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Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa is back with another edition of her hilarious Toke Moments.

Gentlemen listen up and stay glued to your screen. She gives us a little bit of what goes on in the mind of a woman after a fantastic date.

Check it out!


  1. chi chi

    May 30, 2013 at 11:10 am

    lol. This happens to almost ALL OF US at one point or the other. Makes you just want to knock some guys on the head.
    And Toke is getting better at these videos of her, they are shorter and to the point. More power to her.

  2. mizz curly

    May 30, 2013 at 11:14 am

    lol!toke i love u ,.,.but i cant ever for the life of me ever ever imagine EVER doing this or letting myself go thru this!this is just bordeline neurotic and to say d least freakinggg exausting!why would i subject myself to such torture?instead of pretending to be ‘busy’, why wont i be actually busy by making my life fulfilling and doing enriching things in my life that brings me happiness. all this forming is unnecessary for both d girl and d guy abeg!nigerians sef!

    • Joan

      May 30, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      You just had to go there…smh.

    • mizz curly

      May 30, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      please fall all the way back madam!nonsense!ur comment makes no damn sense

    • Bliss

      May 30, 2013 at 10:46 pm

      Story. If you have never been through this even once, either you live under a rock or you are a liar. lol

    • mizz curly

      May 31, 2013 at 2:23 pm

      maybe hun!just maybe i am ….both actually,.,.,.happy now??

    • bidibang

      June 1, 2013 at 5:13 am

      Exactly mizz curly, Toke has not met a girl like me…play games with me and you are history…as a matter of fact guys call me and i am the one who never picks up and i block them…because i am a woman of God with a weird radar, once i sense something, i will just pretend like everything is fine until he drops me off at my door cos i do not want to be found chopped up in a garbage bag next to a river(bwahahahahah) you have to watch how you show what you really think of a person these days….i can spot a fake joker from a mile hunnay!!!

    • A-z

      June 3, 2013 at 2:11 am


    • Miss Eloquent

      June 1, 2013 at 7:35 pm

      thank you jare. what will be, will be…

  3. temmie

    May 30, 2013 at 11:26 am

    TRUTH Toke, so true, hahahahahahahaha

  4. Jet

    May 30, 2013 at 11:30 am

    Toke Ive never loved u d way Ilove u now, you were talking about me o, I’m so into this guy and he did this exact thing you just talked about, call me crazy but I can play the game too, The guy can sha go n boil pigeon beans with electric cooker, cos he just met his match!

    • nan

      May 31, 2013 at 3:59 pm

      hahahahahahahaha @ pigeon beans!! cracked me up big time!

  5. Avenger

    May 30, 2013 at 11:32 am

    Abeg shuuuuushhhh @mizz curly. I’m not her biggest fan but she hit the nail on the head. What girl can honestly say she hasn’t experienced this? Enriching things my fat toe…lol…Toke abeg PREACH!!! Women are naturally drammatic creatures…lol….no need to fight it, it’s part of what makes us special.

    • bidibang

      June 1, 2013 at 5:17 am

      i can say i never experienced this because i date guys that are into me…this happens to women when you choose to date bad boys…the ones that will make you loose weight when he dumps you…that sign alone shows he’s a player and will hurt ur feelings. so i will never deal with such a guy. my heart is too precious darling and life is too short for games.

