Whose Responsibility Is It To Get Contraceptives?

Art begets art. It is for this reason that I’m, once again, inspired to  write an article based on a movie I saw this weekend. This movie,  The Pill, a romantic drama involving Fred (Noah Bean) and Mindy (Rachel Boston), who after meeting at a party end up in bed together and the drama that ensues following their liaison. Quite an interesting and seriously realistic movie, The Pill sees Fred and Mindy having unprotected sex after Mindy initially falls asleep and wastes the only condom Fred has. Mindy wakes up later at night to get down and dirty despite the lack of protection.

The following morning is hilarious with Fred getting worried about Mindy’s non-use of the morning-after pill since she’s Catholic. Now Fred is even more worried about Mindy’s seeming lack of concern given the fact that she’s not even sure about the details of her cycle. She then cites the side effects as a reason she does not take the pill. Fred is confused and perturbed as she uses condoms but not pills. Even more confusing is the fact that she’s out of touch with her body’s cycle. They eventually get to the pharmacy and she takes the first dose under Fred’s imaginative prodding – he buys her breakfast and helps her moves her stuff from her old apartment. They part only for him to realise that there is still another dose she has to take in twelve hours. The film follows the rest of their day (as he tries to get her to take the second one without offending her) and how they eventually become closer.

I had fun watching this movie delve into this funny yet serious issue, the issue of contraceptives, and who bears the burden of ensuring that it is taken. Now, I am sure we all know that contraceptives are used to prevent unwanted pregnancies and to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, and the assumption is that any couple who is not trying to get pregnant would use some form of contraceptives. Right? Wrong! I find in my little experience and following a little research that a significant number of sexually active young Nigerians whether or not they are in an exclusive relationship, do not use or know the first thing about contraceptives, apart from the condom. But what happens when the condom breaks or those times when you just want to get the proper feel of things and forego its use? The pill quite naturally should come to mind. But you will be tripped the number of women who are clueless about the pill and their bodies. I have heard of women preferring to use condoms as against the pill due to the side effects of using the pill – bloating, irregular cycles etc; besides condoms provide the added protection against diseases they argue. Some women have never even heard of the pill. Postinor II? What’s that?

There are also women who keep condoms at hand. For women, there is also the perceived added embarrassment of walking into a pharmacy to ask for the pill. Well as I say, guys walk in to buy condoms, so why can’t women walk in to buy the pill or even condoms. I think it just shows that you are responsible.  I have had to go buy the pill for one or two women I had been with and just like Fred in the movie, followed up to ensure that they took it correctly.

But really whose responsibility is it to provide protection? The man’s or the woman’s? I have had male friends say that beyond the condom the responsibility is the woman’s. It is assumed that most men carry condoms about and use them. But what about those men who don’t or can’t use them? They still have sex, don’t they? When they are done, the men pull up their trousers and go, but what happens? Do the women know that they are definitely “safe” or do they go and take the pill or do they pray that fertilization does not occur and that nothing has been transmitted?

So what is the point of this article, you might ask. The point is…. if you are having sex, you should be having sex responsibly and that includes protecting yourselves properly. Women need to get educated about contraceptives and use them properly, no excuses. Men need to be supportive and understanding as this seems to be one sensitive area for women. Proper research needs to be done by both parties and an agreement reached. In the case of married couples who are no longer trying to have children, it could be difficult for the man to go back to using condoms. The women or men may be against having the implant or the IUD done. Whatever decision taken must be good for both parties.

Find what works for you, no excuses.

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72 Comments on Whose Responsibility Is It To Get Contraceptives?
  • pynk September 11, 2012 at 12:20 pm

    it is the woman’s responsibility ultimately. it is her body that bears the brunt of whatever it is. No one should be given a license to mortgage your uterus unless you are ready.

  • zeebabe September 11, 2012 at 12:21 pm

    wonderful article. most nigerian ladies do not know a thing abt contraception or their safe period. this is quite enlightening.

