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A Must-Read for Couples Getting Married! #BBNWonderland Bride Alma shares “10 Cheapskate Tips I Applied to My Wedding”

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Alma was one of the 33 amazing brides-to-be at Baileys Nigeria and BellaNaija Weddings#BBNWonderland on 10-10-2015 – click here for all the photos and clips!

Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00034Alma got married last month in Abuja to her sweetheart Jesse, in a “cheapskate” way. Alma is a blogger – www.thestylecheapskate.blogspot.com.ng where she talks about her adventures of looking good without breaking the bank, so it was only natural she would apply some of her know-how to her wedding.

Here are 10 ways Alma saved money for herself and her guests on her day.

Be inspired – we sure were!

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Planning a wedding was no small task and there were high moments, low moments and OMG moments!!! Being the cheapie that I am, I tried to save as much as I could. You just might decide to hire me as your next wedding planner. Enjoy!

  1. BUY AFFORDABLE SHOES

Yes! I still didn’t splurge on anything outrageously expensive. Not for a pair of shoes that wouldn’t be seen by most of my guests because it would be hiding under my very long dress?  My shoes were by Dune London and I got them off ASOS AGAIN! I already had an idea of what I wanted the shoes to look like, champagne pumps with a powerful bling detail on the top. However I only kept seeing them in brands ranging from Versace to Badgley Mischka. I just couldn’t deal. I checked out my loyal ASOS online and voila, Dune London had the same style of shoes, same colour with the same details. The initial problem was that they were being sold for over £80. In this current dollar/pound rates craziness we have been facing in Nigeria, I knew that I had to either wait for it to go on sale or buy my shoes from Aba market. Yes, I was that frustrated. Lol.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00009

Anyway, long story, short, the shoes later went on sale for £53 and the rest is history. It was sooo freaking beautiful when I received them and it still is. Future brides, just get what your pocket can handle. Trust me, nobody is gonna be talking about your shoes that much. The only time anyone had a good look at mine was when I changed into a short dress before my bouquet toss. Your wedding dress is a little more important which brings me to my next tip.

  1. BUY YOUR DRESS OFF THE RACK

Why do brides stress themselves so much over the almighty wedding dress?  I used to think I would have to cross seven seas and climb seven mountains to find my dress but the reverse was the case. Travelling out of Nigeria all because of a dress did not even cross my mind because like I earlier said, the exchange rates have not been smiling anymore. Besides, everything overseas can be found right here in Nigeria. Right here! So, I took my mum along with me one day (just one day) to scout for wedding dresses and we ended up at Brides & Babies here in Abuja. After trying on four dresses from the rack, the last one stole our hearts. To be honest, I wasn’t feeling it on the hanger but once I put it on….it was a different ball game.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00013

The option of getting a custom made dress did not come up because I had found what I wanted right off the rack. Plus the cost would have been about 50% more if I wanted my dress custom made. If you find something close to your specifications on the racks, buy it and move on. And yes, I didn’t have to visit 500 bridal stores in the space of six months to find mine. Why? You will always find something better as long as you keep searching. So save yourself the stress and commit to one dress (the one that you love of course).

After a few adjustments, my simple but beautiful trumpet, all lace wedding dress came out gorgeous and I wouldn’t have changed a thing about it. The illusion details at the back turned heads on that day. Sexy, simple and classy!

  1. MAKE YOUR BOUQUET YOURSELF

Yes you can do it. Don’t panic. I wasn’t sure about it too but I just had to try. How was I supposed to pay 45-50k for a bouquet that I was going to end up tossing to one lucky lady at my reception? I carried my two legs to Wuse Market in Abuja where you can find everything under the sun. I got beautiful artificial flowers within my colour scheme and got a different design for my bridesmaids. Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00014I also got necessary materials like florist tapes, ribbons and sequin materials. Total cost of everything was roughly about 7,000 Naira.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00015I had so much fun making them, pretty easy too. And for a touch of class, I pinned one of my embellished brooches to my bouquet. They all looked beautiful. Big announcement: I have started taking orders so if you need a beautiful yet affordable bouquet for your wedding, contact me NOW!Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00032

  1. WEAR TWO/THREE BRACELETS AND SAVE ON A NEW WRISTWATCH

Yea I know you’re wondering what I mean by this. I desperately wanted to buy a new wristwatch for the wedding. Nothing overwhelming,just something cute. While I was still contemplating on it, I came across an Instagram post stating how wrong it was for brides to wear wristwatches on their wedding day. Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00010The post gave good reasons stating that a wristwatch could clash with the softness of a standard bridal look and how a bride had no business peeping at the time on her wedding day when she had an entire bridal party to do that for her. This post was also against ladies wearing wristwatches on the red carpet, with examples showing photos of celebrities at popular award shows like the Oscars who make sure not to commit this fashion faux pa. You know what? I believed it, I ‘Googled’ some of these claims and there were similar reviews on the internet. So yes I decided not to wear a watch on my wedding day, instead I wore a bracelet on one hand and two on the other as advised by top wedding style experts. All in all, I loved it and I had no issues disturbing my sister every second to tell me what time it was.

