Chioma “Chigul” Omeruah shares a Deep Hurt Most African Women can Relate to on Teaser 5 of “King Women” | Watch

We really cannot wait for the full episodes of Kemi Adetiba’s “King Women” series because the teasers have been so captivating.

The fifth woman featured on the upcoming series is actress and comedian Chioma “Chigul” Omeruah.

In the teaser, Chigul talks about the deep hurt she has felt in her past relationships. She also talks about societal pressures on marriages and more. It’s so honest.

Watch below.

89 Comments on Chioma “Chigul” Omeruah shares a Deep Hurt Most African Women can Relate to on Teaser 5 of “King Women” | Watch
  • Miss Mo March 11, 2016 at 10:56 am

    Wow, never seen such and honest interview before, I actually teared up.

    • Temi March 11, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      Was I the only one thinking this was skit and that towards the end Chygurl will burst into some Igbo dance or rant?

      Deep though. Sometimes our parents can be unreasonable with their marriage obsession

  • Miss Mo March 11, 2016 at 10:57 am

    An honest

  • Jenny March 11, 2016 at 11:04 am

    Made me wana cry 🙁 its always hurtful when ur home falls apart…..Our generation is different from our parents…our mums believed in sticking it out while this generation wants to be heard!
    May God give us all grace….more importantly ladies, we get to agree to a man so mind the man you agree to marry….Its better when he is God fearing…God help us 🙂 it is well tho

  • July March 11, 2016 at 11:09 am

    This is heartbreaking, can’t help the tears. Chioma m sending u a 1000 e hugs. So many of us carry burdens behind dose smiles, makeup and pretty clothes. God grant us all our desires. amen

  • Modele March 11, 2016 at 11:09 am

    Whaooooo.Chigurl..u re one of my favourite and today I decree that everything will add up soon and those other things that you want will begin to fall into place ,your joy shall become fuller,great shall be your peace and dat man that will compliment you will locate you in Jesus Christ name….love u Bae

  • JESSICA March 11, 2016 at 11:18 am

    You heard her say her life and success is great….but you see the huge vacuum there.
    So to all these single ladies shouting we dont need a man, thats not the way women are wired. we are wired to own a home, and love our families…there is always a vacuum!
    Most older single girls will tell you tales of depression resulting from singleness….. 🙁

    • Lucinda March 11, 2016 at 11:44 am

      You seem like a man pleaser who tells herself “men are scarce” when her man hits her.

    • Chimamanda’s Afro March 11, 2016 at 12:08 pm

      God please deliver us from souls like this who will witness such heartfelt messages but still stubbornly stick to the stupid beliefs their pastor/imam/daddy/mom/grandma has told them!!!

      NOT ALL WOMEN (OR HUMAN BEINGS) ARE WIRED TO WANT CONVENTIONAL FAMILIES. Because we are social beings, we desire companionship and love. You can get these things through your mother, father, mentor, mentee, close friends, siblings, nieces, nephews, children (even out of wedlock- SURPRISE!), pets and even a well-meaning f*** buddy. How do nuns and priests cope without conventional families??? How did Paul cope??? How did Jesus cope??? The ultimate fulfillment in life is not marrying and having children; it is feeling loved. So please while you’re longing for a man, remember it is not by force or by “wire”, it is a personal preference. Stop spreading lies based on your experiences.

      • Mr. Egghead March 11, 2016 at 12:45 pm

        Why are you mentioning Jesus and Paul? Are they women?

    • hezekina pollutina March 11, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      Times are changing dear.

    • Natu March 11, 2016 at 12:37 pm

      lol@ we are wired to own our home. Yes I own my home and it is one hell of a home. I just don’t want a man in it!!!! Please speak for yourself because you do not represent all women!!!

      • Bradley Stu March 11, 2016 at 1:49 pm

        So if you don’t want a man in it, you must have adopted one of these options to cope with some physical needs
        1. you must have an extensive dildo collection
        2. you have man friends who you can call on to do the needful which means you are willingly fornicating
        3. you are currently in a convent.

