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Richard Akuson: A Cease & Desist Memo To All The Long Weave Wearing Ladies

Richard Akuson

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Dear Ladies,

There is a really thin line that sets apart trashy from classy. It is so fine a line that most times it eludes even the most moneyed of us all. It can’t be bought nor taught. You either have it or not. While trashy is the extreme and loud ostentatiousness, classy is the barest of  minimalism. It is subtle, demure and simple.

Lately, there has been a lot of conversation around natural hair and its symbolism. But for the purpose of this article, I’ll like to veer off a little to talk about weaves and hair extentions. And for those of you who are still unabashedly basking in the delight of your luscious super long weaves, pay close attention.

At most, your weave should not exceed 14 inches. Anything beyond that is just kitsch. Forget what you have been told or made to believe. The length or fullness of your hair is not in any way a class symbol.

Yes, maybe it will tell you had some extra bucks to spare for the longer and fuller hair, but what it won’t do is earn you some class. It will rather strip you of it; assuming you had some.

Hair extensions are supposed to enhance and compliment your hair; thus, should be a few inches longer than your real hair. It is supposed to look convincing and natural enough. Consequently, anything beyond that automatically looks tasteless and really fake.

Without a doubt you are not supposed to look like a caricature simply because you have a weave on. I’m sure there are better and less trashy ways of achieving that without even trying.

I met a super gorgeous lady at the Abuja Hilton last weekend. Very beautiful with a stunning figure. I was particularly interested in her. Interested in just talking with her because I suspected her to be an escort or something close to that. So,  I struck a convo with her. I complimented her really cute Lady Dior purse; which set the tone for the conversation. Clearly stunned, she asked how I knew, and, well, I kicked the ball rolling with that. One thing I noticed though from the minute she sat next to me was her really-really long and full Brazillian hair – full enough that I thought it could moderately serve three other ladies. Ofcourse, I had to tell her it looked beautiful before asking why she went for that length and ‘density’, she jokingly but confidently said “hah, the fuller and longer it is, the more moneyed you look. Short and scanty weaves only make people assume you have gone broke We both laughed out loud. She was laughing at what she thought was a funny joke while I was laughing at her ignorance. She clearly needed a memo like this.

Truth is, if you, DJ Cuppy, Toke Makinwa, Rukky Sanda and every long weave wearing Nigerian ‘celebrity’ and lady out there contributes a portion of your weave to the under-privileged girls around, then there will be more than enough human hair to go around. Less number of girls who have to bend backwards to afford them.

Super long and full hair extensions are really out of fashion. Scratch that. They have never been in fashion. We have withstood many weave and hair tribulations like that hideous lace wig that swept through Nollywood and Nigeria like a wildfire. (may we never see days like that) Please, don’t make us relive those dark old days with your mami-water Inspired hair. If you have too much of it, consider giving it out in charity, atleast so that the rest of you can have some to put on.

I’m confident that this memo and its intent is unambigious howsoever; thus, I expect strict adherence to the advices rendered herein.

Yours truly,

Richie xxx

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Richard Akuson is founder at The PR Boy a boutique media and press relations agency for fashion, beauty and lifestyle brands with a specialty in raising the overall awareness of a brand, product or image of a company or person. Richard is also a weekly columnist at Bellanaija.com ('On The Catwalk' and 'Collection Conversations'), he's also a party host at The Front Row and a vlogger at Get Pink with Richard .Want to reach out? Follow @richardakuson on Instagram and @richardakuson on Twitter or send an email to [email protected]

144 Comments

  1. Meah

    September 18, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    Dear Mr. 21 year old writer, three things: Leave. people. Be!

    Thought to send that by since you clearly missed the memo.

    • Ifybaby

      September 18, 2015 at 3:25 pm

      Abeg, he talked true. And I’m going to kick it up a notch…why don’t we women try to nurture our own hair? Must we wear weave? AND MUST WE CARE WHETHER PEOPLE THINK WE ARE ‘MONEYED’ OR NOT ??

    • Ifybaby

      September 18, 2015 at 3:30 pm

      By the way, though I’m not a fan of weave, I fully acknowledge that there’s nothing wrong with wearing weave. However, there’s also nothing wrong with NOT wearing one.

    • peaches

      September 18, 2015 at 4:24 pm

      @ Ifybaby thank U. He’s telling truth.. Those that fancy Weaves, good for them I’m so in lovwith my natural 6inches long hair & still growing! However some of this ladies made weaves tiring for me. I met a beautiful when I say beautiful, I mean it she’s only 4ft ish and got 25inches length weave in her hair all the way to her waist like really??? I will never forget the look on mg face.. Folks tend to forget that no matter how real it looks, its still not ur own hair from birth

    • Neharra

      September 18, 2015 at 6:28 pm

      And who says wearing weaves does not permit nurturing of ones own hair. Do you know whether or not it is a protective style for some people? I personally have 20 inches of my own hair that I achieved through meticulous care throughout the years. If I hadn’t been wearing weaves my hair would have been damaged. So please don’t be ignorant and like someone said, let people do whatever pleases them.

    • Paypay

      September 18, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      This child has touched our emotions, he will write again, bella will post, we will read, we will comment, we will antagonize his expression and the fame for junior Richard will continue. Shikena. Just as he planned.

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      He “talked true” for an issue that doesn’t concern him. Are you not tired of men telling women how to look, dress, speak, type, everything? Over this nonsense abeg, Richard, write to your male cohorts and stay away from women’s stuff ok?

    • nunulicious

      September 18, 2015 at 6:26 pm

      2 out of 5 men cannot understand the craze with the whole human hair extensions.
      3 out of 5 men admit it makes the woman look attractive.
      4 out of 5 men agree that LESS IS MORE when it comes to hair, make up and accessories.
      I think our dear author is speaking for a lot of men. If you’re single and want to be found, puhlease keep this memo.

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      Why must everything be about being found? Some women don’t want relationships and others FIND. So please carry your nonsense Knight in Shining Armor mentality from here.

    • Annalise Keating

      September 18, 2015 at 7:16 pm

      The butthurt comments are funny to me sha. Some people that may not even be up to 21 are spazzing out and calling him small boy and “advising” he looks inward for self development. Lo ri 16 inch la san? Lol!
      If I was the author I wouldn’t include my age. Naija blogosphere is filled with savage uncles and aunties.
      I’m a female by the way. Not anywhere close to his age. Although there’s still shitload of work to do in terms of your manner of expression, many people reading this wish they had editorial access to a fashion show, developed content for Cosmopolitan and got close to 100 comments in a top Nigerian blog at 21.

      NB: I know you’re a fashion stylist hence why you quickly spotted her designer purse, but #howudoing ? Lol.

    • sera

      September 27, 2015 at 7:28 am

      21 and doing great! Am proud of him. My idea is with long straight weaves it’s gotta be long 22inches or more dats why it’s called long, my bohemian weave at 14/12inches is fine while my short hair is usually at 8inches my curly hair at 14/16 inches as they are hard to maintain. Dear 21 years old am proud of you and I want to stay some people have a way of being naked and still classy, while others will do it and be ratchet (in pics lol).

