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“Together we can all lend a helping hand” – Olori Wuraola-Zynab Ogunwusi calls out to all Women to join the War against Domestic Violence

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Olori Wuraola-Zynab Ogunwusi

Wife of the Ooni of Ife, Olori Wuraola-Zynab Ogunwusi has joined the fight against the ugly trend of domestic violence in today’s society. Addressing women on her official Instagram page, she said:

Domestic abuse/emotional abuse/ violence against women have become so prevalent in our society these days. Decades ago it was okay for women to bear the burden and remain mute about the pains and effects of being victims. Not today. The veil has fallen off and the shame of what the world will think has been replaced with solidarity, empathy, and unity. Together we can all lend a helping hand and support our sisters, mothers, aunts, friends in saying No to domestic violence and abuse. By remaining silent, we are doing a great disservice to victims and their families. #Saynotodomesticviolence#NoViolenceAgainstWomen #NoMore#SilenceisDeadly #OloriWuraola#OoniofIfe

Photo Credit: Instagram – @oloriwuraolaogunwusi

 

33 Comments

  1. Funmi

    May 7, 2017 at 12:19 am

    #saynotodomesticviolence…..I stand with my sisters. God bless you beautiful queen

    • Sankawale

      May 7, 2017 at 5:40 pm

      AFTER Looking at North Sudanese soap opera on YouTube and realising they facially look the same as the YoRoBa of Nigeria. ID SUGGEST LOOKING @ THE STATISTICS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE OF THAT COUNTRY —- coz DAT could greatly help to explain – what’s going on Nigeria ??!

    • Respect the Ada

      May 7, 2017 at 5:44 pm

      Arabs by nature have declaired an open season on women globally – @nd a blood alliance isn’t something to be ‘cheered’ – As DAT trend greatly undermines our own African cultural values!

  2. caramel chic

    May 7, 2017 at 1:27 am

    Okay great. You want to #saynotodomesticviolnece what does it look like practically. I don’t want to see a press event as you ‘unvail’ this new initative. I want to see practical things done. No one is born an abuser whether physical or sexual. These things are learned and often validated before the person is caught. So Queen as you jump on this bandwagon can you please consider the following PRACTICAL aspects needed to deal with this case

    1. Emergency Call number for any woman that has been battered that she can call
    2. Social temporary housing, lets start with a 12 bedroom apartment. Each bedroom has 4 bunkbeds. This would be a private rest place for these women to seek refuge whilst they are going through the transition of leaving the physical/sexual abuse. They are provided with food and living expenses whilst they are their.Children can be homeschooled within the refuge whilst the issue is being dealt with.
    3. Complusive counselling session for two months before the woman and her children are required to leave the refuge home and move back to the family home. I am sure these sessions will bring out the real issues with the man and if it is an option they can choose to reconcile. None of this story of ‘it was the devil’ or ‘ i promise i will not do it again story; If the husband fails to acknowledge these terms his place of work will be informed with a legal document. The counselling sessions are also used as a way to enforce automatic imprisonent. If you do not attend all sessions. You will go to jail and await court. NO LONG TING!!!

    STAGE 2

    1. Start with 10 trained counsillors who volunteer their time to visit companies and teach anger and communication management. These sessions can be done in an hour and a half. Corporate companies can use this as part of of their social initative. The men beating these women must be helped. This means we are equipping our society with practical skills of dealing with conflict. Which many have no clue about. These men that we call animals for beating their wives. Parade amongst us wearing ties and shirts.

    STAGE 3: OUR FUTURE!!!
    We need youth ambassadors who go into secondary schools teaching communication and conflict resoloution. We can’t continue to raise boys who beat MEN. As animalistic as it is. The man beating your neighbour was once a little boy. Why isn’t he being taught from now.

    I need us to do practical things. Too many women dying in the midst of PR media noise.

    hashtagging #saynotoviolnece is not going to do anything but make noise. This issue needs solouton not noise.!

    If Queen has no cash her self. Let her start a fund that im sure Nigerina women will donate to.

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you sir, hope she will respond and not use it to raise funds for her pocket. we needs actions not wishy washy mouth only.

  3. Lisa

    May 7, 2017 at 3:18 am

    Awesome idea, members of the community can also serve as hosts for women in imminent danger.

    My neighbor has a sticker on her window panels where anyone in the community experiencing Dv and seeking immediate shelter/refuge recognizes and say temporarily.

  4. Marlee

    May 7, 2017 at 7:53 am

    Please educate me. Is not marrying a man with a wife already not abuse. Is that woman not being emotionally abused by the two. Is the first wife of this ooni not suffering now. Please madam queen take several seat and look at your doings. Hypocrite much.