    • Bliss

      June 3, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      And the choir says “amen.” Sweetie, life is easy when you admit you are human and stop playing super woman. Coming for a retired macho woman, all these things that we all say to feel in control sometimes. It’s okay to be vulnerable sometimes, it doesn’t mean that you are weak. Every body and their dog has fallen for the bad boy, the saint, the chef, the comedian, the musician, and the guy next door at various points in their life. Hell bad boys are fun, just as long as you don’t settle down with them and if they were a mistake you made that’s fine too. If there’s anything we know for sure is that success comes from failing a gazillion times and learning from your mistakes. You saying this has never ever happened to you is like a professional chef saying they have never ever mistakenly burnt a single dish since they started cooking. And you waiting for the guy to call and be the aggressor in the r/ship doesn’t mean you are considering a guy that is not into you. A lot of times we women give off a ton of mixed signals which leave guys super confused as to where they stand. You may think you were being really transparent but you had your poker face on the whole time. Believe me I know. So chances are he is not even sure. Contrary to popular opinion guys too have feelings at least my guy friends I know for a fact that when they are really into a girl, they worry about whether its too soon to call, whether they are being too aggressive/stalkerish. I tell you love is a force of nature. However this not to say that its a normal thing to send BC’s and go to places you know he will be at. If he is ignoring you completely then he is clearly not interested. The scenario Toke explained is a bit extreme. In some cases its not so much that he is not calling but you simply can’t get enough of him and you don’t want to come off as a stalker. When you are really feeling a guy sometimes it can feel like an addiction. You need hourly, daily, or weekly fixes else you feel like you are going crazy.
      Another point I would like to address is Miss Curly’s point about if she likes a guy he knows straight off the bat. In my experience I think that a little mystery sometimes is nice. Besides do you really want a guy that is too much of a wuss to state his intentions or go after something he truly wants. Let the chips fall one by one where the may. Kinda like when you say the “I love” back to the dude too soon and he stops trying to go above and beyond because he has you exactly where he wants you. In addition, I would rather a guy who is totally into me but not sure how I feel about him yet he is relentless because he knows I’m what he wants. Telling him is too easy, believe me I’ve been there and done that. Do you really want a guy you need to prompt every second of the way? I guess when marriage time comes around too you’ll orchestrate how the whole thing goes down and he will follow you like a figure head. When you marry him too he will be doing everything you say except off course his mom thinks otherwise or his boss or barber(no backbone) .

  6. Karonwi

    May 30, 2013 at 11:45 am

    Spot on!!!

  7. Adeola

    May 30, 2013 at 11:47 am

    Toke, you’re such a story teller and gist sweet your mouth well. Sadly, but true. Na so you don talk am o.

  8. Bey

    May 30, 2013 at 11:52 am

    Lol I njoyed every bit of what she said..she was actually talking to me and guys pls don’t lead us on wen u don’t ave anything to offer hehehehehe

  9. Abi

    May 30, 2013 at 11:52 am

    it happens but its self-inflicted torture. you went on a great date and he disapears! obviously, you both had a good time and thats it for him. he hasint said he wants to be with you or anything , he just wanted to have a good time /great conversation -does not mean he’s lead you on! Lesson is if he doesnt follow up, pls move on. has it occured to you that perhaps there is nothing to it and you are just stressing out for nothing?

    • Dunni O

      May 30, 2013 at 12:17 pm

      Preach. A guy said this to me in response to this video “You know some women from the first date they have already started envisioning monogrammed towels with their names on it, their wedding colours, the names of their children and what they will look like from their first date, she has also run her mouth to her friends, meanwhile the guy just jejely enjoyed your company, had a good time and nothing more. Abi what else can explain why she will go full on neurosis after just one date if not for one sided grandiose expectations that her brain has conjured up. If he was into you, you will know before the end of the night or early the next morning. Guys don’t forget like that. I couldn’t stop laughing and I told him he was a big meanie. Lol. So, I guess my comment will be women go into a first date with a free mind, expect nothing even if it goes very well. Remember, from your end it may have gone well, from his end he may not think so. Unless you have mad mind reading skills.

  10. kkkkk

    May 30, 2013 at 11:57 am

    Miss curly, I say you lie!!!

  11. Havoc

    May 30, 2013 at 11:58 am

    I don’t like this woman.

    • Mama Emma

      May 31, 2013 at 9:49 am

      Asin ehn!!!!! Don’t like her for anything

    • bee

      May 31, 2013 at 9:26 pm

      Then y did u watch the video???? were u forced

    • Rachael

      May 31, 2013 at 12:18 pm

      It’s quite strange and inane to come week after week just to write ” i don’t like this woman” or “i hate this woman” . You sure do give a lot of attention to someone you don’t like.

  12. Gennyz # 1 Fan!!!!!

    May 30, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    Toke Gurrrrllll…you aint never lied!!! All our secrets have been exposed now hahaha

  13. ms lala

    May 30, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    let the church say amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!….Once its 48 hours i call it the guys lost..and bounce. yep he might be cute but best believe someone out there is cuter and more courteous than MrToosexytocallbackorcheckonyou

  14. Kc

    May 30, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    Boriiiiiiiinnnngggggg!!!!! Dis is d longest 6mins ever. Worst vlog Toke

    • Lolade

      May 30, 2013 at 1:03 pm

      Woooow…Kc u re dumb for this…Rise above hate and embrace this amazing woman…she hit the nail on the y u gotta hate ! Hatttttuuuuuuurrrrr !