  • ejogene September 11, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    Which kind embarrassment, who go carry d belle if e happen? Nice write up

  • Chattyzee September 11, 2012 at 12:27 pm

    While I’m not an advocate of premarital sex, I’m not delusional so much as to think it does not happen. So if you are gonna be having sex, at least protect yourself. It’s the responsibilities of both parties to practice safe sex, but if you partner is an unreasonable person then you need to be as wise as a serpent.
    But when it really comes down to it, the woman has the greater burden. So woman, get yourself some brain and protect yourself. There’s no duplicate to life o and you need to think of the consequences. That it is “sweeting” you does not make it a good thing.
    And to the men out there, protect yourself too, by the time you finish spreading “it” all around the neighbourhood, don’t come and complain that it’s low when you eventually need “it” most. One word for the wise.

    http://dprodigalchild.wordpress.com/

    • DrJ September 11, 2012 at 3:14 pm

      Just some enlightenment: men do not run out of sperm. They continuously produce billions and billions of sperm throughout their reproductive lives. So low sperm count does not result from overuse, but from specific diseases or reproductive problems. So promiscuity as a single factor in a normal man will not cause him to be “low when he needs it the most”.

      • Biodun September 11, 2012 at 6:08 pm

        1 billion gbosas for Dr J. *ignorance IS NOT bliss* dear chattyzee.

      • Chattyzee September 12, 2012 at 12:21 am

        You apparently missed the joke. I’m quite aware of all that. I just made that statement with a sense of sarcasm.. @biodun, **no comment***

    • Purpleicious Babe September 17, 2012 at 12:37 pm

      lol..women should get some brain.. but i get ur illustration

  • Sandra September 11, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    well as a married woman i prefer condom when am not safe with my hubby, postnor 11 is not too good and most of all these pills do have thier side effect, it is good for a woman to be able to calculate her safe period acuratly, you are only not safe in 4days in the month, if you most do for those for days then use the condom, the gab between my first child to the second one is 3yrs and i neva used any pills it was safe period so it works…

    • yemmy September 11, 2012 at 1:29 pm

      Thank you for this response Sandra, i’m also a married woman with kids and I bear witness that safe period pays. I am not in support of taking pills without prescription, because I know a few friends (good girls) that are having difficulty to be impregnated just because they used a lot of contraceptives while protecting themselves from unwanted prenancy in school. take a look around and I’m sure you’ll also be able to point out one or two people you know that are experiencing it. Young girls this days are becoming sexually active from the age of 15 and they tend to indulge in the using contraceptives to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy, if they continue at this pace till age 23 or above 25 years old, they woulve have been using pills for 8years or more. This may turn out to affect them, as the womb may become weak and not strong enough to make them conceive or it may result in fibroid. I am not a doctor and not too sure of this analysis, but the experience of people around me has given me a reason to be concerned about using contraceptives as protection against unwanted pregancy. In the alternative of not been sure of your safe period, I think using condom (male/female type) remains the best protection against unwanted pregnancy, AIDs or STDs.

      • faith September 11, 2012 at 2:05 pm

        abegi…i know women dat were virgins b4 they got married n stil couldnt have children…this article isnt condeming pills neither about what kind of family planing to use…….its about both parties(man n woman) taking d necessary precautions after sex! pills r not bad!

    • yemmy September 11, 2012 at 1:35 pm

      Thank you for this response Sandra, I’m also a married woman with kids and I bear witness that safe period pays. I am not in support of taking pills without prescription, because I know a few friends (good girls) that are having difficulty to be impregnated just because they used a lot of contraceptives while protecting themselves from unwanted pregnancy in school. Take a look around and I’m sure you’ll also be able to point out one or two people you know that are experiencing it. Young girls these days are becoming sexually active from the age of 15 and they tend to indulge in the using contraceptives to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy, if they continue at this pace till age 23 or above 25 years old, they would have been using pills for 8years or more. This may turn out to affect them, as the womb may become weak and not strong enough to make them conceive or it may result in fibroid. I am not a doctor and not too sure of this analysis, but the experience of people around me has given me a reason to be concerned about using contraceptives as protection against unwanted pregnancy. In the alternative of not been sure of your safe period, I think using condom (male/female type) remains the best protection against unwanted pregnancy, AIDs or STDs.

