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Aunty Bella: Mrs. He Doesn’t Love Me

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Aunty Bella is our  agony aunt column on BellaNaija. We launched this column in the early days of BN and periodically feature issues sent in by BN readers. 
We hope the BN family can offer insightful advice.

This story was submitted in the comments section of an Aunty Bella post which we published yesterday. {Click here if you missed it}

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Aunt Bella, I don’t know how else to send this to you but please help by posting this.
I am 27 and I got married 2 years ago to a guy I thought loved me.  At least I thought so….

Few months after our marriage, he cheated on me and apologised; but that’s about the only time he has apologised.
So I lost my trust and told him I just wanted him to reassure me so that I can trust him again but he never did. So we have our issues once in a while like other married couples and each time he tells me if am not happy, I should go… that I am still too young.

So recently we saw a counselor and he opened up that he never loved me and right now he resents me in his heart. He just thought the love was going to grow in his heart and it never did and that marrying me was a mistake. He said it to my face and seeing me gives me headache.

He even wants separation as a matter of urgency. We have a baby together and another on the way.
I really don’t know what to do but am not even willing to try again with someone that has resentment in his heart towards me.

Help me people ….I don’t know what to do.

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