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“I’m strong enough to teach other women no marriage is worth dying for” – Tonto Dikeh makes more revelations on Physical Abuse, Infidelity & More in her Marriage

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Tonto Dikeh says she is on a mission this morning to teach women no marriage is worth dying for as she is speaking up and sharing more details about her marriage.

The actress is letting people know what was really going on in her marriage behind closed doors. As her fans commended her weight loss, she said it was very easy for her because her ex-husband was cheating on her frequently and was being physically and verbally abusive towards her.

Tonto also said she used her platform to cover up and lie to make Olakunle Churchill look good in order to make him the man he is today.

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163 Comments

  1. Ahmed A.

    February 24, 2017 at 12:07 pm

    Madam, go and sleep jor. Attention freak!

    • #Proudnigerian

      February 24, 2017 at 2:32 pm

      Why is everybody insulting Tonto? What is the difference between her and Toke? False affection,fake pda on social media, cheating husband,STDS bla bla bla at least hers wasn’t 12 years she’s walking out early. I commend her, she saw the light early. Tonto just find closure leave this out of social media most especially for your son.

    • Seriously

      February 24, 2017 at 5:42 pm

      It’s not an issue of comparison. Toke gets her dose of constant insults too probably worst than Tonto.
      Tonto should just write a book and make her money too.
      Both women chose the men in their lives. They deal with the consequences.

    • Raymond

      February 24, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      Must marriages are fading away, because there is no humility,and respect in the house. A Good wife build her home And a good husband love his wife.
      Women should watch thier mouth.a man cannot just be nagging when a woman is not winning her mouth.!!
      Ladies please check your life.stop going out without your husband permission and when ever the man is talking please show some respects to your man.
      Best. .
      Raymond Asemakaha

    • BoyBye

      February 25, 2017 at 7:46 pm

      @Raymond, Oshe wife beater Ray Ray!
      You can know them from the words they utter.
      You are clearly a misogynist. Boy bye.

    • Anne

      February 24, 2017 at 3:32 pm

      You guys are just mercilessly mean. Who wants to write stuff about their marriage for the present day public. Should we not be grateful for this exposure and learn. Why can’t you learn from another’s experience. Only God can properly choose spouses. If she did stuff to make her husband look good, women do that because men like public display of respect. She was only trying to keep her marriage.

    • Kaeto

      February 24, 2017 at 5:04 pm

      I bet most of the comments are from women her age. I don’t understand Nigerians sometimes, Oprah shares her story that inspires me, Toke has inspired lots of women too. Tonto is a strong hustler making her own money, and me I was shocked when she got married; and I will be shocked if she stays to die;( kill her self esteem, image, value) Haba how can she raise a strong King, eh. Oh my gosh that’s why a lot of Nigerian men are very abusive to women. Boys define strength has being a bully, while weakness as being a woman. Is that the kind of environment King needs to grow up in? Please bye.

    • Temi

      February 24, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      Did Tonto walk out or the guy left? Funny how these women, without any solicitation from the men, feel the need to boost the Gia’s image making up lies about how great he is then when the guy doesn’t want to to do again, they come up here writing epistles that touch. You lied he bought you bling bling and g wagon. Did he ask you to lie and make him look good? Would you not have stayed and keep treating your STDs if the other madam didn’t take over?

  2. Tanimowo

    February 24, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    Tonto just wants attention and she is not going to get it

    • peg

      February 24, 2017 at 3:53 pm

      Well she got yours as you just commented on the post. SMH

    • Catherine

      February 27, 2017 at 3:25 am

      Lolz ? she got it when you replied to this post.?

  3. dikeh

    February 24, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    ex-husband???we havent come to that yet @ tontolet

  4. Patricia

    February 24, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    Tonto Dikeh, go and take care of your child. Stop spreading your dirty linen online.

  5. Folarin

    February 24, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    In this crazy recession tonto dike is talking rubbish about her relationship who cares she should just fuck off for God sake

  6. Ogbuefi

    February 24, 2017 at 12:17 pm

    What were you covering? Is it not the Tonto that we know? You would have spread the news as e dey happen if it was true. SMH

  7. Muyiwa

    February 24, 2017 at 12:18 pm

    Tonto pls get busy and shut up ur mouth for crying out loud

  8. Prince

    February 24, 2017 at 12:19 pm

    So my Parents were right, they’ve always been.
    IT’S BETTER TO HAVE 20 BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE.

    • Hassan

      February 24, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      Abi ? Tonto Dikeh go and sleep. Stop disturbing ours

    • Blah blah blah

      February 24, 2017 at 12:30 pm

      Let her go and sit down abeg. All these celebrities sef. So all those gifts people were tapping into were not even from the man. I’m trying so hard to feel sorry for her but it’s not working. Bih, you were not forced into that marriage. You were not forced to praise him on IG every week. You did that on your own. Enjoy yourself. Write a book and make money from it. Be smart for once

    • Jade Edo babe

      February 24, 2017 at 2:22 pm

      The problem with people like Tonto is, what was all that flaunting about? Posts about how happy you were and how great your husband is. It makes no sense at all. Why go that hard to prove how happy you were, him buying you expensive gifts blah blah now claiming it was all lies.
      I’m glad you take responsibility bcos you have serious issues. Go do some soul searching.
      And as for the so called husband, just go to hell. I blame women for giving low life men like you a chance. But then you attract your type. Shoulder shrug

    • 2pac

      February 24, 2017 at 10:02 pm

      Chika Sugar Asoegwu, learn from your colleague Tonto, and get your marriage off social media. That’s how it starts, everyday, my husband this, my husband that. As for Amaka Benson, I guess, hers is like a sickness that needs a serious doctor to cure her. I’m hoping she’s not the black sheep of her family, because her siblings are not social media freaks. All these ‘admire me’, ‘admire me’ madness is killing relationships. People shouls stop ‘tapping’ what you see on social media, so that you won’t ‘tap’ in curse on your destiny. Some of these vain ladies on instagram have bad spirits following them around. Stop tapping what they show you and pray that God almighty will arrange your own for you.

