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BN TV: Watch Toke Makinwa on “Rubbin’ Minds” with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu as she talks baring it all and Speaking Up



Media personality Toke Makinwa is the latest guest on “Rubbin’ Minds” with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and in this exclusive interview, she talks about how her book “On Becoming” came about and how she kept a timeline of the things that happened to her.

She talks about why there were so many “intrusive” moments in the book and her decision to just share it all.

Watch below.

Part 1

Part 2


  1. bibi

    December 12, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    gosh it is ENOUGH this woman….

    she is just stupidly diluting her brand with all this unnecessary upandown

    • keke driver

      December 12, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      ” she is just stupidly diluting her brand with all this unnecessary upandown”…..Mind you @bibi I don’t think She goes “upandown” without being invited. So kindly crawl back into that little hole, okay? Madam Oversabi

    • pita

      December 12, 2016 at 3:26 pm

      Brand kwa?

    • FAKE!!!

      December 12, 2016 at 10:01 pm

      Toke… how can you talk about baring it all… with this fake accent? As in from abuja to lagos to unilag…is it because of a small stint in jand (not even a year o) that you feel you can start with this accent? it makes her look a bit ridiculous, honestly. it also shows insecurity in who she really is. Ebuka sounded intelligent, but still had a Nigerian accent. Toke kept misusing the word “would” all while using this forced, confused accent. PLEASE!!! be proud of your nigerian heritage.

    • Toro Akinseye

      December 29, 2016 at 8:18 am

      There is absolutely nothing wrong in a person perfecting their elocution. She is very good, a real woman walking towards perfection.

  2. Kukua

    December 12, 2016 at 1:31 pm

    I thoroughly enjoyed the interview. Go Toke. Higher heights to you.

    • Dee

      December 12, 2016 at 9:10 pm

      Agreed! She handled it well.

  3. Face ya work

    December 12, 2016 at 1:41 pm

    She wasn’t answering the questions being asked!! Whew!

  4. Jane

    December 12, 2016 at 2:06 pm

    @bibi,as in eh, i don tire for Toke and this book matter. Am so fed up!

    • Dee

      December 12, 2016 at 9:23 pm

      There’s a simple solution, you know. Ignore it. Don’t click on the articles or watch the interviews… the book promotion will be going on for quite a while now. so if you’re fed up with it, just ignore.

  5. Ohhsonawtii

    December 12, 2016 at 2:07 pm

    Toke, pleasee slow it down. I’m begging! you may start annoying those of us who were previously rooting for you. I’m sorry you were heartbroken but my dear, you are not the first neither will you be the last. Please move on and focus on other ventures.
    Show us that your life isn’t all about Maje.

    • Ms Dee

      December 12, 2016 at 3:33 pm

      While I don’t think she’s the ‘strong woman’ she is claiming BECAUSE of this family drama, I actually think what she’s doing is normal. She is promoting a book. Unfortunately, we will be seeing more of this in months to come. And, did you hear the part where she said there would be a media tour for the first six months of next year? More to come.

  6. Christian Sister

    December 12, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    Toke needs to give it a rest already. At first, I felt sorry for her, and supported her speaking up. Courage I said. Now it’s pretty obvious, this isn’t about strength or courage or any of the bs she has been selling. It’s about the fame, and the money this is bringing her way. And it’s tragic to see.
    Do you know how inspiring this story would have been for the next woman out there? But no, that genuineness and sense of purpose has been lost.

    • Miss B

      December 12, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      I daresay that the “money and fame” has always been the genuine purpose of this venture and this “celebrity”.

    • Corolla

      December 12, 2016 at 11:32 pm

      Why dont you give yourself a rest and stop opening posts that have to do with Toke Makinwa. Abi, are there spiritual powers forcing you to pay attention to her ni? Did you expect that she will just write a book and not do a press tour? When people are promoting new movies, products, music etc, they get out there so their products/services is top of the mind . The fact that her book is controversial and is about a relationship does not exempt it from a good old promo campaign. Stop being silly!

