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#BN2015Epilogues: All Busola Wants For Christmas, After a Difficult Year, is a Baby

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Last year BellaNaija Features put together an inspiring feature series to round off the year. The 2014 Epilogues featured 10 real people who took an introspective look at their year and wrote about it. This year, we decided to make the call public to our readers. {Click here if you missed it} It is our hope and desire that we will have enough entries to have a story up every day from the 1st to the 31st of December. We have received an impressive number of entries and we hope that you will share yours with us.

We kicked off the series and so far we’ve had the following entries: Jennifer G , Morountodun VictoryMayowa ,  Harmony ,Dekky and OJ

Today, we’re sharing the 8th story in the series. Busola‘s story, like all the ones before it, is very candid and she says what she wants for Christmas. 

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I don’t even know where to start from…

Okay I was surfing the Internet and I saw this stuff about epilogue. I was like BELLA NAIJA tun de ooo (Bella naija is here again), which one be epilogue again? I read through some of the 2014 & 2015 stories, very touching, I was motivated to write mine, to bare my mind about 2015.

I’ll start from September 2014, just before my hearthrob and I tied the knot. I quit my job in an interior company that I was managing. The job was so stressful although I learnt a lot on the job. But thinking about the journey I was about to begin made me think I cannot continue with a job as stressful as this… “Closing time is 6pm but I don’t get home till like 10pm, just because I oversee some interior projects on a daily basis and my boss is one helluva woman – a spendthrift and a disorganized person, which made the job difficult, because the salary doesn’t come in when needed and I still have to do some stuff that aren’t even work-related, pick her kids after school e.t.c (one man business palava)They always want to make you work more than the salary they pay you.

Long story short, I resigned and got married. I was so happy. I’m now a Mrs. (smiles) After our honeymoon, hubby resumed work, I was at home, I began thinking, I didn’t plan to be a full-time housewife ke… Hmmmmmm, I started applying for jobs. Na so one of my friends tell me say Jumia dey recruit for customer service. I applied, and I got the job after one month of being Iyawo ile. Work was always lively. I talk, talk, and talk for at least 7 hours. It’s what I love doing and the interesting thing is that you can dress down Mondays through Sundays. Not what you think. It’s a shift thingy, but it’s still 5 days a week. I had 2 days off every week.

Around November, I got pregnant but lost it due to stress. Well, it happens, says my doctor…but once you notice you are pregnant again, avoid stress. December… no pregnancy. Ok, it’s still normal.

2015 came……. January, February, March, what is happening? Every month I dreaded the 28days count (menstruation) I kept hoping that I would get pregnant. April, I started taking folic acid and vitamin E. Still the same. May came and was gone without me missing my period. In June, we started using some fertility supplements which didn’t help, every month once I see my period I cry my eyes out. Some days I wouldn’t even want to go to work but my husband was my encouragement. He was always seeing me through each month, praying for me, taking care of me.

I think in July I was pregnant again but I didn’t know how it happened, I lost it again. And for the kind of area where I stay, the fastest means of transportation if you don’t want to get hooked in traffic is okada (bike). My mum and some friends advised I stop boarding bikes. Although I have a car but you don’t wanna try taking your car to work if you stay in an area like Akute. I’m not an early riser and I don’t just like going through the stress of waking up very early because I wanna beat traffic. How about coming back? One can never be against traffic coupled with the bad road.

In August, I was moved to another department where work days are Mondays to Fridays. I was so glad that at least I would rest during weekends. Anyway, about the pregnancy issue, my husband and I started praying, because my parents and my mother-in-law had already started asking ‘How far?’ as if say na we be God wey dey give children.

Okay, we agreed to see our family doctor, who said it’s still normal – that the hormones are still trying to balance. Since I read that if after a year one does not conceive, see a gynecologist. We still chilled till September 2015, which made it our one year anniversary. We did series of tests and went through some processes which all proved we were both okay just that I had infection and bacterias which was treated. We spent about #35,000. And that always brings me to ask, if the husband and wife are ok, then why can’t the woman conceive? The answer is: God is the only solution to every of human being situations, because we have spent a lot on drugs and supplements for conception.

In October which was my birth month, I got laid off a week before my birthday, not because I was performing poorly, it was a random pick. The company couldn’t afford salaries of about 50 staff anymore…blah blah blah.

