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BN TV: “Everywhere I go… Marriage, marriage, marriage!” 10 Signs You’re Old by Brownie



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Bella of is our with a new funny video and she’s sharing 10 signs that she’s noticed that indicate that she’s getting old and she feels we can relate to most of them. At 23 years old, she mentions signs like people taking her relationships a lot more serious now and expecting marriage. She said the way people in her house look at her current boyfriend Moses, it’s obvious they expecting to propose now.

Aside from that, she’s constantly being asked about marriage, “Everywhere I go… Marriage, marriage, marriage! Everywhere I look… Marriage, marriage marriage! Every time I sneeze somebody is legit getting married and or engaged.” Bella also add that her mum now expects her to start paying bills and doesn’t hold her hand any longer when she’s crossing the road… Haha! She also can’t relate to anyone under 15 anymore.

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  1. Someonecute

    August 9, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    lol @ “doesn’t hold her hand any longer when she’s crossing the road”… hahaha now let me watch it.

    • Ano

      August 11, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      The most genius part of this episode? was when she drank her white wine at the end. Now, that is what i’m talking about… bravo lol

  2. *curious*

    August 9, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    Lol @ “still no fertilization for this egg?” nice one Bella.

  3. Nazo

    August 9, 2016 at 7:26 pm

    At 23 everyone around you is talking marriage marriage marriage :s right! Get you piorities right, parents putting pressure on Children to get married need to stop.

    • ify

      August 9, 2016 at 9:55 pm

      that’s me right now and i know am not ready becos i just started my career (recent graduate) but my mom keep telling me no matter how successful i am if am not married my success is a waste and it hurts becos is coming from my mother smh

    • Mama

      August 10, 2016 at 12:39 am

      Wow, thats too brutal coming from your mother. Please, take your time until you are ready. Them no dey catch late comer (if at all there’s anything like late marriage) .

      Mehn…our obsession with marriage in this society ha reached clinically disturbing levels!

    • Peaches77

      August 10, 2016 at 8:14 pm

      Ify, take your time to consider if the current man proposing marriage ( if this is the case) is the kind of man you want to be with. The kind that will support your dreams and help you grow. If you have this kind of partner, believe me 23yrs is an excellent age to get married ?❤️, because you know what, once aldulthood is attained @ 21 with some level of maturity, and a great partner, you’ll be fine!
      Just make sure you keep your eyes open and stay aware of the issues!

  4. Dora

    August 9, 2016 at 8:08 pm

    You are too young to be feeling this way babe. And i’m sorry that you feel old. Age is in the mind (except for the adult tickets…lol)… But really, if u are mentally defeated then it will show physically. Be young at heart and you will be surprised how young u will look and feel. Good luck.

  5. Attention seeker

    August 9, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    Who is pressuring her at 23.. i dont believe her… sounds like attention seeking.. when i looked i thought she would say 30 or 33.. na lie…

    • Netizen

      August 9, 2016 at 9:34 pm

      I’m not 21 yet but I’m done with uni and yes, I’m already being pressured to be in a relationship that will lead to marriage.

    • Teni

      August 9, 2016 at 9:57 pm

      Started getting pressure my final year of college.

    • ify

      August 9, 2016 at 10:02 pm

      every morning that i pray with my mom the first thing she says is God please find husband for my daughter and any spirit that is preventing her from meeting her husband i cast and band and i am only 23 so yea some parent start pressuring you at a young age and is frustrating especially when u are not looking for one or ready for marriage

    • A.M

      August 11, 2016 at 2:10 am

      I’m 24 and my mum began the marriage talk as soon as I finished school. I was at home for a year bfr nysc.. my name was skipped twice after having an extra year in school. At some point my mum was like..”nne if this service thing is not having head again, let’s try marriage” I wasn’t even 24 then! Now I’m done with nysc and job hunting ( the frustration and depress is real) mum has started the husband talk again. “Nne also look for husband whilst your job hunting, your mates are in their husband hones oh” instead of her to be worried about me starting a career ASAP, it’s husband talk that is most important to her. Please don’t call anyone a liar here, you don’t know what people go through.

  6. Sass

    August 9, 2016 at 9:43 pm

    This babe is trolling!!
    23 years! Even at 29 no one is stressing me.

