How Dare You Tell Me How to Grieve? Adebola Williams speaks up for #BBOG Families

BBOG 2016
This past week, President Buhari met with families of young girls kidnapped from Chibok and #BringBackOurGirls activists. Over the last few days, there have been various tweets accusing the families of “overreacting”, “being dramatic” and telling them to “calm down”.
Adebola Williams, Co-Founder of Red Media has spoken up and passionately responded to these comments.

22 Comments on How Dare You Tell Me How to Grieve? Adebola Williams speaks up for #BBOG Families
  • GY January 16, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    Am happy that Nigeria still have this kind of youth in our society, despite the fact that your company handle the PMB media campaign in last election and also you volunteer to work as media team for this administration, but one thing admirer from you is that you did not lost your soul in the sake of money and politics.

    • ATL’s finest January 16, 2016 at 9:36 pm

      @ GY so because he wrote this piece, he didn’t lost his soul to money & politics abi smh.. I hear U

      • Seriously January 17, 2016 at 9:18 am


        Sometimes, I question your level of reasoning actually your brain functionality. Not just you but many e Nigerians who fail to focus on an important message rather be foolish. How many Nigerians are speaking up about chibok girls? Very few. If one speaks up, Nigerians question the motives. Damn if you speak up, damn if you don’t. What a senseless country who hide under the number of degrees they have when they can’t apply it properly.

        Adebola speaking up to criticize an action has nothing to do with him supporting PMB into power or not getting paid by Buhari anymore. Some people can separate politics from humanity. You can vote for someone and still criticize their action. And yes, it’s unethical to completely go against your boss but that doesn’t mean you can’t voice out your opinion sometimes. The fact is, he’s speaking up against an important topic many nigerian have chosen to ignore or doubt the authencity of it. To the extent of saying chibok girls is not real, silencing the real victims. Adebola, thank you for speaking up. God bless you.

      • Seriously January 17, 2016 at 9:37 am

        And what I mean by unethical to go against your boss. I mean, to publicly tarnish your boss. You will have your different opinion but there’s always a way to go about it. So, I’m not sure what Nigerians expect from Adebola in terms of voting/supporting Buhari. Does that mean what he’s saying in this article should be dismissed just bcos he voted for Buhari? He has right to vote and support whoever he thinks will be a better leader for his country. Does that mean Buhari is the best or doing things perfectly? No. How many of you guys stand up for what is right going against your parent, boss and the popular belief? How many of you guys went out to protest for chibok girls? How many of you guys practice what you preach to others.

  • molarah January 16, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    I really appreciate this outburst from him at a time like this. Imagine Nigerians saying stuff like “haven’t we heard enough of Chibok?” Oh, the nerve! Like they would say that if it were their own children. Value for human life is sadly missing in our society, and if it is going to take this Chibok issue to reawaken it, the better. For anyone who is tired of hearing of Chibok, please kindly close your ears and mouths and spare us the thoughtlessness and insensitivity.

  • Somehow January 16, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    ………and I heard PMB chided them speaking in both English and Hausa, as he was angered by their visit. After his speech he dropped his mic and bounced out. He also didn’t allow any media presence and everyone in the hall was asked to switch of their electronic devices. Now instead of castigating PMB for being unsympathetic we decide to accuse the BBOG group for being dramatic, just to shift the blame abi!!!…..and you wonder why Nigeria is the way it is…there is God oh!!!!!!!!!!

  • Ghen Ghen January 16, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    Debola Williams … has PMB stopped paying you?
    You & Chude were his communications strategy group abi na like i talk?
    I no fit shout O!
    # shift i wan pass#

    • ATL’s finest January 16, 2016 at 9:34 pm

      God bless U!!! For a sec, I was confused by this post from him.. Him & PMB aren’t they =1?

    • The real Ibinabo January 17, 2016 at 12:22 am

      I am really glad he is speaking up. For a second I lost faith in him and Chude, I hope they use the voice God has given them to speak up against the ills of the government and society in general. Dear Chude and Debola, please don’t sell your birthright for a bowl of pottage!

    • Seriously January 17, 2016 at 9:03 am

      @ghen ghen

      The fact, that Adebola is speaking out is admirable. It goes to show, hes one of the few sensible Nigerians who has the courage to speak against what is wrong and uncalled for whether PMB is his boss or not. Focus on the message.

    • Jade January 17, 2016 at 9:44 am

      @ghen ghen

      Just shut up with your stupidity. What does this article have to do with Buhari paying him or not?
      So what if he’s the communication strategy? That was his job. So he’s not allowed to disagree with how things are done or handled. Whether he’s drunk in power or money, he’s speaking out at a crucial time as this especially supporting the real victims. That’s commendable. And what are you doing? On your keyboard acting like an idiot. Get lost

  • ATL’s finest January 16, 2016 at 8:29 pm

    One of my mom’s daily prayer is never to bury a child. Her child is meant to bury her when she’s gone.. So I can just imagine what it feels like to have a missing child for all these days ????smh. Only God almighty can comfort these parents. What about those that have just one child? Hmmm sometimes, I wonder where exactly those girls are & how life has been for them. I pray FG haven’t forgotten all about them.

  • God Help Nigeria January 16, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    I lack words to describe my feelings towards this whole drama. When will it end? Baba God, come down and help us. This problem seems so gargantuan that reasoning defies all our leaders. The erstwhile President was lost and the new president seems not to have found his way.
    I must commend Mr Williams for speaking up at a time like this and telling the truth in the face of opposition.
    How did we get to this point where we stopped being empathetic to the plight of our neighbours, the very people we were asked to love as ourselves and become so callous?
    Even I have steeled myself so as to avoid anguish, 375 casualties mean no more than numbers in a tale.
    Lord, wake us up to reality! Let us feel when the ills of society ravage our neighbours and come together to look for solutions. What is wrong with us?