    • Glory

      May 30, 2013 at 1:19 pm

      Stop Dulling…Njoy

  15. Lolade

    May 30, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    Loool Toke has done it again ooo…I can’t stop watching this…dis is like every damn woman..lolz

  16. Glory

    May 30, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    Very Nice…On Point…Happend 2 moi

  17. Joan

    May 30, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    lol I actually liked this. We’ve all been there. I guess the key is to just go on that first date with an open mind, have all the fun you can with no expectations… 🙂

  18. caretaker

    May 30, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    This is so true! please be my gisting partner?

  19. Theresa

    May 30, 2013 at 2:46 pm

    Toke,this one just had my name on I ve learnt my lesson though.

  20. BabyDee

    May 30, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    lol,,,@ oti mumi gbagbe!… ahtoke baby!!!

  21. Retrochic

    May 30, 2013 at 3:36 pm

    i totally enjoyed this

  22. Al

    May 30, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    Just 22 comments? And no haters? BellaNaijaaaaaaaaa!

    • Al

      May 30, 2013 at 3:40 pm

      Forgot to add ‘and this has been online for over 4 hours????’

  23. toya

    May 30, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    I just really love Toke walahi, felt like she was talking to me ghan. very very annoying situation to find your self especially the part of keeping your phone line free waiting for one yeye fine boy call.

  24. Anonymous

    May 30, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Toke, u are so talking about me…mehn its so annoying. I dunno why guys do these things.

  25. chiamz

    May 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm

    my best Toke vlog jor…lol; true tho. (winks*)

  26. Cutychic!

    May 30, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    I love TOKE! keep it up girl….HATERS to hell!

  27. NO

    May 30, 2013 at 6:21 pm


  28. Partyrider

    May 30, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    Hahahahaha I enjoyed this

  29. blackblack

    May 30, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    I can honestly say my post-dates always goes…
    but this does happen in the middle of getting to know someone….and it pisses me off…im quite impatient so i end up cutting them off! ‘AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT’ !!

  30. nikky

    May 30, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    Toke you are the best. You totally just described me with the constantly looking at his update to know if mentions anything me-related. I think girls don’t like taking charge. i mean if you had an incredible date we don’t allow ourselves to acknowledge it, we rather wait for the guyz update, we don’t allow ourselves to call first because we may come off as desperate. If he does not call call him and tell him you had a nice time and you will like to do it again this time you take him to your fav place and see where things go from there. On one hand it is very easy to preach taking charge on the other hand as a Nigerian woman it is absolutely impossible.

    • Bliss

      May 30, 2013 at 11:01 pm

      For onyibo dudes yes. But a 9ja brother, you are sleeping on a palm tree. Don’t waste your time and money. This guys are old school to the bone even though the claim not to be. They’ll be telling their friends how whipped whopped whoppa you are(which means he’ll take you for granted) and that my friend is not a good thing. Get out your poker face with 6 shots of patience and let the brother sweat it out.
      People’s argument is that ” why would he want to buy a cow when he can text in a herd any night of the week, ” yet guys buy cows every flipping saturday. They just don’t want a cheap cow. lol.

  31. Kechi

    May 30, 2013 at 7:44 pm

    you sound great when you switch to your psuedo-Nigerian accent. Please drop the English accent, that way, the psuedo part disappears? Seriously though you sound better without the accent. Funny vlog!

  32. Nawa OOO

    May 30, 2013 at 8:40 pm

    i like toke a lot

  33. Dude

    May 30, 2013 at 8:47 pm

    I’m a guy and u see sometimes, we prefer to be chased/appreciated – especially if we know we’ve made a big impression. Don’t assume anything cos he could be crazy about you. If he doesnt call or bb after a few days, holler at him and see what happens. If you think he’s the one, why would you let him go so easily?? I’ll get with the woman who is prepared to make an effort too. Don’t wait for days, holler the very next day girl. You know how long the queue is? Get your behind to the top, he likes you enough already now stop dulling. If i take a chick out on the perfect date she better be msging me that night saying thanks and how much fun she had or else i’ll think she’s another ingrate and she’s off my list

    • Coco girl

      May 31, 2013 at 11:36 am

      TRUTH,cause that’s what went down bw my hubby and I. He liked me but was so nervous going about it. I took the bull by the horn jare,after our first date. I had nothing to lose and everything to gain if we took our relationship further after all I liked him and that’s why I went on the date. 16 Years after and counting*wink*.

    • Joshua

      May 31, 2013 at 4:32 pm


    • Kilode!

      June 12, 2013 at 10:03 pm

      Mr Dude does not seem to be nervous o. Dis na different case. Did the babe ask you out in the first place. Y is she doing all the follow up. Abeg a guy has gotta be a gentleman and do his bit. Coco girl ur case is a one off, most times he’s just not that into you.

