There are character flaws!
Over the years, there is barely any friend of mine that didn’t complain about a particular aspect of me. Oh, they all agreed that I was beautiful, intelligent, mind blowimg and unique. But the one thing they all told me at the end of these exotic words was “Ayo, you are too locked up inside yourself.”
Of course, my response to them always was “This is me. This is who I am. Take me for me.” It always got me angry that they would call me secretive and close-lipped in spite of my many other wonderful traits.
I’m wiser now anyway, and I understand better what they meant. I know now that what I called “this is how I am” was actually a character flaw.
I realised how painful it can be when you share all with a person, expecting that person to reciprocate, but the person does not, making the excuse “I don’t know how to… It is just not me.”
You see, character flaws can be worked on. You are allowed to work on yourself, to improve yourself.
No one was born with a rude,loud mouth. No one was born with a careless attitude. Neither was anyone born with a cold heart.
All these are what we pick up as we grow, because of one reason or the other. Which is why, it can go. Yes, you can get rid of those character flaws.
No matter how loving that friend or lover is, one day they will get fed up of your saucy attitude, arrogance, loudmouthedness, stinginess, rudeness and the likes.
You can work on your overly loud voice; you can work on your distrust of others; you can work on anything…if you put your mind to it.
As humans, change is inevitable. No one wants you to pretend, or become an hypocrite. Neither will anyone tell you to sacrifice your happiness at the altar of another’s. All they will want from you is just a sincere little effort at trying to change.
To find out if you really have a character flaw, all you need to do is put yourself in the shoes of your loved ones, and see if you would like to be friends with yourself.
Character flaws shouldn’t be passed off as “This is how I am. ”
Work on yourself. You can be better. You can grow!
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