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Ej Ogenyi: Succeeding In Your Weightloss Resolutions



It’s the New Year. It’s a time for New Beginnings, for New Commitments, and of course New Year’s Resolutions. If you have weight loss-focused resolutions for 2015, I’m here to share how you can make them happen this year. I remember when I used to have those resolutions, I think I had weight loss resolutions for nine years straight and it wasn’t till the 10th year that I was able to make them happen for real. I don’t want you to have to take that much time to get to your goal, so here’s how to bypass nine years of not reaching your goal and dive straight into success. The secret is:

Be Clear about Why You want to Lose Weight and Who You’re Doing it For

A lot of us have what I call “obligatory” weight loss goals. We might be doing it because our spouse or our parents think we need to lose weight. Or we might even choose to do it because we think we should fit into the world’s image of beauty. The problem with obligatory weight loss goals is that they have no conviction. There isn’t any heart behind them. They are all talk and no action. And all talk and no action will see you still at the starting line on December 31st, 2015.
Being clear about why you’re losing weight will give you conviction because you are aware of why and this awareness is enough to help you stay on track with the actions that are necessary to get you to your goal.

Here are two guiding questions that you can use to find your “why:”
Why is Now the Time for Me to Lose the Weight?

This injects a sense of urgency into your desire to lose weight. If it’s urgent enough, you’re more likely to ignore the voice in your head that calls for you to quit on the days that it gets hard. Sample answers to these questions are:
• If I don’t do it now my blood pressure might climb even more dangerously than it is
• My gynecologist tells me that losing weight is affecting my ability to get pregnant and I want to have a baby by the end of the year
• I’m getting married this year and I want to look good in my wedding pictures
• My hubby and I are planning to have a baby by the end of the year and I want to start my pregnancy at a healthy weight (FYI: This was the reason that got me to my target weight in no time and helped me stay there till we got pregnant)

As you can see, the timing could be related to a health issue that you have, a bigger life goal, an event that you have to prepare for, or just because you want to end the year looking better than you started. All you need is an answer with a sense of time and urgency i.e. there’s no right or wrong answer. If you can’t come up with an answer that has a sense of time of urgency, you might want to ask yourself if you really believe you need to or even want to lose weight.

Who am I doing this for?
We choose to lose weight for different reasons, but I’ve found that the most successful ‘losers’ are those who do it for themselves. Your family and friends might influence your reason, but having anyone but yourself as the core reason for your weight loss resolution can lead you down the path to failure. Here’s why:
• No one cares about you more than yourself (at least no one should)
• The people in your life who you might be doing it for might have ulterior motives that are not in your best interest (e.g. to control you or make you feel bad about yourself)
• The people in your life who you might be doing it for have other things going on in their lives that might make it difficult for them to be as invested in your change process as you need them to be

But what about if you are doing it for your husband and children, what if you are doing it so that you can be there for them? Well that’s your family influencing the reason NOT being the reason. At the core of it, a reason like that means that YOU want to be around to grow old with your spouse and to see your children grow up and have children of their own. This reason is very powerful. So remember when probing who you are doing it for, make sure that the answer at its very core is YOU.

Once you’ve established your personal sense of time and urgency and you’ve drilled down to a reason that has you at the center, success is within your grasp. You see, doing what it takes to lose weight can be a self-centered endeavor. It’s self-centered because it requires you to put yourself and your wellbeing at the center of a lot of decisions.

It’s self-centered because to lose weight:
• You’ll have to move more, which means that you’ll have to put your need to take the time to work out ahead of your friend’s need to go to the mall
• You’ll have to change how you eat, which means you’ll probably find yourself saying no to a lot of food offers that you once said yes to
• You’ll have to cook and eat healthier, which might require you to change how you cook for your family and this means you’ll be asking them to do something for you that they might not be 100% behind
Because it requires you to put YOU at the center of your existence, it will be difficult. But when you know why it’s important to do it now, you’ll be more likely to put YOU first more often than not and more importantly YOU’LL BE MORE LIKELY TO SUCCEED.

