Aso-Ebi MADNESS! – A Personal Encounter

I’ll start by clearing up some things; I’ve never been married and I am not engaged so I write this purely from one side of the aisle. I’ve reached the age where everyone around me seems to be getting engaged and even a chronic non-wedding goer like me is forced to attend a few. So imagine my discomfort when I reluctantly decided to attend the wedding of an old school friend and she mentioned that she would send her driver to drop off the aso ebi. Aso- Ebi literally means clothes of the family and I concede that it has evolved to include close friends as well, but I mean, I was not one of her close friends anymore and I felt and still feel that aso ebi should be for your inner-circle of friends.

Anyway, I decided to buy it to support her and since she mentioned that it was Ankara and Aso Oke, I figured it wouldn’t cost me much. I couldn’t have been more WRONG! After her driver dropped it off, I called to find out how much it cost so I could send the money over and she said “Ah just 17 k, I didn’t want to pick expensive asoebi like other brides I know”. I was dumbfounded. 17,000 Nigerian Naira for ankara and aso oke??? What really baffled me was that she thought it was cheap. I returned her aso ebi and explained that I couldn’t make the wedding anymore because of family commitments but I did use part of the 17,000 I would have spent to get her a gift.

Can somebody please tell me why brides feel because it is their special day it is everyone else’s as well? For real? Boo, you are a princess to your man alone. Please don’t bankrupt your poor friends because you want to top person X, Y or Z’s aso ebi. My irritation with this issue is well known and I keep hoping someone will tell me something different but instead I hear outrageous stories of 50,000 naira asoebi and even asoebi as high as 80,000.

I’ve been told that the sale of aso ebi is a way for some brides to raise money for the wedding. To those brides I say: please have the type of wedding your family can afford. DO NOT have your friends pay for your wedding. What is really wrong with our society? Why do we keep turning beautiful aspects of our culture into perverse displays of our greed and fake lifestyles? Aso Ebi was born in the tradition of family members wearing similar clothes to show support for the celebrant. It is not a money making scheme. Remember, not everyone in a family can afford exorbitant prices for clothes and I am sorry (I know I’m going to get heat for this) but it takes away from the whole point when you see two levels of asoebi in one family; one for the rich folks and one for the poorer relatives. I am not referring to situations where there is aso-ebi for young people and one for the older folks; I’m talking about when your cousin Shola or Nneka’s mum is wearing the aso-ebi you picked for members of your staff because the one you chose for so called “family members” is too expensive for them.

It is only fair that I say something to the people who encourage this behaviour. To all FRIENDS, it is okay to tell your friend that her aso-ebi is too expensive. In fact, tell her that I said you will not be bullied into spending half of your salary for her aso-ebi in addition to buying her a bridal shower gift and wedding present. I understand that we get caught up in the euphoria that our friend is finally going to the Promised Land (her hubby’s house) but as friends it is important to call each other to order. For those who go along just to belong… your issue is one for another post.

So, to my yet to be married ladies, please remember that though your wedding day is important, your marriage is most important. Do not bow to pressure from your mum or one of your aunts that sells lace or anyone else for that matter. When picking asoebi, remember that your friends can only wear it for one day. They love you and want to celebrate with you so reciprocate that love by being considerate of their finances.

67 Comments on Aso-Ebi MADNESS! – A Personal Encounter
  • keep the peace March 28, 2009 at 9:23 pm

    THANNNKKKK YOOUUU OHHH-gREAT WRITE UP

  • Tosin Nguher March 28, 2009 at 11:28 pm

    This couldn’t have been more on point! Thanks for writing on this issue. I wont say more than that because you’ve said it all!

  • FLAKY March 28, 2009 at 11:45 pm

    You hit the nail right on the head.not only is the aso ebi price hiked but they use the profit to buy gifts which they give out to guests, so u are also paying for take home gift. we live in a very fake country were couples are trying to out to do each other so that their wedding will be the most talked about for just a few days .anytime i watch bisi olatilo or newsline i get tired of the show of affluence in a country were basic health, roads , water and electricity is not available.