  1. CREATE AN E-INVITE

In this digital era where everything under the sun is passed around via social media, it only makes sense that you invite people for your wedding through that medium. A lot of people do bulk SMS invites though I am not really a big fan as it isn’t just personalized enough. We had physical invitation cards which we gave out to our very distinguished guests, dignitaries and our parents’ guests. You know Naija na, we had to! However, the bulk of our invites were sent out in the form of an e-invite created by a graphic designer.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00012 If you are good with basic design applications, you can even do this yourself. It cost us basically nothing and it reached out to more than 500 people via BBM, Watsapp, Facebook and Instagram.

  1. PARTICIPATE IN GIVEAWAYS AND ALLOW FAMILY & FRIENDS CONTRIBUTE

If you follow me on Instagram, you must have seen me participate in one or two bridal giveaways. I made sure not to go crazy about it but I made sure also not to miss out on some of them. For instance, my bridal robe, bridal mug, bridal handbook, bridal earrings were all given to me for free at #BBNWonderland 🙂Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00033An event I was selected for via social media. See here. I also won my bridal hair comb and another pair of earrings in another giveaway. There was one I entered hoping to win a wedding dress but it just didn’t happen. I probably would have won more stuff if I continued. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Just try one or two and see.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00011Also, I had family and friends take care of some aspects of the wedding. Many of them offered to do this as their contributions and I couldn’t be more grateful. Our huge 5-tier wedding cake, customized bottles of water, part of the food and different pieces of souvenirs were taken care of by loving people. Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00039Who says you cannot ask if no one offers and you have to. Ask and you shall receive.

  1. GET TRUSTED PEOPLE TO ACT AS A WEDDING COORDINATOR & HOSTESSES

I planned my wedding myself with tremendous help from my mum and I didn’t realize the importance of having hostesses/ushers at my wedding reception until almost two months to the wedding day. I had made enquiries and the best deal I could get was 10k per usher. For my number of guests and the size of the reception venue, we were talking about 10-15 ushers. No way! I was still thinking of the best way to go about it and my mum came to the rescue. She organized about 14 young ladies from her place of work and asked them if they could handle the job. Instantly, they all showed interest and were ready to help. All we had to do was to make matching outfits for them and guide them at the reception venue two days to the event about seating arrangements etc. A family friend who also works with my mum acted as my wedding coordinator and all the hostesses were working under her. Need I say, I was wowed by their smartness and excellent execution of the job. They sure helped in ensuring our guests were well taken care of. What more could I have asked for?

  1. DITCH ASOEBI FOR YOUR FRIENDS
Patricia slayed in this abstract ankara number she designed herself!

Patricia slayed in this abstract ankara number she designed herself!

I had to put my friends into consideration too. I made it clear from Day One that my friends will only wear asoebi for my traditional wedding WHERE I FELT IT WAS MORE IMPORTANT. I knew I wanted my white wedding to look as simple and as classic as possible without subjecting my friends to traditional uniformity again. So I set a dress code by asking all the young ladies and guys to wear anything formal. Boy, were they glad! Everyone was happy to look unique and more importantly not to spend money on asoebi. I love the feel that it gave the wedding with guys in their suits and ladies in their pretty dresses. I’ll be featuring those who slayed at my wedding. See them below!

#BBNWonderland bride Maryam came for the wedding!

Maryam looked amazing in this lovely maxi dress from BB Artistry

Maryam looked amazing in this lovely maxi dress from BB Artistry

My brother, Charlie Parker was one of the groomsmen and he killed it!

Tito and Udoka looked dapper

My brother, Charlie Parker was one of the groomsmen and he killed it!

My brother, Charlie Parker was one of the groomsmen and he killed it!

Couldn't get a full pic of Lucy but she stunned. Makeup on point too.

Couldn’t get a full pic of Lucy but she stunned. Makeup on point too.

My darling sister who was my maid of honor looked so regal in her 2-in-1 dress by BB Artistry

My darling sister who was my maid of honor looked so regal in her 2-in-1 dress by BB Artistry

Emmanuella went with the classic black dress. So elegant.

Emmanuella went with the classic black dress. So elegant.

Uchechi had the classic #AsoEbiBella look. So gorgeous.

Uchechi had the classic #AsoEbiBella look. So gorgeous.

Patricia and two of my beautiful bridesmaids, Eunice and ChiChi

Patricia and two of my beautiful bridesmaids, Eunice and ChiChi

  1. SERVE AFFORDABLE SWEET WINE

    4th Street Wine

    4th Street Wine

My mum is a lover of red wine and over the years I have grown with numerous bottles of red wine being consumed at home by visitors. So it was only normal that I wanted a bottle of good red wine in addition to other drinks on each table. Now we were talking 100 bottles of red wine for the wedding minus extra bottles. You don’t need me to tell you how much we were looking at. Of course we needed another option. During our Valentine’s treat back in February, the hubby and I were served a lovely sweet alcoholic wine called 4th Street and it is made in South Africa. I could not stop gushing about it after that day. The following week we found ourselves in a store and we sighted it in the ‘Wine Section’ being sold for about 730 Naira a bottle. I couldn’t believe it. What’s more, they come in three different flavours. At that very moment that became the option we were searching for. What’s more, by the time we purchased it in cartons, the prices were slashed by almost half! I realized that not everybody is a core red wine drinker and this particular sweet wine would appeal more to the larger percentage of our guests. And it sure did. Everyone loved it. We made sure to mix it up with another brand in the same category (I don’t remember the name). Despite this, my mum still had a personal cooler with special red wine for her important guests.

