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This emotional video “Broken“‘ is what most people are talking about on Twitter!

It shows exes Kourtney and Leonard who were best friends and dated for a while but broke up because Leonard was cheating on her.

In this video we see Kourtney confront him; asking him how many times he cheated on her and why. We literally see her break down while Leonard looks unbothered.

He asks her why she stayed with him after finding out he was cheating.

He also tells her he felt they were on two different pages.

Watch:

53 Comments

  1. Bigzoum

    February 16, 2017 at 10:03 am

    He was ashamed that why he replied her like that

  2. Caramel chic

    February 16, 2017 at 10:25 am

    What a beautiful take at the beauty and gift of communication. So many people who have gone through ending relationships for cheating or other reasons, have never had the opportunity like this to sit face to face from their partner and ‘talk’. Although the scenario is a painful one I can see the beauty of communication. I love this young lady as she was clearly a young woman who had given her all in a relationship. It took me years before I was willing to that. But it is a freeing git of love to surrender. That is one of the most honourable and noble thing to do in relationship. I love what she said to him ‘ I don’t think you are a bad person” so poignant. She is right you may not be a bad person. However it exposes your character flaw of selfishness or ability to have self control. This experience is part of their life story. They will one day look back on this and reflect. Trust the process people. Even the one with the cuts of glass and flames you have to walk through. We can’t control how other humans treat us. But we must determine to live in our truths and find medicine for our healing when the time sees fit.

    • matthew

      February 16, 2017 at 12:18 pm

      you mean *inability to have self control. either nice write up.

    • Maxine

      February 16, 2017 at 4:37 pm

      you mean ‘either way…’ 😉 hehehe

    • Ife

      February 16, 2017 at 12:55 pm

      Love is a very powerful force. It could destroy a good woman if she hands it over to a douche bag. This girls experience reminds me of when I finally got closure almost 5 years after the initial break up. I know some people would say what were you doing there for 5 years. He was my first true love and to be honest he was always reaching out, even after I came to England, because I was naive. Every time he reached out I thought he wanted to come back . Then I would ask him questions he would confirm he still cares for me. Anytime he comes to England as of then I would take time off work just to be with him . It would actually feel like we are now on the same page. Then he goes to Nigeria and goes Mia . I even thought may be he didn’t or never had time to buy credit. So I would call to check up on him. My close friends told me you need to get rid of this boy ! I said he’s a nice guy you guys don’t know him. I know him ??

      One of the things I noticed was that as time progressed he became emotionally abusive , but all I always remembered. Was the cute young man I fell in love with 5 years ago. The man who couldn’t hurt a fly . The one who as at them treated me like a queen. So I would excuse the abuse. There were times he would call and say, can’t you not pick the phone when I call ? Must you say yes to everything . I was weak! How can somebody want you to be saying no and fighting with them .

      Then the last time I saw him was when I got closure . I begged him please say the truth. Do you love me ? Is there a place in your heart to make this work. Then as if cold water was thrown in my face . He said no ! I said since when ? He said since the first break up , I said so why did you keep calling me and coming back. Why were you coming into my space ? He said didn’t u notice that everytime I left for Lagos I never called you. I cried my body shook , I even saw him off to the airport and I was still crying. I am a good girl I didn’t know what wrong I did in life for this fate to beset me . I asked questions when we first broke up, I got no answers but I knew if he gave me that closure the first time. If he gave me that closure without ever coming back to try to speak with me and if he said I don’t love you anymore . I would have moved far. He led me on to believe there was love , and things may find its way back.
      What I learnt is that once a man doesn’t love you or acts like he doesn’t love you. Action is what you should focus on. Don’t excuse his character move on ! Don’t bother with closure, wicked men never ever give you closure . They still want to eat their cake and have it so they never give closure. This same bully would send me on errands in london and when I’m on my way to do what he told me to do. He would say can’t you say no for once !! Honestly looking back now I think he needed fixing he’s a broken man. I don’t know what broke him but he’s broken. ?? I actually wrote this knowing that I feel nothing for him at all. What I feel is not hate it’s indifference . But when or if you genuinely loved someone you never hate them! I must be clear on this. What happens is that the love rescinds and ebbs away as time passes by, but you really never wish them wrong.!

