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Toke MakinwaHave you seen Toke Makinwa‘s vlog from last week that people are still talking about?

You should! This time she is taking about the ‘Lazy toaster’.

According to her the lazy toaster is a big problem – mostly because of ambiguity – some days he’s hot and some days he’s cold.

Check on it!

64 Comments

  1. Eileen

    December 22, 2014 at 6:34 pm

    Ok soo I neva tot I waz going to say dis but am officially in love wit toke…I have a lot of guys in my life like dis nd am gonna set u guys free.

  2. Jerry

    December 22, 2014 at 6:39 pm

    I’m a big fan of Cyprian Ekwensi, and his phrase ‘I was born at the time when men were men and women were won by men who deserved them’. But Then women had dignity. The average woman these days is money driven, and would fall inlove with the highest bidder within minutes. No hard feelings, i love women and I will get married someday, but women are growing to be shallow and shallower by the day. So miss it don’t think I have the time to waste chasing you.

    • Tomilola

      December 23, 2014 at 8:42 am

      Honey, I don’t know how you got the number of likes you got for this comment because as much as I was on your side, you lost me when you said “the average woman”. May I ask, what’s your definition of average woman? Who have you been meeting? And what do you mean by women are growing shallower day by day? I’m not shallow, I bet a lot of the women (the comments on this post reveal that) around are not shallow. The point still remains that no matter how bad the situation might be, some women are still worth chasing. So miss me with that I can’t waste my time chasing bs cos no matter what, there are still women with great values out there.

    • Alero

      December 23, 2014 at 3:55 pm

      Truth is, these days , I have observed that guys put appearance over intellect. Its not like a lady cant look “hot” and be intelligent at the same time, however, the sooner guys start to set their priorities right in terms of what they want in a woman, the better it would be for them.

      In the meantime, to each his own.

  3. 1luv

    December 22, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    Luv u Toks, this is one of the best vlog episodes I couldn’t agree more. During my single days had many of them on my bbm. When I met my hubby within one month he had proposed and we’ve married/ honeymooning for 4years and counting. And by the way, it’s those lazy toasters that will start hounding you as soon as they hear you are getting married….lolzzzzz unserious bunch from the pit of hell.

    • Thatgidigirl

      December 22, 2014 at 9:11 pm

      Very true, soon as they hear you’re getting married, happy in a serious relationship or made some progress in life they would emerge from the pits of hell to start hounding you. Almost seems like they have an epiphany when they realise someone else was man enough to do what they should have done.

  4. Que

    December 22, 2014 at 7:13 pm

    I fell off my seat at that louud ‘SHUT UUUPPP’….lmaooo! Toke who vexed u…. o well, this issue is absolutely relevant…I cant even bother my head too much. All I remind myself is ‘guard thine heart with all diligence’…. I’m done worrying about men who haven’t shown themselves to be worth the headache….. #DONE!

  5. OgeAdiro

    December 22, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    lol… This girl no well.

  6. Easy n Gentle

    December 22, 2014 at 7:30 pm

    This one I like. Guilty lazy toaster here. Funny Tokstar

  7. Easy n Gentle

    December 22, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    In our defense, we sha can’t be jumping and asking every lady we’re friends with out like official dating something. You have to test the water to know for sure who’s green and more importantly, who’s worth taking home to mama

    • Eny

      December 23, 2014 at 8:27 am

      Don’t expect a good woman to play her part when you have other women auditioning for her role!

