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Adebimpe Alafe: Every Body is a Bikini Body

People not only judge books by their covers, they also pick roommates, houses, jobs, colleges, and millions of other things based on how appealing they are to the eye. It is extremely tempting to do the same with your body, but remember that the person you are on the inside is just as important as the one in your reflection!

Adebimpe Alafe

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“I feel like this one makes my butt look too big.”

“I hate how this cut brings out my stomach.”

“If I had better boobs, this would look so much better.”

“I just don’t look good in bikinis.”

These are musings I have heard while in the female dressing room, shopping for swimsuits. If you have ever been shopping, you know exactly what I am talking about (and can probably add a few more self-deprecating sentences to the list). I am definitely guilty of this; I too have assessed my body in the same negative way that people commonly do when deciding which swimsuit to buy: “If I’m going to spend money, I better look good in it.”

Some may argue that this is a normal (or even healthy!) thing to do. I have even heard it said that, for women in particular, this kind of negative energy toward our bodies is necessary in order to “meet someone” or “be beautiful.”

While I wholly respect the opinions of others, I could not disagree more. I firmly believe that every single person is beautiful exactly the way that they are. The opinions of others – friends, significant others, random people you meet – should not impact how confident you feel in your swimsuit, or in anything for that matter.

Every body—every size, shape, color—is a bikini body. Of course, I live on planet earth and have the same unpleasant shopping experiences as everyone else. I know that positive self-talk is almost always easier said than done. However, here are five ways I’ve learned to actually practice body positivity in daily life.

Your worth is not defined by what you see in the mirror
We live in the most visual world history has ever seen. People not only judge books by their covers, they also pick roommates, houses, jobs, colleges, and millions of other things based on how appealing they are to the eye. It is extremely tempting to do the same with your body, but remember that the person you are on the inside is just as important as the one in your reflection!

Loving your body does not mean that you do not care about yourself
​Quite the contrary. It means that you love and respect your body, regardless of what you are going through. You and your body are on the same team, so root for each other!

Be obsessed with what you love about your body, instead of obsessing over what you don’t love
​I often find myself looking in the mirror, and the first thoughts that come to mind are “Wow, I still have that scar,” or “Why are my abs so lame?” Sometimes these thoughts overcrowd the ones that try to say, “Wow, I am strong,” “I have made so much progress,” “I look really nice in this.” Positive thoughts are far more restorative than negative ones.

It bears repeating: Every body is a bikini body
​The society has created this toxic narrative that the only people “allowed” to wear bikinis are “skinny” people with perfect physical features. But the reality is that the only person who truly gets a say in what you are “allowed” to wear is yourself. No billboard, magazine, or friend has the right to tell you what to wear. If you love how you look, go for it!

It sounds trite, but it’s true: You are beautiful exactly the way that you are.

Adebimpe Alafe is a student, an entrepreneur and a seasoned writer who is trying to do right by writing her wrongs, when she can't right her wrongs.With a strong passion for the matters that concern youth development and media matters. A key focus of hers is centered on issues concerning the empowerment of the girl child. I love to read novels and watch TV. I spend most of my time designing outfits. Being in front of the camera gets her excited.

4 Comments

  1. Cocolette

    May 21, 2019 at 1:01 am

    Every body is not a bikini body!!
    Yes, love yourself and all that jazz but if you don’t look good in a bikini, there’s other kinds of swimwear you can wear that will look good on you. Part of loving your body is accepting that not everything will fit your body type and going for what flatters your body the most.
    If you decide however to wear a bikini with your bikini inappropriate body, kindly collect anything you see from the mouth of people

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    • Scott

      May 21, 2019 at 5:49 pm

      I disagree with you Coco. I think what the writer is trying to say is that love whatever body shape you have. you can flaunt your body not minding if you have scars or fupa as long as you are happy with your body.

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  2. Olayinka Daodu

    May 22, 2019 at 2:45 pm

    I agree with you scott, the bikini body was used to pass a message of accepting your body shape and size not the literal “bikini” we all know.

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  3. GraceOfGOD

    May 28, 2019 at 2:43 pm

    @Adebimpe Alafe

    Good day DEAR Adebimpe,

    I just want to say THANK YOU for this SUPERB article that lifted up my SPIRIT. I used to be “SLIM” but added “TOO MUCH” weight during my universities days. Lately I have been SAD about my current body size and UNCOMFORTABLE as well. You are SO RIGHT, there is NO GOOD in SELF-DEPRECIATION. It is NOT healthy. While I try to lose some weight I should STOP “HATING” my current body. After all my WORTH is NOT defined by my physical aspect. THANKS a lot and may GOD BLESS and PROTECT YOU in JESUS’ name I prayed amen. Have a GREAT day 🙂

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