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Our first case is from a friend of mine whom I was talking to last night….
This is actually all true…sorry for making fun of your misery sweetie

Dear Aunty Bella,
There is this very FINE guy I have a HUGE crush on…after begging my friend to slyly introduce us and batting my long eyelashes at him, he eventually started ‘chasing’ me…
He started calling me…I never called back…
When I would see him I public…he would come over and give me a hug while I would give him the ‘what is your name again?’ look…
Well, after a couple of weeks….he STOPPED and yesterday I saw him with a very pretty girl and they were holding hands!!! Aunty Bella, what do I do???? I am sooo sad and distressed…
Yours sincerely, Frontin’ Don’t Pay From Lagos

Everyone, please I need ur input! Please advice Miss ‘Frontin Don’t Pay’ From Lagos……Lets have fun with this!

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  1. Dipo Tepede

    August 24, 2006 at 9:35 am

    This is not a very difficult one!

    You can know the nature of the bobo already – he is real, very sensitive and does not like pretenses.

    The fact that he looked your way the first time only shows he has something for you though not solid yet.

    Now you have to be proactive- you have let go of all those feminine wiles and approach him as a friend (e.g you may ask him to lend you a DVD or ask him to help you with something).

    With time you start communicating and trust me; if he liked you before, he will be confused on what to do.

    This is where you need to take the plunge!

  2. LondonBuki

    August 24, 2006 at 11:24 am

    Fronting definitely doesn’t pay!

    If you make a guy chase you for a long time, you might become a challenge/conquest in his eyes and once he has caught you, he will be bored. That’s cos he really was into the chase and it’s over so what next? LOL!!!

    I like this guy cos he did not waste time. It’s not as if the Lord appeared to him and said “FRONTIN DON’T PAY” is your future wife! I think you should get over him, he has moved on. You never had a relationship so it wasn’t hard for him to meet another girl.

    BUT If the girl is not a girl he’s chasing, I suggest you start saying hi again although he might think you are bipolar… LOL!!!

  3. Mona

    August 24, 2006 at 12:11 pm

    So Agony Aunty Bella are you gonna answer her?

    She shd accept the guy has moved on maybe if he has but she can stll try her luck you never know, women have wonderful magical powers….i would know! Wink Wink

  4. Dammie

    August 24, 2006 at 12:59 pm

    LoL, Oh lawdddddddd!!!…..Nice one!

  5. caramel

    August 24, 2006 at 2:04 pm

    Well to be honest.. I am NOT A FAN OF “BLOCKING” guys so please X him off..Ante up your swagger and SCOOP some other G’s. PAY HIM NO MIND!

  6. Icy

    August 24, 2006 at 2:53 pm

    See wut shakara will cost you lol! Sorry I had to say that first lol! I don’t know what to say… Shakara is essential to the courting process but you have to reel him all the way in fest before u unleash it full trottle… Sawwy babz… Now you are forced to be honest about how u feel for him and risk being fashied..damn that sucks BELLA O. you don become dear ABI lol!

  7. Anonymous

    August 24, 2006 at 4:08 pm

    I cannot believe this girl put this on here. When she said she was going to do this, I thought she was joking!!!!!! Anyway, people, the issue is not that serious but is painful. Walahi!! Like U (bella) did not mention that I had a crush on the guy for a whole year before we were introduced! When he would call me, my heart would just be beating like 100 miles a minute but I would not answer the phone. I feel so dumb now! It is all good, he is not the last dude on earth. But still, it just hurts oooooooo

  8. zaiprincesa

    August 24, 2006 at 4:48 pm

    lol…SHakara Oloje!..ok…women must front first..its necessary..otherwise, it was too easy…but we have to add a little flirtatious banter to that frontin if u like the guy, so he will continue the chase, otherwise, he’ll go somewhere else…ALWAYS REMEMBER THE RATIO OF WOMEN TO MEN!!!..our species r plentiful oh….lol…good luck!