    • Easy n Gentle

      December 23, 2014 at 2:36 pm

      No one is asking anyone to play anything, just be yourself so a brother can know who fits best for the future he is trying to create for himself

  8. sayit

    December 22, 2014 at 8:14 pm

    when a guy knows, he knows..and will do the right thing! Like she said some guys already have the green light and still act like mofos….I deleted a bunch of them like months ago, its not worth it one bit!I had one I had been speaking with for almost a year, even met up with him when I visited Naija..this is me thinking okay he seen me, he was happy with what he’d seen (cause apparently) some of our mutual friends started telling me how this guy is cray cray about me…oya now oga mi say smth…he doesnt..we are going back and forth, late night talks etc and friends are like ask him wats up now? personally for me the minute I have to ask a guy that question…I feel like its me who made the move and I automatically lose interest sef and why should I…You saw me, you called me, you talk about how u feel to my friends yet you cannot goddam open yo mouth to move things to the next level..hiann!.And of course am not your ordinary chick, i am just as hella fineeee(yes I said it) as those other options you be chasing or talking to…After a while, i just lost interest sef,,,,..when i look at the guy now am like, was I actually falling for him? Nahhh! I’m done, not doing it,I know my Man is coming 2015, home girl is of age o but Nope, I aint desperate either…I have a career to focus on, business projects am working on, my beautiful ol’ self to take care of and My God – the all time connector-he will hook me up to the IT man! Merry Christmas yall…

  9. Favored

    December 22, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    Hmmmm how did I miss this vlog. I am dealing with a lazy toaster I was already falling seriously for. On Friday I finally came to the conclusion that i didn’t understand him. He already told me he likes me and will like to date me, yet acts so distant. He will call me, take me out, we’ll Hv a great discussion, laugh etc, then I’ll not hear from him again for days. Yesterday, I went to church and my pastor spoke about people with no purpose in our lives. People who just drag and drag; very similar to lazy toasters. Pastor said not to carry such people into 2015. In his words, delete and block them. I said I will wait until today, and if I didn’t hear from this guy, I’ll block him and move on. I haven’t heard from him, Then I stumble on this vlog!! God is saying something for real. Dude is soooo blocked!! Blocked!! Delete!! Delete!!. Bye lazy toaster!! GOd ehhh.

    • Fabz

      December 23, 2014 at 11:44 am

      For a second, I thought you were talking about me. The guy is prolly expecting you to say something cuz he has already told you how he feels. I feel girls should try and reach out too. Some guys don’t like looking or acting desperate especially when it has to do with love.

  10. Lola

    December 22, 2014 at 8:42 pm

    One of my fave topics so far! It’s so irritating. Especially guys in Lagos kmt

  11. me

    December 22, 2014 at 8:49 pm

    when a guy knows, he knows..and will do the right thing! Like she said some guys already have the green light and still act like mofos….I deleted a bunch of them like months ago, its not worth it one bit!I had one I had been speaking with for almost a year, even met up with him when I visited Naija..this is me thinking okay he seen me, he was happy with what he’d seen (cause apparently) some of our mutual friends started telling me how this guy is cray cray about me…oya now oga mi say smth…he doesnt..we are going back and forth, late night talks etc and friends are like ask him wats up now? personally for me the minute I have to ask a guy that question…I feel like its me who made the move and I automatically lose interest sef and why should I…You saw me, you called me, you talk about how u feel to my friends yet you cannot goddam open yo mouth to move things to the next level..hiann!.And of course am not your ordinary chick, i am just as hella fineeee(yes I said it) as those other options you be chasing or talking to…After a while, i just lost interest sef,,,,..when i look at the guy now am like, was I actually falling for him? Nahhh! I’m done, not doing it,I know my Man is coming 2015, home girl is of age o but Nope, I aint desperate either…I have a career to focus on, business projects am working on, my beautiful ol’ self to take care of and My God – the all time connector-he will hook me up to the IT man! Merry Christmas yall…

  12. D Main Man

    December 22, 2014 at 8:50 pm

    Well it still takes me back to what i said last week a piece of advice is not to be taken hook, line and sinker…I don’t know if Toke its a celebrity or not…but if she is, celebrities tend to have so many guys hanging around which the celebrity may see as a lazy toasters and may want real people to spend money on her…but as for those girls that are not celebrities…please jettison this Toke’s advice from your mind, see these so called lazy toasters are not lazy per se…. it may be because of lack of cash to come out fully…maybe lack of courage (Shy) and so on…but look well o, a lazy toaster may be a brave toasters one day oh…Person wey get ear hear oh…

  13. MZ

    December 22, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    Toke facial expression and the way she say the words really really make me laugh

  14. Ibukun

    December 22, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    I love you Tokeeeeeeee.com. This is one of the best vlog I’ve seen. This is so real & so true. On a normal day, I set free distraction(lazy toasters) from the pit of hell.