    • Nahum

      August 9, 2016 at 9:52 pm

      You come from a background that is privileged enough to know better and do better. 23 is ridiculously young to pressure anyone.

    • Sass

      August 10, 2016 at 10:54 am

      True that Nahum. At 23 one should be experiencing life. I shudder to think that anyone will agree at 23 to be married. But again different folks and strokes and all that jazz.

    • Miss 26

      August 10, 2016 at 9:56 am

      azzin Sass do you even have sense? do you share the same age? which one is trolling? na wa

    • Sass

      August 10, 2016 at 10:52 am

      Sorry good morning! Why the insult? Do you know what the word troll means?
      Pls respect yourself!

    • Biker Chic

      August 10, 2016 at 12:08 pm

      No one is stressing you at 29? Not even your mother?? Ha! your village people are doing [email protected] Nobody cares. If they do, they will stress you in a loving way. Maybe, you are putting food on the table for plenty people and they see you as their ATM.

    • sass

      August 13, 2016 at 12:01 am

      So after they stress me what will happen? I will suddenly be gingered? Your family don’t need to stress you for you to marry, when the yoke of marriage falls on you, you sef will know.

  7. Lady

    August 9, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    23 is kinda hard to believe that u’re being pressured. I’m 24 and my dad won’t even let any guy near me! He says : my daughter is too young. Leave her alone

  8. Xoxo

    August 9, 2016 at 10:51 pm

    Everyone comes from different backgrounds. I just graduated from uni last month and one of the prayers my mum said after i goy home was God should provide a good husband for me. It has gradually become a regular prayer now and I’m only 20 me that my mother used to chase every single boy I talk to away?. Its until she will use her mouth to tell me to bring boyfriend like 50 times before i will answer her??.She hasn’t started pressuring me tho but she has started to hint that marriage should be on my mind. So everyone’s folks are different. On the other hand I really enjoyed this video. Very witty.

    • Derin87

      August 10, 2016 at 1:09 am

      My mum started praying for husband for me at 18, absolutely nothing wrong with that, never saw it as pressure. With the stories I hear these days, it is key to pray for husband in advance

  9. Dalo

    August 10, 2016 at 1:50 am

    Lol….. My parents are already praying and fasting too. I’m 23

    • Dalo

      August 10, 2016 at 1:51 am

      In fact, Monsie is praying for Dec 2017. Well, lol, I don’t mind sha. Let her keep praying biko

  10. mschewww

    August 10, 2016 at 2:34 am

    oh please make i hear word with your whining talkin about about old, attention seeker.
    do you know how many 30 and 40 something are still not married not but choice
    you 23 and complaining.

    You should be concentrating on LOOKING 23 cos you sure look older

    • le coco

      August 10, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      mumu .. let us see ur own face.. Troll

    • Jessie

      August 20, 2016 at 12:05 am

      You’re really butt hurt though, lmao. Feel free to take your hate and keep it movie aunty

  11. What age?

    August 10, 2016 at 3:52 am

    I am 32, achieving and relishing my freedom. If you work hard, the 30’s is when you are a bit more financially stable to do what you like. I have a serious boyfriend but I am so glad I waited. I have had numerous proposals in my life time and they all did not just seem right so I rejected it. I am a tough cookie anyway and warn all my family members and my mother especially to mind her business. It’s my life. I also threatened all her emissaries that I won’t pick their calls or greet them if they do her dirty work for her again. I am so happy with my life, and the man I am with just makes a lot of sense to me. He’s 39, and we have the same career minded and free but serious minded personality. So, what I am saying is, you are the sum of what you believe and hope for yourself. Don’t let anyone push you. I am so happy in my life that if I do not get married I can adopt and I have loads of God children. So I am content!

    • Ghen Ghen

      August 10, 2016 at 10:43 am

      32 is not too old.

      Just pray that some young twenty-sumtin doesn’t start showing some love to that “serious boyfriend”

    • purplieciousbabe

      August 10, 2016 at 11:35 am

      Which one is 20somthing na..
      So what you implying? That the lacks self control? Nawhoo.. He is 39 tho closer to 40 than 30. I really do not think it is up for discussion the 20something kini kon

    • What Age?