10. GIVE OUT AFFORDABLE SOUVENIRS THAT PEOPLE WILL ACTUALLY USE

Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00026Now I am not very good in coming up with ideas for souvenirs so this was an uphill task. Nobody wants to receive plastic kitchen utensils or a bottle opener anymore. People will always write so we decided on a mini notebook that one could easily throw into a handbag. In addition to that, we had very unique mugs in different colours. I loved the fact that they came in individual packs. People will always drink coffee/tea abi? We also had travel toilet bags, egg whisking utensils, face towels and sewing kits. To crown it all, we made mini gift bags with our logo big enough to house two items each person received. It was simple but classy. Not to mention that we had family and friends who made special numerous souvenirs for us and ended up sharing them as well after the gift bags had gone round.

BONUS TIP: NO MATTER HOW CLICHÉ IT SOUNDS, STICK TO YOUR BUDGET.

Yes my brothers and sisters, stick to your budget. Jesse and I found ourselves cutting down on stuff instead of going over and beyond our budget, doing things we could not afford. You have a new life to look forward to after the wedding, save up a little, rent a beautiful apartment and if possible go on an amazing honeymoon (if this era of change will allow you). Everyone who attends your wedding will eat your food, drink your wine, dance to the tunes of the DJ you paid for and collect the souvenirs you had sleepless nights over. At the end of it all, they bid you farewell and reality sets in. Trust me, it may not be so rosy for you and your new spouse if you begin your lives with a huge debt over your head.

Above all, commit all your plans into God’s hands and let him take full control. Never stop praying! This has to be the most inexpensive tip when planning a wedding, it doesn’t cost a thing.Alma in Abuja Nigerian Wedding on a Budget_2016_BBNWonderland Bride_00016

So, how many of my tips are your favourites? Let me know in the comment box below.

Happy planning guys, see you in a bit!

Thanks for stopping by … ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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You can keep up with the The Style (and now Wedding) Cheapskate Alma on her blog and social media – Instagram – @thestylecheapskate.

Bride’s Dress: @BridesAndBabies
Bridesmaids Dresses: @BB_Artistry
Makeup: @RTMBeautyandMakeupStudio
Robe: @idoweddingsng
Earrings: @myvelvetboxng

92 Comments

  1. Jo!

    June 14, 2016 at 1:57 pm

    LOVE! LOVE!! LOVE!!!!!!!!!! The practically and “realisticness” of the advice, this is real life y’all, for those who want to live real life after the wedding, because you won’t come and build house & eat inside BNWeddings now, will you?

    • Judgejudyjudy

      June 15, 2016 at 3:54 pm

      As in, I’ve fallen in love with the writer. I love how real she is. THIS is what I call “keeping it 100%”. Great tips! Well done!

  2. Juliet

    June 14, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    Love the wedding dress tip. After dealing with so many horrible vendors I eventually bought my dress off the rack and I loved it.

  3. eyitope

    June 14, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    Woooow this is really amazing,every piece was my favourite.

  4. bolanle

    June 14, 2016 at 2:08 pm

    Very very helpful advice, I’ve done most things on this list. My wedding soon come and it WILL be a fabulous day!

  5. you

    June 14, 2016 at 2:12 pm

    Very useful tips and thanks for sharing

  6. oge

    June 14, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    great tips…… Thanks alot. Everyone is all about the big weddings, splashing millions of naira

  7. me

    June 14, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    Naija babes are not commenting cos they will rather splurge for a wedding and complain on aunty bella later on why there husband treats them mean. Postpartum wedding couple!!!

    • Amaa

      June 14, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      ? you are evil lol . I really cringe at the amount spent on wedding these days in Naija. Betty Irabor said it all if you can’t afford it now do something small and move on with your life . You might be able to have a bigger wedding later. It is hard for some people especially if you see BN wedding

    • Keeks

      June 14, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      ME. Oh why do bitter, is your husband not treating you well. Hahha. Leave Nigerian girls alone!

    • Bola

      June 14, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      The bride’s family pays more during weddings so what dose that have to do with a mean husband? Also women work and contribute to their own wedding, the notion that men foot weddings is a big lie for most

    • Naijatalk

      June 14, 2016 at 5:07 pm

      No not in Igbo land. In igbo land you are coming to marry our daughter, you better come correct. Nnebuife you have a good head on your shoulders, carry on and may your marriage be blessed forever.

    • Kiiki

      June 14, 2016 at 5:51 pm

      I agree. In Igboland, the reverse is the case. We are “doing you a favourby” releasing our daughter. Lol.