      • Natu March 11, 2016 at 2:14 pm

        @Bradely non of the above darling. I am busy getting my paper up. Trying to become the next Bill Gate.

    • Engoz March 11, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      You must have the IQ of a lizard. You obviously don’t know anything about depression otherwise you won’t reduce the illness to such infantile senseless remark.

    • Anonee March 11, 2016 at 1:01 pm

      She spoke for herself and not all single women, one size doesn’t fit all.

    • Corolla March 11, 2016 at 1:25 pm

      @Jessica, Your mind is so one tracked.. So Chigurl is now the spokes person for all single women?

    • newbie March 11, 2016 at 1:27 pm

      Did you even listen to her at all? She said (and I paraphrase) that what she desires most is not necessarily being in a relationship, but giving her mum grandchildren ie having kids. So yes it is possible to not necessarily want a man, but crave children, as a woman. If at all we are ‘wired’ to do anything, it is to want to reproduce and nurture our young and most times, that strong desire a.k.a. broodiness does not rear its head up until much later in a woman’s reproductive years. It’s like something suddenly says to you Omg if I don’t do it now I may never…….then the pressure intensifies,- biological, social, parental and self-inflicted. I also acknowledge that for some women, it manifests earlier and for some, not at all.

      Of course I see why it’s easy to conflate wanting kids with wanting a man – it’s like ‘buy one get one free’. You want kids? Well then you must first have a man. Biologically you need a sperm and an egg. And to get a man’s sperms well you kinda have to be in some sort of a relationship with him. Preferably marriage in our social construct. But yeah, some people are so done with men, and if there was any way to legitimately bypass them, they would. Some are doing so too- read sperm donor conception. But I wouldn’t blame anyone who’s hesitant to go down that route because there are so many unknowns.

      All in all Chygurl, may the peace of God which passes all understanding, come upon you and envelope you. It’s out of your hands and in God’s hands therefore IT IS WELL WITH YOU.

      • Gertrude March 11, 2016 at 8:07 pm

        I don’t agree with you about the wanting kids that’s why you want a man. Single mothers, widows and divorced individual want companionship too!

    • Udegbunam Chukwudi March 11, 2016 at 2:54 pm

      @Jessoca You siddon watch this video finish and this was your conclusion?! Chai! You just resemble lost case! Mscheeeeeeeeeeeew!

    • Temi March 11, 2016 at 3:45 pm

      I like your not so coy single-shaming

    • Someone Naughty March 14, 2016 at 12:38 am

      That’s all you really got from this video?!

    • jay March 14, 2016 at 6:10 pm

      because u wired us abi?

    • Nnenna April 6, 2016 at 1:11 pm

      Ahhhh…..

  • O~Intuition! March 11, 2016 at 11:20 am

    Thank You So Much Chigurl for your Honesty.

    Tests of Relationships…
    When we take relationships with certain people very dearly (as one who is a confidant) and they literally/figuratively turn against us, it hurts. When we feel the need of certain people as our support and they seem to be cruel literally/figuratively, its is psychologically fatiguing.
    Parents, siblings or people whom are supposedly meant to be some sort of cover/support for one, fail us most times and it can be psycho-socio-physically draining!

    We might not understand this much – Focus on Your Primary Source …God! People WILL disappoint.
    People you believe you’ve built a long endearing relationship will disappoint you. Gear up yourself for such moment if they sadly come up.

    For Goodness Sake Mothers can be terrible when it comes to relationships of their female children. You will see a mother encouraging her male son to end a ‘supposedly’ 8-year courtship with his female partner because the female partner isn’t from her tribe or her husband’s tribe…or she mother) give a very”unreasonable” reason.
    Then you find this same mother cursing out a daughter who cannot quickly be in an engaging conversation (unto marriage) with someone whom she barely knows within one year. Some go as far as forming some bond with the male partner of their daughters to form some sort of alliance against their own daughter.