    • Ides of March

      June 3, 2013 at 2:24 am

      Yes but that doesn’t always work. Even after the guy kisses you at the end of the date and you know he likes you, he can still act like he’s hedging by checking out the others on the list. That is where i drop out of said ‘race’ cuz i ain’t interested in being on an episode of ‘the Bachelor’

  34. kilipot

    May 30, 2013 at 9:48 pm

    frustrated lot. *shrugs*

  35. Cat on a hot tin roof

    May 30, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    I enjoyed this one… Gosh, been married too long (yeah all of 5 years) but I remember the feeling, albeit in a haze… I would have never gone as far as go back to the bar tho’. I just remember that crushing feeling of disappointment at any guy nor feeling me…a lot of it was probaly my ego. lol

  36. dede

    May 31, 2013 at 12:03 am

    I am surprised that most of the ladies here are saying Toke just described them like for real…. What’s the point of forming. It isn’t even charming I swear. I have a date with a guy and he doesn’t call me that same night, I will call or send him a message tomorrow. His response will tell me all I need to know. So by monday (If date was sunday night) I will know whether to move on with my life or get ready for date two. Why give yourself hypertension? I’m a married woman today and I didn’t get here by forming. Always let your intentions known. A relationship is two ways. I say what I what I want, you say what you want. If our wants are not simpatico, dust your feet and move on. This is why girls of today are in relationships and not knowing where the relationship is heading. Your friends and family will ask you whether there are wedding plans, you blush and say ‘I dunno oh, I’m waiting for him’. How about asking where the relationship is going……Sorry to digress oh my people, it just saddens me when ladies always have to wait for guys yet we fight for equal rights and the we are unable to open our mouths and say what we want. Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwww.

    • Mama Emma

      May 31, 2013 at 9:57 am

      Hi5 Hi5 Hi5 Hi5 Dede!!!!!!!! You Sabi

    • mizz curly

      May 31, 2013 at 2:20 pm

      thank u ojare my sister!dats wat i’m trying to educate these females on!y cause urself hypertention wen u can take d bait if need be??unneccessary forming will be d death of nja ladies!some uncouth ladies saying i’m lying!i honestly have never been in such a situation before because ‘i aint gat tahhmm 4 dat’! i like u,.,.,.u WILL KNOW!if i have to go thru all these hassle just to know where i stand,.,.then i probably know where i stand!ur just not that into me!is it that hard really????talmbout dressing up to d teez knowing he wud show up, so u wud give him a glimpse of what he’s missing, then pretending u did’nt see him, them puttin on a fate smile wen he comes over to ask u out, den forming busy,.,meanwhile u will go back home and hug ur cats,.,.abegggg joohhhh!

  37. Ngum

    May 31, 2013 at 12:04 am

    too funny! it’s a lot less grief to call the guy and find out what’s up. if he hasn’t called by day 2, he sure as heck aint that into you.

  38. L.A Chick

    May 31, 2013 at 2:01 am

    Talk that talk Toke, this is so right! I literally had to train my self to enjoy the wine, the conversation, and the food during a date; it takes willpower for one to be like “hey, I’m just gonna have a good time tonight” rather than being like “OMG this is it!!! I found my soul mate” Personally, once I adopted this attitude I can say that it made things so much easier on me and I finally found my “soul mate” without even looking for him 🙂 On a different note, I noticed that her British accent is somewhat subdued in this video which makes her speech more relatable. Good job Toks!

  39. Joshua

    May 31, 2013 at 4:42 pm

    I must admit i’ve not been a big fan but she gave me an eye opener, no doubt. I somehow feel a ‘lil bit guilty…chuckles…to those beautiful ladies, i’m very sorry.

  40. Hyan

    May 31, 2013 at 10:42 pm

    “Yepa, bobbo never holla.” LOL

  41. GD

    June 2, 2013 at 6:03 pm

    Damn we ladies go through some ishhhhh, its not easy. Gentleman purleasseee get it together! Toke, nice1. LOL to the drive home singing ‘oti mu mi gba gbee ooo….

  42. Jolla

    June 3, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    We have told her a whole lot of times o. Thanks for adding your voice. Lets hope she listens.

  43. Toyin

    June 12, 2013 at 6:47 pm

    Toke has finished me oo…. LOL….. I kept saying “exactly” as I watched this….. especially to the facebook stalking …. gosh, now I feel better and less stupid that other women also go through this

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