    • ATL's finest

      June 14, 2016 at 10:32 pm

      ???????lmao! All hail the Igbo’s & God bless y’all plenty. My cousin married an Igbo chic oh heavens she’s too cute but the list they brought back from Nigeria ehn let’s just say #SOLD#. And I don’t know how true this is, but that’s when I heard the dowry for educated Igbo chic, is different from the one your pay for uneducated chic. Hmm like I said, I don’t know how true this is but all I know is that she’s a Med Dr & the list was #SOLD#.

      @ Alma, God bless u plenty & I couldn’t have agreed with you more on the Bouquet. I have been to a lot of weddings & 4 of them made their bouquets themselves including that of the bridesmaids & it turned out elegant. Well oh well my people say “sow your coat according to your size”.

    • Nelo

      June 15, 2016 at 12:59 am

      All these people shouting in igboland, can u speak for urself and not the whole igbo tribe? I’m an ibo girl and my family spent more on the wedding. I know so many oda igbo people like that. I also work n put in my own money. If u like stay there n be waiting for a man dat will foot all the wedding bills. Later u guys will be wondering ‘wen will it be my turn?’ yet na u get sense pass, keeping ur money to buy oda people’s asoebi.

    • Naijatalk

      June 15, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      @Nelo, please go and ask your parents and elders who traditionally foots the Bill for a wedding. No need to argue here.

    • chimezie

      June 16, 2016 at 4:00 pm

      Say what??? I beg to differ. Wife’s family hosts thetraditional.l

  8. DatEnuguChic

    June 14, 2016 at 2:20 pm

    True talk.

  9. Thank Youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

    June 14, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    Really this is super amazing, thanks for the tips, my wedding is coming up and i am thinking thinking with this Change everywhere. My fav is the shoe and allowing people help out. Would also send the link to my brides to be.
    BTW BN we are waiting for the next BNWonderland oo i must participate

  10. "changing moniker"

    June 14, 2016 at 2:25 pm

    wow!!!!! i loved this ehn…
    me i have added my own.
    do your “white wedding” on a week day. That’s my plan. My parents are insisting on a circus, saying the kabiyesi of our village, all the chiefs, alumni from their secondary school (imagine!), e.t.c, must come for the wedding.
    So i told them that they could have the traditional wedding, to do whatever they like and leave the white wedding for me, my husband, our immediate family and friends.
    Those who got married on a weekday, please share your experiences.
    Thanks.

    • Naijatalk

      June 14, 2016 at 5:12 pm

      I got married on a Friday and it was the best decision ever. Got mad discount for the venue and food. Got married in the US so I can’t speak on what obtains in Nigeria. If it pays your pocket, my sister, do it.
      In my case, we were more concerned about our condo and enjoyment afterwards.

    • Abi

      June 14, 2016 at 6:08 pm

      I am with you. My parents were going t have lots of guests, so I chose Dec 25th for the engagement (it was a Wednesday) and December 26th for the wedding (Thursday), it was 14 years ago and not too common then so some people stayed at home. I also went with a pastor that was strict with time so reception was over by 3 pm, even though service started t 10 am and we had interlude for picures 🙂

    • @ Changing moniker

      June 14, 2016 at 6:10 pm

      I got married on a weekday and it was amazing. We had a total guest number of 130 people and I knew almost everyone in attendance by name. We ended up spending far less on the church wedding ceremony than the traditional ceremony. It was just as perfect as I had thought it out (one thing I miss was not wearing a second dress – it wasn’t in our budget). We stuck to our budget and we were able to afford a beautiful honeymoon and a decent home afterwards. My friends also didn’t wear any asoebi neither did I have a train. I only had a beautiful chiefbridesmaid whose dress I paid for (she picked the colour & style and matched it with a pair of shoes she already had).
      Looking back, I couldn’t have changed much about my traditional wedding but I wish I didn’t burden my friends with the asoebi (I probably should have done just gele and allowed them to wear any fabric of their choice).

      However, your wedding is mostly once in a lifetime. Do what you can afford. Splurge if you can afford it but make sure you don’t have to borrow to make up for it.

    • ATL's finest

      June 14, 2016 at 10:47 pm

      @ Changing Moniker lol @ village square & continent coming. Well u sound like me too ( Trad I didn’t care) y’all can do whatever but white, it was my way or the high way end of story. I’m d driver y’all be the passenger.

  11. Noncapax

    June 14, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    1. Ditch the souvenirs
    2. Minimize your bridal train
    3. People will wear asoebi anyways. Let it be based on request.
    4. Serve only one dish. I know this is taboo to our yoruba fam but if anyone is hungry, let him chop at home.
    5. Let a friend do your makeup. Send her a recharge card in appreciation.
    6. Minimize expenses on the cake.
    7. Anyone with suggestions should provide the funds to back them up.
    8. Never forget that it’s YOUR wedding. Both of you. Not just the bride’s and definitely not the parents’. Stand your ground.

    • FinchleysFinest

      June 14, 2016 at 3:11 pm

      Serve only one dish. I know this is taboo to our yoruba fam but if anyone is hungry, let him chop at home .

