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Evelyn Oluwole: Don’t Be a Maternity Potato

Evelyn Oluwole

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Congratulations! You are expecting a baby. This is a very exciting time in your life and things are going to change drastically from here, I can assure you! Now what? As a mother who has experienced the wonderful maternity life twice, here are my tips to maximise your time off and make the period work for you.

Start saving
The minute you find out you are pregnant start saving. Babies are expensive, especially the first one because you have to buy everything! Reduce your outings and both you and your partner should put away baby fund. This will become so necessary when you are buying the nursery furniture, the buggy, feeding essentials, and so on.

Work hard in the office
This is not the time to put your feet up. Yes, you need to take it easy in the first 12 weeks, but do ensure that you are on top of your work. You do not want to be seen as a liability, especially if you want to return to work. A lot of women get managed out the minute they inform their company that they are pregnant. Do not be a victim to this. Work as hard as possible.

Build a ‘Mummy’ friendship network
Join communities for expectant mothers, these can be found online via a forum. In the UK we have ‘New Parent Support’ (NCT) which is fabulous. You get to meet with other expectant mothers, join classes for breastfeeding and yoga. It is such a great way to meet other people in your neighbourhood. Trust me. when you are off, you will realise that the whole world is not and you need people to keep you sane; so, make mummy-friends!

Become a ‘Mompreneur’
Yes, you want to go back to work but do you really only have one skill? Nurture your skills: those things that you love, but don’t really focus on. This is the perfect time to develop them and you never know what it can turn into. There are so many successful women who started their business whilst on maternity. We all know Mary Kay. She already had extensive experience in direct sales, but after years of being passed over for promotions in favor of her male colleagues, she decided to start her own business. So in 1969, with $5,000 in savings, Ash and her 20-year-old son started Beauty by Mary Kay

Use your KIT (Keeping in Touch) days
Most companies offer 10 KIT days for you to use whilst you are on maternity. It’s an opportunity for you to keep informed of the business. So, if there is a team building day or strategy day then use your KIT day and the best part is you get paid for it so it comes in very handy. You can also use it for regular meetings with your manager to discuss role and weaning yourself back into the business! Do not get left out, girl!

Create a routine at home
You are home bound now for several months so put routines in place for the cleaning, cooking, ironing etc. This will serve you well when you get back to work. Yes, you are looking after a new born…but, you need to keep the place tidy too. I hear so many say “oh forget about cleaning” but if you do, who will help you? Exactly! You can do it, so get a routine in place.

Date your partner
I know that the first thing on your mind when your partner gets home is “here! take your child”, or “I need a break” and I hear you on that, believe me! But, it is so important to bond with your partner and outside of the home. Being a mother is a full time job and you need a break so decide on a day in the month or fortnightly or weekly if you are lucky, but make it special and spend time together alone.

Enjoy your baby
For many women this is the first time they have had a long break from work so please make it count! The time goes by so quickly and before you know it, you are back at work. Make sure you do enjoy your baby, go out and do fun activities together.

I would love to hear some of your stories, so share them!

E.O x

Photo Credit: Joana Lopes | Dreamstime

My name is Evelyn Oluwole and I have over 15 years experience in media sales creating marketing solutions for some of the biggest brands in the world. I am also the founder of Nigerian Top Weddings launching in 2018! I have a deep passion to ‘Take over the world’ and I believe that we can do it. Knowledge is power!

12 Comments

  1. Mar

    July 17, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    Mehn, I wonder how everyone else has done it. 10 weeks into this first pregnancy and I hate it. I really hate it. I cant eat. I can’t enjoy things I used to. Just breathing and existing is uncomfortable. No one at work knows yet and I have to pretend I’m fine but I’m miserable. I always want to throw up. Always. But I never do. I heard it gets better after 12 weeks. Actually I read not heard.
    I cannot wait. I hope it does. I want to be happy and enjoy the thought of having a baby. But it is really difficult. I feel very miserable. And I have everything in life that I need so I know the feeling is just internal, not caused by any external factor. Let this just pass through fast.

    • Nne

      July 18, 2017 at 5:17 am

      I’m so sorry you are going through this. It will get better. Been there so I can relate a bit. May the 40 weeks come quickly and may the nausea fade away too. E hugs to you. Be blessed

    • bolintin

      July 18, 2017 at 9:15 am

      Just know that I love you right here. E-hugs to you.

    • Doyin

      July 18, 2017 at 2:52 pm

      Sorry dear, I felt same way too. I used to vomit everyday, spitting here and there, I was always feeling sick, weak and tired, but that was between the 7th week and 16th week. I feel much better now. It is well with u my dear. It’s a phase

  2. Berry Dakara

    July 17, 2017 at 6:03 pm

    YES to everything! I would also add – Prepare fpr the unexpected. We don’t wish it but some people may run into complications in their pregnancy. I planned to work until my due date but my baby came over a month early. I wasn’t prepared at all but thankfully i had my family and they rallied around me.

    • Puzzles

      July 18, 2017 at 7:06 am

      OMG!!!!!!
      Congratulations Berry!!! Praise God!!!

  3. Smiless

    July 17, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    This was such a pleasure to read. I am not married or pregnant yet but it’s great that we are opening up as a people and sharing tips to help each other out. I will be bookmarking this page to share with any friends or family that may need it in the near future. Keep up the good work.

  4. Uberhaute looks

    July 18, 2017 at 12:42 am

    Beautiful points but pregnancies are different and bodies aren’t the same. Each person should deal with it the beat way she can

  5. Victoria Salami

    July 18, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    Nice article and take on advice to mothers ….. as a mother myself I agree you grow to learn what works best as children are all different… it is nice to read a mothers experience of her own…….

  6. Favour

    July 18, 2017 at 8:41 pm

    I am pregnant to God be the glory but trust me if you are the most hardworking woman on earth , you need to rest or have a break during first trimester, I was spotting and sometimes pray, felt emotional, baby is fine but vomiting every morning when I attempt to brush my teeth.., I decided to take few days off work. It’s helped my mood. My wonderful sweet sister came to keep my company too. I wish everyone a pleasant journey. Do your work well when in office but don’t overdo it. My 2 cents

  7. Favour

    July 18, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Also yes plan for a business to keep you busy during maternity if you are like me that can’t be idle ??God bless my hubby … he will say bed rest that is what is called , not forming busy cleaning, washing , cooking… God bless we superwomen ???

  8. Folake Ojo

    July 18, 2017 at 9:51 pm

    I’m not a mother yet but some very useful points here that i will definitely come back to for the future! All experiences are different indeed but there’s no harm in taking on advice or reading other experiences for prevention, support and enlightenment. Fab read!x

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