  • Konye March 29, 2009 at 12:10 am

    True Talk!…..to worsen matters, it appears that those who buy the aso-ebi sometimes receive preferential treatment at the reception/after parties………………….some receive ‘special’ gifts……..eeeeeeesssshh…….as if the gifts will change the price of fish in the market….lol

  • So Relieved March 29, 2009 at 12:30 am

    I’m so relieved that this topic has come up because I thought I was the only one who declined to wear some folks aso-ebi because of the cost and then be accused of not wanting to support the bride and groom. Shoot!!! We as Nigerians need to stop trying to outdo each other and try to uplift. It is so ridiculous to see how much people pay for their weddings. How then do you base a marriage on that? Like my mother-in-law says “Wedding is for one day, Marriage is for a lifetime”. Great write up and long overdue!!!!

  • nm March 29, 2009 at 1:19 am

    true talk!!!!true talk!!!

  • Nneka March 29, 2009 at 3:25 am

    As weird as it may sound, I’m glad I’ve been absent from a bunch of weddings for this reason. I won’t miss a dear one’s wedding for this reason but, for a change, can I just wake up and wear something hanging in my wardrobe without feeling obligated to look like one piece of a massive ‘aso-ebi’ zig-zag puzzle?!
    I’m so not into this stuff so I usually reflect the wedding colors in a personal style. It’s not necessarily the cheaper route but at least the outfit gets a longer ‘lifespan’ in my warbrobe. That counts!

  • Toluwa March 29, 2009 at 4:47 am

    how abt i just wear my own outfit thats the same color as the aso ebi and call it a day! its nt by force! and its nt like the Bride wiil even see my face on d day as she wld be too busy trying to dance and show off her wedding gown or aso oke, whichever it is!

    Nice post!

  • misa March 29, 2009 at 5:34 am

    thanks for bringing this up. good article.

  • kelendra March 29, 2009 at 9:17 am

    Finally someone is addresssing this issue. I just paid 17,000 naira for asoebi and i feel completely ripped off. I am getting to a point where i dont even want to hear bridesmaid or aso-ebi near me. Pple forget the essence of things. I have warned my mother, any aso-ebi more than 10,000 naira makes no sense, when i get married- nothing more than that, i dont need anybody to go hungry bcos they want to buy asoebi.
    There is beauty in simplicity.

  • temi March 29, 2009 at 11:11 am

    i sooooooooo agree with the article i will be geting married soon and like i told my peeps aso ebi has now turned to big business that they place adverts for………..its serious

  • efelicious March 29, 2009 at 2:18 pm

    true talk….i cant add nor subtract…great article

  • anon March 29, 2009 at 3:42 pm

    LOL …… I feel your pain.

  • Angela March 29, 2009 at 4:03 pm

    17,000 naira for aso-ebi?! What the _ _ _ _? I have never paid more than 5000 naira for aso -ebi and even that one sef, it was because she was a very close friend and the material was cute. By the time I paid 2500 to sew it, 1000 for the gele and bought her a present, I had spent a lot of money to be a guest at a wedding.

    I find it appaling that brides now try to make money from their friends! That is just WRONG! You are getting married and your friends are there to support you. Why try to fleece them? If you rack up huge debt because you are getting married and mush wear that Vera Wang gown, that is your business and no one should bear the cost of your own excesses. Eesh!

  • L March 29, 2009 at 4:24 pm

    This is true talk, a lot of people are inconsiderate when it come to things like that. I want to help my friend make a good day of it but not at the risk of bankrupting myself.

  • Qees March 29, 2009 at 7:09 pm

    my mom went for a wedding recently and the aso ebi was 35k and my sister bn the bride friend paid 20k…..honestly, most times i pity mom cause she is just a civil servant…Am glad you wrote this article, i should email this to her

  • waffarian March 29, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    Its plain madness! I have sewn aso-ebi once and it was an experience. First of all, nobody told me the price in advance. By the time they sent the thing over, it was too late to not pay as I had already promised to do so.I had no idea it was gonna be so expensive. Secondly, I also had no idea that it was also damn expensive to sew it as well!

    Since then, I no do oh. I never craise reach that one. If everybody like make dem talk, I don tell them say na matter of principle and character. I rather use the money to pay school fees for some poor kids than spend it on material wey dey hot and go dey scratch person the whole day.