      That same bitch resting face he gave the girl ?? was what he gave me ??. I had to ask him are you a cultist ? You know why I didn’t believe a man could be so heartless . No emotions ??. I said what is this? Thank God I’m out tho . I also learnt that there’s no position in life that God first have a replacement for. If a man leaves another good man would replace him as long as you have faith and Trust in God. Did I also mention that at a point in time I prayed for a total break up if this guy wasn’t my husband . I was crying and praying overnight ????. Thank God he answered my prayers?.

    • Sola

      February 16, 2017 at 1:46 pm

      i understand this perfectly. i’ve been there girl

    • Sherlie Holmes

      February 16, 2017 at 10:32 pm

      Girl, you straight dodged a bullet…Olorun yo e. I thank God on your behalf, he had some serious issues.

    • Joke

      February 18, 2017 at 12:22 pm

      Please seek counseling. Yes, he a broken person, but you can’t go through what you did and not be affected.

  3. Lucinda

    February 16, 2017 at 10:31 am

    Except if this was scripted, you have no excuse going there and making him see you like this. You never allow them see you sweat. Cry all you want at home but turn up snatched and glamorous.

    • tunmi

      February 17, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      feelings can be a betraying sonofa-

  4. Fabulous

    February 16, 2017 at 11:10 am

    This made me cry so much. Jeez

  5. Adunnie

    February 16, 2017 at 11:11 am

    I’m in awe of this lady. She just taught me how I still have a long way to go with forgiveness. I can never understand the idea that someone isn’t a bad person after doing something bad. It’s a mistake when it happens once but when you keep doing that hurtful thing again and again and then she says he’s not a bad person… I’m so amazed and blown away by her composure. I feel like I would have ripped his head apart from where I was sitting with how unfazed and casual he was acting, he doesn’t even seem like he’s truly sorry for how he hurt her. And to think that she’s friends with him after everything that happened.. This amazing and beautiful soul is the definition of a forgiving spirit.. I just can’t. You don’t say I’m your best friend and do me like that. How can you constantly hurt your best friend? A lot of things I can forgive but a cheating partner, that’s a whole different level.
    I really pray she has gotten the closure she deserves and a man who would love her and never hurt her like this again.

    • Joke

      February 18, 2017 at 12:29 pm

      It’s not really about forgiveness, that’s a personal decision for one’s personal sanity, but the truth is men mature at a much slower pace especially in a sexually crazy and morally bankrupt country like the US, let’s not mention black America that’s even worse statistically. This guy is clearly immature. She should never have been in a sexual relationship with him. She could have been his agape friend, but nothing more. He was just looking for release from his physical need to have sex. This same useless guy now, give him some years, he will have matured, be tired, ready to settle down, find a wife and get married, leaving so many casualties behind. The point is that women should not let themselves be casualties, but will they listen, NO!

  6. Oby A

    February 16, 2017 at 11:16 am

    I cant be the only one that wants to punch this guy in the face…asswipe lol

    • Sherlie Holmes

      February 16, 2017 at 10:34 pm

      You def are not. I was beyond pissed.

  7. David

    February 16, 2017 at 11:34 am

    Sheet mehn… Someone started cutting onions around when stated her reason for forgiving him… “because you are my best friend”.

    We are always going to break our hearts in this world. Our love will not always be returned and we will not always return the love we receive.

    What a cycle of life.

