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BN Confessions Box: I Will Not be Scammed by a London Girl in 2017



Hi guys, BN Confession Box is a feature on BellaNaija – curated by Nkem Ndem.

The Confession Box is our virtual confessor’s box where BellaNaijarians can let loose and say their deepest and rawest fears.
These letters are from you, and we’ll ensure that your identity is protected. Everybody needs some form of outlet or the other.


I just informed my girl that I will be sending her N500,000 to pay her staff at the salon, but right now I don’t even have up to 15k in my spending account and I don’t want to dig my hand into alternatives. I don’t even know why I made such a promise. I mean, I’m just here in my bed wondering how I got to this point. I don’t think I can do this anymore and truly I blame myself. I should not have given too many lies or started with a high hand. And to be honest I feel like I have been scammed.

When I met my girl, not to insult her, I was not initially attracted to her because she was not what you will describe as a slay queen. She is clean, but shape-wise, you can mistake her for an Abuja mango on a very good day.

The reason I became so enamored with her later was how intelligent and put together she sounded with her London accent and all. When I met her, she said to me that she had her first and second degrees from the UK; she had her own business now in Lekki – she owns a salon…and she still lived with her parents in Lekki phase 1. Very cute and homely girl! In my mind, I imagined she was a hardcore Ajebutter…I have a thing for Ajebutter girls. They are my weakness. But little did I know all that was packaging. Me, being the fool that I am, told her that I worked at the bank and in addition to that I lied and told her that I own two houses in Ajah that I collect rent from every month and I am building my third. I also even lied about so many other things…I think I was just insecure and wanted her to see me as someone on her level or someone who deserves her.

To be honest, I really thought I wouldn’t need to spend too much to impress her since she seemed to have her shit together, but lai lai! From expensive dinners, it turned into me picking her up and paying for her Taxify and Ubers, then the long weekend staycations in fancy hotels…not that she is superb in bed or anything. I even paid for a personal trainer for her at Fitness central in Lekki hoping she will become more flexible. All these expenses have been draining me but I have not complained or really felt like giving up until now.

She came crying to me that her salon was “robbed” a while back, but she did not want to mention it because she didn’t want to stress me, but now she is owing some of her staff and she really needs to pay them, I should please support her with only 500k. I think the “only” she said, was what made me agree to transfer the money to her first thing tomorrow morning…but I don’t think I can take that kind of financial risk right now. If I am giving 500k now, how much will I now give when I become a sugar daddy? Yes, I work in the bank and I have savings, but I also have plans for myself. I cannot be digging into my savings for this girl. I am just considering blocking her on all platforms. I mean she doesn’t know my house and has not met any of my real friends, so I can really pull it off.

It’s not even about the money, I am just realizing that I have had the wrong impression of this girl since and I have been wasting my time. She is not even intelligent as I thought. The accent and fancy words deceived me. I think I want to be done because it does not make sense to be living this kind of lie just to please a girl. It does not make me a bad person. I cannot be a mumu for love in this 2017 that has almost finished.

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  1. Sherlock

    August 20, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    “Staycation” was a give away. This was not written by a male…

    • Tee

      August 21, 2017 at 10:36 am

      Let people enjoy things!

    • Darmeks

      August 22, 2017 at 4:41 pm

      Some Bella naija readers can be so annoying. So because of a simple and even a commonly used word as staycation. An oversabi has concluded, it was written by a female. Sometimes I tire for all the I too know here, who in reality knows nothing.

  2. Manny

    August 20, 2017 at 5:42 pm


  3. Simisola

    August 20, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    Lol.. ode

  4. ***

    August 20, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Eko for show! Lmao … go check yourself for staph or syphillis or herpes etc … keep your money and your di*k in their decent respective places henceforth until you have a wife

  5. Zee

    August 20, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    You both deserve each other ……u are both deceivers and decievees at the same time. She couldnt even get to know u reach house first before she decided that her maga must pay……while u….cause u a broke ass…..u decided her English is not pure enough for you anymore……smdh

  6. o

    August 20, 2017 at 7:01 pm

    This is super story……..

  7. Daphne_647

    August 20, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Abuja mango?! ??????

  8. Nahum

    August 20, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    You this man, you are as much of a thief as the girl. You were hoping to meet an “Omo Baba Olowo” so that you can reap where you did not sow. WHen you now found out it was packaging, you lost interest. You deserve each other. Theives!!!

  9. Shior

    August 20, 2017 at 10:58 pm

    With the way you have spoken about her she definitely dodged a bullet . Kmt

  10. Tayo

    August 21, 2017 at 4:48 am

    Homeboy… #beonthemove cos as you dey, she ready finish you with many other “500k only”. I know how bad it can to” wanna keep up with the Joneses” especially as a sucker for Ajebutter pikins dem, but it never works out that way. ‘Eye ave shuk’ and as Falz said “Ika o wodi anymore”…it seems too many girls have joined “bad gang”. See It doesn’t matter whether you are a bad guy or clean boy looking for Love…. you go try small !
    My advice, whatever you do, don’t lie, don’t create an impression, don’t form ‘aje’, just be you, stay your lane , be straight and honest…. trust me, doesn’t matter whether or not the girl has multiple ivy-leagues degrees, if she go like you, she go like you, Stay woke and descent, a descent girl will come through. Certainly a lot of “frogs” out there, I know cos I learnt the hard way,….oh and lose “london girls” number,you are better off! all the best mate.

  11. marvel

    August 21, 2017 at 9:30 am

    Sherlock…just enjoy the story nah. haba!!!

  12. Jade

    August 21, 2017 at 10:37 am

    This is the funniest shit i have read in a while

  13. confession

    August 23, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    So I have my own confession to make, this one written by me. I don’t know how to tell my spouse that our third child may not be his. U see at first I was a faithful and dutiful wife until I found series of instances where he might have cheated on me. Some of which he accepted and apologized. I lived in distress those times from the escapades and unsatisfying sex life. Then I met a friend and we started having an affair. I soon stopped because I could not continue living this lie. Fast forward to years after, I travelled and felt insecure about my spouse affair and I met up with the same friend. After a while I was pregnant and I seriously believed it was for my hubby. Except my son was born with a different blood group from my husband and I. Now every day I live with this sin, this lie over my head. Knowing that if I tell him our marriage would end plus both families would hate me for this act. What do I do?

    • b\

      August 31, 2017 at 6:08 pm

      Pray about it if you are a christain.
      Ask God to show you how to deal with it and if you must tell put everyone in prayer first.

    • ope

      September 5, 2017 at 8:14 am

      Divorce your husband and marry your friend. Girl bye

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