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BN Health & Fitness: What You Need To Know About Sex



Although sex is a major part of our daily lives, it is still somewhat of a taboo to talk about it in the Nigerian circles. The article just lists a few helpful facts and tips to have a healthier sex life.

Benefits of Sex

Sex is exercise. Therefore, it is good for your heart. However, it depends how vigorously you do it. In men, research has shown that men who have regular sex (about two times a week) are less likely to have heart attacks than those who do not. Sex on its own is not enough to keep a majority of people fit and healthy. This is because the average peak heart rate at orgasm is the same as during light exercise such as walking. So please remember to do other forms of exercises to maintain a healthy lifestyle and heart.

Reduced Stress
Having a stressful day? Rather than going for a drink, go home to your partner. Studies have shown that sex reduces stress. It stimulates the production of endorphins which are natural mood boosters and stress relievers.

Pain Reliever
Women, you will have to stop that headache excuse now! The endorphins released during sex also act as natural pain-killing hormones. These help to soothe nerve impulses that cause pain such as menstrual cramps, headaches, migraines and even joint pain. Furthermore, a hormone produced before orgasm called oxycotin (also known as the ‘love hormone’) also affects our emotions which can lead to the forming of strong emotional bonds between the couple.

Glowing Skin
Women this is for you! Have you noticed that after sex people say you look good or have a glow? If you have more sex, you have higher levels of oestrogen. If you have higher levels of oestrogen, you get glowing smoother skin. More sex= glowing smoother skin. Simple.

Strengthened Immune System
Research has shown that people who have regular sex have higher levels of Immunoglobulin A. Immunoglobulin A is an antibody that aids protection from infections. However, further research has shown that people who have much more sex than normal have lower levels of Immunoglobulin A. So don’t overdo it!

Increased Attention
When you are sexually active, you ooze pheromones. Basically, pheromones make us more attractive to the opposite sex. So the more sex you have, the more your partner will want you. But beware; you might even have to start fighting off unwanted attention.

Sex is meant to be fun. So remember to enjoy yourself and try new things.

The next thing to talk about is what you absolutely have to do if you are sexually active.

Use a Condom
This is the fundamental rule of casual sex. No glove no love. And if you think your partner is playing around, use a condom as well until you are sure. You cannot tell if someone has an STI or HIV/AIDS by looking at their face.

Have Regular Sexual Health Check-ups
The general consensus is to have a check-up every 3 months. But remember to have a check-up anytime you have unprotected sex.

Keep Your Privates Healthy
Women- use plain, unperfumed soap to wash the vaginal area once a day. The vagina will clean itself inside your body with natural vaginal secretions (discharge). It might be beneficial to clean the vaginal area twice a day when on your period. Cleanliness should ward off any accusations of a “fishy smelling” vagina. Men- use plain water to wash the penis daily. If you have a foreskin, pull it back gently and wash underneath. Not washing underneath the foreskin can cause build-up a cheesy-looking substance called smegma which can become very smelly.

Here are a few tips to guide if you have sexual health concerns.
Men: In men, the most common sexual health problems are premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction (impotence). Most men will go through both these conditions at different points in their lives. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by medical conditions and use of medical and recreational drugs; while premature ejaculation can be caused by over excitement or anxiety. With erectile dysfunction, it is best to see a doctor for an assessment and treatment. However, if you smoke or drink or use drugs, you can try quitting and the problem will usually go away within a few months. For premature ejaculation, the easiest thing to do would be to have sex again straight away. The man should last longer the second time around. Men also find that using a condom helps them last longer. If this does not help, see a doctor and they will be able to offer advice.

Women: In women, the most common sexual health problems are pain during intercourse, loss of desire and inability to orgasm. Although these can all be caused by medical conditions, one can try techniques at home before contacting a doctor for advice. It is very important for women to have a lot of foreplay before sexual intercourse. Take your time, do some research into sexual pleasure. Learn more about your vagina anatomy especially the clitoris. The knowledge you gain will prove fundamental in enjoying your sexual encounters.

Fun facts for Men
• You can break your penis: Although there are no bones in the penis; the tubes in the penis which fill up with blood during an erection can burst. 1/3rd of all reported cases which occur during sex are caused by when a partner is on top.

• You get several erections in one night: Reportedly, men have 3-5 erections in one with night with each lasting 25 to 35 minutes.

• Your shoe size has nothing to do with your penis size: I’m sorry guys and girls but researchers have found no link between shoe size and penis length.

• If your penis is smaller it gets a bigger erection: Simply put, shorter penises increase more in length than longer penises during an erection.