    • David

      February 16, 2017 at 11:36 am

      *when she

  8. bitumen

    February 16, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Went through a painful breakup with my ex and it was tough. It was mainly my fault. I drifted away from her emotionally and didnt communicate with her. We broke up and it was painful for her and me too. She came to Nigeria from the UK and we had a conversation about it. She wanted me to tell her why i drifted and that i should have communicated better. I picked her up from her house and dropped her off at the airport where we had the conversation. We had lunch and she hugged me when she was about to board the plane. I miss her so much because i was really fond of her. We used to spend nights talking about everything from politics,career to stories on bellanaija . I really loved her intellect and miss her a whole lot. However i messed up and at the end of the day her conclusion was that i never loved her.I also told her i had started seeing someone else before she came to see me in Nigeria. Its been almost 6 months since i last spoke to her after the airport goodbyes. She didnt want to keep in touch anymore to obtain closure and so as to close old wounds. I on the other hand wanted to keep in touch but i had to let go to respect her decisions. If you are reading this bee, i miss you and i am deeply sorry. The guy in this video on the other hand is a classic f””k boy(guys who just want to hit and run and wouldnt mind having 10 gfs at the same time just to hit) but i can be called same too in a different context as pain can be relative to different circumstances that can prompt it to be classified as me being a f++k boy. Closure is key and i am glad i had closure with my ex. I have also had my heart broken by girls too and there was no closure and it was hard for me. Closure and communication can be painful but on the long run , it helps the healing process.

    P.S. I didnt cheat on her. I drifted emotionally but didnt cheat.

    • bitumen

      February 16, 2017 at 11:42 am

      I started seeing someone else 6 months after we broke up and i told her one month after the relationship started.

    • fusion OAU

      February 16, 2017 at 11:46 am

      Just call her or send her a message or something man!!!!!!!! at least to tell her the ” i miss you and i am deeply sorry”………. oh and good-luck…

    • xo

      February 16, 2017 at 2:40 pm

      LOL! Oga she has moved on. don’t you ever ever show up in her life with whatever emotional nonsense. stay where you are in the past mbok. let her breathe in some fresh air

    • Trump

      February 16, 2017 at 11:50 am

      You are a CHILD in caps letters. You are no better than the guy in d video. Atleast he explained and kept it cool whereas you are busy in pain

    • Seriously

      February 16, 2017 at 1:52 pm

      @bitumen
      Find a way to send her a personal message. Facebook, or email her. She’s probably somewhere with deep pain, confusion and hurt. Hearing that will definitely help. Majority of men don’t express their true feelings for whatever reason. Women don’t communicate their feelings in an objective manner. Crying and saying he’s not a bad person is nonsense. Let men know their character flaw, they respect you more. They don’t like pushovers and doormats. Have you heard men say a cheating woman is not a bad woman. Infact, a woman automatically becomes a bad person to men when she cheats because men connect it to a character flaw not how mice she is. Hold men on that high standard too. Don’t excuse their bad behavior, make it clear to them.

      One can easily ask why did you emotionally drift apart when you genuinely liked this lady and had a good time with her. Well, that’s the deep complex part of our lives that we don’t sometimes have answer to.

    • Adunnie

      February 16, 2017 at 3:38 pm

      Please you guys should stop asking him to send her a message to tell her he misses her. You seem like a decent guy but don’t open old wounds for that girl. You don’t know if she has found someone who loves her and isn’t planning to emotionally detach from her. Please don’t go and ruin her life again. If you are really sorry like you say you are then keep being sorry and missing her from afar. Don’t go and reach out to her and make her leave the person she’s with(if she’s with someone now) because you miss her and can’t deal with the pain. Let it keep hurting, youll get over it eventually. If you’re not ready to commit a 110% right now don’t text her. Don’t make her fall for you again if you’re not ready to catch her. Because if you do even the universe won’t forgive you this time. So you better be sure you want her and would do everything to stay with her, love her and never emotionally detach yourself from her. If not, leave her be abeg.
      Let me just drop this here, you’re an idiot for letting her slip away in the first place. When you find someone you can talk about everything with you don’t act like a moron and let them slip away.. No offence.

    • bitumen

      February 16, 2017 at 7:11 pm

      I miss her friendship. I dont want to date her again and i really dont want to open old wounds which is why i wont reach out to her until maybe in future she reaches out to me , Why i drifted is a complex and long story which is mainly my fault and 5% hers. I dont miss her like i want to date her again but i miss the friendship which was genuine. we romanced sometimes but there was no sex. Finally, i am not in pain as i am dating someone else but when you miss friendship like that and hurt someone you care about you should feel bad and i do which is what i am sorry for. I pray she finds an amazing and GOD sent guy but reaching out to her is a no no.