    By the way, I also don’t understand why non yorubas are doing aso ebi. I always thought aso-ebi wearing at weddings was part of the yoruba culture…to show support, etc, for the bride.

    Those days, I no dey see the thing for our side oh…and I was a serious flower girl so I am very sure of it. Especially Ibo weddings. They never used to have this sort of thing….I am sure of it. Everybody just used to wear their own clothes, except maybe catholic womens organisation or one of those women church orgs…na dem dey like co ordinate… together…

  • mary March 29, 2009 at 10:49 pm

    As a regular commentator on BN this is one of the best articles I have read, its real! well written.You addressed a lot of issues in this short piece. Nigeria is a society to show off we want to keep up with the jones yet basic necessities of life are missing. We want to say I am better off yet…..

  • Nneka March 30, 2009 at 12:43 am

    Right from the word go, my mum has made a conscious effort to stay off those over-priced aso-ebi. 35k ke???! I can’t wait to hear my mum’s vocal expression on this one!lol

  • Nice Anon March 30, 2009 at 1:56 am

    Na crase naw. Why gini say wetin dey happen? Abeg make we yarn better thing abeg.

  • chilli March 30, 2009 at 9:41 am

    no one coulda said it better than the ever-blunt BN crew. nice one Ness. it’s really crazy. Thank God my friends know where we are coming from. One is getting married soon and her aso-ebi is affordable. This craze had better stop, else, I’ll just shock ma friends by telling them to freestyle….grrrrrrr.

  • S March 30, 2009 at 9:54 am

    my mum recently got a bill of 200k from her friend, she didnt attend d wedding, even d lace shes wearing for my own wedding didnt cost dat much. pure madness i tell u.

  • Lamide March 30, 2009 at 1:26 pm

    I feel your pain, girl, lol, it’s happened to the best of us :p…Great article. *Slightly off-topic*:Another trend is using fascinators (those cute hairpieces) as “aso-ebi” for the bride’s friends. I think I like that, cuz u get to wear what you wanna wear, and its (usually) not too expensive.

  • Y Gold March 30, 2009 at 2:36 pm

    BN, am going to a friend’s party on friday and the material cost £30 and i took it to the taylors and am getting charged £60 double the amount of the ankara. its not even a wedding and they took aso abi and another rip off is the tailor charging us so much to sew and not as good as naija tailors..

  • nana akua March 30, 2009 at 3:01 pm

    i am well and truly impressed. this article is tastefully put, well written, and simply straight to the point. I am loving Ness’ way of articulating this whole issue. Will look forward to your next article luv. x

  • Chima beckz March 30, 2009 at 3:56 pm

    I’ve experienced that on one of my friend’s wedding in abj. She said the material costs 10k. I stay in ebonyi state and trans to and fro will take me 5k on road coupled with other expense. In fact as a civil servant i knew i couldn’t afford such expenses. I had to avoid the event wit excuses. People needs to be considerate.

  • damola March 31, 2009 at 12:50 am

    No body even invite my brokeass for such events!!!….half a bag of rice to support your wedding is less than 4k.. if you no gree, go siddon.. In Nigeria.. no one will borrow you money to do anything that’ll produce good result in your life.. if they do to you, then you are lucky.. no body dey help me do anything, everything na hustle from start to finish, na only baba God dey make am eassyyyy… so, I no send anybody papa.. even my own blood… No be by force..

  • Bola March 31, 2009 at 5:13 am

    omo, na madness.
    choose wat u want for ur close friends n family, not a uniform for the whole wedding, even if they can afford it.
    the essence of aso-ebi is lost wen the whole party is wearing the same thing.
    i didnt know it was that expensive o, omo that is reeeaaally expensive. people dey try o, where dem they find this kin money?
    esp those that dey go party every weekend?

  • Missy April 1, 2009 at 4:26 pm

    This is the one thing that I was proud of about my wedding. I insisted on not having aso-ebi at the white. I had a fight with all the women who are not yoruba but insisted that it was the way things were done. I find the whole aso-ebi business distasteful in the first instance and incongruent with white weddings. Then gaining a profit to buy gifts for guests, how low can one sink? Only my parents and uncles and aunts who insisted, wore aso-ebi but it was a color code for all guests and it was beautiful.