  9. Billionaire in grace

    February 24, 2017 at 12:19 pm

    This woman is hurt… why cant we people love our partners genuinely without ant drama

    • Tochi

      February 24, 2017 at 12:28 pm

      She is just a drama queen, sincerely when everything was all rosy she didn’t involve us now she is forming saint
      Tonto has missed publicity

    • olanna&odenigbo

      February 24, 2017 at 7:54 pm

      She is an actress…drama is expected. bye.

  10. debutante

    February 24, 2017 at 12:21 pm

    Tonto is becoming…

    • Dionne

      February 24, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      lol she’s truly becoming…. haha

    • Kanyinsola

      February 24, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      ?????

    • Nguyi

      February 24, 2017 at 1:23 pm

      How can I triple like this post ………….

    • Bubu

      February 24, 2017 at 1:31 pm

      Lobatan, na really becoming ???

    • Ottawa Queen

      February 24, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Lmao! Pls don’t make me throw up the food I’m eating. Can’t stop laughing. . . ?

  11. Farinloye

    February 24, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Tonto is this how u pay someone dat blessed you back what a shame

  12. Beep

    February 24, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Arrrrrrrrgh! Not this lane again. Tonty baby this won’t end well! Why can’t we just learn from others’ mistakes?

  13. Fasholaslover

    February 24, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Hian Charity. Don’t drop snippets here and there. You will only create room for people to add salt and pepper. If you must bare it all, do it big once and for all and be done. Be like Toke.

  14. Kanyinsola

    February 24, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    ?????

  15. Zoba

    February 24, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    Hahahaha…after all the “my husband this, my husband that”. Now she wants to pull a Toke Makinwa on us with another on becoming shit. Go on, keep living your life for my entertainment.

  16. Viv

    February 24, 2017 at 12:28 pm

    Tonto you talk too much!

    • Lu

      February 24, 2017 at 12:39 pm

      What do you mean she talks too much. Noone should ever be quiet about abuse. This what kills african women the most. always covering up for men that aren’t worth it i hope they’ll change. Let her speak up on the abuse she faced. People need to learn from her story too.

  17. Oluwanifemi diamond

    February 24, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    My dear you have try it’s too bad that is happening now it’s good u took ur dicistion now because it’s better you are out than dying dear no man really it’s wot dying for they are good for nothing and nothing to write home about concentrate on ur lovely boy Nd your self

  18. Ari

    February 24, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    This Tonto which kind of parole is this na? Please stop

  19. MrsO

    February 24, 2017 at 12:39 pm

    Tonto, I hope you read this.. I genuinely feel your pain and must applaud you for leaving a bad situation as early as you did. Unlike others, you did not stay in a bad relationship for many years living in denial and pretense. Thank you for being real and having the strength to walk away.

    If there is anything good that came out of this marriage, it is that you have become a changed person and you grew closer to God because of it.

    Many people keep talking about karma as if it only applies to women but I promise you nemesis will eventually catch up to Mr Churchill for continuously treating women this way.

    Hold your head up pretty lady, focus on your cute son and re-vamp your career.

    God bless you.

    • Na today?

      February 24, 2017 at 1:27 pm

      ode ni e
      @Karma will catch up with churchill

      Your friend, Tonto, no see am the way he is before she chook her head inside?
      No she no go see as she was blinded by what she can get.

      Story of a typical naija girl

    • Caramel chic

      February 24, 2017 at 1:51 pm

      @Madam Na Today.
      No,she ‘ no see am’ ….. oya crucify her. Because she be Jesus abi? She be perfect Saint! ! Where she has everything figured. Because na only you enter all situations of your life perfectly. Mcheww

    • thank you

      February 24, 2017 at 3:53 pm

      Its people like you that empower women to be strong despite bad situation. if we knew each other we would be friends. Thank you

    • kristy

      February 26, 2017 at 8:25 pm

      @MrsO don’t help another woman by insulting her husband because if you do so somebody else maybe doing same to you without you knowing. Tonto is only telling her story for us to learn and the best we can do is to advice her with positive words..

  20. onika

    February 24, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    waaawu….and some people were even tapping into the marriage…..ayele o ibosi o

    • Esther

      February 24, 2017 at 1:20 pm

      hahahahahahahaha LMAO 😀

    • RIFF RAFF

      February 24, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      Indeed, see what envious girls were naively tapping into….and she has not even finished spilling everything!!!

    • mua

      February 26, 2017 at 8:05 pm

      palm wine tappers of life.

    • Mary

      February 24, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      That’s serious

    • PD Young Billionaire

      February 24, 2017 at 6:35 pm

      Lol…
      People can tap into anything sha….

    • Temi

      February 24, 2017 at 7:00 pm

      You are a fool for that ibosi note. Lol

  21. i must talk

    February 24, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Love takes time to heal cos it hurts so much…..(Maria Karey) F-i-n-e…am doing just f-i-n-e….getting along very well without you in my life (Boys2men) These two songs comes to mind.
    Tonto, ndo. ozugo.

    • Anon

      February 24, 2017 at 2:48 pm

      I had to do a double take. Massive LOL at Maria Karey.

  22. word

    February 24, 2017 at 12:48 pm

    Tonto! Tonto!! Tonto!!! How many times did i call u? Stop talking. Start writing. So that u can Become.

  23. Wale

    February 24, 2017 at 12:48 pm

    There isn’t any scorn yet…..The husband messed up big time when he granted that interview and trust women, (remember Tiwa was also silent until when her husband disgraced her). How can Mr X inferred she pushed her mother down the stairs….’Let he without sin, cast the first stone’.

    Marriage is a two-edged sword, it makes you vulnerable and that part shouldn’t and mustn’t be shared with anyone, immediately you share it, head will roll. My brothers, learn to protect your women, be it in the past or present.

