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“Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master” – Pastor Chris Oyakhilome

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Pastor Chris Oyakhilome

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome

The following are excerpts of a sermon that, according to the Facebook Page, Christ Embassy.Org Online Missions, was preached by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, the Senior Pastor of Christ Embassy Ministries.

Topic: Who is a HUSBAND and what is His Role?

Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.

When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?

Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 ‘Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good’. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

Genesis 2:18a ‘And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..’ The Bible didn’t say ‘lonely’ but ‘alone’. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b ‘…I will make him an help meet’. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.

I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.

Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).

To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.

Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.

Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.

A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

Photo Credit: Facebook/Christ Embassy.Org Online Missions

237 Comments

  1. Onome

    September 8, 2016 at 4:23 pm

    Lord have mercy is all I can say. Master ……Women were an afterthought…we are now rewriting the bible and entering into God’s head….God help anyone who doesn’t read the bible and seek God for himself/herself. May we not be misled by Pastors with their own agenda.

    • Sheun

      September 8, 2016 at 4:49 pm

      As in! This is why people have to take time and read the Bible on their own, and ask God Almighty for interpretation. The title alone made me burst into laughter. It’s always the woman o. Never the man. Na wa!

    • Pint Sized

      September 8, 2016 at 5:13 pm

      I’m just here waiting for Oga Paul Adeyemo…

    • slice

      September 8, 2016 at 4:51 pm

      His wife somewhere laughing and saying now y’all understand why I ran…this is the omotola syndrome..everyone worships you long enough you start believing you are god

    • Ngozi

      September 8, 2016 at 5:12 pm

      @slice , mistakenly liked your comment. Abeg what does this have to do with Omotola!

    • slice

      September 8, 2016 at 5:38 pm

      Ngozi its a reference to her comments re zuckerburgs trip

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    • Sparkle

      September 9, 2016 at 8:00 am

      What has his wife got to do with what the Word of God says. Is he talking outside God’s Word.
      Has Gid not ordained husband the head of his home even as Christ remain the head of the man.

      For every re-ordering of God’s comand what you get chaos and sorrow simple.

    • Sam.

      September 9, 2016 at 4:02 pm

      His wife laughing? His wife should be weeping for breaking God’s vow which she made on Gods alter. Believe it or not consequence is coming.
      Let God be true and every other person be a liar.

      Thank you.

    • Quanchi

      September 8, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Speaking of reading the bible, this is what it says about this topic.

      Ephesians 5:22-3321st Century King James Version (KJ21)

      22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord;
      23 for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and He is the savior of the body.
      24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
      25 Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it,
      26 that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word,
      27 that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish.
      28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He hat loveth his wife loveth himself.
      29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.
      30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.
      31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”
      32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
      33 Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

    • Panda

      September 8, 2016 at 6:50 pm

      Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
      Ephesians 5:21 NIV
      http://bible.com/111/eph.5.21.NIV

    • Ginger

      September 8, 2016 at 7:29 pm

      Why didn’t you start from Ephesians 5:21? “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Every time someone leaves that verse out, we unknowingly contribute to the problem. (And no, I’m not pushing a devilish agenda). I’m sure it’s in everyone’s Bible. Everyone should just be careful. The Nigerian obsession with hierarchy and totalitarian power at the top and blind subservience at the bottom has gotten us nowhere as a country.

    • Quanchi

      September 8, 2016 at 8:09 pm

      Ephesians 5:15-21
      15 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
      16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
      17 Therefore, be ye not unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.
      18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit,
      19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord,
      20 giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
      21 submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

    • Engoz

      September 8, 2016 at 9:44 pm

      It all makes sense now why his marriage crashed. No spirit-filled woman will live under such devilish authority. This is of the DEVIL. This blasphemous doctrine have been used for centuries to suppress women, so it’s not new and I’m not surprised. Chris Oyakhilome is a misogynist and egotist. No different to a bokoharamist. Only that he perms his hair. Religion is a cover for his misogyny and egocentrism. The Bible can be rationalized to fit many perspectives. Case in point- slavery. There are bible verses to support the institution of slavery. So one needs to be EXTRA careful who does the rationalizing for them. We as women need to be EXTRA, EXTRA, EXTREMELY careful who does the rationalizing for us.

      According to Genesis, the curse of Eve was that the husband will rule over her. For this to be a curse it tells us that in the ORIGINAL PLAN OF GOD, THE MAN WAS NOT MADE TO RULE OVER HER. Now, feather brained fanatics will say since God has cursed you, you should live in it. What do you do with curses? You rebuke curses! You refuse to live under any curse. You break yourself out of it. Understand it was NEVER the original plan of God for a man to rule over the female. Never ever internalize such nonsense. Jesus had to come to redeem us from these curses and open our eyes on how to OPERATE in LOVE. There is no master/servant if you operate in love.

      God made the animals first, does that make Adam less than the animals? So if Adam is higher than the animals, logic tells me Eve is greater than Adam. Logic tells me the latest product is more likely better than the previous product. Yes that’s what logic tells me. But I’m not that stupid to reduce humanity to whom is superior or whom isn’t.

      I as a christian understand that we have only one master, and that is GOD.
      Marriage is a partnership (an association of two people as partners). not a master/servant institution, for two shall become one. The definition of a husband is a married man, nothing more nothing less. The definition of a master is a man who has people working for him, especially servants or slaves. When you define marriage under the terms of a master relationship, it sets a precedence for inequality. It suggests that one sex is superior to the other, and the lesser quantity is inferior. Obviously in Christopher’s conclusions the female is inferior, inferior in status, inferior in quality, inferior in thought pattern as a result of not having a penis. Chris Oyakhilome went further in reducing womanhood (an entity that make up half of the population of the human race, an entity responsible for continuation of the human race by bringing forth offsprimgs) to mere appendages made to scratch a man’s balls. History has shown us what women had to go through under this demonic dynamic of master and servant. There was an outright bastardization and degradation of the female through abuse, silencing of her human rights, demeaning of her sex, intellect, talents, passions, etc by men, the patriarchs. To this we say No More! We women are not stupid. And we will fight you till we die!

      It’s high time women realize the powers they have. The chief followers of the church are women. Most women lead their homes on spiritual matters. The church’s market is WOMEN. Men hate going to church. It is until when they are about to die or need something from God they remember the church. You can imagine what we can do if we decide to boycott the church based on this hatred and outright disrespect towards us.

      Marriage in the 21st century will be for partners. Those who fail to understand this will end up divorced like Chris Oyakhilome.

    • ginger

      September 8, 2016 at 10:28 pm

      Quanchi I’m so not trying to contradict you, just adding to your point. But you do have to admit that the verses follow. I studied religion so I know a bit about the Bible. We should submit to one another ie loving one’s neighbour as one’s self, and it most definitely applies to marriage. God washed feet so love IS submission ie what the husband is commanded to do. I’m a Christian too lol.

    • Bliss

      September 9, 2016 at 5:05 am

      If man and woman become one flesh. It means that God intended both man and woman to submit (respect) each other and love each other as Christ loved the church.

    • Quanchi

      September 9, 2016 at 11:39 am

      @Ginger
      Thank you for asking for the complete part of that scriptures. I agree with the submitting to one another as stated.

      @All Christians.
      As christian we are to supposed to live our lives according to God’s word. Live according to the fruits of the spirit — Galatians 5:22-2321st Century King James Version (KJ21)

      22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
      23 meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

      Not bring down each other but to lift up one another. Even when slapped to turn the other cheek or better yet run away(lol). We can reject a word that doesn’t align with God’s words and still be graceful about it.

    • Rocky

      September 9, 2016 at 12:47 pm

      Dear Ginger, before verse 21 Paul was talking about how we should be as true children of God. He wasn’t talking about the role of the man or the woman before then. Verse 21 gave birth to verse 22. It is clear. Wife submit yourself to you husband. Husband Love your wife. The Wife’s role was stated and also the Husband’s role. One secret i want many women out there to understand is, this scripture is for the believing husbands and wives. When you marry a man that fears the Lord, you submit t him as the scripture stated, he in turns who understands his role loves you entirely. The scripture is not for everybody.

      Have a blessed day.

    • Engoz

      September 9, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      @Lacey,

      I rebuke you Satan.
      We Christians are called to LOVE one another. What better institution to practice this principle of love, if not marriage. If you do not understand this principle, you are of Satan the devil, because God is love. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 1 John 4. In the spirit of LOVE, the two parties listen to each other, they compromise, they sacrifice, they are patient with each other, they are kind. What Chris Oyakhilome is preaching is a one sided sacrificial position mandated on the female, which is an antithesis of love, an antithesis of Christianity. It feeds the already aggrandized, over-inflated egos of men. And we can see what men did to women based on their psychological issues. Jesus was the ultimate SERVANT LEADER. A leader who serves, who washed the feet of his disciples and very exemplary in these quotes “Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant.” Matt 20:25-26. If you want to take up the mantle of leadership, if you want to be the head of your household, no problem, BUT YOU MUST BE A SERVANT. But Chris reserves this caveat for only the female. He is the one that wants to be served. This is classical egomania. And the infiltration of demonic cultural traditions into the kingdom of God. There is no place for egomania in the kingdom of God. We are called to be humble! We are encouraged to be meek, pure in heart, poor in spirit etc. The fruits of the holy spirit are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Those who do not exercise these fruits are not born of the spirit. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ then you are heirs according to the promise” (Galatians 3:28-29). Marriage is the perfect institution to practice this qualities required from us.

    • Robert

      September 11, 2016 at 9:40 am

      Bcos vs 20 & 21 are going together.. Read it from NLT and NASB…. Verses 20 & 21 talks about Christians generally. if u still don’t agree, dat passage talks about Christ Jesus and the Church…. Should you now say the church is equal to Christ Jesus ?… Be careful!!!

    • Peaches77

      September 11, 2016 at 12:56 pm

      This is a reply to Engoz’s first post.
      ?? Spot on with the analysis of the curse of the woman- has always been staring us in the face in the book of Genesis. Pheeeew! Just feels good to know someone else understands this.

    • ehijay

      October 18, 2016 at 7:54 am

      biko read 1cor 11 esp vs 10
      matt 19:4-6 (2 shall become 1 not master n subject 1 it said)
      1cor 7:4 (equal authority)
      col 3: 18-19
      there are more verses my dear. read the bible study the word ask God for wisdom and understanding. SHALOM

    • Iris

      September 8, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Certainly explains his divorce…
      Sure, a wife who sees her husband as master contributes to a successful marriage…for one party only. Lol I honestly don’t know why this man still has a platform. Bloody adulterer.

    • Ade

      September 8, 2016 at 5:55 pm

      A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.

      This right here is an attempt to justify abuse and it will never fly. I can’t believe this, so if a couple goes to this man with a case of domestic abuse , this is the type of advice he will give ?! It’s the woman’s fault ! She annoyed him! O ha

      Then he says a man loves who he serves (God ) and who serves him (Wife) . Yet my Bible tells me I cannot serve 2 masters but he is trying to say women should serve God and their husbands since according to him a husband is a master ! Do these people think we don’t read the Bible on our own? The only Master I have is God Almighty.

      You see why you should never blame people for leaving their marriages ? You never know what people are putting up with. In fact that woman tried for staying that long.

    • Lacey

      September 9, 2016 at 1:48 am

      @Engoz all you wrote was hogwash!the Bible was written by the inspiration of the Holy Ghost!all the interpretation that you wrote in your long essay is based on logic!but the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him :neither can he know them,because they are spiritually discerned.1Cor2:14!so you guys please pray for the Spirit of God to help you all with discernment !so you will not come here to quote what you cannot comprehend in the Bible and the end up misleading those who are too lazy to study the world for themselves !