      @ Adunnie, no offence taken but not every great friendship leads to a great relationship and not every great relationship leads to a great marriage. I and her have closure which is why she said i shouldnt reach out to her and she axed me from all social networks and she told me she was even going to block my line. I haven’t reached out to her since and i wont. I miss her friendship once again but guess you cant eat your cake and have it.

    • Adunnie

      February 16, 2017 at 9:33 pm

      Aw you are such a sincere guy and you sound so calm.. I’m so sorry for calling you an idiot. I really didn’t mean it and I totally get your point you are right, not all friendships make good relationships. Best of luck.

    • Seriously

      February 16, 2017 at 10:00 pm

      @Adunnie lol
      Women are too emotional at times. Your logic completely disappeared.
      @Bitumen
      Good that you realize you can’t have your cake and eat it too
      My point is not for him to say he misses her but to let her know he fucked up and it had nothing to do with her. It’s not for them to start dating again. He’s made it clear, he missed the friendship not that he wants to marry her. I doubt she still wants him anyway. It’s just refreshing to get closure instead of walking around in confusion, hurt and broken heart.

    • J

      February 16, 2017 at 9:20 pm

      Wow! Sincere

    • Busola

      February 16, 2017 at 11:09 pm

      I’m not buying your sob story. If we look closely, you are a selfish person and no, you don’t get to miss the friendship. You abandoned someone emotionally and you say you are in pain? Wawu!! Please let the poor girl be great… it is not like you want her back.

    • caramel chic

      February 17, 2017 at 7:51 pm

      You sound like my ex.
      I think a ‘sorry’ and explanation would be an honourable thing to do.
      I’ll be waiting.
      ps ,I forgave you long time

  9. Trump

    February 16, 2017 at 11:45 am

    Absolute rubbish

  10. Carmen

    February 16, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Nah… i think he’s a bad person. A very bad one at that. She’s just one of those sweet people who always tend to make excuses for people’s bad behaviour. There are people like that…they don’t just have it in them to hurt anybody, so they refuse to face reality when people hurt them over and over again because they just cannot fathom it. In fact, they even blame themselves for whatever bad treatment they received.

    That dude I watched there has no remorse whatsoever…he sat there looking all so cocky and smug while she cried. Did you watch when he said “You always go through my phone.If you would to find whatever,why didn’t you just leave?” I felt like punching him right in the face. What a very insensitive douchebag. Then i watch till the end and the video says they live in different states but still talk regularly. Girl, i know you’re a sweet soul, but you need to protect yourself. There are many bad people in the world, that guy is one of them, and will hurt you again if he gets the tiniest chance.

    There are people that no matter how much you try to get them to understand how much their actions damaged you, they’ll never get it. Their conscience is seared with a hot iron.I always say that sometimes closure is overrated. Heal, forgive them(for your own sake), then ‘ghost’ them, for your safety and peace of mind abeg.

    • Adunnie

      February 16, 2017 at 3:44 pm

      Oh Carmen thank you so very much. You so think like me. The guy is a horrible person. Like why won’t she check your phone when she knows you stick it into every lady. I wish she left him the first time. She’s just such a sweet sweet soul and you are so right she needs to protect herself. She really shouldn’t be friends with him. His cocky bastard self does not deserve her friendship. She has forgiven him and done the most. She needs to cut ties with him forever and let herself heal completely. I wish she didn’t break down in front of him.. *sigh*. I can really feel her pain. I sincerely wish her the best cos she deserves the best.

    • Sheun

      February 16, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      I like you! You definitely get IT! I saw clips of the video and was like there is no remorse from this guy whatsoever. She’s just a really sweet person and tries to see the good in everyone. She definitely loved him more than she loved herself. Obtaining closure sometimes is VERY overrated. Move on with life and don’t look back.

  11. ugo igwe

    February 16, 2017 at 12:13 pm

    i cried. especially when the guy said to see you grow to the women you becoming and the way she just silently looked and sobbed. if only we men know what we put women through with our selfish ways. in all honestly the lady is brave,
    if its a naija babe nah insult we go dey hear! lmao!! *yoruba demon* etc…..