    • Ayaoba

      February 25, 2017 at 12:32 am

      Wale God bless you for this comment “amen learn how to protect your women “.Sadly not all men do that

    • I_I

      February 25, 2017 at 6:57 am

      LOL. With all due respect to Tonto and Tiwa, both their husbands looked shady – TeeBillz seemed very immature (remember his taking a shit selfie), while Churchill always seemed to me like a Yahoo boy (what does his company really do asides the NGO?)

  24. dlp

    February 24, 2017 at 12:52 pm

    Na wa ohhh, please do not envy any ones relationship. Plenty fake things are happening. come to think of the way she praises this dude ehhhh, God thank you for me and my peace of mind

  25. Fred

    February 24, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    My dear Tonto, you are in no position to teach women anything. It takes 2 to fail. I would rather listen to someone that has a successful marriage than someone from a failed one. Tell me why I should take financial advice from my broke uncle when I can listen to Dangote or Adenuga and be successful. Please just shut and learn from your own mistakes. All marriages are not the same. Keep your info to yourself.

    • Mary

      February 24, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      Wow

    • Susie

      February 24, 2017 at 2:57 pm

      Except that your broke uncle can give you the best advice on how not to end up like him. He can teach you to avoid his mistakes. That’s why the best HIV ambassadors are people with HIV & the most famous Apostle is Paul/ Saul who had a past. Tonto can teach women not to end up with men like her ex cos she’s been there done that. Judge not cos she’s imperfect

    • peg

      February 24, 2017 at 4:09 pm

      Hi five!!!!

    • Prince

      February 24, 2017 at 4:43 pm

      God will bless you and yours.
      Some people are so dump they speak from their asshole. Your reply is everything

    • eagleeye

      February 24, 2017 at 3:57 pm

      And this is where your folly lies. Ever heard of the word ‘balance’? Yeah, its that thing that gives you a ‘balanced’ perspective of how things really are. So you can shut your eyes and ears to only ‘good marriage stories’ and be as naive and blind as a bat, and struggle and suffer all the days of your marriage. I wish you well

    • Caramel chic

      February 24, 2017 at 8:41 pm

      My dear @Fred
      Let us know when you’re finally graduating. I know it’s hard repeating a year. Mtchewwwww

    • Ngbabe

      February 24, 2017 at 10:36 pm

      Real WOW @Fred.

  26. tobi

    February 24, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    So why the cover up and show and tell of my fab life tinz in the first place. Tonto na only u waka come. Nobody send u. Moral of your story is spend less time seeking validation from random social media tinz and more time being hands on in your relationship. Faking dont pay. Youve still not learnt your lesson. In the voice of papa trump #SAD.

    • Lacey

      February 24, 2017 at 1:08 pm

      @ Tobi thanks so much for this your comment!!! So why did she have to lie and fake love !!! Like I tell my friends, why do women have to lie that someone loves them deeply when it is the other way round! Until women live their life to please God and not man, they will continue to enter one chance!!!

    • Lu

      February 24, 2017 at 4:03 pm

      My dear, I’ve always said it. 80% of d time, when pple; ladies esp is always posting about their relationship and throwing it in your face 24/7, they’re trying to validate something that isn’t there. Pple that are genuinely happy never really feel the pressure to post this tins cos they are busy enjoying their private moment. Sadly women almost never learn.

    • BJ

      February 24, 2017 at 1:22 pm

      I love the #SAD part.

    • that uptown girl

      February 24, 2017 at 2:53 pm

      The post about her husband buying her IPhone 7 did it for me. I remember when BN posted I commented that Tonto is hiding something or trying to disguise her reality. Genuinely happy people don’t go that length to prove that they are happy. On another note, people close to her should keep an eye on her o. This lady has attempted suicide before. I see these posts as a cry for help, where are her friends and family by the way? Is it until she tries to jump a bridge that they will know she is not doing fine one bit?

    • peg

      February 24, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      You got a point there, you know. This lady needs help ohh. May God strengthen her.

  27. Anon

    February 24, 2017 at 12:59 pm

    It was her money she was spending? Damn! Someone needs to get her for a full interview. Ebuka, over to you.

  28. swagg1

    February 24, 2017 at 1:07 pm

    No dis but who are this couple and what do they do??? just asking!!!

  29. Na today?

    February 24, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    Na today?

    Nigerian girls cann never know the difference between light and darkness
    They can never know the difference between a real guy and a scam
    They can never know the difference between truth and lies

    WHY?

    Cos they are after
    1. what they can get,
    2. the gold they can dig
    3. the guys money
    4. the car he uses
    5. where he works
    6. what he has that they can benefit from rather than knowing his personality, behaviour and content

    What a man likes is what kills him

    What you ladies love is the bait they use in getting you.

    @ Tonto, all you cared about is the cars he is getting you that you post, the money, the ring, the trips….

    No body forced you to marry the guy, dont come and claim pity party here

    • Caramel chic

      February 24, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      Dear @natoday
      Thank you for being the minister for Nigerian women. It must be so soothing that the following titles fall under the Nigerian Women

      Your Great Grandmother
      Your Fathers sister
      Your Fathers sisters daughter
      Your best friends Mother
      Your cousins wife
      Your niece

      Have I left any things out?

    • MrsO

      February 24, 2017 at 2:41 pm

      @Caramel chic .. LOL .. no mind am.. the pain in his tone shows that he’s speaking from a bad experience.

    • caramel chic's fan

      February 25, 2017 at 5:34 am

      Your ur father’s daughter…

    • na today

      February 25, 2017 at 12:57 pm

      Caramel chic, e yaf pain you ba? That the real truth

      All you women are like that, none exceptional…. But for you to list that shows you have no home training and no one in your life is worth it

      You will die a single girl. No man will look at your miserable life and if you eventually marry, your husband will maltreat, man handle, abuse and turn you to a slave

      Mark my words! Anyone who isnt trying at home must be training outside… As my post wasn’t directed at you

      When you see your life going down South, just remember this post cos you have come for a wrong person.