  15. cali

    December 22, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    #truth #facts

  16. ada

    December 22, 2014 at 10:19 pm

    Love u Toke…best so far

  17. adaomabeads

    December 22, 2014 at 10:20 pm

    Love u Toke….Ma best.

  18. 'liya

    December 22, 2014 at 10:46 pm

    Hahaha… I got one of them on my bbm atm, he falls into the Fineboy-LazyToaster category. Didn’t take me a while to catch up to his game plan but he def isn’t following me into the new year, dropping all dead weight of my phone this week!!!

  19. nonconformist

    December 22, 2014 at 10:50 pm

    As much as this sounds funny,I must say that I can totally relate to this situation…Infact I currently have a couple of these “lazy toasters” on my BBM.

  20. Paris4ller

    December 22, 2014 at 10:57 pm

    I can’t agree with Toke less on this one.. Nowadays it’s worse.. Some men believe say ‘ if you no do another girl go do’ on a platter., and we can’t blame them as some many girls have made the chasing so cheap , they practically chase men themselves..and when they get married to d same girls they later realise that they have practically nothing to offer will be too late by then* God Help Us All

  21. mawning rose

    December 23, 2014 at 12:14 am

    @easy &gentle dnt worry kip testin it will hook u 1 day 1 day

  22. see me see trouble

    December 23, 2014 at 12:41 am

    Those fine boys re the worst. They expect women to worship the ground they step on. Smh! Thanks Toks. You are awesome 🙂

  23. Oluwabusola Adedire

    December 23, 2014 at 12:44 am

    I am a toke fan for this vlog. This topic right here, is a PROBLEM! To be honest, I can’t even blame men anymore… women have made it too easy. If we want better, we should demand better. Settling should not be an option.

  24. Surely

    December 23, 2014 at 4:00 am

    Of course you people love this post because you love the idea of being chased while contributing nothing but sex and cooking to your man’s life…

    • nkyy

      December 23, 2014 at 9:50 am

      who sent u to date women with nothing to offer? im a strong woman and i have learnt that men dont value what they get cheaply. a real man is a hunter…lazy men like you do not attract me…dont go and date a lazy woman cos she is fine and come here and start crying

    • Duchess

      December 23, 2014 at 10:29 am

      @Surely,
      I just could not help but respond to you…..Your comment displays the kind of women you have been meeting…women who feel all they can contribute to a man’s life is sex and food…..I beg to differ and say some women can and do contribute to their husbands success and greatness….Please there are women whose husbands sound an issue/topic by them before they make a decision because they trust in their capabilities and opinions……Do your self a favour and meet a woman with something Upstairs (BRAINS) and then Beauty can follow

  25. uzo

    December 23, 2014 at 6:42 am

    Tokeeeeeeeeeee you made my day…

  26. CUTIEPIE

    December 23, 2014 at 8:10 am

    This is the coolest vblog ever!!!
    But then we have ladies here that are the reason men treat other good ladies like crap but they will not talk oo, or take a chill-pill.
    So many “correct girls” in this Lagos are Man-hungry..I have 5 brothers so i Know how desperate they can be. A friend of mine(a guy) once told me that the reason i am still single is cos i dont make an effort to be ahead and in the lead as other girls are doing, i was like, “WHATTTTT???!
    I personally know a couple of ladies that are constantly chasing men. Just last week, someone wanted to hook me up with a guy, instead of giving him my number like a normal person, he said i shld be coming around the guy’s house so that he will choose me as there are so many girls around him but he feels i will be the best for his friend. One time i went there and a girl that slept over was leaving. Another time i met them up at his site where he is opening a restuarant in lekki and a pretty lady was with him and i overheard her telling him reasons why she is good for him(she is mature, ambitious, hardworking…blah blah)..Nna mehn i just dey look them sha.
    i dunno sha, but i don tire for these men sef… Me, i am a lazy toastee cos i like attention, if you dont toast me right i set you free chap chap!!lol.. No time biko..
    Its all in God’s hands, always has, always will be….XOXO

    • Blessmyheart

      December 23, 2014 at 1:14 pm

      Are you kidding? Your ‘friend’ told you to audition for the role of the main chick and you apparently took the advice. Sounds like a Nollywood movie. I hope, for your sake, that you have dropped out of that.