Those companies, they always have a way of sending people away sha… And since I initially wanted to ask for one month leave without pay, the laying off was still ok because I believe I will get a better job.

Friends and family said that it’s better I even rest so as to conceive, that the work stress and all is too much. In fact, the blood in November was so much that I thought it was a miscarriage, but it was my period.

Anyway, December is here. Here I am without a job, no pregnancy yet but I believe God is on the throne. I am grateful to God for the friend he has given me, who is my best friend, my husband. He has really been my pillar. Since I got laid off, he started paying me half of what I earned every month and I am proud to say my own interior store, my photography thingy plus other lucrative businesses are all in the making.

I am a work in progress… I am confident that 2015 still has something in stock for me. So, my dear friends, as many that are in a challenging situation, just give thanks to God, because some of your mates are dead. Some are not even where you are today.
I’m thankful, but all I want for CHRISTMAS is a baby. I wanted to chill till like 28th of December before sending in the mail but I believe the good news is on the way. I can’t wait because I know 2016 has a lot in stock for me. Thank you Bella Naija for this opportunity. Merry Christmas and happy new year in advance.

P.S – The yeye boss I worked for in that interior company called me some days back… Her words “Since you left, I have never seen anyone as humble and trustworthy as you, in fact I’ve had like 10 managers from September till now, they’re all so saucy and rude. I don’t even have anyone managing the place for me now, errm, I don’t know if you can assist me for this December”

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I laughed in Swahili… people no want make person move forward sha.. Assist ko! Desist ni!

Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Michael Zhang

79 Comments

  1. Hmmmm

    December 8, 2015 at 12:26 pm

    My sister I feel you on that Akute one oh….I drive to and from work everyday to Akute….Ko easy. Dnt worry you will be fine. I keep saying it, the only way a woman gets pregnant is the grace of God….forget all that Biology talk We have seen cases where the doctors have said both parties are unable to conceive but God steps in and gives them babies….

  2. sally

    December 8, 2015 at 12:32 pm

    The Lord perfects dat which concerns u and increase ur greatness on all side…..Its is well with u dearie!!!!!

  3. Quin

    December 8, 2015 at 12:39 pm

    SMH
    We both have same dream and i pray God answers us all. Amen.

  4. Green

    December 8, 2015 at 12:41 pm

    All I want for Christmas dear Lord is a boyfriend> husband! I dont wanna be alone anymore.

    • geeeeee

      December 9, 2015 at 9:31 am

      Sweetheart, it is done….

  5. Kitty

    December 8, 2015 at 12:44 pm

    My sister got married recently and she really wants to have a child she’s turning 30 next year I hope God makes a way for her.. I’m praying and hoping that a miracle happens before 2016..

  6. DLP

    December 8, 2015 at 12:45 pm

    This brought tears to my eyes, ALL I WANT FOR XMAS IS A BABY TOOOOO OHHHHH. Lost a baby in April after 14 weeks started seeing my period normally in August, and I am hoping it happens soon. Towards the ed of the article I began to simile cos there is always something to be thankful for. For now an extremely thankful that my first daughter is growing well and picking up well at school, looking forward to an amazing 2016. xoxo

  7. Anonymous

    December 8, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    Is it weird that I smiled all through reading this? I love the spunk and humor with which you wrote and I’m so sorry about the miscarriages. Sending you plenty e-hugs, Don’t let the world and its troubles take away your joy. You, my sister who is having secondary infertility after having her first baby 8years ago and my close friend who has been married for over 2years, you all will get your Christmas babies and any other thing you wish for. Amen

  8. Winnie

    December 8, 2015 at 12:49 pm

    Lol @ assist ko, desist ni. My dear I believe God for you. Just keep holding on to Him, He’ll perfect all things concerning you and as the Bible says, the expectations of the righteous, shall not be cut short. Mwaaahhh

  9. Busola

    December 8, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story my namesake. When i first saw the title I thought someone wrote in about me, our stories and experiences are similar.
    God is faithful and I know our testimony next year would encourage many.

    God bless you.

  10. Ese_sleek

    December 8, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    May God almighty grant your heart desires…
    Good news definitely on the way…
    dis got me-Assist ko! Desist ni!
    dey Wud be treating their workers like they dropped from heaven….

  11. Oyindamola

    December 8, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Hello Busola, I was so touched by your story that it brought me to tears. God is truly on the throne and I know by this time next year you will have your babies. And your husband is a great man. God bless him too.

