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“Pornography really, really messed up my life” Actor Terry Crews Opens Up his ‘Dirty Little Secret’

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LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 15: Actor Terry Crews (L) and Rebecca King-Crews attend Warner Music Groups' annual Grammy celebration at Milk Studios Los Angeles on February 15, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Todd Williamson/Getty Images for Warner Music Group)

LOS ANGELES, CA – FEBRUARY 15: Actor Terry Crews (L) and Rebecca King-Crews attend Warner Music Groups’ annual Grammy celebration at Milk Studios Los Angeles on February 15, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Todd Williamson/Getty Images for Warner Music Group)

Actor Terry Crews (White Chicks, Everybody Hates Chris, Old Spice ads) opened up about how devastating an addiction to pornography can be – he says it messed up his life and almost destroyed his marriage.

His wife of over 25 years, Rebecca King is a gospel artist who was once a beauty queen. He decided to go to rehab after she got fed up and threatened to leave him, she said – “I don’t know you anymore. I’m outta here.” He is over his addiction now, for the past six going on seven years, and his marriage has been stable since.

In the first video he titled Dirty Little Secret on his official Facebook page, he opens up about the addiction – it now has over 10,000 comments.

Watch Dirty Little Secret – Part 1!

Terry said he kept his porn addiction a secret for the longest time.

“It got bad. If day transitions to night and you are still watching, it’s a problem, and that was me.”

He said that by not telling people, the secret overcame him and became more powerful – a dirty little secret- and he is sharing it now, to remove the addiction’s power. He said,

“My issue about pornography is that it changes the way you think about people. They become body parts.

You start to use people, you start believing that you’re the man and they become whatever.”

He says he did not get help to get his wife back, because she threatened to leave, but he did it because he genuinely wanted to change.

“It’s not enough to ask forgiveness. It’s always always necessary to make amends … to do whatever you can to fix the problem.”

“I felt the world owed me something. I felt like my wife owed me sex,”

“I felt that everybody owed me. And when you have a sense of entitlement, it’s extremely dangerous.”

Since then, he has continued the Dirty Little Secret series, answering fan questions about his addiction. You can watch part 2 and part 3 below.

Dirty Little Secret – Part 2

Dirty Little Secret – Part 3

Photo Credit: Todd Williamson/Getty Images

40 Comments

  1. D

    February 26, 2016 at 2:47 pm

    Well done to him, not just for getting help for the addiction but also for opening up and sharing his experience… others in similar situations will be helped. What he said is so true… addictions gain more power when kept secret.

  2. cant stop

    February 26, 2016 at 2:48 pm

    I can totally relate to all he has said. I am addicted to pornography too, I don’t know how to quit, I have tried all possible means but still find myself watching it somehow. I have not watched it for over a week now and the joy i have is over the board. I am on the phase of quitting such act and may God help me.

    • Mara

      February 26, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      Well done, if you can quit it for a week then you are on the way to quitting it for good. When the urge comes, think of how good you feel right now, and how much you don’t want to lose this feeling. Get up, go outside, call a friend, talk to God. Hang in there and never give up, you can do it!!

    • Fiyin

      February 26, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      Keep trying dear. God is the only one that can break the power of addiction and sin. He will get you out completely. So confess and repent of your sins. God loves and forgives. Even when you fall make sure you get back up. Open up to people you trust. Pray to God for help and strength. Soak your mind with God’s word and promises to deliver. You will be free by God’s grace.
      Praying for you.

    • Somtoo

      February 26, 2016 at 3:40 pm

      awwwwwwww. I am happy for you. The first step is realising and admitting you have a problem. I have said a prayer for you. Be strong. Good luck

    • ElessarisElendil

      February 26, 2016 at 3:57 pm

      reddit.com/r/NoFap/

      You’re not alone.

