I’d like to start by saying a big well done to Ogechi Ofurum-Omeike for this book, Raising Smarter Kids, a very educative and practical guide to proper parenting. It is a must read for parents desirous of raising kids who will grow up to become responsible and useful members of society. The fact that the author is a parent herself, and someone who has a lot of experience working with kids, makes her words and nuggets of advice very crucial and of utmost importance.
Ogechi does very well in discussing a number of parenting mistakes, which many parents today make. For instance, in this fast-paced world we live presently, many parents are way too occupied with work, their businesses, or even social engagements. Thus, they find it very convenient to neglect their children or leave them at the mercy of nannies or neighbours. This makes the kids susceptible to abuse of different kinds, and causes them to pick up vices from other people. Ogechi advises that parents spend quality time with their children and get more involved in their lives, get to know what challenges the children face and give proper guidance and direction.
Another parenting mistake that Ogechi discusses in Raising Smarter Kids is parents making unhealthy comparisons between their kids and other kids. Personally, I have seen the damage this can do to a child’s self-confidence and self-esteem. Unfortunately, many parents today are still very guilty of that, not realising how that eats away at a child’s self-worth. As rightly observed in this book, such children will likely become aggressive, withdrawn, and can even become bullies. It, therefore, behoves parents to help their kids be confident in themselves, and motivate them in other ways other than negatively comparing them with other kids, including their siblings.
I wish, though, that the author had isolated and given practical advice to parents on how they can help their children deal with bullying at school, and the psychological damage that this does to a child. With the increasing rate at which teenagers and pre-teenagers are committing suicide, due to the effects of bullying, the alarm has to be repeatedly sounded to parents and guardians alike.
Overall, Raising Smarter Kids is a fantastic book, a product of thorough research, careful planning and execution. It is a book that serves as a wakeup call to parents in particular, to be alert and alive to their God-given responsibility to train their kids to become well-rounded adults. Parents cannot pass on this responsibility to others. They have to take the bull by the horn and make sure that they give their kids their best.
Even though I am not a parent yet, I can say that I have learned a number of things reading this insightful book, which I plan to put to practical use when dealing with kids. Raising Smarter Kids is both very timely and important for today’s parents.