    The next article has to be on those tacky cups, trays and generally brightly colored disgusting items they give out at weddings. Yuck!

  • TY April 1, 2009 at 6:05 pm

    you’re on point girl!
    I belong to the class of people who are sometimes unable to refuse these clothes. Sometimes I think of it as a way of building my wardrobe of native attires. Trust me, I’ll stop collecting when I wanna. Plus im not having aso-ebi at my own wedding o. just a color code. We need to start getting the idea in naija!

  • randommer April 1, 2009 at 6:45 pm

    how is aso-ebi incongruent with white weddings?

  • Iny April 2, 2009 at 1:36 pm

    Areally nice article, which points to what we all pass through and feel too polite or nice to say anything about it, i have two firends getting married in Benin and Asoo-ebi is 10k each, i live in abuja and have to attend this weddings, so transporatation costs, gifts, and aso -ebi it really is very high

  • Abi April 2, 2009 at 5:27 pm

    Nice piece Ness! I totally feel you on dis. I used to feel guilty when i declined to buy. I would rather not buy aso-ebi and survive than buy aso-ebi and drink garri! the least they will do is not invite me to a wedding i didnt want to go to in the first place.

  • dailybread09 April 2, 2009 at 8:24 pm

    aso ebi could really put a hole in once’s pocket.thinking back on how much have spent on them within the last six months could actually pay someones salary……not including the cost to sew them…..but in all it adds beauty to the day of our loved ones………..lets keeping showing the love ……..

  • Mee April 3, 2009 at 4:15 pm

    Babe, what do u mean by “I had a fight with all the women who are not yoruba” Aso Ebi is totally Yoruba, originated and is usually practised by the Yoruba’s so pls…

  • vivian o April 3, 2009 at 11:56 pm

    I disagree with you on this. If aso-ebi or ashebi as some call it is based on individuals wearing similar cloth for an occassion to show solidarity with a celebrant, then it is NOT a Yoruba thing or Yoruba originated. There are many cultures that practice this.

  • Bubbles April 8, 2009 at 2:07 pm

    Ooooooo! What a superb article! My goodness the whole asoebi thing is another beautiful concept that people get out of perspective abeg!

    I got married a couple of years ago and I know for a fact that you can get reasonable fabrics at good prices, especially if you are buying in bulk. I remember rolling my eyes at ‘aunty’s ‘ that were encouraging me to up the price that I offered the fabric at, so that I could get very ‘nice’ gifts for the people that bought it!!!!! How obscene is that! Off course I told them off and kept the price to the true costs. Its not by force abeg, it was just to create an option of something to wear for my friends/family, not a money making venture.

    On the otherside, my career is directly involved with brides and bridezillas who believe the earth should stop cause theyare getting married and often I want to slap them back to reality….but I can’t! Yes, your wedding is a one-off, superb celebration but surely, its just a start to the new realities that will become your life so please focus girl!!!
    Enuff ranting, thank you again for a fab article:)
    B

  • nandos April 8, 2009 at 5:12 pm

    This is one of the best articles I have read on BN. “Straight talking, hitting the nail on the head” article…….Naija gals need to read this cos the craze of aso-ebi has completely gone overboard.

  • Angelica April 8, 2009 at 6:40 pm

    I actually thought the celebrants used to give it out for free,i mean to their guests.Anyway we dont wear it where i come from.

  • Labake April 9, 2009 at 4:34 am

    In these days of Facebook and numerous pple selling Ankara on sale for as cheap as $25/6 yards and free shipping!!! How can someone require me to buy some ankara for $17k??? Na gold dem use make am? It aiight happening….no way…..There’s no shame in saying no….nice one gal!

  • Jay mama April 10, 2009 at 6:29 pm

    for me, aso ebi is not madness. no be by force oh. just as attending a friend’s wedding is not by compulsory, so is buying her aso ebi is not by force. During my wedding I only gave to people that requested for it. and guess what, half of them didnt pay… up till now oh.And I can assure you I didnt impose it on anyone. Infact, I had to go and buy because of the way people were requesting for it.Then I had to go buy even more because some of my friends were feeling left out.

