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The Daily Vulnerable by Chude Jideonwo: For My Sake, I Choose Truth

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I was at dinner with a mentor the other day, and he asked me, “So are you still based outside Nigeria?”

Now, if you live in Nigeria, you know that being seen as ‘based abroad’ is a status enhancer. It indicates some level of options and affluence and opportunities that is a heritage from colonialism and widespread poverty.

I replied him with a smile: I don’t like answering that question. 

Why?

Because it turns out I really, really like Nigeria, and I much prefer to live here now and in the immediate future, and I am back home fully and not wanting to go anywhere for a while.

But that means I lose the wonder I see in people’s eyes when they think I am based abroad or crisscrossing the world. It’s good for the brand. But to lie about my own reality, for whatever advantage, is to allow cobwebs in my emotional chamber. It might impress you at the moment, but then I have to go live with myself when you are gone, and I am alone looking at myself.

I will pay the price in integrity and authenticity, and from there it’s a slippery slope down to forgetting who I really am.

It sounds like a very small thing. But small things collect together, and they can ultimately block off the sunlight of joy.

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Jideonwo is a storyteller, using the research and evidence on human flourishing to inspire new narratives about politics, markets, faith, identity and society in Africa.He is a co-founder of RED, which he ran for 13 years before stepping down in December 2017. One of its companies, StateCraft Inc. handled communication for the Muhammadu Buhari campaign in 2015 and has worked in elections in Ghana, Kenya, Liberia, and Sierra Leone.

4 Comments

  1. abi

    November 3, 2018 at 2:34 pm

    Articulate.

  2. Friday’s Other Child

    November 4, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    Status Anxiety is a terrible thing that’s taking hold of way too many Nigerians. I’ll be very surprised if in the coming years, we don’t start seeing a rise in Suicides in addition to the continued rise of conditions like hypertension and strokes. The battle isn’t just in securing our minds, it’s in protecting the effects of the pressures of living false lives on our physical al health too.

    • yes maam

      November 5, 2018 at 2:31 am

      the 1% is already depressed and suffering from serious anxiety and paranoia as exhibited on social media – and they are the ones that supposedly have it all.. God help us!

  3. yes maam

    November 5, 2018 at 2:31 am

    moderator i have a post awaiting moderation

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