    • saviour

      September 11, 2016 at 10:43 pm

      Wouldn’t you say,maybe it happen because his wife never wanted to occupy her role.The word of God is so simple only if you ask God to help you understand. The woman according to the scripture has her place and responsibility as prescribed by God.'(The man(husband) is the head of the woman just as Christ is the head of the church’They aren’t equals,but one has been placed above the other.God is a God of orderliness. That was why he in his wisdom Drew the line of authority in the home for peace and harmony to reign. The husband’s duty is to love his wife while the woman is to submit to his husband. This roles are clearly prescribed.Any marriage where this role is altered would definitely have crises.I believe if a man understand his role ,and the wife understand hers.We can’t be having this high rate of divorce. Pastor Chris is a man with so much revelational gift in words interpretation but alot of people who don’t understand the rhema of God’s word always find it difficult understanding him,because his always taken out of context.Husband and wife are not equal partners because one was place above the other according to Ephesians 5:22-25

    • nan

      February 17, 2017 at 1:22 pm

      stupid statement.

    • Uberhaute looks

      September 8, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      Hands up, drops microphone for Pastor Chris Oya! I’m speechless!

    • Anonymous

      September 9, 2016 at 12:12 am

      Engoz, Bella didn’t have a reply button. Am going to bookmark this page because of your comment. I can only say thank you. No one explained it better.

    • miini

      September 9, 2016 at 11:02 am

      Overspeechless sef ….Like my mouth is still hanging open. It’s so sad that a man that has some kind of influence can spill this load of gibberish. He practically said the woman came as an after thought of God when we know that everything God does is perfect. Wow, wow and wow again. I’m moved to tears by the depth of this error, just goes to show how lost in the flesh this man has gone. May God have mercy on his congregation.

    • Amaa

      September 9, 2016 at 12:34 am

      On the last day…….. Complete
      Some one really hurt him bad . I guess his bruised ego is the one talking chai Chineke Nna Biko biawazianu
      Anita had the guts to leave him a powerful man of God ehnnnnnkwa lol
      I guess his message isn’t for everyone ? Let God speak to you .

    • N0 surprises here.

      September 10, 2016 at 7:23 pm

      If you have listened to his views/beliefs/preaching about masturbation and alcohol and smoking (i.e. there is absolutely nothing wrong with them), this should come as absolutely no surprise whatsoever.

    • Mike

      September 12, 2016 at 4:35 pm

      That’s because God never wrote a bible…humans like you wrote it…and it’s the main reason everyone has a different opinion.

    • Dr Bunmi

      September 19, 2016 at 10:51 am

      Thank you, Onome… ‘’My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God….’’ Hosea 4:6… This is why Pastors derail – lack of a proper knowledge of the God they are serving and lack of proper training in Biblical principles. And after they derail, they now start to manipulate their preaching of the Bible to try in vain to make the Word of God to fit into the aberrations in their lives. How can a so-called Pastor say with all seriousness that the creation of a woman was not God’s original idea but an afterthought! That is an insult to The Most High! Is He like us, that talk and act before we plan and purpose?

      From the 6th day of creation when the man was created, the woman has been created but she was inside the man as one of his ribs! Gen.1:27 says ‘’So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.’’ and to buttress that, Gen.5:1,2 confirms ‘’This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; 2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.’’ It was later that God took her out of Adam and fashioned a wife for him to keep him company and help him in the tasks of life. That was not an afterthought but all part of God’s original plan for creating and fashioning a wife for every man out of their own bodies so that they will love their wives as they love themselves! See Eph.5:28,29 for confirmation.

      Does Oyakhilome read his Bible any more? The Word of an everlasting God can never be used to authenticate what he has made of his marriage and ministry. As a grandmother and a Bible Teacher, I counsel him to repent and go to other older Pastors to pray for him and restore him to the Way of the Lord now! Before it is too late…

  2. fusion OAU

    September 8, 2016 at 4:26 pm

    okay…… I’ll be back to read the comments!!!!!!!

    • DEBRA

      September 8, 2016 at 4:30 pm

      Me too o

  3. Valentina

    September 8, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Bella naija nawa for una, you guys are addicted to marriage . Tufiakwa!!!

    • Girl no way

      September 8, 2016 at 4:44 pm

      No they are not. It’s the age they cater to

    • AceOfSpades

      September 8, 2016 at 5:34 pm

      Oh Em Gee….Christopher Oyakhilome what did you just do? You are going to be skinned alive. Darius, Corolla, Nahum….over to you!

    • Darius

      September 8, 2016 at 6:47 pm

      @AceOfSpades, lolzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. All comments reserved!

    • Corolla

      September 9, 2016 at 1:07 am

      LOL! I am weak, and choose to be a spectator this time around.

    • Nahum

      September 9, 2016 at 2:24 am

      Wo Nahum is tired of this Jerry curled adulterer. This demon that the Spirit of God has left him due to his adultery now thinks he can speak for God. Before you stand on the pulpit and declare husbands as masters of their wives, acknowledge your own master, which is Christ. Most men want submissive wives but can not even submit to Jesus. Listen to your detriment o!! Women, before you submit, check who you are submitting to.

    • Fashionista

      September 9, 2016 at 9:08 am

      Loool! I love how all three answered their names. As for Chris Oyakilome – no comment!

  4. Atreides

    September 8, 2016 at 4:30 pm

    Its about to be lit!!
    BN you are one crooked blogger. You sure know what brings the comments.
    Calling all feminists, mannists, chauvinists, sexists and lookists.

    Meanwhile lemme perch here.
    *sips soda*

    • otinkpu

      September 8, 2016 at 5:28 pm

      @ Atreides…lol you kill me.

  5. Valentina

    September 8, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    Bella naija you guys are becoming annoying , may God have mercy on you all.

    • Girl no way

      September 8, 2016 at 4:45 pm

      Because you are a blind follower

  6. Nneka Chukwujekwu

    September 8, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    For all these so-called Ministers of God who are re-writing the bible, all I can say is, there is God oh. These statements are the cause of Men treating women like slaves. What I read in the Bible, was that Husbands should love their wives like God loves the Church. We could all read from the same Bible that Jesus gave his life for the church to have salvation. That is pure sacrifice, and the love God requires from Men is sacrificial love. The Bible also requires Women to submit to their husbands. But Submission doesn’t mean slavery. It means equal submission from both partners for a common goal.

  7. purpose

    September 8, 2016 at 4:43 pm

    So bella whats the purpose of this post cause u guys dont post all his messages or sermons? So analyze what exactly your point of this is biko. Im just curious to know what you think, nothing more *side eye*

  8. Biols

    September 8, 2016 at 4:45 pm

    let be bookmark and come back to read comments……………..

  9. love

    September 8, 2016 at 4:45 pm

    This message is AT LEAST two years old. na wa for una o. anything to just spark unneccessary arguements. we need braincells for more useful things biko

    • Www.musingsofjudgejudyjudy.com

      September 9, 2016 at 1:16 am

      Over two year o, I listened to it in 2010 and I remember cos I was in law school at the time. Why it is making the rounds now is what I cannot understand.
      Odiegwu.

  10. Girl no way

    September 8, 2016 at 4:46 pm

    Religion is the opium of the masses. He is ridiculous. How can a man be master???? That’s why most women are depressed

    • EE

      September 8, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      Most women are depressed??? Stats please.

      Because facts say men are more likely to commit suicide. Suicide is usually an expression of suicide. Surely you understand my confusion.

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide

    • Engoz

      September 9, 2016 at 12:20 am

      She’s talking about depression you’re talking about suicide. And YES women are more likely to suffer from depression than men.

    • EE

      September 9, 2016 at 2:27 am

      Still not seeing any stats. Should I just take your word for it?

      Notice how I clarified the reason I mentioned suicides ehn Engoz??

      I’m genuinely curious BTW. Change my view.

    • Engoz

      September 9, 2016 at 2:59 am

      1) Wikipedia is not a credible source to reference if you really want to talk about providing factual evidence.

      2) As much as men commit suicide more than women, the initial posts never referenced suicide but depression.

      3) Here is a credible link from PubMed not Wikipedia to show depression is more likely to be diagnosed in women than men.

      http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/15877314/

  11. Girl no way

    September 8, 2016 at 4:47 pm

    Women are Queens then.

  12. E

    September 8, 2016 at 4:49 pm

    The more this dandy fronting as a man of God opens his mouth, the happier I am that his wife liberated herself from his soul glo’ lookin’ ass. This clown is leading people straight to hell with all the truth bending he does.

    • Nene

      September 8, 2016 at 6:55 pm

      Gbam

    • Houstonian

      September 8, 2016 at 11:04 pm

      Soul Glo??? I hollered @ this. ??

    • Californiabawlar

      September 8, 2016 at 11:32 pm

      Hahahaha! I caught that Soul Glo reference!??? you ain’t shit! I actually laughed out so loud. Please let’s be friends.

      Soul Gloooo….smirk??

  13. BN, post my comment oo!

    September 8, 2016 at 4:54 pm

    Lol really Christopher? You gon’ act like no one knows you?
    Why did Pastor Anita leave you? Because it wasn’t enough for you to abuse her and treat her like a slave for years, you had to be gbenshing every light skinned girl as well. Sit down, Christopher! Before your trifling ass is exposed.
    Any Christ Embassy member who will come and cuss me out, know that for endorsing and shielding sin, the punishment God is about to unleash upon you is doing push ups! My Bible tells me in 1 Timothy 1; 3-4 that I am to call out false teachers. “Touch not my anointed” refers ONLY to pastors who do not go contrary to God’s word. Tell the truth and stop being mindless sheep.

    • Weezy

      September 8, 2016 at 6:37 pm

      LOL at “Christopher”

    • Ajala & Foodie

      September 8, 2016 at 8:07 pm

      @ BN, post my comment oo!!! I just had to add this, “Touch not my anointed” does not have to do with ONLY pastors, it has to do with all God’s anointed, not only people with man or self bestowed titles of pastors and co. Saul and David were anointed but they were not “pastors” but what we will call heads of states today!!!

    • DAME

      September 9, 2016 at 9:26 am

      lol…CHRISTOPHER

      Thanks my dear. Pple forget that there is punishment for condoling evil and would be saying touch not my anointed….the prophets in the old testament that later submitted to Jezebel are they also anointed that God didnt touch.
      Hisss….test all spirits people of God and read read read d bible your selves

    • idee

      September 9, 2016 at 9:55 am

      you had to call him Christopher ehn! lmaooooo

  14. Godwin

    September 8, 2016 at 4:55 pm

    Is this chap Trying to insinuate the failure of his marriage was because his wife didn’t see him as her “master”?

    This dude is a joke!

  15. Mr. Egghead

    September 8, 2016 at 4:56 pm

    I think he is talking about the marriage dynamic between a responsible man and a responsible woman

    If you get married to an irresponsible person, you don buy bad beans and you go chop am.

    Sisi nene, biko weta one chilled odeku for ukochukwu christopha,

    TIL that beauty is in obedience

    • Panda

      September 8, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Buuuut… In a relationship between a responsible man and woman, your husband is still not your master. And you are not an afterthought that God created for your husband

    • Ayaade

      September 10, 2016 at 3:14 pm

      How dare He call God’s creature an after thought…That is just extremely ridiculous

    • ade omo ade

      September 9, 2016 at 8:32 am

      Yes,this is what people don’t understand about messages like this. From Adeboye to every other minister that has spoken on marriage, they meant in ideal situations. Knowing you’re married to a responsible, intelligent and caring partner,how won’t a wife submit. The bastardisation of marriages has made people forget it’s real definition…but if any of you lack wisdom, you should pray to God, who will give it to you… To every single woman out there,may God give us wisdom to chose the right man.

    • NOT the same category, please.

      September 10, 2016 at 7:49 pm

      PLEASE, do NOT mention Pastor E.A. Adeboye and other true servants of God in the same breath as this man.

      The PFN as far back as the late ’90s/2000 denounced TB Joshua as a fake, a false prophet, and not of God, “”a lying wonder”” such as the Bible warns about. His former close associates (even int the occult practice) and disciples in his ‘church’ have since, over the years variously come out to confirm this and give witness to all manner of horrifying stories, practices and events. they even went as far not only to give interviews in various traditional media but created websites and recorded their testimonies live on videos so that if anything happened to them, as happened to others, their witness would live on. But this man said TB Joshua was and is a man of God.