    • OAR

      February 26, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      You can join the FORTIFY PROGRAM. I’m currently on it, with the aim to free myself from this addiction. Been on it since 1999

    • Chioma

      February 26, 2016 at 5:21 pm

      MY OWN NA CIGAR….HOW DO I QUIT….AND AM A WOMAN

    • Sassy chic

      February 26, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      Dear, I an an addict too and still trying to come out of this mess. It is a step by step approach. U can start by deleting ur history and changing ur browser settings to filter searches. Also human interaction rather than using gadgets helps… The Lord is your strength

    • olah

      February 29, 2016 at 12:56 pm

      add fasting to your prayer, Ask the Holy Spirit to help you. when you start feeling like doing it, get up and go out, quarantine yourself, you can take a break from social media,t.v, etc this is because you can not control what comes up on your screen. Avoid been a lone. This addiction is easy to get into but hard to get out of. You have to be careful what you see/watch,guard your eye gate. Talk to someone you can trust about it, someone that can help. Do not give up you WILL overcome this,

  3. BeeBee

    February 26, 2016 at 3:08 pm

    @ Cant stop, you cant stop on your own, just keep the faith and zeal to change and also pray about it, The Lord will grant you the Grace to overcome in Jesus name. The best step you’ve made is having that desire to change, please keep up with the zeal!

  4. Tt

    February 26, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    I have always loved this couple, Terry & Rebecca. I pray their marriage would wax stronger.

  5. ebi

    February 26, 2016 at 3:43 pm

    Can see u are sick… may Jesus fix u biko.

  6. me

    February 26, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    If you do not have anything nice to say,please keep kwayet!

  7. lotus flower

    February 26, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    Childish.

  8. prince

    February 26, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    I thank God for him and his family.

  9. Bisi

    February 26, 2016 at 4:02 pm

    Oh lord Drknite…. You are completely crazy

  10. Bisi

    February 26, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    Addiction has a power that has to be conquered. You cannot do it alone except through God. I have been there done that, i am a testimony now. You will win at the end. Dont worry too much about it, Just keep saying to yourself, I dont want this lord and so shall it be. Simples
    Praise Master Jesus

  11. RichyGame

    February 26, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    Pornography… “It changes the way you see people… people become objects… people become body part,; things to be used rather than people to be loved, you start to use people…”.

    ” You battle mindset that attempts to put people down…”

    I knew a good girl addicted to this thing and she took a very serious step to break the addiction – she gave me her laptop as that was the gateway… I rejected it but she insisted she was giving me the laptop for her own good. She didn’t know I would eventually find out the true reason later but it was a bold move that really helped her. The laptop had to go through some serious cleanup. I’m a bit tech savvy and the cookies and browser history was damning for a girl, bad enough for a guy but the kind of things that had gone down were unimaginable…

    It can be broken if you are determined (with God as well) and take the right steps i.e. those porn flicks on your hard drive you archived? Take the bold step and delete; every link to such content should be shunned…

    God help us all.

  12. AatL's finest

    February 26, 2016 at 4:50 pm

    @ Drknite a lot of people are mad but not all is roaming the streets. Grow up Lil kid.

  13. Sharon

    February 26, 2016 at 5:26 pm

    Respect to him for owning up to his addiction, doing something about it and sharing it with the world. I wish Him the very best and I hope that through this many others find the courage to fight their own addictions.

  14. jay

    February 26, 2016 at 5:56 pm

    My addiction is gambling. Can use all my salary to gamble and the worst part is I work in a financial institution where l handle other people’s money and its getting me into debts. Lord help me to overcome.

  15. Hmm

    February 26, 2016 at 6:04 pm

    I am not addicted to porn but masturbation…so help me God!

    • Mara

      February 26, 2016 at 6:25 pm

      For you and others who are struggling, there is help out there… you could try the Fortify program mentioned by OAR, or the Jack & Jil initiative by Leke Alder, he has enlisted the services of trusted and seasoned counselors who can offer you a free therapy session to get started: jacknjillive.com/therapy/

  16. amaka

    February 26, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    I also used to be addicted to porn. Mine usually started with viewing a sex related cookie, that led to porn sites, so from a click, it turns to a day and night charade. Thank God, little by little, I’m on my road to deliverance. I’m also encouraging porn addicts that are on that same road too. Uneasy lies the road, but it would be worth it, at the end. Porn is no guide to sex exploration,as. I thought. It’s a manipulation by the devil to derail us from God.