  27. temmytee

    December 23, 2014 at 8:51 am

    Tokeeee,this is spot on.i just went through something like this recentlywhere the guy was blowing hot,warm and cold and i got hurt.at d end of the day.i wish this topic came out much earlier as i would have avoided the whole drama.guys can be so confused and they will leave the girl confused too. GOSH!

  28. Sparks & Tingles

    December 23, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Lazy Toaster.. That is what you ladies call us now? It is all our fault, we are supposed to disappear from your lives and never return each time we experience actions or see traits that doesn’t agree with our mental image of our soon-to-be girlfriends. But that thing in our heart keeps drawing us back to you ladies, we keep making excuses for your inadequacies, we keep coming back when common sense says we shouldn’t. You ladies expect a guy to maintain the intensity with which he started asking you out a year ago? Are you for real?

    • Duchess

      December 23, 2014 at 10:26 am

      @Sparks & Tingles,
      what is the mental image you have of your ‘soon-to-be-girlfriend’? one who is prim and proper, doesnt poop, holier than saint peter-more generous than mother theresa, cook like a jevnik’s restaurant and wind your waist like the greatest courtesan alive?? to be candid, if you are looking for a 100%, please just go and become a monk cos e go tey for you. Point is, if you meet someone you like and you both talk, it would not take you a year to KNOW if you can spend the rest of your life with her or not….few months will do the trick…then you can make your intentions known and you start dating, not that you will gist for 5 years and she is neither in the friend-zone nor girl-friend zone….
      also we ladies do not expect the SAME intensity you started with a year ago but there is something to be said for ‘keeping the flame burning’…..I would like to think we are still sensible and realistic not to demand SAME intensity…..cos truth is over time, you will see us messy, bedraggled, ill, periods etc but would that make you loose respect or hate or fall out of love with your significant other??? i do not think so.

    • Sparks & Tingles

      December 23, 2014 at 1:05 pm

      Hehehehe… I want all those traits, I am that greedy!

      Some of us are scared of making a wrong choice, so we get close enough to the females we want to date before we eventually ask her out. Because of how comfortable we have been with ourselves, we don’t run around aggressively like we would with a stranger, we just let things flow. We seize every opportunity to let her know the extent of our feelings for her. We won’t pressure her because we want to be sure she feels something for us too. While she weighs her other options, we gently and unofficially take the role of a boyfriend but we don’t get the title. It is at this time that we get to see those “traits” , we don’t even mind that she isn’t perfect as we are not perfect too. Depending on the guy, this can go on for a year or more. You see it isn’t that easy?

    • Carliforniabawlar

      December 23, 2014 at 10:56 am

      Sweetheart mi, Why has it taken you one full year to make a girl your girlfriend? Shuuu!! My people go talk say if you take 20years to prepare for madness, how many years will you actually use to display the main kolo??!! If it takes you one year if (wavering) intensity to ask to be in a relationship, then how many years will you take before proposing? Bros you never ready to marry oh!
      In summary, you are either the chairman of the lazy toasters club or you don’t understand the entire concept. Abeg free any ‘potential gf’ material that you have doubts about from hereon,….we will appreciate the favor!
      To all my chickas out there, i think i can authoritatively say a lazy toaster is either 1. Not that into you( as testified to by this our brother that is seeing traits up here), 2. Married, dating or engaged, or 3. Not ready to be in a relationship in general… All in all, pack ya kaya move forward…cos, no! He will never come around….and if perchance he does (before you are married and giving your own daughter away in marriage) , he will come correct!

