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BNer Submitted Video highlights disturbing Domestic Violence trend

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  1. Daybreak

    May 18, 2017 at 10:57 pm

    And you sat there, did nothing but to video and come show it to the world? A family friend you say? What has our world turned to?

    • Nelo

      May 19, 2017 at 8:14 am

      And the problem with this generation is the quest to have everything on video. someone is getting pumelled to death and instead of going to her rescue or calling for help you are making a video. Shame shame shame!

      The difference though, is that victims of domestic violence are encouraged to speak out and can actually get help today. The Lagos state government is doing a great job in this regard, i don’t know about other states and the support offered to victims of DV. A lot of work still needs to be done. In the past, if you reported such cases to the police, you would be asked to go settle it at home as ‘it is a family issue’.

  2. ThankGodIamNotNigerian

    May 18, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    Nigerian the one African nation with 99 demonic spirits yet have audacity to think they are the best in Africa and look down on other African nations

    You have so many issues

    • #Proudnigerian

      May 19, 2017 at 12:00 am

      Your level of stupidity is amazing. The subsequent arson of women in south Africa is also carried out by a Nigerian. You fail to see that evil is not bias . it’s the heart of a man not the country he originates from that makes him wicked. Tueh!! You my dear is the person that is possessed p.’s we have a lot of prophets that can handle your condition. Tueh again!

    • survivor

      May 19, 2017 at 12:15 am

      u even hear some clowns calling another mans’ countries “ordinary Botswana, ordinary South Africa,ordinary Ghana as if Nigeria is better than them..

    • Mama

      May 19, 2017 at 1:12 am

      So in your head, domestic violence is perculiar to Nigeria? Silly way of thinking. At least, we are exposing and talking about it rather than sweep it under the carpet and pretend all is well. So after watching the video that’s all you can come up with? We are also glad you’re not Nigerian: we are a special people and with the kind of jealousy and bitterness you’re emitting we don’t need you!

    • Seriously

      May 19, 2017 at 2:42 am

      The whole Africa is fu*ked up, whether you are nigerian or not, your country is not any better probably even worse. This is a Nigerian blog, so it’s more highlighted.
      The person recording, not doing anything to help deserves a beat down.

      Nigerians, this is a wake up call. Your dirty laundry is out in the open now. All those pretense, have 10 degrees, walk around like your shit don’t stink. Now is the time to reevaluate.

  3. dupsy

    May 18, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Even though it is very disturbing to watch but this is the real situation in the average Nigerian home today. It has always been like this in my own opinion the only difference is that we have social media now and the internet as well as international exposure has enlightened a lot of Nigerians and we now question many societal norms that have existed before which are barbaric. Some men would come and say that the woman must have provoked the men to have received the beating she got. Well I am no judge of character but from what I saw that woman could have died and what reason could have justified that kind of beating from a man called her husband?
    Another disturbing thing is the ease and calmness that was used to record the beating! It seems like this was a usual occurrence for the video man to have just sat down to record the beating as if he was watching television!
    I really hope more voices will be raised about this domestic violence in Nigeria that is destroying families and individuals, this is really barbaric!

    • nene

      May 18, 2017 at 11:49 pm

      not my home.

    • funmilola

      May 19, 2017 at 11:21 am

      You are so wrong!
      What do you mean by”this is the real situation in the average Nigerian home”…..I don’t what is it making annoying generalizations. Do you know the meaning of “average”?

    • bey

      May 19, 2017 at 12:07 pm

      Thank you.
      This probably happens quite frequently in that home. Perhaps the person videoing has intervened and he is tired because the woman keeps going back.
      After this attack she may have even gone to apologise to him. For what she “did wrong” to warrant the beating.
      My colleague once told me he went to an older colleague house after they both went out together.
      When they got home cos he was staying over. The woman started asking the man where he went he didn’t pick her calls.
      Next he heard was woooza. He gave her resounding slap. He had to hold him.
      He went to talk to the man that what he did was wrong.
      To his greatest surprise that woman came to the to the room and brought them food.
      Like nothing had happened.
      He was stunned.

  4. o

    May 18, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Not a word pleading on her behalf​??? You didn’t even try to stop him??? This SM world we are now in sef

  5. Alex

    May 18, 2017 at 11:14 pm

    Awon aburo Chief, John, Paul ati Lemmerant.

  6. Azu

    May 18, 2017 at 11:44 pm

    Social media is bringing to light what some of us know has been happening for years. Some of us watched our Mum, Aunt and grandmother get pummeled day in day out. I remember vividly my grandfather pummeling my grandmother. It took my grandmother ending up in the ICU fighting for her life before she finally separated from him. My grandmother was the one that solely paid my Mum and her siblings school fees. The furniture company and real estate company everyone thought my grandfather owned was actually owned by my grandmother. She had to make it look like it was all his to massage his poor ego. Unfortunately that didn’t stop the pummeling or infecting her with one std or the other. Yep. This is the society we live in.