      • Andy Nwa September 11, 2012 at 1:58 pm

        U’re correct!

      • brittany September 11, 2012 at 2:44 pm

        i think ABSTINENCE is the best way to protect yourself against unwanted pregnancy

    • Molara September 11, 2012 at 2:55 pm

      Does the word irregular cycles mean anything in your book? It just ticks me off when some married women, just hold up the safe period, and chant about it, like its the secret mankind has been looking for regarding contraception. Millions of women all over the world, have irregular cycles, and the reasons for this can be as myriad as family history, other medical conditions, diet, environment, stress, alcohol, I can go on and on. If your cycle is like clockwork, it may/will work for you, but dont expect other women to try it to, cos it wont be your house they will drop their babies after they get pregnant. There soooooo many forms of contraception available, the ignorance of Nigerians on this matter is astoudning, considering a large proportion of the society, male and female, married and single are highly sexually active. Pills are just one of many options. A friend is expecting triplets in a few months (her 4th pregnancy) and this is someone who had an IUD inserted, and also practised the safe period o. The IUD failed her for her third pregnancy, because she got an infection. So she decided to add the safe period plus IUD afterwards. She’s pregnant AGAIN. I said to her, when the IUD failed previously, why use it again, she said ehn she felt better about it, since she combined it with the safe period and she didnt want to use the pill. Apparently she had heard many ingorant horror stories about the pill. It makes your womb weak, and may not be strong enough to conceive, or even result in fibroids. Abeg, Yemmy, please, which backyard doctor told you that. She has a strong family history of multiple births, and it has failed her AGAIN, and this is her 4th pregnancy, so you can imagine how shocked and horrified she and her hsuband are. Overnight, they are going to have SIX children. They are confused right now, I tell you. A pregnancy that could have easily been preventable, if they were more informed, and considered other options. So educate yourself people, Ignorance is no excuse.

      • Ogh September 12, 2012 at 8:49 am

        Very good point, im married and i use the IUD…however i was on pill in the UK for almost 3yrs cos i had irregular period, thats wat is used to regulate the period.I stopped d pill some months to my wedding and 3months after i conceived, So that crap bot using pills and not able to have kids is just a myth, simple infections from unprotected sex once can even block the tubes…i have this friend who was a virgin and has blocked tubes, the infection dnt affect the man like it did her….so will you say she was a bad girl?
        Women need to be wiser, make it your responsibilty or abstain o!

      • Purpleicious Babe September 17, 2012 at 12:56 pm

        That pregnancy was not meant to be preventable… it is purposeful..

        I think some pple still get pregnant despite all the contraceptives.. soo… what do u call that? sha, dont open ur legs if u dont want issues… PERE.

        http://lifeinstagesdoz.blogspot.co.uk/

    • TRUTH September 22, 2012 at 7:07 pm

      Sandra and @ yemmy while i respect ur experiences, id just like to let u guys know that no one is ever safe! never.. because it worked for u doesnt mean that it will work for the next girl.. believe me, evidence and research from NHS has shown that whilst there may be somewhat safe days, u are still at risk of pregnancy at any time in ur cycle.. plus i know few friends who mastered their cycle like an Aced test and used ur method but still got pregnant.. just thot id update u :)

  • Ada September 11, 2012 at 12:37 pm

    one time i had unprtected sex with a guy…how did it happen??…we staarted with condom but i was feeling so much pain cos his penis was so huge…i personally removed d condom n we had fun…i was planing to take pills later but immediatly we finished’ he went to his bag n brought out pills for me to take…i felt some how sha…i saw him as a womanizer…

    • Laila Ikeji September 11, 2012 at 1:17 pm

      lol. Thank you sooo much for being sooo frank wt ur story.. And abt him having d pills in his bag already, hahaha. i felt same too o – correct runs guy. him too no wan hear stories that touch. lol.