      There’s more I could say which was never in the press but I’d rather not. Please just leave true men of God like Pastor E.A. Adeboye, Pastor Mike Okonkwo and other elders in the Body of Christ out of this man’s matter. They are not in fellowship with him, they do not endorse him, they had tried all they could as far back as all those years. Like I said, a lot of things not in the press/media.

      p.s. And as per Pastor E.A. Adeboye’s comments, various commenters did give the Scriptural backing for his comments and the context and rationale for his other comments about appearance/look of RCCG pastors as well as the fact that he is very much a supporter of women and very many of his past and present sermons (research supports this) strongly support women and are balanced.

  16. Tobigirl

    September 8, 2016 at 4:57 pm

    *pops gum* okay Lord and Master husband.

  17. Alexandra

    September 8, 2016 at 4:57 pm

    That is why he couldn’t save his own marriage. He being a failure in his own Marriage shouldn’t open his mouth to lecture people on how to handle theirs. Every pastor has a calling and a grace peculiar to him Pastors are not God so they are not Infallible in their teaching.

    Marriage is a partnership albeit an uneven with one partner having the 1% controlling share but still a partnership.
    Master/servant or slave relationship can never be considered a partnership because inevitably the lesser person will feel subjugated and oppressed (pure human nature) and oppressed people tend to revolt and the aftermath of revolt is never pleasant
    Respect is earned and not demanded it is not because of ring i will now become a zombie!

    I pity those guys that will swallow this doctrine hook, line and sinker you will just be miserable in your marriage and might resort to cheating which God frowns upon.

    Even Christ the Lord and saviour who is the head of the church and son of God Almighty brought him self so low that he washed his disciples feet. Now which master /Slave relationship works that way?

    “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?”

    Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

    I guess Pastor Chris Oyakhilome has an incomplete bible!!!!.

    Bella please post my comment. Thanku

  18. Icrossmyheart

    September 8, 2016 at 4:59 pm

    This marriage talk don tire me. But i will not listen to a man who could not manage his own marriage. Simple. I spoke to several black and white couples (remember those who brought christianity to Africa? Those ones!) who have been married for 60 + years and the advice they gave me was “listen to your partner. You are in this life long journey TOGETHER. You are partners. You have to learn to complement your gifts.” So if the man is better at cooking, the man should cook, etc. I was grateful for their advice. They also stress the importance of respecting each other NOT one person lording his might over another IN THIS DAY AND AGE??? Nah not going to happen.

    I pray Nigerians use discernment to walk with God rather than listen to a man who cannot control his anger. So it is his wifes fault now that he could not control his temper? Wow. What a false prophet.

  19. Le coco

    September 8, 2016 at 4:59 pm

    and your own marriage is what? when ppl preach about a certain topic that they themselves know nothing about ehn… mtchew

  20. Pastor Kingsley wannabe

    September 8, 2016 at 5:00 pm

    Wonder why men objectify women as they please… It is this kind of ignorant message that even pastors preach. Im sorry but this is blasphemy…. This pastir is clearly adding to the word of God. and what pisses me off is these people who listens tend to believe totally without reading the bible and asking God for understanding for themselves… Its this same pastor that said masturbation is not a sin?? i refuse to accept this blasphemy. women if you like act as mumu all cause men are this and that????
    We now live in a world were men are literally praised for all sort of rubbish all cause God made him master over all….. This pastor says the wise women influences the man while the foolish women causes annoyance… But he fails to address those foolish men who annoys their wives and mostly lead their wives to their grave…
    This kind of message invariably give men the go ahead to do whatever they please mostly bad things all cause they are the master. A pastor that cannot hold his home is no fit to talk about marriage issues. Jesus Christ was a leader, he led by example hence as a servant of God you must lead by example; you must make your marriage work before you cone out and preach about marriage or husband and wives but since you didnt how then do i take your sermons seriously. it is very easy for anyone to call themselve pastor bola, pastor wizkid etc… But if you cant walk the talk then go and sit down!
    Every day men are Gods precious gift, men are made out off gold and diamond, women must kill themselves to please men even when these same women are gradually dying all cause my husband is my saviour!!! Women please wise up. All of us (men) know without you guys (women) our own don finish!!!

    • Nene

      September 8, 2016 at 6:58 pm

      Man is master and woman is a slave. God forbid!

    • Chief

      September 8, 2016 at 9:17 pm

      You rather remain single then,after all marriage is not a must.You women have a horrible,stuck up,entitled attitude” nowadays”.Men have been socially conditioned for years that we are masters.I have noticed on BN that the frustrations and issues are driven from angry feminists.The African traditional roles of men being the master is very important and there’s a reason for that.

    • Na

      September 9, 2016 at 11:11 am

      Chief don come ooooh! LOL!

      He said we are stuck up and entitled because we reuse to accept this hogwash. Hahahahaha!!!

      Men are meant to be masters and there’s a reason for that? Why did you stop there? Why don’t you go ahead and tell us the reason oh ye oracle of the god of traditional roles?

      Cave man oshi! Anuofia!

    • Loki

      September 9, 2016 at 3:06 pm

      @Nana, why did you feed the troll? Ignoring him is the only way to get rid of him…eventually he’ll starve to death…

  21. EE

    September 8, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    Per the Cathecism of the Catholic church, Article 7 if memory serves:

    “The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a PARTNERSHIP of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament”.

    You’re invited all ye rebels.

    • The Real Oma

      September 8, 2016 at 6:44 pm

      The CCC was written by people with their heads screwed on right…

    • Elizabeth

      September 10, 2016 at 9:06 am

      Oh my Catholic brother. …Thank u. marriage is a journey, a sacrament. A place where hand in hand they can weather life’s situation…making heaven together and teaching their off springs the way to heaven who in turn will teach theirs. simply put. your patter should make you a better person and draw you closer to Christ.

  22. Sade

    September 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    I’m speechless. There’s nothing I won’t hear in this life

  23. Teju

    September 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Ayam tayad!!!! Nigeria makes me tired ! My future husband will now see this one as an unction from God to rule over me ! Jorrr!!! Let me go and eat – I simply want to rest !

  24. xyno

    September 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Chris my man the insults u gonna chop on this blog today will make the devil blush. Haha. Roll on the comments

  25. Lacey

    September 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Ride on my Pastor!even Sarah called Abraham my lord!when Abraham was discussing with the Strangers who were Angels, she was inside her room not poke nosing into discussions like women of these days!to all those super woman out there you are a help meet!so let the man play his role!do not open your eyes to marry any man that you cannot submit to his authority or values!because if you do!na only you carry your hand go find trouble!nobody is rewriting any Bible here!when Kenneth Hagin’s wife was sick he begged God not let her die ,because he already had her trained!yes he did !and he said most women out there are difficult to train! My own issue is especially to the present generation of Nigerian women who want to copy the west!My American oyibo Pastor and his Wife was a good learning point for me !the woman Pastor Terry was always under the authority of her husband ! A very wonderful couple ! The fact that her husband is head of the pastorate did not give that authority to be above others!I learnt so much humility from her!same with my Black Rev’s whose wife is of Caribbean descent!This woman is one of sought after pediatricians in America ,highly paid but very humble!we had dinner one day in church with the youths,that is how this woman carried brush for sweeping and started cleaning,you must lead by example !not Nigerian Pastor’s Wives Association that always want to do 1st Lady level everywhere they go!thank God for his word that is truth and light that guides us in our everyday life!

    • slice

      September 8, 2016 at 5:11 pm

      You are an “after thought” anyway so your reasoning makes sense to you

    • purplieciousbabe

      September 9, 2016 at 3:04 pm

      @ slice… likes the come back x

    • TJ

      September 12, 2016 at 10:39 am

      Being bitter wont solve your problem…it only aggravates it. She saw love and longed for it. Most women using curse words on the man of God just because he highlighted the truth in the bible and that truth doesnt favour your selfish desires shows alot and speaks volumes of the personality. If the age of the man doesnt caution you then how can you reverence a man of God??? If this is the kind of women in nigeria that are groomed thesedays…wow we have a long way. For the records Gen 3.16 1st corth 3.23 -24 Eph 1.22 Eph 5..22-23 col 1. 18 col 2. 19 col 3. 18 1st tim 2. 11 -12 1peter 3. 1 to 7 1st corth 14.34 to 35.
      However this is no avenue for men to subdue a woman as she is to be protected not harmed lifted not brought down. Gods pride is man whom he loves mans pride is woman whom is also loves. I didnt write the bible God inspired men to. Ive heard some say things about rewitting the bible lol.. how many man have you built? Won to christ? Whats the vision God gave you and wheres the prove to back that up?? Mark 16.18…where is yours? Lets apply wisdom in all that we do and not give into dark thoughts. The spirit quickneth but the flesh profits nothing.. May God help our understanding as we yield to his will and not ours in Jesus name.Amen.

    • Kosi

      September 8, 2016 at 7:55 pm

      I see you were well “trained”. Anuofia

    • Icrossmyheart

      September 8, 2016 at 9:56 pm

      @Lacy You wrote that your problem is with Nigerian women who want to copy the West and yet you learn so much from thr so called WESTERN PEOPLE.

      This is why i stress the importance of CRITICAL ANALYTICAL SKILLS in Nigerian universities.

      I guess you are an afterthought. Do you even know what that means? That is after you are done cooking jollof rice and you have dished it out for all to eat only to remember you did not add salt. Then you do. That is what you are, salt.

    • Lacey

      September 9, 2016 at 2:14 am

      @ Icrossmyheart dear what is food without salt? Tasteless!I am the Salt of the Earth!!! and moreover I meant they will not copy the good part of the west! Is all the nonsense ones!

    • iCrossMyHeart

      September 9, 2016 at 9:56 am

      @ Lacey, I will not reply. Clearly, you are blind. You are the salt of the earth? Did you read what I wrote carefully? Please do. It was not a compliment.

    • Muffy

      September 10, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      HI

      I would have to disagree, with the technology we have today and the fact that is so easy for a child to learn nonsense from a very young age. “logic’ and ‘critical analysis’ should be taught from Primary school onwards and at home. University is TOOO LATE.

    • Rain

      September 8, 2016 at 11:00 pm

      PASTOR CHRIS IS RIGHT

    • Anonymous

      September 9, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Since I mistakenly liked your comment. I will say this. May it be unto you according to your words.

    • Pompey

      September 9, 2016 at 11:13 am

      Or to his sisters and daughters… just in case this Rain of a nuisance is a man.

    • Loki

      September 9, 2016 at 8:36 am

      Awum oh!!! Lacey Lacey Lacey, after all the school fees I paid for you! You are still stupid! I should have used that money and effort to buy several bags of beans and spent my life picking them. You are a disgrace to womanhood and commonsense.
      Sincerely Yours
      Your Mama

    • Mschewwwww

      September 9, 2016 at 9:32 am

      Lmao at Sarah called Abraham my Lord. There is nothing you people won’t find to use as excuse or justification for being blind followers and pastor worshippers. Ride on with your views sha, ride on.

    • Naijatalk

      September 9, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      Lacey you are mixing issues here. Stop equating the humility of the spouses of your American Pastors with submission in marriage. You should know better

    • Full-blooded Igbo Gal

      September 10, 2016 at 7:15 am

      Ma bi nu oh, did you take alcohol before writing this cos this is gibberish… This is when an Igbo man will say, “e kwu kata enu, e kowa ana(you go talk up, your talk go begin go down)”. Bia, find one chair Siddon dey suck your thumb. You are in a council of wise elders. Children are not invited but your grandma forgot and came along with you and we no fit pursue pickins to go house.

  26. Tajik

    September 8, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    God help you – that you may see is my only prayer for you !

  27. Bodunade

    September 8, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    Men Love your wives, women submit to your husbands. What does the Bible say Love is?

    If it was the other pastor, some people will say the message is for his church members only.

  28. Abz

    September 8, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    No wonder he cannot stay married! I have heard it all.

  29. Leah

    September 8, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    I love the way this man talks down to his followers and sheep and they keep going back for more. The sheer arrogance of a man who has gotten so rich peddling garbage to the ignorant and weak is simply amazing. His ego and pocket gets bigger while they get poorer and desperate. If God exists, you don’t need to create another god to get to him. Sad!

  30. Truth

    September 8, 2016 at 5:13 pm

    The word of God from this man’s mouth gives me joy! and peace!! and wooowww…Godbless you Sir!

