Every time there’s a family function, it’s an opportunity to catch up with the cousins and get the scoop on what’s going on in each other’s lives. Anyway, so on one of those occasions, my cousin strolls over with a babe clinging to him. He gets to our table and he tells us this is “iyawo mi”. Now, Yoruba is a very tricky language. There’s no word to differentiate between “girlfriend”/”fiancee”/”baby Momma”/”wife”. They’re all “Iyawo”. So after nicely welcoming the girl into the family, my Aunty Funto says “But how many of these Iyawo Mis are we going to meet before this boy actually gets married?” I started laughing because I could relate with her frustration. We were tired!
A few weeks ago, I heard my friend excitedly telling another friend that she’d met her boyfriend’s Mom and sisters and to her estimation, it was evidence enough of her planting roots in the family. But it begged the question? “Did it really?”
When I mentioned it somewhere, it was argued that the reason why family members were plagued with so many “my Boo”s was because the parties involved were usually too quick to introduce the person to the family. To which I countered “Ahn ahn! How long do you want to be meeting with the guy outside? He’s bound to come in to the house at some point”. My friend responded that she had a strict “No boys are allowed to meet my Mom” rule. In her mind, allowing the guy meet her mom was going to elicit a flood of inquiries, many of which she may not necessarily have good enough responses to assuage her Mom (who is anxious for somebody, anybody to take her daughter off her!)
I know so many people who have been scammed by the “Iyawo Wa” trick. According to my friend, Bimpz, the real champions are the family members who have to keep up with the names and birthdays of girlfriends and boyfriends. “I’m tired of having to memorize the birthdays of my brother’s girlfriends. He keeps changing them. I can’t keep up. When he proposes then he should introduce her to me”
It was funny but can you really blame a person who is anxious to introduce someone he/she is in love with to the people close to him?
Let’s look at it from another angle. It’s the age of social media . The age of the Blackberry messenger display picture, the Twitter avatar, or the Facebook profile picture. It appears that it’s the notice board for couple’s these days. It, however, gets confusing when the “Le Boo” is the only constant thing but the person in the picture keeps changing.
So is there a rule that goes with these things? Date for 5 weeks and use his picture as your Facebook profile with the accompanying message “Meet the Sheikh who makes my toes curl” or After 12 dates, bring him to meet your sisters.
What do you guys think? How soon does one introduce “Le Lover” to “Le World”
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