    • Annalise Keating

      September 18, 2015 at 7:33 pm

      Oga poster, please your next article should start with “dear Aunties” because I don’t understand what age has to do with a person’s point of view (in this context, i.e). This article will make some commenters sleep with Lexotan this night. And I don’t know why. Una too dey vex hian.

    • Tosin

      September 18, 2015 at 8:24 pm

      I love this guy, he did his research for the article. Loool, so the plenty plenty hair is actually a mark of prosperity…

    • Ann1

      September 18, 2015 at 10:09 pm

      I was shocked to see that the writer is just a baby lol. He’s a learner.

    • Bliss

      September 18, 2015 at 10:39 pm

      Three words, you meant. ???

    • Diuto

      September 19, 2015 at 5:23 pm

      At 21 you have not yet learnt that people like different things. A lil child demanding women follow his memo. Like we have killed all the guys that sag their trousers/pants.

      Grow up and learn some manners while at it

    • sally

      September 20, 2015 at 12:37 am

      thanks jare.

    • Noella

      September 20, 2015 at 5:10 am

      You know i think weaves have ceased becoming about status. But rather as a security blanket. Nija women are very insecure about their real hair they feel vulnerable and exposed and just hide behind the mane of messy craziness. Trying to make a weave natural looking is just too much to ask. The sad thing is Nija women have some of the best natural hair.

  2. Michael Augustus

    September 18, 2015 at 2:24 pm

    Watching and waiting for the comments to roll in….BN are looking for trouble on this one lol! ??

  3. DAME

    September 18, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    Richard …i was gonna say something about you being immature but then you are just 21…what you wrote only portrays your limited knowledge.
    Have you ever come across the word CHOICE…like in your 21 years on earth …am sure you must have heard of it somewhere
    Take out time to add CHOICE, LIKE,EXPRESSION, PERSONAL TASTE…to your vocab..it would do you good and work on your writing skills while you are at it also…ask Isio or Esco for help

    hugs

    • Manny

      September 18, 2015 at 4:42 pm

      Is Richard forcing anyone to cut off their weave? You have the choice to fix super long weaves and he has the choice to not like it.

  4. Truth

    September 18, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    Why don’t you mind your business and stop telling women what to do. “Staunch Feminist” indeed.

    • Atlantis

      September 22, 2015 at 11:05 am

      Who is this idiot? I don’t wear weaves but what business of his is it if some women choose to mop the floor with their weaves? If they feel comfy and happy about it, what’s it to him? Better save that tip for your girlfriend. She can carry thread on her hair if she wants.

  5. Temilade

    September 18, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    well said.

  6. Bleed Blue

    September 18, 2015 at 2:33 pm

    “I was particularly interested in her. Interested in just talking with her because I suspected her to be an escort or something close to that….”

    Wow! Just from one visual inspection of a beautiful woman with a long weave?

    I really wanted your “memo” to have depth; hoping for some sound nuggets of the male perspective on this long-weave epidemic. Heck I was even hoping to see a few witty anecdotes.

    But nah. Richard. Nah.

    • Taiwo

      September 18, 2015 at 3:23 pm

      You, my dear, have said it all.

    • Fashionista

      September 18, 2015 at 4:34 pm

      In fairness to him, Transcorp Hilton, Abuja is heavily laden with prostitutes and escorts and it is not hidden. I doubt it was only her beauty and long weave that led him to think she might have been one. Presumptuous? yes, but he presumed with fact.

    • Oma

      September 18, 2015 at 5:09 pm

      @Fashionista, which stupid fact? Abeg park well
      With your fashionista self, all I can say is I pray you never have to genuinely wait for a friend or business partner in a hotel lobby and end up being accosted by someone who has “presumed” you’re an escort because the hotel is heavily laden with prostitutes. Nonsense!!

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:41 pm

      Shut up!!! Transcorp is also filled with male prostitutes and male patronizers but no one sees a well dressed fine boy wearing shorts and t-shirt or a nice evening look and thinks he’s any of the above.
      All of you that must peddle your stupid ideas. There can’t be more prostitutes than regular people there, and even if there are, it’s an epidemic of the nation not just prostitutes or women.

  7. Drknite

    September 18, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    Richie, you you set yourself up for failure. Note if you see a girl with long hair there is a good chances its fake. You should just hope she isn’t bald.

  8. baby4u2

    September 18, 2015 at 2:35 pm

    Your humble opinion. If you don’t like girls that wear long hair, hang around the ones who don’t. The girls you even listed look nice with the long weaves. None of them ever expressed that they wanted to convenience you or anyone else that its their real hair. Lets focus on hunger, escalating violence and world peace ok sir. Thinking of washing my 22′ 20′ 18′ inch weaves rich now.

  9. A Real Nigerian

    September 18, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    Who is this loser?
    This is the lamest and most obnoxious attempt at writing I have ever seen bar Etcetera’s unending garbage.
    Everyone average, random guy wants force a fake outspoken, tough attitude these days. How lame.
    Lacking the ability to think well, and coming across as a bland and juvenile writer, it is safe to assume that this is just another beta male p_ssy with an inflated image of himself.
    But hey! What do you expect? We are in Nigeria, where everything mediocre is accepted and even encouraged.
    So beta, so cringeworthy.

    • A Real Nigerian

      September 18, 2015 at 2:51 pm

      *every average

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:46 pm

      I love your comment but please p- is sacred, more like d-. Thanks.

  10. debee!

    September 18, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    well this topic is quite dicey, I would like to agree with him but then it would sound like its because I cant afford the extremely long Brazilian which is true lol! but lets face the facts these weaves are becoming longer and fuller and less classy. anyways for me my mantra when it comes to fashion and fashion accessories is that less is always more ,especially considering this our weather in Nigeria.

    • Femfem

      September 19, 2015 at 1:20 am

      Heheheheh me too I cant afford it oo. I recently just got a weave after like 5 years of not doing 1. I had planned to get 16inches but the prices of hair they were calling I was like meehn abeg gimme 12 and 10 inches. I’ll do a bob. Prices seem to have gone up astronomically. In the end I was really pleased with the weave I did. It looks really natural and no tangling and shedding and very easy to comb(essential when you have twin toddlers)

      It’s not like I could not pay the money for the longer hair but it just doesn’t sit right with me to spend such an amount on hair cos Im Ijebu through and through (got it from my daddy). Thank God im not the keepIn up with the joneses type, my power no reach

  11. keke

    September 18, 2015 at 2:40 pm

    Err what kind of article is this? Makes absolutely no sense. Since I dont want to discourage the writer, I would reserve my comments

  12. Me

    September 18, 2015 at 2:42 pm

    To be honest with you he’s sort of right, but calling out the likes of toke is a bit unfair because toke actually looks really nice and classy with her weaves, ladies in the showbizness have to have that look most of the time but we 9-5ers can’t be dressing like that everyday, maybe occasionally but not everyday. Do you know there are some Nigerian girls that would rather die than you see their natural hair.