      Or Just put the menu on the invite like airplane mode… Appetiser , Main, Dessert … so they don’t ask questions lol

    • bumble bee

      June 14, 2016 at 3:26 pm

      No 5 had me rolling on the floor… you people will not kill somebody

    • Jagaban

      June 14, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      For the gents……
      1. Not a must to wear designer suits(name brands), get a good tailor to do that for you and your groomsmen and I don’t mean them Mai Atafo tailors..????.
      2. Choose a reasonable colour for your suits(colours you can wear after the wedding either as a whole or as separates).
      3. Invest in your shoes nd wristwatch…..not necessarily name brands.(Fossil makes the best men’s watches and they’re less than $250 and get solid shoes).
      4. Grooming is necessary (haircut,etc). Look neat and well kept old.
      5. Go with ur budget.
      6. Don’t buy things you won’t be able to wear or use after the wedding just for the wedding.
      7. Don’t invite musicians to perform…not worth it except it’s free sha??, better a live band and DJ.
      8. Have a wedding registry or tell guests to make all gifts monetary…..who wants to have 8 blenders, 6 dish sets, 11 sandwich makers, 9 utensil sets etc when it’s just two of you(well except that’s ur like of business,household appliance sales).
      9. Say no to asoebi( I know Yoruba people do it most times to make a profit).
      10. Workout if you can regularly before the wedding*( it will boost your confidence, make things fit easier,able to dance for longer,etc).

      Basically avoid name brands,get cheaper (not cheap) alternative and by that I mean buy quality. * I’m not body shaming anyone….at end do whatever you like,its your life.

    • Anonymous

      June 15, 2016 at 12:51 am

      I had a wedding of d decade. Did I like it no! I didn’t know a tenth of the people in attendance. I wanted no bride maids I got, I wanted just 50 guests combined we fed 5000, dress from designers I can’t even pronounce, aso ebi was ordered so te, company said dy didn’t Hv it again and can’t reproduce again- timing was too short. Thank God for dat.

      I was forced to dance, I was forced to make a grand entrance. I got married but it wasn’t my wedding! When I just Cudnt stand all d glam again I became the first to leave my own wedding! Looking back wished I Hv stamped my feet on a garden small wedding I Hv always always dreamt of. It’s Can’t even bring myself to watch d video.

    • ATL's finest

      June 14, 2016 at 10:42 pm

      ??????????????????lmao! # 4-5 got me *dead*. I just had to show my mom! Nigerians I Y’ALL to the moin & back with your crazy selves. But hey, u ain’t lieing. A lot of folks are pros on YouTube blogs when it comes to make up & hair. I pay for make up artist the last time I was a bridesmaid & I regretted every bit of it. The make up artist was so damm slow I ended up doing 2 other bridesmaids make-up mtchewww. I should ve kept my $40 in my wallet all becuz I was trying to be nice.

    • team its my wedding, not yours

      June 15, 2016 at 11:18 am

      @noncapax are you sure you’re not my soul sister? Honestly when I read number one, I just smiled cos this is one thing I always told myself and people I’ve helped plan their weddings. DitCh souvenirs for Gods sake. Unless you have the extra money for it. Its only in Nigeria that people attend someone’s wedding with the mindset of what they can get. They come uninvited, eat your food( murmur and complain if the food is served with just one meat), drink your wine, collect all the souvenirs, dust their bum and leave. They won’t. Even have the courtesy to get up and rejoice with couple (dance). Not to talk of bringing a gift.
      Infact, i totally agree with yiu Alma, on everything you wrote. I like the part where you said “save up a little, rent a beautiful apartment, go on honeymoon!!!
      I am also team do “something’s you can yourself”
      . The last wedding I planned, I went to WUSE market and bought the flowers then did the bouquet myself. Ditched all those big big name designers and sourced for an affordable tailor that made the bridesmaid’s dresses. I mean, I can’t begin to say it all. ButBut my dear, thank you for posting my MIND.
      Oga adiri gi Mma jare

  12. Jewellat

    June 14, 2016 at 2:36 pm

    Amazingly useful tips. M getting married in couple of months from now, I could not agree any lesser.. The stick to your budget part is so real, there’s a reality to face after the wedding ceremony. Thank u

  13. Hiya

    June 14, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    Very apt, very realistic…….who do you want to impress in this present economy! Nne daalu….need to save this cos mine is in December.

  14. Chinma Eke

    June 14, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    I love the tips, my fave is no 10: give out affordable souvenirs that people can use! The same goes for gifts too; wedding guests, give the couple gifts they can use!
    Nigerians retire the set of glasses and the baby bath thingy. Like 10 other people are thinking the same thing. If you cannot ask the couple for what they will prefer; please give cash. Cash is king, just monetize whatever gift you might have given.

  15. olorire

    June 14, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    Almaaaaaaaa the is so on point

  16. Iphie

    June 14, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    Hi Alma,
    You are such a real person. I like all the tips and how witty you drove home your points.Keep being you and may God bless your marriage.

