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The friend in question hasn’t been a friend for a long time, but I have been warned seriously to stay away from her spiritually. Although I don’t believe these spiritual people, I have been warned by three different men of God. I have avoided her but and don’t have a good reason to tell her. I just kept my distance, and she noticed. She has challenged me that I haven’t been in touch because I always keep in touch with all my friends. I don’t let her check my WhatsApp status anymore, but she also my friend of Facebook and also on my BBM contact.
An issue happened to me; she introduced a guy to me, she said that he liked my picture and he wants my phone number, that he is single. She told me and I said it’s fine. After three months, I found out that the guy was about proposing to another girl from their chat. My so-called friend was the one that sent an engagement ring picture from her phone to this guy.
I checked her phone out of curiosity because she didn’t ask about the guy she introduced to me and I was even ready to give her gist, but she didn’t say anything about the guy to me I was disappointed because I didn’t expect that, but I didn’t say anything to her. I just told her that I and the guy she introduced are just friends. The guy asked me out but since I saw the engagement ring picture I didn’t pay any attention to him anymore. We just say hi and hello. Whenever he start his whining about wanting to date me, I remind him that he has a bride already but he would always deny it but later I saw the guy physically and he told me that he was getting married. I was fine with that since he said it out himself and then he asked me if we could always hang out and I said no. So we chat once in a while, just to say hi.
Now back to my friend we also say hi, but now that I was told to avoid her. Even this issue about the guy was said by that man of God, and I haven’t even said anything that happened. I guess he saw the vision and even mentioned her name that I should steer clear of her. This was the third man of God to tell me that, and this was my mum’s pastor. So I had to explain everything to her, and my mum said I should avoid her. So now I really need to avoid this lady without hurting her. I haven’t post on Facebook and IG in a long time and also my WhatsApp too and I honestly don’t know how to avoid her without hurting her feeling. Please I need advice on how to handle this issue, because it’s better to heed to warning than to be sorry.
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