  12. niyoola

    December 8, 2015 at 1:09 pm

    Hello Busola. You’ll definitely get pregnant very very very very very soon 🙂 .
    Sometimes, our hormones are all over the places after marriage.
    It happened to me; doctor cleared us but we didn’t get pregnant till about 2 years after we got married. I got pregnant the month i decided to “take time off baby making”. Easier said than done, I know.

    December isn’t over yet. our Christmas wish will come true on all fronts: Pregnant (and carried safely to term & safe delivery), a good job, peace of mind.
    *hugs*

  13. An Employer

    December 8, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    Sorry to hear about your loss but the following caught my attention:

    1. They always want to make you work more than the salary they pay you.

    2. Those companies, they always have a way of sending people away sha… (no they don’t, they made you and the other 50 people redundant because you were dispensable)

    3. Your previous boss, who paid your salary, is a yeye woman, “one helluva woman – a spendthrift and a disorganized person”? (Why do I find it hard to believe she wanted you back?)

    I sincerely hope you find what you are after as you are not cut out for the job market.

    • sugar

      December 8, 2015 at 2:07 pm

      As an HR Person if you say all these during an interview am NOT gonna hire you Because it reflects a bad image. Anyway lets say its all fun writtign sha as per Bella Naija article. Never talk bad about your boss in public no matter how bad it may seem.

      Why do you want to leave your present job? And you tell me the Company is bad, your boss is bad bla bla blaaaaa………Its not a good response at all a professional HR person wont give you any chance at all

    • Kiki

      December 8, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      Are you sure you interview people because you seem not grasp the simple concept of reading. As a Hr person you should understand the term laid off. From where I am standing you seem to be the one giving off a bad image of the company you represent. And I think i speak for the writer by saying please keep your chance Boss Defender. SMH

    • Kayode Ajewole

      December 8, 2015 at 4:08 pm

      errr..says who? im an HR person and been in HR for 18yrs. get over your old thinking, she has a right to air her view. i will hire her if she has the right attitude and comes with the requsite skill set

    • dlp

      December 8, 2015 at 4:09 pm

      Are you ok at all, is that the theme of the article. Dwelling on what is not necessary

    • Thunder fire you Employer

      December 8, 2015 at 2:34 pm

      Employer, thunder fire you and your business!
      You are even happy and full of pride to come and say that nonsense here.
      This is the reason this country can never be developed
      Is that the way labour is treated outside the country?

      1. It is a fun social page and not an official page, she can say it the way she is.

      2. All she said is nothing but the plain truth. Every private firm wants you to work beyond the normal working hours. You can do that shit bcos you are in Nigeria. I have worked in different countries and they pay you per hour. If many of you were paying workers per hour, you wouldn’t be doing what you are doing.

      3. Many of you are simply evil, wicked and opportunist. You take advantage of the fact that there are no jobs, you pay people meagre salary and still want them to do over time.

      4. You will not employ the right number of staff that would do the job, employ 2people to do 10 people’s job and yet under pay them.

      5. Go and read the divine books, you are a slave master making other people slaves to maximize your own profit.

      6. Later when your businesses refuse to boom, you will be asking why? You can’t maltreat staff working under you and still expect GOD’s blessings on the business.

      God is looking at you in 7d!

    • Thunder fire you Employer

      December 8, 2015 at 2:38 pm

      *the way she wants*

      7. @yeye woman, you should know she’s just being sarcastic. Listen, if you are a good boss, people will say it, if you are a bad boss, people will say it. Because you are paying someone’s salary does not mean they won’t tell you the truth. Are you paying her the salary free of charge? Is the salary a dash or she is working for it and her right?

      God have mercy on you

    • An Employer

      December 8, 2015 at 3:17 pm

      Re Thunder fire you – after your ‘stint’ working abroad you came back uncouth? You my friend, are irredeemable. I could try to justify my comment to the article (?) but you will not ‘get’ it, so won’t bother.