  12. hadiza

    February 16, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    I liked when he asked why she stayed after catching him cheating. most women have low self esteem, they have no self worth or dignity, that’s why they tolerate rubbing from these sick men.

  13. kaylah

    February 16, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    when are we going to start blaming the girl who decides to cheat with him knowing he has a gf and probably rubbing it on her face. for eample the case of Tonto and the PA who is flaunting the car. no man is going to cheat alone. he needs a woman to fulfil that task.

    • Ife

      February 16, 2017 at 1:01 pm

      To be honest I’m confused with the world . That’s why the bible says the heart of man is desperately wicked . How can you lay with the joy and peace of someone else and be flaunting things he gave to you ? It’s hard for me understand , is this what we have become ? Because of money we lose our soul? I can’t reconcile things like this ! It’s unfair to Tonto , they used her to get famous and built a castle on it .

    • Tee

      February 16, 2017 at 2:22 pm

      I don’t understand why ppl blame anyone but the partner that strays. Most likely the chick does not know you and cares nothing for you , she did not vow to love you through sickness and health or promise you forever or any of that rubbish couples tell each other when the going is good. If the other woman is to blame, what then is your partners role in safeguarding your relationship. Already society blames the other woman when men cheat, allowing men to justify their irresponsibility while women tear their hair out and cuss each other. This is the reason why women are mostly hateful to one another , we see other women as our competition and men the price of our hate.

    • side chick

      February 16, 2017 at 4:55 pm

      You side chicks never see anything wrong in sleeping with another woman’s husband….jsutifying your hoeism

      Yes the partner should be blamed, so also the girl sleeping with another lady’s man

      Their sins are not less than each other…….You side chicks can do anything to get money and yet blame the man….na dog or goat hin dey sleep with?

      comot side chick

  14. side chick

    February 16, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    The difference between a nigerian and an american

    You all up there felt she shouldnt have or she should have done this or that….you see the mentality between you people?

    Poverty, suffering, wicknedness….yaff destroyed sote you see no good in another person. All you want from a man is marriage…if he doesn’t marry you, your so claimed love turns to hatred instantly

  15. Layla

    February 16, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    This happened to me when I was pregnant with my third child…. My ex “husband” said to me clearly, that I am a very good person but he is unhappy in our marriage and he wants to forge ahead with another woman….. I cried while he said all but my tears meant nothing…. I begged that he stays till I put to bed, on my part I used same period to get closure…. At a time during his transitional stay period, I became very vulnerable, I begged him that I agree with him to marry the other lady, I said I don’t mind and that I ll remain in the shadow like he conditioned , as long as he is still “known” as my husband I accepted the other woman…. Then he gave me unimaginable conditions and flaunted her on social media….. They caused me so much pain, I had my baby full term but with a premature weight of 2kg. After delivery and I saw my baby, I snapped back to reality, immediately i found closure and poured all my love , energy to my baby getting better….. Today they are both history in my life and my kids are with me and safe…….

    • ugo igwe

      February 16, 2017 at 8:11 pm

      God is with you. bless you!!

    • BellaNaija.com

      February 16, 2017 at 8:30 pm

      Hugs from us.

    • Atm

      February 18, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      God bless you and keep you and you kids

  16. Tosin

    February 16, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    can’t watch but fun comments.
    it’s nice to forgive, it’s nice to explore, best advice is never promise monogamy at least give yourself the option lol. can’t have people crying upandan abeg when nobody died.

  17. Choco

    February 16, 2017 at 11:32 pm

    I can so relate!!! My ex cheated on me several times & each time I wanted to leave, I couldn’t (pls don’t judge me). It can get really lonely in the UK without a boo, so I thought. He finally told me he didn’t love me anymore (This was someone I lost my virginity to @ 24…smh). I came back to Nigeria after my masters while he remained in the UK. It took me 2 years to finally get closure. I had to block every means of him reaching me. It was really hard and just when I finally got closure, the idiot resurfaced & added me up on bbm (he got married to an african british girl)… In his own words “You can’t get off my radar anymore”… It brought back all the sad memories. I deleted him off my bbm 3 days later cos I couldn’t handle it. 6 months later, I went for a Church programme & the pastor said anyone finding it difficult to forgive, so bitter towards another, with a heavy heart, should come out & be free, I literally ran to the alter (other people came out sha). And for the first time in two & half years, I felt a burden was taken off me. I became free and happy again, started dating & now happily married to a very good man ?. I even invited his mum to my wedding & she came ?

