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Let’s Talk about Sex! Watch Destiny Amaka, Mag Payne & Wofai Fada get Honest and Real on a New Episode of “Moments – Girls Talk”




In an all new episode of EbonyLife TV‘s Moments – Girls Talk, the show’s hosts Bolanle Olukanni & Michelle Dede along with 3 awesome guests: Media & on-air personality Destiny Amaka, Stylist & Fashion Designer; Mag Payne and TV host & media personality; Wofai Fada delve deep into the one topic Africans never really want to talk about – Sex!

With a full round table like this, the conversation was well dealt with as each person brought their individual yet honest understanding and interpretation of the different frequently asked but never answered topics regarding all things sex.




  1. Todds

    March 18, 2017 at 9:15 am

    Michelle & Bolanle,

    Why are you both single? I’ve known you two for about 3 years now & seems single all along.

    What kind of a guy rocks your boat? I did everything to get Bolanle’s attention but she replied with she’s not single. I’m not here to brag, but what are you guys looking for.

    Love is so hard to find. I’m a good gentleman, slightly over 6ft, dark & not bad looking & let me add good sense of humour. Earn nearly N2m a month isn’t too bad I suppose, so I’m blessed, yet I can hardly get a date I really like.

    I’m contemplating taking off 2 months from work to find this special girl wherever she is. I feel like am missing out from life experiences. In the last 9 years, only dated 2 people and didn’t have sex with either. For a 34 year old, my best experience of sex yet is almost none. Nothing to share. I don’t want to have sex with any casual person, yet I can’t find love.

    Hope it happens someday.

    • nene

      March 18, 2017 at 2:38 pm

      watched an interview with bolanle. i think she’s into bad guys unfortunately.

    • Oyiza

      March 18, 2017 at 4:55 pm

      Don’t give up, your very own will certainly meet up with you..
      by the way love is far from the physique and money.. Sex is one of those things you get to enjoy in marriage, don’t just take it as top priority in looking for a lady.
      Wish you the best man

    • Engoz

      March 18, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Lol, Finally a male perspective and not another trifling female boring us with her singlehood. Anyway, from watching these two discuss, Michelle and Bolanle including Toke want the perks of traditional patriarchal structures but also want the freedoms accorded to only men in such settings. They also want the perks feminism fights for. Another confused female is Sika Osei. She clearly dissed and twisted the premise of feminism with the agreement of 3 other unmarried women in a magazine. I had assumed this person was a traditionalist. The next thing was to see a Sika in a discussion decrying how the sexual rules are different between the sexes. That men can sleep with as many and women cannot. That our body counts should not matter. She even admitted she had cheated. Now based on traditional patriarchal rules, Sika is NOT marriage material based on more than one body count. In fact the female shouldn’t be having sex and she would be questioned for it. These women want to eat their cake and have it and Nigerian men are not having it.???

    • Sam B

      March 19, 2017 at 6:05 am

      Your madre/meme is a “trifling female”. =)))

    • Kukks

      March 18, 2017 at 9:59 pm

      Drop your email address!

    • Miss Shee

      March 19, 2017 at 1:38 am

      Wofai, sorry in my humble opinion u need Jesus in your life chai.
      Uncle Todds, holla at your girl, never a dull moment with me. I could be your better half if you are christian, don’t watch porn and a selfless guy.. I’m an academic lawyer for now almost rounding up my phd by God’s grace.

    • Sam B

      March 19, 2017 at 6:10 am

      You’re desperate ma’am. You need jesus more than Wofai. She’s good.

    • Babycakes

      March 19, 2017 at 1:44 am

      Drop your e-mail address mr todds, i should try you maybe.

    • folashade

      March 19, 2017 at 3:13 pm

      Hi todds, I share same sentiment. Send a mail to [email protected] or call me on 09073775862. Let’s see where this leads.

    • Sussy

      March 19, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Here is my contact Todd [email protected], lets chat…worse case scenario we get to be good friends and explore great places together…Cheers

    • Omalicha

      March 19, 2017 at 9:31 pm

      Sure it will!

    • annastacia

      March 20, 2017 at 11:28 am

      Hello Todd,I think maybe you have a type that don’t seem to favor you.sometimes we have requirements and stuff about how our partner is suppose to look like/be and cupid has something different in store for us.Love isn’t that hard to find if you are openminded. That said you don’t need to take time off work.I am single and would love to be a friend ,if you are reach out to me on [email protected]

  2. funny something

    March 18, 2017 at 11:16 am

    lol @ Bolanle skirting about the point. I actually watched it cos I was curious on her take, and she didn’t disappoint. I’m glad there are still “good girls” like her around. More grease,

  3. Elle

    March 18, 2017 at 2:17 pm

    Awww sorry Todds. It’s actually quite interesting getting a male perspective on being single. But I think you should realize that Love cannot be forced. Yes you may think you’ve got it all and can’t seem to understand why you haven’t met the special lady but trust me there’s much more a girl wants in a man than money and Tall dark and handsome. Depending on the kind of girl though. For example character, if a guy has those material qualities but has a chip on his shoulders or perhaps has anger management issues – those are deal-breakers and would send a girl like me running.

    Anyway don’t be too hard on yourself, who’s meant for you will show up and you are apparently doing well so keep enjoying your bachelorhood until she comes along. Also sex shouldn’t be your primary goal for getting a woman, she has a whole lot more than her body to offer.

    Meanwhile, mind if I asked you What do you want in a woman? Perhaps you have been looking for the wrong things… 🙂

    • Todds

      March 18, 2017 at 6:44 pm

      A woman who loves God and motivated by His Words. Intelligent woman is my favourite. A woman who’s got positive outlook about life & pretty too. Not so much to ask for, I guess.