  • kiki April 12, 2009 at 1:43 am

    Bella naija, thank you for this article. it was well put and I love it. Personally I think this aso ebi culture is ridiculous. I have vowed never to buy an aso ebi again cause it is unfair to trick people into paying for your wedding. now adays you don’t even have to be a close friend, as long as you can afford it they let you buy it. A friend of my had a wedding too long ago and i was asked to be a brides maid it was only after i had commited my self i was told i had to pay £70 for the dress, £15 for shoes, £10 for gloves and flowers and £25 for two and half yards of ankara. When I saw the quality of the dress i realised that it was day light robbery cause it couldn’t have cost more than £25. I guess the fact that she had 10 bride’s maids meant that we probably paid 30% of the hall fees!

  • the princess April 13, 2009 at 10:04 pm

    Thanks for this article bella……well im in my prime and dont plan on getting married anytime soon so i guess im on your side of the aisle too….but i just converted that amount into pounds and there is no way i would spend £79 on aso ebi for a friend…haba when she is not my sister! and as for giving the aso ebi to distant friends or even acqaintances that is soooo not cool….us nigerians need to fix up and turn ourselfs into trends-setters not trend followers….x

  • Angela May 11, 2009 at 4:14 pm

    Chei! What a wicked bride! :(

  • oyenike Alliyu June 2, 2009 at 2:05 pm

    This article is really brilliant and infact it came at the time i was going through alot,i have been invited by four of my friends for their sister sister cousin’s wedding,infact people i av neva met in my life and they want me to buy aso-ebi for all,when i calculated the money all together i realised my salary for the month of june cannot be enough,and this are friends that i cherished so much,each time i explain to them that i cant afford it we end up quarelling,since they refused to listen to me i then stopped picking their calls,that was how i lost my friendship of 7years all in the name of aso-ebi.Aso-Ebi should not be imposed on friends and family it should be a voluntary thing.

  • jumoke adedeji June 15, 2009 at 6:46 am

    Aso ebi has lost it meaning, it has lost the reason for which it was established. why should i break the bank b’cos someone is having a one day celebration, or i should say three days celebration ( this is the new trend now) pre party celebration day, celebration day and post celebration day. people expect you to be present for the three days, just forget about your life for those days and dedeicate your time, money and self to me. CRAZY!!!!!. to me aso ebi is pure waste of money. i live in america, aso ebi is softly enforced on you because the celebrants does not want anyone to outdress them on their day. our tradition has been interpreted wrongly to suit our own selfish desires.

  • odubunmi tosin June 16, 2009 at 4:42 pm

    i think i agree with this article. the way we go about aso-ebi has made it to lost its meaning. a better way i think is just to let ur friends know ur colours and that would make the day colourful.

  • biola June 19, 2009 at 2:10 pm

    The Nigerian aso-ebi charade could be a pain but it is also a blessing. It is a pain because the aso-ebi could sometimes be over-priced and even a rip off. However, in a materialistic society where everyone is under the pressure to out do the next person with what one is wearing, whether they can afford to or not, I believe the aso-ebi is a blessing.

    One must agree that whenever there is a friends’ or relatives’ wedding or event to attend, ones gets into a fit on what to wear. The over-worn little black or red dress will not do this time around because most if not all your friends have seen all the tricks you’ve been able to pull off with the dress. Common girls, we do notice these things, we make it our business to know what everyone is wearing, from the style to the cut and most of us could even smell the high quality lace material from a distance.

    Wearing the chosen aso-ebi mean that you don’t have to worry about what to wear, try to outshine the next person or feel inadequately dressed in your last season lace material. Regardless of the different grades of aso-ebi, everyone is on the same social level during the event because you are all wearing the ‘aso-ebi’ and you don’t feel like cowering in your chair when you see a friend in her 20,000 naira lace jacquard.

  • Biola June 19, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    The Nigerian aso-ebi charade could be a pain but it is also a blessing. It is a pain because the aso-ebi could sometimes be over-priced and even a rip off. However, in a materialistic society where everyone is under the pressure to out do the next person with what one is wearing, whether they can afford to or not, I believe the aso-ebi is a blessing.