    Lemme go n follow you on instagram…

  17. Mdevaan

    June 14, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    Love these babe. ! Well done and congratulations again

  18. bumble bee

    June 14, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Now I have decided when it’s my time, there are things we are going to splurge on, and there are things we wont… the things ill splurge on are photography(the memories are forever, so it’s wise we use a good photographer) honeymoon(memory wise too) rings…everyother thing has to have a low budget.. when I’ve seen my dream dress and I can rent for 45k.. my dear why would I want to buy? To do what? My dear if u like spend.5m on food there will still be people that would say ohhh I didn’t get the Chinese rice, the jollof wasn’t sweet, so my dear whatever u see eat, besides a wedding is not a place to come and fill your tommy for a week… of course we are gonna have lots of drinks.. besides the man that’s all he cares about for our wedding, he keeps saying do whatever you like but there must be lots of drinks.. makeup.. there are good mua’s out there that I don’t need to break the bank for so why bother… every other thing will be budgeted.. simple

    • Babe

      June 14, 2016 at 7:48 pm

      Are you me? we sound very alike in the items we are willing to splurge on i.e. Photography, Rings and honey moon. I usually munch pictures of brides that are my size with the hope that when I am ready I will contact them to buy their wedding dresses, re style and re-rock. At this stage in my life, I am not sure I will be willing to spend N12m on a wedding if we don’t already own our home by the time we are getting married. Well if people are willing to pick up bills, I will not refuse. LOL

    • bumble bee

      June 14, 2016 at 9:33 pm

      Bet we think alike…

  19. Ehiwarior

    June 14, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    Everyone who attends your wedding will eat your food, drink your wine, dance to the tunes of the DJ you paid for and collect the souvenirs you had sleepless nights over. At the end of it all, they bid you farewell and reality sets in. Trust me, it may not be so rosy for you and your new spouse if you begin your lives with a huge debt over your head..
    #Punchline.

    Thank you for this beautiful piece,
    God bless your union,
    You shall be fruitful and blossom in Jesus name.

    • Don't start your marriage with debt

      June 14, 2016 at 6:25 pm

      Story of my life right here. Marriage started with debt. Almost 2 yrs later we have not recovered. Dude borrowed without telling me.

    • ATL's finest

      June 14, 2016 at 10:35 pm

      Oh dammmm!!! Well u are doing great & keep doing your BEST..

  20. Ej

    June 14, 2016 at 4:11 pm

    Blessssssssssss you dear and congratulations thanks for these wonderful tips

  21. Faith

    June 14, 2016 at 4:19 pm

    This is sooo lovely and insightful! Love it! And i love this lady’s simplicity. HML

  22. wendypearl

    June 14, 2016 at 4:32 pm

    wow wow wow this absolutely lovely. and I’m so very sure i can do some of this things myself, Lord please help me as i plan ahead mine and please Lord provide a boo.

  23. NIRA

    June 14, 2016 at 4:33 pm

    Yea, was there. Her mum is one of my bosses. I agree with the souvenir, it was really different and very very useful . Something I’d never think of buying, but every home needs. Congrats once again Alma, you and Jesse look really good together, and boy!, you two can dance!!! Beautiful wedding, but I know that venue, the food, small chops and drinks couldn’t have come cheap.

    • Green

      June 14, 2016 at 8:08 pm

      Nira, if her mum is one of your bosses and her mum is one of mine too, that makes us colleagues. Hehehe…I’m in the abuja office.

  24. Kay

    June 14, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Congrats Alma and thanks for the tips.
    For me, I keep telling mum I will bake my cake myself, that 40k I will pay someone for 4 or 5 tiers, I will use it bake mine with enough cash left for small chops sef.
    Like you said after the wedding, reality sets in, marriage begins.

    • Mz Socially Awkward....

      June 14, 2016 at 10:43 pm

      My friend works with an oyibo chick who’s currently in the process of making her own wedding cake. And I say “currently” because she’s preparing the cake 6 months in advance (one layer is a traditional fruit cake so it’s in the fruit-soaking process) & for the other layers, she has a few ideas for recipes so she’s been baking those “ideas” & taking to her office for colleagues to try out. Not bad for the colleagues… ?

      And not a bad idea of your own, either. Just have a couple of trial runs, so you end up with your perfect cake.

      @Alma, this was a nice read…

    • Joy

      July 30, 2017 at 6:25 pm

      I spoke with a friend dt bakes for 4 tier cakes I wanted n he said 140k…no fear of God….

  25. ThatGhanaChick

    June 14, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    My wedding gown cost 400$(Shipping included) I got if off an on line shop(Thanks to weddingbee.com).
    My braids maids shoes cost 22$ each(aliexpress.com and my favors came from the same site 9$ per lot of 12- free shipping)
    I did my own bouquets too(got the cala lily from DHgate)
    My auntie offered to buy me two shoes off Davids bridal and each cost like 26$ i believe?
    I didn’t do a second dress, I didn’t think it was necessary
    The cake was gift from my cousins(I don’t know how much it cost)
    My mum gave us the catering as a gift (It was done by her friends daughter and the food was delicious people still ask for her contact after over a year)
    My besties and my big sis were on protocol and coordination was on point!
    I wanted to hire a fancy planner but she was calling 8000$ for reception grounds and dance floor ooo the same grounds i paid 1000 cedis for? okay oo . The lady that eventually did my decor just took me where we could hire all the chivalry chairs, center pieces etc and they didn’t cost up-to a quarter of what the planner was charging.