    • tare

      December 8, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      You can pass your point in a more civilised manner. ..i pity those who have to put up with you daily

    • SugaMama

      December 8, 2015 at 8:48 pm

      You obviously never worked as a salaried employee. You think everything is per hour? You think all jobs are 9 to 5? You think everyone working 12 hour days gets overtime? Lol

    • dee

      December 9, 2015 at 11:52 am

      “naturalgirla
      my dear sis, Your miracle is on the way dear, Just start celebrating already…………………………love u loads

    • Adain

      December 8, 2015 at 3:57 pm

      See how you are deceiving yourself with this your comment. Its ’employers’ like you that we use as prayer point to bind/cast. Man, if you don’t…

    • Pat

      December 8, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      @dlp Gbam! My thoughts exactly!!! @Employer that kind if thought process is disgracefully irrelevant to the topic.

    • B.E

      December 8, 2015 at 8:50 pm

      not very nice of you!!!!! I’m sure you’re perfect at everything you do! when someone feels down, you don’t make them better by making them feel less of themselves…..kmt fly away!

    • The real dee

      December 8, 2015 at 10:06 pm

      Busola’s former boss, Ekaboo. A mo iru yin (We know your type). Someone is talking about how she’s had miscarriages and hoping for a baby soon and all you can see is how she’s not cut out for the job market.

      Mr/Mrs Employer, you are the type that’ll force your employee to remain at work even if he/she is obviously terribly sick. You are the type that’ll say all Nigerian graduates are not ready for the job market and should remain unemployed. We know your type Mr/Mrs Employer.

      Keep it up! When you’re leaving earth, maybe you’ll carry your company and position to the grave. It’s your type of employer that gives people High blood pressure and all sorts of heart conditions because of your job, putting pressure that you yourself cannot handle on them. You pay them peanuts and then call them incompetent after slaving for you. Modern slavemaster, British/portuguese Colonial master! Just keep it up.

    • Bus

      December 9, 2015 at 1:42 pm

      See this one…. Did u see the caption at all? Did u even read through to understand what the writer was trying to pinpoint??? Mtchewwww… You’re off point.

  14. Babytohcute

    December 8, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    Haha at your former boss. It is well with you my dear and I think you should be your own boss. Good luck with that. If you don’t mind, I’ll like to pray with you and for you.
    Dear God I thank you for the life of Busola and that of her husband, for sustenance, strength, grace and mercy upon her life. Your word tells me in Jn 16:24 “I should ask in your name that my joy may be full”, thus oh God of Abraham all Busola wants for Christmas is a baby. Please Lord give her more than that, give her; joy, peace, contentment, upliftment, fulfillment and above all grace to stand firm and trust you no matter how difficult things may be. Father, give her the strength to wait on you for you are never late. You did it for Sarah, Elizabeth, Hannah, Rachael and many more, Busola’s won’t be different in Jesus name. Thank you father because before we spoke you heard us and before we called you answered, in Jesus name have I/we prayed.

    Darling I wish you all the best and no matter what fight to be happy always. Don’t you think triplets will be a good start #winks

    • anonymous

      December 8, 2015 at 4:08 pm

      aseju! *rme*

    • Bus

      December 9, 2015 at 1:33 pm

      I don’t mind triplets ooo my dear sis… Lol…. Thanks and amen to your prayer.

  15. Oluwapamilerinayo

    December 8, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Your Miracle is on the way, 2015 will not pass you by in Jesus’s Name. Amen.
    (The last line got me laughing, stuck in a job like that too, plotting my escape strategy).

  16. MOT

    December 8, 2015 at 1:25 pm

    Truly you are a WIP, The floodgates of heaven is already opened to out pour on you blessings of children and joy. *** i wish i had the strength and courage to write my own epilogue , but All is well*

  17. Adaeze Writes

    December 8, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Your humility radiates through your write up and YES, your baby is going to be conceived in December 2015 …by this time next year, you shall have a beautiful baby or twin babies. Amen.
    I really think you need rest and while you are on your short vacay…I’ll recommend you read some inspiring books that’ll help take your mind off things around you.
    I really enjoyed this read. Thanks for sharing!

  18. melinda

    December 8, 2015 at 1:44 pm

    [email protected] assist ko desist ni…. dont worry dear u will give birth to ur baby come 2016, just believe!!!

  19. Opeyemi Funke

    December 8, 2015 at 2:13 pm

    I’m believing God for you,God will answer your prayers…All I want for Christmas,is God blessing me financially,so that I can pay for my wedding, Amen

  20. Phoebe

    December 8, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    I pray God grants your desire. Have faith and hold on to Him.