    One must agree that whenever there is a friends’ or relatives’ wedding or event to attend, ones gets into a fit on what to wear. The over-worn little black or red dress will not do this time around because most if not all your friends have seen all the tricks you’ve been able to pull off with the dress. Common girls, we do notice these things, we make it our business to know what everyone is wearing, from the style to the cut and most of us could even smell the high quality lace material from a distance.

    Wearing the chosen aso-ebi mean that you don’t have to worry about what to wear, try to outshine the next person or feel inadequately dressed in your last season lace material.

    Regardless of the different grades of aso-ebi, everyone is on the same social level during the event because you are all wearing the ‘aso-ebi’ and you don’t feel like cowering in your chair when you see a friend in her 20,000 naira lace jacquard.

  • Jenny June 24, 2009 at 11:44 am

    aso-edi franzy, such a shame and pain.
    During my wedding 6 years a go, i simply told my friends the colours of the day and that was it, some bought expencive laces and geles, other bought cheap ones, bottom line they all looked smashing, not a penny raised from aso-ebi sales.
    I would say these brides have no shame. Nice article.

  • Omolara July 2, 2009 at 3:02 pm

    I get you that how they all are in London.Ladies over do this aso ebi thing. the piss take is when the material is of bad quality and looks like aso in ule (rag) material. My friend’s brother is getting married and if you see the aso ebi i had to buy OMG, its awful. I feel like i have been robbed. My mum saw it and laughed cause she said it look like the back stock of 1994. Ladies fix up and stop selling useless cloths or give your poor friends an option to buy.

  • specialsombori January 31, 2010 at 8:06 am

    first i would love to say you are on point bella. I just looked thru facebook and i was wondering how much pple in Nigeria make so much so that they can afford buying all these asoebi. forexample certain people may have 4 weddings each week and dey buy at least 3 , each asoebi may need different accessories, this is all your salary gone . I live in america and like someone rightly said its the plight to out do the next person!. forifori”. personally i do think that people should think of the morning after the wedding when dier friends would nt knock on their doors to lend dem money cos they have no money since they spent all deir money in making their day. BRIDES RETHINK!!!!!!THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS THE DAY AFTER. how do as a wife with kids in good consience spend so much on your friends’ asoebi and lend money for your kids’s school fees. ha ha e je ka ro ori wa dada!

  • Aibee March 16, 2010 at 10:05 am

    Aso ebi is not by force people. It all boils down to our sense odf self worth. I’ve attended weddings where I didn’t buy the aso ebi because I couldn’t afford it. I wore what I had, showed solidarity to my friend, gave my gift, ate rice and went home. End of story.I’ve also attended a wedding where ankara of N1500-1600 was given at N2000 for 4yards and N2500 for 6yards. I just took a walk to Oshodi market where I bought the exact fabric for N1550-6yards.I took a bus back home and spent abot N1700 altogether including cost of transport. If you can’t afford it, then don’t buy it. By all means attend the shindig but please we should learn to develop a sense of self identity outside the group.

    To all the brides who give fabrics at exorbitant prices and at the end of the day give you buckets, napkins, handkerchiefs etc as souvenirs, better repent. Ole o da.

  • milzpolzy June 1, 2010 at 1:58 am

    I must commend the writer of this article. Very interesting read!
    This aso-ebi thing in naija seems to be the fad to stay. But sometimes, the bride cannot be blamed.
    I am getting married in a few weeks and I initially decided against any aso-ebi-
    was just gonna call a colour code but it was ma friends that kept calling to ask for
    aso-ebi. They told me I had come with ma policies again. I finally decided to ‘arrange’
    aso-ebi for 2500. I really don’t have a problem buying for friends’ parties but I am
    yet to be asked to pay over 15 grand so far (my staying outside the country actually explains that sha!)

  • edith June 2, 2010 at 8:35 pm

    Nice write-up. we need 2 be real in our society.

  • omogekofo July 28, 2010 at 5:27 pm

    lol….
    y didnt any1 write totally against the writer….
    .meaning that the writer is so right.

    lets livereal lifeand forget fake lives….ciao

  • Nice write up August 7, 2010 at 8:48 am

    This is the best article ever. I Strongly agree @ Ness! Wedding is just for a day, marriage is forever. Whats the fuss about spending so much and also ripping people of. Cut ur coat according to ur sizes. At the end of it all, it is only the marriage certificate thats needed. End of story! 17k ni 17k ko?? U be thief?lol. Ness, we are waiting for another write up k :), Great!

