I promise, this is not a men-bashing BN Hot Topic.
However…my blood is boiling!
These men sha…
Ok, for anyone who is not really into “urban” gist. Grammy award winning musician/writer/producer Ne-Yo was engaged to the mother of his first 2 children, Monyetta Shaw. During the relationship, Ne-Yo told Monyetta to tie her tubes because he did not want to have any more children. Please note that he did not go for a vasectomy, instead, made Monyetta take the big step.
Months after, he unceremoniously broke up with her on the phone and then broke the news via Instagram without discussing with her first. The reason he gave for the breakup was that he was not sure he could commit to a monogamous relationship.
Anyone who watched the reality show “Atlanta Exes” could see that Monyetta was really devastated by the breakup and the partial loss of her fertility.
Fast forward about 2 years and surprise suprise! Ne-Yo is now engaged and expecting a baby with his new girlfriend Crystal Renay.
Pregnant, engaged? Baby + Monogamy, 2 things he made very clear he was no longer interested in.
After fans attacked Ne-Yo on social media, he tweeted this,
“Clearing the air..I didn’t force Mo to tie her tubes. Mutual decision. And the procedure is reversible. # SheCanHaveKids # FromTheHorsesMouth .”
Anyone who knows the basics of fertility will tell you that while tubes can be “untied”, due to the delicate nature of fallopian tubes, there is no guarantee that the tubes will not be damaged by the procedure and fertility will be impaired.
So my BellaNaijarians, what are your thoughts on this. A friend told me once, whenever a man says things like “I don’t want to get married or I just don’t want to have children”, just add “with you”!
Monyetta posted this on her Instagram page today.
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