      You can’t survive it

    • Miss Keeping it real

      February 24, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      Says the broke guy.

    • na today

      February 25, 2017 at 1:01 pm

      That is why you are still a Miss

      You will die single

    • olives

      February 24, 2017 at 7:23 pm

      so rich guys should not marry again bcos? bitter truth, there areseveral koboless men outside there with unspeakable character, na that one go give person heartattack quick.
      so dont say that is all that attracts women, men pretrends alot

  30. Ade

    February 24, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    Yipeedoo! Tonto has turned to a motivational speaker. Please, spare us the details of your love turned sour because we were not part of your Instagram celebrated vacations and false luxuries. You knew his character before marrying him, so what did you expect. People mostly put their best foot forward in a relationship, and this reduces by 20 to 30 percent after marriage. Hence, if you are in a bad relationship, it will only get worse. Aunty Toto, please if you need to help other women, please go to a domestic violence class and speak to the victims. The last thing we want to see is another book on how you turned to a full skin bleacher because of a man.

    Although people get it wrong in relationships, however, women please run from any appearance of all the kingkongs out there, you know they will never make good husbands, so stop deceiving yourself. Pigs will always go back to the mud. A ready man shows full dedication while dating before transitioning to a husband.

  31. its Nkem

    February 24, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    Nobody asked you to marry the guy oh. There is no point explaining to the world. We wish u best of luck in your future.

  32. gideon

    February 24, 2017 at 1:38 pm

    Abeg go. And dey wl talking like dey have no faults atall

  33. Vicky

    February 24, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    And to think some of us was tapping into all the fakeness. Why do we put ourselves in such misery.

  34. Chief

    February 24, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    This lady is pissing me off with her physical abuse and infidelity bullshit.We live in a society where men are demonized and viewed as evil oppressors.No man hits a woman first without being provoked because many men are raised to believe that a man does not raise a hand to a woman,no matter what,Women know this and that’s why they provoked men,they think they can get away with it.There are women out there who will take advantage of that.Of course in reality very few men hit women anyway because it’s ingrained in our culture that a man should never hit a woman.Research shows that women tend to be primary aggressors in marriage/relationships and men only hit back when they are verbally abused,snap or have a predisposition to violence anyway.Women are not children,they are adults and should be treated in the same way as men are in every way.Just because she’s a woman does not give her the right to verbally abuse a man.

    Women should understand that it’s men nature to cheat.There is no one person who will fill all your holes.Most men won’t be happy having sex with same woman forever,no matter how beautiful she is,it gets boring for men.Men are naturally non monogamous and we as a society should accept it.We have been brought up to believe in this idea forced down by society that men are not polygamous.Divorce rate seems to prove how silly that idea is.Every men i know seems to have to deal with this cheating.All men cheats.It’s biological.You can not fight nature and instinct.Many men like me enjoy the thrill of cheating while other men cheat to boost their egos.I’m tired of explaining this.

    Our mothers married for decades although they had some very trying times in their marriages that would have ended in divorce today but they don’t understand divorce at all.For them marriage is something that must be worked at and is a life long commitment made of God,society and their families.Cheating should not be a big deal.Women should understand all men cheat,it’s men nature,the way God made us and it’s normal as far you as a woman is taken good care of by your man.

    It’s a pity that Women aren’t women any more,they no longer act like women.Women once upon a time understands men’s nature like our mothers did to our fathers.Women should stay strong and resist the profound influence that’s western culture(Divorce).

    • Stuz

      February 24, 2017 at 2:46 pm

      @Chief, U’re a full blown scum.

    • me to you

      February 24, 2017 at 2:50 pm

      you are really a chief of stupidity and uselessness

    • Presh

      February 24, 2017 at 3:01 pm

      Who is dis Chief…. sir with all due respect u r very wicked.. i don’t even know what men of nowadays think dey r. Ladies we can do well on our own without dis men. Let’s stand and try to b virtuous like d women in d bible ( Debora, Esther etc)

    • esther

      February 24, 2017 at 3:57 pm

      Talking rubbish.

    • Strikemeonceandiamgone

      February 24, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      You have just spilled rubbish.
      Tonto pashan ti won fi na iyale was used to. Decorate you too.

    • Omo

      February 24, 2017 at 3:29 pm

      You are too stupid for your own good, i hope no woman or man ever thinks its a great idea to marry a piece of shit like you!

    • meah

      February 24, 2017 at 3:30 pm

      @chief; Please keep chut! #BodaOde

    • bokun

      February 24, 2017 at 3:38 pm

      I blame the mother. She most have been a real DOORMAT. Feel sorry for your LOLO shes must have embraced the Doormat mentality. Feel lucky to have dogde a twat bullet like u. Infact most confident normal women dont have the brainspace for little boys.

    • Anne

      February 24, 2017 at 3:40 pm

      I will not be emotionally abused into buying the idea that men were made by God that way. I will fight you so much if you involve my mighty God in this matter who made Joseph, Enoch, Elijah, Elisha, Apostle Paul, Kenneth Hagin, Dennis Rouse, Andrew Wommack, Billy Graham and many others I could mention but for time. God said. Flee immorality. Don’t sin against your body for it is the temple. If you have no control. Go and ask God for help. I have mentioned men like you that God made, therefore your opinion has no stand.

    • Ade

      February 24, 2017 at 5:27 pm

      While pin pointing examples selectively, don’t forget to mention Abraham (the father of faith), David (a man after God’s heart), Solomon (the great king that commanded God’s attention), (and others with multiple women in the bible. Half of your biblical examples were unmarried.

      Now to the question if God designed men to cheat? No, God did not design a man to cause pain to the woman he chose as wife. However, the disease of sin manifests with symptoms like lust and cheating. Hence, most men that have not completely crucified the flesh and sold out to Jesus will forever be caught in this sin. The few examples of the married Godly men you have are totally sold out which is why they have the spiritual diligence not to cheat on their women. A good question should be how many women today deserve the kind of Godly examples you mentioned? God also reserves those scarce Godly men for women that understands the virtue they carry. Secondly, how many women will even recognize these men because most of them don’t appear in ways that attracts most women. God reserves his best men mostly for his best women.