    Please have a wedding you can afford! don’t kill yourself to impress anyone. A month after your wedding and most people that attended will not even remember how you looked like or how the wedding set up looked like! Just make sure you are happy on that day, that is all that matters

  26. Kiiki

    June 14, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    In addition, Guests, don’t forget to BRING GIFTS! Not only to come and chop food. ????

  27. Nelo

    June 14, 2016 at 6:00 pm

    This is one of the best, honest and realistic opinion I’ve heard in a long while. Wishing you a happy married life!

  28. Lucy

    June 14, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    Yayyy! Helpful tips indeed, I will sure make use of some for mine or better still I will contact Alma herself??. Congratulations Once again!

  29. M

    June 14, 2016 at 6:57 pm

    Loved every bit of this article. Definately bookmarkig this. Your wedding looks beautiful. Happy married life.

  30. Uju Lilian Ikegbune

    June 14, 2016 at 7:01 pm

    Oh mine! this is the best piece of advise ever. Thanks alot. I will follow the blog and this pretty bride on instagram

  31. Abuja Bored Girl

    June 14, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    I really loved these tips. Thanks for sharing. I particularly liked the tips on souvenirs and asoebi.

  32. Noms

    June 14, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Thank you Alma, these are already in my head not in this particular order though. I have been ringing in my friends’ ears that the only asoebi they will wear is for trad…two wrapper and blouse. The most important items are our rings. Then makeup, photography, music, my dress (which I might rent)and cake. Food and drinks…nothing over the board. Decor simple,nice and affordable. The reception venue…I’m having a destination wedding in my hometown, we will not come and pay 1year house rent to rent a hall for a few hours. There is sweet life after all the eating and dancing. God bless you ,Alma.
    The cost of “wedding” is the reason why some men are scared to commit, lol

  33. just wanted a simple wedding

    June 14, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    funny how everyone blames the bride for splurging in weddings, i wanted a small intinate wedding but my hubby wanted a big wedding just to outdo his colleagues. i ddnt enjoy my wedding at all, was tired all through. We v been married for 1yr n half now and only told hubby about how tired i was all through the wedding recently. since then he’s been keeping a grudge with me saying am ungrateful that most brides would kill to have someone splurge on their weddings. Biko, i be “most brides”???

  34. Useful tips

    June 14, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    Thanks BN and Alma.
    All the tips are useful and I have bookmark the page and shared the link with my female friends who are also in the process of planning their weddings.

    I have always believed in a budget wedding even though my siblings and friends think it’s insane cos all my big sisters had a big wedding. I have discussed with my boo that we go to registery with our immediate family and very close friends, but he insists on having a big wedding.

    To me, big weddings are a waste of money (no disrespect to our BN spectacular weddings). In my opinion, the most expensive thing about weddings should be the rings cos you get to wear them every day for the rest of your lives, and of cos the photography.
    Even the makeup goes out of style with time, check out our favourite celebs who had spectacular weddings 10yrs ago, and you will understand my point.

    Well, to each his own… at the end of the day, everyone can’t share same opinion.

  35. Faith

    June 14, 2016 at 8:37 pm

    When last did I see a post with so many positive comments? I didn’t even want to comment again cause they’ve said it all but your write up was too beautiful to be ignored. I wish every intending bride can read this and have a rethink of some things they’re planning to do just for competition sake! God bless you for being bold enough to share. Many will not be this honest. HML

  36. Yeah boo

    June 14, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    Shut up naija talk you are fake,where did you get a boo? deranged mind

    • Naijatalk

      June 15, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      Eyah see how hate is killing you. It takes a bigot to know one No? Illiterate

  37. Peter

    June 14, 2016 at 11:11 pm

    Naija talk is a tribalised bigot,all he says is false

    • Naijatalk

      June 15, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      Actually from your father’s house. A lot of them came begging.

  38. Alma

    June 14, 2016 at 11:14 pm

    Thank you so much BN for featuring this buzz worthy post. A very big thank you to each and everyone of you for leaving encouraging comments. I’m glad I could inspire you. Keep visiting the blog!! I see you all.

    • Jay

      September 11, 2016 at 9:11 am

      @Alma what do you advise when it comes wedding halls and decor.

  39. idomagirl

    June 15, 2016 at 12:49 am

    Very helpful and practical tips.

  40. Omo ele onishakara

    June 15, 2016 at 1:23 am

    Loved loved loved every bit of this. So relatable.

    Abeg BN this article should inspire a new column on your blog call BN budget weddings or BN DIY weddings. Many people are looking to be inspired by creativity at the finest on a reasonable budget. Of course such brides should also be open about how they cut cost, how much they spent, what was important to them etc. BN biko, it’s time.

  41. shamsiyya

    June 15, 2016 at 10:40 am

    Very realistic advice, dont lie to urself, dont spend over board, d truth is I find simplicity very unique, I dunno if its coz m not rich. Also, there is nothing u will do that some1 else hasnt done better nd also worse…,Lets be moderate in our spendings, bt if u sha have d money, spend it?