  7. Fola

    May 18, 2017 at 11:52 pm

    And somebody’s child stood there recording this video.
    In my opinion the person recording is equally as guilty as the man assaulting his wife. Funny how this reminds me of those Instagram cartoons that depict a world where people would rather whip out their mobile phones to record someone in need of help rather than reach out to help!.
    As for the beater……*sigh* let me not swear today.

    thegraceadventures.com

  8. Amanda

    May 19, 2017 at 12:04 am

    Where are the Women should learn how to control their men’s anger flag bearers. This post is invisible to them. Chief and Lemmerant where you at.

    • Don

      May 19, 2017 at 1:42 am

      Abeg this is staged.

      Na so person they siddon record real demestic voilence be that? See how she just gallant for chair.

      Its just unfortunate, BN is feeding you bobo and you’re swallowing it anyhow.

    • A Real Nigerian

      May 19, 2017 at 2:04 am

      They are busy beating their wives and girlfriends.

  9. survivor

    May 19, 2017 at 12:11 am

    I got serious injury this morning ebe n’ne gbo ogwu di na nwunye..
    y beat a woman?but wen a soldier man with no gun tells u to roll inside muddy water,u politely do that without protesting,y don’t u beat a policeman or a soldier man that insult u but your wife..isn’t this madness,,?for me stopping this sh#ts can’t happen,it can only be reduced..cos this has been happening since time immemorial

    • Chief

      May 19, 2017 at 9:50 am

      They are busy verbally,mentally,economically and emotionally abusing their husbands.Who on earth will believe this video? You want me to believe this few secs video?Please let’s not rely on stereotypes.In my opinion this is an obvious example of the media clearly skewing the news to try and fix their ideology.Anyway i don’t condone violence but there are questions that need to be answered in this video.What transpired before the” beating”? who initiated the fight first?BN stop this demonization of male gender..Women are not children,they are adults and should be treated in the same way as men are in every way.Adults understand that for actions there are consequences,if they strike or provoke another they should be struck back.Just because she is a female does not give her the right to verbally abused or hit you.Are you saying if she punches him in the mouth and makes him bleed,is he not going to retaliate?End of the story.

      Any female who steps up to a man be aware that there will be consequences You can’t provoke a man even verbally or physically and then heir on the side of being safe because you are a woman but i’m not saying let a bunch of abusive men beat women because of no good reason but i believe men should have the power to hit a woman back in self defense.Since many women ask for gender equality,it is nothing but fair to hit back.It’s a huge shame that Society has brainwashed people into thinking that women are these wonderful benevolent creatures who can do no harm.I believe as a society we need to start discussing the fundamental causes of domestic violence.

  10. Tee

    May 19, 2017 at 5:40 am

    I was really mad at the guy recording but then again, if this is the norm in that household then he’s truly an angel. The victim has proofs to show to family members that have been saying trash like ‘ni suru’, and did you provoke him. What the recorder did was wrong but trust me, if we know him in person, I’m sure he would confirm that he’s been beaten before trying to separate them. This is wrong on all levels. Oya mummy and daddy saying you have to persevere, what’s your take on this?

  11. john

    May 19, 2017 at 7:26 am

    @survivours ure analogy about soldiers and police are nonsense..That means only soldiers and police are now allowed to beat their wife and people.. infact it is even more rampant..the only problem I have with how DV or even any violence is treated in Nigeria , is that it is one sided with a mixture of msyandry…
    .Until violence is treated equally including women beating house helps and step children ( which is even more rampant) and teachers beating students..then we are just deceiving ourselves

    • jess

      May 19, 2017 at 7:40 am

      you have comprehension issues.

    • The Bull

      May 19, 2017 at 7:55 am

      Stop deliberately changing the topic, yes it happens both ways but often women are the victims of most DV, so we will see more cases like this. The women that assault maids and kids don’t they get arrested and widely condemned? wth has that got to do with this?

    • Oye

      May 19, 2017 at 7:59 am

      Idiot!

      So because there are several societal ills, we should ignore the ill that’s being emphasized now?

      You’re just like the whites that say #AllLivesMatter when the #BlackLivesMatter movement gained ground.

      “Oh hi John, there’s a breast cancer awareness programme happening…”
      “Sulk sulk…I’m not interested jor. What about lung cancer and bone cancer? Until we treat them equally, then we are just deceiving ourselves”

      Idiot!