    • Becca

      February 24, 2017 at 5:58 pm

      @Anne
      God also blessed his chosen with WIVES and PLAYTHINGS! . Solomon with 300 wives and 700 concubines!!!
      His beloved David had his own harem of playthings and God was only displeased when he shagged another man’s wife and then tried to cover it up. Polygamy was the norm and God’s men even slept with their slaves.
      Monogamy was never part of Christian dogma until the Romans outlawed polygamy and forced Christians into it (after much reluctance on their part). Even the early popes were polygamous. Just saying

    • Chieftess

      February 24, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      “Cheating should not be a big deal.Women should understand … God made us and it’s normal as far you as a woman is taken good care of by your man”.
      Biko Chief, please reference the scripture where the Almighty stated that men are incapable of being monogamous. As far as I know (I could be wrong) but God made one man-Adam and one woman-Eve. God doesn’t make mistakes, so tell me chief, did He forget to make the side chic? Please let your brain move faster than your fingers when you type on public forums.
      PS: what is your criteria for “good care”? Please reply soon

    • I_I

      February 25, 2017 at 7:03 am

      Spoiler alert. If you read your Genesis carefully, you would realize God created two women – one at inception with Adam, and later Eve. Thank me later.

      Genesis 1:27 – So God created mankind in his own image,
      in the image of God he created them;
      male and female he created them.

    • Emmanuel

      February 24, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      Dude I strongly strongly disagree with you, it’s not and never in men’s nature to cheat. Marriage is about commitment to each other both genders have the tendency to cheat on their spouses and those who don’t only do so because they want to remain faithful to their spouses, if women go around believing that all men cheat what’s then the essence of the marital vows, how do you trust a man when you already have a baked in belief that he’s going to be unfaithful to you.

    • CurvesAndEdges

      February 25, 2017 at 1:18 am

      Can I marry you?

    • peg

      February 24, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      “No man hits a woman first without being provoked because many men are raised to believe that a man does not raise a hand to a woman,no matter what,” I am laughing at this part and I wish that was the reality of things. If I may ask, which part of the society are you from/you are referring to?

    • peg

      February 24, 2017 at 4:40 pm

      opps sorry, I commented too early. I have just finished reading your article and you can clap for your. As we say “people are entitled to their own opinion” and my opinion is that you are full of nonsense. Igwe (chief) of ebuzor senseless.

    • Cee

      February 24, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      Hmmm, so based on your logic when a woman marries she should expect to to be infected by STD’s and STI’s for the rest of her married life. As well as be prepared to be brutalised physically mentally and emotionally. Are you a man at all? are you sure you are not some type of animal with writing skills. I seriously blame your upbringing for your views, because you were exposed to such growing up does not make it right. You have been completely brain washed and in need of serious reprogramming on how to be a human being before you can be released into society. It is written man love your wife as God loves the church. May God deliver women from you and your kind. If indeed you are a chief may your title be taken away as you are not fit to lead or guide a maggot

    • treasure

      February 24, 2017 at 7:12 pm

      You must really feel good about yourself right now don’t you. You are one of those guys that have ” I am a man sickness”
      How will you feel if your wife is cheating on you? So just because you have something in between your legs that controls your brains does that make you a man?
      You think your great grand mothers where happy or fulfilled in their marriages. Society held them captive and put them in bondage with sesnsless cultural restrictions. I sincerely feel sorry for whoever is going to commit to you because you are going to break her down so badly she will loose her self esteem.

    • Hawt Talk With Tosan

      February 24, 2017 at 7:13 pm

      Hey Thief…I mean Chief, it is not in Men’s nature to cheat…it is in Human nature. Some men control themselves just as some women do. For you to think monogamy is for women and not for men is laughable. You think a woman enjoy having one man for the rest of their live? Who ideally wants to have a flaccid penis jamming into them(because eventually this will happen to you men with age)? No me! We stick with it because of love and decide not to cheat because of integrity and/or religion

    • Hawt Talk With Tosan

      February 24, 2017 at 10:02 pm

      *You think women enjoy having one man for the rest of their lives?

    • X_X

      February 25, 2017 at 8:02 am

      U are a nonentity…..men are biologically wired to cheat, see your mouth ewo namah

    • kristy

      February 26, 2017 at 8:36 pm

      @Chief na wa for you o so what you are saying is that cheating is genetic in men and men run the world for peace sake if you have sons. grandsons, nephews………. bring them up well to respect women and treat every woman the way they want their mothers, sisters and daughters to be treated. Hm

  35. wendy

    February 24, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    I just love how people became motivational speaker or spiritual when wahala burst…

    All these Famzzzy that people do for social media sake…. I always tell people live your life..

    Tonto biko.. plz just take a back seat.

  36. ti'oluwanimi

    February 24, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    Stupid people offering advise they know nothing of. I can’t understand why individuals must comment stupid, irrelevant, ignoramus-filled, unrealistic, tradition-obsessed, culture-driven and illogical comment just to be on social media.
    How daft can this be?
    Tonto, do what makes you happy. If you must advise us, please do so. Those who will read and take the advise will do so without needing to comment.
    Commenters oshi, tonto ati toke ti take over. Gbogbo oloshi, e ja si konga

  37. That C.gal

    February 24, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    @chief, all men don’t cheat

  38. Rose

    February 24, 2017 at 3:31 pm

    Were are her family? She needs to put down her phone and step away from social media.

  39. bokun

    February 24, 2017 at 3:33 pm

    Well this is a big fat lesson for people who are fond of comparing their reality to the fake ass fantasy posted by others on social media. All that glitters is not gold. Be content with your REALITY. Tonto get off social media na beg i dey beg.