    Anyway do whatever suits your lifestyle but as the writer said less is classier, I won’t judge because I naturally have long hair so I hardly wear weaves and even if I do it’s maximum 12 inches and I always look hawt 😉

    #AhausaChickIntoronto

    • bruno

      September 18, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      ” toke actually looks really nice and
      classy with her weaves”

      u are on the same level of stupidity with the writer.

      toke has never looked classy a day in her life. classy women don’t bleach to begin with.
      toke is a “staunch bleacher” LOL

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:50 pm

      I didn’t read the article because skimming it already disgusted me. He called Toke out?! This stupid boy needs to be put in his place.

      To your comment though, I don’t know that Toke looks “classy” in her weaves. She’s a tiny girl and her weaves make up 1/2 of her look. I wouldn’t make it so long and big if I were her. Erykah Badu knows how to pull off excess hair because she’s eccentric but Toke is going for one thing and her hair is going for another.

  13. Prec

    September 18, 2015 at 2:45 pm

    I certainly love your audacity, it takes an amount of confidence…. actually not confidence, arrogance to walk around thinking that you are an authority to what makes a woman classy/ classless, and also have the guts to call yourself a “staunch feminist,” smh. I’ll love to say I don’t even wear weaves to give myself some sort of credibility to properly tell you to shut up, but I wont even give you that honor.

    You can have whatever preference you want, that’s fine, but to think that your preference should be status quo/ the normal and anyone that falls out of it, is classless? then you are delusional so please do us all a favor and shut up.

    You saw someone and thought she was an escort, why? because she was carrying an expensive bag, abi because she had long and full weave? Like I’m so confused right now, bella and you published this? Una dey fall person hand oh.

    What have YOUUUU contributed to under privileged girls? Maybe you should donate more of your time instead of sharing ignorance around like it’s small chops.

  14. Las

    September 18, 2015 at 2:47 pm

    Well, I have heard people say weaves are ‘hair accessories, you know like facinators and such. If someone decides to wear their weaves and wigs like hats, caps, ‘geles’ or head wraps, and not the gorgeous additions they were meant to be, who are you to judge? Hmmm?

  15. Zeezee

    September 18, 2015 at 2:50 pm

    God punish the long weave wearing woman that broke your heart! I wonder is she realises the bitter and ignorant state that she left you in.

    Is this message directed to black women alone or does it include women of other races?

    & before you decided to point out that women who wear long weaves are too shallow to care about the poor, did you think about the members of the government? Did you think about the fact that they are using Government money to set up their children’s lives in the UK/US?

    Of course you didn’t think about it. Because the long weave wearing woman that broke your heart left such a bitter taste in your mouth. Word of advice, you sound very arrogant person and arrogance is not attractive.

    I will continue to rock my long weaves! If you don’t like it, kindly kiss my ass!

    Am I living my life for you? NO! I only have one chance to enjoy this precious life of MINE and trust me, I will do whatever makes me happy!

    BN, I refuse to believe that someone actually feeling this way! I refuse to believe that someone has catagorised every woman that wears a long weave as trashy. I honestly think this article was writing to stir things up in the comments because surely, someone cannot be this ignorant!

    • Surely

      September 18, 2015 at 8:52 pm

      So it’s not him God should punish for this vile crap? It’s another woman? Man, you guys are so filled with hatred for women.

    • Noneyah!!

      September 19, 2015 at 1:27 am

      OMG!!!! u so toke the words outta ma mouth… He aint paying my bills, He aint paying for my WEAVES!!! and He sure as heck aint screwing me.. what make him think he can dictate what women do with their money or how they define classy… Michelle Obama is classy and the Queen of England is classy but they sure as heck don’t hv tastes in the same darn things.
      so CHILD please keep your unwanted and unrequested option to ur darn self and kiss my very black.. weave wearing.. braids wearing… relaxed hair carrying arse…

  16. Busarni

    September 18, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    From your write up Mr Richard; i can deduce that you are an arrogant dude. Research more on writing; you could have conveyed your message in a subtle yet engaging way. I must write and submit to BN by force; I know trashy write up when i see one.

  17. beauty

    September 18, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Umm, long weave could be beautiful if worn right and if prevented from smelling bad. I personally like short weaves but really, if long weaves did more harm than good, the manufacturers would have made them extinct. But guess what, they are in different colors and textures. I just feel that if worn well ( not overly full like a masquerade) and well fixed (without the rails showing), it would come out nice!

  18. Lol

    September 18, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    So you’re even a guy sef wetin concern you with woman matter ?, funny enough I shy away from overly long weaves, I’m 5’7″ hence I don’t like my weaves being longer than 16″ bcos it gives off this slutty vibe(them go dey look you sey wey this small girl get money to buy this expensive hair ). But sometimes you just want to feel like Beyoncé not every time classy, sometimes trashy ?

  19. Italian Princess

    September 18, 2015 at 2:52 pm

    Everyone is suddenly Pro-Choice on this matter.

    I hope single mothers and homosexuals will get the same curtesy.

    Also, Bible thumpers, please come and show us where the Bible says it’s okay to walk around with weave.

    Remember, logical and articulate responses needed. Don’t come and spew vitriol just for the ‘airheadedness’ of it.

    • Niola

      September 18, 2015 at 3:21 pm

      @Italian Princess, I think your question should be’ where is it prohibited in the bible? Fornication and homosexuality is clearly stated as prohibited in black prints . Sweetheart those are heavy subjects, please do not lump them with weave -wearing, its actually insulting to the Bible., the word of God!

    • Dee

      September 18, 2015 at 8:56 pm

      Italian princess, you are right. I’m a Christian but i’m sorry to say, many Christians like to pick and choose what they follow in the Bible and this is where I’ll agree with Bruno whenever he bashes us.

      The bible does not say don’t wear long weave, but what does 1st Peter 3:3-4 say, allow me to paraphrase, your beauty as a woman should not come from braided hair, gold jewelry or fine clothes but your beauty should come from inside, modesty should be your watchword.

      Your heart will always tell you the truth, if its pure and the spirit of God will always minister the right appearance to you, if you have the right spirit. If your appearance is making people think you’re a slut, or making men drool over you for sex, then you should put a searchlight in your heart and ask yourself who is my dressing, including the length of my hair extensions glorifying.

    • Idomagirl

      September 18, 2015 at 10:43 pm

      You’re actually putting weaves and homosexuality in one box? Okay.

