Many marriages have crashed after fabulous weddings and many people have ended up in ‘a manage’ as opposed to a happy marriage.
Motivational speaker and management consultant, Fela Durotoye, in his latest offering, “Mr. Fantastic” seeks to address the questions raised by many women who are rather doubtful if they are in relationship with the RIGHT man.
Fela, whose marriage is ten years old this year opines, “You are better off not getting married than getting divorced… The purpose of this book (Mr. Fantastic) is to ensure that fewer marriages are dissolved because the link between strong marriages and strong nations is so critical. For me, this book is an important tool in ensuring that fewer marriages break up because the family unit is the smallest unit in a nation.”
For the hundreds of thousands who keep asking, “Fela, how do I know if the guy I’m with is THE RIGHT MAN?”, in a similar fashion to his last book, he outlines seventeen (17) key areas to help readers discover so many things about their man.
“God has helped me to develop the 17 qualities of this dream guy. I’m sure you’ll be totally blown away by this Mr. Fantastic!” he says.
In this publication he recognizes that there’s no WRONG man, but the one you’re with may not be the RIGHT ONE FOR YOU.
Here are excerpts from “Mr. Fantastic”:
“In a successful marriage, home is your favourite place to be. Please note that ‘home’ here is not the same thing as ‘house.’ House is where you live; home is what you live in. A house is built by sand, cement and water while a home is built by Love, peace and joy….
So, how do we go from having ‘manages’ to have ‘marriages?’ It is not just the capacity to get people to stay together that is the important thing ,but also the capacity to get people to love being together. And so, if we can build strong marriages, we will build strong families; if we build strong families, we will have strong generations.
It is sad that some people tend to take their careers more seriously than their marriage, but the truth be told; there can hardly be any true career success if your marriage has failed. Marital challenges have been known to ruin the best career opportunities.
As you read this book, it is one thing for you to know how to assess this guy; it is another thing not only to be able to assess yourself, but also to be able to ask yourself if he finds you intolerable or compatible?
I think that in the course of marriage, there is nothing that cannot change. But to bet that something will change may be asking for much. Always ask yourself, what if it doesn’t change? If the situation remains the same, what are you going to do? One of the most interesting things people say after marriage is, ‘He saw me the way I was and he married me that way, now he is demanding that I change.’
It is unthinkable how strong the link between successful marriages and national development is, yet more people still go into marriage thinking, ‘I think he loves me,’ ‘He is just so fine,’ and all those superficial things. And then when its ‘crying time’ as they say, they begin to talk about the things that they knew were there but they didn’t think were important enough.
A broken marriage does not just hurt the persons involved, it hurts everyone; their children (if they do have children), their parents, their siblings and even their friends. This is the reason why parents need to buy this book for their children; it is the reason why friends need to give this book as a gift to a friend who is dating or considering a serious relationship – this is the guide.
This is the most critical time to stand in integrity and ask, ‘Can I really live with this?’ Marriages do not fail because of the things you can live with, marriages fail because of the things you can’t live with. Most times, people knew they couldn’t live with certain things but they said maybe they could.
So as you read, ladies, evaluate the qualities your guy has and guys, (you thought I didn’t expect you to read it?) check yourself to determine how well you rate and make sure you give scores and determine where you fit in at the end of the book. I have developed a model which we will use to effectively assess your relationship. Are you ready to find out if you’re with Mr. Fantastic? Let’s go!” – FelaDUROTOYE, 2011
The book will be launched in Lagos on Sunday 11 September 2011, though interested readers can pre-order copies to get a double relationship autograph from Fela and, his wife, Tara. Thereafter, there will be book signings at leading bookshops across the country. To pre-order, call +234 805 561 7348.