    I was in a relationship I ended for many good reasons.
    During the course of the break, my mother kept contact with this guy who kept giving ‘bad reviews’ about me which my mother literally believed. The funniest of his accusations is that I was not submissive. This is a boyfriend. My mother capitalized on the submissive story unto coming years.
    Fast forward several years, I NEVER discuss ANY relationship with my mum. So much so she thinks the guy was my last boyfriend. This (he being my last boyfriend) she brings up every year till this year when she concluded that “they said” I have a spirit husband. She kept emphasis on the supposed last boyfriend she knows, as the spirit husband. I LITERALLY LAUGHED OUT LOUD and had to shut down all her harassment all the years; with warnings that she should not tell any one to call me on the talk of marriage again! Because she literally keeps going around telling people that I am not dating talk less of getting married @ 30. Many more saddening stories.
    I still love her DEEPLY… In the words of Chigurl – “I don’t wanna feel that way because I love her,… I really love her”! 😀 #TRUE!

    The disappointment in supposedly endearing relationships eat much into an individual’s daily life. Cos for me, I just can’t date any guy because I feel (for many ODD reasons) he must be near perfect. That for me is psychologically draining.
    Even personal projects have been put on hold because I feel being unmarried is my paramount problem. I have projects lingering years which I literally can’t focus on… I literally have diminished motivation.

    Do not get my message wrong. I love my family DEARLY… So much so I pray for them more than myself. I pray for excellence in every individual. Then I pray for myself.
    It just hurts that when you fuel the energy of certain people, they just seem unloving towards you. Not that you demand of them any thing physical or what have you.

    What has been going on for me is my NEVER GIVE IN attitude. When things turn bad, I pick my self up immediately. Even if it takes me crawling up. Because Yorubas will say “aye ma so eniyan si owun ti wan ma fi eniyan pe” … Meaning: Take your eyes off the crowd – hearsays, gossips about et al, FOCUS On Your Life; Don’t adapt to what people think is best for you (I hope the Yoruba folks here give me a pass…  ).

    Life is more than getting Married as opposed to being single, getting Academic A grade as opposed to B, having an Oil and Gas job as opposed to being a teacher.
    Let us Stay Happy and Be Hopeful for the Best. That for me is Healthy Living.

    By the Grace of God, I would not hold my children to certain standards. I will let God and God alone have his way. Inasmuch as I want to be their friends for life with them, I will not encroach on their space literally/figuratively. I will not place them In positions of psychological fatigue.
    This is an Open Prayer and God you know I am reclusive. But on this Matter, every one’s support prayer is Valid.

    Make your children have ‘a place to land’ in their difficult times. Mothers, Fathers, Every-Supposedly-Thoughtful-Friend-Or-Family, …STOP being Intrusive.

    Life is hard, let us not make it hard on people we SINCERELY LOVE. Let us live and Let live!

    Thank You Good People!

    • Radiant March 11, 2016 at 11:54 am

      I feel you. 🙂 Keep your head up, love.

      • Bleed Blue March 11, 2016 at 1:21 pm

        Wow! Your words got to me deep.

        I have no appropriate response. I’ll just agree with you in prayer. God bless you!.

    • Bey March 11, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      E-hugs darling.
      Don’t think you are alone in all that you said, I also got married a bit late and I know what I went thru as a single girl.
      Different family members calling to pray for you, invite you to see one pastor or the other. The pastor will tell your parents all sorts of things. And the funny thing is each comes with different stories / visions ( go figure ).
      One pastor even gave my number to one razz doctor guy that cldnt speak English, that wld always introduce himself as ”Dr Whatever”. I just shook my head that iv really suffered sha. They start making you feel you have a spiritual problem (don’t mind them, you don’t)
      I just told myself this is btw me and God, im not inviting any outside person again. I did go to church and did all the things required of me as a Christian. But I said this is btw me and God, he is the only one dat can hear my cry.
      And it finally happened.
      Yes marriage is not for everybody and isn’t what ur life shld be judged or equated by. But for some of us who have great desires especially to be a mother, becos that is my primary focus to be a ‘mum’, not even a wife. It definitely completes us.