  20. chi-e-z

    September 18, 2015 at 3:04 pm

    lol…sips tea…. someone is about to get bn karate chopped soup kai…. as a none weave wearer I just laugh and back away slowly the fact that this GUY has the audacity to tell women what to do with their body especially naija women what to do with their weave ah mogbe testy testy… runs away 🙂

    • Nahum

      September 18, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      As in!!!! I am a naturalista so I am SO not going to touch this topic but just read the comments. My hand no dey o

  21. Mz A

    September 18, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    1. At 21 you should know to respect people’s choices. I love my weaves full and long and if I could steal any1’s hair style it would be toke. That’s my choice and my significant other loves it.
    2. Becos a girl has long full hair and is in a hotel she is an escort? Small pikin dey worry you.
    It seems writing has been a successful choice of career for you, but now people would forgive your innocence because of age but what happens when u are 40 and want write about how women that wear g-string are hoes?

  22. Ene

    September 18, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    I like how your bio says you’re a “staunch feminist”. Yet you wrote this diatribe to not only attack and talk down to, but to also dictate to women exactly what they should or shouldn’t be doing or wearing. Because its your world and your make the rules, we women are just living in it. You are are clearly a child. And this pathetic write up is unintelligent at best. Your delivery is poor and your logic flawed. Have a goddamned seat.

  23. Anuli

    September 18, 2015 at 3:15 pm

    Tut tut tut!!! ‘strict adherence to the advices rendered herein’. Advice is uncountable, therefore, the plural of advice is advice. Get educated dear writer for Marie Claire South Africa.

  24. bruno

    September 18, 2015 at 3:26 pm

    one word, NAOMI CAMPBELL.
    have u seen the length of her weave? and she always looks fierce as hell.

    the writer of this article is a big mumu. several seats for u, olodo.

  25. Taiwo

    September 18, 2015 at 3:31 pm

    This Richard boy is finding wahala on BN! O fe te!!

  26. zizi

    September 18, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    I agree with the writer whole heartedly biko. I think people are just pissed & trying to talk him down cos he was unfortunate enough to include his age. Like “who is this small boy and what does he know?”. Lol

  27. black

    September 18, 2015 at 3:40 pm

    Yh a very obvious ploy BN to get attention. That’s the only excuse to publish this article. That being said, this little – should be slapped and sent to live in the village with poor relatives to teach him some sense. Calling that lady a prostitute? Really? Seriously? Saying its because he’s 21 is not cool. He’ll be 50 and still be this ignorant.

  28. Odi

    September 18, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    I think he just wanted us to know he was at the Abuja Hilton last weekend. Ok writer, we ‘haff hear’. And you even struck up a conversation with a long-weave-wearing Dior-handbag-carrying girl? Haaa.. Admit it Richie, after that incident you felt like a conqueror didn’t you? It’s not easy now.. The whole world had to hear it. I feel you I feel you. Carry go. Nothing do you at all.

    • ElessarisEllendil

      September 18, 2015 at 4:06 pm

      You sabi!! That was the real point of the article, he chose the divisive headline to attract more people?????

  29. kachy

    September 18, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    he has a point…..but in my own opinion, long or short, ensure your body frame can carry it, dats all!!!!!

  30. Mee

    September 18, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    OMG. Nigeria is such an ageist society. What does his age have anything to his degree of knowledge. Richard, I fully agree with you. It is soooo classless to wear extreme length and bulk on your hair. Thanks for the write up. It was really appreciated, Richard.

    • Ebebe(pronounced A-bay-bay!)

      September 18, 2015 at 9:43 pm

      I’m officially in love with! OMG! Nigerians are such godamm ageists its gut wrenching! Anyway, I don’t know about the idea of weaves in Nigeria but were I grew up and still living, women that wear weaves are put side by side with women that bleach, wear long fake nails, use fake eye lashes and eye lash extensions, have piercing on every part of their body including the walls of their vagina, tattoo their bodies like its picasso’s canvas etc. All these women and the categories are classified into one big group, “the RATCHETs” and groupies, ghetto serial baby mamas etc are usually members of this group I’m just saying.

      Personally to me, it seems quite absurd putting long synthetic or is it human it’s called now hair on my head, when I’m neither balding nor undergoing chemotherapy, it just doesn’t add up, to me. I have rarely seen Caucasians or any any other race for that matter fix Afro weave except for carnivals or fests, because logically speaking it’s stupid and ridiculous. African ladies spend time working or acquiring money in their various “ways”, only to pump their money into India or is it Brazil or whatever for the hair of their ladies to put on their own head, most of the time to either show off stupidly, or be attractive enough to get more money to acquire such type of hair again. Just using common sense and logic, it’s a futile venture that benefits no one. Africans scream culture the most but they are the ones extremely rooted in white ethnocentricim, Even a girl of 14 is ashamed to showcase her God given hair because all the adults around her do not, so it’s only sensible she follows their steps.

      The writer may not have conveyed his message appropriately, as is the case when you aim to get at a large audience but I can bet my top dollar that if Charles Oputa(charley boy) were to write on this topic, what this young man wrote won’t be far from what he would write. Nobody would bash Charles because he is a grandpa but see how almost every commenter pounced on this young man’s write up mostly using his age to downplay his knowledge about social issues as if age is directly proportional to knowledge or experience. Nigerians and their ageist selves. Later they would blame government for everything wrong, not knowing Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria. Kmt

    • molarah

      September 19, 2015 at 8:50 pm

      Charles Oputa would NOT write on a topic like this because this topic is well…childish. Yeeech!! I wish we’d spend our time doing more realistic and value-adding stuff than classifying people as trashy because of their personal fashion choices. Like, how e take consign you anyways?

  31. Engoz

    September 18, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    “hah, the fuller and longer it is, the more moneyed you look. Short and scanty weaves only make people assume you have gone broke“

    Nigerian girls keep on embarrassing their lineage with such feather-brained statements.
    Long weaves look stupid. You can do ‘you’, but you look stupid.
    I like the writer’s outright approach.

  32. Richard Akuson

    Richard Akuson

    September 18, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Hello,

    Thank you all for your comments. Normally I don’t respond to comments but I feel the need to this time around, especially because of the ‘bad blood’ around this article.

    1) this was supposed to be a satire. And if you keep your emotions out of the way, you’ll see it for what it is, a purely humorous article.

    2.) not that it really matters, but those who know me know that I am very polite and modest. So, contratry to popular belief I am not arrogant.

    3.) live light and stop taking everything to heart. Not everything is as serious as you make it seem.

    4) yes, I am a feminist. And I don’t see anything that contradicts that in this article. Being a feminist does not mean that I am oblivious of things like this. Being a feminist has no universal definition. It is to you what you want it to be. And for me, I will continue to celebrate women at their best and correct and express my disapproval at their worst.

    5.) finally, I suspected the lady in the article to be an escort because of many other reasons that I decided to keep out of the article and focus on the most apparent which was her provocative weave and hairstyle. And you too would have thought so had you been there. I’ve seen ladies with longer and fuller hair, but I’d never assumed such, but hers was different, especially because of the circumstances that surrounded our encounter.

    Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. Next week will hopefully be entertaining as I review the Elite Model Look’s red carpet fashion.

    Stay tuned.