    • Panda

      September 8, 2016 at 7:24 pm

      Are you being sarcastic?

    • 4real

      September 9, 2016 at 2:10 am

      @Truth are you stupidly kidding me?

  31. Tunde Versace

    September 8, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    The Only topics that get more comments on BN is marriage and female Celebs gossips…

    • slice

      September 8, 2016 at 5:21 pm

      You can hear the brakes screeching when the posts come up. Lol

  32. Baymax

    September 8, 2016 at 5:21 pm

    Chai! If it’s Alibaba or Freeze that said all these, comments for don become 100 by now

    But as it’s PASTOR Chris, they haff kept silent.

    Most BN commenters are from Redeemed or Christ Embassy

    Yes, I haff said it

    • Bella and Marriage topic?

      September 8, 2016 at 5:37 pm

      Abeg check again?? Bella and Marriage if I hear say the comments nor flood in?

  33. olajumoke

    September 8, 2016 at 5:26 pm

    The issue with these our men is that they dont know their own roles as husbands. Sarah was able to call Abraham “Lord” because she saw and knew that he was obedient to God and so whatever decision Abraham made had God’s backing. That is how you know real men from the fake ones we have now. They dont listen to God, they are rebellious, how do you expect us to call you Lord, when you dont even know the “LORD”.

    • Puzzles

      September 8, 2016 at 5:40 pm

      God bless you!!!

      A wife should act like Sarah when many husbands are not acting like Abraham. Nonsense!!!

      You people think God is one to be mocked?

      When the day of judgement comes, everybody’s eyes will clear

    • Mr. Egghead

      September 8, 2016 at 8:30 pm

      So you would agree that a husband should be ‘master’ if he behaves like Abraham
      I also agree 100%
      Thus, your problem would be with the nature of the man and not with his role in the home.

      The only place I have problems with Pastor Chris is the nomenclature he used.
      Master implies some kind of boss-slave relationship which marriage is not.

    • Lacey

      September 8, 2016 at 9:32 pm

      That is why you will have to open your eyes to see clearly to marry an Abrahamic husband to avoid wahala!

    • Rubbish!

      September 8, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      @olajumoke, thank you o!
      That’s how someone I know was engaged to a very abusive man in this same church. Word on the street is he even raped her. All he could say was ‘I am your master!’ based on this one sided message.
      When the matter got to the Pastor, all the lady heard was ‘you should have been kneeling down for him’ ? They weren’t even married yet!

      Abuse thrives in this church and now we see why.

      Who wants to submit to someone who’s irresponsible or abuses you? These preachers need to get balanced in their messages about marriage else it’ll never work as God intended.

      Nothing compares to knowing God for yourself!

    • Clare

      September 8, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      You are blessed. This is what i was just thinking.
      Abraham created the atmosphere for Sarah to love him and be obedient how many men of today will stay with a woman whi was barren for years. That kind of love is the sane as Christ loved the church.

      Was it not Sarah that even pushed her husband to sleep with her servant.
      That is the kind of love he had for his wife.
      This preaching is not balanced.

    • 4real

      September 9, 2016 at 2:22 am

      Best comment ever. This simply summarises it all.

    • Anonymous

      September 15, 2016 at 4:10 pm

      The same Sarah that called Abraham Lord also instructed him to marry Haggai and he did, that’s partnership in marriage. Women are not an after thought

  34. nwa nna

    September 8, 2016 at 5:30 pm

    Hence forth, I shall be referred to as masser!!! Take note of that you lowly wifely servant 😛

    • Lily

      September 8, 2016 at 7:41 pm

      ODE!

    • Humble

      September 12, 2016 at 3:34 pm

      Oh yes sir massa

  35. Las

    September 8, 2016 at 5:53 pm

    Jesus said he did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. A husband is supposed to serve his family. The bible also says husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. People like to quote the submission part in relation to women without adding the other part – submit one to another.

    What was said by this man is the direct opposite of Myles Munroe’s teaching on women and marriage. I am not one to speak about pastors, but this teaching here is not cogent on so many levels.

  36. kim kim

    September 8, 2016 at 6:09 pm

    Look at this adulterer. as husband is a master?? and the woman is a slave right?? thank you. Now I see why Anita left u. A man with this mentality is not worth being with. kai. See pastor oo. These kind ofen are the reason I don’t look forward to marriage. I pity women who will listen to this one and lay down on the floor for their husbands to walk over them. Na u sabi.

  37. Chichi

    September 8, 2016 at 6:12 pm

    Everything is how to be a good wife, I wish our society as a whole will also teach men how to be good father’s and husbands.

    Pastor Chris I have no words for you, it just makes me sad that people will listen to this and swallow it as the gospel when it’s not even close.

  38. Marv

    September 8, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    loooool, I just came here to read comments.

  39. kim kim

    September 8, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    What a blunder? To imagine this is the thinking of a man who has demonstrated somuch spiritual and intellectual prowess. Imagine the quality of thought going throughthis man’s mind before uttering such blunder. Even a stark illiterate knows the Bible has several versions so all who is interested can read and understand clearly through the help of the Holy Spirit. This man is a sexist, a chauvinist, a misogynist. I am so damn annoyed right now.

  40. Pearl

    September 8, 2016 at 6:41 pm

    Lol this is not just about marriage sef, this man is saying that women are not God’s original plan, so we are an afterthoughts, basically worthless except to help a man. He really just preached a gospel of women not being among the things God thought he created well or “good”. Chai women have suffered sha, we have reaaaaaalllllllllly suffered. How the heck are we suppose to move forward, when people like him that have a masssive, massive following are preaching to their followers that women are an afterthought of God. And you know how religious Christians worship their pastors, smh i’m just tired jare. I am.

  41. Nene

    September 8, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    And we wonder why he’s not married. Useless man. The bible never said a man was the master of anything. He sent eve to help Adam and together, the husband and wife must become one. No master rubbish.

  42. Roma

    September 8, 2016 at 7:05 pm

    Pastor Chris is so full of himself. He’ll continue to spill shit out of his mouth.
    Why don’t he talk about the adultery his estranged wife accused him of? And his Church members will be screaming ride on sir.

    Bleachers, fornicators, adulterers, gossips and backbiters association that claim to be the body of Christ.
    Anita did well after all. She took to her heel, because Chris is a slave master.

  43. jess

    September 8, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    Wow you all fell for this? You have all been punked. Pastor looking for attention and BAM decided to spew rubbish. Can we ignore this jerry curl man that cannot keep his marriage.
    Oga you cannot give what you don’t have. It’s like a mad man trying to teach a sane man.

  44. MADEA

    September 8, 2016 at 7:21 pm

    Classic example of “many are called, but very few are chosen”… the chosen sef is reducing daily. Pastor Chris…since I was a teenager watching atmosphere for miracle or whatever its called, my spirit really never aligned with this guy even though I was just getting to know Christ. This teaching is way out of line, and I hope his church members would open their spiritual eyes and see through this nonsense. But, who am I to judge, na to dey face my own bukata. Abeg, Pastor quack, park well.

  45. Roma

    September 8, 2016 at 7:24 pm

    BellNaija, shame on you guys for not posting my comment. I thought you guys practice freedom of speech!
    Please release my comment. Oh, you are scared?

  46. Lily

    September 8, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Glory to God! Thank you Pastor for the word. I hear to do. The wisdom of God is always foolishness to men.

    • its_urgirlie

      September 9, 2016 at 8:49 am

      Lily dear we glorify God for this word. Imdeed the wisdom of God is foolishness to men.

  47. Mabel

    September 8, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    When I tell ppl I have little use for the Bible because it was written by men to chronicle their history and to push forward their agenda they think I am a heathen. When Lilith left Adam because she knew she was an equal and refused to come under him she was labelled a demon, but at least she left his behind and went her way. Thank goodness some of us keep the spirit of Lilith alive. I thought only slaves called their owner master.

    • Panda

      September 8, 2016 at 11:21 pm

      Erm, because there are fools changing the word of God to fit their agenda doesn’t mean there’s a Lilith, Lilith oshiwo?. The bible doesn’t support the nonsense in this sermon so don’t go off on a tangent. If you don’t believe in the bible, why are you still going on about an Adam? Surely he doesn’t exist to you then?

    • Mabel

      September 9, 2016 at 2:28 am

      Exactly! Like I said I have little use for the Bible and the story I mentioned is not a part of it. So address the article like I did and ignore my comment. The article is the star of the page not me??

    • 4real

      September 9, 2016 at 2:19 am

      Why do you believe the Lilith&Adam story then?
      Common sense is not common, in’it?

    • EE

      September 9, 2016 at 12:13 pm

      You’ve been watching far too much Supernatural.

  48. Marcia

    September 8, 2016 at 7:44 pm

    Bellanaija you’ll are shit starters, mischief makers, and you know it!

  49. Genevieve

    September 8, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    God created men and women equal, and he created them different. Different doesn’t mean one is inferior or superior to the other: it simply means different. The differences between men and women are necessary because of their God- given purposes.
    A husband’s purpose is to lead, teach and stay in the presence of the lord so that he can know where his family is going and where they should be going.

    A husband should give up his egocentric desires in order to serve his wife and family. A real man takes care if others before himself.
    Men as cultivators, you’re supposed to make everything you touch better than it was when you first encountered it. Find new ways to help make your wife better.

    Any man who comes home, grabs his wife by the collar and shouts, ” woman you haven’t cooked my food yet? Should expect his next meal to be poison.

    Men, if you’re beating up your wife and children, stop it! God didn’t give you strength to abuse your family. He gave you that strength to protect them. They should feel secure every time you show up, not afraid.

    Love is stronger than pride, be brave enough to break down the walls that barricade your spouse from your heart.

    Your wife is an inherent incubator- she multiples everything she receives. Give her a smile and she’ll give you her heart, give her sperm and she’ll she’ll give you a Baby. Give her frustration and …?

  50. Jamce

    September 8, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    @ Quanchi This is not a MASTER-SERVANT relationship as being preached by this dunce and heretic Pastor. In Genesis Abraham hearkened to the dictates of Sarah concerning Hagar and Ishamael. And God sanctioned it. See Genesis 16:5-6
    “Then Sarai said to Abram, “My wrong be upon you! I gave my maid into your embrace; and when she saw that she had conceived, I became despised in her eyes. The Lord judge between you and me.”
    So Abram said to Sarai, “Indeed your maid is in your hand; do to her as you please.” And when Sarai dealt harshly with her, she fled from her presence. See also Genesis 21:9-12
    “And Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, whom she had borne to Abraham, scoffing. Therefore she said to Abraham, “Cast out this bondwoman and her son; for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, namely with Isaac.” And the matter was very displeasing in Abraham’s sight because of his son.
    But God said to Abraham, “Do not let it be displeasing in your sight because of the lad or because of your bondwoman. Whatever Sarah has said to you, listen to her voice; for in Isaac your seed shall be called.”

    So, God didn’t know what He was doing when He created Adam and then Eve was an afterthought for God’s mistake. What a blasphemous statement?

    Does this self-centred and self-adulation bigot know what it means to love a wife and to die for the wife as Jesus died for His Church? So sad that religious charlatans are filling the heads of some feel good shallow Christians with so much heresies.

  51. Oby

    September 8, 2016 at 8:28 pm

    Please who is Lilith??? The only Lilith I’ve heard of is from True Blood. Confused much.

  52. Genevieve

    September 8, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    For if a man does not know how to rule his own househouse, how will he take care of the church of God? (1st Timothy 3:5). Many people are running around doing work for the church while their homes are in shambles. If you want your church to be effective get your home in order first.