  42. Isioma

    June 15, 2016 at 11:30 am

    I wedded without a bridal train, just a maid of honor and a best man. Had my reception in a good restaurant, printed separate IVs for the reception that was attached to the church program. So if you did not attend church, you wont have an IV to come to the reception. No decoration and plenty stuff, just good quality food (restaurant standard), good pictures, souvenirs and music. Before you know it, reception is over. Everybody go home……

  43. ARINGOLD

    June 15, 2016 at 11:44 am

    BRAVO! but i wish she could talk about how to cut d cost for hall, photography and make-up.

  44. Dammy's queen

    June 15, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    wow! wow! wow! This is amazing…All the tips are wonderful, trust me you don’t have to close down your bank account just to plan your wedding becos there is life after wedding day which is called “marriage”…..Alma thank you for tips, they are really helpful, infact will booku for my special day…..

  45. olorire

    June 15, 2016 at 12:59 pm

    this is one of the best articles i have read on BN…. PLS LET MRS ALMA WRITE ONCE IN A WHILE OOOO. THIS IS AWESOME…. this is the realest!!!!!!

  46. olorire

    June 15, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    we all love good things ooo lol but no plenty money….this is just amazing. having a classy weding with little cost….i knoew this is my 3rd comment …lol

  47. Suwa

    June 15, 2016 at 2:32 pm

    Where is Bruno? Well done Alma. Amazing tips.

  48. Peter

    June 15, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    Naija talk change from your tribalised mindset,so many have gone,God is still merciful to you if you are called with this much hate in your heart,eternal punishment,no story

  49. Chidalu

    June 15, 2016 at 3:43 pm

    Nice one. I just did my trad and it was also cheapskate because i planned it in one week. So i totally get what she is trying to say here. I definitely got some tips for my white… excited!

  50. God'sangel

    June 15, 2016 at 4:41 pm

    Love the wedding invite tips…nice one Alma.

  51. NaijaPikin

    June 15, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    1. My sister didn’t bother with a wedding dress. She got an evening dress for her ceremony and no she did not change.
    2. Rather than book a typical wedding venue, she booked a restaurant. Venue was pretty much free we just had to use their own caterer and their drinks.
    3. She did not rent and decorate any bridal car. My friend drove her in her own car to the venue.
    4. She used a friend as MC

    Check out bymide on instagram. She crotched her wedding dress, made fascinators for her female guests( Gave out for free), blinged her shoes, blinged her aso oke, made her bouquet. Talk about DIY bride

  52. Ibiba

    June 16, 2016 at 2:08 am

    Please…… Which Igbo land? You guys should wake up to today’s reality. I know a lot of Igbos where the bride’s family contributed more even for the trad. Still happening till 2mrw.

    Nice write up!

  53. Jane

    June 16, 2016 at 10:25 am

    Dearest Alma, please where exactly can i get these in Abuja:
    1. Wines
    2. Beautiful wedding Rings
    3. Affordable hall for rent

    Please reply

    • Alma

      June 17, 2016 at 4:39 pm

      Hi Jane. For wines, you can get a good range no matter your budget at NEXT cash n carry. For wedding rings, check Eternal Gems at Jabi Lake Mall. For halls, it all depends on your budget, hun.

  54. chimezie

    June 16, 2016 at 4:14 pm

    Thanks to my wife for sending me this link. Will definitely implement. Get your drinks from me. I have some contacts. Thanks Alma and congrats.

  55. Atukpa!

    June 16, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    I don’t regret any decision myself and my husband made for our wedding .Even though my Mum and Mother inlaw wanted it to be a circus . This is what I did to stick within the budget.
    – Got married on a Thursday , to reduce the number of guests( got a huge discount for the event center)
    – Had the engagement on the morning of the wedding ( 7.30, didn’t start until 8am), church service started by 12.00, reception started 2.30 ( tnx to the Lagos traffic)
    – had a friend bake my wedding cake and desserts
    – No Asoebi!
    – Got my dress on sale ($100)
    We splurged on photography , food drinks and my make up though..Oh! And we insisted on only cash gifts ( printed it on the IV)

    • Mz Titilitious

      June 17, 2016 at 3:33 pm

      lol are u kiddin me?

  56. Mz Titilitious

    June 17, 2016 at 3:32 pm

    i saved this page sharply lol

  57. Bukky

    July 30, 2016 at 6:03 pm

    You are a life saver, I just read this and it’s the best thing that has happened to me all week. Am planning my wedding and am about to turn to a bridezilla. My two favourite is #4 &#8. Thanks a lot

  58. Debbie

    August 29, 2016 at 2:00 am

    Awesome. I love all tips. Thank you Alma. Blessings!

  59. babygirl

    August 29, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    @noncapax may the good Lord bless your soul for this. STAND YOUR GROUND! I really don’t care what your opinion is, its my wedding ahnahn

  60. Frank Success

    September 20, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Hi Alma, Your tips are real, candid and nice… found the Tip 1,2,6,and 7 really helpful. Didn’t even think about the wrist watch part. Now when i imagine it, i looks nice… may adopt it. and the bonus tip, perfect. Infact that’s my struggle.

    I need info on the person who made your souvenir bag. Thank you!!

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