      Haven’t dated for 3 years and sex needs aren’t the drive now. Just the need to meet someone special and share love life experiences. And trust me, most people would describe me as easy going & fun, character flaws aren’t obstacle.

      Just haven’t got pass second dates. I meet loads who are keen. The only lady i’ve met lately who ticks the boxes for me was manipulative sadly, so we couldn’t get pass second date.

    • Oyinlola

      March 18, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      No, not so much to ask for. Everyone should have a love list and look forward to finding those qualities in the person they wanna be with.

      Where do you stay? Would you like a long distance relationship? What are your deal breakers? Who knows, maybe a single,God-loving intelligent girl will ask for your details…

    • Elle

      March 18, 2017 at 8:20 pm

      Okay that’s fair enough. Doesn’t sound like too much to ask for. I guess all I can say is just keep looking for what you want and I’m sure you’ll attract her someday. I actually admire your courage to share your experience here. As a single person myself I understand how lonely it can feel atimes and you just really wanna find that special someone you can connect with and share your life and love with but you just have to hang in there. I tell myself it will happen and I won’t settle. I’m sure it will for you too. In the meantime cheer up, live your life, make more friends and connections. The good intelligent pretty girls are still out in point moi. LOL. Can’t wait to hear your love story someday. E-hugs 🙂

    • xx

      March 19, 2017 at 12:06 am

      I would have really liked to meet you but I kinda wish you didn’t put the money thing. I know how hard it is to find ‘someone’. Sadly I am still looking. I pray that God help you, God’s grace and favour dear.

    • Oyiza

      March 19, 2017 at 1:56 am

      I pray you find that one person that will give love a perfect definition for you..
      Make sure you share your story when you do??

    • Sam B

      March 19, 2017 at 6:07 am

      See how Naija women are jumping in to save a man from his loneliness. LOL.
      Don’t focus on your own lives.

      Todd, I wish you the best.

  4. MadamYe...

    March 18, 2017 at 3:25 pm

    Mr Todds.., what’s up???

    What are you looking for in a woman Mr Todds?

  5. Frank teacher

    March 18, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    I’m sure there’s no clause when the Bible says ; do unto others as you would have them do unto you”,
    Bolinto stop raising ur eyebrows, Michelle, don’t pause , no blasphemy here

  6. Disguised

    March 18, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Hahaha kudos the the lady that admitted she has a vibrator. That’s my go to when I’m not dating jor. Very loyal, no excuses, no std fears etc lol

    In fact I got a new one now and it’s just wow. Pink and has 3 heads

    • MadamYe...

      March 18, 2017 at 6:29 pm

      Gurlll 3 heads…?! I am not understanding. How does that work?

      Please say they are interchangeable…

    • Disguised

      March 18, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      Think about it….. a lady has 3 ………..

    • Sam B

      March 19, 2017 at 6:08 am

      I don’t know how to use mine. It makes me feel like I need to use the bathroom

  7. john

    March 18, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    @ oga todd .. the last thing you should do is seek advice from BN women or even any Nigerian blogging site..pls for ur sanity , all they would want is turn u into the version of beta man they all read from their feminist text book…one is already blaming you for probably having anger issues and it is your fault .

    • baby4u

      March 18, 2017 at 11:55 pm

      guy what are you always saying ?.. you never have anything positive to say.. so why do you bother visiting this site ? to be noticed ?..ok you’ve been noticed :).. but its so sad that you have to act like an ass to get little attention as no one gives it you off media ? such a sad sad being.

  8. john

    March 18, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    or maybe u can try Nairaland


    March 19, 2017 at 5:53 am

    Miss Shee – I really don’t think that we should conclude that Wofai needs Jesus in her life for telling the truth. We all need Jesus or don’t need Jesus based on our spiritual relationship with God or whatever we accord our sense of eternity to. Chai…
    Especially since you hail ‘Uncle Todds’ right after the Wofai commentary.
    Frank teacher- truer words weren’t said on this piece. “There’s no clause when the Bible says ; ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you'”. The essence of what our outlook ought to be is clearly expressed in those lines.
    On Bolito -I really don’t think that we should tell her to stop raising her eyebrows- non verbal cues are the true words that tell the diverse or in some cases, the inherently contradictory narrative in a very ‘religious’ country like ours,
    On Michelle- please don’t pause or pause if you want to, the choice of reaction is hers to make. Truly though, no blasphemy on here cause it’s an individual life!!! #runsaway

    • Abi

      March 19, 2017 at 11:53 pm

      @adamu, get a sense of humour.

  10. BN advice

    March 19, 2017 at 9:01 am

    Dear BN,
    you guys should write to ‘Ashley Akunna’ from the grapevine tv on YouTube to display some of their content. They have very interesting table talk topics with a panel of Nigerian Americans and often times carribean and black/African Americans which I believe your readers will find interesting.

  11. Charming

    March 19, 2017 at 9:06 pm

    Todds u still never find woman? All the babes that hv bin dropping dre contact everytime you drop this ur resume on BN at every opportunity you get, u still no see one?
    The fact that u always find a way and the need to say how much you earn sef makes me wonder.

    • fortune

      March 19, 2017 at 10:12 pm

      So true, was wondering, cos I hv seen his post before.

    • Abi

      March 19, 2017 at 11:54 pm

      Oh oh oh, so na regular sometin? Scheeew.

    • Todds

      March 20, 2017 at 8:37 pm

      Hello @Charming. I’m sorry but it’s not a resume. I actually regret I added salary info on both occasions that I’ve shared these views as I think the intension is mis-judged. It’s mainly to air opinion from male perspective that regardless of how successful one is, finding love remains a struggle for both genders, not women alone. I’m not here to contact no one, never did & won’t start now. Sorry but I hope you understand.

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