  • chacha March 11, 2016 at 11:28 am

    dis is so so honest, she poured out her heart… Naija mothers be lyk ‘marriage is 4 beta for worse, a strong woman holds her home 2geda blablabla’ even wen they knw its not working… one shouldnt force a relationship 4 any reason, if it works, fyn, if it dosnt, move on..

  • Oj March 11, 2016 at 11:30 am

    Cant wait to see the full episode, this is so touching especially with Chigul.

  • Sisi J March 11, 2016 at 11:44 am

    Deep sigh….

  • O~Intuition! March 11, 2016 at 11:54 am

    Make your children have ‘a place to land’ in their difficult times. Mothers, Fathers, Every-Supposedly-Thoughtful-Friend-Or-Family, …STOP being Intrusive.

    Life is hard, let us not make it hard on people we SINCERELY LOVE. Let us live and Let live!

  • Corolla March 11, 2016 at 12:16 pm

    Raw emotions mehn….

  • Okada man March 11, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    WoW! Truly not all that glitters is gold… We often forget that these celebrities are human too and they have their own pressing issues… God will see you through Chi love you plenty and thanks for sharing….

  • Bar-fee March 11, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    So touching…..never seen chigul this serious before. E-hug from me to you. Stay strong love

  • Kemaj March 11, 2016 at 12:20 pm

    Still crying. Being open about our feelings is not a quality we posses as Africans, seeing a Nigerian open up like this Is so commendable. I hope we will get to know when and where this programme will be aired. It deserves the time spent to view it Kudos Adetiba. The close ups on Chigurl’s face were beautiful. Once again, Well done Adetiba.

  • la March 11, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    wow. so real. Chi big bear hugs gurl xx

  • Hmmm March 11, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    I have never been able to share any of my hurt with my mom. The time I tried, after I was cheated on, she told me I was childish for expecting a man to be faithful to me when we were not married. Anyway, it feels different to see Chigul like this, I never even knew she had been married. This life becomes so tough when one goes through so much BS and the ones that should be there just act like one should just swath away the pain and it will disappear.. It is well though.

  • i no send March 11, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    i cried after watching this because i have experienced a similar situation when i felt my family wasn’t there for me when i needed them…..and it took a long time for me to forgive them although its still a work in progress..but I’m almost healed and i have come to realise the true source of help and comfort …

  • Kechy March 11, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    This, I felt deeply… I see “King Women” starting a revolution real soon… Can’t wait for the full series. Thanks Kemi Adetiba!

  • Nwa nna March 11, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    Chigurl, salute ma sista! The one thing I came to realize about our Nigerian culture as I got older and lived outside the Nigerian society is its lack of empathy! We really don’t know what it means to be empathic towards individuals, and it’s solely because of our culture and the way we view certain matters… Big warm virtual hug to you chigurl and all the other’s out there needing a hug as well! Happy Friday BN readers 😀

    • Idomagirl March 11, 2016 at 9:05 pm

      The lack of empathy is one of our biggest problems. It’s so shocking sometimes, upon how religious we are.

  • Las March 11, 2016 at 1:46 pm

    Shedding bucket-loads of tears. Chi-gurl, I totally understand what you are talking about. Same thing happened to me and I was told to ‘caution’ myself and ‘try’ to be a better spouse. The exact words were ‘You know how you are, you know you have issues, so you are in the wrong, whatever happened, you are the one who erred’.

    I did not speak to my mother for 2 straight years. I just couldn’t find the strength.

    • Idomagirl March 11, 2016 at 9:06 pm

      Wow. I can’t imagine how that must have hurt.

  • jump inside March 11, 2016 at 1:46 pm

    Y’all should jump inside a lagoon.

    You don’t men, yes we have heard.
    Others want, let them have it!

    If you don’t want, your eish, your decision, your life.

    Abeg ive us breathing space. Don’t come and be shouting here everyday all day that you don’t want. Anyone force a man on you? Dem tie man for your head?

