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Are Men Really Intimidated by Successful Women? Watch the new Episode of “The Love Chest”



OAP & Vlogger Aderonke Adebanjo is out with a new episode of “The Love Chest”.

On this episode she asks “Are men really intimated by women?”

Aderonke throws a spanner in the works and shares her thoughts on what she thinks might really be going through men’s minds concerning successful women.

Check it out and feel free to share your thoughts!


  1. Cindy

    March 4, 2016 at 7:34 pm

    As long as we are not more successful, I guess they are fine. Cc IK

  2. bruno

    March 4, 2016 at 7:42 pm

    well what can I say, u are a woman that why u will think this way but trust me, men dont care. if u like be a billionaire, a strong black woman who can carry zuma rock with one hand men are not thinking about u neither arebthey intimidated or worried.
    what men are thinking about is either money, or food or sex or cars or football.

    Instead what u should be asking is are other women intimidated by my success. we all know the answer to that.

    • Tell me

      March 4, 2016 at 8:25 pm

      @Bruno I have missed you!!! I kept imagining your reactions to some recent posts on BN.
      Welcome back e-hugs! muah!

    • Kkk

      March 4, 2016 at 10:37 pm

      Bruno,I would like to buy you a beer

    • Seriously

      March 5, 2016 at 4:47 am

      Bruno, you are gay. So, you can’t speak for men neither for women. You think you know but you know nothing. If an article of, if gay men are intimidated by women, then your opinion will be necessary

    • Lolo

      March 5, 2016 at 1:57 pm

      Gay or not, he is a HUMAN BEING so he has every right in the world to speak on any issue he chooses. His sexuality which has nothing to do with you or anything else really doesn’t take away from his point. You need to stop being illogical and narrow minded.

    • Ade

      March 7, 2016 at 10:38 am


  3. beard gang

    March 4, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    NO WE ARE NOT!!!! ah!

    • Opraah

      March 4, 2016 at 9:09 pm

      Ha! Speak for yourself @beard gang. There are way too many Nigerian men out there who get intimidated by women who earn more or just as much as they do.

    • beard gang

      March 4, 2016 at 10:36 pm

      @Opraah there are too many women who think men are intimidated by how much they earn. Some men back off not because they are intimidated but because some of those women are disrespectful, arrogant, domineering and have the over-inflated importance of themselves.
      A lot of women are allowing money to rub them of their joy.

    • FasholasLover

      March 5, 2016 at 12:46 am

      Really? Are you surely sure? So, why is my Snr. colleagues boo squeezing face when she bought herself the latest Honda pilot? She had a Toyota corolla prior. Babe buys herself a brand new car every five years. Boos complaint is that her car makes him look small. Babe is from a relatively well to do background. No dependants while her boo has many branches and drives a Toyota avensis. In other words, so long as babe is not showing him up all is well?

      Nonsense. Anyways, she’s left him.

    • TT

      March 5, 2016 at 9:14 am

      We cannot tell why your snr colleague’s boo is squeezing face because we are not mind readers neither are we in the relationship with them. One case should not be used to generalize abeg

    • Comprehend!!!!

      March 5, 2016 at 10:20 am

      Oga/Aunty TT you don’t have to be a mind reader just read and comprehend. The answer is starring at you right there. Thou shall not be unequally yoked. He has too many responsibilities. Meaning, she will forever not be able to get what she desires except he can do better and bigger first.

    • FasholasLover

      March 5, 2016 at 2:09 pm

      Pls. tell her o, Anti TT why are you vexing nau? Are you working for broda that has your mumu button while he in turn use your money to buy “Richard” card for one smally? Ngwanu sorry no vex. Receive sense.

    • irritated

      March 5, 2016 at 4:18 pm

      I think your snr colleague should go for Musa Danjuma. Dont worry he will be up to her standards and more. His family is well to do and he is recently on the single train, lol. I never ever pay attention to women that say they are looking for husband. I never!. Now, what would happen to that your snr colleague is this. After many many years of leaving men and buying the latest cars, she would eventually find a man that loves that she changes cars BUT she would be changing cars for him too and he will leech off her.OR she approaches her daddy to get her one of his rich friends sons as a partner, who would see her as nothing more than a contract, then she can change her cars every 24hrs and not have a boo talking about feeling small..

      Nigerian women and their own version of equality. They say be a man but they dont want to be women. If men actually start treating women like men, many women would be lesbian by choice. If you ask that snr colleague now, with all her money, I am sure she would expect bobo to carry her up and down and treat her like a princess,with their stupid my money my money, his money our money. Im not against her changing cars o, Im only deducing her behaviour, like you deduced the cause of their break up was because she changed cars. And no, no, no, Nigerian men are not intimidated by no damn success, If they were Okonjo, deziani,, Adeosun, Alakija, Dora, Omotola, Tara, TY Bello, Uche Pedro etc would have all been divorces, baby mama or singles abi are they married to foreigners? Mistcheww! Its the women with little change that make noise. Women with real money are with their husbands. You guys should be there deceiving yourselves, talking about success when you should change your attitude.

    • MAN UP OR SHIP OUT!!!!

