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It’s a story told often enough that it’s familiar to everyone. You tell someone “I don’t want children,” and the reply is “You’ll change your mind.”

Well, some people really do not want children. It’s just not something they want for themselves. And that’s fine!

Christen Reighter gave an insightful TED Talk on the obstacles women face when they decide not to have children.

A topic that probably should be discussed more often, Reighter says she decided to get her tubes tied because she didn’t want to wake up one day and realize “I’d had a child I didn’t really want.”

Watch her speak below:

4 Comments

  1. ajankolokolo

    November 23, 2017 at 8:19 am

    I remember the first time i told someone i’m not sure about having kids, she shunned me and told me to shut up. It can’t even be a conversation in Nigeria.
    Having kids is a social construct, and in Africa, its more like a culture to have kids, You are not even allowed to explore any other option to the contrary.
    Since i was 13, i have always wondered why everyone must have kids and why people shame couples who don’t have kids because they are unable to.
    Besides individual reasons for not wanting kids, Nigerian’s are blind to the population explosion that is bound to happen in a few years.

    p.s. People that don’t want kids doesn’t mean they hate kids.
    Oprah is one of the famous people that don’t want to have kids.

    • john

      November 23, 2017 at 10:17 am

      Did Oprah told you she doesn’t want kids?..if you do not want kids, fine.thats your business but stop justifying it with false innuendos…I call self -consolations….I can already guess your age

    • Ivy

      November 23, 2017 at 11:44 am

      @john, with men like you, why would she be eager to have a child? Abeg shift!!!

    • Christen Reighter

      December 10, 2017 at 8:14 am

      Hi ajankolokolo, Thank you for watching and commenting! Like you, I was always so curious why this construct was cemented so firmly as a given, not a choice/life-path to consider among many other choices. I was aware very young that this expectation of people (especially women, in my culture) must limit how people live their lives, forcing the hands of many people who might have have a different, revolutionary path ahead of them, like great artists, innovators, or scientists.
      Wishing you the best!
      -Christen Reighter

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