    I know your kind. Crying everynight b4 sleeping for a man but coming on BN to shout “i dont want”
    Going from Shiloh (winners) to HolyGhost congress (Redeem) to Mountain of fire to herbalist to seers house for a man, yet your frustrated self will come here everyday shouting “i dont want”

    I dont have a problem with you not wanting, it is our life and your decision, do whatever pleases you. But for you to be forming a nuisance here shouting all day ” we dont want” ” i dont want” tire me.

    Just jump inside the lagoon jo

    • jump inside March 11, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      Frustrated fellows!

    • Allergic to Iberibe March 11, 2016 at 2:09 pm

      Please shut up!
      If you don’t want to see comments like the ones on here, which by the way you interprete stupidly, Stay away from this site. Carry your insecurities and go somewhere else. E don pain you so tey you no fit proof read “you don’t men”

    • Corolla March 11, 2016 at 3:27 pm

      @ Jump inside, “Y’all should jump inside a lagoon.”…what a mature person your are. SMH

    • Temi March 11, 2016 at 3:53 pm

      The alliance of winners, rccg and Mfm can’t help you either so why not try yaba left? Mscheweeeeeeee

    • aaewhy March 11, 2016 at 3:54 pm

      Why so bitter, may the good lord fill your heart with joy so you will stop sprouting gibberish.

  • Sunshine March 11, 2016 at 2:31 pm

    The amazing ways in which BN ‘commentators’ make someone else’s story all about themselves though…

    • aaewhy March 11, 2016 at 3:52 pm

      Just had to come back to reply you ,this is not about people making it about them its about sharing and letting her know she’s not alone in this and there are loads of other women who can identify with her pain

    • LEM March 11, 2016 at 8:53 pm

      It’s called relating to someone’s story by sharing a similar experience @sunshine.

  • Udegbunam Chukwudi March 11, 2016 at 2:56 pm

    To all the women and (probably men) going through this, I feel for una oh. It’s not a small matter 🙁

  • sexynaija March 11, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    My darling Chi-gurl. I was so excited when you got married – Your older brother is my friend. I was sad that things fell apart for you too. Your mother sounds like mine – women of that generation were taught to ‘endure’, to ‘manage’ and to ‘hold the home’. It is totally f*cked up I know. I know your mum loves you but they grew up in a totally different time. So just don’t be mad at her…..My own mum is like that too, but over time and with many clashes we have learned to understand and respect each other a bit better. Chioma, God has heard the cries of your heart – I am writing it here on bella naija – I know it will happen for you. In the next 1 to 2 years I know you will find someone, and you will carry babies to your mum…..I was a hopeless case – career woman I ran a big banking subsidiary in Nigeria, did the whole Lagos big girl thing, but I was lonely, and I did not want to sleep with married men, and men my age were too scared to chase me – it sucked!. When my dad turned 70, in my speech to him, I cried and said Daddy I just pray that my children can meet you one day. At that time I was about 39 years old. People were shocked to hear me open up like that, because they thought I was this hard career babe who didnt care about marriage or children- but you wont believe Chioma, about a year later I met a handsome succesful hunk!! Totally random – but turns out that our families knew each other. Long story short he swept me off my feet – is the best everything I have ever had – best provider, best lover, kindest man, he loves me do death! I married him at age 40!! Okay? I told him I dont think we can have kids because I had serious fibriods, PCOS, Endometriosis – every rubbish I had it! That we should adopt. He said, dont worry we can adopt, but I know you will have my child first!! Long story short, I had a child at age 43 – healthy, gorgeous, no drama pregnancy etc. I know you – you have a good heart, and girl you are losing weight and looking good and gorgeous….I dont want to reveal myself, but Enyi knows me well, and I keep tabs on all his ‘baby sisters’ That boy looooves him his sisters….God will do it Chioma. I am so proud of your success. Please come back to bellanaija to share your testimony when it happens okay? Wipe your tears, and just trust and believe in God and remain sweet…..Cyber hugs kisses and bear hugs……..

