Atoke’s Monday Morning Banter: They’re Looking But We Just Don’t CarePosted on Monday, March 11th, 2013 at 10:39 AM
Monday morning is that time when you don’t need any thing getting in your way. It is on Monday that you’d be most frustrated if you have a flat tyre on the Third Mainland bridge, or when those pesky Road Safety marshals decide to pull you over and start asking for the left eye of a Brazillian lizard. Nobody needs stress of any type on a Monday morning… especially with this heat wave that has settled and has refused to even take a small break.
However, when stress comes, you need to have some sort of tension relief mechanism. For instance, for the life of me I couldn’t figure out where I dropped my wallet. I searched everywhere, did a mental backtracking to the last time I saw it and… nothing. I was starting to get frazzled and worked up and then the image of Nollywood “bad boy” at Africa Magic Viewers Choice Awards floated to the top of my head and I just started laughing. Morale of the cool story? There’s always a reason to smile.
Speaking of the awards, the organizers did a good job and it’s really exciting that we’re making great strides in the entertainment industry. Anyway, while at the event, there was this really good looking couple beside me and it appeared like they couldn’t get their hands off each other. It was really cute to see. The babe kept running her hands down the boo’s ears, neck, arms. Boo’s fingers running back and forth babe’s thighs. She was giggling quite a lot so it was really difficult not to notice.
It felt like I was at two shows. The one on the stage and the guys by my right.
On our long ride back to the mainland my friend said “So what was doing those ones beside you? Shebi they were coming from home and they’d still go back to their house. Ki lo de de?” I laughed and called her an enemy of public love. I said “Abeg, abeg, it was shacking them and rightly so. Love is not easy to find“.
“Ahn ahn! Don’t they even care that everybody is looking at them?”
We laughed about it and right there I knew what we were going to talk about this morning. What’s up with Public Display of Affection (PDA) really? Some people are really touchy-feely people and when they’re in that phase of their relationships they can’t get enough of each other. Some people have argued that PDA is a way of marking their territory “Notice how firmly my hand is gripping that behind? Well yeah, that bum is mine!” “See how far my tongue is down her throat? Well, I’m working it down there… it’s all mine. Keep away!”
It has been argued that on this side of the world, we have a faux sense of self consciousness and as such it’s not common practice. People of that school of thought have argued that PDA is a western import and that we (they mean Nigerians) are more “reserved and decent” *chuckles*
Is there anything wrong with showing love in public really? I mean, imagine an expressive and emotional person having her true nature suppressed because she’s trying to conform to certain societal norms and dictates. Someone said that there’s a place to draw the line – so who determines where that line is drawn? Are you a fan of PDA? Where have you drawn the line in expressing how you feel in public?
Anyway, I gotta love you and leave you guys now. Have a fabulous week ahead. Visit BellaNaija everyday because we have some super amazing features this week. I also have two autographed copies of BankyW’s album for giveaway! So please send an email to features(at)bellanaija(dot)com if you’re interested and we’ll let you know how you can pick up.
Remember to love, to laugh and to stay positive in the face of all adversity.
Peace, love and cupcakes!
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