  21. N. M.

    December 8, 2015 at 2:41 pm

    I like your article and its funny too. I pray that God answers your prayers and give you a baby for Christmas. All I want for Christmas too is a boyfriend/husband, so help me God.

  22. adedoyin

    December 8, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    I’m not going to say ”I pray God…..”. I am going to speak it as if it were. You have conceived by the special grace of God and you have delivered just like the Hebrew women. Please hold God by his word. He never fails

  23. hilari

    December 8, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    its funny how GREEN’s comment has the most likes. single girls are plennnnttttyyyyy. Oluwa provide a wonderful boo

  24. Puzzles

    December 8, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    Heartwarming epilogue.

    Let’s thank God for what you have now. You have a loyal supporting husband. Some of us are still praying for that. I’ve not even found “The One” yet and haven’t been in a serious relationship for some 6 years now.

    It is well, my dear. My prayer for you is that for next year’s BN Epilogues, you would be writing about your successful pregnancy and child birth journey by God’s grace.

    And I wish a successful pregnancy and child birth journey for all my dear married friends who are also praying for their own babies.

    I honestly pray that by this time next year, I’ll be praising God for the best husband ever.

    Honestly don’t know how to sum up this year but I thank God for everything. It could have been worse.

  25. Princess P

    December 8, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    Awww
    Dear God, please hear her prayers
    Amen

    All I want is a boyfriend-fiance-husband all in 2016. Thank you Lord

  26. Blackcoffee

    December 8, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    You need to stop worrying and start enjoying your marriage. Baby will come at the appropriate time, God knows best…
    I’m in the healing process myself because my baby was Due Jan 2016 (my 30th bday gift ) but I had a late miscarriage
    Just taking this opportunity to have all the fun I can with my hubby before another baby comes? Life is too short

    • Aisha

      December 9, 2015 at 3:52 am

      Hi Blackcoffee, sorry about your miscarriage!

  27. yeyeperry

    December 8, 2015 at 4:03 pm

    Sweetheart, from today, I add you to my prayer list. Do remember to post a testimony when it happens and that will be soon my dear, real soon!

  28. Eva

    December 8, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    There is always something to be thankful for!! I join you in your Thanksgiving, as all i want for Christmas too is a baby!! So I pray that, this Christmas, all wives (me and you both) who looooong to be Mothers, will receive their Christmas miracles…..AMEN!!!

  29. ugorji joy

    December 8, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    God will perfect everything that concerns you and He will give you a testimony.Go and celebrate,it is well with you.

  30. Dairy of a naija mom.

    December 8, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    Agony…I made a similar barely 24hrs ago on my blog. God bless her please.

    Hmmmm…I’m just thinking when I’ll be featured on BN…I pray it comes soon.

  31. jACY

    December 8, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    My Sister I feel you. I actually pray and I believe God that He will bless us with pregnancies before the end of this year. All I Pray for too my Children (Pregnancy) this Christmas.

  32. Vic

    December 8, 2015 at 6:11 pm

    I feel u too much.the humor was great.smiling and praying through the storm with you.

  33. dear Busola

    December 8, 2015 at 6:25 pm

    By next year, u carry u carry and nurture your babies in Jesus name amen. And also to dose expecting, from your mouth to God’s ears

  34. a

    December 8, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    Awww…. it will come i promise. boyfriend, husband, babies etc……
    when someone said i want a boyfriend and a husband cause i dont want to be alone anymore that alone melted my heart. it will come my dear, it will.

    • Green

      December 8, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Thank you dear. I feel a bit insensitive for not saying a prayer for the author. Thing is immediately I saw the title, that was my first thought and I posted my comment before reading. My prayer is God will visit you with a set of twins according to the time of life. And to all the 100+ that liked my comment, start your preparations cos there’s a sound of an abundance of rain. God bless you all.
      PS: BN can I send in my own epilogue?

    • Babytohcute

      December 8, 2015 at 8:49 pm

      Yes you can. Deadline is the 15th

  35. Char

    December 8, 2015 at 9:02 pm

    i am reading this article laying next to my 4 month old son. My sister don’t loose hope. My husband and i were trying for 2 years and i finally i got pregnant. 14 weeks into my pregnancy i had a miscarriage. It took us another year to get pregnant again and thanks to the grace of God, my son is here. Gurl continue to pray and never loose hope.