    • Gertrude March 11, 2016 at 7:58 pm

      Oh my!!!!!! Your life is such a testimony. I wish you and your family all the best! I don’t think women don’t want men. Everybody wants a companion. Even little kids are the only ones, no siblings, wants somebody they can play with, life it’s lonely. I think the problem most women have is that why is that the only aspect of a woman’s life people hamper on. Do you think a woman who is mentally stable does not know she’s getting old? Do you think single women want to die single? You don’t know that we think and know ourselves? Women have had to put up this defence mechanism so at least they can shut some people up. God would do everybody’s own at the appointed time. Chi big ups to you.

    • LEM March 11, 2016 at 8:57 pm

      Oh wow! I just love stories like these! Shows that God truly has a plan for all and his time is always the best

    • Nostradamus March 11, 2016 at 9:06 pm

      Thank you for this response.
      I am in this situation you were in.
      Career game tight…
      “Babe” by all definitions.
      But if the men are not goldiggers
      They are married and looking for a plaything
      If they are not trying to kill my “life” so to speak and “cage” me and my thoughts,views,opinion etc,
      They are labelling me insane for knowing what i want.
      I am 38…and i have criedddddddddddddd to the highest heavens,so,much so i have challenged God on this issue.
      In business i am so hard,even i fear myself atimes.
      But when i get on my bed,in my big house,
      I HATE the silence,
      I try and fill my social time up with positive extra curricular activities.
      But where is a single lady meant to hang out in Naija,thats not the usual,movies,lonesome dinners?
      I dont do all that owambe,opening of a shop here and there.
      Most bars turn into clubs after certain hours,to be there alone is not exactly the safest.
      99pcnt of my friends are married or single mums hence,socialising with them is limited for obvious reasons.They just always have so much else going on for them,play dates with one anothers kids etc.
      The other 1pcnt live in far flung places,and are still married or singlemums.
      I am tired of being the “cool aunt” to all the kids.
      The one they run to because mummy will say NO to them,the one who “gets them”.
      I hate this loneliness that just engulfs and almost taunts me daily.
      In as much as the outside world sees me as “got it together”
      Inside i am shattered,were it not for my absolute faith in God,i do not know how i would have survuved my disastrous and horrendous experiences with men.
      YET i am still hopeful that my story will change.

      • Mr. Egghead March 11, 2016 at 10:21 pm

        I can’t pretend to fully understand what you are going through, but it does sound uncredibly sad.
        I pray the God of Ruth and Sarah will grant you the desires of your heart.
        Keep faith.

      • Flemzy March 11, 2016 at 10:44 pm

        First, please accept a big hug from me. The fact that you do avoid married men and try to be chaste does not go unnoticed by God and He promises to repay .
        To combat the lonely feeling try helping out in a charity or engage in an activity that you give of yourself without really expecting a reward, the refreshing feeling that brings is indescribable.
        Hang in there Nostradamus, soon this period will be just a distant memory.

      • Prettyh March 12, 2016 at 10:57 pm

        Hi, I don’t know just always thought u were a guy probably cos of ur name. Also single at the moment so we can hang out if u want… Understand how u feel believe me….Don’t worry I’m a she…Leave a comment if interested. Cheers

    • O~Intuition! March 11, 2016 at 10:16 pm

      Your words are encouraging. God bless you. Thank you for speaking positivity into respective situations. Thank you once again!

    • deka March 12, 2016 at 12:15 pm

      GOD BLESS YOU FOR SHARING THIS … u just got me out Of my depression.. I have hope becos of your story … God is faithful

    • Girlishgiddiness March 12, 2016 at 3:15 pm

      You just gave me hope. God bless you.

  • olajumoke March 11, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    I could not resist praying as i watched this, that God make me someone who will help others in their time of hurt.. Kemi adetiba just found her calling, we need more deep rooted interviews like this….

  • Mrs Oke March 11, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    oh my goodness, I just cried so hard while watching this… Chigurl I’m hugging you so tight right now…I can relate with your story and it just reminded me of so many buried issues…

    I always tell people that you cannot imagine what the next person has been through in life…

    and my pastor always says ‘We don’t always look like what we’ve passed through’…

  • jinkelele March 11, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    I’m sure even recording this was hard for Chioma.
    Family expectations can be soooo hard.
    You’re like a plane descending and your own airport is saying don’t land.
    So where do you go?