  • Ba January 16, 2016 at 10:44 pm

    If PMB don’t find this girls, it will surely come back to hurt him. We don’t expect all but huge magnitude.
    Imagine, the health minister attributing some contributory consequence of this recent lasaa fever to the past administration. That act or claim is just too wrong and unprofessional. You haven’t even started working but trading blames. It could have been better if your ministry have done something or prevent occurrence meaning if there was no lasaa fever, you won’t even know there is one action plan somewhere. laziness
    let PMB not work effectively but be attributing blame to GEJ.

  • Ba January 16, 2016 at 11:28 pm

    Whatever claim, it’s wrong to walk out and not assume responsibility. We want PMB to work smart and assume challenge in rescuing these girls than his predecessor. We don’t expect all but huge magnitude and effort.

    In addition, the health minister was attributing some contributory consequence of this recent lasaa fever to the past administration. That act or claim is just too wrong and unprofessional. You haven’t even started working but trading blames. It could have been better if your ministry have done something or prevent occurrence meaning if there was no lasaa fever, you won’t even know there is one action plan somewhere. laziness
    let PMB not work effectively but be attributing blame to GEJ.

  • ElessarisElendil January 17, 2016 at 1:30 am

    Sorry, but its been a year. Let the families have their closure, pardon me for feeling a set of elites are taking advantage of the families grief to keep themselves in the media spotlight.

    Tens of Thousands have died, that is sad! but the BBOG movement detracts from the larger issue of crushing the insurgents and resettling the IDPs. Now I obviously do not know anything about losing a child but my present thinking favours vengeance.

    Let Buhari promise the parents Shekau’s head but this fantasy of trying to bring the girls back hands the initiative to the terrorists who can always bring the spectre of the girls up anytime they’re about to be crushed tying the hand of our military. It demeans us and sets a dangerous precedent where we negotiate with terrorists.

    Should the government have actionable intelligence send in Special Forces to attempt a rescue, the BBOG movement’s pressure for negotiation I do not support. Too dangerous especially with a non-state actor like Boko Haram.

  • Regina January 17, 2016 at 9:16 am

    They can grieve, and Debola Williams is ABSOLUTELY right about the parents needing our support, but there are certain realities they have to face:

    1. The Chibok girls are likely not in one place, waiting to be rescued, as PMB told them clearly. Gathering intelligence on their locations is likely to be difficult and slow as there are multitude of issues including likely cross-border trafficking of the girls, involvement of other sects, lack of record keeping. etc. There is no miracle to be expected here.
    2. They marched into Aso Rock unannounced, demanded to see the President and interrupted his schedule. The man is running the government and very obviously has to deal with a multitude of very pressing issues. Going to a meeting to listen to (justified) lamenting is not productive
    3. He has delegated the day-to-day attendance of this issue, because, again he is one man trying to run a country. Minister Aisha Alhassan explained to them in great detail the work that is going into dealing with the issue. The BBOG movement needs to define what they want precisely from the government. They want their girls? The government is working on it. What would they like? Weekly briefings? Regular presidential addresses on the issue? Tell them…
    4. Connecting emotionally is complete and utter horse pucky. The man refused to condescend to the parents by giving them meaningless platitudes. He treated them like adults. Hard facts are rarely comforting. Not indulging in hysterics or pretense in not common to us, we know, but welcome to the new Nigerian government. .
    5. They are not entitled to a refund from the president for their travels. Like the rest of the world, if they have pressing personal expenses, they should rely on the goodwill of their fellow citizens to donate to help with travel and accommodation expenses. It is an enormous undertaking, because Nigerians are by and large apathetic because we no longer trust each other.

    On the other hand, the Presidency needs to do something about their PR:
    1. It is woeful. They are an extremely reactive group and lack a deft touch when it comes to dealing with issues they should be well ahead of.
    2. Mr President should always behave like he is in front of the cameras because his every move is being recorded
    3. Treating the parents with respect by not condescending to them is important. Facts can and must be explained in a way that the parents truly understand the magnitude and scale of the issues that bringing back their children entails. Many are not sophisticated: they don’t know that 8 years on they are still looking for one missing child in a far more developed country. They have no context to put their losses in.

    • twinkle January 17, 2016 at 8:22 pm

      well said!

    • Desert Rainbow January 17, 2016 at 10:14 pm

      You are a smart one Regina!Well said mami,well said!

    • Californiabawlar January 18, 2016 at 2:17 am

      You’re one of the very few sensible ones on this thread!!
      What does the fact that the commenters perceived him as a Buhari supporter have to do with the tweets if not confirm that this person (and possibly a whole lot of pro-#change folks) is more pro-Nigeria than pro-whoever is in the presidential seat.

      I swear I wonder how well meaning activists do it….when a huge percentage of the people talk right outta their asses.

    • coolchic January 19, 2016 at 10:59 am

      A balanced perspective.Couldn’t have put it better.

    • Chu January 19, 2016 at 4:52 pm

      I’m with you here. The girl’s are not all in one place waiting to be released. as someone said, the girls are probably part of those being used as suicide bombers, tragic or true. As a mother of a girl, I can not say what I would do if my child went missing so I can’t say I know what they are going through. While I understand that the campaign is to ensure the girls are not forgotten we should not have delusions on the fate of the girls.

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