Here’s wishing you a 2015 filled with success at your weight loss endeavor and so much more!

EJ (Ejiro) is a writer/engineer/mom. She writes about healthy living to help busy professional women lose weight, keep it off—and actually feel amazing.She created a Registered Trademarked System (VAFs®) for healthy eating for weight loss and wrote the book Weight Loss for High Achievers to help busy women lose weight and let go of the idea that the only way to succeed is to diet for the rest of their lives.With EJ's methods, dieting isn't required and neither is spending hours in the gym for meager results.P.S. If you want to get the goal-crushing motivation to reach your weight loss goal, then you'll want to get the first chapter of EJ's book for FREE. Click here to get it now.


  1. koins

    January 9, 2015 at 1:28 pm

    Love this

    • EJ Ogenyi

      January 10, 2015 at 3:38 pm

      Thank you Koins! have a wonderful day!!!

  2. anonymous

    January 9, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    how many of u turned upside down to look @ d picture…yawns

  3. Banjo

    January 9, 2015 at 5:44 pm

    If I know nothing at least the why you should lose weight. Simply to keep a healthy weight.

    • EJ Ogenyi

      January 10, 2015 at 3:38 pm


      You are definitely right. I do find that the benefit of going past keeping a healthy weight as a reason is that most people need a little extra motivation. I’ve met obese people who don’t see a healthy weight as being a good enough reason, but who are moved and motivated by the idea of looking good in their wedding dress or having enough energy to run after their kids.

      But a healthy weight is a great start!

  4. jojo

    January 9, 2015 at 7:43 pm

    Nice pose.

    • EJ Ogenyi

      January 10, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      Thank you Jojo!

  5. Ellah

    January 9, 2015 at 8:25 pm

    Can weight lifting or strenuous exercise hinder my getting pregnant?

    • EJ Ogenyi

      January 10, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      Hello Ellah,

      First happy new year and congratulations on your decision to start a family. To answer your question:

      First thing: Talk to your gynecologist to find out what he/she thinks. The only reason that I think that strenuous exercise or weight lifting could hinder getting pregnant is if you have a medical condition that makes it so. This is why talking to your doctor should be your first stop.

      Second thing: From personal experience, you’ll probably be fine if you’re healthy and were doing such exercise before starting your journey to motherhood. I’m expecting my first and didn’t slow down on my workouts till I started feeling symptoms that convinced me that I was pregnant. In fact, I actually did a crossfit style workout before I knew when I was in my third week (not long after conception).

      Third thing: If your doc gives you the okay and you are mentally and physically interested in continuing these forms of exercise when trying and during pregnancy, look up fitness professionals who have done the same. Instragram is a good source and you can do a search for #fitpregnancy to find accounts of people who have done it and you can contact them for advice; most of them are pretty helpful and willing answer questions for free within reason.

      I hope my answers helped. Feel free to contact me directly (via my website – just click my name) if you have any more about conception, pregnancy, and fitness.

  6. Ayo Donaldlove

    January 10, 2015 at 6:29 pm

    Do I need to repeat the consequences surrounding Abortion? Ofcourse NO! Buh one very literal truth about it is that, “It doesn’t make U a motherless child, but the Mother of a Dead Child!”. View this.

  7. Akaahan Terungwa

    January 11, 2015 at 4:57 am

    Hi EJ,

    I’m in supreme shape – but I must appreciate the simple genius that went into planning this weight loss plan/resolution ‘aider’. You see, without any serious and methodological plan as this, nothing really gets achieved.

    Nothing. And a whole year simply wastes away!

    Do have a very great day!


    • EJ Ogenyi

      January 21, 2015 at 4:23 am


      Congratulations on being in supreme shape, I love it!!! And thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

  8. Ejinwa

    January 25, 2015 at 5:40 am

    Honestly, the best weight loss article I have read. Thank you so much EJ for sharing valuable information!

    • EJ Ogenyi

      February 7, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      Thank you for your kind words Ejinwa!!!

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