    • Abi

      May 7, 2017 at 9:13 am

      @Marlee, well said. She needs to shift far far away from the topic.

    • Mama

      May 7, 2017 at 10:56 am

      See the problem? Even if she is the 10th wife so what? People are finally coming out to speak against something that had been swept under the carpet and you are judging her. Is this about her? Women are being killed in their homes and the men remarry. Every woman should come out please. Don’t discourage people from speaking out. It’s very important.

    • June

      May 7, 2017 at 1:00 pm

      Thank you!!

    • Tobi

      May 7, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Personally I think it’s about everywoman and the way we live. Do we by act or omission cater to and collude With perpetrators of domestic violence. Do women (be it mothers/side chicks/ sisters) by their actions give men a pass to lash out at their wives. It’s not what we say that matters it’s our actions that really count and speaks the loudest.

    • Lliki

      May 7, 2017 at 3:48 pm

      But, the Ooni has long divorced his former wife before Wuraola came into the picture!
      I might be wrong though.
      I say no to domestic violence no matter the gender involved.

    • Tobi

      May 7, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Was thinking the exact same thing,? but someone says he’d divorced the first wife before marrying this one

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 5:13 pm

      Thank you aunty, She needs to correct her ways first before getting involve in this issue, because she is a true picture of domestic violence.

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Thank you she needs not to be involved at all because all the past of Sonia Itohan covered with new name Wuraola otiti will come out to lime light unexpectedly and she will be put to shame.
      So pls advise her to shut her pomo lips and mouth up . thank you.

  5. Mama

    May 7, 2017 at 11:18 am

    I used to work in a bank. A member of the cleaning staff would always come to work with cuts and bruises. We would all whisper and look away. Her husband had beaten her again. One day we heard she had an accident at home and passed away. They said she fell. What do you think happened to that woman?
    We need to stay on the message.

  6. Me

    May 7, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Say No To Domestic Violence – The government needs to step in now and make this a law, that either party wife or husband who causes abuse either physically, emotionally, or psychologically would face the wrath of the law.

    Abuse hides in different forms – From the corporate men to the illiterate men who abuse their wives and children whilst the elders either intervene or turn a blind eye. This should stop…. Women and men should also be encouraged to speak out and assisted in not returning to such toxic environment.

    The churches have preached this enough, all said and done, there are pastors wives who are been abused but who do they turn to….. Domestic violence is a disease that must be eradicated.

    Stress management, money management and family unity are things that are quickly forgotten when economic crunch aka recession / austerity measure bites hard…. I have seen men leave their marriages because they cannot cope with providing financially for their families.

    Presidency over to you.

    • Idomagirl

      May 13, 2017 at 8:22 pm

      The law already exists.
      The Violence Against People Prohibition (VAPP) Act was signed by GEJ just before he left.
      The issue is enforcement and changing our attitudes.

  7. Nawa

    May 7, 2017 at 1:40 pm

    Sonia Itohan aka Wuraola Otiti – I believe a woman who oppresses another woman (the 1st wife) in her matrimonial home equals to domestic violence too. Why did you leave your husband to marry another for fame. Please ma, try to practice what you preach. Thank you

    • Bella

      May 7, 2017 at 3:34 pm

      People of the world would never let you move on from your past, like they themselves have not made mistakes. Many people are like this; they want you to keep wallowing in self pity, crying over your past failures, they want you to remain insecure. So when you grow past it and start doing something great, they try to drag you back and make your past public, so others can join in shaming you. This is called BULLYING!! Do you know if the first wife left on her own accord?
      This woman is trying to start an initiative that would help a lot of women out there, which is a great thing. Why not support? Let’s try to be supportive, jealousy and bullying is ugly.

    • Bia

      May 7, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Go and die my friend. It’s idiots like u who encourage women to die there. If It’s not working for you, leave. it might work for the next person

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 5:09 pm

      Thank you my sister, Sonia itohan is a true picture of domestic violence, in all her actions to her husband, Ellie, her family bullied and intimidated by her, and all her behaviour while with other former husbands is true and relivance of domestic violence. domestic violence not only affect women but also affects men as well.

  8. Marlee

    May 7, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    Another thing that as African ladies need to do is to stop putting up with nonsense of a man marrying more that two woman at the same time. It doesn’t matter he is a king or a god. Is there no king in Spain, England et al. Do they marry more wife’s. No. This nonsense need to stop. Woman need to value themselves. A marriage does not validated a person truly. If you a married and you are two, do you still feel proud and accomplished. Hell no.