      August 10, 2016 at 3:56 pm

      She can have him. Dont Care and not desperate. Marriage is not the ultimate for me. Though it seems like life and death for you. lmao. Scared about him making his choice? Something is wrong with you. Surely.

    • purplieciousbabe

      August 10, 2016 at 11:32 am

      Good for you babe…
      I think age is as old as you feel…..

  12. Rwen

    August 10, 2016 at 7:53 am

    While some of the pressures are unnecessary and sometimes even brutal, there is nothing wrong with you 21 and 23yr olds taking the marriage issue seriously. If marriage is what you want, don’t shy away from it.

    Now that you are young and “fresh” is the time to “rope in” those commitments. It’s better to date older men (i.e. 28 and above) who are more interested in settling down and have the means to do so.

    Please don’t waste this season of your life with young men or players who are not interested in settling down yet. The hard truth is that men can settle down at any time, for women it is slightly more complicated. You are being put under pressure now but, take it from me, a time will come when no one will ask you about marriage again o (at about the 35+ mark).

    I am now unmarried at 40 and wish I had taken the marriage issue more seriously when I was in my 20s. Instead I devoted those years to pursuing acada and career. I have since learnt that there is no time limit on when you can pursue acada and career but marriage and kids…..

    Please be wise.

    It’s better to be unmarried that to be in a bad marriage but the truth is that, as you get older, the pool of good men does not get wider.

    • Mr. Egghead

      August 10, 2016 at 8:36 am


      “a time will come when no one will ask you about marriage again o”
      I have an uncle and a female cousin in this situation. Nobody talks to them about it anymore. There is no more pressure.

    • Rwen

      August 10, 2016 at 9:47 am

      Yes o.

      This one that they’re feeling old because people are pressurising them to get married. Wait to see how you would feel by the time people stop pressurising you.

      Been there… 😉

      If they’re still pressurising you, it’s because there is hope na!

    • purplieciousbabe

      August 10, 2016 at 11:37 am

      Have you tried on line dating?
      Sorry just out of curiosity

    • purplieciousbabe

      August 10, 2016 at 11:47 am

      Its funny you say that…
      I think that if you had met someone that felt compatible with you and wanted to marry you, you would have accepted except if it is a case you deliberately chose not to.

      I also think that there are many far many women and men that married at the 20something due to pressure but are now divorced, separated, widowed or simply unhappy in their marriage. Of course they are others who waited and are happy. There is no recipe.

      My point is: Life is not black and white. We make our decision based on our understanding and most times it is actually the right decision but we do not know it.
      We all have different priorities Some of us will take marriage over other decisions as a result be willing to settle down with anyone. Some of us are not like that.

      What will I tell my 23 years old sef, JUST LIVE, LOVE AND LAUGH./PRAY. Life is not that serious. I FEEL SO SAD THAT MARRIAGE ON WOMEN IS a kill joy. Women get it so bad and I HATE that. the stigma, I hate the insult, I hate the brutality we get due to marriage.
      I HATE IT.

    • Rwen

      August 10, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      I agree with you. Life is truly not that simple. I enjoy the unmarried life I live but sometimes I mourn my unborn children and the husband I never knew. I just don’t want any of these young ladies to put off marriage for too long. I also hate the pressure and stigma that marriage places on women …. It’s sad.

      You had asked if I had considered online dating, No. I’m off the dating scene completely. After being on the dating scene for close to 2 decades, I am tired worn out and would just rather be on my own, At this point, I have weighed my options and prefer to embrace the unmarried (celibate) life along with all of its freedoms and liberties. It’s not easy…. but neither is marriage.

  13. oo

    August 10, 2016 at 8:19 am

    @Rwen. I’m available, let’s talk

    • Rwen

      August 10, 2016 at 9:37 am


    • Ninny

      August 10, 2016 at 5:24 pm

      correct! please aunty Rwen, dont just laugh….please talk.

  14. Miss 26

    August 10, 2016 at 9:43 am

    I was 23 a lil while ago. I opened my eyes one morning and i was 26. whew!. Where did the three years go? Thats how 30 will just creep up on me. Is it weird that at 26 i dont even have an interest in marriage? or am i just scared? will i still feel this way at 30? should i be worried about the so called “biological clock”. I mean, I dont even have a boo yet.