    • Funke September 11, 2012 at 2:21 pm

      From your comment, I am guessing you had never slept with him before that day, so you didnt know what was coming. So let me see, you removed your one protection from STD’s and even HIV, because it was painful and you wanted to have fun. Had the guy been tested before that day, and I dont mean he told you he has. Did you go with him ot a clinic to get tested, and you saw the clean bill of health with your own eyes. How can you be so irresponsible with your own health. Foolishness should be your middle name. I am actually happy that he shamed you, by having the morning after pill in his bag. Your mother must be soo proud. Na man, dey think of how to protect himself from sudden baby mamas. In your own words, you said it made him look like a womanizer, that should have set off alarm bells in your head, because as he has a huge male organ, you wont be the first girl that has removed the condom, or he has convinced to remove the condom. So, he’s a pro at that. Smh, for gullible, reckless females like you. Even if he’s disease free, the guy walks away, having had his fill, and you are the one left with taking synthethic hormones into your body to prevent pregnancy. Hormones that have side effects. So for a good romp, you were willing to throw caution to the wind. I’m sure the guy must have boasted about his big tool, and you were too excited to experience one. I pray you werent left with a lasting present. Mschew. You have unprotected sex with someone, basically means, you have also slept with EVERYONE they have slept with too.

      • TRUTH September 22, 2012 at 7:24 pm

        Funke I was about to cuss on ur ass for being so Judgemental but lets be honest u are soo right! every word u wrote about the stupid guy and how she shud have been smarter is soo right on point! women please lets not take this as judgmental but instead learn from this and be wiser cuz men like that can be very wicked! the truth hurts! but its still the truth! better safe than STDs or complications

    • somebody September 11, 2012 at 2:26 pm

      What if the pills he gave you were fake or for something else other than contraception? I think that was quite risky, ladies really need to be careful…

    • idak September 11, 2012 at 3:05 pm

      I have a problem with this argument of yours. With all due respect, the pain was psychological not just physical. so the added covering (condom ) caused the pain not the huge member?

    • Gimmer September 11, 2012 at 4:09 pm

      I hope this is all your imagntin nd that you are kidding sha…otherwise Wahala dey

  • faith September 11, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    a guy dat likes u will care about your well being after sex…dats how i see it…

  • Renny September 11, 2012 at 12:41 pm

    The responsibility lies on both parties! But it falls more heavily on women because they know their cycle and they would be the ones to carry an unwanted pregnancy anyway. Men should get condoms and women strap yourselves with the pill. a shot, or something, because your sexual partner wouldn’t know your cycle anyway

    • faith September 11, 2012 at 1:41 pm

      u said it all…

      • Porshla September 11, 2012 at 3:36 pm

        U said what all?? So then, after taking the pill or shots and 2 years into marriage you’l start wondering who jazzed you from not getting pregnant (it’s not your portion, i’m just saying)

        The only safest way to protect your self if you are un-married is to use a condom period! I’m married, and if it can work for married couples who have also testified above together with other protective measures they use which includes NOT taking the pills, I see no reason to run away from using condom!

  • r6 September 11, 2012 at 1:22 pm

    It is the responsibility of he or she that chooses to have sex but does not want a pregnancy or a disease .. Neither man nor woman is often pleased when the unexpected happens .. Hence be you a man or a woman, if you do not want the drama, play your part and cover (pun not intended) your own bases.