  36. sultana

    December 8, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Busola oh…very funny last line. Loved the ease with which you wrote. Very engaging and easy to follow. We have so much in common including name, time of marriage, lovely hubs etc.

    My prayer this December is a Christmas gift of twins. That’s my earnest prayers, then the job before the 31st of December. Our God is faithful and I know He will do it and our song will be “oti mu mi gba gbe, ibanuje igba kan’ ie He has made me forget the bitterness of before. Amen.

    God bless you babes, really wish we could communicate outside here. May God cause you to laugh in Jesus name!

    • Bus

      December 9, 2015 at 11:05 am

      Hey Sultana, thanks and amen to your prayers… God will answer us. U can send me a mail via [email protected], then we catch up from there.

    • sultana

      December 9, 2015 at 6:59 pm

      Thanks dear, will do!

  37. An Employer

    December 8, 2015 at 9:25 pm

    Re disgracefully irrelevant, I responded to points raised in the article.

    At Sugamama – my thoughts exactly! Thunder fire ‘him/herself’ most likely worked as a security guard, cleaner or as a nurses assistant and feels their minimum wage job abroad qualifies as work (re abroad maybe the person went to Guinea and came back to claim he went abroad)! He/she is the problem with the country and the reason the country is going no where fast. Sad.

    At Thunder fire you – why don’t you leave that your salaried job (where my comment represents everything you despise in your boss) and start a business? That way you can teach us evil employers a thing or two about running/managing a business in Nigeria.

    • The real dee

      December 8, 2015 at 10:17 pm

      Mr/Mrs Employer. Your pride reeks through your comment. I can only imagine the kind of person you really are. Excuse me, so those cleaners, security guards or nursing assistants are not working in your opinion. How arrogant are you? Really, how condescending can you be?

      Just don’t come back for me. DO NOT. I will ‘cyber bully’ you. Yes I will, you really deserve it.

    • An Employer

      December 9, 2015 at 9:55 am

      At The real dee – Cyber stalk away. Enjoy!

  38. tamunotonye

    December 8, 2015 at 10:42 pm

    God hasn’t forgotten u baby girl, u know how he is abi? He’s taking his time n when he starts with u, u sef go weak. It is well with you and yours hon, wishing u all the best this 2016

  39. mma

    December 8, 2015 at 11:11 pm

    Hey ‘an employer’, I need a job.

  40. Olayemi

    December 8, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    God! Who is the Employer that is polluting this thread with their job and miserable salary? Please take yourself to NYSC camp where you can intimidate fresh graduates. Some of us here are employers of labor and we don’t need to sound this high. How much do you pay that you want to take the joy of this conversation away? Ok, we have heard. You won’t employ me. Eeerrrmm, I can’t even remember her asking for your employment. She’s freaking asking for a BABY this Xmas and not a nasty job! Take yourself away!

  41. Aisha

    December 9, 2015 at 3:46 am

    Busula et aliae, please email me if you are interested in getting help to conceive.
    My email is [email protected]
    Your subject should be (Trying to Conceive) so I can promptly attend to your email.
    Please know that I am not collecting any form of money, just trying to pass information to as many people as possible.
    God be with you all.

  42. tired woman

    December 9, 2015 at 10:26 am

    got married December last year and i’ve not fallen pregnant not even once. My period was two days late and there was I hoping that i was finally pregnant but nope, it came today. I couldn’t even cry. I was not sexually active till i got married but these things happen they say. all i want for the christmas/new year is a baby…. God please hear my prayers

    • Aleesha

      December 21, 2015 at 11:16 am

      My sister, please don’t be discouraged. The thing about conception, is that it is more likely at certain times in your monthly cycle. I would encourage you to take the time to understand your cycle and identify your most fertile period. Look up billings method online. Also, nothing like the pressures of trying to conceive to put a damper on things.
      Relax and enjoy. When baby comes, you will miss the times you could sleep uninterrupted for a full night. ?

  43. Aanuolutomiwa

    December 9, 2015 at 11:39 am

    God will do it my dear, i just got married and am damn anxious to get pregnant

  44. Inem

    December 9, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    May the Almighty God remember you and ALL those trusting God for the fruit of the womb. I’ll advice that you try as much as you can not to worry so much and God will surprise. Our faith and trust in God and not our worrying gets us God’s attention. I also recommend you start reading this book, “SUPERNATURAL CHILD BIRTH”.

