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Seun Tuyo: Believe in Yourself

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Ever wondered how many times Thomas Edison went through several experiments before he figured out how to invent the light bulb? Over ten thousand times. He was persistent and he believed in himself.

Everyone is born with a purpose and a unique gift to achieve that purpose. However, not many people stay consistent and try to unravel that gift or achieve their purpose. We overlook our successes and dwell on the baggage of failures and mishaps of our past, amplifying them well enough to give them power over us and our future. Failure is nothing but a lesson that tells you there are other ways to try to achieve success. To go past this stump, you have to believe in yourself.

Wait and think for a minute! What has been stopping you? I trust most answers will be centered on lack of confidence. The red flags always come as an inner voice waiting on you to cling to. You tell yourself “I cannot”, “I do not know”, “What if”.

Some people give up even before getting started. They think of their dreams, so little and flimsy. For others it is the fear of failure. Your mind will trick you to give up because it is used to a certain pattern and may be content with failure. Success nudges you out of your comfort zone. Success, they say, lies just beyond failure. For most people, they may be much closer to success than they realize.

When I hear people say, “I cannot do that” I always wish I could add “yet” to the statements because I believe they can.

We are all built for greatness. If you are yet to attain your heights of excellence, you need to dig deep within you and activate the power to succeed by believing in yourself day by day. Everyone with a dream starts out as an amateur but persistence brings about true success. Dreams will remain dreams unless you act. Success doesn’t just happen, you have to get up and work at it. Your ideas count, no matter how small you think of them.

Someone’s idea created mobile toilets to fill the needs for people who required a place of relief while on the go – at parties and events. Someone saw ice water been sold in clear nylons and turned that into satchet water business. Someone saw how much energy it took to pound yam and created yam pounders. It did not stop there; we have them processed in powdered form now. Someone saw the need to bridge the gap between you and the marketplace. Today, we have online shops that deliver goods and services to your door steps, the list is endless. Many others have had similar ideas but did not bring them to life possibly because of fear of failure or lack of confidence in the idea.

I believe your desire for success should outweigh the fear of failure. Ask yourself, what if you succeeded on that try?

Do not be afraid to dream – however big or small. Make sure your dreams are realistic and believe in them. Before anyone can believe in you, your dreams and accomplishments, you must first believe in yourself. Success in whatever you do is greatly dependent on how much you believe in yourself. It is the basis from which dreams become reality. Definitely, there are other contributing factors like education, support, peers, environment and background. However, self-belief is the foundation for success.

Act. Make an attempt. Bring that dream to life. If at first you do not succeed…. Try again, differently. Change your beliefs, keep an open mind, do not dwell on the failure, pick up the lessons and move on. Do not be too hard on yourself; you are more capable than you give yourself credit for.

Self-doubt never disappears; you only get better at dealing with it. Many successful people deal with self-doubt each time they go out of their comfort zone. So it is not just you. Therefore you need not fear or resent it. Your doubts are only thoughts; they do not hold your future. Appreciate yourself and stay true to yourself. Do not overlook the things that make you a special person, acknowledge those traits and let them grow.

Be careful whom you share your dreams with. There are many people who are convinced that nothing is possible with you and they are quick to kill your ideas. Most often, they talk you into hopelessness. Recognize such toxic people; do not let them drain your energy because they have none.

In the words of Martin Luther King Jr, If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. The next time you are wondering ‘What if I fail?’, how about you say to yourself “then I will try again”.

It is never too late to be what you might have been. An idea whose time has come is stronger than all the armies of the world, so do not count this as another read, take a leap of faith to find success, pick up the pace and live that dream. Write that book, audition for that acting role, enroll in that cook school, develop that software, take up the DJ role, start that blog, have that discussion, open that nursery, take that make up skill seriously, enroll for that qualifying exam, register that company, perfect that craft because YOU ARE A CHAMPION!!!

Photo Credit: Dreamstime | Sanjay Deva

Seun Tuyo is interested in social development. She loves to interact with people and has a desire to make a profound and positive impact around the world. She suffers moments of weaknesses at the sight of a cold bottle of Coca-cola and Chocolates. Feel free to reach her on twitter and instagram @seuntuyo.

38 Comments

  1. TITO

    August 27, 2014 at 10:04 am

    this is very encouraging. Yes i can!!

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Yes i know you can, Tito

  2. efe

    August 27, 2014 at 10:06 am

    well spoken.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Thank you Efe.

  3. ade twinnie

    August 27, 2014 at 10:12 am

    yaaayyyy my twinie

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:30 pm

      Thank you Twinnie

  4. ade twinnie

    August 27, 2014 at 10:13 am

    I love this write up

  5. RAINBOW

    August 27, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Am encouraged and inspired, thanks!

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:34 pm

      Thank you Rainbow.