  • DocDeola September 11, 2012 at 1:37 pm

    Condom is a must if u r not in a stable relationship, you should see all d good looking guys n gals with gonorrhea n chlamydia not to mention d big HIV n besides HPV dat causes cervical and penile cancers is only prevented by vaccination before startingsexual activity. Minus pregnancy diseases n infertility has no gender bias.

  • florence September 11, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    I think both parties, should be responsible for this, but the woman should be more concerned abt dis, cos we are always @ d receiving End.

  • Aibee September 11, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    !. @T.J, no other contraceptive other than the male/female condom can prevent the spread of STDs/STI.

    That said, both parties have a responsibility to practice safe sex. Meaning if you guys are not mutually exclusive, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM. You could get a sexually transmitted disease or even HIV.
    What if you guys are mutually exclusive? Unless you want a baby 9months from now, please use a condom or the pill or the IUD or anu other contraceptives. While the morning after pill is highly effective, its not healthy to use it regularly – so, LAdies, be friends with your calendars and know your safe period. If its not safe don’t do – shikena.
    That said, ladies have the overall responsibility to protect themselves. Some STDs can stay in the man’s genital tract undetected for a long time and then when the woman has unprotected sex with such a man, she’ll get it too. Remember that just after your vagina lies your womb, ovaries and fallopian tubes. A word is enough for the sexually active.

  • Dammie September 11, 2012 at 1:56 pm

    I really think its up to both parties to get themselves protected or take care of any “mishaps” during the intercourse bt the responsibility lies more on the female cos she knows her body and all and so wld suggest dat wen goin out 2 ask 4 contraceptives,dnt be shy 2 ask d pharmacist 4 an alternative to postinor 2 that wldnt mke u bloat,etc.

  • idak September 11, 2012 at 2:10 pm

    there are still folks outside marriage who still have unprotected sex?
    By the way, don’t come giving me that condom bursting tales.
    Even married folks who cheat (men and women) and do it without protection ought to be castrated and flogged in the public square. I don’t need to sermonise on the immorality of adultery.
    Unprotected sex outside marriage is a huge form of irresponsibility. spin it as you want.

  • marvel September 11, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    It ultimately is up to both parties to protect themselves but I would urge women to take this one more seriously. Which ever way you look at it, unwanted pregnancy, abortion and STDs each come with their burden.

  • YummyMummy September 11, 2012 at 2:24 pm

    I am ashamed of myself,i am a married woman,and dont even know my safe period,i think i might have to calculate it online..just maybe i can learn it..I was a good girl before I married( u get what I mean) so didnt knw all this,even my mum had tried to teach me..Now I will take it upon my self to know my safe period..I’m just 26 between and a mum to 1.

  • NigeriaHealthForum September 11, 2012 at 2:33 pm

    Great, interesting and informative article for our ladies. kudos to the writer.

  • NigeriaHealthForum September 11, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    Great article. everything in life is a matter of choice
    http://www.nigeriahealthforum.com/

  • Amber September 11, 2012 at 2:42 pm

    Always know the pros and cons to whichever method you want to use,reach an agreement with your partner and both should be on contraceptives .you can never trust the other person 100percently.especially when u are not married.dont be fooled by withdrawal method or safe period.do what is right,itz either u abstain or u protect urself.Use your head please!

  • Omotolani September 11, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Both parties should ensure the use of contraception. Postinor II is an emergency contraception, not to be used after every unprotected sexual activity. An abuse of the pill could cause a lot of damage, most times leading to miscarriages when the woman eventually decides to get pregnant. The pill is usually administered in cases of rape or emergencies putting the life of the woman risk. Please, Postinor II shouldn’t be used @ all times. Thank you.

  • Zinnia September 11, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    I heard saline solution ie salty solution can help to weaken sperm in the woman body to prevent pregnancy. How true is it?

    • idaz September 11, 2012 at 6:14 pm

      How dumb is that?? dude/girl, just get a condom and strap it on.
      Better still, stick to your wife/husband.