    Your wife is like a flower that adapts to the soil. You are like the soil. If you don’t like what she has been manifesting, then
    check what you’ve been feeding her—nutrients or poison. “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows,
    that he will also reap” (Galatians 6:7).
    God created your wife to function on love, and if you are not giving your love to her, then you are causing her to malfunction.
    The woman is the glory of the man” (1 Corinthians 11:7 kjv).
    Your wife was made to be your glory and expose what you are like. When she’s happy, that’s to your credit. If she’s always depressed, withdrawn, sad, or grouchy, that tells me a lot about
    you, too. She is simply manifesting your glory.
    God designed you to cultivate your wife like a beautiful tree.
    If your tree is wilted after a few years, then it isn’t her fault. If
    you’ve been married for five years or more and she still hasn’t blossomed, then you have a poor track record, brother.
    A female was created to incubate everything she receives to reproduce after its kind. Sow bitterness into her, and that’s
    what you will reap. Sow love into her, and you’ll reap fruit you’ll want to keep.
    A lot of women are filled with the bitterness their husbands have been pouring into themover the years. Unless their husbands repent and shower themwith an abundance of love
    to wash away such poison, they’ll reap what they have sown.
    “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them” (Colossians 3:19).

    When you assign roles within your marriage, you set up expectations. Expectations cause needless aggravation.
    Aggravation causes disappointments, which lead to frustration and arguments. Arguments lead to bitterness and strife, which lead to a strained relationship. A strained relationship
    endangers fellowship.…
    When the fellowship is endangered, you jeopardize your marriage. True love expects nothing in return.
    After that, [Jesus] poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’feet, and to wipe them with the towel with
    which He was girded” (John 13:5). Seek to serve, not to be served. Jesus didn’t ask whose job it was to wash feet. He didn’t follow traditional roles; He simply responded to the
    need.
    Don’t expect one person to do all the cooking, washing, or cleaning. If you don’t expect your spouse to do those things,
    then when he or she doesn’t do them, how can you be disappointed? When your spouse chooses to bless you by
    doing something unexpected, you’ll be more inclined to be thankful and appreciative.
    A role within a marriage should be a temporary
    responsibility based on the ability of the one who is able to respond to the need at that given moment. Responsibility is determined by availability and capability.
    If you see water on the floor, don’t just stand there and think, “Well that’s my wife’s job. She does the mopping.” No, you saw it, so you respond. If you have the ability to respond,
    then it’s your responsibility.
    To the weak I became as weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all men, that I might by all means save some” (1 Corinthians 9:22). Becoming “all things” should
    be the principle that rules your roles in your marriage.

    Your wife didn’t forfeit her dreams and aspirations when she married you. She has basic needs and desires to feelsuccessful and personally satisfied in her life, just as you do. Find outwhat her dreams are and be supportive of her goals.
    There are things your husband can do that you cannot do,or there are things your wife can do that you cannot do. Youshould not try to compete with each other, but complete each
    other. Don’t compete—complete.
    Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner
    and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7 niv).

    The male is the foundation of the human family. If the maleleaves the home, or if he neglects his responsibility, you have ahouse built on sand. The rafters rock when the pressures come
    because the man isn’t there.
    Many men need to live like the foundation they werecreated to be. Keep the home steady so your wife and childrencan always lean on you and know that you aren’t going to
    crack.
    The foundation of a building is important, but it’s not more important than the other parts of the structure. The foundation
    can’t performall the functions itself; for example, only the roof can keep you dry. It’s the same way with the human family. The
    foundation is crucial, but the rest of the family is essential also.
    A selfish person wants all the glory, all the credit, all the recognition, all the attention, all the power, all the authority, all
    the rights, and all the privileges. But a person of love wants others to share what he has.

    Any man who would want to inhibit the progress of his spouse just to prove his superiority has an inferiority complex.
    A man who knows who he is doesn’t need to prove himself. Heunderstands that his wife has her own self-esteem, so he
    encourages her to develop her potential to the fullest.
    Wives, do you know how many men are where they are today because their helpmates made sure they got there?
    Whatever a man is not, his wife can help him become.
    The secret to staying in love is to keep finding things within your spouse to fall in love with over and over again.

    When a husband and wife understand and value each other’s purposes, they can have a rewarding relationship, and they can blend their unique designs harmoniously for God’s
    glory.
    The Bible equips us to be the husbands and wives we weredesigned to be. Be a person of the Word as you continue to
    seek and fulfill God’s purposes for your marriage.- — Myles Munroe, keys to marriage.

    • Marian

      September 10, 2016 at 7:31 am

      Chop knuckle too!! Even if you are not a christian you can’t follow this recipe and not enjoy your marriage.

    • Rossychick

      September 10, 2016 at 12:16 pm

      I wish I can like this a million times. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for this.

  53. Patrick

    September 8, 2016 at 9:26 pm

    He don lost his mind! Scary when People listen to such garbage and attest he is filled with the spirit. What Spirit though?

  54. Mz_Danielz

    September 8, 2016 at 11:05 pm

    Gen 1:27 -28

    So God created man in his own image. In the Image of God created he him. Male and FEMALE created he them. And God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful, multiply, replenish the earth and subdue it.

    Gen 1:31 And God saw everything he had made and behold it was very good.

    So the woman was created and God saw her as good. You are a theologian so you will understand the concept at play here, the same way Levi paid tithe in the loins of Abraham to Melchizedek and Jesus was slain before the foundation of the world. It’s God’s ways.

    Gen 3:16 and unto the woman he said ….. Thy desire shall be upon thy husband and he shall rule over thee

    Gal 3:13; Christ has redeemed us from the curse of the law being made a curse for us all. For it is written, cursed is Everyman that hangeth on a tree.

    So you see, we are not an afterthought, we were part of God’s original plan, blessed and seen in God’s eyes as good.

    Gen 3:11; and God asked ‘hast thou eaten of the fruit whereof I commanded thee not to eat and Adam answered ‘IT IS THE WOMAN WHOM THOU GAVE ME’ this statement led to the curse; who know if Adam had taken responsibility, maybe God would have given them access to the blood of Jesus or had another plan but we do not know. And funny thing is men of this day still blame the woman for their challenges.

    My dear women, we are loved and part of God’s original design. The 1st Adam failed to protect us so he sent Jesus the 2nd Adam to take responsibility and heal us of all infirmity. He was the 1st feminist, part of God’s redemption plan, our seed created to bruise the head of the devil no matter the form he takes to show up. He made the statement ‘WOMAN THOU ART LOOSED’ and he alone is our Lord and Master, the lover of our soul and the healer of our wounds and no matter the opinion of anyone, I will believe his report only

  55. tamunotonye

    September 8, 2016 at 11:16 pm

    My poor eyes. I can’t curse so let me just keep quiet.

  56. Eyesrolling

    September 8, 2016 at 11:40 pm

    What did I just read?! ***clutches heart**

  57. Ebchic

    September 9, 2016 at 12:41 am

    In short ehn, he has no right, on any level, to say anything about marriage, he lacks credibility and integrity and as for the people that are following him, may God deliver you all. This is how men will see this one now and be lording over their wives, in turn their sons will see them lording over and blatantly disrespecting their mothers and sisters and the cycle will just keep going on like that. It is only in Africa that you hear this kind of one sided preaching and that is why our society is as backward as it is.

  58. oscar

    September 9, 2016 at 1:08 am

    ”Gen 3:16 and unto the woman he said ….. Thy desire shall be upon thy husband and he shall rule over thee”….thats all!!! end of argument, the man is the head, u cant have two masters on one ship and i know deep deep inside u ladies heart u know that, u just dont wana admit it

    • BABE

      September 9, 2016 at 7:38 am

      Oversabi men like you sabi nitpick which part of the Bible favors your argument but will never present any that is unfavorable lmfao. That same verse holds various meanings depending who you ask or which Bible version you use. Somehow una no dey read the part about loving and treating your wife the way Christ loved and treated the church, so much that He gave up His life for it. How many of you fit do tha and how many of you do it? Mmmmh….

      All you know is pick apart bible verses for selfish and sometimes wicked and oppressive reasons. Hungry men swear this verse means you speak and your wife jumps, she cleans, cooks, do everything and you just indulge. You cheat and she forgives because that”s supposedly what men do and bible is against divorce and other junk used to keep some people in bondage. Let me remind you, you cannot be a leader without being a servant because a true leader is the ultimate servant. Christ did not hurt the church, maltreat the church, abuse the church or His authority. He did not have relationship with other gods (it’s called loyalty, fidelity and faithfulness) and He served the church fervently with all His heart, mind, body and soul. Once again, to the extent that He gave up His life for the Church (agape love).

      So I ask you, how can a man who does not have Agape love for his church i.e. his wife expect the love, devotion and committement of a virtuous woman? How can a lazy, cheating, lying, abusive, authoritarian and (or) wicked man expect the role of a Godly leader in his home when/if he is the problem that needs to be rebuked in His home? How can a man who does not embody the essential characteristics needed to lead church expect to be a “master” or leader of a church? As a leader aka man of the house, if your home is unclean, you clean it so your so your family will follow your lead. If there is an issue, you bring your household together to reason together, talk things out, find solutions and move forward gracefully. Leadership role is earned based on actions and living an exemplary life. It’s not automatically given because you have a penis or because you are a husband. So that notion of quoting bits and pieces of the Bible might deceive or impress those who are not grounded in the word, those who are naive, new to scripture, etc but it does not move me one bit.

      As man of the house, you must be kind, loving, sweet and faithful to your wife, vows and commitment and defend her, your marriage and home against obstacles, intruders and negativity. So dear weak men, please stop hiding behind bible verses and tradition and work on strengthening yourselves. It’s one thing to scream leader and head of the household and it”s another thing to be an actual leader who serves (servitude is #1 quality of a leader), protects, guides, respects, takes care of and leads his church/household.

      Last but not least, comparing marriage to ship, plane or all these things some people do is bizarre because in case you didn’t know, if a captain fails to perform his duties well, he will be ousted immediately for the safety reasons. Also, captains don’t get the title by wanting it or asking for it. They get it by working their way up and demonstrating that they are responsible, experienced and skilled to be in charge of the ship/plane. Furthermore, there comes a time when a captain must transfer or step down for his co-captain to take over, so based on your analogy, should marriage work like that too?

      Once again, only weak men focus on verses and titles instead of the underlying message, obligations and duties that follows. It does not matter if the wife or husband is the leader and it doesn’t matter how many people (regardless of who it is) give their opinions on other people’s marriages. What matters is that the two are a strong team, they know and do what works for them and have a happy and healthy union they enjoy and are proud of. END OF STORY.

    • RANI

      September 9, 2016 at 10:15 am

      There will mutiny when a captain is incompetent. So men instead of focusing on being called master or being treated as one, lead by example. have the best interest of the ones you “lead” at heart, and you won’t have to make anyone follow you, they just will.

    • Engoz

      September 9, 2016 at 11:50 am

      Please ladies refer to my first post if any idiot challenges you with this logic. Men were cursed that they will struggle before they eat. Do we not pray against struggling? Do men not bind, cast and loose to break out of this curse, hence the 21st century male preachers fixation on prosperity? It is well within your rights to break out of this curse of a human being with a penis ruling over you. Also remember that since this was a curse it was NOT GOD’s ORIGINAL PLAN FOR A MAN TO RULE OVER YOU.

      Men have been corrupted with selfish desires, this is the antithesis of Christianity. They’ve turned against God. They want to take the place of God on earth. That is why They are more likely to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorders. The lay man’s term for this disorder is an egomaniac. An egomaniac is only concerned about his needs and seeks adulation, worship from whomever he leads. Religion is the PERFECT MEDIUM that permits this mental disorder to foster. As women be very careful who you marry, especially in societies where the government lack institutions to protect your interests. If you foolishly decide to start off a relationship licking the ass of the potential egomaniac make sure you continue, because the moment you stop you, danger awaits you.

  59. Onyole

    September 9, 2016 at 4:20 am

    He must be on some drugs..?

  60. Camergirl

    September 9, 2016 at 6:09 am

    Interesting that the title of the sermon is ” who is a husband and his role ” but then he goes on to talk about women and what they should do!?? What a joke.

  61. its_urgirlie

    September 9, 2016 at 8:52 am

    @Lily Glory to God! Indeed the wisdom of God is foolishness to men

  62. onyi

    September 9, 2016 at 8:52 am

    so true pastor, i love you sir. if you disagree, just continue till your own marriage crashes. bella naijas recieve wisdom for your marriage today IJN

    • Mschewwwww

      September 9, 2016 at 9:23 am

      Back to sender. Mgbeke, I rebuke you and your comment.

