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#BN2015Epilogues: All Busola Wants For Christmas, After a Difficult Year, is a Baby

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Last year BellaNaija Features put together an inspiring feature series to round off the year. The 2014 Epilogues featured 10 real people who took an introspective look at their year and wrote about it. This year, we decided to make the call public to our readers. {Click here if you missed it} It is our hope and desire that we will have enough entries to have a story up every day from the 1st to the 31st of December. We have received an impressive number of entries and we hope that you will share yours with us.

We kicked off the series and so far we’ve had the following entries: Jennifer G , Morountodun VictoryMayowa ,  Harmony ,Dekky and OJ

Today, we’re sharing the 8th story in the series. Busola‘s story, like all the ones before it, is very candid and she says what she wants for Christmas. 

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I don’t even know where to start from…

Okay I was surfing the Internet and I saw this stuff about epilogue. I was like BELLA NAIJA tun de ooo (Bella naija is here again), which one be epilogue again? I read through some of the 2014 & 2015 stories, very touching, I was motivated to write mine, to bare my mind about 2015.

I’ll start from September 2014, just before my hearthrob and I tied the knot. I quit my job in an interior company that I was managing. The job was so stressful although I learnt a lot on the job. But thinking about the journey I was about to begin made me think I cannot continue with a job as stressful as this… “Closing time is 6pm but I don’t get home till like 10pm, just because I oversee some interior projects on a daily basis and my boss is one helluva woman – a spendthrift and a disorganized person, which made the job difficult, because the salary doesn’t come in when needed and I still have to do some stuff that aren’t even work-related, pick her kids after school e.t.c (one man business palava)They always want to make you work more than the salary they pay you.

Long story short, I resigned and got married. I was so happy. I’m now a Mrs. (smiles) After our honeymoon, hubby resumed work, I was at home, I began thinking, I didn’t plan to be a full-time housewife ke… Hmmmmmm, I started applying for jobs. Na so one of my friends tell me say Jumia dey recruit for customer service. I applied, and I got the job after one month of being Iyawo ile. Work was always lively. I talk, talk, and talk for at least 7 hours. It’s what I love doing and the interesting thing is that you can dress down Mondays through Sundays. Not what you think. It’s a shift thingy, but it’s still 5 days a week. I had 2 days off every week.

Around November, I got pregnant but lost it due to stress. Well, it happens, says my doctor…but once you notice you are pregnant again, avoid stress. December… no pregnancy. Ok, it’s still normal.

2015 came……. January, February, March, what is happening? Every month I dreaded the 28days count (menstruation) I kept hoping that I would get pregnant. April, I started taking folic acid and vitamin E. Still the same. May came and was gone without me missing my period. In June, we started using some fertility supplements which didn’t help, every month once I see my period I cry my eyes out. Some days I wouldn’t even want to go to work but my husband was my encouragement. He was always seeing me through each month, praying for me, taking care of me.

I think in July I was pregnant again but I didn’t know how it happened, I lost it again. And for the kind of area where I stay, the fastest means of transportation if you don’t want to get hooked in traffic is okada (bike). My mum and some friends advised I stop boarding bikes. Although I have a car but you don’t wanna try taking your car to work if you stay in an area like Akute. I’m not an early riser and I don’t just like going through the stress of waking up very early because I wanna beat traffic. How about coming back? One can never be against traffic coupled with the bad road.

In August, I was moved to another department where work days are Mondays to Fridays. I was so glad that at least I would rest during weekends. Anyway, about the pregnancy issue, my husband and I started praying, because my parents and my mother-in-law had already started asking ‘How far?’ as if say na we be God wey dey give children.

Okay, we agreed to see our family doctor, who said it’s still normal – that the hormones are still trying to balance. Since I read that if after a year one does not conceive, see a gynecologist. We still chilled till September 2015, which made it our one year anniversary. We did series of tests and went through some processes which all proved we were both okay just that I had infection and bacterias which was treated. We spent about #35,000. And that always brings me to ask, if the husband and wife are ok, then why can’t the woman conceive? The answer is: God is the only solution to every of human being situations, because we have spent a lot on drugs and supplements for conception.

In October which was my birth month, I got laid off a week before my birthday, not because I was performing poorly, it was a random pick. The company couldn’t afford salaries of about 50 staff anymore…blah blah blah.

Those companies, they always have a way of sending people away sha… And since I initially wanted to ask for one month leave without pay, the laying off was still ok because I believe I will get a better job.

Friends and family said that it’s better I even rest so as to conceive, that the work stress and all is too much. In fact, the blood in November was so much that I thought it was a miscarriage, but it was my period.

Anyway, December is here. Here I am without a job, no pregnancy yet but I believe God is on the throne. I am grateful to God for the friend he has given me, who is my best friend, my husband. He has really been my pillar. Since I got laid off, he started paying me half of what I earned every month and I am proud to say my own interior store, my photography thingy plus other lucrative businesses are all in the making.

I am a work in progress… I am confident that 2015 still has something in stock for me. So, my dear friends, as many that are in a challenging situation, just give thanks to God, because some of your mates are dead. Some are not even where you are today.
I’m thankful, but all I want for CHRISTMAS is a baby. I wanted to chill till like 28th of December before sending in the mail but I believe the good news is on the way. I can’t wait because I know 2016 has a lot in stock for me. Thank you Bella Naija for this opportunity. Merry Christmas and happy new year in advance.

P.S – The yeye boss I worked for in that interior company called me some days back… Her words “Since you left, I have never seen anyone as humble and trustworthy as you, in fact I’ve had like 10 managers from September till now, they’re all so saucy and rude. I don’t even have anyone managing the place for me now, errm, I don’t know if you can assist me for this December”

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I laughed in Swahili… people no want make person move forward sha.. Assist ko! Desist ni!

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