    • Mz_Danielz

      August 10, 2016 at 7:44 pm

      Nne eh, I can even remember myself at 19. I was in final year then but now peewee, 26 already. I’ve had proposals all my life but I need an MBA 1st and be at least mid management. The MBA starts next year so hopefully, on or before 28, I should say yes and marry but being single is fun Sha, especially when you’re working, you can save your salary cos toasters plenty who dey buy the hair, perfume etc, some dey even send money consistently till they realize they’re being mumued and you also learn about men and the fact that not all of them were raised in homes but even that makes you laugh.

  15. oo

    August 10, 2016 at 9:54 am

    Give a brother credit for trying

    • Rwen

      August 10, 2016 at 10:32 am

      You try.

      Curious as to why you’re available to a 40 yr old woman rather than one of the 23 yr olds that have commented above.

      At least they still have eggs….:-)

    • aj

      August 11, 2016 at 7:23 am

      go rwen! go rwen! go rwen! girl go for it you never know where your man can be. It isn’t too late for you. I know a couple of women that had their kids at age 40 and older.

  16. teesha

    August 10, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    @Rwen, you still have eggs and don’t believe it’s too late. There are many ladies getting married in their 40s and still have kids, so yours can’t be different.

    To the young ladies, if you find someone that you know deep down in your hearts that is worth it go for it.

    Marriage doesn’t stop you from pursuing your dreams if you marry the right person.

    • Mo

      August 11, 2016 at 8:37 am

      I agree… Rwen, don’t give up unless you genuinely do not want a family of your own. If there’s still a part of you that desires that, please don’t close your mind and heart to the possibilities. There are good men out there. And children can still happen, biological or otherwise. It can still happen!

  17. Iyun

    August 10, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    @Rwen *cyber-hug, it’s well dear. Biko don’t put off dating and yes a younger guy can actually love you for real. I’m close to 30 and I’m single to stupor too

  18. wendy

    August 10, 2016 at 4:14 pm

    There should not be any pressure for anyone to get married. It is all a personal choice.
    As for me, I remember when I graduated from school, got a job. I was around 23. My elder brother told me that I should start thinking about settling down. I was like Nah!! I have to make money. I am too young. He was like there is nothing young abt it…. Once you have finished schooling and working. My family did not pressure me at all.
    Sometimes, I wish that I listened to him. It is so much better to have your kids at a young age. You grow with them. All those people saying I have God Children, Nephews and nieces. There is nothing like your own. Plus these kids of nowadays only think abt their own. The ones back home are a little better because they grew up in a communal environment.

    So my advice to my nephews and Nieces is …Don’t rush into anything but you start to consider it.

  19. wendy

    August 10, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    @Rwen *cyber-hug,

  20. Nene

    August 10, 2016 at 4:46 pm

    @Miss 26, Same water rocks our boats. I am also non nonchalant about the whole marriage thing and I am 26 going on 27. my mother and elder brother are really worried about it. I have had 2 proposals and somehow they just don’t seem to cut it for me even though everyone else says they are perfect, and I should pick one. The truth is I am also very scared. I do not want to wake up unmarried @ 30 and at the same time I do not want to end up married and unhappy, because my happiness is KEY for me, it is how I function. Anyway I have not lost hope, I believe there is someone out there for everyone. I believe that God will make him find me.

  21. aj

    August 11, 2016 at 7:16 am

    brownie girl you aint old jor! I am a couple of years older than you and i still am being told that i am young. dont sweat it!

  22. oo

    August 11, 2016 at 7:59 am

    @Rwen, is it only eggs that make up a woman? If you are available, lets talk. Thank you

    • Rwen

      August 12, 2016 at 11:31 am

      Okay! Sure. Let’s talk.

    • Chekwube

      August 12, 2016 at 10:52 pm

      I’m just curious…how will you 2 get to talk?===is there a way of decoding your personal numbers or email add on Bella naija?