  63. Fred

    September 9, 2016 at 9:13 am

    The English word husband, even though it is a basic kinship term, is not a native English word. It comes ultimately from the Old Norse word hūsbōndi, meaning “master of a house,” which was borrowed into Old English as hūsbōnda. The second element in hūsbōndi, bōndi, means “a man who has land and stock” and comes from the Old Norse verb būa, meaning “to live, dwell, have a household.” The master of the house was usually a spouse as well, of course, and it would seem that the main modern sense of husband arises from this overlap.

    Basically when you say this is my husband your saying this is the master of my house

  64. RANI

    September 9, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I’ve always said that the problems we have today in marriages is that no one talks to the men, no one expects anything from them.
    Every responsibility is placed on the woman to make things work. The result is a bunch of spoiled children in the bodies of grown men.
    If men understood the gravity of their roles in marriage as the Bible states, they would be more careful.

    God help us all.

  65. That-I-May-Fly

    September 9, 2016 at 10:38 am

    Well well…true colour be coming out…tick tock tick tock! Why am I not surprised eh? Charlatans!

  66. Deedee

    September 9, 2016 at 11:02 am

    Lol. Just read your bible and ask the Holy Spirit to help you understand you don’t have to listen to these pastors when you have your bible. BN please post my comment http://thediaryofanarmywifeng.blogspot.com.ng/?m=1

  67. Deedee

    September 9, 2016 at 11:13 am

    And this is just so annoying. No one talks to the men. No one tells them that marriage is the effort of both partners.The work falls on the woman alone. The woman should be the patient one, the one who should forgive when the man cheats or stays out at night. When the woman herself can’t try that sh*t. We urgently need to tell the men where they are failing o. It’s affecting marriages including mine. Sigh

  68. Ada

    September 9, 2016 at 11:29 am

    Thres no point dragging matter..when you know what the word of God says your not easily swayed by false preaching..it’s laziness of not making effort to read bible for yourself that causes ignorant people to believe this rubbish..it even says study to show yourself approved.

  69. nnenne

    September 9, 2016 at 11:34 am

    Master?
    Why reduce him?
    You might as well call him god.
    When responsibilities comes, just hope he will do what master/god does.

    Let him not look for a partner!

  70. IJS

    September 9, 2016 at 11:52 am

    I am a single woman who is not really a fan of pastor Chris but aside what he said about a man being alone and not lonely, I agree with what he said. The bible clearly puts a wife under her husbanda authority in different chapters. A woman is not under the authority of men generally tho just her husband. Of course a sensible man will not turn his own to master and slave because we have been called to love

    • Rocky

      September 9, 2016 at 12:58 pm

      i really appreciate you for your understanding. Have come to understanding that the scripture is not for everybody. As much as we tend see ourselves as partners like what many lady will tell you; it is imperative we don’t forget the role God has given to us.

      God bless you.

  71. Busola

    September 9, 2016 at 12:37 pm

    Egbami o, bella naija people will not kill me with laughter today. I think people are reading too much meaning into what this man said. Im not a fan of Pastor Chris, In actual fact I dont like him but i actually agree with him. This thing is simple, the bible says God made all of us in his image and likeness which means in the society we are the same. If a man can be CEO ,a woman can too. But when the bible taught about marriage, it said wives submit to your husbands and husbands love your wives. shikena!. This is definitely not a justification for husbands to maltreat their wives but it means husbands will always be the master in the family.  This does not make the wife a slave. The husband is the head but the wife is the neck and I for one person has not seen a head standing without a neck. The problem comes from the fact that a lot of women are in relationships or are married to men that dont fear God and once this happens there is bound to be a problem in the marriage. If you are married to a good man, you dont have to be equal partners with him to have a blissful marriage because your husband wont make you feel like you are beneath him and you will actually be the one running the family. This is what we should strive for. Try your best to marry a genuinely good man, give him his due respect and watch how your marriage will blossom. Of course that doesnt mean you wont have issues but it will pass. Obedience and submission doesnt make you a slave neither does it mean that you dont have a say in the marriage.It doesnt mean you should not have your job or be independent. A lot of women dont know how much power they can wield just by listening and allowing men to be men. Respect and love in marriage should be reciprocal no doubt. I actually think that majority of feminists are confused. They want to be equal partners but when it comes to providing and financing,they want the man to provide, pay the bills on dates, ask them out, buy gifts and pamper them. but they want to be ‘wives not cook’ etc. If we take time to talk to our parents who have been able to remain married for over 30 years, then maybe we will understand better. Marriage is not for everyone,biko if you can’t submit ,please remain happily single!

    • Lacey

      September 9, 2016 at 6:23 pm

      @Engoz,if you like rebuke satan from now till until God’s Kingdom come and don’t go on to ask the Spirit of God to help you decipher the things of God ,then you will have yourself to blame!continue writing gibberish about the things of God that you know nothing about!even satan can quote the Bible!
      @Busola!God bless you oooo!your head is so there!You just made my day !Eve gave Adam Apple and Sarah made Abraham sleep with his maid!those are women that wanted to control issues!marry a good man that you can submit to that’s all!instead of them to get wisdom and understanding, they will be wailing up and down! I am a strong woman who knows my place and The Bible is my standard!my dear @Busola God bless you real good!I wish all these confused women on this blog can read this your comment and digest it.

    • Engoz

      September 9, 2016 at 7:07 pm

      You do not know your bible that is why you cannot decipher the things of the Lord. If you like kill yaself. The original truth of the scriptures shall be spoken that is why you cannot come up with any concrete argument. Those who cannot operate under the spirit of love and seek to dominate others are of the devil. Those who refuse to listen to their spouses opinion on the premise they are women are of the devil. Those who place themselves above others are of the devil. Those who reserve the quality of service to only the female, are of the devil. The bible calls on every person to be of service. Ask the spirit of God to give you the spirit of love so that you can stop manifesting the spirit of your father the devil.

    • lacey

      September 10, 2016 at 4:35 am

      @Engoz be cursing yourself there!continue to curse!you are already damned!

    • Engoz

      September 10, 2016 at 3:16 pm

      @Lacey

      Hehehe see Christian o. Your statements shall judge you as well! It is VERY evident you are not born of the spirit, but of the devil. Better go and repent.

    • Naffi

      September 10, 2016 at 10:34 pm

      Lady, you really didn’t have to comment right away. A lot you’re saying don’t even make any sense you’re just contradicting yourself.

    • Concerned

      September 11, 2016 at 11:31 am

      @busolaThis is the hard truth.don’t marry if you don’t want your husband to be your master.

  72. Josephine

    September 9, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    I honestly pity this man. He’s so hurt, bitter and angry by his divorce. He should refrain from preaching on this topic till he has healed and can preach the Word of God as it is. To add and subtract from it is a major sin and that is what he is doing here. In lashing out blindly like this, talking about womenfolk like God loves us less when God never said that is lying on God. God blasted those who were enemies of Israel,etc. Christ blasted Pharisees, etc. At no point did God or His Son blast women. There must be a hierarchy in marriage but his slant is improper. He should not throw shade from the pulpit. No ex-wife is worth the wrath of God.

    • Lacey

      September 10, 2016 at 4:32 pm

      @Engoz please go for deliverance!it is very clear that you are highly possessed of satan the devil!coming here to camouflage as light,whereas you are darkness!

    • Naffi

      September 10, 2016 at 10:38 pm

      Please show some maturity. It’s not about always having something to say, at least make sense once a while. You’re clearly in this to win an argument. @Engoz stepped to the plate the whole time. Girl bye ?

  73. Rocky

    September 9, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    I will like to state that the Scripture is not for everybody but sole given for God’s own elects.

    If i say i fear the Lord as a man, i should understand the role the Lord has given to me as a husband, to love my wife. Any man that fears the Lord knows that he doesn’t require until he hears master from his wife before he plays his role. What is important is for the believing woman to submit to her husband, then the believing husband must love his wife and cherish her, fulfilling her needs. God bless you all.

  74. Ella

    September 9, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    Pastor Chris prayed to God to forgive you for using the bible to further oppress women. Your are a fake pastor and weak man hiding behind the scriptures to push your personal greviance with your ex-wife. Women that bore men are inferior and an afterthought u say. I guess in your mind now you are a god. Your a weak weak man!

  75. franklly

    September 9, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    Pastor Chris, I agree with you oo but have you forgotten that bout four(4) of your sisters are divorced some are in their second marriages. Have you forgotten you played a major role in r fighting with their husbands? If you really believe in master/ lord/ authority of th man in marriage why didn’t you sound it in your sisters head to remain and keep pleasing their masters since you say marriage is all about pleasing the man? Did any of them see half of what Anita saw while she was married to you sir? But they left you didn’t say anything instead you were in FULL support. You see life?. Why are you misleading people this way?. Anita who submitted to you like a slave, where is she today? You actually used this master/slave mentality and frustrated the woman out of the marriage. You NEVER loved her. But the bible says husbands love your wife as Christ loved the church. You actually acted the opposite. Even till today you are still hunting the innocent woman threatening to make and life miserable for her and you are actually on top of your game Is that what God asked you to do? Was she enjoying the marriage then she went into depression which almost made her loose her sanity? Pastor Chris people do not know you that is why they follow you thinking that your heart is like the white suit the see you wear..repent sir! Let me stop here for now I still have more to say…

  76. Martha

    September 9, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    I’m christian and a believer of the word of God!
    However to some extent I agree with what Pastor Chris has said because Paul says 1 Corinthians 11:7-9English Standard Version (ESV)
    7 For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, but woman is the glory of man. 8 For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. 9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.
    Though I think he brought it out wrongly, Man is the “head” and not master…being a head requires being a servant thats what I understand, working hand in hand with the others, the head would be useless if there was no neck, chest etc.
    The word of God calls a man to love his wife as Christ loves the Church in this incase the man has lot of work to do…just as Christ gave his life for the church so is the man requested to be, the church which is the wife is only requested to obey, submit…And please take note the church usually has an option of choosing to obey/submit, however Love has no/knows no end. The husband’s love for her wife shd not be looking at his superiority but to serve his wife, just as Jesus/God loves despite our disobedience/inquities.
    I think lets let Love lead the way!!!

  77. Chu

    September 9, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Most times these stories are spread for the comments, I heard he preached this some years ago so why is it showing up now? There are preachers that call out men but we don’t see that on blogs as it won’t sell. My Pastor, Sam Adeyemi most times preached to the men in marriage but I have never seen any of his sermons on it go viral cos it is not news worthy.
    That doesn’t mean what he said is right, but the media likes to blow things out of proportion just for the clicks.

    • Sibo

      September 10, 2016 at 8:30 am

      It’s good it has been published so that people see how this is a recipe for unhappy marriage leading to divorce as is evidenced by his own marriage.

  78. AJ_Boi

    September 9, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    Firstly, husband actually means the male partner in a maternal relationship so I’ll fault his definition.
    Secondly, the Scripture quoted (Eph 5: 21-33) is actually sound. God is not the author of confusion. The Bible has called man to fulfil the role of the ‘Head’ of the family (and the wife) just as Christ is the ‘Head’ of the church. The only issue is many of us Christians interpret this verse as a sort of Master-Slave relationship meaning the husband rules over the wife.
    The Bible is clear what sort of leadership is expressed here and what it requires i.e. Christ is our role model. He is the head of the Church and he loved the Church and gave himself for her. The leadership pattern here is that of Giving (serving). Refer to Mark 10:42-45 – 42 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 43 Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, 44 and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. 45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” The message above focused heavily on women (and lots of the assertions are inaccurate) and put the blame of most failed marriages on women whereas, many men are not actually following the pattern of leadership Jesus set out for.
    Thirdly, women are not after-thought and are part of God’s eternal plan. If using Gen 1:31 as a basis for his argument that women are after-thought, then I’m afraid that men must be after-thought too after God created animal because in Gen 1:25, after God created all animals, he looked and said it was Good. The same preacher will most likely preach to congregation (men and women) that you’re not and accident and God had pre-destined you for something. God knew you before you were formed….etc and yet is now saying for the women, you’re an addendum to God’s plan.
    I believe if we as Christians focus on the God’s model of doing things, the issue of headship, authority, equality etc will not be an issue. Leadership in the Bible is a call to Service, Responsibility and Accountability and not a call to Lordship (Mark 10:42-45). This applies to marriage too.