  40. scarlet

    February 24, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    Oga Chief, please park well! Can you imagine the boldness! ‘it is in your nature to cheat, you can’t be happy having sex with one woman all your life’ bla bla bla. I feel so sorry for the woman that calls you or will call husband and I also hope and pray you are a married man with a serial cheat of a wife who sleeps with every male specie with a dangling item in between its legs, Then you come back and tell us this your sob story of happiness and cheating and how your partner is suppose to suck it up and deal with it. bullcrap!!!!!!!!!!

    • Chief

      February 24, 2017 at 6:08 pm

      You are entitled to your own opinion but not your own fact.Why would my woman cheat on me?.It’s not socially acceptable from where i come from.Infidelity is seen as the highest form of disrespect by most men.Yes,I cheat because I was raised to believe that the man is the absolute power and authority in the household.The man is in position of power in marriage/relationship and when his woman cheat on him,it’s seen as a betrayal and women don’t have high sex drive as men(sexual urges).

      Women who cheat on their spouses have no sense of guilt.Cheating makes a woman seem immoral and a scarlet woman.Women are expected by society and the moral code to be faithful..Men don’t cheat emotionally,we hit and quit unlike women.I don’t know why women get bucked” when someone tell them ugly truth.Y’all are hypocrites.Show me a man that has never cheated on his woman???? Should a woman tolerate her man’s infidelity? yes,I think women should tolerate infidelity..If she feels it is the right thing to do.If she feels she can trust him again and weighs all the pros and cons of continuing a marriage.Anyway with time most men do change.I’m tired of explaining men’s nature to women..

      I have been saying this, increased divorce rate is a consequence of women economic autonomy.When they are financially dependent on us,it’s really hard for them to leave.They have to put a lot when the alternative is being homeless and ostracized but for a woman with high paying job and skill she has more options when dealing with bad marriage/relationship..Us Men should NOT allow women accumulate more economic power than us in marriage/relationship..

    • Hawt Talk With Tosan

      February 24, 2017 at 10:05 pm

      I would love to see your face when you find out that a great % of the women in your life are scarlet. Buhahahahahahaha

    • Have a heart

      February 26, 2017 at 2:06 am

      I wish all this for your daughters. You are a wicked humam being. Someone should hold you captive gann.

    • kristy

      February 26, 2017 at 8:41 pm

      Ok sir you cheat because of the orientation you had. Let me ask you this. Are you happy about it? And how do feel each time you do so? And is it something you want your male generation after you to inherit.

    • Chief

      February 24, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      You are entitled to your own opinion but not your own fact.Why would my woman cheat on me?.It’s not socially acceptable from where i come from.Infidelity is seen as the highest form of disrespect by most men.Yes,I cheat because I was raised to believe that the man is the absolute power and authority in the household.The man is in position of power in marriage/relationship and when his woman cheat on him,it’s seen as a betrayal and women don’t have high sex drive as men(sexual urges).

      Women who cheat on their spouses have no sense of guilt.Cheating makes a woman seem immoral and a scarlet woman.Women are expected by society and the moral code to be faithful..Men don’t cheat emotionally,we hit and quit unlike women.I don’t know why women get bucked” when someone tell them ugly truth.Y’all are hypocrites.Show me a man that has never cheated on his woman???? Should a woman tolerate her man’s infidelity? yes,I think women should tolerate infidelity..If she feels it is the right thing to do.If she feels she can trust him again and weighs all the pros and cons of continuing a marriage.Anyway with time most men do change.I’m tired of explaining men’s nature to women..
      I have been saying this, increased divorce rate is a consequence of women economic autonomy.When they are financially dependent on us,it’s really hard for them to leave.They have to put a lot when the alternative is being homeless and ostracized but for a woman with high paying job and skill she has more options when dealing with bad marriage/relationship.. Men should NOT allow women accumulate more economic power than us in marriage/relationship..

    • debs debs

      March 2, 2017 at 1:48 pm

      I haven’t read this much BS in a long while…. Chief Chief…. Your wives and concubines must be miserable. chai

  41. I am pained!!!

    February 24, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    Most of you all commenting are hypocrite. If a woman speaks up about her experience in an abusive relationship or marriage she becomes an attention seeker and if she apeaks up she is foolish and atupid. majority of you all talking trash about tonto are going through worst the only difference is it isnt in the public. if tonto decide to speak up let her be. Just cause hers was in the public eye doesn’t make her any less of a woman who is dealing with hers behind closed doors. All you hypocrite.
    Excuse if any typographical mistake.

  42. Weezy

    February 24, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    This is why I don’t listen to Nigerian women like Tonto and Toke when they’re talking about how great their marriage is. Nigerian women will lie and pretend because they want to be admired and envied by other women. If it’s a man saying his marriage is fantastic, it’s probably closer to the truth.

    The funny thing is the husband will be looking at the Instagram posting wife like, why u lying? And he will now add it to another reason why he doesn’t like his wife and mistreats her.

    Until the marriage kaputs. Everyone knows it was an act. So what does the attention loving woman do now that no one is admiring her marriage. She wants you to admire her divorce! Now she must set the record straight on how evil the husband was and how much she suffered. She becomes a symbol of (dumb) women empowerment. Buy her book!

    All of it is a hustle.

    • madman

      February 24, 2017 at 9:45 pm

      Now, I know two men on Instagram who every time they cheat on their wives, they post up some romantic post.

      People stay tapping into a “cheaters” blessing. Not all that glitters is gold. Don’t be fooled.

  43. esther

    February 24, 2017 at 3:59 pm

    When she was busy sleeping with married men during her single days, she never knew the law of KARMA was not just a Bollywood movie but for real.

    Let me come and be going sha.

    • olives

      February 24, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      no, stay! cheif justice of bellanaija

    • Caramel chic

      February 24, 2017 at 8:54 pm

      @Esther Don’t go o..
      Your knowledge has so much depth and power. You sound like a extremely intelligent woman. Don’t forget to pay your tithe on Sunday. I’m sure you will receive all of the blessings you ask. As you are such a innocent perfect woman.