  17. seriously

    February 26, 2016 at 6:40 pm

    @Drknite

    The LORD rebuke you. Devil has to bring his ugly head in the midst of God’s truth.

  18. bold

    February 26, 2016 at 6:42 pm

    I am nt really addicted to it bc sometimes I watch it once in a month, in a week, once in six months… Depending and I do mAsturbate after watching. I quit for sometime and started again. May God deliver me from it

  19. trey

    February 26, 2016 at 6:55 pm

    The one thing he said that got me was his having to confess so that the addiction would loose its power. Sorry to digress. I always wondered why that Ese girl confessed about her relationship with the “robust Reply” Pastor. After all we do have those dirty little secrets that we hide. I am guilty too. I now understand that Ese had to come clean to feel free. I pray I can garner strength from this and her and be more truthful. We all dress nice, raise up unholy hands at church but them dirty little secrets. God help me, Us.

  20. Tosin

    February 26, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    I’m here because I thought photography messed up some guy’s life. lol. guess cameras are still safe.

  21. Xxxx

    February 26, 2016 at 10:29 pm

    I’m not even mad at you. It’s Bella I’m upset at! Bella why the heck would you post this comment, like I don’t understand!?

    • meme

      February 27, 2016 at 2:40 am

      same here.. shey if its sweet tea BELLA NAIJA will start hiding comment. why did you let this troll slide ?

  22. Me

    February 27, 2016 at 3:45 am

    Hahahaha! good one! I guess you’re kidding!

  23. anonymous

    February 27, 2016 at 2:48 pm

    Talking about addictions, I am very angry. Not the anger someone has when you’re offended but I am angry, sooooo angry. It’s like there’s an anger mine/well inside me.

    I wake up and go to sleep angry and God help me you just annoy me. I confess everyday ‘I am loving, happy and kind’ but the anger overwhelmes me and the annoying thing is I know a bit about psychology so I have analyzed myself.

    I am angry with myself and my parents. My parents used to be wealthy but my dad hit some financial crisis which brought us steps lower in the social ladder. At a point, my family got a bit angry and all my mum did was complain about how people deserted us creating in me a deep distrust for people and a strong desire for wealth I can’t overcome. I’m angry with my dad because his mistakes were avoidable.

    I’m angry with myself because I graduated with a lower grade than I should have, all because of an abusive relationship I stayed in and I believe I would have gone further in my career if I hadn’t gotten a 2:2. I’ve been on the same level for 3 years and I’m very demotivated. (They haven’t promoted anyone my level, apparently, you have to have worked for at least 4 years at that level). My mates are in Mobil and Shell.

    I look happy on the outside and I’ve tried for myself. I drive an SUV and have 2 landed properties (I’m 26 years old) but I keep thinking I should have started my career with a better salary and properly built a house by now (that was always my dream).

    I sometimes think my co-workers are beneath me, they seem content and want to talk about guys and make up (I’m very fashionable) when I want to discuss treasury bills, bonds and investments ( I heard some of them gossiping that I was jealous cos I didn’t get excited over some news. They also say I’m very secretive. Walahi, if I say wetin dey do me, they go say I dey too ambitious) and then I’m angry with myself for such negative thoughts.

    I want to get married but I’m afraid and angry with men at the same time. The only time I’m comfortable in a r/ship i when I’m being sent money/spent on, having sex or breaking up. The way I talk to chikers when I’m angry eh, my little brother once asked me if I jazz them cos he says if a lady ever talks to him like that, he would never say hi to her, let alone call her or send her money.