    • Engoz

      September 10, 2016 at 1:53 am

      Reasonable men like you should please speak up more often. I can reason with people like you.

    • Sibo

      September 10, 2016 at 8:26 am

      Thank you this. Very sound reasonable advice. Which woman wouldn’t want to submit to a man who leads as Christ led. Who loves as Christ does. Any woman who finds a man submissive to Gods will and who can love and protect her as Christ loved the church Is a blessed woman.

  79. AJ_Boi

    September 9, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    Firstly, husband actually means the male partner in a marital (not maternal) relationship so I’ll fault his definition.

  80. Florence

    September 9, 2016 at 4:02 pm

    Pastor Anita, thank you for divorcing this man.
    Thank you for showing us women that no matter the mistakes we make in our choices.,we can choose to undo them and live better.

    Thank you for running for your life at all cost. Your marriage must have been the definition of toxic and I pray you are on the mend.

    Thank you for leading by example for your daughters. May they not marry a man like their father.

  81. ebony

    September 9, 2016 at 4:12 pm

    and this guy still has female church members? what nerve he’s got. to say this heresy in front of women is absolutely disturbing. i know he once said his wife was trying to compare herself with his foremost assistant pastors and wanted to be treated like royalty and he wont stand for that hence their problems.
    he actually sounds like a cult leader and i hope his members wont be “like the jones”. i always knew there was something hmmn! about his over jelled hair..

  82. Emmanuel

    September 9, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    Hmmm… that is the bitter truth! But we men of now are not good examples that is why we aren’t respected and feared, because of poor upbringing from fathers who didn’t show good examples. Now talking about the women of now, they are so disrespectful, competitive and manipulative, many of them don’t know that women were not in the plan of God, but he just wanted to create an helper who will aid Adam in his work and also make him feel affection of love in the garden of Eden. No matter how old a woman become, she still need to be corrected over thesame mistakes she made in the past. every woman needs proper supervision of little things that you feel they may handle… it will surprise you how fearful they can be, only a woman that accepts a Man as Master begins to do like a man. Check all the inventions done, it was all done by men. Now why did Eve eat the fruit in the garden of Eden before she gave it to Adam? because she first wanted to be like God to Lord it over her husband, but when she saw that it failed she manipulated Adam to eat it, that is the pure truth. this is wha t happens till today., However, it is Eve who destroyed the first Adam but it was Holy Mary who gave birth to Jesus. But why didn’t Jesus marry? because he knows behind every woman is a serpent who controls their minds. Why? because, their emotions can sell them out at any time. That was what happened to Samson. The husbands should love their wives but the wives should honor their husbands. if not for dogmatic white men religion having one wife is not acceptable as of old, why? because the population of woman are far more than men, check the population of male born in a year and that of females. So who will marry the other women left without husbands? but now women don’t know the glory of having a husband or having one man at their disposal. in fact the whites in other to reduce our population used the Church to import in gay life style and eradicate polygamy to manipulate our minds, to curse yourself with marriage vows to protect women’s indiscipline. In the days of old, you can marry more than one wife because, women always tend to misbehave, anytime, she can punish with anything she knows you want, but once she realizes that she not the only one, she will behave well and learn to live with others. The reason men cheat is because men are not made for one woman, well just trying to prove a worldly point. But, I feel marriage to one wife doesn’t make you holy, even David the one after God’s heart married a lot of women and still has a key in heaven. No Christian doctrine has really gotten it right about marriage. This Pastor’s divorce saga is an issue of his wife punishing with sex and some other egoistic character and trying to play equality with her husband. May God help men to find the right women, who can be intelligent and practice the truth in God giving her husband the place of Master. Christ is our head but we are the head of the woman, any woman who gives that place of Master to a man always tend to control him indirectly, that is what these proud women don’t know. No man will accept direct orders from a woman, once you are not paying him.

    • person

      September 9, 2016 at 9:52 pm

      Oro rirun. Pls donate ur laptop or phone or any such device with which u used to type such rubbish to a charity.rada rada talk. Hiss

    • Nala

      September 9, 2016 at 10:03 pm

      @ Emmanuel, you my dear, are terminally ignorant!

    • Natu

      September 10, 2016 at 2:49 am

      All the inventions were carried out by Caucasian amd Asian men. Lol African man trying to reap where you did not sow.

    • aj

      September 10, 2016 at 6:28 am

      you my dear are an airhead! most inventions were done by African Americans but the credits always goes to white men. Also in Europe you have the moors who were Africans to thank for their inventions. When London was a cesspool of filth Timbuktu and other African cities like Benin in present day Edo state where flourishing. No need to stan and coon for the Asian and white men…they don’t need your help.

  83. Prince

    September 9, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    Bellanaija, of all the messages that Pastor Chris has been preaching, you chose the one that you probably know would bring traffic to your site. You have your ulterior motive but God is bigger than you.
    Don’t be an anti-Christ. Don’t let money turn you to a rebel. So many teachings from Pastor Chris but you chose this one.

  84. Prince

    September 9, 2016 at 6:35 pm

    Papa Adeboye came the other day and said men shouldn’t marry a woman that can’t cook or pray for an hour. Most of those that rants their lives out were women because they know they were guilty. For heaven’s sake, why won’t a woman even know how to cook?

    Pastor Chris said wives, submit to your husband, they’re here again because they can’t just listen and learn. This is the reason for most of the divorce we have everywhere right now.

    Why do we always run away from the truth. I’m sure deep down in you ladies you know what he’s saying is right but you just can’t admit it.

    Wives, you are not equal with your husband, get that into your thick skull. He is the husband that is why you adopt his name as your surname and not him adopting yours. That is why your children can only have his name as their surname and not your dads own. Is that too difficult to understand.

    • Nitty

      September 10, 2016 at 12:14 pm

      Prince.

      Rot in hades. You belong there.

    • K. Martin

      September 13, 2016 at 2:27 am

      The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

      The old testament was originally written in Hebrew.
      The Hebrew phrase for “helper suitable” or “help meet” depending on the Bible translation is ezer kenegdo.

      One of the definitions listed for kenegdo (Strong’s 5048 neged):

      I will make him עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ a help CORRESPONDING to him i.e. EQUAL and adequate to himself, Genesis 2:30 among the animals there was no עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ. **Note that in Late Hebrew מכנגד = in front of, Ber 4:5; 9:5; Ab 2:10, מכנגד פני Git 7:7 and elsewhere.

      Source: Brown-Driver-Briggs
      http://biblehub.com/hebrew/5048.htm

      Corresponding is defined as
      – to be similar or EQUAL to something
      – to be equivalent or parallel
      Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/correspond

      So yes, according to the original Hebrew language of the Bible, God created Eve to be a helper corresponding (EQUAL) to Adam.

      Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper [C in the sense of a partner or ally; the word does not imply subordinate status; see Ps. 79:9] who ·is right for[is suitable for; CORRESPONDS with] him.” (Gen 2:18 Expanded Bible Translation)
      https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%202:17-19&version=EXB

      The ISV and the NET Bible translations also use the word CORRESPONDING (which means equal) in Gen 2:18.

      In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your EQUAL partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered (1 Pe 3:7 NLT).

      Several other translations use the word Equal in 1Pe 3:7: WYC, Voice, TLV, MSG, Phillips.

      Men and women are equal in value, worth and God’s gift of new life. Does that mean that men and women will FUNCTION the exact same way? No! However, that doesn’t negate or void the fact that God created women to be equal to men in value, worth and the gift of new life.

  85. Lacey

    September 9, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    thank you @Prince!You you will go on to reign as King!please tell all these women with thick skull on this blog o!lol!

  86. Chinaemerem Ibezim

    September 9, 2016 at 9:23 pm

    God created Adam and Eve on the same day, the sixth day; Eve was created before God concluded that all He had made was good.

    Even though Adam was created first, God did not say that it was good until after Eve had been created. Both Adam and Eve were created on the same day.

    “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth day.” Genesis 1:27‭, ‬31

    The man is the head of his own home (not all homes, not all women), and the woman must submit to her own husband (not all men). Husbands and wives must love each other.

    Nowhere in the Bible are women asked to understand their husbands (of course they should), instead husbands are instructed to understand their wives. “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

    God is not the Author of confusion.

    Only foolish husbands think that their wives are irrelevant and useless. Ask Moses, when God wanted to kill him it was his wife who saved his life!

    “On the journey back, as they camped for the night, God met Moses and would have killed him but Zipporah took a flint knife and cut off her son’s foreskin, and touched Moses’ member with it. She said, “Oh! You’re a bridegroom of blood to me!” Then God let him go. She used the phrase “bridegroom of blood” because of the circumcision.” Exodus 4:24‭-‬26

    We are one in Christ!

    Chinaemerem Joshua Ibezim
    Twitter: @pastorchinae
    Instagram: @chinaemeremibezim

  87. oscar

    September 9, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    na wa ooo….so just becos of me u wrote this lengthy epistle, na so ee pain u reach. , chai…there is GOD OOOOO

  88. Tilda

    September 9, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    beautiful advice. Your marriage is such a testimony to happy matrimony.

  89. oscar

    September 9, 2016 at 9:36 pm

    You know the funny thing in all this talk is that all the people condemning this pastor and his message actually consciously and unconsciously practice what he’s talking about in their respective homes…

  90. RenNy S.

    September 9, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    My hubby sent this to me now. I don’t get becos I have been through a lot in my marriage. To start with cheating or what? I have been very faithful and submissive to him but instead took me for granted. He is still cheating and we hardly communicate with each other. So why send me this coiled message when he is not even a born again Christian. The bible say wife be submissive and husband take care of your wife which I believe he has his own part to play. Not just the women alone. I don’t think a woman will change her behaviour if she been treated well.

    • Sigh...

      September 10, 2016 at 6:55 am

      Your husband is a live example of why this one-sided type of teaching of marriage is so harmful. Who is teaching the men to love their wives like Christ loved the church? Instead irresponsible and callous men are being handed more ‘ammunition’ to mistreat their wives. So sad.

  91. COMMENTER

    September 9, 2016 at 9:56 pm

    @Prince and Lacey, yes, the bible says for wives to submit to their husbands. The same bible calls for both husband and wife to submit to one another. IT ALSO CALLS ON THE HUSBAND TO LOVE THE WIFE LIKE CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH.

    WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO LOVE LIKE CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH? CHRIST DIED FOR THE CHURCH. CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH SO MUCH THAT HE WAS WILLING TO DIE FOR THE CHURCH. CHRIST DID NOT ABUSE THE CHURCH, HE WAS LOVING, KIND AND PATIENT WITH THE CHURCH.

    EVEN WHEN HE WAS SPOKEN AGAINST AND CRUCIFIED BY THE CHURCH, HE STILL LOVED THE CHURCH AND INTERCEDED ON BEHALF OF THE CHURCH. HE EVEN PRAYED FOR THE FORGIVENESS OF THOSE WHO CRUCIFIED HIM WHILE HE WAS DYING ON THE CROSS.

    This description is not even sufficent in describing how Christ loved the church. The love that Christ has for the church far exceeds this! This would be the MAN TRULY LOVING HIS WIFE AS HIS FLESH AND BONE! WHICH MAN WOULD WANT TO HURT HIMSELF? A man who sees his wife as himself(flesh and bone) while never want to hurt her. Infact he will treat her exactly how he enjoys being treated i.e with love, dignity and respect. These things are to be reciprocated.

    Both man and woman are called to SUBMIT to God FIRST. A woman will submit to a man who has Truly submitted to God. Yes, man is named as the head of the household. THAT MAN SHOULD ALSO RECOGNIZE AND SUBMIT TO GOD AS THE HEAD OF HIS LIFE AND ENTIRE BEING. Love a woman like Christ loved the church and submission will come from her.