  45. God'sangel

    December 9, 2015 at 2:56 pm

    God hears us for every prayer uttered, there is a corresponding answer. Please lets exercise our faith, for if u have faith as little as a mustard seed that mountain shall be removed. I want to use this medium to thank God, woke up this morning with a sharp pain on my chest but while reading this post i decided to exercise my faith and i asked God for his healing. The pain is GONE. There poster the beautiful baby is YOURS…..Amen.

  46. FATRON

    December 11, 2015 at 11:24 am

    It is well dearie. God has answered. Let us remember we are entitiled to our opinions. so let peace reign with the employers, they are only using this medium as an opportunity to enlighten . Trust me they meant no harm. Gbam.

  47. FATRON

    December 11, 2015 at 11:34 am

    I truly know how you feel. I once lived at Akute ,worked with a bank so biking was the best option on that bad and bumpy road and yes i had a miscarriage too. But Glory be to God,had another baby last year nov. That made up my decison of relocating. so if your husband agrees maybe you can change the environment as you cannot change the road.My opinion.

  48. Sarah Dow

    December 11, 2015 at 11:49 am

    Hello Busola and all the ladies believing God for children, I say get ready cos it will happen sooner than you imagined. This is my first comment on this blog even though I have been reading it for years but I feel compelled to drop a comment to encourage all of you.

    I was married for two years and had two miscarriages, one each year. After the second miscarriage I prayed even more than I have ever done in my life. I was in church on a December like this, and my pastor said that although it’s the last month of the year, one should not stop believing God for what we prayed for the whole year as it can still happen since it is only the beginning of December and the year has not ended. I held onto that statement and told God you can still give me a child this year. I found out I was pregnant first week in January of the next year which means I conceived last December. But the best part of my story is that when God starts with you, you will know it’s God as He will ’embarrass’ you with His riches because today I am a mother of three children. I went from begging God for one child to having three in three years! To God be all the glory.

    Stay strong and remember that our God is faithful, your children are on the way as God can still do it in the few weeks remaining in 2015!

  49. Adeola

    December 12, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    Not to take away from the essence or beauty of the post there was a playfulness to it even though it related to something serious and my wishes and prayers are that you will receive the one Christmas gift you really want this December in Jesus name- on the digressing employer/employee debate I kind of get where the employer is coming from it’s not easy being an employer in this country and top quality staff are rare as well in that employers provide everything themselves the overhead is just too high I have been home just two months myself now and when I think about how much I spend just trying to get access to the Internet on my own light et al to send out applications that I want prospective employers reading I had to ask how entrepreneurs survive in this country whereas when I was working I didn’t have to worry about those things I could browse freely do my personal stuffs as well using the electricity provided by the employer bla bla but then again I can resonate with busola’s comment about most employers not being frugal you find out that even when the money rolls in as it does sometimes a typical employer is more interested in leaving an ostenstatious life keeping up with the joneses rather than invest back in the business and also make their employees happy hence the no bonus/ late salary syndrome…. Just thought I could give my own piece on the employer/ employee divide not sure about the coherence of my comment though

    • Adeola

      December 12, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      *Living

  50. kemi

    December 27, 2015 at 1:20 pm

    That akute nightmare is real.i convinced hubby to allow us relocate from surulere to akute citing cheaper rent n closeness to my own office which is on lagos-ibadan expressway n his office which is at ikeja .truth was hubby spent too much time with his pals who all live in surulere. We got a very lovely apartment at akute but after one month of living dere , I became severely depressed. I spent more to get to the office n hubby always came home late cos he started staying back at d office until traffic eased up. We could not go out as we liked cos of traffic and everywhere especially the island seemed so far off. To make matters worse dere was hardly light.i got pregnant soon after n my hormones took over.six months after we moved in I relocated to my parents home at Gbagada as the bridge which was being constructed at akute then compounded my troubles.my hubby relocated to his friend’s place at surulere n we both swore never to return to akute. The house agent helped our shop for someone to take over the apartment.landlord refused to refund us 1 and half years rent but who cares. Just before I was delivered of my baby we got a lovely flat in Gbagada n need I say we have been so glad since then

  51. Cmbo

    December 27, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Thank you o. This Employer being overly sensitive! The writer must have hit a nerve, are you getting negative feedback from your employees? Ehn Mr Employer? Take a deep breath and look inwards.

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