    • Laura September 11, 2012 at 7:06 pm

      @Zinnia: LOL! please don’t be fooled! Saline solution or alkaline condition (better) is the best pH suitable for conception :-) please read read read! go online and read. Let no one decieve you. Providing the womb is in good working condition, Have that saline condition in your system (and of course not the amount to shread your intestines) and that baby is sure on its way after 9 months ;-)

  • Priscy September 11, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    good write up…plz lets all play safe

  • masked September 11, 2012 at 3:11 pm

    please how do i send in an article to bella naija?

  • nwando September 11, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    err, since when does the pill provide protection against STI’s? Plus I think it is unfair to put the burden of ‘preventing unwanted pregnancies’ on just the woman. Both parties engaged in the sexual act did they not? Abstinence & fidelity in a committed relationship (i.e marriage) is the surest protection at the end of the day.

  • YummyMummy September 11, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    Now I am vexed,my comments for yesterday and today not showing..How?

  • Helen September 11, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Well i think the best way not to be bothered if ure not ready is not to engage in premarital sex, but if u must then use a condom, but that also is not hundred percent safe, but better to an extent than contraceptives especially the oral ones…..please ladies lets all be careful…..may we all be fruitful when we are ready to start making babies…….dats my honest opinion…..

  • jennietobbie September 11, 2012 at 4:31 pm

    Thank you very much for this article. I had a very bizzare experience the last time I visited home. I was shocked to learn that most girls DO NOT know WHERE to buy condoms and they often hide under the umbrella of “THAT’S A SHAME. I’M NOT A WHORE” smh! Honey, if you are having sex, u need to protect yourself and your future. You don’t want to have kids showing up “unexpectedly-expectedly” after nine months.! Be in charge of your life and use your brain. No, Jesus aint gon save you when you knew what you were getting yourself into!

    Rule: Play safe or don’t play at all!

  • lol September 11, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    it should be d lady because as one it my responsibility to protect myself, and i mean it your body if you love it d way i love mine and you watch all this shows am sure you would see a doctor or a nurse to educate you well, it would be sweet if d guy also wants 2 get involved but it the lady’s sole responsibility!..and for married people they have this injection stuff they get and all

  • Oma September 11, 2012 at 5:53 pm

    To be honest, I don’t care cos I’m not having sex. And its gon stay that way till I meet someone who deserves wat I have to offer. I’m not uber religious or anything like dat but all this contraceptive shii gets me so scared. So I’d rather stay on my own and mind my own business, thank you very much.

  • Anwuli September 11, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    I don’t get y she didn’t want to take the pill just because she is catholic,but she could go ahead to have sex when she is’nt married. If u wonna be bad,pls be bad to the fullest.the consequences of unprotected sex is HIV aids or getting pregnant. To prevent both pls use protection. Full stop. Better still abstain.

  • Pretty Eyes September 11, 2012 at 6:57 pm

    I have a problem with the writer’s generalization about nigerian woman not knowing about the pill. Who are the women you sampled please? secondary school children? oh please majority of woman (especially lagos where i grew up and have alot of friends) know about postinor. That being sad, this whole condom thing is not just psychological, I personally enjoy sex with my hubby better without the condom and I get more wet than when we use the condom. Lastly, the responsibility lies on both parties but more on the woman because if she carry belle na her belle go big, na she go get nausea, na she her world go turn around no be the guy. In conclusion, bella naija crew do we pay to get our weddings published or do we just need to email the pictures to you?

    • Atoke
      Atoke September 11, 2012 at 9:16 pm

      Hi Pretty Eyes,

      Please send an email to weddings(at)bellanaija(dot)com.
      Thank you.

  • Pendo September 11, 2012 at 7:06 pm

    I have always and will always take responsibility for my own sexual and reproductive health.