  9. nosa101

    August 24, 2006 at 6:32 pm

    she let him slip away so she should just FASH

  10. Anonymous

    August 24, 2006 at 6:52 pm

  11. africanprincess

    August 24, 2006 at 6:57 pm

    I say chalk it up to experience and keep it moving; there will be another! but I know the feeling sha, its annoying when someone sweats you and you have the upperhand and then by the time you decide you’re game the dude has moved on.

  12. NaijaBloke

    August 24, 2006 at 7:07 pm

    Omo that na correct guy.That na guy wey sabi wetin he want.How many ppl remember the song back in the 90’s “Shez Playing Hard To get,but she likes me” that na wetin happen to u.
    U still fit get the guy back o,if the other chic never offload her own magical poweress on the guy.

    Good luck sha and u sef coolutemper

  13. niyoooooo!

    August 24, 2006 at 9:16 pm

    see what frontin causes!
    well in my own opinion the guy was never that interested coz if he was he wont have just lost interest like that!and really if u need to get a guys attention b4 he notices you then u willneed to work hard to keep him!
    Abeg free the guy!
    u are better off

  14. iphi

    August 24, 2006 at 10:15 pm

    umn…lets strt wiv…u messed up! its normal 4 a girl 2 front @ 1st yeh bt u shud no wen 2 stop! derz a limit 2 erfng!rite nw if am da gai in this situation i wud not evn thnk ov jayin u face again..i suggest u move on wiv ure lyf n jst learn 4rm ds mistake….

  15. tope

    August 25, 2006 at 12:58 am

    omo frontin’ is mandatory (to an extent sha… i know naija gals can get carried away). my suggestion: do some homework. find out who the girl is and if they are dating for real…he might just be using her to get you worked up.

  16. Adaure

    August 25, 2006 at 1:53 am

    Fronting aka shakara is part of the game. It is card that you just need to know when and how to play. Not all situations need it but some need it more. Just know when to keep it real and when to pose a little. I have learnt my lessons from past shakara moves gone bad and it aint pretty. So don’t be afraid to keep it real and be honest with yourself an dthe other party. It would save both of you the trouble, head ache and heartache

  17. LG

    August 25, 2006 at 3:11 am

    one thing is i’lnever front for a guy.. if i like him ill tell him, though guys take this as an advantage.. so i think i just go with the flow

  18. LG

    August 25, 2006 at 3:13 am

    hmm shakara dey fuck things up o

  19. Anonymous

    August 26, 2006 at 9:21 am

    The chic no sabi say shakara get level. You supose do small shakara, but the type like wey u go at least call am 1x for every 3x he calls, or at least return his call. Its like a game of tennis, he serves, you return. He was throwing ball, the stupid girl dey shake tennis skirt, no wan pass am back…NTO!!!! lol but on the real, lets hope he has fallen badly for the other girl.

    She can start calling now, and see if he responds, if he was really feeling her b4, he will, after all the thing with that other new girl is still somewhat new, and they might not be that deep yet.

  20. UnNaked Soul

    August 28, 2006 at 3:14 pm

    see now! i think since u liked him first, you have little or no right to front. now u don break the glass cup, you come say u dey thirsty!

    let the bobo alone jare! no spoil him mind for am. next time when u see food, you no go form again say u no hungry.

    pele. look elsewhere, else be prepared for karma if u wanna break something. but if the bobo and the babe are just pallies, then u allowed to fix it, else leave it!

  21. Anonymous

    August 30, 2006 at 3:27 pm

    “Listen make I tell u yanga no dey pay” That was too much fronting tho’, acting like u don’t remember him??? He’s obviously going to try to move on but Good Luck sha

  22. anonymous

    September 22, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    babe,lol…this is so wrong. i don’t knw wat everybody think yea but i think should have spoken to the guy and nowit would be ur hands in his and not some other gurl…lol

  23. rethots

    November 5, 2010 at 12:17 pm

    When we understand that we ain’t ‘liked’ cos we are the fairest but, that our being liked makes us the fairest then, tis easy not to “…become a challenge/conquest…” (@ LondonBuki)

  24. bukky

    November 28, 2011 at 5:34 pm



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