  12. Hey

    May 19, 2017 at 7:59 am

    This is sad but let’s stop and think for a moment every time a case of DV is reported on blogs you read comments like “the woman must have pushed him to beat her” or “women have bad/sharp mouth” have we ever thought for a moment that something must have happened to make her talk, nag or sharpen her mouth? I don’t think any SANE woman will just open mouth and start talking if there wasn’t an issue to begin with. Just as men want to push the blame to the women for provoking them, men also need to take responsibility for starting whatever must have been the problem in the first place. But one thing I always say is if you are insulted do one of two things insult the living daylight out of the person or walk away. Disagreements are bound to occur but if you truly claim to love and care for someone both of you would find a way to handle it without using your fists. Women abeg don’t go beating then expect not to be beaten akam adiro na ya ???and Men abeg keep your hands to yourself and take it easy because nobody will remember what she said or did when you will be sharing space in kirikiri. All those your friends and even blog users that were hailing you as a macho man won’t be there to share that space with you they will desert and deny you sharp sharp. Then you begin to wish and hoped you had done things differently in fact let it apply to both men and women. ✌✌

    • Nelo

      May 19, 2017 at 8:19 am

      Don’t mind them. very pathetic way of thinking. Self-control is a gift anyone should desire. You can disagree with your partner without it coming to blows. Sometimes couples even argue for the hell of it sef, does it mean one should become a punching bag?

    • Rotone

      May 20, 2017 at 8:57 am

      Behind every nagging woman is a man not doing what he is supposed to do. #walksaway

  13. The Bull

    May 19, 2017 at 7:59 am

    i am still waiting for the day any bastard man will beat any of my sisters, husband or not, we go die on the line that day.

  14. Yahoo

    May 19, 2017 at 8:50 am

    Awful!, very awful!. What i find disgusting is, how some women continue with such relationship or marriage?. No psychological shift?. A man that can beat his wife unopposed like this, should have his time in a maximum prison as well. Fortunately, wife abusers and child molesters are the least of the inmate hierarchy, so they fall into abuse as well while serving their punishment. The only problem is our laws are as watery as the beans fed to prisoners.

  15. Maxie

    May 19, 2017 at 9:59 am

    Please can we stop blaming the person that shot the video. I guess this sis his/her own way of helping the lady. if you stayed with my Aunt you will understand. when the husband starts if you want to stop him from beating the wife, he will beat you mercilessly too. i guess the man doesn’t like anyone to interfere so this is the persons way of helping. with the way the video was shot you can see the person didn’t want the husband to know sef. we need to applaud her for the courageous step. the only one am balaming is the stupid Man!!

    • bey

      May 19, 2017 at 12:24 pm

      Exactly….he may have tried separating them several times.
      He may have even advised the woman to leave. But she didnt and he is now gathering evidence to show her ppl so they can do something before their child dies.
      The day I heard the screams of a neighour being beaten at night. I couldn’t sleep…………… that shit still haunts me, her animalistic noise coming out at 2am. “He wants to kill me ”
      My husband and neighbours had to go take her out of there.
      But guess what not long after she was discussing wanting to do IVF to have a child. I just shook my head.
      Iv moved from there but heard they are still married.

  16. David

    May 19, 2017 at 10:01 am

    This will haunt me for the rest of today. My heart is bleeding. This man is a downright monster! Nothing justifies such act. Not even man to man. Or woman to woman. Where is our humanity? How can you keep hitting someone you’ve physically overpowered? Are you a damn chimpanzee!? What pleasure does it give you? I’ll never understand domestic violence.

    Neither do I understand wrestling, boxing nor its kind. Well, i understand it, but I don’t get it. It’s downright violent! I mean if what I watched that little yuck of a man practised on his wife isn’t wrestling, then I must be mad and making up sh*t.

    What a baboon! Repeating “sorry for what” like a f*cking incoherent fiend while kicking your wife. I think he even barked “friend” while walking away. I suppose he’s one of those insecure little men who “bound” their wives from having friends.

    Its not your fault Peter Ezeh, I blame Nigeria. I blame Nigerians. I blame me. We have yet done enough to end the hopeless existence of your kind. But, you, Peter Ezeh, are a twat and you need to get help!

  17. Josephine

    May 19, 2017 at 10:38 am

    I shouldn’t have watched this video. I feel sick.

  18. Funmi

    May 19, 2017 at 10:49 am

    We need to teach and show love to our children right from babies and not spank or punish our children for every mistakes.

  19. June

    May 19, 2017 at 12:04 pm

    as disturbing as this video is, it’s will hopefully service s evidence so the man will be punished.

  20. HMm

    May 19, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    Sorry I can’t watch it. Can’t stand extreme violence. It makes me sad God knows. It is well sha with all those women that choose to lose their lives because of a mentally deranged person.

  21. Tee

    May 19, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    The idiots saying we should look at what happened before the beating are most likely wife beaters too. Take the case of Chris brown and Rihanna it was alleged Rihanna pushed Chris to beat her with the usual “bad mouth” excuse however it was also alleged Chris was cheating on Rihanna with his P.A . Now was Rihanna expected to keep silent and not react after the side chick sent a text to her boyfriend, let us ask these baboon men what they would do if the tables were turned. Relationships are not by force you can always walk before things degenerate to this level.I once experienced my Dad beat my mum when i was about 5, and till this day it has stayed with me. Yes my mom questioned my Dad about his attitude e.i keeping late nights and cheating which i believe she had every right to.

  22. Ann1

    June 9, 2017 at 1:17 pm

    How do women just lay there helplessly and take the beating?

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