    Richie xxx

    • Jane

      September 18, 2015 at 4:46 pm

      Feminism is what you deem it to be? I doubt your definition. Instead,you sound chauvinistic. This article is a FAILED attempt at satire. To see a woman and for whatever reason(her hair choice? ) assume she is an escort is an attempt to police womens’ bodies and control their image. This is NOT what a feminist does. It is unfortunate that your politeness did not come across in the article. It is possible to express your dissaproval without sounding judgemental and belittling. Here is some advice for you, maybe you should work on your writing and delivery instead of doing damage control.

    • DAME

      September 18, 2015 at 4:49 pm

      DO NOT insult brilliant writers by thinking this is a satire…..SATIRE????? you think you can throw literary words around…to learn satire pleases understudy John Elnathan…this is NOT a satire piece….

      If she appeared like an escort why did you approach her at all…speaks a lot about the kind of girls you would likely court…please pick another topic and keep your super opinions to your self, and the females in your life

      peace
      xx

    • Carolina

      September 18, 2015 at 5:07 pm

      Will you keep quiet!

      You are not an arrogant person but, you can’t accept that you wrote a poor, unreasonably scathing and ignorant article about a group of people that you claim to support/defend staunchly?

      In your own defense, we are too stuck up, deep in our feelings and too serious. No Richard, we do not have to lighthearted in the face of your incorrigible ignorance and chauvinism. However, you clearly stand to benefit form your own advice or could’ve at least taken a bold step in that direction by not taking the comments so seriously that you had to respond.

      Most importantly, you appear to be a terrible person. You met a stranger, struck up a conversation in which this person was honest about societal pressures and their insecurities. Did you at any point tell her that she resembled a prostitute? Did you tell her that you had already judged her and given her a bad name even before you started talking to her? And that in fact, you spoke with her only to confirm and then derive satisfaction for your seemingly shallow, miserable self?

      Its appalling but unsurprising that, you have also generalized your poor and ill judgement of that woman to all womenfolk. Are you kidding me? Who really do you think you are? You want to tell us how long we should wear our hair? Are you aware that there are women all over the place with long, thick and luscious hair just like the extensions we buy. Do you know that most of the team natural girls you see these days have bra strap, mid-back or waist length hair goals? There are a good number of Nigerian women these days with long, healthy and thick hair. How about the girls that wear their natural hair in big afros? Are they pardoned because of the texture of their hair?

      Most importantly, you are no feminist. That’s all I’ll say on that since you think feminism is ”what you want it to be’. Try feminist chauvinist.

      Finally and most importantly, please work on your writing skills. If ‘this was supposed to be a satire’, it should come across I don’t think we need to learn how to read; you should learn how to write better. Readers don’t always have the luxury of commentary, feedback and clarifications from writers.

    • prec

      September 18, 2015 at 5:10 pm

      Being a feminist means you’re not oblivious to things like that, but it means that you respect other women’s right to do what they want to do with their heads. It’s a different thing if you are saying women should do their weaves properly, but generalizing someone as classless because they fix a weave above 14 inches is delusional. How’d you even come up with 14 inches anyway? You just pulled it out of your bum bum? Lol smh. What of men that like long hair, or ones that like shorter, do you speak for them too?

      I’m not concerned with knowing you, even a serial killer’s mother think they are saints,. Of what use is it that you are modest and polite, if you write an article that presents you as otherwise.

      There was nothing funny or to make light of, about the article, so just because you say so, does not make it more funny. It was condescending and obnoxious. I’m not even blaming it on your age, it has nothing to do with anything, at 21 I had more sense than this.

    • Ona

      September 18, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      Stop backpeddaling abeg. Grab ur balls in ur hands and dont waver.

      The most ironic part of this “article” is seeing that ure a “staunch feminist” right after i read this arrogant, condescending piece if trash.

      Oh and btw before any assumptions are made, i have been natural since 2009 but i also wear curly extensions from time to time however, any woman that chooses to wear anything whether na bird nest sef has the freaking right to! Who u be? If ure not feeling it then abeg move on to the kind of chic u like. And the nerve of u to assume that a chic in a hotel with long weave and banging figure is an escort. Staunch feminist indeed.

    • Engoz

      September 18, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      Hey Richard, your article rocks. You don’t have to defend your feminism. You only critiqued a fashion trend. Yes women and men have the right to look the way they want to look, but when something looks stupid, it looks stupid.

    • Pat

      September 18, 2015 at 9:41 pm

      This is quite an intetesting article but there was no satire in your delivery, ‘I am guessing u are an amateur writer which is very ok and as your writing skills improve u will be able to convey your message to the reader or what you want your readers to take from the message effectively. You will get better with time and I look forward to read your next article. 🙂

    • Alias

      September 18, 2015 at 7:54 pm

      Richard, thank you for your reply. Anyone with some level of intelligence should be able to read your article and know that it was indeed a satire. However, because some people truly tie the issue and value of long weave/short weave/natural hair/relaxed hair to their level of their self-esteem, this article hits too close to home for a lot of women. You’re very brave to take on the issue of hair especially as pertaining to African/Nigerian/black women.

      Anyone can wear any length of weave that they can afford or feel good in. But…just know that for a lot of men and some women, it just looks ridiculous and smacks of insecurity. Richard has just said what a lot of people who don’t visit this website already think.

    • Idomagirl

      September 18, 2015 at 10:51 pm

      One of the core tenets of feminism is agency, a woman being in control of her life and making choices that she wants (this also includes how long or short she wants to wear her weave), you attempting to police that & telling women not to wear their weaves a certain way because YOU do not like it, goes against that.

    • Tosin

      September 19, 2015 at 1:06 pm

      like my people say, chop knuckle. proud of you.
      i’m shocked that weafon is now a religion, see how guy was attacked like the ones that posted cartoons/pictures of prophet Mohammed (saw/pbuh).
      then again, having seen some of the marketing for this fake-hair thing, i’m not surprised. they really market hard, they make little magazines even, and apparently they’ve successfully sold their message about these different hair things being the key to eternal life and all good things. same with make-up. got people going out carnival-ready every day. it’s just business to some people. millions.

    • over Sabi

      September 19, 2015 at 2:00 pm

      Richard, why are you explaining yourself? You clearly hit many nerves by calling out what some have deified. How will they breathe or live if because of Your article they now have to wear short or their real hair? what do you want those with balding Patches from decades of bearing the weight of human hair to do? A good article about aspects of life provokes. “You done it” and that is a score. So please, don’t trivialize the import of your article. I wear a wig, a short one- So natural looking that akata women have asked me severally how I got my hair to lay “that way”. I do the wigging because I have to be a mom, wife and exec, beat the worst traffic in the USA every morning and look all those parts in 30 minutes of preparation. This means no time for combing and taming my 22 inch Very thick and unruly natural hair. Saturdays, I fly with my natural hair. A beg leave commenters to Vent their sorrows. Nothing wey you talk na sin.

  33. Tiki

    September 18, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Money/opportunity-miss-road.