    • Ayaoba

      February 25, 2017 at 12:38 am

      Can’t you people move away from that !Hian!He who has no sin should cast the stone first

  44. eagleeye

    February 24, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    The trend I see is the problem the whole nation ascribes to the great price of this thing called ‘marriage’.
    People will floss and fake to convince that they have carried 1st in this marriage thing. Dear women, and men, marriage is NOT the ultimate in life.
    Those that are married, are you happy? good for you! Are you sad? Good for you! Are you single? Good for you! Do you want to be married at some point? Good for you.
    There is LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE. It is just an event that human beings (and Nigerians particularly) have soo elevated that it defies logic. A woman (or man) is defined and accorded respect due to their marital status. This is bullshit and has to stop.
    But its Nigeria, so I can rant forever……we need to change our ways and the way we think sha.

  45. Ijs

    February 24, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    Tonto what will happen if you don’t need validation? You marry….on low key..marriage pack up still on low key. Develop emotional maturity!

  46. Oscar

    February 24, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    No, she does not have to stay away from social media. She needs to fight back for being painted the drug addicted violent wife. She chose to foolishly begin her romance on social media…hence she must also end it on social media.
    And as for you @chief I have no words

  47. Buttercup

    February 24, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    Chief of stupidity.

  48. Emmanuel

    February 24, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    This story perfectly feeds into the theory I’ve always had that no one gets married and suddenly discovered their spouse cheats on them or has one issue or the other, you usually see the signs you just simply ignored them maybe cos of the looks, cash and gifts while you lie to yourself saying he/she would change or you’d change change them. After some time reality dawns on you, the dude remains the same or maybe ups his game and the things that mattered to you that made you ignore the warning and nudging your heart was giving that the decision you made wasn’t right no longer matter and you want Out. All the same Tonto I wish you all the best.

  49. WordToWise

    February 24, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    All of your air heads and ignorant fools continously admiring Celeb Marriages, continue. Instead of finding some married couples inyour neighborhood or church who have married for 20, 30, 40 and 50 yrs to lookk up to and admire and gain wisdom from you are there like a stupid idiot admiring the likes of

    Tontoh and Churchill
    Lillian and Ubi
    Osas and Gbengro
    Chris and Dami
    Tiwa and TBills
    blah blah blah blah
    Yet you dont know the least of whats going on behind closed doors of these FAKESTARS

    Can you now see that worshiping and admiring folks you you only know through tv and social media is STUPID and FOOLISH?? Stop copying the west and always living vicariously through celebrity worshiping – and when that girl from South africa or Malawi critique you guys you were offended. She was telling the truth.

  50. Becca

    February 24, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    @Anne
    God also blessed his chosen With wives and playthings. Solomon with 300 wives and 700 concubines!!!
    His beloved David had his own harem of playthings and God was only displeased when he shagged another man’s wife and then tried to cover it up.
    Monogamy was never part of Christian dogma until the romans outlawed it and forced Christians into it. Even the early popes were polygamous. Just saying

  51. anon

    February 24, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    Na true.. So before na lie when u talk we suppose believe u now abi becsuse na true u de talk. Wellldone ma.before mr trump na you biko. Original alternative fact madam

    • Chief

      February 24, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      BN where is my comment?

  52. Carmen

    February 24, 2017 at 6:51 pm

    Tonto,i hope you were wise enough to save some money. Girl…i hope you saved!

  53. PD Young Billionaire

    February 24, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    Bhet why are some nigerian men loose???O sun mi o

  54. Chief

    February 24, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    @Scarlet….You are entitled to your own opinion but not your own fact.Why would my woman cheat on me?.It’s not socially acceptable from where i come from.Infidelity is seen as the highest form of disrespect by most men.Yes,I cheat because I was raised to believe that the man is the absolute power and authority in the household.The man is in position of power in marriage/relationship and when his woman cheat on him,it’s seen as a betrayal and women don’t have high sex drive as men(sexual urges).

    Women who cheat on their spouses have no sense of guilt.Cheating makes a woman seem immoral and a scarlet woman.Women are expected by society and the moral code to be faithful..Men don’t cheat emotionally,we hit and quit unlike women.I don’t know why women get bucked” when someone tell them ugly truth.Y’all are hypocrites.Show me a man that has never cheated on his woman???? Should a woman tolerate her man’s infidelity? yes,I think women should tolerate infidelity..If she feels it is the right thing to do.If she feels she can trust him again and weighs all the pros and cons of continuing a marriage.Anyway with time most men do change.I’m tired of explaining men’s nature to women..

    I have been saying this, increased divorce rate is a consequence of women economic autonomy.When they are financially dependent on us,it’s really hard for them to leave.They have to put a lot when the alternative is being homeless and ostracized but for a woman with high paying job and skill she has more options when dealing with bad marriage/relationship..Us Men should NOT allow women accumulate more economic power than us in marriage/relationship..

    • PD Young Billionaire

      February 25, 2017 at 3:14 am

      Trash……

    • Babyzico

      February 25, 2017 at 5:30 am

      Really????
      Chief???? of what???