    • gia

      February 17, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      LMAO!!!!I so wish I could see his face after his mom got the invitation!!!!!

  18. Choco

    February 16, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    I can so relate!!! My ex cheated on me several times & each time I wanted to leave, I couldn’t (pls don’t judge me). It can get really lonely in the UK without a boo, so I thought. He finally told me he didn’t love me anymore (This was someone I lost my virginity to @24…smh). I came back to Nigeria after my masters while he remained in the UK. It took me 2 years to finally get closure. I had to block every means of him reaching me. It was really hard and just when I finally got closure, the idiot resurfaced & added me up on bbm (he got married to an african british girl)… In his own words “You can’t get off my radar anymore”… It brought back all the sad memories. I deleted him off my bbm 3 days later cos I couldn’t handle it. 6 months later, I went for a Church programme & the pastor said anyone finding it difficult to forgive, so bitter towards another, with a heavy heart, should come out & be free, I literally ran to the alter (other people came out sha). And for the first time in two & half years, I felt a burden was taken off me. I became free and happy again, started dating & now happily married to a very good man ?. I even invited his mum to my wedding & she came ?

  19. Layla

    February 17, 2017 at 5:44 am

    Thanks alot ugo and bellanaija.
    God heals……..

  20. TEE

    February 17, 2017 at 10:42 am

    This babe is such a pity case ,like what the hell .No man should break you to this point … I have been cheated upon but good riddance…….

    I needed closure like this once when I discovered I was the sidechick for a married man or he was going to marry me when he was seperated ….boy I didn’t care which it was but bye Felicia …

    I called him to talk and we met and sat in a room but that was the day he knew I was not a good girl 100% , I could not be arsed….all he said ,his begging ,his kneeling bla bla bla I just didn’t care and that was the last I bothered about him .

    The babe was hoping he would take her back ,that’s why she further broke down when he said “I think this is the first step for us to move on”….I can’t blame him because he didn’t take her seriously and her scrutiny further made him run .

    If after the first time he cheated ,she told him bye and cut off communication ,he would have thought deep and if he indeed loves her ,he would come back to her . Boys like him ,loves girls who twist their arms.

  21. roseline

    February 17, 2017 at 12:51 pm

    hmmmmmm………………i can totally relate to this. i have been caught up in this kind of web if not even more worse than this,but i finally gathered the strength to move on. Its not easy especially when the love you feel for that person is genuine,you find it hard to leave and start making excuses for the guy. The biggest punishment you can put yourself through is “self denial”,and by the time i finally accepted the thruth that he doesnt love me no more,oh my God! it hurts,like really hurts and still hurts.i cried so much,i wanted the pain to go away,i wanted to move on,but itwas hard. I found myself going back and forth,he wasnt letting go either and i thought,oh! maybe he still loves me,and he is just distracted. I chose to ‘turn a blind eye’ to the disrespect,emotional abuse,physical abuse,emotional blackmail,his cheating escapades and lack of interest and not to mention but a few. Just like the guy in the video,he wasnt even bothered and showed no concern about the pain i was feeling. I constantly had to keep reminding myself saying…….”he is bad for you Roselyn, he is not the right guy for you” and i found a place in my heart to gradually let go and accept that you can’t control the way other people treat you,but you cant choose not to accept it. I am still in the process of forgiving him totally,but gradually i have allowed myself to move on. It hurts when you love someone wholeheartedly and they dont love you back.

  22. La!

    February 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm

    All these Deep videos sef.
    I’m just not at the point where I see why it was relevant. Like why? Was it necessary?
    I don’t think he was unbothered. I think men just process things differently than women.
    And when he asked why she stayed,I said “good question”. ?? .
    Also, I Loved how he recognized that they were in the first stages of moving on. I think he moved on faster though.

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