    I don’t blame you, I blame the people who gave you a platform to force your stupidity/ignorance down my throat.

  34. ElessarisEllendil

    September 18, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    To be fair people he clearly stated he was “super-opinionated”. But guy you get mind sha!! some things should only be said anonymously. You even called out people that can afford “disappearers” by name. Boss nah you!!

    Anyhoo, if you don’t post here in while, the pool of suspects is relatively small.

  35. Richard Akuson

    Richard Akuson

    September 18, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Contrary** & because of THE many *****

    • Lol

      September 18, 2015 at 8:21 pm

      I see you’ve changed your pic from what it was earlier today. Did you take this new one at abuja hilton? 😉

  36. BlueEyed

    September 18, 2015 at 4:10 pm

    I can’t with this juvenile piece of work……don’t you have homework to do and teenage girls to harass ??

  37. Babs

    September 18, 2015 at 4:23 pm

    I agree..Weaves are the bane of manhood..actually scratch that, they are frankly annoying…
    And I knew there would be pointers to the writers age, shows the small mindedness of lots of folks…why oh why bring up someones age in this sort of argument??? Sigh

  38. Benny

    September 18, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    But in all this, can we at least agree that extra long weaves are tacky? Can we? CAN WE?

    Or we know but a man is not allowed to say it.
    Or he is too young to say it.

    But it is the truth…

    • Dee

      September 18, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      No WE whoever you think that includes cannot all agree, because WE don’t all have the same preferences. It doesn’t matter who or what age says it, it’s still not the truth. Did it ever cross your mind that the women that do the long weaves actually like it, that’s why they do it? Not because they need WE’s permission or opinion to do it? I know right? Sensational.

    • Benny

      September 18, 2015 at 5:40 pm

      Nobody is making it a damn law. It is tacky. We have called designs tacky, we have expressed distaste over many things. One cannot simply say extra long weaves are tacky without being attacked?

    • Kili

      September 18, 2015 at 9:57 pm

      In all honesty, he is right. How about the smelly ones. Lol.
      Babes been wear weaves sotey the thing dey ooze.
      If only ladies knew how those waist-long weaves make them look. Oh lawdy lawd.

      Please add the heavily drawn on door-knob eyebrows to the list lol. With streaks of unblended concealer showing.

    • Kili

      September 18, 2015 at 9:59 pm

      Made*

  39. Moet

    September 18, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    @ Odi, tank you SO MUCH for voicing my thoughts, and it’s still to be verified if this tiny-grey -matter of a sonny was actually @ the Abuja Hilton…

  40. Jennelle

    September 18, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    Well said!..

  41. Layla

    September 18, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    I have read satire before. It’s easy to recognize the tongue in cheek tone. This article or whatever it was has none of the above. This came across as mean spirited vapid and akward. When I saw you age in the bio I realized why. It seems like BN will publish anything nowadays and have no standards. This is offensive not because of subject matter but it’s a badly written article.

  42. Jennelle

    September 18, 2015 at 4:46 pm

    Super long and full hair extensions are really out of fashion. Scratch that. They have never been in fashion. We have withstood many weave and hair tribulations like that hideous lace wig that swept through Nollywood and Nigeria like a wildfire. (may we never see days like that) Please, don’t make us relive those dark old days with your mami-water Inspired hair. If you have too much of it, consider giving it out in charity, atleast so that the rest of you can have some to put on.
    Dear writer this paragraph is sooooooo true! I wish I can kiss u right now???

  43. Bim

    September 18, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    I literally skimmed and skipped and found no real content. At best, if the writer had something of an opinion, some wit and humor could have helped tell his story.
    Child….Grow up! And until you know anything about weaves, do not ever be the Gospel on it!

  44. Fashionista

    September 18, 2015 at 4:56 pm

    Dear writer, the need to write the names of the women you “feel” have erred where this article is concerned is extremely unnecessary and quite unprofessional. In addition to that, Dj Cuppy and Tokes weaves are actually 99% of the time pretty; they look clean, just the right volume and are always perfectly styled, so what exactly is your point.

    Also, women like to change it up, I have weaves ranging in different lengths – pixie cut, bob, shoulder length, half back etc, it all depends on my mood and the look i’m going for. If your article focused more on the need to maintain weaves better or something along those lines, I think the backlash would be much less. This however just reads as not very well informed.

  45. Adunni

    September 18, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    This foetus lost me at the point he labelled this vomit as SATIRE!!

    Richard,oo gbadun at all!

    Satire my f- left nipple!!

    • Pat

      September 18, 2015 at 9:48 pm

      LOL. Fara bale.

    • OTI OOOO

      September 21, 2015 at 10:34 am

      BUhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaaa!!!

  46. whocares

    September 18, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL. I am not his biggest fan, however people, this article right here was not that bad. I read the comments before I read the article itself and I thought he had maligned we ladies so thoroughly. He did not. I do not think he set out to make a “rule for weave wearing ladies” or any such things he has been accused of. The tone of the article was set when he talked about donating weave to the less privileged ladies. It is all for shits and giggles (with a hint of his true opinion, although he is not bludgeoning us with it) Although, suspecting a lady of being an escort? I hope your reason was more concrete than the fact that she had weave, designer items and was in an hotel.

  47. Zeeebby

    September 18, 2015 at 5:04 pm

    PPL SHUD JUST CALM DOWN, ITS JUST HAIR….. SOME PEOPLE WANT IT LONG, SOME WANT SHORT, SOME WANT CURLY, SOME WANT STRAIGHT, SOME WANT FULL OTHERS WANT TO BE BALD…. PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE LET PEOPLE BE ABEG….

  48. zee

    September 18, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    Kai BN i feel dissappointed!!! I get dat d writer is “super opinionated” but his write-up really is immature.

  49. Tobby Francis

    September 18, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Your assumption about the lady no just pure at all
    And for you to even have that thought in your head
    Kaiii!!!
    What happened to choices? Everyone does something that would make him or her happy
    And if a lady decides to fix long weave, kini big deal? You can still make your point without hurting someone else with the way you think. I think your feminist title should be checked properly
    Oh well, you just be 21 so I would suggest you see life more and get out of the box rather than writing in assumption.

  50. Confuzzled

    September 18, 2015 at 5:33 pm

    Some thoughts for the author:
    1. You think you’re handing out sage advice but you’re exposing your shallowness. Look inward. Develop yourself. You have what it takes to be a gentleman. Don’t let it go to waste.
    2. The so called tacky girls wearing their long weaves might feel better with weaves, and I’m sure they’re not lacking in compliments from those that matter to them. Let it be and MYOB. For what its worth, I’ve been natural since 2009 and I’ve only worn a weave once in my life. Totally not my thing but you’ll never find me being condescending to those that choose to style their hair otherwise.
    3. A woman is at her ‘best’ when she feels so. It has nothing to do with you and your imagined feminist leanings (if you ask me you are the exact opposite of a feminist. You wish to mold a woman to your own image of perfection, stripping her of her agency). Not cool.
    4. From your writing it seems you are in the vicinity of growing into a solid gentleman. A true feminist. Pay attention to the comments here, and be more introspective. You’ll get there.
    5. Or you can chose to accept your nature as it is now. Stop bandying words like feminism, explore the heights of materialism, become a primadonna, let your freak flag fly. Be authentic. You’ll be more interesting to read. Looking forward to your next post.