    I just ended a relationship with a potentially good guy because of anger. After breaking up and making up thrice in less than 2 months, he told me he was tired of my anger issues and he won’t pay for anyone else’s mistakes. I gave him the insult of his life, telling him he was just a coward using a cliche line to break up with me, that we never even dated. I’d rather die than beg anyone and I interpret every action as potential abuse (picture me screaming. I don’t care if you love me but ‘YOU WILL RESPECT ME’)

    I look at my ambitions against my salary and I’m angry.

    If you see me, you will never guess cos I look happy and confident but it’s beginning to show, the last project I handled, I lost my temper with people a lot and I’m beginning to show signs of insecurity cos my self loathing is making me insecure and I blow things out of proportion.

    I’m very respectful to my mum but even she has mentioned that I seem to be avoiding her ( The last time I spent too much time with her, I noticed myself taking on a rude tone so I minimize our interactions).

    I can’t handle little stress anymore, I just get angry and disoriented and I stay away from people for a while. I also react in ways I’m ashamed of later and if I make a mistake, I beat myself up for months.

    Had to take a long leave off work and I’m using the period to job hunt (I have identified my job as an anger trigger, it no longer motivates me and while I was a top performer the 1st two years. This 2016, I’ve made mistakes even beginners shouldn’t make cos I LOATHE my job).

    I know what my problem is, I know the root cause but I’m clueless how to solve it oh.

    I’ve started confessing each morning ‘I am loving, kind and gentle. I have the mind of Christ’. I’m also trying to let go of the control of my life to God and be thankful for my blessings.

    I need practical advice on how to solve my challenges.

    • Blessedheart

      February 27, 2016 at 3:54 pm

      My dear lady, I hope you see this. The only practical solution I can offer is the love of God. I have come to realize that we cannot deal with these addictions on our own but the good news is that God is ready to help. If you’re not a Christian in truth, this is the time to ask Jesus to come into your life. Surrender all the anger to him and he will fill you with his peace. Build a relationship with him through prayers and the study of the Bible, ask for the infilling of the Holy Spirit and your life will never remain the same. God bless you

    • Menoword

      February 28, 2016 at 2:35 pm

      Hello Anonymous,

      Since you’re a Christian, I would suggest you see a licensed Christian counsellor. Fantastic thing is, you already know what your anger stems from. Your counsellor might want to schedule an opportunity for your parents to come for a session so that you can all talk. If that doesn’t come up, I would suggest you call your parents and tell them how you feel. Perhaps you need your father to admit his mistakes, perhaps an apology for the instability that rocked your childhood so badly. Not a bashing, abusive exercise, but as polite yet honest as you can make it. If a meeting isn’t an option, get a journal and write; write how you feel. Pour every single bit of emotion out. That is always a cathartic process. I think a counsellor will help you forgive yourself for the abuse and also help to align your ambitions with your current realities. I wish you the best and look forward to one day hearing that you have found balance and peace

    • olah

      February 29, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      First is you have to learn how to be candid with God, tell Him the way it is. Say Lord i am angry about xyz everything the way you feel tell Him you can not help yourself even though you want to, ask Him to help you. Do not ‘form’ for God tell him the way it is. Then get books on how to deal with anger. With anger comes pride, anxiety, depression, hate etc. Do not be so hard on yourself.

    • UB40

      February 29, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      I think you should talk to Vincent Egoro of Inner Greatness Abound, google him he might be able to help you deal with your anger issues. All the best and cheers.

  24. chi-e-z

    February 27, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    Yo Terry’s part 2 &3 really hit home every human being need to hear this stuff

  25. Oluchi

    February 27, 2016 at 11:45 pm

    Pray that God reveals himself to you more intimately… That intimacy helps you to know Him and accept his love and shamelessly lo e him right back. In this process..anger and hate will disappear. May God help you find peace… Beautiful peace

  26. Mezy

    June 20, 2018 at 6:27 pm

    Studies have shown that married men who watch porn are less likely to cheat though…

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