    I definitely know how it is to resent the very people you love. Because you just know that although you are the one going h through this its seems they see your ‘failure’ as their failure hence they come at you with these comments as if YOU are not the one hurting.

    Mums are hard ooh you wonder whether your life was ever yours to live in the first place. They just push you away

    E-hugs chioma. It is well. God sees and He knows and He hears

  • Lovely nkiru March 11, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    Most times i ask my mother how she did it? Seems like my mother had a reason to stay cause at the end we got (her children) got their inheritance and my brothers are all grown up that they challenge my father to do his worse!!! As for toxic marriage my mother has experienced it firts hand from her own marriage!!! hence she cant see her daughters be in one! At least she says so!! Had so much compassion whilst watching! Wish we were friends i could have been there for you— just saying.
    Society is so darn hash on women!!!
    God is indeed our strength!!

  • Marc Francis of Chelsea March 11, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    Amazing!

    I wish we could do one with guys as well. Just the word “king” alone already makes me uneasy for some reason. Nigerian men can’t show emotions or vulnerability. When we fall, we are to get back up and keep moving like nothing happened or be dubbed failures forever. Many of us have no one to cry to. We are “men” in every stereotypical, society ingrained way and must never deviate. Even the recklessness and “Yoruba demon-hood” most have come to expect of Nigerian men is as a result of our upbringing and watching our fathers/uncles/role models.

    Not to take away from this project at all though. It is groundbreaking. I just wish there was an outlet like this for Nigerian guys to relate to.

    • Chu March 11, 2016 at 5:00 pm

      To get a man to open up will be very difficult. Even when he does, he will be perceived as weak.

  • o March 11, 2016 at 4:44 pm

    #sigh…. Cyber hugs Chigurl

  • Gee March 11, 2016 at 5:20 pm

    I was in tears as soon as Chigurl started to tear up. I can’t wait for the full videos of all the King Women teasers that have been released. God Bless you Chigurl for being so open and willing to share your story. I’ve become a bigger fan now. Muah!!
    Well Done Kemi for such great content!

  • soji March 11, 2016 at 5:45 pm

    The link below is my two cents.
    huffingtonpost.com/oby-bamidele/the-eight-words-id-hoped-_b_9429378.html?

  • fd62kola March 11, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    wow. how kemi adetiba was able to coax this kind of emotional participation from her interviewee is nothing but sensational and genius!!!! award ceremonies better take note

  • nene March 11, 2016 at 6:21 pm

    as a parent, your childs happiness should be the utmost thing. not what people will say. if your child is happy, then u as a parent should be.

    • babye March 11, 2016 at 8:46 pm

      I wish all parents reasoned like you

  • Nedu March 11, 2016 at 6:57 pm

    I have always told women, my sisters inclusive that you must have a limit of tolerance in any relationship or marriage. Example, if your Husband abuses you physically, please walk out of that marriage. That’s enough insult already. Do not accepts excuses like, I am hot tampered, sorry I was drunk, or I do not know what came over me” all sorts,
    Do not listen to Pastor or Pastor’s wife, Mama and Aunty, They do not share in the pain or burden with you. That’s my simple advice .
    Price your self high , unless you consider yourself worthless.

  • Toese March 11, 2016 at 7:22 pm

    Wow, that was powerful @ opening up
    That’s a scarce quality in this days of ‘fronting’ ‘branding’, ‘filtering’, etc…

    Thanks for the interview, our new generation mothers needs to be a ‘place to land’ for people by not being a gossip, a judge, esp by not being a bad critic, etc

  • TrueTalkCritique March 11, 2016 at 7:34 pm

    Speechless…………God bless and grant your heart desires!

  • kim kim March 11, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    Natu, I have said it before you are my soul sister. Jessica, not all women are wired to own a home and love her family bla bla bla. I for one wasn’t wired that way. I hate men, and I can’t cope with what I hate.