    • Ene

      September 18, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      Very well said.

  51. Demilade

    September 18, 2015 at 5:56 pm

    While I understand that you may think that long weaves are ‘trashy’, not everyone has the same opinion. Some women like long weaves, some don’t. Some do not like weaves at all. My point is, everyone has their preference and it isn’t fair to dictate to people what the length of their weave should be. Let people wear whatever floats their boat .To each his own Mr Richard .xx

  52. Kiki

    September 18, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    Preach on brother,used to think tatoos were the only tramp stamp,until this long ridiculous became the major tramp stamp especially here Nigeria,majority of guys see you in a long weave and they automatically think you are a runs girl,it’s like their trade and very suiting to their way of life.wigs and weaves are good don’t get me wrong.but with the heat of this country.

  53. Hembafan

    September 18, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    Personally, I love it simple! It’s actually about choice though. Whether you wear 50inches weave or not, your money will always be there. By the way, I like

  54. Mostest

    September 18, 2015 at 6:25 pm

    I love weaves, anything less than 20″ does not interest me at all. If I can get 30″, the better. The only reason is my fat round face. Short hair makes my face wider. Long hair frames my face and gives the illusion of slimmer. Know what works for you to enhance your look. Full long hair, barely there makeup and date I say I look like a goddess

  55. missatl

    September 18, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    YA BLADY CUP OF TEA MISTER…….R U OUR HUBBY, FIANCEE OR BOYFRIEND??? GO SHUT THE HELL UP OR TELL THAT TO THE WOMAN U INTENDTO BE WITH AND MIND YA DAMN BUSINESS CRASS!!!!!!!

  56. sippingtea

    September 18, 2015 at 7:18 pm

    Damn, this article is causing a lot of trouble… because weave wearers abound in the land… lol… just kidding! We should be free to do whatever we want with our bodies and belongings. Even if people want to dress in a clowns costume as their outfit of the day, it is not ya “consain”, Mr. Akuson 🙂
    If you don’t like long weaves, ignore the long weave wearers and keep it moving. There are lots of women who wear weaves shorter than 14 inches or who have natural hair, why not look out for them. I would love to read an article appreciating natural hair, for example, that would be more interesting and meaningful. Long weave wearers, this is a notice to you all, Mr. Akuson is not checking for ya long weave wearing behind so mutually do not check for his long weave hating butt hehehe

  57. anonymous

    September 18, 2015 at 7:29 pm

    I think whatever works for anyone, it is a free world. If carrying 50″ weaves works for them, please by all means let them. Please we all have a right to our opinions, the fact he’s young doesn’t mean, he can’t think for himself. He’s only airing his views, i’m sure we all can agree to disagree maturely on some issues and not condescend to insults.

  58. Miss_Flygerian

    September 18, 2015 at 9:40 pm

    Lmao!, I’m sure the author never hexperred this backlash.

    • Ello Bae

      September 19, 2015 at 1:24 am

      As in. He never experedit, not in a million years. I bet you Oga Richard has reread his article a million times to see where he went wrong. BN readers have no chill whatsoever. They didn’t even think twice about pulling that jugular.

  59. Ene

    September 18, 2015 at 9:54 pm

    No young man, being a feminist is not what you deem it to be. Being a feminist is allowing women to make choices for themselves and respecting said choices whether you agree with them or not. You do not get to redefine that to give this crap write up some sorely lacking context. Just stop. Listen, If you don’t like long hair extensions, that’s okay. You’re entitled to that. You simply avoid women who wear those types of extensions, go for your preference and keep it moving. You do not get to dictate to women in silly blanket statements what makes them classy or trashy based on your own preferences. Maybe you don’t fully understand the scope of feminism but you are contradicting yourself here and to be honest your innate patriarchy is blazing. Just stop. When you’re in a hole, stop digging. You do in fact come across as arrogant. The article was scathing. So don’t come here now and act like its all light banter. What you have essentially said despite your profession of feminism is that women should do what you have said because you’re a man and you’ve said so. Again, have a seat!

  60. Kili

    September 18, 2015 at 10:05 pm

    I see all BN ladies are guilty ??. ??. ????. See “painment”. Really though, it’s not that serious lol

  61. Misslonghairdontcareandstillclassy

    September 18, 2015 at 10:29 pm

    Clearly an ignorant shallow minded small boy who needs prayers. Lol! he even gave the acceptable length “14”..why not 16? why not 18? if we dare to ask your highness..who died and made you king? You were laughing at her ignorance and now we are laughing at yours! See how life is? Boy go sit down!

  62. Nicole A.

    September 18, 2015 at 10:36 pm

    The woman with the weave thinks women with short weaves are broke. Her weave length was to make her appear better than other women. I think its right that he thought she was a prostitute.

  63. Idomagirl

    September 18, 2015 at 10:46 pm

    I personally do not wear weaves because I do not care for them, but this article is nonsense.

    I hate it when people attempt to make their personal preferences a standard or rule for others to follow. You don’t like long weaves? Good for you, but expecting women to wear their weaves to suit your taste is nonsense. They aren’t wearing it for you.

  64. Daybreak

    September 18, 2015 at 11:57 pm

    Looking forward to next year Godwilling when your about changes to “Richard Akuson is 22years …..”
    Why the need to include your age though?

  65. Jennelle

    September 19, 2015 at 1:02 am

    Most of d girls talking own a (1) cheap chocolate human hair!! Biko you all shut up and kiss my ass… Stop souring our eyes wit ur over long weaves like WTF u tryna prove #huh

  66. Bukky

    September 19, 2015 at 2:08 am

    Black hair and weaves are a trend, so it’s okay for this man to write about this interesting subject matter. However, I am shocked that this low-quality article was chosen for publication. How on earth did BellaNaija publish this mediocre write-up?

    The article lacks in-depth content and profound arguments. This is far from a satirical piece! Satires rely heavily on wit and tongue-in-cheek statements, but this shoddy article is devoid of these elements. It just seems the writer wrote it “just because” .

  67. boohoo baby

    September 19, 2015 at 3:20 am

    Good article! I am inclined to agree with him. Most of the weaves that I come across are very trashy and poorly fixed. It doesn’t make for an elegant look. and makes me wonder if there are no decent hairdressers that can do good weave job. I don’t use weaves, myself, but if others want to, at least they should try to get it done properly and safely. Has anyone seen Naomi Campbell’s hairline? That is how most Nigerian women’s hairlines will become in a few years time.