    • Easy n Gentle

      December 23, 2014 at 1:15 pm

      Every single dude is one person’s lazy toaster o, best believe. If he wasn’t, you’d never find a single dude around. I don’t know who fills your head with that crap that all men are hunters. Okay so a colleague of mine is what you’d call an hunter but the most intelligent men I know aren’t. Random poll, 70% of the kind of men I’d recommend for my sister if I had one are not the ‘hunting’ type and the hunting ones have a lot of girls. All men are not the same, better to adapt your expectation to whomever you’re dealing with

    • Sparks & Tingles

      December 23, 2014 at 1:20 pm

      I am like the president of Lazy Toasters sef, should I have put a gun to her head and make her my girlfriend on my 364th day of asking her out? My own people (nor be only you get people) also says “an eye that would last you a lifetime wouldn’t be jaundiced early in the morning”. So, I have a right to do a SWOT analysis before I get irreversibly hitched to the wrong person.

      By the way, I hope you are not male, I get really mad when a guy addresses me as “sweetheart”

    • Mz Socially Awkward...

      December 28, 2014 at 10:32 pm

      @Easy and Gentle, oya I’m jumping in the ring to debate this one with you (albeit a week late but a gal’s had “Xmas activity” all this while…)

      Granted, a lot of the proverbial good guys may not necessarily be hunters and will likely balk at the thought of asking that chick out and getting turned down. I’ll give you that point but shall raise you this next one – a lot of girls actually find it endearing and even a tad sexy when they know dude is feeling their steez and may suffer from some slight shyness.

      Ngwanu, the gal now makes the job easier by dropping hints, flashing green light, adjusting her position and such other indications of her willingness to “engage”. What, then, would be the reason for the man still acting brand-new about the courtship dance? Ehn kwa?? You say you no be hunter, so I don stylishly present the prey with a silken ribbon around it so that all you have to do is tug the ribbon a few meters and it’s yours. Abi, you want make I dress am, put am for tureen, drop am on top your laps??

      Bros, this your argument can’t hold water, oh. I continue to posit a certain theory of mine – if only it wasn’t such a societal taboo for women to walk up to a man they liked and asked him out… Omo, the singles market would have drastically reduced by now.

    • ekalor

      December 24, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      Quick one: I hope you are all that a woman would need, considering you feel its too much of an effort… when you become a parent, what kind of advice would you give your daughters…..

  29. Lyrics

    December 23, 2014 at 9:07 am

    This, right here, is the truth! My best vlog episode so far! I’m letting go of all the lazy toasters TODAY!!! Thanks Tokstarr!

  30. stephy

    December 23, 2014 at 9:44 am

    Toke has got to be funniest person alive..lol biko I believe u dear.All d lazy toasters in my life I reject u guys and set u free o. I rather step up no time for iranu. And dis actually happens o, some wud rather send u annoying bbms instead of picking their calls nd they wud nvr send reasonable msgs o. Only hey nd sup. …2015 is my year oo

  31. blow

    December 23, 2014 at 9:57 am

    If I hear! I am sure you will still wake up tommorrow morning thinking ’bout him. Moving on is never easy though. God is your muscle.

  32. nola

    December 23, 2014 at 10:18 am

    LOL. Also known as daku daji toasters!! in those days of toasting, after being shown pepper then I learnt fast! I always told the guys to woo me o, I said hey you say you are serious right? now you have to woo me like our fathers chased our mothers, no BBM messages, you have to call me regularly , let them come to your house and certainly no sex. Trust me if the guy is serious, wont be any hassle for him.Too many of these lazy toasters in Lagos, silly excuses like i don’t cross the bridge, rubbish! that means you no dey go murtala airport naa…very busy at work, naa you dey rule naija nii?? ..parents please teach your daughters not to settle for less

