#BN2016Epilogues: ‘Tife Found Love

As the year comes to a close, we want to thank every member of the BellaNaija community come who shared their year with us. We made a call for you to send us your stories. {Click here if you missed it} and you did. As we share the last of the Epilogues today, we hope that 2017 To catch up on the previous stories shared this month, click HERE.
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Just like everybody does when the year is coming to an end, I sat on a lonely Wednesday evening and drafted a “new year resolution”. My resolution was not like the normal type people wrote, it was more about finding myself. The truth is, I was okay with everything about my life except from the spiritual aspect and love life. 2016 kicked off badly for me. I had an argument with my mum and I was pissed. That aside, my love life was indeed the major event or should I say happening in 2016. I was determined to find love at all costs… so I came up with a slogan “steal bae 2016” funny right? But the funniest thing happened, I fell for someone in my secondary school. OMG!!!

He is so fine, tall, funny, friendly, he can dance, sing and has the ability to do silly things that looked pretty. I knew I was falling head over heels for him but I couldn’t stop, he had the ability to make me fall for him every single day.

What more could I ask for? I felt like a princess in my own fairy tale. Just as things were about to get rosy, we had a slight disagreement and from there we started drifting apart slowly until we became strangers. Back to zero point! It was then I realized that I had fallen for him to the extent that I could not eat, sleep, smile, laugh without hearing from him but then it was already too late. My heart was already broken and so was my fairy tale. I am not the kind of person to be all grumpy and sad about things for a long period of time so I did the strangest thing, I channeled all the pain, anger, bitterness, sadness, emotions that I couldn’t show, tears I couldn’t spill and actions that I couldn’t reveal… into the one thing I love doing: TALKING!

I joined the Sunday school unit in church, organized spiritual activities and started a business. It was then I realized I had so much to do, so much to achieve and so much to gain.
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To cut 366 days short, 2016 taught me that;
1. You never find love when you search for it
2. To live life and not just exist
3. I can be better with my spiritual life if I work toward being better
4. Love is a beautiful thing
5. To direct my emotions and anger to the right thing

Now to the things I tried out in 2016,
1. Fell in love
2. Got my heart broken
3. Got closer to God
4. Got drunk(I’m not making it a habit)
5. Made new friends
6. Wrote my final year project myself
7. Graduated from University
8. Opened up
9. Started serving my country(NYSC)

Finally, I am not walking into 2017 a single lady, I actually did find love towards the end of the year.

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