    The submission that I speak of is not slavery. It is one the comes with trust! Trust that the wife will have for the husband when she has witnessed him love her like Christ loved the church! In her mind, she knows that he is aware that her pain is his pain, her tears are his tears because he has proven it time without number in his loving actions towards her! Men, if you love your wives, your idea of submission will not be enslaving and tormenting your wives. You will treat her with love, kindness, dignity and respect that you ALSO DESERVE. In the bible, Jesus was a servant to he church and yet the MASTER! He also highlighted that to be great, one must be a servant. My point is that greatest master SERVED. He identified as a servant.

    Yes, woman was named as helpmate. A helpmate can help with ideas. Things can be decided with a new perspective given by a helpmate. A helpmate must not be restricted to the kitchen etc! By the way, whoever can eat food should know how to cook! Yes, men, cook sometimes for your wives and kids. Yes, do some household chores. Everyone enjoys being taken care of. Watch submission happen when you love like this. It is a blessing for a man to have found a wife who has herself submitted to God.The bible says that such a man has found a good thing. He has found help that he is instructed to love and cherish selflessly. He no longer has to struggle alone. He has found help.

    A woman who has submitted to GOD FIRST will highly likely not submit to a man who has not submitted to GOD FIRST. He has to be in line with GOD so that he does not drag her OFF the lane that GOD wants her on (this is a discussion for another day)!

    • KMT

      September 10, 2016 at 12:08 am

      CHOI!!!!!! Commenter .THANK YOU OOOOOOOOOOH. YOUR COMMENT GIVES ME LIFE !!!!!!!. Let the CHOIR SHOUT ALLELUYAH. PREACH COMMENTER! DEAR BELLA GIVE COMMENTER A COLUMN.!!!!!!!.

    • le coco

      September 10, 2016 at 5:48 am

      ????? My God… Please take chilled zobo.. on the house.. your head deh correct. and I am goin to screen munch this your comment MBOK.. no vex

    • Marian

      September 10, 2016 at 6:16 am

      Chop knuckle!!!! Was about to come and add my 2 cents as sleep no gree come but you have written it better than i would have. This ladies and gentlemen is what you call the blueprint for a christian marriage. Ki lon je divorce and abuse when you follow the recipe above?

    • Sibo

      September 10, 2016 at 8:17 am

      Thank you very much for this. You must have been led by the Holy Spirit. God bless you for this analysis. I will be sharing this with my fellow prayer group at my next house meet. This is a message I feel should be shared in marriage prep classes and in fellowship. God bless you again my dear.

    • Dami

      September 12, 2016 at 10:00 am

      Awesome comment. Let’s stick to the Word of God. The Gospel is about Love (Love others as you love yourself) and the Bible even goes further to explain what Love is (Love is patient, kind, etc) . Simple! Couples stick to this and put your marriage before God daily. All these over analysis on marriage these days ti sun mi. Someone is now suggesting Eve was an after thought and telling us the difference between alone and lonely. God abeg!

  92. mummybobo

    September 9, 2016 at 10:16 pm

    Plzzzzzzzzzzzz…. Its time we stop talking abt d women and start talking abt d men and their role in marriage, I think DAT will help

  93. lacey

    September 10, 2016 at 4:53 am

    Na wa Submit one to another, here was for christians in fellowship! you guys just amaze me! why in the first place will you go and submit to a stranger! a man that you have married legally,you are now scared to submit! now I know a lot of you guys are just a confused bunch!like someone said above,women of these days feel they can manipulate their way!they want to be in control!they end up depressed ,you cannot control anyman,you only end up digging your early grave or living a life of misery!those of you that cannot submit to a man better remain single!end of matter!

    • Sigh...

      September 10, 2016 at 7:02 am

      But a man and his wife are ‘Christians in fellowship’, or at least they should be. Unfortunately, when men don’t want to fellowship with their wives and love them the way they should be loved as joint heirs in the Kingdom, women end up being mistreated and abused. That was never God’s design. ‘Commenter’ is absolutely right – submission to God comes first and foremost, for both men and women, is the most important step. It is not hard to submit to a husband who has submitted to God. You know he is taking direction from God, so you can trust him to lead the family with wisdom. A man who has not submitted to God cannot lead with wisdom.

    • Engoz

      September 10, 2016 at 3:32 pm

      I think this is the height of foolishness and illiteracy to think this is about control. This is why marriage is for adults not you immature individuals that have hijacked the institution. A Christian marriage does not seek to control but operate in the atmosphere of love. The bible is very clear on what love is. And in love there is no way you can lord yourself over any person. Can you kindly write down the name of your church so people know not to go there?

  94. Sammy

    September 10, 2016 at 7:17 am

    May your daughter(s) be treated the way you have treated your wife and every woman that you have come across in your life. How many men will say a big “AMEN”?

  95. Sam

    September 10, 2016 at 10:21 am

    Uncle Chris before Gen 1:31, in Gen 1:27 God made man male and female

  96. Edward Ogoh

    September 10, 2016 at 10:36 am

    This message is not for the proud woman. It is not for the one who will certainly be a victim of lost love sooner than later. It is for women who can handle a man. I am a married man and I can take a bullet for my wife. She controls my home with love and respect. The most romantic thing about her is that she knows and shows me that I am her husband. Any woman who does not accept this message WILL NEVER HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE.

  97. Ovie precious Oghogho

    September 10, 2016 at 11:55 am

    God bless you my sister, i think you killed it and that is final.

  98. Muffy

    September 10, 2016 at 3:09 pm

    Hey Ladies,

    Please the slavery is bad enough but it should not be in out private lives.. So let’s just opt out of marriage and live our lives the the fullest.

  99. nwaomaa2

    September 10, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    The idiots(guys) complimenting this piece and calling woman an after thought/slaves the day you zip down your trousers for any slave, may thunder strike you impotent!! For the messenger, they dey you zip down your trouser for any slave may you be caught on CCTV camera in Jesus Name Amen! As for the ladies typing amen watch out. The next you would hear from him is God is not against polygamy. A man can have so many wives including sleeping with maids as concubines. Then I will see what becomes of you ladies. Just watch out that will be his next message…watch out…..

  100. Deborah

    September 11, 2016 at 5:04 am

    People refused to understand simple English bcs it’s pastor Chris.. The man is spreading with speed nothing will stop him… Women respect ur husband, that is the message, see ur husband as ur boss that’s why he paid ur dowry,, if ur the boss why didn’t u pay his dowry?? Truth is bitter. Women OK try and shout at ur husband in public an see how people will condem u,,bcs this simple truth is coming from pastor Chris nobody will like it. Especially anambra women that likes controlling their husband… Weda u like it or not ur husband is the head.. If u dnt give him dat respect u will ve problems in ur marriage.

  101. Longman

    September 11, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    I think the message is simple and direct. One should note however that logic runs parallel to spirituality. Husband is the head of the family. In a situation where we have two heads ruling, there will be problems, clash of egos. Another important thing to know is that this passage is for the spiritually inclined, you shouldn’t approach it with sentiments. But then to say women are after thought is not welcomed. Similarly, I don’t see why anyone should write or comment directly about his marriage, he didn’t mention any name in that sermon. Even Jesus was here and his people deserted him.

  102. great

    September 12, 2016 at 8:02 am

    Na wow for dis our modern women .hmmmm my father get luck oooo. God help us men .Guys shine ur eye before marriage against feminist ooo don’t put ur ring or pay their dowry oooo

  103. Dami

    September 12, 2016 at 9:47 am

    Ahnahn…. waawu. I’m a Christain and I’m not even understanding this preaching. The problem with some churches in Nigeria ehn is that they have mixed God’s word with cultural beliefs. Uncle Chris, this your preaching get as e be. May God give you a better understanding of His Word … the original one not the naija remix version.

  104. Morgan Nwanguma

    September 12, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    I simply do not understand why so many (Nigerians) people are breaking their heads over the recent statements made by Pastor Chris Oyakhilome on marriage. The man merely spoke the truth but most of us are not able to stomach hard facts like these. I am not exactly a fan of Pastor Oyakhilome, but he really hit the nail on the head – this one. And it does not matter what you think, truth remains truth! In the first place, the bible clearly stated that the woman should be treated “as the weaker vessel”; secondly it states that the “woman was created for the glory of man.” At the crusade that ‘happened’ in the bible (Christ never organised a crusade), the good book did not record the number of women (and children) that turned up even though we know they must have been more as usual; it only ‘counted’ the men. The devil went through the woman to get the man down for a well known reason. Also, God first admonished the woman by saying “be ye submissive to your husband”, before saying to the man, “husband love thy wife.” When they fell from ‘glory’, God’s punishment to the man was because, as God put it – “for listening to your wife …” Get the point clear, this is not in any way to denigrate the woman, but to clearly show that man and woman are never created equal! The man is placed ‘on top’ of the woman, for leadership, for direction, for mutual co-existence. When they walk together like this, things are bound to work out harmoniously for them. But whenever the woman goes out of her place to do otherwise, there is no real progress anywhere. Mark you, this is not saying that the man is an angel, but God has built in these universal laws and principles by which He had designed the world and marriage institution to so function amicably.

    • K. Martin

      September 13, 2016 at 2:24 am

      The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

      The old testament was originally written in Hebrew.
      The Hebrew phrase for “helper suitable” or “help meet” depending on the Bible translation is ezer kenegdo.

      One of the definitions listed for kenegdo (Strong’s 5048 neged):

      I will make him עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ a help CORRESPONDING to him i.e. EQUAL and adequate to himself, Genesis 2:30 among the animals there was no עֵזֶר כְּנֶגְדּוֺ. **Note that in Late Hebrew מכנגד = in front of, Ber 4:5; 9:5; Ab 2:10, מכנגד פני Git 7:7 and elsewhere.

      Source: Brown-Driver-Briggs
      http://biblehub.com/hebrew/5048.htm

      Corresponding is defined as
      – to be similar or EQUAL to something
      – to be equivalent or parallel
      Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/correspond

      So yes, according to the original Hebrew language of the Bible, God created Eve to be a helper corresponding (EQUAL) to Adam.

      Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper [C in the sense of a partner or ally; the word does not imply subordinate status; see Ps. 79:9] who ·is right for[is suitable for; CORRESPONDS with] him.” (Gen 2:18 Expanded Bible Translation)
      https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%202:17-19&version=EXB

      The ISV and the NET Bible translations also use the word CORRESPONDING (which means equal) in Gen 2:18.

      In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your EQUAL partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered (1 Pe 3:7 NLT).

      Several other translations use the word Equal in 1Pe 3:7: WYC, Voice, TLV, MSG, Phillips.

      Men and women are equal in value, worth and God’s gift of new life. Does that mean that men and women will FUNCTION the exact same way? No! However, that doesn’t negate or void the fact that God created women to be equal to men in value, worth and the gift of new life.

  105. O.N

    November 4, 2016 at 8:59 am

    for the first time i heard something reasonable from one of our dear pastors. i am beginning to love going to the church.

  106. paige

    November 22, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    this is a travesty of hate & oppression— and paul did NOT stop with women– he also recommended slaves submit to masters (even abusive ones)– but then this pastor does not use all the hateful justifications of oppression of others based on race, so why on gender? does he know that paul also goes on to say that women are cursed because of eve, but redeemed by the pain of childbirth? i find this a direct contradiction to christ’s sacrifice- which is redeeming. first point: paul says people, submit to each other. period. mutually. second point: paul says men, love your wife like yourself, like jesus loved the church– in other words, submit and humble yourself to serve her and see her as your greatest treasure, for which and to which you give your whole self (he did not say ‘lead/dominate/subjigate her like jesus did the church!!!!!!!!!!)– jesus, god and king of the universe, did not dominate us, the church, but humbled himself, lowered himself, and served us. and it is he who said the greatest among you shall serve. this man is being the lowest, the most worldly, dominating, and hateful among us with his hate speech against women.

  107. meme

    January 22, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    please people learn to read your bible and not swallow whatever that comes out from any man of God whole without questioning. why did he not also talk about the remainder of that chapter where husbands were asked to love their wives like Christ love the church that He slayed down His life for her. he is probably talking like this because of his ex-wife. I wonder why people still believe pastors who are divorces. it is clearly written in the Bible, God hates divorce!

  108. Nina

    March 30, 2019 at 12:14 am

    This kinda shit is the reason I don’t believe in religion. Religion is bullshit. This is hilarious!

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