    • Fact

      December 13, 2016 at 7:55 pm

      You need to give it a rest already. Live and let live. Christian sister, is it by force to watch or follow her? Go and read your bible…

  7. esther

    December 12, 2016 at 3:21 pm

    Toke should pls give her issue a final rest it deserved, haba!!! I tot she meant closure with the book, but it looks more to something else I can’t fathom.

    • Everybodyhasanopinion

      December 12, 2016 at 8:30 pm

      People just open their big mouth to talk, someone is creatively promoting her book and you have the internet data to abuse her hustle but not the money to sort out your life. Instead of you to jejely face your front and make the best of your own situation.

    • Corolla

      December 12, 2016 at 11:40 pm

      Esther, several folks have told you to contact BN community center, so they can validate your claim, and mobilize people to help you, but you have ignored this and continued to beg in a scam-like manner in comment sections.

  8. gbemi

    December 12, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    ladies, this book is not just about Toke’s heart break!!! It’s an expose on signs to look out for, especially when a guy is not into you or signs of a very confused guy. I wish people can just ignore the messengers (including Toke) and embrace the deep truths and messages in the book.

    Also, most of the excerpts on social media have been taken out of context! so please if you can get your hands on the messages/ lessons from the book, ponder on them oh, again i say forget the messengers!!!

    • Biko

      December 12, 2016 at 4:21 pm

      I wish the author had called that out more clearly in the book. Instead, she just served us gist.

      That said – I’d like to think it’s common sense that if you meet a guy and start having “other girl” drama within 2 months, you must bounce. You will NOT change him or his relationship with his other babe overnight by marrying him

    • Gbemi

      December 12, 2016 at 6:38 pm

      My dear, another nugget from the book is that sometimes you know what ‘COMMON SENSE’ requires but there’s no energy or strength to bounce, sometimes family and friends can even SPELL OUT THE TRUTH but no energy or strength to bounce.

      At that point eh it all comes down to what formed a person’s emotional well-being during childhood….. unfortunately, this is overlooked in Nigeria.

      In her case, the ‘dreamy love’ was what made it easy for her to bear the pain of losing both parents, so bouncing meant she had to unconsciously revisit the pain of losing both parents again…… that pain is nothing compared to the one Maje’s caused. Now when ‘she became’ she realized (in pidgin: I neva reach that part of the book sha……………)

    • az

      December 12, 2016 at 11:16 pm

      You don’t need a book to realize someone who is genuine more so one who does not hide their philandering.The book didn’t even bring out any signs, it just showed how much lack of self love the writer had/has for herself.

  9. Ec

    December 12, 2016 at 3:56 pm

    I enjoyed this interview Ebuka. On another note Toke needs to pay attention a bit more, when you say something like ‘Nigerians don’t read’ it may come across as insulting. Because from the sales of your book it is evident that we do. Overall good interview you know how to sell yourself

    • DareF

      December 12, 2016 at 5:55 pm

      the sales of the book was about 150 books after one week…. .. the seller site posted it on twitter .what is the population of Nigeria again ? ? ? .. that why she confirmed Nigerian dont read but by the way. there was nothing intellectual about the book. ….more of gist or reporting Maje so it caters to the few who cares about that

    • Someonecute

      December 12, 2016 at 7:41 pm

      Well we do read, but I’m sure most people read the free leaked copy, like me 🙂 Sorry Toke ehn. If it was worth a buy, I would probably still buy after reading the leaked copy. So you should be investigating who leaked your book.

  10. Nonye

    December 12, 2016 at 4:25 pm

    I dont know why people cant accept the message without criticizing. Live and let live..most of you complaining about her will do the same thing she made as a mistake @gbemi thank jare..we ladies love bringing our selves down..

  11. Ginger

    December 12, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    Toke… the woman people love to hate. I dare say that’s part of why she has done so well, and will continue to do even better. She can’t even do a magazine spread or promote her book without people’s blood pressure skyrocketing. The comments about her always seem to come from deeply personal places of hate and maybe jealousy. Like “why is she still here? Why does she think she can look good and what gives her the guts to ignore our culture of silence and attempt to get away with it.” Just to humour some people, I hope she continues to excel. *ps love how Nigerian women are suddenly acting like many of them don’t take shit in their marriages and relationships, and Toke is the only one who knows her husband is cheating on her and “didn’t read the handwriting on the wall.” Same thing people have insulted feminists for rejecting. Oh well, everything goes in 2016

    • Dee

      December 12, 2016 at 9:12 pm

      I totally agree… it really is part of the secret of her success, So the beefers can go on self-righteously beefing. And yes, you’re absolutely right, a lot of the reaction from women reeks of holier-than-thou hypocrisy.