      March 6, 2016 at 1:22 am

      @Irritated, You are going off tangent.
      The man feels small because the lady bought a car that he considers bigger than his. And why should a woman not be able to spend her hard earned money just because boyfriend not husband yet o cannot pull his weight? The way l see it, girls should NEVER marry down. Most Men cannot handle women who are more successful. The successful women you mentioned if only you know the shit they tolerate just to maintain peace.

  4. Mr. Egghead

    March 4, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    The only men who are intimidated by successful women are men who don’t have their own money.
    Any brother who can properly feed himself and put a roof over his head is not scared of some chick just because she has a fat account and a Ph.D

    What scares me is the new “Superwoman” : If I say one, she will say hundred. If I say “What about dinner?”, she’ll say “Can’t you cook?”
    This Aderonke be like proper wife-material, 1st bale

    • Cindy

      March 4, 2016 at 8:25 pm

      Ehn, can’t you cook?

    • ElessarisElendil

      March 5, 2016 at 1:17 am

      That’s not the point.

  5. sandra

    March 4, 2016 at 8:31 pm

    men dont get intimidated. boys get intimidated


    March 4, 2016 at 8:37 pm

    @Cindy, What should the wife be doing when he’s cooking?

    • Cindy

      March 4, 2016 at 8:47 pm

      And what should he be doing when she is cooking?

    • The real dee

      March 4, 2016 at 9:53 pm

      Cindy, as Yorubas will say, omo kekere nse e, literally, small girl is doing you. I guess you just graduated from college, so small girl is still doing you. But this is peculiar to you though as I never thought this way when I was in college and I know those who didn’t. So when your husband asks for food, you’ll ask him, ‘can’t you cook’? Ok o! Thats is plain disrespectful. A better way would have been, ‘honey, I’m tired, do you mind putting something together or assisting me in the kitchen?’
      Well, i guess your comment is just a joke.

    • .....just saying

      March 5, 2016 at 4:58 am

      Assisting her in the kitchen? Is it her job? They both bring 5/50 for rent, school fees etc in fact in some cases she brings more and he can’t cook his own food? If I pay half of the bills, you better cook half of the meals. Enough said.


    March 4, 2016 at 8:41 pm


  8. Olu

    March 4, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    You ladies honestly need to stop fooling yourselves. A lot of women are very successful and guess what…they are married. Some Nigerian wives are more successful than their Nigerian husbands …I know a lot….

    Talk about living in denial …work on yourselves and stop blaming the men.
    It’s getting boring….seriously.

  9. Spunky

    March 4, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    For me Shaaa, dat one no consign me. A real man is proud to have a smart lady by his side. The problem is, some women who fall in this category raise the bar way too high and tend to compare their achievements with their partner. In all, it’s a healthy challenge.

  10. beard gang

    March 4, 2016 at 10:36 pm

    @Opraah there are too many women who think men are intimidated by how much they earn. Some men back off not because they are intimidated but because some of those women are disrespectful, arrogant, domineering and have the over-inflated importance of themselves.
    A lot of women are allowing money to rub them of their joy.

  11. Asher

    March 4, 2016 at 11:19 pm

    Adino watch the fideeeo, because dollar haff cost too much… Price of data haff go up, so online streaming haff to go down.

    But seriously though, and I think I’m speaking for a relatively large section of the male demographic – I don’t care if you earn six times my pay or I earn 7times your pay – What matters mostly and what puts off most men is a woman’s arrogance and her total disgust towards submission (I don’t mean subservience) and one of the major contributors to this behavior is money.

    I don’t even want to start going into details, because if I do, BN will be moderating my comment till Christmas. But if a woman would just learn (it doesn’t come naturally for most women) how to treat her man like a King that he is, irrespective of her 7 figure salary, there would be no reason at all why her man would be intimated by her success/riches

    In essence, a man is not intimidated by your salary, he’s only intimated by how he knows your salary would make you behave.

    • .....just saying

      March 5, 2016 at 5:00 am

      Well. if he treats her like a Queen, she won’t have a problem reciprocating

    • kuma

      March 6, 2016 at 1:52 pm

      You make valid points. What I found is that many men want to be the only one with proud achievements on a relationship. The same things they were bragging about regarding their hotel (het awesome degree, the papers she’s pulished, her good job, etv) are the same things sbome will later will the girl to play down forever or in worse cases, make jet feel are not all that, just to maintain his superiority. But he is surprised and feels one kind when the girl rebels.

      Respecting your woman’s achievements in the long run is easier if you’re constantly achieving good things of your own. And if you pray to God for contentment and a spirit guarded against jealousy. Women should not have to play down their achievements. But given the reality of the situation, that men are human and will get jealous, they should have expanded spheres outside of family, where those achievements can be lauded and kept alive. Then There’s no need for the man to know so much even.