  • Nostradamus March 11, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    CHIOMA
    You have NO idea how many women you have spoken for.
    I was in the office when i watched this.
    Miss ICE QUEEN that i am,crieddddd like a baby.

    One day,i pray i will have that platform to tell my story.

    Women,please let us continue to encourage one another.
    Let us be less judgemental of the next woman,even IF we have walked in her shoes and made different choices,let us support her.

    Ahhh,us women ehn,things we go through.

    Chioma
    May God bless you.
    All your heart desires shall come to pass.
    The word that the King of Kings spoke into your life before you were formed in your mothers belly shall be fulfilled in your life.
    Dont cry my dearest sister
    Live!BE!Laugh
    And everything will fall into place.
    God bless you for being so honest and raw with your emotions.
    I see you Chioma
    I see you.

  • Ebere March 11, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    Oh my world!!!!!!I used to see Chigurl as a happy person who has no problems. I didn’t know that she had a dark side.My heart bleed watching this video.I really hope she finds peace…..

    • *curious* March 12, 2016 at 2:50 am

      my dear, everyone has tribulations. i, too, pray she finds peace.

  • jd March 12, 2016 at 12:10 am

    Why are Queens not enough? Why do women have to be King women or Kings. If we want to drop gender references for royalty totally, then simply Kings. or maybe Kemi just wants to play with words. But in the spirit of gender parity… it just seems off, like Queens are inherentely less than Kings. So King Women are not mere queens. Queens are less compared to King Women. Men are more than women?

  • Comment March 12, 2016 at 12:58 am

    I’ve always liked chigurl but now I love her. This got me in tears for sure but more out of awe for how open and honest she was sharing such personal details.
    Nothing as honorable and strong as being able to keep in real in a society where people are somewhat obsessed with forming and keeping up appearances…..especially a celeb. People are people and they are flawed and can fail us….no matter who they are….even when they mean well like she said….God never fails.

    So proud of her.

  • *curious* March 12, 2016 at 2:48 am

    looking forward to the full episodes…hope they’ll be available for viewing to Nigerians in America. so brave of these ladies to share their hearts with us. #respect

  • Jules March 12, 2016 at 8:08 am

    I got to know Chigul through someone. Chigul’s totally awesome, she lights up the room, she’s beautiful inside out. God will make everything beautiful for you.

  • Ariesbeauty March 13, 2016 at 10:36 pm

    Oh Chi, I feel your pain. This was me three years ago and it took me 2 years to recover fully from my experience. Only one person knows exactly the full story why my marriage ended. And just like you, my parents wanted me to stay in it no matter what. They only returned my dowry because of the things they heard from outsiders about my ex and my ex’s attitude towards my parents. I am happier on my own, and wouldn’t trade my peace of mind for anything or anyone. If we are lucky and God willing, I pray love will find us someday. Sending a big hug and lots of love. Jisike nne. O ga adisi mma maka na chukwu adiro alaru ula.xx

  • xoxo March 14, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    Hi dear, God is good. All the time. I turn 30 this year and I am still single. Although, I do not pretend understand what it feels like to be single at 38. I know a bit of what this wait can feel like. The only way I get through each day is knowing that this single life is a gift. Its a precious gift that God chose to give us because he knows what is best for us. He has indeed given us a double portion of everything. We have more time to do the things we want, we can move at any notice, we are not weighed down by the responsibilities of having a husband or children. We have time to serve God fully without distractions and to serve other people as well and live out dreams, pursue our careers, travel… God is the greatest giver in this world and he will never give us a gift we cannot handle. Singleness is the greatest gift that God has given me and it shows me how strong he thinks I am. That I can handle all the things I do on my own and all the snide remarks and comments. I have come to realise that this time of singleness is priceless and indeed a blessing. The Devil is a liar and only comes to lie, steal and destroy, That is why there is so much perceived shame about singleness, when indeed the single woman is doubly blessed. I pray that God Almighty will reveal what an awesome and precious gift this time of singleness is. And then we will all be thankful and content, knowing that his thoughts towards us are always good to give us a future and hope. Stay blessed.

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