  33. Terez

    December 23, 2014 at 11:57 am

    Chaii..I love dis no b small

  34. Debutante

    December 23, 2014 at 12:34 pm

    Luv luv luv this Toke! !!! Story of my life. . The lazy toasters have come into my life in different forms. There is even one that has been lazy toasting me for 6 years! 6 good years my people, the devil is a liar!
    I met this same guy again last month at a function where he announced to his friends that he will be getting married to me in march 2015, I looked at him like “are you okay? You that I have not spoken to in the last 7 months!” Even if I am going to dare to assume he was serious about that declaration, today is 23rd December and he is nowhere to be found once again, how is a wedding in march going to happen? Lol. ..
    I see guys like this as agents of confusion planted by the devil to derail your wonderful destiny. He got me really confused in the course of these 6 years but now I see the light.
    I have always told myself I would never chase a man, the highest you will get from me is amber light and everyday it seemed like my values fit less into the realities of today’s world but listening to Toke speak and reading about all these experiences in the comment section, I am happy to realise that I haven’t been alone in this type of struggle. The days of lazy toasters in my life are so over!!!!!

  35. Leo

    December 23, 2014 at 12:49 pm

    There are 2 sides 2 a coin abeg, yes there are lazy toasters but not every one u consider to be lazy toasters are lazy, Toke wants every man to turn into Jacob abi? as if everyone woman is Rachel, na Delilahs,, Eves and Jezebels full this generation

  36. southernbelle

    December 23, 2014 at 12:52 pm

    The comments are killing me looool….

  37. Rukky

    December 23, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    I think any guy that keeps roping a girl more than 6months is not worth it. That is enough time to know someone character. You might not see the whole thing, but you will at least have a glimpse. The true test of a relationship will occur in marriage, every other thing is child play. I think the problem is that everyone put pressure or expectation in the word relationship that it will ultimately lead to marriage. If your partner isn’t ready, it will ultimately fail. If no one had that pressure, I believe a lot of relationship will have succeeded. However, I do not agree in clinging to a guy if he is inconsistent. Nothing is more horrible than a confused man. If you find someone that is actively pursing you, but isn’t ready for marriage for a GOOD reason i.e finances to raise family, then I will say not to close the door, but if he is saying he is wanting to make sure you are the one, please bang the door on his face.

  38. Godfreemefromconfusedmenwholikestringingbabesalong

    December 23, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    Hello guys,
    Toke thank you so much for this vlog. Guys can you believe this guy that I have been talking to told me about 2 weeks that since 2015 is coming he wanted to start afresh. That he was confused about his feelings for me. He always told me that he had alot of girls wanting to marry him. But it seemed like im the only one not confessing my love for him or proposing marriage to him. This guy dey say he has never had a girl treat him so well… yet he choose not to commit to me. My mumu eyes that I call “beginning to really like”(not love) opened up well well. Me, i no go fit shout or get angry. This guy is not serious. I feel bad for all the girls that think he will marry them. ME o, I told myself, God would never bring a confused men into my life bc he loves me so much. Signs to look out for in a confused/cheap and lazy toaster…….
    1. when he has kissed all his female friends
    2. When he constantly talks about finding the perfect innocent girl when in reality he is nowhere close to perfect nor innocent.
    3. When he spends alot of time on the phone/skype with a “female friend”
    4. When he says he has girls buying him
    5. When he tells you what he wants his girl to look like physically yet he doesnt look like Boris Kodjoe
    6. When he tells you that he likes you and introduces you to his whole family, but still doesnt commit.
    7.when he gets jealous when you are talking to other guys, yet doesnt commit
    8. When he tells you to”go with the flow”
    Sorry for the long rant…. I guess im still bitter! God is the only one that can heal. I have learned a great lesson and im still thankful for meeting him.

    • T'ee

      December 29, 2014 at 12:07 pm

      I can totally relate..infact it feels like I know the guy ur talking about..its so annoying

    • Godfreemefromconfusedmenwholikestringingbabesalong

      December 30, 2014 at 6:08 pm

      We probably are! God save us from this useless guys

  39. Osasodia1

    December 23, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    Oh ma Toke, how u make me laugh hahaha. Yes the lazy toasters are actually nothing to write home about, now they should pack n go cos 2015 is no go area for them atall. #osassaysso. Merry Christmas to all @ Toke moment.

