the way to fame for most of these struggling b(v)loggers is Christianity bashing.

  18. tunmi

    November 22, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Even the same Jesus they are defending has seen her naked

  19. Tomi

    November 22, 2016 at 3:56 am

    @Funmi. Your comment is difficult to decipher. Which Jesus are you talking about. Alpha and Omega or another one .

  20. Didi

    November 22, 2016 at 10:22 am

    Church not an evening drink out with the ladies.

  21. lily

    December 2, 2016 at 12:03 am

    @amaka

  22. eka

    September 24, 2018 at 2:03 pm

    LOL!! Berry – u were wearing a “nightie”. (Just teasing u! 🙂

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