    • Corolla

      December 12, 2016 at 11:33 pm


  12. nene

    December 12, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    toke is feeling herself, feeling so inspiring and philosophical, with the forced accent. cash out season! whatever floats her boat. only women who have similar stories will be inspired by her. i don’t see someone who has learned any lessons, but i guess she’s still “becoming”.

  13. Sultana

    December 12, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    The beefers are out! Including the so called former Toke supporters (lies). We gerrit, she’s a capitalist, fame whore, bleacher, depressed etc. Leave her like that and face your work! Add value to your own lives. You mustnt click every Toke story to comment. Face ya lives. And to think most of you are women! Smh #womenwoundingwomen

  14. luvnaija

    December 12, 2016 at 6:32 pm

    I watched the interview and thoroughly enjoyed it! I could see a woman who owned her faults and flaws without being ashamed of it all! I saw a woman has learnt her lessons and shedding scales of the hurt by baring it all! I saw a woman who told her own side of the story without allowing the world own the narrative!
    Finally, I saw a woman making a tall glass of Chapman with the lemons life has thrown her! She can milk this situation for all its worth and if it is that easy the other party/ies concerned can tell their side of the story too!
    In fact, she should make a movie on this book. I loved this her quote” the more the pain, the greater the purpose”
    May we all find our purpose early enough and it should from a painful experience only. Shallom

  15. Chi

    December 12, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    Ebuka is lucky she gave him an interview at all. He doesn’t deserve it

    I still remember how he treated her the first time she came on his show. Toke is a beautiful forgiving soul. Bless her

  16. Letty

    December 12, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    Toke is an attention mongerer who just talks way too much. When is enough enough? Sickening is an understatement.

    • nnenne

      December 13, 2016 at 12:25 am

      + Letty,
      When people write books, they promote them.
      Granting interviews, going on book tours are some of the ways they do that.
      If you are tired of listening to her, then perhaps, you should not click when you see her name.
      As is the norm with other writers, she is gonna have to promote this book for a while.
      Sorry about the inconveniences but you know what to do….don’t click!

      I actually enjoyed the interview.

  17. Mel

    December 12, 2016 at 11:12 pm

    Why brag about being the most followed celebrity with over 1million followers toke!tiwa has about 2milluon plus and honestly this isn’t a big deal.its obvious you are enjoying the fame coming from this Hun!

  18. Truthie

    December 13, 2016 at 12:24 am

    All i see is anger and envy. Ignore them, Toke.
    So typical of Nigerians cos they will rather you stay in misery so they can give you free pity and unsolicited advice than you wore your high heels and flipped your hair.
    They want her to remian in tears and self pity or disappear forever so they can relate and dish buckets of pity and advice and prayers…
    They dont want her walking the red carpet and the runway and smiling to the bank..
    How you nigerians love misery and loathe success!
    Milk it all the way, Toke!! No doubt, You were very foolish in your choices but if by fate and chance, that foolishness now yields income, enjoy biko.
    That is life in its irony. Time and chance happens to us all, hahahahahaha

  19. Myopinion

    December 13, 2016 at 3:41 am

    I enjoyed every bit of the interview. She seemed genuine to me…. anyone can say whatever they like about this lady! She seemed convinced she has found her life purpose and nothing is more fulfilling than that…. so keep hating o! No harm in getting paid for a job well done….

  20. Sheke

    December 13, 2016 at 3:53 am

    Toke is a perpetual late comer SMH! You got on the TVC show late and this one too as mentioned by Ebuka? Shame on you for not allowing enough time for both interviews. Aburo Mariah Carey..Diva onsense

  21. Letty

    December 14, 2016 at 2:07 pm

    Toke should not perpetuate any strong woman vibe this is just a vengeance revenge I’ll deal with you book. Let’s call it what it is from someone who craves and has a dire and voracious need for attention.

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