  40. Concerned_Boyfriend

    December 23, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    In as much as this appeals to the female more, you all would be surprised to know that it’s exactly the same way on the other side of the isle. Lazy toasters are not overnight phenoms, they were all born from skeptic and “Confused Females”. They are not sure who to really give their attention to out of the numerous guys in their pursuit. They are perpetually “weighing their options”. Trying to figure out if Ade has want Uche doesn’t have. Show me a lazy toaster and I’ll show you a confused female.

  41. Anne

    December 24, 2014 at 7:55 am

    i can relate to this totally. i ve had soo many lazy toasters i tell u. at a point u ask yourself what is really the point as u both just go around in circles for years. a guy who is serious about u will do just anything to prove that and to be with you. I currently got engaged and i definitely have stories to tell my kids about how hard this guy worked to hook me up. Merry Christmas to you all

  42. Queen Spicey

    December 24, 2014 at 9:26 am

    So many guys on here are busy listing traits they want their woman to have e.g @sparks * Tingles, a quick question though, while your busy hunting for “the right one”, have you made yourself the right one for her?
    And as for lazy toasters, I believe they are confused and have plenty options so they sit in their living room, do tumbo tumbo on which girl to ping, skype, whatsapp, call or sms, all the while sashaying around in their fine boy-ness. Ndi iberibe

  43. fiya

    December 25, 2014 at 11:44 am

    I swear BN commenters can make ur day with their comments. Sometimes I read the comments before I even try to read the post because they break whatever the poster wroke down, u’ll even prefer the comments over the post sef..

  44. http://mytestimonys.blogspot.com

    December 25, 2014 at 1:29 pm

    lmaoo. A guy has to be proud biko or these babes will use you to catch trips.
    mytestimonys.blogspot.com/

  45. Bonita

    December 27, 2014 at 7:25 pm

    Well,I believe everything still boils down to you as an individual;your relationship with yourself and your maker…in my christian journey I’ve learnt not to be involved with people that have nothing to add to me…my circle has greatly reduced and I only busy myself with activities and pple that will improve me as an individual and my relationship with God and I think that should be our paramount. God definitely will bring mr right your way at the right time.it’s when we ladies busy ourselves looking for what is not missin that we fall into the trap of these so called lazy toasters. One of the comments said she met her man and in a month,they were married. It’s in our effort to nail the perfect guy using our carnal minds to judge that we get in trouble. There used to be a time in my life when I couldn’t stand been alone, if not anything there must someone wooing me or atleast taking me out every now and then. Without that I felt lonely and incomplete . Not until I realized that I needed to learn to be happy with myself and not depend on a man to make me happy. Your happiness isn’t dependent on anyone but you..we all need to get that straight..so bottom line is develop a good solid relationship with yourself and your God and when Mr right comes knocking (trust me he will) you will be emotionally, mentally and spiritually ready.so get rid of wrong association and Mr wrong or lazy toaster as you call it will never cross your path.

    Nice one Toke…

  46. Mizz P

    December 30, 2014 at 12:39 am

    Sha!!! Lazy toasters plenty these days. Sm how I think it is kinda the fault of the ladies. In the bid to get a guy we give practically everything he has not earned on a golden platter. And then hez eating his cake n having it, not from one but from several girls. It then becomes a question of whose cake tastes better. So he don’t hv to work to get noth. We ladies need to take a step back and reconsider our values and code of conduct. It will require stepping away from d crowd. Not doing what we perceive to be the way of things now. Dunno if we are strong enough to do so. Few of us are. At the end of the the day, God’s way is the best for us. It’s how much he loves us that has him trying to teach us His ways. But when we begin to go contrary to his will, our lives become more difficult n complicated.

    Think on these, pray on these, read and meditate on these (bible), let 2015 be your year, let God work on you inside out, you won’t regret it. Lazy toaster are really the least of our problems….

    Cheers!

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