  6. Afia Faith

    August 27, 2014 at 10:22 am

    nice one!!thks

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:35 pm

      Thank you Afia Faith

  7. Nabz

    August 27, 2014 at 10:57 am

    Resounding applause!!!!

    I believe the reason most people, myself inclusive, hold back from pursuing their dreams is because they compare themselves to others who have achieved theirs. They focus on one or two things that these successful people have, that they don’t have forgetting that we are all humans and capable of reaching that destination, though it might take longer and/or cost us more in terms of sacrifice. Which is why the best part of your article for me is “In the words of Martin Luther King Jr, If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. The next time you are wondering ‘What if I fail?’, how about you say to yourself “then I will try again”

    Another reason most people are scared of failing is because of what they stand to lose – money, time, confidence and maybe respect. They are scared of being laughed at for giving it a go by people who are comfortable with being complacent and going with the flow, not that there’s anything particularly wrong with that, but with success, you do have to sacrifice – whether it’s money, time, and/or respect – something’s gotta give. In the words of Andre Gide, “you can’t discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”. You do have to take that risk!

    That said, your article really lit a fire under me this morning. Thanks a lot for this!

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      Thank you Nabz.

  8. uncle gee

    August 27, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Be yourself, live as yourself…Believe yourself…nice write-up…
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    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      Thank you Uncle Gee

  9. sum1special

    August 27, 2014 at 11:25 am

    Most importantly believe in God and work hard..The sky will be you starting point.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:51 pm

      True point, thank you

  10. flora

    August 27, 2014 at 12:32 pm

    Great write up. It is stimulating and awakens some inner restrictions we have which inhibits people from exploring our innate talent. If you fail try again! ! It’s easy to sayis a great asset. Let’s not continue to feel insufficient. If we dream it we can do it. Self esteem is vital .Great write up!I commend it to those who feel failure is the end of the world. I pray more people read and internalise it. Kudos baby! !

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:52 pm

      Thank you Mommy!

  11. flora

    August 27, 2014 at 12:42 pm

    Don’t be deterred failure is a stimulant to try again. Never give up, life must continue. Try, try, try again till you succeed. .failure should never stop you from actualising your dreams. Am encouraged Seun keep it up !!

  12. TheEditor

    August 27, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    As usual, you delivered…..i am motivated to try again. Thank you for this, you donno how many people you have touched with this write up Seun.

    I like the way you write. There is always content.keep it up

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      It gladdens my heart that it means something to you, Thank you!

  13. namesake

    August 27, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    Why did you take a break my namesake? Been looking out for your article.
    Great job, you have spoken well. Fear is a major factor, the fear of failure, the fear of what people will say, the fear of what you’d loose….from your article, the thought of confidently speaking to that feeling of fear and saying i am willing to try again makes me happy and more confident. I will read this post from time to time just as a refresher.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      Thank you, namesake.

  14. Prince Omeiza

    August 27, 2014 at 2:00 pm

    One shouldn’t be scare to fail. Failure only open up you to new ways or ideas of doing things and proffering solutions.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 27, 2014 at 2:41 pm

      I totally agree with you Prince Omeiza, thank you

  15. Chinwe

    August 27, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    I’m one person who really needs to eat up this article, because i failed ones and starting up again has been difficult..

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 31, 2014 at 10:52 pm

      Thank you Chinwe, i am glad you find it useful

  16. Maureen Coffey

    August 28, 2014 at 4:24 pm

    Well, Edison’s ten thousand times in his own words were not failures, but successes: he once quipped that he invented 10,000 ways how NOT to make a light bulb. But there is a crucial difference: he KNEW from the outset that it was physically possible. Many inventors start from that vantage point. But many business that I see failing start with ideas or lacking resources that an entrepreneurial “Edison” could immediately pinpoint as likely failures. But being doomed to fail they don’t see that they just proved how NOT to do it but then conclude they can’t. And that is mostly wrong.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 31, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      Thank you Maureen

  17. enik daniel enilama

    August 29, 2014 at 1:44 am

    Hiting that stumbling rock one more time may send it crashing down,u re just a step away from achieving ur desired goals,never give up. Inspiring write-up.

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 31, 2014 at 10:50 pm

      Thank you Enik.

  18. Sue Ure

    August 31, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    Lovely write up,….we need more motivational write ups like these

    • Seun Tuyo

      August 31, 2014 at 10:51 pm

      Thank you Sue

  19. Ifizion

    September 2, 2014 at 5:34 pm

    Awesome write up.

    • Seun Tuyo

      September 5, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      Thank you Ifizion

  20. Wendy

    September 2, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    am so motivated by this article.. I really needed this!

    • Seun Tuyo

      September 5, 2014 at 1:55 pm

      I am glad you found it useful, Thank you Wendy

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