  12. beard gang

    March 4, 2016 at 11:25 pm

    sorry for the typos
    some of these women***
    this overinflated****

  13. Bey

    March 4, 2016 at 11:28 pm

    In present day Lagos believe me most men don’t want a woman without a job.
    Men of Nways take off when they meet a jobless woman. Economic situation is too hard, nobody wants a girl dat will carry her problems and her generational problems on ur head.
    Forget all dat intimidation talk in 2016 present day Lagos. I work in a bank, I know so many women more successful than dere hubby’s.
    The only problem is with women dat carry dat “I’m a boss lady” shit home. But now you even find a lot of successful women in d bank dating younger and less successful guys. There are actually some guys that say they can only date so called “working class” ladies, let me use d usual Nigerian acronym.

  14. Awoyo

    March 4, 2016 at 11:29 pm

    Keep up the beautiful work Aderonke…love your vlogs

  15. Cindy

    March 5, 2016 at 4:45 am

    @thereaddeal abeg park! Let omo kerekere do me. You can clearly see that my question was directed at egghead and his stupid sense of entitlement (because he makes these types of comment usually) and not my husband. I knew one of you random people would bring the fact that I just graduated from college up one day acting like you know shit about me. Guess what you know nothing. And one more thing, I am glad that I know early that I wasn’t born to cook just for a man so if this is what you refer to as omokekere, so be it.

  16. Black African Men are Mostly Shit!!

    March 5, 2016 at 2:34 pm

    A lot of men are quite intimidated by a woman who is more successful,earns more,wants more from life,is doing better than them,and things along those line.

    And I don’t care what anybody says or feels to this,i have found out it is usually black african men. Bunch of entitled,badly brought up,overgrown idiots who feel women not only owe them something but are there to serve and make their lives easier!

    And yesss,i am speaking from the experience of 20yrs of dating the bastards!!!
    Of been made to feel that because I wanted more for myself meant “no man will marry you o”!
    I was made to feel guilty for every major achievement!
    Masters degree,new cars,travels,fast career growth,designer loving ways,etc etc!
    “Why won’t you “calm down” they said..
    “You know only an old man will marry you o,you are arrogant o” they said
    “Don’t buy that car o,no man will toast you o” they said”
    “Must you buy 4000pounds bag?,go lower so men won’t be scared” they said
    “With this your yanga,your husband will need a cane for youo” they reminded me

    And everytime I “clapped back” I was labelled arrogant,irredeemable,beyond help,will die single,etc.

    They reminded me that I was nothing without these hopeless fools called black african men!!

    And please spare me,i dated them all,the ones who earned 7times my salary and the oneswho earned 7times below my salary,the ones from pedigree and the ones whose fathers name cannot ring no damn bells anywhere,nigerians and about 4 other african countries,
    All the same,all looking for someone to ride,dominate and subdue!
    Awon werey buruku

    How about letting a woman “just be”!

    You want to be treated like kings,you have been taught from childhood that you are “the man”..NOBODY remembered to teach you shitheads how to treat your women like queens.
    I blame our mothers as well!!!

    Before some say I’m only talking from my experience,i can fill this comment section up with countless stories of others’ experience both married and single women!

    Useless animals,feel they are answerable to nobody!

    Some might call me bitter or angry,cool…maybe I am for those still caught up in dead end situations,all in the name of dating,relationship or marriage!!

    Now that I am in the happiest place of my life ever,they are saying…
    “Well I knew it,only an oyinbo man could have handled her”
    “Handled” abi?
    Because as usual,we women are animals,chattel,something to be handled or controlled!!

    • MAN UP OR SHIP OUT!!!!

      March 6, 2016 at 1:33 am

      Aaaah, you aff vexed gaaaan ni. Pls. tell them. Though beautiful, African mothers raising badly behaved men. If not for marriage mtcsheew. Come and see one short man like that with his NCE commanding upandan one tall beautiful masters degree holder. Don’t perm your hair, don’t wear make up, don’t wear trousers on and on and on sotay turned this beauty queen to an ngbeke all in the name of marriage. Msheeew.

    • Sherri

      March 6, 2016 at 2:08 am

      I call you a woman who knows her worth!! High five jor!

    • Natu

      March 6, 2016 at 11:53 am

      Love your comment!!! This is the reason why I do not date black African men. There is nothing admirable or impressive about an African man. They are just annoying!!!

    • Stahh

      March 7, 2016 at 4:55 pm

      You are very correct, Thank God I didn’t need up to 20 years to realise though.. Dads, uncles, granddads, brothers and then lovers all proved what you have said.. My ‘oyinbo’ that is the only type of man that can ‘handle’ me is nothing like that (though its not a white v black thing with these men cos oyinbo fit hide your corps for basement) sha he loves and respects me.. As it should be.. Tradition is worrying our men(tality)..

  17. Funniest thing

    March 7, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    The funniest thing about this whole eish is that those who come bragging here are those who dont even have one naira in their account. They depend on bf/sugardaddy/father for everything including d recharge card to buy data for what they use in bragging on BN, their pant, bra, cloth, shoe, bag, even their menstrual pad. They dont have a dime to themselves.

    e.g Cindy. Cindy just finished school, never worked in her life, never owned any money to herself, she is a short, dark, grumpy soul full of hatred and so ulgy that no boy has even toasted her. That is why she hates men so much. Cindy, you shall be alright

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