  23. Ever Green

    August 12, 2016 at 2:58 pm

    As for me, my family does not pressurize me but they pray for me and tell me ” omi ti oma mu ko ni san kojae ni agbara olorun” I will be 32 come September this year but i believe it is not how far but how well.
    There are times I long for babies, i mean this baby blue fever when i see babies but I tell myself, I will be patient and do it the right way. The pressure is real but you must tell your self that it is better to be patient and take it one day at a time because marriage is a personal journey and no one will experience the good/bad with you. Abeg let’s give our self brain.

  24. Chekwube

    August 12, 2016 at 10:56 pm

    Children of nowadays….you go so heavy on make up you end up adding 5-10 years to your looks…you are 23 but really with all that makeup on you look 28-30

  25. emma

    August 12, 2016 at 11:28 pm

    Marriage marriage. African women are so obsessed with this marriage. What is so special in it?? the beatings we read about everyday?? or the cheatings?? I see nothing in it. I’m 30 and I’m not even in the slightest bit interested in it. I see it as hell. After all the cases of domestic abuse n adultery, how can I not??There’s nothing interesting about marriage, so parents, especially mothers should just drop it. Most of them suffer in silence, so I see no reason why they would want their daughters going into the same hell as they are in. Most African mothers should tell their daughters not to even get married if they had any sense considering what most of them face daily.

  26. emma

    August 12, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    But no, it is still these same women that get pounded and cheated on that mock women who decide to stay single. Their reasoning is just sick.

  27. Ybbil

    August 21, 2016 at 8:31 am

    Rwen, your man will find you. Your comment brought tears to my eyes. I do not know you, but I love you already. I was in a serious relationship by 23, done my masters and working. He was 28 then going 29. Marriage talks and all. How we broke up still leaves me in shock. This month was meant to be our Court Wedding. I just turned 25 and I had a lot of worries you know, never thought I would turn 25 without having a serious relationship. I cried yeah, cried and thought alot. Sometimes, people get unlucky and do not involve God and end up with the wrong men. Not that they actually donot wnt to get married. Right now, I am not even sure of a lot of stuffs, not sure when I will get married and its scary as hell. Because I am not ashamed to say I desire a good and Godly marriage more than anything else. I want to get married.

    • Rwen

      August 21, 2016 at 10:02 pm

      Thanks dear. Your comment made me laugh out loud.

      You’ll be fine. There were no forums like this when I was 25. Things were somewhat different and many of us were the first ladies to attend university in our families (lineages). Women who had gone ahead in terms of balancing career, academics and marriage in their 20s were very few and far between. Things are much different now.

      Just know that either way God loves you. Even when one is with the best of men, marriage can be tough. That’s the truth. Like I say to my friends, marriage can POTENTIALLY be a blessing but being unmarried can also POTENTIALLY be a blessing. It depends on how you approach your situation. Either way, there are ups and downs on both sides, no one is in heaven. We just need to make the most of whatever situation we find ourselves in.

      I draw strength from the knowledge that God loves me no matter what. He’s my man, he’s taking care of me!

      Please don’t be scared. There are worse things in life than not being married, far worse things.

  28. tee

    August 29, 2016 at 8:39 am

    You know this morning my mum and i were talking and she said if she had known, i would have studied law after my under-graduate but instead went for my post-graduate,. Now i am almost 26 and she’s like the best thing that can happen now is to have a man . Like seriously! i told her that i had a life before a man and I have a lot to achieve before settling down. Parents should just stop.

  29. Audrey

    September 1, 2016 at 4:22 pm

    early thirties, no boo and still trusting God. I get scared and cry sometimes but I go back to believing God for a husband. The funny thing however is , I got two people asking me out this year but I said no to both, they didn’t cut it for me. I wonder if I’m being too picky, would I ever find the one? Should I just settle?
    Another interesting thing, I have a huge crush on someone six years my junior smh. He’s even in a relationship. I try as much as possible to avoid him but he’s such a nice person,always seeking me out to say hello and chat *sigh* I’m ashamed of myself.
    why the epistle? My darling twenty something year olds, build yourself up, career wise, academics, spirituality etc but be serious about marriage too (if you want one). Do not date f-boys, date the serious ones ; they are exciting too. I wish my parents had talked to me more about getting married early, I took it for granted. Thinking I would get married anyway.

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