  • mee October 25, 2010 at 1:01 pm

    please dnt force people to bear the expence for your party, some that borrowed to buy the aso ebi because they want to be there so that their abscent wont destroy the friendship built over the years will leave you with a curse, pls be careful

  • smiles November 3, 2010 at 11:56 pm

    nice one…ive had one dat d aso ebi was 50k(a boss) in d end, he gave all d ppl in d team free gele cos no one was gonna pay 50k..i av an idea how much most ankara go for at d market, so i only buy asoebi when d price is reasonable…. if i dont think it is, i simply dont buy…. i jst go forr d wedding wearing d same colour…i gonna pick a colour for my wedding….and defn not asoebi…. my frnds and colleagues can decide to choose for demselves or whateva..

  • Anon In Houston December 25, 2010 at 3:51 am

    I am just glad to be a part and wearthe beautiful Nigerian attire! I am Kenyan and is gonna be a host in my friends wedding and I was ever so excited to be invited… I see how it gets ridiculous when you have to buy them for pple who are not friends or related to you! And if I pay all this money some pple have mentioned in here, that Aso Ebi better be laced with real gold. I will have fun though and its my chance to own one of your brilliant oufits!

  • chyunic January 28, 2011 at 4:52 pm

    though many will disagree wit this but this article brings to light the heavy and complex laden amongst our mothers and wannabee mothere.its pathetic.pls tell them more
    u made a very clear elaborate point about this issue
    aso ebi and get broke.

  • Ameri March 6, 2011 at 6:21 pm

    Oh my o my am I SO HAPPY to find my sistren online!!! I was born and raised in the US, only been to Naija once. Here in the US, the aso-ebi thing is absolutely crazy. People have been asked to spend upwards of $600.00 (N90,000) for stupid clothes. I started telling people either you get a gift or you get me in that outfit.”

    It has really become a burden, especially with the economy as it is.

  • UK July 12, 2011 at 5:01 pm

    this is one of the best articles of all times,most of us are so used to being fake that we dont see when we are not being realistic again .personally i dont like going out so if your aso ebi is expensive i wont even bother myslf we focus more on the wedding day than the marriage i know everybody’s dream is to have a memorable wedding but not at the expense of other people.if your friends wants to do committee of friends fine not that you are doing it cuse your money is not enough for your wedding.so after the wedding then you and your hubby will be crying that you are broke .it doesnt make sense thats why i like the white people they always have a reasonable number of people at their wediings and no one will go home being hungry or complaining of not getting their gift no matter the time you arrived at the wedding cuse you already have your table and drinks set with your invitation card, and if you dont have that invitation card you cant come into the venue of the wedding .and if you know you are so well to do no problem invite the whole world.asoebi colours are nice but dont milk people cuse its your wedding theres is life after the wedding

  • omosolape Alaje-Bada August 23, 2011 at 11:31 am

    During my wedding I took aso_ebi for my friends and it cost 5k and its only because I dont have bridal train,so I decided that my friends in Ankara and Aso_Oke should be my train and I didnt make a dime out of it.I also didnt distribute any gift,oe of my friends seeing this decided to do the same and we concluded that its going to be lace,She said it will cost 10k and lo and behold she brought the lace and it was a lace of 3k that she wants to sell for us at 10k.After that time I decided that no more Aso_Ebi.

  • levi m levi January 14, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    alot of people spend a hell lot of money all in the name of aso ebi, but we shouldnt critize the whole fun. I advise ladies to minimize spending , and get the required result. THANKS (admin on stage)

  • katie July 16, 2013 at 2:24 pm

    the painful part is when u spend that 20k on d aso-ebi, in 1 or 2yrs time u now hear the couple don separate or divorce dat one na craze o after spending 20k for her aso-ebi haba…it happened to a friend of mine.

  • Tobi Ewumi October 27, 2013 at 9:29 am

    i feel your pain …….

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