Connect with us


Nonso Ikiliagwu: Show them the Right Way to Act



I was headed to camp ground one Saturday morning and decided to join the free buses. On getting to the pick-up point at Yaba there was an expected long queue. I went to the last spot on the line and counted about sixty people ahead of me. I was going to join the next bus (it was the popular BRT bus about 50 seats). I was going to ignore everything happening around me, but I realised three buses had come and gone, and I had not even moved fifteen steps. “What is happening there o?” I asked. No one answered me, not like I was expecting a response… I secured my spot on the queue using the famous “I’m coming, I’m behind you” line and went to have a look see at what was going on in front.

On getting there I noticed a lot of people trying to shunt the queue. One which caught my attention was a woman with three children trying to join the queue. I had spotted her earlier. She strolled in leisurely with her kids about 30 minutes after I joined the queue. So, all things being equal, she and her kids were supposed to be way behind me. She was begging to join the queue. Her begging line was “You people should allow me enter now you see I have children.” I responded to her softly – even though I wanted to shout out loud.
“Haba! Madam, you should even go to the end of the line because of the children.Are you telling them that it is right to jump queues?”

She rolled her eyes at me and continued her pleading – this time with less confidence.

I watched the kids rejoice as they jumped into one of the seats. I was angry. Not because I was still in the queue (that was part of it though) but because the kids have received a wrong orientation. What did this woman just teach these kids?

I was going to keep judging the lady and all that, but I started feeling this awkward sensation in my tummy, like some premature Déjà vu. I had been a villain in a somewhat similar scenario…

I remember one morning while studying in London, I overslept. I was running late for one of my classes, so I just ran across the road while the pedestrian traffic light was still red. There was a not-so-old man with his little girl waiting to cross the road too. I should have just waited for the “green man”, because we ended up on the same bus – mumu rush.

I noticed the little girl stealing periodic glances at me and I got concerned. She must have asked her dad (let’s assume he’s her dad) why I crossed the road that way. I clearly heard him say “She’s not a bad person, though that’s not the right thing to do. They even sang one poem about “don’t cross till you see the green man …” I sat there thinking of my life and couldn’t wait to get to my stop. I kept on wondering the seed I could have sown in that little girl’s heart if her dad wasn’t there to correct her.

Immediately, I stopped judging her and brought out my note and started to scribble this post for us… I have been guilty too! Yes! I was guilty then but I won’t consciously be guilty again. Since then I get extremely conscious around kids and teenagers.

The hearts of the young ones are very fertile soils, they are very fast learners. If you have a toddler at home, this may make more sense to you. Children build their standards based on what they hear and watch us do. They are quick to learn, and do accordingly. Do we even imagine what goes on in their mind when they are alone? What if you are that child’s role model and you don’t know.

Let’s consciously practise what we preach around them. Watch our actions and censor words around them and when we are alone (they may be peeping). What seeds have you sown into the heart of children around you? I do not want to be responsible for the next generation of ill-mannered and ill-bred adults. I am making a pledge to consciously (and even unconsciously) sow good seeds in the life of every child I meet. You should join me too.

Photo Credit: Daniel Korzeniewski | Dreamstime

Nonso is a young lady passionate about inspiring people through talking and writing.  She has a BSc in Geology  and an MSc in Petroleum Geoscience. She loves baking, traveling and reading mystery novels. She blogs at .


  1. Onyeka

    August 10, 2017 at 8:03 am

    Little drops make an ocean…how much progress society can make if we all consciously strive to do good. Nice thoughts Nonso, weldone!

  2. Blessing1

    August 10, 2017 at 8:16 am

    Lovely write up!

  3. Teris

    August 10, 2017 at 8:18 am

    Ha ha.
    I truly commend your honesty.

  4. Eniola Keshinro

    August 10, 2017 at 8:55 am

    Nice piece Nonso! Well done. We should all strive to leave a positive imprint on everyone we meet, young ones especially. Thanks for the reminder ?

  5. Aerodave

    August 10, 2017 at 9:00 am

    ? lmao.. you should wait for the green man ooo… Noniki well done. Great write up!! I wii nor shunt queue again. And I wii nor gree for any woman o., even if it’s you and you carry 60 shidren o..
    thank you so much for the great lesson

  6. Karen

    August 10, 2017 at 9:05 am

    This cant be over emphasized!! Thank you for this

  7. Anita

    August 10, 2017 at 9:08 am

    some of these kids even know more than us… but I will try. Thanks dear

  8. Melinda

    August 10, 2017 at 11:40 am

    Great article. I hope people learn and pay attention. Training a child and grooming a child for the future starts now, not when the child is almost becoming a teenager. kudos

  9. chrisyinks

    August 10, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Just joined you. Enlightening article!

  10. Dr.N

    August 10, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    I agree with you in principle and she appears to have taken advantage of her having kids
    However in most cases parents with young children should be given priority( emphasis on young)

  11. Taiwo Blessing

    August 11, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    Reminds me of a day I was in the saloon and the lady making my hair called her daughter an idiot for scattering something(she has two daughters,one about 4 years old and the other about 2 years old)..About 5 mins later,d little girl called her older sister an idiot for doing something to her. And the woman replied:Look at this small girl calling her sister an idiot…I just blurted out without thinking..Madam u taught her, so u dare not spank her..I always make it a point of duty to show good example to children whenever and wherever.

    Nice write up my friend..

  12. chinny

    August 14, 2017 at 7:04 am

    Yea children are the future leaders and in such a degenerate economy like ours I wonder what values the little ones hold dear. it’s our responsibility to guide them so they don’t get lost along the way. Nicely written Monikie

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Tangerine Africa

Star Features