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  • Love September 12, 2012 at 4:03 pm

    Before fearing disease or unwanted pregnancy, why not fear God who has the ability to cast both body and soul into hell? Premarital and extramarital sex are sins before God. So pls fear God and obey His commandments. Why will you mortgage eternal life for fleeting earthly pleasures? As for those who need help calculating their safe periods, hope this helps:
    http://safeperiodcalculator.com/

    • Purpleicious Babe September 17, 2012 at 12:41 pm

      well said…if only we are.

  • Xris September 12, 2012 at 4:11 pm

    Whose responsibility is it to get the contraceptives? In my view, this is really a wrong question to be asking, as it does not address the fundamental issues. We should rather be asking: Should you be using contraceptives? If you have an answer that does not border on self-centeredness and selfish convenience (e.g. I don’t want to get pregnant), let us know.

  • lilly September 13, 2012 at 12:54 am

    well it is the responsibility of both parties. As for me i have an app that shows me when i’m safe, unsafe and fertile. In fact it notifies me like an alarm. Once i’m on my period i put it in and trust me. IT IS ACCURATE (love cycle)!!!. I don’t drink any pills or whatever shot etc. Not that i’m supporting pre martial sex but shit happens. Ladies wisen up!

  • Jatropha September 17, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Well written and entirely educating.

  • Eni September 19, 2012 at 1:18 pm

    Both are responsible. It takes two to tangle.

  • TRUTH September 22, 2012 at 7:11 pm

    @Sandra and @ yemmy while i respect ur experiences, id just like to let u guys know that no one is ever safe in their cycle! never!.. because it worked for u doesnt mean that it will work for the next girl.. thats a very ignorant assumption to say the least! believe me, evidence and research from NHS has shown that whilst there may be somewhat safe days, u are still at risk of pregnancy at any time in ur cycle.. plus i know few friends who mastered their cycle like an Aced test and used ur method but still got pregnant.. just thot i’d update u :)

  • Kike September 24, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    Mi and my husband already have 2 kids, we av bin using condom for the past 4yrs to prevent an unwanted pregnacy, now dt we are ready for anoda baby, we stoped d use of condom, now am pregnant and expectin anoda baby, it shld be an agreemnt wt both parties. i have neva used pills and i woont even try it. D best way to prevent unwanted pregnacy is use of condoms especially for singles, dnt tink the withdrawal method is d best, wat if both couples r njoyin d sweetness and u wan cum witdraw (eyes rolling)

    • UK student February 7, 2013 at 1:46 pm

      my dear, your husband is doing it raw with somebody else :)

  • lagos October 15, 2012 at 3:43 pm

    I mean what I want to say, I heard saline solution i.e salty solution can help to weaken sperm in the woman body to prevent pregnancy. How true is it?

  • lagos October 15, 2012 at 3:47 pm

    I mean what I want to say, I heard saline solution i.e salty solution can help to weaken sperm in the woman body to prevent pregnancy. How true is it? Anyway, I give kudos to the writer for the job well done

  • Amy October 21, 2012 at 7:10 pm

    Well let’s not all act like we ve not been carried away a times and have had sex without condoms,not all intercourses are planned. We probably just got lucky not to get infected or pregnant. That said we should endeavour to protect ourselves particularly the ladies. I used to think having condoms at home doesn’t speak well of ladies but now I knw I’d rather havecondoms at home than use contraceptives. Even though I’ve not been able to get enough information about side effects of contraceptives i fear there has to be. So yes we have sex we should ensure we protect ourselves. It is a woman’s sole responsibility but involve the man cos you dint sleep with your self. Guys shouldnt just zip up and leave,they should buy the drugs and research on the side effects with you……my guy does that any way and he hates contraceptives so no matter how carried away we are he stops to get protected. But the truth be told abstinence is Gods commandment and that I’m striving towards……more grace I seek.

    • Idak October 21, 2012 at 11:21 pm

      That is some wild assumption and generalization you’ve got up there in your first sentence. I beg to differ.

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