• Your penis is not a muscle: The penis is made up of a spongy material that fills up with blood during erection. This blood is contained in two tube shaped chambers which cause the penis to grow in size and stiffen. When this happens, the increased swelling blocks off the veins that usually takes blood away from the penis. Due to this, you cannot move your penis much when it becomes erect.

Fun Facts for Women

• Your vagina will return to its regular size: Most women are concerned that having sexual intercourse with someone with a large penis can stretch their vagina to a point of no return. This is not true, although after having a baby your vagina can become looser. Not to worry, you can do some exercises to help combat this.

• Vaginas do not look the same on the outside: Your vagina can be compared to facial features. You face might be similar but is not identical to someone else’s. This is the same with the outside of the vagina.

• Exercise will do wonders for your vagina: Ladies, look up kegel exercises and your partner will thank you.

• You cannot lose a tampon or object in your vagina: Objects cannot leave your vagina by travelling upwards into your body. So if you something stuck there, it cannot travel any further.

• Your clitoris is an important part in sexual pleasure: There are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris unlike 4000 in the penis. This means women have the potential to have explosive orgasms if the clitoris is stimulated appropriately.

In conclusion, sex is an important part of our daily lives with health advantages. I hope this article has shed some light on some sex related concerns. If you have any other concerns, please contact a health advisor or your doctor.
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Ola Fakoya is a senior clinical Advisor and CEO of Powerrus. She is interested in the globalisation of healthcare, and is an advocate for healthy living. Powerrus is a healthcare advisory service that offers worldwide healthcare service comparison for international clients. You can follow her on Twitter @Powerrus2 or at


  1. nky

    January 22, 2014 at 6:05 pm

    I enjoyed reading this and i have gained some new knowledge.

  2. I see friends shaking hands, saying how do you do? They're really saying I love you

    January 22, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    Thank you

  3. naana

    January 22, 2014 at 6:19 pm

    very educative. thanks ppl.

  4. Que

    January 22, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    D discussion is always welcome, but abeg pple shld stop relying on d false notion that sex is a taboo topic of discussion in nig to write articles…… which circles r u operating in?

    • FumzyO

      January 23, 2014 at 9:39 am

      At Que.. My thoughts exactly!!!

  5. Iyke

    January 22, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    You only FEEL all of the above when you have an orgasmic sex. If you aren’t reaching Orgasm, I wonder what you are doing.

  6. X- Factor

    January 22, 2014 at 7:05 pm


  7. Turi

    January 22, 2014 at 7:15 pm

    @iyke, right you are. It takes more to please women than it does men and when we are stressed, if you man dont please you the right way, you end up being completely upset that you started out in the first place. Havent seen the glow yet, but i will look out for it.


    January 22, 2014 at 7:45 pm

    Hmmmm, now i know better!! Thanks Dear…

  9. NaijaBorn_YankeeLivingBobo

    January 22, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    “Casual Sex” leads to destruction. Just keeping it 100. Sex
    is meant for marriage, period. Great tips but readers beware, don’t
    just screw for “fun” as it’s some sport. Sex is certainly meant to
    be enjoyable and fun when done in the proper context, and that’s
    marriage. And to the BN team: be mindful of your platform. You DO
    have a responsibility for the info you put out there in the public
    domain. May God grant you all the wisdom to not get caught up in
    the “hype” of sensational articles. Peace & Love.

    • kay

      January 22, 2014 at 8:30 pm

      Lol at “You DO
      have a responsibility for the info you put out there in the public
      domain” Errrrm this is an entertainment site not a Religious one. Very educative article. Thanks

    • corolla

      January 23, 2014 at 3:44 am

      bella Naija is not a religious website and you shouldn’t be
      expecting them to tell their audience that sex should only be
      within the confines of marriage.

    • BEE

      January 23, 2014 at 10:58 am

      Nice one. do not do it until u are married, if u have been doing it before marriage – STOP.

    • BEE

      January 23, 2014 at 11:03 am

      Nice one. many disadvantages and regrets in premarital sex. wait till u get married, if u have been doing it before then – STOP.
      Really educating

    • Truth..

      January 29, 2014 at 11:04 pm

      Hmmm,thanks oo. Whenever I tell the boo no sex, he gets all upset. Maybe that’s why he broke up with me sef as he started acting up after….oh well, glad to know we still have men willing to wait till after marriage.