    • humm

      February 25, 2017 at 6:25 am

      @chief….I read ur essay and I couldn’t just couldn’t care less…men like u are really capable of subjecting women into lifetime oppression and humiliation..you ought to be ashamed ofurself preaching and promoting cheating…mtchew

    • humm

      February 25, 2017 at 6:39 am

      Dear Tonto, I m praying silently for u..each time I hear of u bn identified with problems and criticisms , unconsciously,I feel wearY.I don’t know you but my whole heart is with you..regardless of the situation, dis time will soon be over and God will give you d courage to act wisely and he will bring peace to your life..be calm and know dat someone is praying for you

    • X_X

      February 25, 2017 at 9:32 am

      I’m sure this big fool is an igbo idiot….afo anu

  55. kiki

    February 24, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Marriage! Marriage!!! Marriage!!! Is a thing of the heart, it’s all about maturity of d mind, age aside, I always compare our parents of doz days n d computer parents of diz days, I see a lot of differences, wen one marries for love there would be tolerance, forgiveness, endurance, and other good qualities, Infact our parents doz days practiced all these qualities. They lived happily even wen d man of d house had nothing, not even a bicycle. What is killing us today is dat we keep ‘LOVE’ aside den we look @ d physical outlook, how many cars he has, who are his/her parents, where doz he/she works, what we stand to gain after getting married to him? And if finally we get married to dis person u’l surely see all doz things you earlier wished for but there is no LOVE in thre, and wen there is no LOVE thres no tolerance, no endurance, no forgiveness etc den nxt option will be to leave ur marriage. My message to all d ladies is dat let’s allow love 1st to play it role den other things will be jara. Divorce is never d solution bcos u can never meet a perfect man ever! Marry for love den u’l knw d meaning of happiness, tolerance, endurance n forgiveness. Tonto ask ur mum if ur dad has been faithful to her right from wen they got married den u’l hear from her, pls go back to ur husband ‘remember what u promised God on d alter’ ‘FOR BETTER n FOR WORST’ how old are u now in ur marriage see wat is happening. FORGIVE my dear, to err is human to forgive is devine!

  56. daniel

    February 25, 2017 at 12:18 am

    Proverbs 21:19 – It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman

    Proverbs 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones

    Proverbs 31:10-12 An excellent wife who can find one? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life

    Pray for tonto

  57. that uptown girl

    February 25, 2017 at 7:13 am

    Aren’t you the same idiot that was supporting rape?

  58. Axis

    February 25, 2017 at 8:12 am

    She lied to everyone just to cover up for him but all those gifts she showed us… My harmless question now is ‘How sure are we that she is telling the truth’?

    Just asking

  59. Ifeyinwa [email protected]

    February 25, 2017 at 10:47 am

    @Fred, not all broke people you cannot take advice from

    Read the bible, the poor man’s wisdom was used by others, but he was ignored to enjoy in the profits making

  60. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    February 25, 2017 at 10:50 am

    @Fred, not all broke people you cannot take advice from

    Read the bible, the poor man’s wisdom was used by others, but he was ignored to enjoy in the profits making

  61. Ifeyinwa Atuanya

    February 25, 2017 at 10:52 am

    @Chief, you have written your points

    And you still did not get many likes The likes were 5 2 2

    Maybe women don’t believe you I could be wrong

  62. Mee

    February 25, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    This is a lesson for all you women sleeping with married men and causing their wives sleepless nights, pls know that your turn is near, tonto is only paying for her sins 🙂

  63. Mee

    February 25, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    This is a lesson for all you women sleeping with married men and causing their wives sleepless nights, pls know that your turn is near, tonto is only paying for her sins 🙂 #bittertruth

  64. ummy

    February 25, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    Who made u chief judge over another? She prolly choose cos she loved..Let’s not always condemn ourselves. Rem she’s also a human being like u,someone’s daughter,a mother..let’s not judge pls

  65. SHARON TURKSON

    February 25, 2017 at 7:09 pm

    Lying for your Husband on social media doesn’t make sense. Anyway am glad you’ve seen the light, may God be with you and your Baby.

  66. Na Wa

    February 26, 2017 at 2:37 am

    If I had known, I would have married an oyinbo jeje. No disrespect, but being married to a Nigerian is a nightmare.

  67. chidi iheanyi

    February 26, 2017 at 7:49 am

    How do we know that she is not doing this just to dent the man’s image ,women are always very passionate when they hear beating and STDs ,we haven’t heard from the man and we are already crucifying him on words from a lying mouth ,a liar once can always lie again .let’s not jump into conclusions in such issues .

  68. Punchbag

    February 26, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    Look at d way u guys are waisting ur time replying to information that isn’t real. Tonto dikeh’s marriage is in perfect order. All these stories are media hype just to create a scene. As am writing this message, she is pregnant for a second child. Why are u pple replying to fake information. A close source gave us this hint about their mariage. Make una dey dere dey drink panadol for mata wey no get head. Aproco nigerians wey no get wok. I feel like giving all of u spiritual spank. E dey sweet una bcos she don give una gist plus water for mouth. Kongosa pple

  69. Zoya

    February 26, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    Tonto Dikeh should go and sit down and stop disturbing everybody on social media. Instead of reminiscing on her life, the good, the bad and ugly, thank God for the good He has done for her and seek atonement for the bad, ugly and despicable ones she did she’s has subtly engaged in media war to disparage her ex-husband. Is it her ex or estranged? The marriage has not been officially dissolved in a competent court of law. When Tonto was flaunting exotic cars, diamond ring etc on social media eulogizing her husband, no mention of several treatment of STDs was made, no mention of physical and verbal abuse, no philandering act of her ex was mentioned. She choose to bear, enjoyed it all. When the bubble bust? Who can really tell if her ex gave her STD as alleged or was it contacted from one those extra flings? I will advice her ex to go for a DNA test to ascertain the true paternity of the child.. Some people do know some “things”, let’s not spill the beans yet. I advise her to concentrate on her career that brought her to limelight and leave her past behind if indeed she’s done with the marriage.

    • Ngbabe

      February 27, 2017 at 3:06 am

      Which court of law on top introduction? She only did introduction and was making noise all over the place.

  70. Meme

    March 3, 2017 at 6:10 am

    Infidelity, every facet of abuse, adultry, complete disregard for marriage defines MOST Nigerian men. Sad beyond words! Remember, don’t make light of someone’s pain. What comes around goes around. You may have a mother, sister, daughter, niece. Every woman will do anything to keep her marriage until she no longer can. Some even die trying to keep the marriage. Show understanding, you may laugh and joke about her hurt today, you don’t know what you or someone close to you will hurt/cry for tomorrow.

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