  68. Belinda

    September 19, 2015 at 9:47 am

    Richie seems so condescending and judgmental assuming that lady was an escort and sitting on his high horse telling women how to wear their hair. My dear, you have no right but as I pick the speck from your eye let me pick the log from mine. I come here once in a while, read a post and comment. Who am I to comment on someone’s life, opinions or attire? We all do what Richie did and that’s why we don’t like it. We recognize it.

  69. Mara

    September 19, 2015 at 10:29 am

    S/o to all those ladies who’ll be having 32 inch weaves but have a 8 inch tv in their room with 3 pair of panties and 2 bras…

  70. Mz_daniels

    September 19, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    Okay, the hypocrisy in the comment section is annoying. He can’t offer his opinion on how women look but women are allowed to write articles saying Nigerian men are ill cultured, have poor hygeine, etc because it is the 21st century Abi? I fear for this new trend oh coz soon women are not going to be told the truth because we’re too ‘liberated’ to hear them.

    Richard feels weaves are tacky, lots of us here have voiced the same opinion and even insulted celebrities over the same but Richard can’t Abu just because one of the 1st commenters dissed him, we all feel we can join the bandwagon

    Now to you Richard, I’ll give you some advice based on your previous article and response to the comments here.

    You come across like a book smart person with a fair level of exposure but darling you have a lot to learn. A deep understanding of people and diplomacy is something you seem to lack. Now I do not know you but based on your previous article and comment here, I’m assuming. Who knows other readers hv formed the same opinion and this might be the subconscious reason for the negative feedback. If you had responded in a non defensive manner, stating what you had in mind and acknowledging or even apologizing for how we misunderstood your write up, you might hv been forgiven. Trying to lecture is about satires was a no-no considering some of the readers had probably learnt about satires while you were in primary school. Here, we are ageist accept it and learn to make it work for you.

    PS: forgive any typos btw there’s an article on why people are getting passed over for promotions, can we go comment on that.

  71. AA

    September 19, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    I totally disagree with this guy’s opinion. He met a super gorgeous lady whom he was particularly interested in and now she represents the female majority. Obviously what she said was pure stupidity. The length of your weave does not determine how many zeros are in your bank account or the extent of your prosperity. Personally I like fuller and longer weave but that doesn’t mean I am ratchet and have no class. It all depends on how you choose to carry and package yourself in society. So chill people. If you see a woman whose appearance is not pleasing to your eyes, move on fellas.

  72. Cj

    September 19, 2015 at 3:46 pm

    The salon is many girls happy place, where they get to decide things for themselves, the length, texture, country of origin be it indian or peruvian, fullness, style , colour among many others..
    In a society where a woman’s voice is faint and quickly pushed aside,

    Richard don’t go there next time biko

  73. Cj

    September 19, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    The salon is many girls happy place, where they get to decide things for themselves, the length, texture, country of origin be it indian or peruvian, fullness, style , colour among many others..
    In a society where a woman’s voice is faint and quickly pushed aside, abeg leave this hair matter, its a no go area.

  74. Cj

    September 19, 2015 at 3:49 pm

    The salon is many girls happy place, where they get to decide things for themselves, the length, texture, country of origin be it indian or peruvian, fullness, style , colour among many others..
    In a society where a woman’s voice is faint and quickly pushed aside, abeg leave this hair matter, its a no go area.

    I do appreciate a nicely done style

    • AA

      September 19, 2015 at 4:53 pm

      Preach it sister

  75. shannaro

    September 19, 2015 at 5:25 pm

    *files nails* the devil is so busy this wknd
    Abeg police yourself and delete your next think piece on what you want women to do with their bodies k thanks Kenneth

  76. Ayo

    September 19, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    The minute you can carry a child for 9 months and give birth to a live human being through one of the holes in your body, is the minute you can have an opinion about what I wear and how I choose to carry myself because regardless, you’re still going to want a piece of me.

  77. Noella

    September 20, 2015 at 5:14 am

    Wow u guys need to take a chill pill. This boy sure hit some raw nerves. You guys know he spoke the truth hence the backlash but poor small boy is quite frankly entitled to his opinion without all this venom

    • Tash

      September 20, 2015 at 4:06 pm

      Ikr. They just don’t think for a minute

  78. Noella

    September 20, 2015 at 5:20 am

    We should encourage this young boy for his witty and articulately written write up. He paid attention in all his language classes and can deftly put pen to paper. As an educator I am more impressed with his writing than the hot button weave topic.

  79. Tash

    September 20, 2015 at 4:04 pm

    People are always so quick to let out their first thoughts about everything. I honestly find this, too petty a thing to concern yourself about but if you want to air your opinion, understand that you gotta THINK. We all like to seem like people that know what’s best and frankly, i do respect all of your opinions but just next time, THINK. Use your common sense and put it all together. I honestly do not believe he meant any harm but ya’ll eating him up like cats that’s found their mouse. First, just remember that perspectives differ and he may not have aired his view on this matter in the smartest way(i.e to some of you) but he clearly meant no harm. Those of you who call him a child, what makes you any different if you respond in a similar manner? I could go on and on but “oh well”

  80. Pipi

    September 20, 2015 at 6:07 pm

    Today it’s long weave, tomorrow its tattoo, next week it’s red lipstick versus nude. A guy actually told me red lipstick makes girls look like hookers! I should tell him to write an article on it and send to bella naija! And all the naturalist shouting TELL THEM! You sha know “long hairlist hookers” are all jumping on the natural hair wagon. So natural hair will be d ID card for hookers. Oga Richard well done!

  81. Noella

    September 21, 2015 at 7:22 am

    U GUYS SRE SO FURIOUS BECAUSE YOU ALL ARE OBSESSED WITH WEAVES AND QUITE FRANKLY WEAVES HAVE BECOME A LIFELINE TO MANY WOMEN. I DIDN’T REALIZE NIJA WOMEN CAN BE THIS HATEFUL. HR TALKED ABOUT WEAVES FOR PETE’S SAKE NOT MURDER. THE PUNISHMENT DOESN’T FIT THE CRIME. I LOVE WIGS BUT THIS PIECE DIDN’T OFFEND ME IN ANY WAY HE IS ENTITLED TO HIS OPINION. CMON WOMEN RELAX. IT’S NOT THAT SERIOUS.

  82. michael

    September 21, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    Richie , it is wrong to call women by their name in an article. number one lesson of being a man.
    you actually did sound like a female, until i read your profile. Actually you are 21 ,so i forgive you.

  83. Ardnas

    September 21, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    …and that was how Richard used his own hands to stir the bee hive! I shall be back shortly to read the remaining part of the comments! Lwkmd.

  84. Ajay

    September 22, 2015 at 11:52 am

    why do we insult the writer and not the content he wrote. if you don’t like it then write yours. some of us would not be able to write 250 words and we call an article names. and since when did age have anything to do with experience? BN pls post my comment

  85. serene

    September 24, 2015 at 7:54 am

    Its a good write up, Richard. Truth is a bitter pill my friend, you owe no one no apology. Adding your age pissed a lot of readers off…I think. I’m a female and I agree with you

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