  10. CarliforniaBawler

    January 22, 2014 at 8:38 pm

    This vagina and soap washing conundrum sha! Best thing that
    ever happened to my headquarters was when i went ‘green’ and
    started using just water. My take is that maybe PH balance’s vary
    for everyone so you just have to find what works for you. ‘Cos for
    me soap, scented or unscented and even all them summers eve and
    vagasil only leads to yawa.

    • whocares

      January 22, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      LOL. I have read that somewhere as well (you ant see me now but I am thoroughly contemplating this).. Let me add to the fact list.. 5inches is all a man needs. From some article I read, the woman’s g-spot is located 5 inches into her vajayjay so the brothers with the 5 inch have a better chance of well you know.. Therefore, bigger is not necessarily better or more satisfying.

    • CarliforniaBawler

      January 22, 2014 at 11:41 pm

      Omo!! Na to comot ‘tape-rule’ be that oh!! Hehehehe

    • Fashionista

      January 23, 2014 at 9:40 am

      I completely agree and I can testify to the validity of your statement!

    • Ada Nnewi

      January 23, 2014 at 8:52 am

      Going green put an end to years of candida

  11. NaijaBorn_YankeeLivingBobo

    January 22, 2014 at 8:46 pm

    @ kay: in response to your “errrm” – here’s the point.
    Irrespective of if its’ entertainment, real people will read this
    info and make a decision. the BN team has a choice and makes a
    decision before they put articles. Mines was just suggestion.
    Believe it or not Kay, real people actually do come here and read
    and are influenced to act upon the advice they read on this site.
    Of course it’s not BN’s responsibility of who does what after
    reading respective articles; as they have no control over that.
    BUT, they do have control of what they put out there and I’m
    entitled to share my opinion as you are as well. So it’s not a
    matter of being religious dear. #LetItMarinate

  12. anonymous

    January 22, 2014 at 8:50 pm

    I completely agree on “if your penis is smaller it gets a
    bigger erection: Simply put, shorter penises increase more in
    length than longer penises during an erection.” When I first saw my
    bfs penis, I was scared he was too small so I stalled sex for
    months until I gave up and guess what his penis when erect was
    bigger than my ex bf who had a big Educative

  13. @edDREAMZ

    January 22, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    Nigerian hate hearing th word…. But is my best subject in
    my school

  14. Simdamsel

    January 22, 2014 at 10:40 pm

    Educative and interesting . Thx

  15. Cynthia

    January 23, 2014 at 12:09 am

    I’m allergic to small penis, it reduces my sexual urge. Everyone with their preference.

    • Iyke

      January 23, 2014 at 1:18 am

      @Cynthia, most times, It’s not the size of the dog in the
      fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.In essence,it is what
      he does with it that matters more.

  16. randommer

    January 23, 2014 at 3:03 am

    lol um you can lose something in your vagina! it happened
    to me when i was young, foolish and bored. Had to be sedated for it
    to be removed, how they removed it – I don’t know lol!

    • Grown Woman

      January 23, 2014 at 8:38 am

      Lmao that must have been embarrasing thank God you fine

  17. eniola

    January 23, 2014 at 8:16 am

    educative… pick that which is useful to you and leave the
    rest. stop the moral analysis on what should or shouldn’t have been

  18. Bella

    January 23, 2014 at 8:33 am

    You haven’t seen the glow.. aaaawwww that is not true. I
    think you have but just didn’t take it into account.

  19. Grown Woman

    January 23, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Lovely article… yes i was really addicted to this vaginal
    soaps until my gyno told me im ruining my vagina i should just wash
    it with water as it cleanses it self.Yeah i love my kegel exercises
    🙂 as for uncircumsised d*** i just can’t to be honest my man will
    have to go cut it lol

    • Mz slim

      February 7, 2014 at 5:23 pm

      sorry, pls wats kegel exercise?

  20. NIRA

    January 23, 2014 at 9:12 am

    If sex really makes the skin glow, why do most prostitutes have blotched skin?? *just wondering. I believe it’s the way you feel about the person you’re having sex with that makes the sex fun, orgasmic, and leads to the glowing skin. Good sex is great and makes you feel wonderful. Except your man is horrible in bed, I don’t see the reason to feign a headache or tiredness in order to avoid shagging the man!!

  21. buzzz

    January 23, 2014 at 9:44 am

    Very educative…..

  22. Jivey Ivy

    January 24, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    Re glowing skin – does masturbation count as having sex???? #cheatingthe system

  23. miss feranmi

    January 28, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    very educative…but please enlighten me why some ladies get wet after sex.cos i have a friend it happens to

  24. miss feranmi

    January 28, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    its really true that small penis increases more in length than longer penis

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