  9. Bella

    May 7, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    People of the world would never let you move on from your past, like they themselves have not made mistakes. Many people are like this; they want you to keep wallowing in self pity, crying over your past failures, they want you to remain insecure. So when you grow past it and start doing something great, they try to drag you back and make your past public, so others can join in shaming you. This is called BULLYING!! Do you know if the first wife left on her own accord?
    This woman is trying to start an initiative that would help a lot of women out there, which is a great thing. Why not support? Let’s try to be supportive, jealousy and bullying is ugly.

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 5:02 pm

      i need to reply to one or two comment regarding your reponse to the issue of domestic violence / olori wuru wuru sonia itohan.
      1. oni of ife and his first wife are not seperated up till today, she was with her husband during his coronation in dec 2015, but sonia was no where to be found., then she was still a girlfriend to oni of ife and she claimed she was pregnant.
      2. She needs to shut her pomo lips up because she is a true picture and example of domestic violence, When she was was with Saminu turaki ( governor) She was very violent with him, She was with Ellie kouri (Baba Lebanese) she slaps him many times, abuse ellies mum ans bully her so much, she will break things in the same house they live together, lots of intimidation, abuse on this guy and his family, infact she is not worthy of putting her mouth on domestic violence issues at all.
      3. Due to bundle of lies of pregnancy that she lied to oni, and she insisted that she cannot live with his wife who has no child for him, so oni has to let go off the woman, and married her traditionally because both oni and olori bukola are legally married.
      4, Because oni of ife is a true yoruba man, a king, and a rich and powerful man, that was why she keeps pretending with how you see her now,and besides she still get what she wants, but she is living in bondage, because she has no freedom to go anywhere on her own, no freedom to go out on her own, no freedom to do things theway she want. sometimes she look miserable as to what is she doing here.
      5. Go back to the pics of Obasanjo 80th birthday when oni was greeting Dangote, See her reactions on the PIcs./ Linda ikeji on the Obasanjo 80th birthday.
      6. Let us all look on and wait we shall see the end of her in the Palace

    • mulikat

      May 29, 2017 at 11:52 pm

      No one is bullying her but her past is hunting her, because she is a bully her self, and her attitude of supporting this notion is unacceptable because she is violent and all her behaviour in her past marriages will speak for itself when the time comes. She is reaping all what she sows.

  10. Bella

    May 7, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    People of the world would never let you move on from your past, like they themselves have not made mistakes. Many people are like this; they want you to keep crying over your past failures and remain insecure. So when you grow past it and start doing something great, they try to drag you back publicly , so others can join in shaming u. This is called BULLYING!!This woman is trying to start an initiative that would help Our society,why not support? Let’s try to be supportive, jealousy and bullying is ugly.

  11. Anon

    May 7, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    @ Tobi exactly actions speak louder than words. It you act one way then say something else people are naturally going to do a double take because they don’t no which of your 2 faces to believe. Such is life. The best teachers are those who lead by example shikena no apology.

  12. OJ

    May 7, 2017 at 11:56 pm

    Na wa ooo!!! so much coded beef against this woman…..people have easily forgotten that their idol Mercy Johnson pulled exactly the same stunt to marry that prince…women shaa, una wahala too much abeg!!!

    • Awiase

      May 8, 2017 at 2:48 am

      @OJ no need to mention names.If someone is really guilty of something my dear God knows and each one would reap what he or she sowed.Forget the smiles,behind closed doors such ones would be crying.But however The Queen carries a good messsge which we must walk the talk not only talk the talk.My only disappointments is that who is speaking for the man?.They are also abused as much and they also need to be catered for.There are countless of men who suffer constant physical abuse from their wives that I can confirm myself.Some are always need stitches each wrk yet embarrassed to report to the police or get help.For get about the sex,I wish men suffering abuse cash be empowered to come out if their shell and report because far be it from anyone but it could happen to your uncle,brother ,cousin or son

    • saide

      May 8, 2017 at 7:50 am

      which person idol?

  13. Passingby

    May 8, 2017 at 12:53 am

    The best teachers are those that lead by example Biko I want to patent that sentence. Simple True talk.

  14. madam jessy

    May 13, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    Do not stay in a bad relationship just to satisfy church memebers. 80% of poeple stayed back bc of what poeple will say. Whereas 20% stayed bc of “NO” money to move out. Nigeria women/men are so ashamed to get out of a bad relationship just bc of what poeple will say. My dear your life belong to GOD.

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